Hi, sorry I do realise that we really do not know each other, so if my comment gave rise to a very wrong impression, I am truly apologetic. Please do accept my apology and my explanation doesn't seem to get my very far, does it? I abhor playing any games esp emotional games much less something as juvenile as 'playing hard to get'. I just like things to be out in the open, and as much as I have good qualities, I am realistic and forthcoming about my flaws. My method is to communicate those outfront so that we are all clear about them. cheers

Self-Preservation Fives tend to be very withdrawn, taking advantage of their existential “safe space.” They also tend to be extremely careful with the resources under their command, such as spending. Self-Pres Fives are especially sensitive to issues involving their physical security or health.

Social Fives are usually very perceptive of other people, particularly their motives. They may see social relationships and connections as something to be conserved, as opposed to money or other material goods.

I am very honest about everything. Painfully so. And I do 'communicate' those desires. I am not the only one who has to confront her fears, everyone else does. Some can make it past their own fears and some don't. Trust is not built overnight... but then I am a covert optimist...lol Don't judge me too harshly...

wow I am getting serious backlash out there.

Playing hard to get is definitely a time-waster in my book. As for my 'method', it is not 100% fail proof as I had just discovered. It certainly weeded out loads, but the one who made it through didn't live up to his potentially brave self. So, no I don't have any fail-proof method, esp when it has to do with emotions/feelings - everything is up in the air. btw, I don't see MBTIs as the holy grail to preserving the self of good and bad. I'm interested in learning about flaws, and getting insights on how people think. I have also tested years ago as INFJ, and when people see 'in action' (what they call, in my full glory haha) I'm often mistaken as an ENTJ. But I know my core is there, I just learn from my weaknesses and play up my strengths.

why...are you one? you didn't list your type. I have also tested as INFJ, but I get mostly INTJ now, although if you see me in 'power mode', I get mistaken as an ENTJ. lol tough

Thank you. When you have kids life changes. When you are the only one responsible for them, life gets a bit harder to deal with. Plus, kids learn by example, so we must give a good example. That say, enjoy your time while you do not have kids. They change everything, most of the time for the better, especially if you have support.

WTF is up with these women? Is no one serious anymore!?

Nah, that sounds like losing hope. Never do that.

How are you? Have things improved somewhat?

I feel the same way.

True, it wouldn't be worse than the way things are now, so I guess I have no good excuse to never try.

Thanks for the advice. I know you're right, I just find it difficult to open up and let people in.

I REALLY enjoyed the music. Can't wait to hear the other 2 pieces!

Thank you!

Just finished my 2nd take home exam! YAY!!!

I owe you some replies.

Finished one take home exam and came home late. Will send you a reply in a couple of minutes.

I will ttyl. Wanted to reply, but I got distracted.

Yeah, but I am going to pull the I am a SF and you're an NT card!

I will be okay, I guess.

I am feeling kinda sucky at the moment. Going to get myself engrossed in some work to take my mind off what is bothering me. Will get back to our conversation when I feel better. It isn't your fault. It's a problem I have been having for quite a while and no matter how hard I have been trying to alleviate this bane, I haven't been seeing any results. Now I am feeling frustrated and a little depressed about it.

Well I am lucky that I grew up in a household like that, but this also means that 99% of the men I meet hold no interest for me. So you can see why it's very difficult for me to find a man I am attracted to and I am not one for casual sex. I could foresee that happening in the future but as of now I would rather not engage in sex for just pleasure. I need the emotional and mental connection to really enjoy it.

I am slightly older than you, so don't worry about keeping hope alive. Things will look a little better when you're not so low. Yes, women are conditioned into believing that they shouldn't be bold, shouldn't make the first move. I am happy I am bold, but most men are put off by that. Then again, it is a way to weed out those I won't be compatible with. So in the end, it's all good.

I have played with the idea of something casual and short term, but that doesn't really hold any appeal for me at this time. If I did find someone I was fiercely attracted to and we only had a short time to be together then I would go for it without a second though, but short of that...? Nah, that isn't me.