Well, that puts a different spin on things. You are going to have to create boundaries with them to have some kind of sanity as an adult.

August 26...just orientation this last weekend.

Your daughter starts college this early in the year?

I get that it's extremely difficult. I'm recently married and relinquishing some degree of control over my circumstances is challenging...more challenging than I'd ever have imagined.

But, you get something back from that relinquishing of total autonomy...something truly worthwhile.

Relationships necessitate some sacrifices of personal desire. Too many INTJs see that as "selling out" and sneer at those who do. The real issue is being dutiful while maintaining equity and dignity, but we're prone to kneejerk: DUTY IS THE DEATH OF FREEDOM.