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  1. Thinker
    Yesterday 06:38 PM
    I'm sorry that your mother is so against taking time out. I know it's encouraged in Europe and certainly not discouraged here in Australia.
    I cannot understand why we won't allow young adults to take some time out.
    This gives them time to grow up and focus on what they want out of life. Very few people (in my view) have a good understanding of what they want to follow as a career at 17 or 18.
    In my view it leads to a risk averse population who only see one way to enter a career, and are very hard on mistakes and trying different things. I don't get it.

    My daughter is burnt out and needs some space. I have every faith in her that she will go to university and finish her education....and I wouldn't be concerned if she didn't, as long as she found something which brings her happiness.
  2. Zsych
    10-21-2014 12:05 PM
    True enough, although there's always the chance that he's really attracted to her or finds something about her intriguing enough to put in extra effort. I've actually done the "Jump to negative conclusions in the absence of information, or apparently insufficient prioritization of engagement, by the other party" thing myself - so I recognize that its a mistake. heh.

    And yes, we react to things in certain ways, so there are certain kinds of people whose natural behaviors mesh with ours in ways where a relationship has a chance to easily grow from it.
  3. Duke City Man
    Thanks for posting this thread. I had been wanting to make a post about it for a while but have I've been lazy.
  4. Liquidgrit
    10-19-2014 06:44 AM
    Liquidgrit commented on What's new in your love life?
    Awesome! Good for you!
  5. Zsych
  6. Carnal
    10-18-2014 06:52 PM
  7. Zsych
    10-18-2014 07:28 AM
    Zsych commented on Death of the American Adult?
    Good post. I think earlier, your value creation relationships merged with your family / friend relationships, but now those structures are separating. I wouldn't consider it sustainable normally (since society isn't a one generation long existence), but the industries we're building form a different basis for a more sustainable path.
  8. Weltschmerzer
    10-17-2014 08:29 PM
    Weltschmerzer commented on What would you say to this...
    If you like Grace Kelly, I imagine you're a fan of Amber Heard.
  9. demaugustus
    Very interesting. I live on the mainland, I understand.
  10. UnlikelyDaydrmr
    09-24-2014 02:15 AM
    Hmm. Itz been a while.. are you still having issues with the roommates? You'd mentioned in an earlier thread how they have private space in bedrooms where you're stuck in the livingroom without privacy, if i remember correctly. If I do remember correctly, that sucks. Unfortunately, my only advice would be counterproductive and probably illegal. So don't listen to me. ;-)
  11. gracious
    09-22-2014 07:51 AM
    I'm pretty private about such things too, but in my experience, at some point there's a reason you're not being introduced to your partner's friends.

    i.e. doom on the horizon / holding onto some fragment of a previous relationship / you're an embarrassment... etc.
  12. curiousgeorge01
    09-13-2014 09:18 PM
    Well the ENFJ I was involved with we were more in the courting stage that never happened. I got sick of what I perceived to be games and just gave up. I had to think back to who you were referring to b/c that thread was so old!
  13. BlackbirdFrost
    09-10-2014 09:43 AM
    BlackbirdFrost commented on Ideal Height
    Is that why you fake canceled our fake wedding just seconds after fake proposing?? Because I'm an inch too tall?? A lot of people shrink a little as they get older, you know! I'm so fake angry with you right now I can't even fake the emotions I'm not feeling!
  14. holdyourhead
    09-10-2014 08:42 AM
    Even throughout Europe there is some variance depending on location and subcultures, but overall it may be better. I don't have much direct experience outside of the UK, but here is closer to the US as the two cultures have always had a lot of shared influences. I definitely don't expect much from people either. It is definitely worse with younger generations and older generations tend more helpful. This may be partly due to each generations being more spoiled than the last, rather than strictly an age-related phenomenon. When the current younger generations become the older generations of the future, it's possible that many will retain the same mentality from their youth.
  15. Zsych
    09-08-2014 06:17 PM
    Noticed an earlier question of yours. Superiority...

    (Aside from tech relaxing the need for servants mostly)... maybe the reputations of those in power do impact things (and people often want to see them in a negative light to justify their own weaknesses as well add have a means to alter those people's perceived social status), I think there's something of a fear aspect to it: People who have power over you, can control you, can influence others against you, can pull resources you may need away from you, can force you to obey, without you being able to do much in response... People standing higher than you in the collective social framework.

    Seems women especially, amongst women, favor (emotional / social) equality over accomplishment... That's a general statement (although the preference makes some sense)

    Also, seems human happiness is highly linked to status in your own peer group... People are happier when they believe they stand higher than others (which implies unhappy if they see themselves standing low in their peer group... Even if it's a peer group of billionaires... it depends on how you define your peers more than actual reality... In the modern day, with everyone supposedly equal, everyone is potentially your peer )

    Why would it matter? Because however you come to be rich (having larger amounts of 'what is perceived to be' value to give to those you choose to)... those that are rich, get the aid and good will of more people automatically... And someone committed to helping someone else, can't help you (Reducing easy access to support and resources, and increasing the effort you have to put in to get stuff you want)... Meh.

    I think there's also a secondary, possible quality control system in play, where those perceived as low value may well be mistreated or ejected from the peer group... Awkward thing to be at risk of... And as relationships evolve incrementally, perhaps worth heading off well before things get anywhere near being perceived in ways that that kind of action results.
  16. Zsych
    09-07-2014 02:47 PM
    Zsych commented on Moving to Germany: is this good advice?
    Sounds like a plan. Good luck!
  17. Distance
    09-06-2014 08:15 PM
    Then it's probably a matter of timing, more than anything. He had sexually matured.
  18. Silverity
    XD Hahaha, yeah, gods that'd be horrific.
  19. BlackbirdFrost
    08-29-2014 06:37 PM
    There's only one problem I can think of with a badass longcoat. How do you wear one in public without looking like you're trying too hard to look badass? I think the average person can only take so much badassery before their minds begin to reject it.

    I've never been known to wear scarves, but I'm almost always in a collared shirt. T-shirts are great for lazy days lounging around the house, but I prefer a nice button-down sport shirt, maybe a polo.

    Can't say God's personality disorder was on my list of topics I expected to discuss at any point in time. It's not something I'd ever given thought to. I'm not even a religious person (agnostic), so yeah, thanks for that break for normalcy.
  20. UnlikelyDaydrmr
    08-29-2014 02:47 PM
    *raises eyebrow* You used a ...fascinating metaphor there.

    Regarding your recent thread on tipping, I usually figure that most of the rules boil down to about 15-25%. 20 or 25% can be easier to calculate inside my head, so I use that as a general rule and try to round up or down to the nearest five dollars,or the nearest single dollar on smaller tickets and places where I can write down a gratuity on the receipt and pay with a card.

    I have noticed some of the tribal behavior here..and at every forum I've ever been on, and on the job when working as a contractor dealing with the in-house employees.

    There's one last thought on the old multiculturalism/tribalism thread I have before I put it to bed for a while, but there's an important question at its foundation:

    Do you think personality types are mostly hereditary or mostly trained?

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