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The problem with my style, when I help people - is that if I have to put in extra effort, I seem to want something in return: Which is a choice to put in more effort, from the people I'm helping. Them choosing to put effort towards becoming better themselves.
... But that can also come off giving the impression that the person isn't good enough as they are, that they are inadequate (even though I feel like I don't feel that of someone I took the time to help). But someone inclined to interpret things from an emotional perspective of whether or not I have a high opinion of them... will typically take it badly (So in a way, I am the person that's creating problems for me - if I behave according to my natural preferences)
The topic is just meant to have an offensive tone towards Persona. Also, most of my topics are just different perspectives to consider - not really supposed to be very meaningful in themselves. Its more the thousand views that combine into Ni based understanding.
Although I did realize that there is an edge of anger towards women in my thinking. Not specific women that I like, but there's an annoyance towards some women at least getting away with not taking responsibility because people (often including myself) are protective of women. Or my own helping people deal with their problems ultimately not helping that much or leading to trouble afterwards... and I think female style politics, where nobody actually tells you what's going on, but lots of stuff is happening behind the scenes, irritate me
Its the awkwardness where I feel I'm better off not asking why women look unhappy, because being helpful seems to cause me frustration (Yes, its not brilliant).
I think the extreme Te I often manifest when I need to get stuff done, is just not suited to working with the average woman.
Personally, I don't think that all that many Ns are particularly suited to traditional life or traditional roles. But whether the normal person works better that way, is a separate question... Whether most people are better off being traditional.
Like, sure some people want to be great entrepreneurs who run massive businesses, but is that an expectation that should even be placed on most people ('cus they might not really want to, and it might still make them feel a little inadequate - yet being normal is perfectly fine)
Hmm... I think that for men to seriously compete with women, their normal emotions towards the female gender would need to be suppressed first. Male competition is pride, conquest, destruction. It doesn't work alongside caring or protection. Not to mention that people look strangely at a man who was very powerfully competitive with women (Honestly, its hard to even be particularly demanding of women as a manager, without drama. Whereas, you can just force men to work no matter what they want)
Anyway, I feel like, at the point where a lot of men seriously compete with women, the shit is hitting the fan. That it would be indicative of the emotional mix of society having evolved in a dangerous direction. Like the complaints about the heart of the PUA movement often not being in the right place - I think you'd be looking at a basic disrespect, universally. Because men don't normally consistently respect each other. There's always a certain amount of fighting and earning of respect needed, and that respect is easily lost.
Hmm... Competing with women. Interesting overall question.