types influenced by parent's personalities?

[Aoiluna]

I was wondering what everyone's parent's personality types are. I'm interested in seeing the correlation between our parent's types and our own. What about siblings?

[Kfbr]

I think my mom was an ISFP and my dad an ENTJ.

As for my brothers and sisters.. well I know 6 are introverts (including myself) and 1 extrovert. I'd have to say most are N's and P's

We were pretty unorganized and did our own thing growing up

[brewmaster]

Dad: INTJ, postive on that
Mom: INFJ, maybe a P
Sister: INFJ, positve as well

[Santana28]

Mom, ISFP
Dad, INTJ

Only child... so no one to compare myself to :(

[Laurel]

My mum: ESFJ
My dad: INTP

Sister 1: ESTJ
Brother 1: ISFP
Sister 2: ENFJ
Brother 2: INTJ

I'm the oldest

[Darklord]

I got my father to take a test. He came out as ISFP, an unlikely result. The reason? He answered "yes" to all the questions on whether he expresses his emotions, because "I say shit when I mean shit."
It turned out that ISTP was much closer.
My mother, I do not know. If she took the test, she'd likely come out ESFJ, but I'm not convinced that would not be a mental projection of her ideals.
My two sisters, I think are ESFJ and some kind of IN type.

I'm the oldest among my siblings, too.

[Danellian]

mother: 4w5 INFJ
father: 4w3 INFP

me: 1w9 INTJ

I'm an only child. I'd say INTJ is a common type in my extended family.

[The Many]

Father: INTP
Mother: INFP

[GOD]

I was wondering what everyone's parent's personality types are. I'm interested in seeing the correlation between our parent's types and our own. What about siblings?


I did a thread on this earlier at some point...

Both my parents are/were INTJ.

Interestingly my Mother definitely had all the "F" traits that women have, but she over ruled her emotions with logical reasoning and straight forward common sense. I think it was a source of great conflict internally for her as she was very very emotional.

[ArtisticThinker]

I did a thread on this earlier at some point...

Both my parents are/were INTJ.

Interestingly my Mother definitely had all the "F" traits that women have, but she over ruled her emotions with logical reasoning and straight forward common sense. I think it was a source of great conflict internally for her as she was very very emotional.


I wonder. So do you think people can delibrately control their type ? could this lead to an actual change ?

[Paul V]

I wonder. So do you think people can delibrately control their type ? could this lead to an actual change ?

Of course! I went from XNXP to INTP, to INTJ.

Well, I'm an only child. My mother is an ENFJ, and I have no idea what my father is. My guess would lean towards XSTJ, but I am not sure at all.

[GOD]

Of course! I went from XNXP to INTP, to INTJ.

Well, I'm an only child. My mother is an ENFJ, and I have no idea what my father is. My guess would lean towards XSTJ, but I am not sure at all.

Yes, obviously people can type change over time. Just like most people can develop social skills and so forth.

However (another of my theories) is that it takes a very INTJ child to incrementally improve their IQ which I don't believe for a moment that anyone "becoming" an INTJ at a later stage could achieve. Its like Music... learning the "notes" is far removed from living it.

[Danellian]

Studies show that personality stays largely the same over time. Studies of the big 5, 4 traits of which correlate highly with the MBTI, show that these traits are largely consistent over time. Extraversion is almost completely genetic in influence. Extraversion decreases a bit with age, into adulthood and after. Conversely, conscientiousness (Jishness, more or less) increases during this timeframe. Oppenness (Nishness, more or less) decreases during old age. But, all these changes are minimal, and follow a consistent pattern accross individuals. All of this bears out my personal experience that my own type is hardwired. I have tried to change myself in the past. For example, at one time, I decided I was extraverted. But, in reality, I was trying to be extraverted, I was ashamed of being an introvert. I developed my extraversion a lot, but in the end, I am, and always will be, an introvert. Also, how could you say your dominant function can just change? The dominant function is a combination of neurological hardwiring and ego structuring that cannot simply be overturned because one decides to change their behavior or that they will "change" themselves.

[The Rose]

I was wondering what everyone's parent's personality types are. I'm interested in seeing the correlation between our parent's types and our own. What about siblings?I haven't seen too much correlation in my birth (read: dysfunctional) family.
Father - ESTP
mother - ISTJ
myself - INTJ/INFJ
sister - INFP

However, my husband is an ISTP and we have an ISTP son.
As I said, I am an INTJ/INFJ
We have an ISTJ daughter and an ENFJ/INFJ son.

