the level of effort and its quality are appreciated

Jeeze buddy, you're on a roll.
Stay cool mate.

And you are also a LoL player, how excellent. Would you like to play some time?

haha dude you are awesome

So funny, cause I had the exact same thought process.

Q: What kind of guys do you go for?
A: Intelligent, attractive ones. My current boyfriend isn't the athletic, modelesque type I wish I had, but I love him and his looks have never let me down. He's a (nearly underweight) 6'3" INTJ. Myself, I'm 5'9", so. Yeah. Pretty big difference. It's not that bad anymore, at all.

Q: How do you perceive yourself in terms of masculinity and femininity?
A: I feel I am masculine. I also am not shy in showing that women are aesthetically pleasing to me. I like men, if I wanted a girly guy, I would probably find myself a girl that's okay with wearing a strap. I have feminine gestures (usually when gesticulating), and in posture when walking.

Q: Thoughts on hypermasculinity.
A: Agreed about the type of guys I'm interested in, with a little twist. I like stable, decent, strong men. The kind that can protect me. I feel if I worked out, this perspective would change, though. I like to be taken care of. My boyfriend calls me princess every now and again. Frankly, I liked it and thought it was fitting.

Q: Being approached.
A: I refuse to approach people... Mostly out of fear of being rejected. I'm just glad the right person approached me!

Hmm, I guess in general I would like her to show me things socially that I have never bothered doing. I want to be put into a social environment with a girl in the lead, not a guy. It's hard to explain fully, but that's my preference.

With a guy, I like him to be as feminine as possible because, this is bad I admit, it can be hard to be attracted to a guy unless he stops being independent and lets me take control. Even if he takes the initiative once in a while, I still would like to see him enjoy being vulnerable and wanting me to take the reins.

My higher more selective standards for men may be because I'm attracted to women more than men (note that the guy I would want to dominate would have to dress like a girl often, hence my cross-dressing preference). I'm technically bi, but actually more like 75-85% lesbian.

Great conversation

Actually I don't know that it was a JPEG ... I'm just testing my faith-instincts! Fi/Se at work?

I'm not looking at the moment and I haven't been in any serious relationships, but I would prefer someone like myself. I'm probably not the best at being emotionally supportive, but I do strive to help those who I love. I would like her to take me on, challenge me, and perhaps force me out of my comfort zone once in a while. She would basically have to be more dominant and less introverted than I am.

It's probably too much to ask for to find a woman as feminine as me but also dominant. In reality, if I'm submissive to her, she will likely be at least slightly masculine in both mind and appearance. It wouldn't be a deal-breaker.

Oh yeah, it's actually a little different for feminine/cross-dressing men. I would like to be dominant at least somewhat in such a relationship.

Loving the JPEG artifacts in your avatar. Also, you make enjoyable posts.

Masculine in mind, feminine in appearance. Does that make sense?

I love dressing myself up and being girly, but I can't really keep a conversation going with the typical girly girl.

Thanks for your thoughts and effort in this thread. No worries about the past. Unless behaviour is a pattern, not much of a grudge holder.

Which is exactly why I have to learn to grow gonads, so I can call him out. "Hey! You're being an asshole. This is what you did. That was selfish. STFU." XD Okay, maybe not exactly like that, but I in a weird way, I'm kind of glad he's emotionally selfish right now. It's teaching me to hold my ground more firmly and not let him manipulate me into feeling abused and crazy. Of course, I can only be glad, because he usually ends up apologizing the next day and does try to make it a point to alter his behavior. I'll learn him yet! 8D

If its as wrinkled and smelly,maybe lol

Almost like a scrotum O_o

Sci-Fri! Woot! XD No, my state of being at that point is usually a critical one. Luckily, I'm old enough to realize this is happening and try to fix the matter. My boyfriend, I think is classic INTJ. He tends to be a bit selfish when he's not happy, usually using me being "insecure" or "irrational" as a crutch for my reactions to some of his behavior. However, his lack of job and increase of people intruding on his life and time might also have something to do with that. Somehow, the people closest to you tend to become your punching bags, I think, if you're not dealing with your emotions.

Great thread and post! A point you made struck a chord with me, the whole "digging deeper" with the question "Why?". Something I started doing when I was quite young and has resulted in vast levels of self-awareness.

Good food for thought.

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