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  1. Brains
    Yesterday 06:26 AM
    Brains
    Fe users have a visceral need to ensure the group setting is overall harmonious, don't they?

    Fi people build a set of values and sentiments inside of themselves, and have a need to find out what it is and act according to it with a similar compulsion as Fe types have towards having a good rapport with others and the group as a whole. From an Fi perspective, this could be likened to having a soul and donning masks. When everyone is happy, the Fe type is content. To this end she dons masks so she can act true to that aim. When he is acting true to that valueset, the Fi type is content. He's stoking the inner soul-fire or whatever you want to call it.

    Fi users have a visceral sense of being separate from others - they don't "meld together" into one unit in their perception as Fe types might. If a glass of water is a group, an Fe type is a flake of salt, an Fi type is a pebble. Solid object by itself, melts into the group and returns to a solid state afterwards. The Fi type does not do this.

    I don't mean that a Fe user cannot logically understand people being separate, or an Fi user belonging to a group. But the difference is that of hearing a description of what it feels like to jump into a river and the physical experience of jumping into the river yourself.

    It's why you sometimes see Fi users butting heads or talking at length of their interests - they're establishing boundaries between themselves and defining who the other person is, what that other person is about. It's an instinctive way of seeing the world, and something you instinctively look for in other people - this is why Fe users can appear superficial to the Fi type if he has a single concept of "feelings" or "values" and does not understand the separation - he's instinctively searching for that value-soul and the search hits a blank, because the Fe type doesn't spend much time building it.

    The other side of the mirror is that Fi looks mostly to the self, so the Fi type doesn't instinctively consider others' feelings and act accordingly. Fi is capable of empathizing with another person, but it's only for individuals or small handfuls of people, and is more limited to feeling what the other feels, not necessarily acting on it. The kind of accommodating behavior Fe finds easy does not come naturally, and sometimes when he isn't aware of the need to accommodate an Fi type can be hilariously inconsiderate - not out of malice, but of ignorance.

    A final note is that I think Fi and Ti serve pretty analogous functions in that they're the functions that most individuate a person. They create inside a person something stable, not so dependant on the outside world, something that resists change (Te and Fe yield to facts and prevailing sentiment much more easily) and creates individual idiosyncracies. It's why IxTPs, despite being Fe users, are typically individualistic to a fault.
  2. alejajandra
    01-21-2015 10:29 PM
    alejajandra
    Thanks! I put the extra ja in there
  3. Tektite
    01-21-2015 06:44 PM
    Tektite
    Its a great relief And yes, I never thought I could connect with anyone like I can with him. Being around him isn't draining at all, never thought that was possible given my strong introversion.
  4. Tektite
    01-21-2015 03:52 PM
    Tektite
    Yes, I am currently dating an INTJ. Its been quite a good experience, we can completely relate to and understand each other's personality and thought processes. On top of that, we have almost identical interests and childhood/family histories. We're such a good match its almost unbelievable.
  5. Atomic
    01-21-2015 03:01 PM
    Atomic
    I think he is extroverted, the way he moves and entertain crowds. Except an episode when he went away to meditate, he always liked to hang out with his mates and tell paraboles.
  6. Desertstorm
  7. eagleseven
    01-20-2015 06:35 PM
    eagleseven
    Just call me a poor boy
  8. TheNerdWho
    01-20-2015 04:43 PM
    TheNerdWho
    Thank you for the preview
  9. Brains
    01-20-2015 11:26 AM
    Brains
    don't know if the arrogant reputation is entirely unfounded, but I agree it's a lot about just knowing one's place - respect those you judge your betters, false modesty can go die in a fire, call an idiot an idiot to their face.
  10. eagleseven
    01-20-2015 11:06 AM
    eagleseven


    It looks like I have my choice of jobs, and they start within a matter of weeks. And I'm in a position to start a bidding-war. Especially considering one of the positions is (gross) near six-figs.
  11. eagleseven
    01-20-2015 10:24 AM
    eagleseven


    Very good morning, just had two conversations with recruiters!
  12. Brains
    01-20-2015 10:19 AM
    Brains
    The forum should be good then, so many "Wow I'm so INTJ" threads :/
  13. Brains
    01-20-2015 10:14 AM
    Brains
    /headdesk
  14. Brains
    01-20-2015 09:51 AM
    Brains
    Why the ? :P
  15. Brains
    01-20-2015 05:38 AM
    Brains
    Hadn't really occurred to me that most of the "off" INTJs would be ISTPs.
  16. TheNerdWho
    01-20-2015 05:14 AM
    TheNerdWho
    No complaints
  17. Lerena
    01-20-2015 04:07 AM
    Lerena
    I think your post looks fine. I took my time and responded the best I could.
  18. Sarea
    01-20-2015 12:06 AM
    Sarea
    Good night


    ps: the people who hurt were those in my family circles and old friends actually. it's more difficult to avoid meeting the relatives.

    Love part? Not firecrackers material but rather stable.

    a nice young stud sounds great too, hahahaha/kidding
  19. pigpjs
    01-20-2015 12:06 AM
    pigpjs commented on Is it my fault or his? I need help.
    You are so good at that ^.^
  20. Sarea
    01-19-2015 10:25 PM
    Sarea
    hahahaha, agree!

    the elderly might include me in their dark dark secrets and that might appeal to my crazed istj nosey parkerness, :P

    or they might complain too much until i absorb those sad energies excessively and i lose myself completely!

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