It sounds very similar to my experience and I truly appreciate what you have shared with me. I find that it helps through this silence. The irony with his and my depression is that he lived his life because he was afraid to die and I don't live my life because I figure, what's the point and I'm not afraid of death. I can only see one blessing through all of this, and it's that I need to get some serious help to deal with my own depression. This break up, in particular has pushed my self worth up to the front burner and can't be ignored any longer or suppressed as it has been. In fact, if he didn't break up with me, I wouldn't be seeking help and it would never be getting addressed. I have also had the blessing of people on here caring enough to offer their help and support and that alone has pulled me out of despair. I don't have family to support me and my friends are great, but I do not feel like they truly understand my situation because it's not really the break up itself, it's all the accumulation of my life being triggered by current pain as well. I do hope that one day I can also look back and feel as though I have really healed and be in a healthy, happy relationship as you are. A part of me wants to still check on him because I feel like it's fear and depression that is ruling his life. That is certainly his burden to carry, and I can't change that, but I do care. If I do, it will be after more time has passed. Thank you again for sharing and helping me, it means a great deal.

No worries, I appreciate your thoughts and perspective and hope that whatever you are going through moves smoothly and well in whatever way that it can. Thank you for helping me with what you have already as well.

Thank you for responding to me. I am so scared that I am being aggressive, but I figure that I don't have anything more to lose at this point. I sent an email to his sister and have to real idea when she will see it. I am going to send a card to him that I drew and am hoping he will give me a response to some kind of opening for talking. I've never done this sort of thing after a guy has broke it off. But I keep getting told that when a person is clinically depressed, choices can be made that won't make sense and therefore, aren't set in stone. This is the only reason I have for my actions. I feel like if I was there in person, he might not be so apt to brush me off. But I also don't know how to respond to a depressed person. If sticking around would help him or not. Every person is different, but I won't be able to mentally rest until I give it my all. What I do know, is if a guy still kept subtly nudging me after I got scared, and stuck around anyway showing that he cared, I would still be open to connecting again.

Hi there! I read your post on the relationship horror stories and it really resonated with what I am going through now with an INTJ guy and he broke it off out of left field. I don't know how to interpret it since everything he did for the last three months was consistent and then in a matter of hours, it want looney tune. Your explanation seemed to fit somehow though. How did you know it was the anxiety?

Yeah handling people all day at that type of job would drive me crazy.

GPA and school results don't count, schools and education does not have the value it used to have, at least here. In US you don't use degree titles at all, here it's still common though. I don't. Seems ridiculous to me.
It was a reason why I started to not like school much later and was getting other skills outside school that seemed more important.

I'm sorry that the bubble burst so late for you, but at least you had easier time finishing school I hope.

What matters out there is experience, past results and mostly network connections, who you know. Welcome to real world...

*writes from his room hiding from the real world*

At least you have a job, here by the cultural difference and place I'm not even driven to seek one actively. So I just do what seems good to do, different technical hobbies instead of getting out there. I don't want to stay locally so that makes it a bit hard for me and now I have to really adjust and get out. Grow up.

{{{little bat}}}

Hope you have an awesome day!
Have some terribly enthusiastic dance music http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLAoNd4Bk48

Dunno, kicking trying to stay positive, it gets to me sometimes, makes me anxious, nervous, upset, easily irritated. But today is better, it balances itself back. Without that awful feeling I would not be driven to work more I suppose.

Trying to kick my ass out the door to the wide wild world.

I'm surprised you're still around little brown bat.

lol

Well said! I thought the same thing.

No I haven't seen National Lampoon probably, maybe the name is familiar.
I'm sorry your experience was so bad.

Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

	Start spending time with the right people. – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.

I believe the country/nature is nice no? It's just the people that were with you or you've met that made it an uncomfortable experience.

Of course taking kids to places requires you to think what they will have to do there.
There is usually more options than to get stuck in towns, clubs, pubs. It just depends on the people what they will choose to do.

How was your vacation? Where did you go?

Oh no. Where are you headed?
I should have done that too, but I didn't go abroad to travel around because I wanted to save what I have because I will need it once I start searching, find a job and move.

Going abroad certainly helps. I always feel 10 times better. Going back is weird as it seems/feels like I don't belong here.

Enjoy your vacation!

You'll rock when you get back

Nothing much, still can't switch to focus on job searching. Getting there slowly.
Motivations to do things are a bit of an issue for me.

How is you?

*tickles the brown bat*

I suppose it's like that because many use it as an excuse :/ Instead of telling sorry I'm not interested, they say they have no time.
In both cases, they should respect it if it's explained

Not really sure I understand the ego placation bit. Please explain. Don't know whether you've followed the thread but if so I'd be interested in your take on it. It feels like I'm learning a lot about myself, others, and communication in general through my participation here. There will likely come a point when that will end, and if I know me my participation will follow suit. While I'm here there's a compulsion to propogate those ideas that I believe are beneficial to everyone. Personal responsibility certainly fits this criteria.

Waaa!!! AWESOME!
That's really good news

Me, that would be a longer talk, need to move, set a direction in life or something, decide what I want to do, what do I like, etc.
I welcome all help/talk with anything like that.

*congratulations*

{{{ML}}}

^_^

"how is you?"