How do you weigh up time for loved ones vs time to work towards goals?

I guess it is a question of which will make me happier in the long run, and which is more important to me.

I would be more comfortable with making changes and cutbacks to my schedule if I knew she was serious about the relationship, and staying. Otherwise it isn't a smart investment to make, especially on an emotional level. It really hurts when you put all that time and effort into being involved with someone and then they throw it away, and not because of an issue, but because they simply weren't serious or didn't care(just acted like they did). It has happened a lot to me, still recovering from the last one, so I tend to expect more to know I can trust them enough to make changes to my life, and I am quite cautious.

It sounds like a nice change, I really hope things work out for you guys. I know how hard it can be to see something that could be good end.

	(for reasons unrelated to me)

This part concerns me a little, but hopefully things work out.

I tend to be too forgiving and too understanding. It gets me used and hurt a lot. Make sure you communicate clearly to him that you want the problem permanently solved.

No problem, taintedkitty. I'm glad you found my post to be helpful. Anyway, just trust your judgement. I'm sure your noggin already knows what you need to do on some level.

*lol* Inside out looks way better on Teddy Bears than it does on people

Hey, thanks for your message. Well, I can't imagine dating someone I haven't been friends with for a while. That's kind of my way of figuring the other person out a little and trying to find out "these things". Of course, I can't know all of these things exactly beforehand. It's more of a "I *hope* he's like this, and I'm interested in dating him when it looks like he'll be like this". The absence of negative traits (lying, being rude etc) is a very positive trait in itself.

I'm sorry. It worked when I posted it... I fixed it

Sleepy frogs also have their charm
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I think the bunnies get most of the credit on that *lol*

We definitely aren't twins.. but it was weird o_O

I followed him for like 15 minutes with a friend.. I even wear glasses, but I forgot them at the hotel that day....

:P

hahah i know right!!!

Well 'lots' in Finland's scale. In this suburban (pop.30000) in Tampere has most of those Vietnamese who does not live in capitol area. Well integrated.

Thank you. I hope others can benefit from what I was trying to say.

Nice! BTW there's a lots of Vietnamese in my home area.

Eek, I'd rather shave my head than wear toupee

Like many Finns I had blond hair as a child but medium brown as an adult.
My hair is rough, one reason more to keep it short. I used to have long hair but now I like it to uncomfortable.

You have long hair, it seems to be black. May I ask where are you from?

Double points ! I guess I'm on a roooooll~

Well, medium long hair with no shampoo on the wash, wind dried, would make a good impression. An impressionistic impression

Used to have blond ones, but I was 5 then.
I keep my straight hair crewcut short. That's way nobody notice I don't have so much hair.

You really cannot make up your mind, can you
Did you cut them short too:|

curls!!!!!

Thank you! That was the one that got the most laughs on webcam :3