[Solaris]

Studies show that personality stays largely the same over time. Studies of the big 5, 4 traits of which correlate highly with the MBTI, show that these traits are largely consistent over time. Extraversion is almost completely genetic in influence. Extraversion decreases a bit with age, into adulthood and after. Conversely, conscientiousness (Jishness, more or less) increases during this timeframe. Oppenness (Nishness, more or less) decreases during old age. But, all these changes are minimal, and follow a consistent pattern accross individuals. All of this bears out my personal experience that my own type is hardwired. I have tried to change myself in the past. For example, at one time, I decided I was extraverted. But, in reality, I was trying to be extraverted, I was ashamed of being an introvert. I developed my extraversion a lot, but in the end, I am, and always will be, an introvert. Also, how could you say your dominant function can just change? The dominant function is a combination of neurological hardwiring and ego structuring that cannot simply be overturned because one decides to change their behavior or that they will "change" themselves.

Many people believe that huge events in one's life can change your personality. I, for one, subscribe to this. Maybe you go from one extreme to another. Maybe you stop holding back from being in the middle and go one way or the other. Especially if you are close on your two most heavily used functions, you could find that one serves you better than the other and begin to rely on it more.

[Danellian]

If a person has a borderline preference and decided to utilize one in their behavior, I don't see this necesserily leads to an actual change in the fact that this person has a borderline preference, nor do I see how it could change this, since it is based on neurological hardwiring and ego structuring.

[Firelie]

Father: IxTJ
Mother: ENFP (my best guess)
Brother: xxFP

[Paul V]

If a person has a borderline preference and decided to utilize one in their behavior, I don't see this necesserily leads to an actual change in the fact that this person has a borderline preference, nor do I see how it could change this, since it is based on neurological hardwiring and ego structuring.

I myself am an example of the opposite. I used to be a semi-extrovert, overly sensitive person (an XNFJ) during my childhood. Throughout my adolescence, I became an Introvert, began to value Logic above feelings, and rebelled against authority and structure (an INTP). Upon reaching my early adulthood, I decided to return to my old ways, and began a process of re-descovering the benefits of structure and planning (an INTJ).

The reasons of my changes have been all triggered by certain events.

[Danellian]

The problem with that is, there is no evidence that you are a living example of this. There needs to be an account of how you could have rewritten your neurological wiring and undone your ego fixations, all of which would be truly fantastic feats, in order to change your actual preferences. What is your argument for this?

[Paul V]

The problem with that is, there is no evidence that you are a living example of this. There needs to be an account of how you could have rewritten your neurological wiring and undone your ego fixations, all of which would be truly fantastic feats, in order to change your actual preferences. What is your argument for this?

Well, your reasoning starts from the premise that personality is determined by genetics. I have examples and cases I could find for you to prove that this is wrong. If we remove that premise from your reasoning, your whole argument falls apart.

[The Rose]

The problem with that is, there is no evidence that you are a living example of this. ...What's really scary is that I was thinking the same thing.
I know that's what you believe happened, but I have read that people don't change from one to another, so I think it has to be explained another way.

[Danellian]

Well, your reasoning starts from the premise that personality is determined by genetics. I have examples and cases I could find for you to prove that this is wrong. If we remove that premise from your reasoning, your whole argument falls apart.

I never said the personality is determined by genetics. What I said is that the personality traits of the MBTI are mostly determined by genetics. This are two entirely different statements. First, I already allowed for minimal environmental influence on MBTI traits. Second, MBTI is but is but a subset of personality as a whole. Current research indicates that the genetic/environmental influences on personality are about 50/50. But, when we get into MBTI specifically, research indicates the great majority of it is indeed genetic. Beyond this, there is still the problem of how one can undo the ego fixation, let alone rewire the neurological programming. So, we are back to needing an account of how this can be done.

[lebowski]

My mom is an ESFJ. She is constantly asking many questions about everything. She loves being around people. She is also very traditional (she loves Christmas and the whole decorating thing).

My father is an NT like myself. Definitely INTx, but I'm pretty sure he's an INTJ.

[American Quest 1983]

Mom: ESTJ or ESFJ(I am not exactly sure)
Dad: INFJ, but tested INTJ a few times
Me: INTJ, but my F preference is strong

I am the only child.

