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  1. pinkywhiz
    02-10-2016 10:46 PM
    pinkywhiz
    I agree, it would be nice to spend time with him without all of the distractions from work. It's tough because we can only find small pockets of time to talk with each other without any interruptions. It seems like there is always somebody around us. I prefer talking to him without having to worry about other people listening or chiming in. It seems like he feels the same way because he doesn't start any conversations unless we are by ourselves. Not to mention the constant orders we have to fulfill and all the food he has to prep. It gets really frustrating.

    It's just SUPER difficult for me to ask him to hang out though!! I know I've done it before and it worked out fine...but it just felt right at the time to ask him to hang out so that's why I bit the bullet last time and did it. It's going to sound weird but I do a lot of things according to the "feelings" I get. Right now, it doesn't "feel" like it's the right time to ask him to hang out. It probably makes zero sense because he's being friendly and he's talking to me and everything at work...but still! I get the feeling that he's not in the mood to go out and socialize and all that and I don't want him to feel obligated to do anything. But rest assured, once I get the feeling that he wouldn't mind going out, then that's when I'll ask him. I promise! I'm even looking forward to when that will happen.

    You probably think I'm crazy now. :P
  2. gracious
    02-09-2016 04:45 PM
    gracious commented on "Why Men Love Bi***** " Books
    Does Cap'n Crunch know about this?
  3. pinkywhiz
    02-08-2016 06:25 PM
    pinkywhiz
    Hmmm okay...I'm often wondering if he ever misses me whenever we go long stretches without working with each other.

    I got to work with him today and it was pretty cool. I think he's still going through some stuff because he was pretty quiet around everyone....but he seemed like he was in good spirits for the most part. We were both conversing about how our past week had been and whatnot. I was surprised at how much he wanted to talk to me given how quiet he was around everyone earlier in the day. He kept our conversation going even when he was super preoccupied with everything. I appreciated it!

    It was a super hot day today in Cali and I decided to buy $1 frozen yogurts for everyone in the kitchen. I asked him if he wanted one and it made him smile. He was hesitant in saying yes because it was coming out of my pocket...but I convinced him to get one and then he finally said he wanted chocolate. He seemed really appreciative and it was really sweet. After I got the frozen yogurts for everyone, I went to the office to catch up on some paperwork. Like ten minutes later, he came in through the office door and said, "I finally get to eat my frozen yogurt!" and then he was standing next to me watching me work while he was eating...it was really cute. I encouraged him to sit down on the chair that was next to me and so he sat down and we talked while he was eating and while I was doing computer work. I'm glad he chose to keep me company in the office while he was eating, it was super fun.

    He's such an awesome person. I find myself always talking to him and wanting to know more about him. My co-worker even commented that she always sees me and him talking to each other the most. Well...she can't really blame me! He's terrific.
  4. pinkywhiz
    02-06-2016 03:12 PM
    pinkywhiz
    He works an 11:30AM-8PM shift today. Our weekly meetings take place during our slowest hour so the managers/leads who are working that day are still able to participate since there are barely any customers to serve at that time. As the admin, I usually have the weekend off. Unfortunately, he rarely does.

    We work together next week and I'm looking forward to catching up with him. Do INTJs miss people?
  5. pinkywhiz
    02-06-2016 12:16 AM
    pinkywhiz
    He never explicitly said he wanted space...but I can't imagine him ever wanting to say that to me though, even if he did feel that way. We've spoken before about how we'd rather stay home most of the time....but that we'd hang out with our friends because we feel an obligation to them. I don't want him to feel like he's obligated to hang out with me if I invite him out somewhere. :/ I'm sure he would genuinely look forward to it if he accepted my invitation...but there's always that nagging thought in the back of my head and I can't shake it. I know.... it sounds lame.

