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castalia
08-29-2012, 11:56 AM
Guys, have you ever gotten an erection when a girl hugged you?

Let's assume that you are sitting next to her and she starts to hug and touch you in a friendy way. Do you get aroused if you find her attractive? Have you ever had to use the bathroom to hide your arousal or take "care" of yourself?

How common is this with guys?

Weltschmerzer
08-29-2012, 11:57 AM
I've never had this happen, and I have never heard of it happening to another guy, except over the Internet.

Zsych
08-29-2012, 11:59 AM
Hasn't really happened. I think it could if I let myself dwell on the attraction and the expectation that I'm going to enjoy having her close to me.

A hug where there is an anticipation of sex afterwards, or a mutual air of something kinky happening... is different.

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I can see it happening to certain kinds of guys that are more easily aroused and who are letting themselves enjoy the fact that they desire that woman (different mental attitude)

castalia
08-29-2012, 12:09 PM
I can see it happening to certain kinds of guys that are more easily aroused and who are letting themselves enjoy the fact that they desire that woman (different mental attitude)

What type of guys? Nerds? Players?

Starbucks
08-29-2012, 12:12 PM
Woman! I'll tell you! The average 12 year old boy needs more clothing changes than a baby does with diapers. They have multiple erections when they sleep!, wake-up, and multiple while in class. The chance that he has a boner just because that's how the organ works is pretty high. If this guy has a crush on you he probably has had sex with you multiple times in his fantasies and looking at you probably intensified those memories. Hormones, what you gonna do huh. :)

Artio
08-29-2012, 12:13 PM
I don't know if my answer counts as I don't get boners, but I've been aroused three times by friendly hugs. I took take "care" of myself afterwards every time. For the first time it happened when I was around 10, then 13 and for the last time (so far) when I was 23. (Nice numerology.)

So, those occasions are quite rare for me, personally.

castalia
08-29-2012, 12:14 PM
Woman! I'll tell you! The average 12 year old boy needs more clothing changes than a baby does with diapers. They have multiple erections when they sleep!, wake-up, and multiple while in class. The chance that he has a boner just because that's how the organ works is pretty high. If this guy has a crush on you he probably has had sex with you multiple times in his fantasies and looking at you probably intensified those memories. Hormones, what you gonna do huh. :)

Except that this male friend of mine who is "afflicted" with boners when I hug him is 38, not a teenager.

INTroJect
08-29-2012, 12:20 PM
I popped quite a semi at the dry cleaners the other day just standing next to someone attractive, I then thought "Oh darn!" And started thinking about dead puppies. It's not like I was thinking anything particularly sexual, was only admiring and then biology started doing it's thing. Hugging would have taken it beyond my level of resistance.

I didnt have to go "take care of it" or anything like that.

Starbucks
08-29-2012, 12:23 PM
Except that this male friend of mine who is "afflicted" with boners when I hug him is 38, not a teenager.

Boners = plural? Well if so than you must be quite a catch, or he just always needs to pee when he sees you. I don't know, by the age of 38 one should have control over it by thoughts. I find it really weird thinking about it, maybe you should also remember the rule that boy's and girls can't be friends without one having feelings. It at least applies 99% of the time.

---------- Post added 08-29-2012 at 07:24 AM ----------

It's not like I was thinking anything particularly sexual, was only admiring and then biology started doing it's thing.


It's sometimes hard to be a man. (see what I did there)

castalia
08-29-2012, 12:26 PM
I don't know, by the age of 38 one should have control over it by thoughts. I find it really weird thinking about it, maybe you should also remember the rule that boy's and girls can't be friends without one having feelings. It at least applies 99% of the time.



P.S. I have feelings for him too. Just wondering whether this was normal or if there is something wrong with him.

Oros Ull
08-29-2012, 12:27 PM
You really canít blame a guy for getting a boner at awkward or inopportune times. Especially if heís in contact with someone heís attracted to. Itís involuntary and it takes a bit of focus to control it that isnít always available to us in the moment. Getting upset about it is like getting mad at a dog for wagging its tail when heís happy.

Starbucks
08-29-2012, 12:29 PM
P.S. I have feelings for him too. Just wondering whether this was normal or if there is something wrong with him.

Very normal but your friendly touching will be seen as flirting which can initiate sex, hes just getting ready for when you are.

Vermillion
08-29-2012, 12:34 PM
This is why the Christian Side Hug (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) was invented. :rolleyes:

Zsych
08-29-2012, 12:34 PM
What type of guys? Nerds? Players?

Nerds who are too involuntarily excited due to lack of experience. Players who enjoy the excitement of being with a woman, and are more focused on the emotions of the experience.

All it really means is that the guy finds you hot - and has shown his hand :p

catatonic
08-29-2012, 12:42 PM
Guys, have you ever gotten an erection when a girl hugged you?