[DeepPurple]

I got them all to take the test.

Dad is an INTJ
Mom is an INFP
Sister is an ENFJ
Aunt is an INFP
Cousin is an INTP
Other sister is an ExTx. I am actually guessing at this one. I am 100% certain she is an E and a T though.

[Uytuun]

Dad: xNTJ, the test said INTJ, but from his tendency to speak with almost everyone, his being very sociable and the fact that he's a lawyer, I presume that's he's borderline E/I.

Mum: I think and the descirption fits ESFJ...might have been more P when younger.

Brother: ESTP, but also borderline E/I, in my opinion.

Me (firstborn): INTJ with high N and J preferences and somewhat lower I and T preferences

I was under the impression that you can alter (i.e. make more mild) the 1st and 4th letter, but not the core ones.

[FBUnicorn]

My mum is an XNFP, my dad an INFP, and my younger sister an ESFX. I am INTJ with very strong I, N, J, and weaker T. It is hard to be the only thinking type in the family - I'm the calm one trying to reason with everyone when they're shouting their heads off.

[Over]

Mother: ESFJ
Father: ESTP

[logos]

My immediate family are all extreme introverts except my oddball youngest brother.

INTP Mom
ISFP Dad
INTJ Myself
INTP Younger Brother #1
ISFP Younger Brother #2
ESFJ Younger Brother #3

[Pinkie]

Mum - INTJ
Dad - IxTx
Big brother - ISTP
Me - INTJ

I think Dad's probably closer to ISTP than INTJ as he and my brother are very similar, but I'm not sure. I am sure on the I and the T, though.

[Melotch]

Dad - INTP
Mom - ISTJ
Brother - INTP
And I'm an INTJ

[karen]

Mom: INFJ
Dad: INTJ
Younger brother: ISFP

[Learning]

Mom: INFJ
Dad: INTJ

Believe my Mom may have been "E" at some point.

[Antares]

Mom: ISFJ
Dad: Possibly ESFP. Not sure.

They're both F's... And they both think they know and understand me so well.

[Blendy]

Mother: ISFJ
Father: ESTJ
Brother: ISTJ

Growing up in a household of SJ's was infuriating.

[Yossarian]

I was just thinking about making this thread myself...great minds think alike Aoiluna!

Mum-INFP
Dad-ESTJ
Sister-ENTJ
Sister-ENFX
Brother-ENFP

I'm the youngest.

[spiritdetectivegirl]

I think I was slightly influenced by my mother's personality when I was younger, who is more than likely an extrovert I'm sure. Her girliness rubbed off a little on me, but it left around the time I turned 9 or 10? Maybe younger?

[Antares]

Mom: ISFJ
Dad: ENxP

I'm more like my mother, in my opinion. She turns NT when she's at work. I think her intuition and her thinking is relatively strong, and she's really more borderline on the SF. However, ISFJ is what she got from the test.

Similarities

- Ambitious
- Imaginative
- Disciplined
- Organized
- Over-achieving
- Too sure of oneself
- Love to plan
- Introverted
- Critical

Differences

- She's more emotional
- She's more sensible and practical
- She dislikes debates and discussions because many of them are theoretical and hypothetical with no real pracitcal value
- She's much more traditional
- She's more hopeful and optimistic
- She places more value in interpersonal relationships
- She dislikes jargon and learning more than strictly necessary
- She dislikes radical and liberal thoughts
- She is prejudiced against gays and some of the races

My Similarities with my father:

- Analytical and logical
- Love to enjoy life and have fun by high-adrenaline activities such as sky-diving, snorkelling and scuba diving.

And our similarities end here.

[Quite Robert]

Hmmmm its an interesting idea

Father = INTJ
Mother = ESFJ

[denaria]

Neither of my parents is around to test (mother dead and father 1,000 miles away) but I think my sister and I were pretty unique in being raised by TWO working civil engineers in the 1950s through 70s.

I would guess them both to be NJs - mother was a bit more E than father. The T/J thing is difficult throughout the family - obviously we are/were all very capable of logical reasoning but there is a strong family ethic to consider other people and their feelings as very important. There were 300+ people at my mother's funeral so maybe that's how to sort between the T and the F. There will be fewer than 20 I mine I think....

My sister by contrast is action woman and strongly E - probably xxJ. With a mere PhD in Biology she was always considered the dumbest member of the family becasue she couldn't handle higher maths. Another 100+ at her last rites, I predict.

