I agree. I find myself stopping by much less than I used to. I rarely get anything helpful from the forum at this point.

I agree with all that. Seems very real, although I don't know much about it. So many ways that just help besides the "get your depressed ass of the couch". Anti-depressives also seem to help for a lot of people, yeah. Though they are faaaaar from ideal, it can offer a solution. And for people with a depressive disorder, or people who just are simply depressed, it often can be really bad to be happy, because it just is forced happiness and not real happiness. Mostly talking from my own experience, and some other people on the internet, and people on the internet who try to deny that but it seems like you can look through them (talking about those people who get into exercizing/healthy food and tumblr movitational pics and are always super positive about everything and always avoid dealing with problems or their negative feelings/thoughts).

interesting link. I'll check it out fully later. Thx.

Haha okay. Nice to get some feedback on that. Just curious. See ya around : )

Well, no problem. My intentions were good. But I have met such kind of persons and even if the look so perfect they are fake. I do not like fake persons anyway.

Yes, I think you are right. He is arrogant. Well, I guess an arrogant person can never be really happy

Why can I not respond to your message? I appreciate your advice!

Haha, I'll consider your method. Found myself in similar situation and tired to argue pointlessly as well. You're dead right, too. If you're soft about it, things get worse for the other person and the whole relationship suffers more.

I am so sorry, I didn't mean to be unthoughtful. I sometimes don't word things as well as I should. I hope your relationship can be worked out, or you can go on to find someone who will appreciate you as you deserve and be just to you.

Just as long as you are not "always right" and can accept where you do make mistakes. You have the right to ask for justice in your relationship. Give her understanding if she has a history of traumas that make it difficult for her to see and understand where her actions are not acceptable, but make it plain you will not enable her in her self destructive actions or subject yourself to being victimized. Limit the relationship if she is not willing to face her issues and change. You CAN find positive relationships, so don't settle for less. Good luck.

I think that your friend did/does have a point. It only matters if we let it matter. I detest the politics of division, but also can't stomach the inconsistencies that arise from failing to recognize that we aren't all the same. No reason we can't recognize and appreciate our differences, rather than dismissing them and/or using them to promote discrimination.

Nothing conclusive, but your intuitions seem valid.

Sorry for my female way of thinking: I can't keep my focus on your question and not to think about 50 other things. Reading you post this popped to my mind: maybe there are researches already made about this topic, so you can get more ideas.

I found a video about heroes http://ed.ted.com/lessons/what-makes...atthew-winkler As I understand, being a hero is fairy tales is more about personal development than about outside world. According to the scheme, I couldn't even say if Pippi was a hero in that sense.

I like this talk much more: http://www.ted.com/talks/philip_zimb...y_of_evil.html it is about real world heroes and how do they become ones. As I understand, people who become heroes put themselves in a risk, because they believe it is right. In a way sacrifice themselves for something bigger (as you noticed heroes in animation also do that). In this sense hero takes responsibility for others.

So maybe hero = overcoming personal fears + taking responsibility (for others)
Maybe it is about reaching a goal bigger than you, sacrificing security -> growing.
(In this scheme hero has to be vulnerable, how else we can notice him being strong?)

So I think being a hero has a little to do with being with peers, because challenges must be taken alone either way.

Do you think we admire heroes which are similar to us or we admire for different reasons and become similar later?

Interesting topic by the way!

Now I feel very smart :D hehe

Desmond Morris...easy reading, so obvious since well written, yet absolutely hilarious.

My general view would be that we are animals too, but with layers or complexity and an urge to fake things to a level that all other species can never match. Because we have no fur or special features to compete, it's our mimesis of sort: imposture. Did you ever read Desmond Morris?

Well I have currently no dog :-) But in my experience dogs are often surrogate friends, very convenient ones: they don't express adverse opinion or criticism, they are simple, down to earth individuals, and just are lovely companions for long walks. I don't know man, I haven't go a clue.