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me again...the thing that cries out to me about this post is...if you don't want a partner, don't exclusively sleep with someone...i really don't get that people can say they don't want a partner, but insist on having sex. in my mind, sex goes with having a partner. i think it's kind of unnatural to want one without anything that comes with it...and it doesn't work, as you're finding.
yeah man, cut your ties. tbh I think i'd probably be the same as her. sex is a strange thing - I think you kind of see a side to someone in the moment that you think you can extend into your life, if you see what I mean? woman naturally feels vulnerable, man naturally feels protective, man is more affectionate in the heat of the moment...and you can trick yourself into thinking the other person cares more than they do.
oh, well, I see people do that all the time (set themselves up for emotional problems). it just seems more interesting than having none. having said that, since you're not invested, I think you should just set up the boundaries yourself. you're aware enough to be able to see her behaviour changing, so you need to react to it accordingly. don't you think?
no offence, but you sound totally miserable in all your posts - i'm not sure what this girl is supposed to have done wrong, but if i were her i'd be a bit fed up of your negativity...you could just find another fuck buddy?
please read my women post, i have made a new response. also I will tell you seemed to have been very critical of my post saying it was pathetic. why is obtaining knowledge from people in the know pathetic to you especially if it works?
I can see from the many threads you've posted surrounding this topic that it causes you a lot of distress. However, as long as you self-identify as a sexist and never try to change, you will never have fulfilling relationship with the kind of woman you are looking for. That kind of woman knows what she's worth and would avoid potential mates who give off misogynistic vibes.
I looooooooooooooooooool'd at the part about running. I am a long distance runner and have that problem when my female friends go running with me.
I don't see why you are getting harped at so much in that thread. I simply read it as you going down the reasons why you think you are incompatible. That and I really don't understand why everyone needs to be in a relationship anyways. Some people are happier alone.
You should had read at least the first page of the thread before responding. Then you would had known that I met her abroad and this contact via Facebook started once I got back. That changes a lot of things.