[Femme de Homme INTJ]

Mother: ESFJ
Father: ESTP

Was this hard for you growing up?

People in my mother's house, where I grew up:

Maternal Grandmother: Brilliant Hard to tell her personality because she was mentally and physically ill. I definitely think she would have exhibited more E and J qualities if she weren't so ill. She had a lot of both F and T, but her skewed perception altered both. Hard to tell with S/N. She saw a lot of things others didn't see, but she didn't like to talk about abstract things too much.
Mom: ISFP (although she listens with genuine interest to my NF/NT babble, and she's got a weak "I")
Step-Dad: ISFJ? But he's an SJ I don't hate. I don't see him as an SJ, maybe because he's almost an SP. Also acts ESTP
Step-Brother: xSTJ
Step-Sister, my age: xSFJ (with enough N to tolerate me)
Little Half-Brother (maternal): ES...N? ... I don't know what he is. He's 12, and we live far from one another.


Biological Father's Family, didn't meet until later:
Biological dad: Plain old crazy!Seriously though, he's probably an ISFP pretending to be an ESFP.
Half-Sister: xSTx
Half-Brother: INFP
Half-Brother: ISFP

Wonderful Husband INTP ... He used to be much more INTJ, but I think I downed his J or something. He's from a very SJ family, but I think he's always been a P living with a bunch of J's..

[lordrrr]

I'm nothing like my parents, but I think it's realistic to say I got it from both.

My introvertedness I got from both I think, but more from my dad, even though he parties and hangs out with a lot of people he hates people and hates wasting his time with people. But my mom was a huge bookworm growing up and didn't have many friends as well.

Not sure where I got everything else, as my dad is an extreme judger and my mom is an extreme perceiver.

[Aurelia]

Dad: INTJ
Mom: ESFP
Brother: INFP

[ginandsour]

I'm the oldest.

Me: INTJ
Mom: ESFP
Sister: xSTP?

Dominant male figures were usually ES types, though I get the impression that my biological father was an I. He passed away when I was very young, so I have no father duck. However, male teachers ended up substituting for him while I grew up, and many of them were INTJ. I suspect my mentor in college is an ENTP, though I'll have to ask next time I see him.

[asongforgrace]

Dad: INTP
Mum: IxxJ (n/s and t/p tested as ties)
Younger brother: ESFP - what went wrong here?

I'm probably most like my dad, though we disagree on lists - I love them, he hates them.

[lordrrr]

I'm pretty sure my dad is INTJ, except for the fact that he's pretty stupid. Other than that he demonstrates INTJ-ness.

[PRBori]

I'm definetly nothing like my parents... not sure what there personality is either. Neither one show the same type of ambitions or views.

I remember always questioning and arguing with my mom since I was 4 years old. As a matter of fact, I remember one instance where she bought me a Telephone Toy, really need, you could write on it and do a lot of things, anyway, she literally broke it the same day, throw it on the ground because I refuse to get ready for church.

I can't forget this, I had a motorcycle style car, and I look at her, and just took off.... she got on her car and follow me...

It's funny... anyway, I love her to death, but we can't get alone well. We're so different... I seek knowledge, she just belief whatever people tell her...

Anyway... bottom line, I'm nothing like my parents.. I'm was probably the most stubborn girl in the area, and the weirdest too. I hardly ever listen to my parents, I even used to falsify my moms signature so that I could compete on school volleyball and track events.

Yeah, competing was against her religious belief... which I will say is one of the major issues that til this day drives me crazy. She can talk to you 24/7 about her religion. I respect her and her belief, actually I'm happy that she's happy, but I have my own views...

Oh.. yes, I forgot my parents divorce when I was 3. My dad at the time was an alcoholic, and lazy too... not at all like me. My mom though me to work since I was little, I mean I help her carry the cement blocks to build our house and mix cement as a child (I think I was about 6) so my mentality is extremely different.

The only traits I share with my mom is my work ethics and some values... everything else is different.

[Cuivienen]

Interesting thread. I`m not sure we`ll be able to get any real results from it, though, but here goes...

my father: INTP
my mother: INFJ, probably boderline S/F.
my brother: ISFP, borderline I/E
me: INTJ, very strong N and T, fairly strong J, average I

so apparently I`m pretty much the "average" of my parents.
They never were tested, though, so I might be wrong.