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  1. Sarea
    Yesterday 12:06 AM
    Sarea
    I'm sorry about that. There's nothing stopping you from contacting her though.
  2. Sarea
    05-24-2016 11:08 PM
    Sarea
    She quit from the job or she quit responding to you?
  3. Sarea
    05-22-2016 09:58 PM
    Sarea
    How come?
  4. Sarea
    05-15-2016 11:20 PM
    Sarea
    She seems like a great match for you.
  5. Sarea
    05-15-2016 11:12 PM
    Sarea
    Doesn't sit well in a joking manner (you're actually filled with admiration at her ability)? Or doesn't sit well because it affects how you view her in that she's bested your ability speed-wise and you'd rather you exceed her?
  6. Sarea
    05-15-2016 11:00 PM
    Sarea
    Ask outright which ladies they meant.
  7. Sarea
    05-13-2016 09:21 AM
    Sarea
    More details please.
  8. Sarea
    05-12-2016 09:03 PM
    Sarea
    Where?
  9. Sarea
    04-26-2016 11:58 PM
    Sarea
    Body languages interpretation can play tricks on the perceivers especially when there are resources in abundance now where people can 'alter' how they move, act, behave so as not to fall into the common BL stereotypes. Common BL stereotypes: for example, if you touch your nose you're lying; if you sit with your foot pointing directly towards one person instead of the others, then you're interested in her; if you look elsewhere but her eyes that means you're lying and hiding something, etc etc. Based from my studies in forensic psychology, especially interrogation techniques, it's so easy to pinpoint to those BL stereotypes in order to directly accuse the interviewees as guilty or being dishonest...but more researches over the years have managed to prove that many BL cannot be accepted at face value anymore, which is ironic since it is BL where face value perceptions should hold significance. But then again, the danger in complete reliance on the old stereotypes within BL can be massive and means that fine line between a homicide charge or a manslaughter or innocence.

    Someone who's in the highly suggestible category such as children, older frail people, those with learning impairments etc, have been found to (1) not look in the eyes (2) touching noses when nervous (3) easily admit to doing offences even when not guilty because of being asked with leading questions, etc etc.

    Therefore, BL cannot just be referred to as the ultimate conclusion to someone's behaviour nowadays. The context in determining their interests or intentions can either be narrowed or be generalised...either way, the best way (to be really sure) is to either trust your instinct, or satisfy with their answers after you ask them outright.
  10. Sarea
    04-25-2016 12:30 AM
    Sarea
    If you get nervous and it's conspicuous, she can catch that vibe, and the result can be either: she finds it cute and endearing, or she is not affected by it.

    You shouldn't blame yourself for not able to 'read' on signals because it's not something that's openly obvious for interpretation anyway. Some signals can vary, and the meanings are still subjective. The only way to be sure of what it means : to ask directly. But if she's embarrassed and doesn't want to admit that your interpretation is correct, she will still evade from answering...or says a different thing altogether anyway.
  11. Sarea
    04-19-2016 06:40 AM
    Sarea
    Well, I could be wrong too. So, let's see how things pan out from now onwards, okay? Be your usual relaxed and composed self, and just don't wear your heart on your sleeve...not until you're sure you want to try this out with her regardless. I mean, we learn from mistakes, but some mistakes can be too dire to even worth attempting at. But who knows, we might grow wiser out of them.
  12. Sarea
    04-18-2016 03:28 AM
    Sarea
    Hence the list below answered your question in your PM why she would be interested in you because there are other men more attractive than you (including the father of her child). When it comes to sex and other perks, there's no specific reason why certain people are chosen, because it's not a long term permanent thing to them. For people who are used to casual sex and flings with multiple partners even fwb arrangements, short term sexual gratification plus having a good time (booze etc) trump good personality and anything deeper/beyond superficial anytime. They're not looking for deep connections.
  13. Sarea
    04-18-2016 03:18 AM
    Sarea
    Based on what you've informed me in your PMs earlier, the following ie my observation, as listed below:

    1. She's very interested, but I think it's more for sex and fling, and probably, some financial assistance since she's aware of your (classic) tastes in clothes, hobbies, which signals out availability of $$. Of course she's not aware that you're saving your money, and all those refined choices in clothes, beverage, vehicle are your own rewards for yourself from money earned from hard work.

    You have to understand that it's common among young people of certain financial background to possess such tastes/hobbies you do, hence people would rightfully assume that you're from a very privileged background.

    I hate to say this to you, but while you are emotionally invested in her, she's more like playing with your reactions knowing that she's baited your interest already. If she's already involved with someone else, that shows how she's trying to turn herself as the trophy to be competed for between you and the other guy at work.

    You just recovered from your tight spot not many months ago, and if she treats you just as a fuck buddy and an ATM machine, or even her chauffeur, I don't see how this can be good for you.
  14. Sarea
    04-17-2016 09:41 PM
    Sarea
    I think she seems very interested in you more than platonically. If you are ready, just do it, ie ask her out and see how she reacts. If she says No, and avoid you afterwards, then you know she's not interested.
  15. Sarea
    04-16-2016 04:14 AM
    Sarea

     
    If you had "alone time" with someone, how would you fill it?


    Okay assuming that someone is a potential love interest. I basically just reach a consensus on what he would like to do, since I am flexible and can adapt/absorb whatever other people (whom I am already interested in) enjoy doing. I think if someone's already in that close relationship with me, highly likely that we share the same interests, and the moments together will be filled with going out watching movie, walk in the park, long drive, either eating in/cooking together or outside in either his or mine favourite eatery etc etc.

  16. Sarea
    04-15-2016 08:23 AM
    Sarea
    See?

    When one least expects it....things happen.
  17. Sarea
    04-10-2016 09:32 PM
    Sarea
    You haven't met the right person(s) yet. At least you're saved from worst headaches and heartaches if you were to commence anything with those who would show their true colours that portray more negatives than positives.
  18. Sarea
    04-10-2016 05:50 AM
    Sarea
    I think when you're actually in you're interested mode, the vibes emitted must have been rather intense that your targets notice them, and feel like "so what, I know he's interested in me, but I am not ready for what he's looking for". Those intense vibes are too much for their comfort, plus the mystery is lost when the attractions are made conspicuously.

    In your situations so far, there's a pattern which you have identified. Another pattern is that, they like you when you seem oblivious, and they stop making themselves available (even for friendships) when they know you like them already.

    Like I said earlier, just concentrate on your other activities since they bring more fulfilment that way, for this time being.
  19. Sarea
    04-05-2016 11:41 PM
    Sarea
    Why not concentrate on something else that doesn't centre on females at this moment in time. Such as repairing motorcycles, painting jobs, trying out a new skill at work, etc. But, once you feel someone is within your peripheral vision heading to the middle vision and radar, and worth getting to know better, then that's when you can recalibrate your attention to those species called "women". As of now, I think you don't really have any need for such relationships, hence probably why you dallied when you could have voiced out your interest overtly months ago with those two girls from work.
  20. Sarea
    04-04-2016 02:00 AM
    Sarea
    So, what's your plan?

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