    I'm not going to see him on Saturday because the meeting got cancelled. Damn.
  6. pinkywhiz
    02-03-2016 09:04 PM
    pinkywhiz
    He text messaged me just now and thanked me for the coconut water. He said it was a nice surprise and that it took the edge off. Reading that made me smile. I'm glad that I've helped him in some way.
  7. pinkywhiz
    02-03-2016 07:55 PM
    pinkywhiz
    Yeah I'm pretty much not expecting him to initiate any hangouts. :/ I really was going to ask him to hang out with me (like setting a specific date and everything), but he told me about what he was going through and now I'm hesitant about it. I want him to be able to get through whatever he's going through by giving him enough space. Maybe he needs a hangout to get his mind off of things though...I dunno what to do!!! :/
  8. pinkywhiz
    02-03-2016 06:47 PM
    pinkywhiz
    I think I'm going to see him on Saturday at the work meeting. The meetings have become a weekly thing so at least there's that. I would invite him to do something, but I think he's still going through personal stuff so I want to give him space if he needs it. :/ I have already mentioned to him last Saturday that we can hang out whenever he's free so we'll see if he ever reaches out. I know that he works tonight so I went to the store across from our restaurant and bought him some coconut water during my break. I left it in the mini fridge for him with his name on it. I hope it cheers him up because it's his favorite!!!!
  9. pinkywhiz
    02-02-2016 07:20 PM
    pinkywhiz
    Yeah, we have each other's phone number if we ever want to get in contact. He's not much of a phone user though and I'm not really either.

    I was able to talk to him for a few minutes today since he came in right before I was going to leave. I was in the office tidying up when he came in to grab something from the first-aid kit. (The poor guy cut his thumb chopping vegetables last night while he was lost in his thoughts). I happily greeted him and we wrapped our arms around each other while I asked him how he was doing. I sensed a melancholic vibe coming from him, but he was smiling while he was conversing with me so I hope he wasn't as sad as he seemed. Before I left, I gave him another hug and told him to take care of himself and that was that.

    I can't wrap my head around how much I care about this guy.
  10. ENFPEACE
    02-01-2016 05:23 PM
    ENFPEACE
    Indeed: only there wasn't any water to splash back down on.
  11. pinkywhiz
    01-31-2016 05:36 PM
    pinkywhiz
    As we were walking away from each other, I told him that we could hang out whenever he feels like it. He smiled and said "Okay." It sucks that we won't even be able to work with each other all week so I won't be able to see how he's doing. I mentioned that to him and he said "It's okay...I'm sure I'll see you around. Plus, our schedules might match up next week."

    Well, I hope he reaches out to me if he needs anything.
  12. pinkywhiz
    01-31-2016 11:53 AM
    pinkywhiz
    He walked me over to my car after the meeting yesterday and I asked him what's been on his mind. He told me what he had been going through lately and how difficult it's been for him. I won't get too detailed about it, but there's really nothing I could do to help him out.

    I tried my best to console him, but I know it probably hasn't helped that much. I felt guilty afterwards because I'm one of those people who talk about their own experiences to relate to the other person's situation. Then I offer advice based on what I've learned from my experience. I hope he didn't take it the wrong way and think that I kept making the conversation about me. I dunno...I'm thinking too much about it I guess. He knows I care about him. I just feel like I could've done so much more to help him out.

    I'm thinking about just maintaining my distance and acting like everything is normal. I told him that I'd always be there for him in case he wanted to talk about it...but he told me that he didn't want to tell me the full details because he didn't want to make me sad. It breaks my heart because I don't want him to feel like he's going through this by himself. Is giving him space to sort out his issue the best course of action? :/
  13. Sarea
    01-30-2016 07:25 AM
    Sarea
    Lol
  14. Sarea
    01-30-2016 07:22 AM
    Sarea
    I am not sad.

    Far from it actually. (plus I didn't go back in time to relive the those memories either, that's why).
  15. Sarea
    01-30-2016 07:13 AM
    Sarea
    Remembering them when they were still alive, and then they died = the sad parts. I don't like going back in time to relive those sad memories, unless I have no choice.
  16. Sarea
    01-30-2016 06:58 AM
    Sarea commented on Poll: Love the process and let go of the result
    this is sad. I can still remember when/how my pets died. except for the fishes.
  17. Sarea
    01-30-2016 06:56 AM
    Sarea
    I know I am awful. I thrive on my notoriety
  18. Sarea
    01-30-2016 06:55 AM
    Sarea
    It's for me to know.
  19. Sarea
    01-30-2016 06:53 AM
    Sarea
    I just got a eureka moment! Now I know how to compliment you. :D
  20. Sarea
    01-30-2016 06:51 AM
    Sarea
    :P

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