Yeah, sensitivity. It's the best thing about INFJs, and it's the worst thing about INFJs. It gets better with age. Over the years I've honed my "insensitive bastard" trade quite well. In fact, this morning, I refused to hold the door for someone that was approaching from 15 meters away. I don't know where you're getting this "pixie-like", "magical-like" description though. That strikes me as more INFP-like...

Guilty as charged. Yeah, but what's funny (well, not so funny if you ask me) is that most ENFPs seem to be into INTJs, romantically speaking. There's no love for INFJs, unless someone breaks up with someone, and they need a shoulder to cry on...

I was with an INFJ for a while, like a year and a half. In the end, what did us in was his terrible lack of self-confidence - but his problem goes beyond INFJness. He's the most neurotic guy I've ever known. Every time he tells me he's going on a date, he's like, "This one is definitely too good for me." Before he even meets her! He's terrible. But pretty awesome still. A very touching sensitivity, and intuitive creativity. In the whole, magical creatures.

Hahaha! You can't post in threads, but I see you get your fix by sending out rep comments, huh? Yeah, you're pretty awesome. I think life definitely is challenging as an INFJ, but you're fascinating and genuine and warm and absolutely pixie-like. Oh, and always a sympathetic ear with great feedback every time I spill my life problems.

"I still very much enjoy their presence because the Ni they have nicely complements my Ne, and in general they can give me a very different point of view while still working on the same modes of thought as me, and prioritizing the same thought processes in the same order: iNtuition first, Feelings second, Thinking third, and Sensing last"

I recently had read somewhere that INFJs and ENFPs make ideal matches in terms of relationships. I did not know this until 2 weeks ago. But basically the site said so for the same reasons: Ni-Ne complement...

You guys ARE awesome! Seriously!

Thanks. It's a family portrait...

Ha! Awesome new avatar.

Well here's another snooper, because I really have to comment on what LifesEcstasy said. "Yes such a woman would. I do, because I can now see my own contribution to what went on." This is true. Once I gave it enough thought, I realized my own mistakes in previous relationships and though I didn't keep my ex's as friends (except one with whom my relationship is purely platonic nowadays), I do not blame them. I might still feel like I was hurt and wish some things hadn't happened, but I know I had something to learn there. I might not be the most sane of partners (and I firmly believe that everyone has crap of their own that they need to sort out and that nobody is 100% sane), but at least I am aware of what crap belongs to me and I admit it readily when I pull some bad tricks on my boyfriend, as soon as I realize it. This sort of self-awareness is essential to things getting better.

Thank you for that, and I'm sorry to hear of your situation...

Hey you, I've seen your numerous posts about your current, tumultuous, relationship. I saw you mention Borderline Personality Disorder so I thought I'd give you this link. I'm myself a child of a BDP mother and found these boards very useful. There is one dedicated to people who have decided to stay with SO's that are BPD, one that is for people who are undecided as whether they are staying or leaving, etc. Hope you find this useful. http://www.bpdfamily.com/message_board/