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no worries man. I appericate and respect your decision to share intimate details about yourself , I know its not easy. I relate to what you're saying when you say you can be around a family member or someone and not really be "with" them. ia while back I wondered why that was and I came to the conclusion that relationships take effort on both parts. I found I wasmt doing my fair share, I expected people to relate to me, I didn't want to meet them halfway and if they didn't like what I liked or if their communication style or way of thinking was different than mine I just figured they were unrelatable. I know now thats not true. since I've realized I need to put effort into my communications and relationships I've been much happier and calmer. thanks again for sharing. it really helped me, honestly.
I'm actually very surprised and very grateful even if an iota of kindness is shown to me. Shows how little I expect from other people. This is why I'm moving to Europe. People are not as nihilistic there and offer help a lot more freely. I noticed with my American classmates that even those they are nice people, they are not HELPFUL people. Not do they volunteer, especially to take one for the team. My American roommate will help with the apartment when ASKED, but she never thinks to offer it.
interesting. i saw a friend today whose parents moved from the east end when she was a child before the war, and she was brought up further west, and she doesn't sound cockney or 'essex' at all, haha. james may hey? never been told that before. i have a strange accent considering my dad is a london cabbie with a strong cockney accent.
precisely. and it's not something that just develops on its own, anyway. feelers don't necessarily relate to anyone's feelings except their own. I think you have to make a conscious decision to try to notice and consider what others might be feeling. i'm bad at it myself, but I know it's something to strive for consciously.
that's true. the time isn't an issue because the only reason i'd be moving is that i'd have given up the 9-5. the cost IS an issue, as I would still be getting into London probably every day, but at the moment I am spending 850 on rent and an extra 100-120 on fares. I think even if the train fares were 5000 per year, i'd still be making a saving.