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I have my Masters of Architecture but I graduated just in time for the economy to tank. I've got a related job in the landscape design field as a project manager but my Revit/CAD program knowledge is two years out of date so I won't be able to get back into the field until I retrain. I did enough internships and dealt with enough professionals in school to get a good picture of whats what.
I am still excited about what architecture could be, but unimpressed with what it is....a field of select design prima donnas who have no clue what makes a building work backed up by scores of CAD monkeys glued to computers who also have no clue what makes a building work.
I don't see it as more important. But anyhow, if the person with the romantic feelings is not ok with the friendship, it's not up for the another person to end it. Fine, you want to be friends with xe, do it. Just quit whining -- and thinking you still have a chance (in second person, but not aimmed at you, of course).
And demonizing the other person who is still friendly.
It goes back to my original rant. Why is friendship being "negligent"? Why is friendship somehow less than a romantic relationship...? Why does this cause "pain" to the other counterpart? Honestly. The person with "pain" here is a dick to think he's settling for less in accepting the friendship status. Friendship is awesome, man. If he can't see that, I don't see how the other person is being "negligent". Having romantic feelings =/= unsatisfied with the current friendship. If he's unsatisfied, he's free to leave.
Assuming, of course, there's no mind games and no exploiting involved.
yeah...something didn't sound right. I mean 100 people in a year?! I mean I read something about how when we are really stressed our shadow functions come into play and we can be impulsive, but he said he felt great after the first encounter he had after the breakup so why wasn't a rebound hookup enough? He must be filling something. I'm also suspicious that he could be lying either to himself or us or both.
the part of how it made you feel about yourself, not in the sense that I was glad it made you feel that way, but because as I was reading the thread starter that was the conclusion I was coming to. That this person could be avoiding whatever they really want and eventually feel like crap when they realized what they'd done.
They were beautiful, true. But I don't think it's half as easy as you make it sound (and I don't mean the carving). That'd be really underestimating the work that goes into most of modern ones as well as their function (even when we're not talking about articulated prosthetics). Anyway, still a great video.