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:-) Indeed you are correct. I'm a pro an introspection and have already came up with a list of personal faults/reasons why he'd say no. Given that his life's pretty chaotic right now (moving into a house and managing a family business) I've been trying to give him some space so as not to add to the chaos. While, I feel like I need to know in order to move on I'd much rather suffer silently than overwhelm him and/or lose a best friend.
Well that is good, lol. I can not believe how much you look like him, insanely the same...even the other pic where you shaved your head...I first thought there were two people on here that looked like my friend...Ya, don't ever get started, it sucks...specially when your friends are gone because of it.
I don't think you can replace people. but a friend once explained to me this way, life is a journey, imagine yourself on a bus filled with people you are having fun with, then as you go on, one of the friends might want to leave the bus and go her/his own way, it doesn't mean the journey stops and that no new people would jump into that bus and that the fun is over.
your friend already built her own place in you, no other person can replace her but you others can also build placed in you, and maybe give you what this friend is unable to give now.
and you're most welcome ^_^
I am 20 years old and only was able to be intimate with someone till this year and i am still not that comfortable.
i think you're awesome, and through what i heard you were doing in school, you would have caught my attention and i would have been glad to have you as a friend.
now to be honest, your friend doesn't sound as a good friend at all, and i think you know it but you can't do anything about it.
close good friends are hard to come across because you are not like the majority, finding someone rare that you click with is hard too.
try to focus on other things, internet friendship might help you meanwhile, you could have at least someone to talk too who understands you at the end of the day.
maybe once you are in college, you would be able to find better
Some people refuse to see what are you are saying. It is sad seeing that you really care about this friendship and about her as well, and you are still willing to be here for her and support her.
Tell her one of the things that you don't want to be broken is honesty.
tell her you can tell me you do not want to talk to me or so but not ignore you or so, tell her if there was no honest communication things would be built on lies and avoiding and it will fall apart. tell her also you expect support from her but she doesn't have to give it (it is her choice), and that you would still give support (you do it because you care and not to get something in return).
here have some, what is bothering you lately in your life? how come you feeling down? (other than the friend)
maybe because she has seen you as a support for so long, she find it hard to see you as a person who wants support now.
were you open about it? i can see how she might turn it at her and make it revolve around her... but INFPs can relate to feelings, so try to let her know using what you are feeling.
you feel disappointed for not being able to lean on her when you need someone for example.
anywho, she might really not be in a state to let others lean on her, but that doesn't mean she doesn't care.
I passed through phases where i really wanted to be a support for my friends but i couldn't, i had to focus on myself and i needed time, but i made up for it once i was better.
anyway feel free to talk to me if you want to vent or so
At this point, it's just working with the idiosyncrasies of the "bropack" to isolate him again. Not being in school, it's not as if I see him every day to just say, "hey, want to grab a coffee?" at the end of the day. We live on opposite sides of town, and thus far, we only get to see each other when the bropack is doing something. What's funny is that we're both the relative outsiders with our group; we're both (again, relatively) quiet and more prone to sarcastic, under-our-breath comments than the over-the-top shenanigans of every other guy in the group, and I get the added distinction of being the only female. I just have to find an opening...
I was raised Catholic, but no longer practice and I was never that into it. I'm drawn to Taoism, but it is sometimes too light and airy for me and I need something more concrete. I like some things about Buddhism. But the thing that comes closest are these books by Michael Newton, Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls. I don't necessarily believe them 100%, but I mostly believe them. I just think reincarnation makes sense. It makes sense of human suffering, at least to me. I also somewhat follow astrology. So, I kind of have a mosaic of beliefs. (I hate that book The Secret though!! )