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How do you weigh up time for loved ones vs time to work towards goals?
I guess it is a question of which will make me happier in the long run, and which is more important to me.
I would be more comfortable with making changes and cutbacks to my schedule if I knew she was serious about the relationship, and staying. Otherwise it isn't a smart investment to make, especially on an emotional level. It really hurts when you put all that time and effort into being involved with someone and then they throw it away, and not because of an issue, but because they simply weren't serious or didn't care(just acted like they did). It has happened a lot to me, still recovering from the last one, so I tend to expect more to know I can trust them enough to make changes to my life, and I am quite cautious.
Hey, thanks for your message. Well, I can't imagine dating someone I haven't been friends with for a while. That's kind of my way of figuring the other person out a little and trying to find out "these things". Of course, I can't know all of these things exactly beforehand. It's more of a "I *hope* he's like this, and I'm interested in dating him when it looks like he'll be like this". The absence of negative traits (lying, being rude etc) is a very positive trait in itself.