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Figures. I don't think I mean to be condescending when I say it but really, why would it need to be said? Unthought reaction could be sitting on the sediment of repeatedly learning to put in social words.
Detachment is sometimes reaction to lack, and sometimes precursor to substance. Maybe, maybe. I have more theories about this but they will have to wait!
Exactly. I suppose it also seems like I probably shouldn't bother considering the lack of consideration given to my needs and feelings in all of this to begin with. I don't get this phenomenon. Suggests that the perceived invulnerability/imperviousness to their impact is the reason for the liking. Anyway, I've vented enough -- sorry to dump that on you.
I didn't figure it was started by you. My guess -- and feel free to tell me I'm wrong and/or to fuck off with this speculation -- is that you prefer non-writhing conflict? By which I just mean conflict in which there is little immediacy and you can be at a distance to observe. And perhaps where it seems either like the other person feels the same or that they're just a jackass anyway. Those tend to be the arguments I enjoy, anyway. But then I'm not sure... you seem less argumentative than I am, I think. I see that relative calm as probably preferable but who knows? Internal states require either autopsy to understand or the use of resonance (Fe?) that acts on you as it provides a reading.
*steps out, comes back, laughs* You have my sympathy. I remember years of my father turning on the computer, staring at the desktop and asking, "Where's Windows?"
Ah, I've had times of going back home, and of needing their financial help, and it still feels like regression when I go back. *mumbles about the economy* I haven't heard that process of leaving home described as "individuation" before.
Well, I'm going to let her stay her allotted time and if need be, ask her when she's leaving. I would like not to hurt her feelings but not at the expense of having my point of view heard.
I'm not sure... deception puts my back up in a bad way so even if she'd been a better guest, I'd still be wary. I don't know if she saw it as deception or was just oblivious to the imposition and has a conception of "need" or urgency that is far removed from mine, for not having been on her own much, perhaps. Either way, not good. Yeah, fuck (most) people.
Do you have a better time shutting off the writhing conflict at home? Not being tongue-in-cheek, just asking as I know you live with family. Cohabitation works for me in my current setup but visiting my family can become rapidly excruciating, even with the appropriate filial love firmly in place.
Ah. Doubt I'll use it as it's not really part of my speaking style and doesn't strike me as funny enough to use as a joke. I was just missing the context, I think. Like to be able to see the tapestry against which the loathing is set in relief.
I do remember that back and forth in the first impressions thread. Something about innards and jello. And it was soaring. But I didn't mean you in that post, because for some reason I thought that long conversation about psychology and perception in the fluff thread about the forum being such a mean place preceded that. The one where you recommended the Begley book that's still only at about 10% on my Kindle. Or maybe it was around the same time. Or after, and I got them mixed up.
You are one of my favourite people, here or anywhere.