Let's assume that you are sitting next to her and she starts to hug and touch you in a friendy way. Do you get aroused if you find her attractive? Have you ever had to use the bathroom to hide your arousal or take "care" of yourself?

How common is this with guys?

I guess only the "inexperienced" guys who tend to be like that.
About 6 years ago, I dated a very pervert but shy guy. I didn't do anything, I only sat next to him and I accidentally saw that he wet his pants. After that, I kind of curious what kind of sorcery happened to him, then I started to pay attention to that "area" and it was always wet every time I sat next to him.

Ewww grosss, I wonder what did he think at that time.
I didn't do anything, only sat next to him, no touching at all.

:speechless:

Sai
08-29-2012, 12:52 PM
yes, but only with girls i was in love with. Its really funny xD

zeroemission
08-29-2012, 01:06 PM
i got a woody just from this thread's title

Zsych
08-29-2012, 01:08 PM
I didn't do anything, only sat next to him, no touching at all.

:speechless:

Imagine how much he might've been willing to do for you if he felt you were that awesome :p

stoopidkitty
08-29-2012, 01:10 PM
Several years ago, on one or two occasions when a former coworker would hug me as tight as possible and cling to me for like 10-20 sec. She did that at least once or twice every shift. There was obvious sexual tension between us for a long time (one night she even suggested having sex "some time later"), but we never hung out outside of work or anything.

themuzicman
08-29-2012, 01:15 PM
Guys, have you ever gotten an erection when a girl hugged you?

Yeah, it's not something we control entirely.

Let's assume that you are sitting next to her and she starts to hug and touch you in a friendy way. Do you get aroused if you find her attractive?

Maybe. Depends on what my testosterone level is.

Have you ever had to use the bathroom to hide your arousal or take "care" of yourself?

No. But I have had to adjust my.. posture.

How common is this with guys?

Not very. It's more common with younger guys who have out of control testosterone, especially those who aren't getting any.

Jade333
08-29-2012, 01:18 PM
Gives another good story behind the line... "Is that a gun in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?"

Vaiz
08-29-2012, 01:33 PM
If there is any blood flow irregularity (read: surge of blood to lower body) you can get a forced erection. Sometimes the way certain pants cut off my circulation I find I get random... Flag half mast?... not to mention suddenly standing up. T.T oh god the awkward situations. It's really annoying when you're wearing light pants or god forbid shorts.

Anyway! It's a pretty easily triggered response, my girlfriend gets excited when she accidently gets me up from say a kiss. Not realizing all she needs to do is bounce up and down >.>;;

Zsych
08-29-2012, 01:35 PM
Not wearing underwear can increase the chances of awkwardness :p

catatonic
08-29-2012, 01:36 PM
Imagine how much he might've been willing to do for you if he felt you were that awesome :p

If he felt I was so awesome, he will never dumped me and married another girl. ;)

zeroemission
08-29-2012, 01:38 PM
just being attracted to a gal can be enough to close the valves & fill it up.

i've noticed erections for no reason whatsoever, especially waking up. a hug with sexual tension is a surefire trigger. just talking to a cute japanese nerd gal made me have to wait for an opportunity to adjust when she wasn't looking.

Zsych
08-29-2012, 01:42 PM
If he felt I was so awesome, he will never dumped me and married another girl. ;)

You would have to respond positively and take advantage :)

Vaiz
08-29-2012, 02:18 PM
just being attracted to a gal can be enough to close the valves & fill it up.

i've noticed erections for no reason whatsoever, especially waking up. a hug with sexual tension is a surefire trigger. just talking to a cute japanese nerd gal made me have to wait for an opportunity to adjust when she wasn't looking.

The art of the ninja erection hide.

zibber
08-29-2012, 04:44 PM
Nah.

Naked snuggling, yes.

Autoptic
08-29-2012, 05:19 PM
I imagine it'd take too long, especially nowadays...and no one but Mother or occasional Aunt tries to hug me. Pretty girls don't touch me...or usually willingly remain near me without particular external reasons, and there're few particularly pretty, but, yeah, being near the rare ones that are, without distraction, is problematic even at 31 with heavily desensitized equipment. Having to interact with or focus on/near one's cognitively corrosive. Now, put a hug at the end of that, and I got problems.

Did have a little hotty shrink once that unexpectedly wanted a hug at the last session, was sufficiently engrossed in the surreality of hugging someone not a lard ass, mostly thinking of how easily I could've grabbed my elbows without touching her. I was having much more trouble trying ablate the sexual tension during first aid class when bandaging and unbandaging the redhead though the surprise at her breathing changes and excessively passive positioning, which necessitated more reaching around and contact time than anyone in the room. Without the surprise starting a series of more cerebral ponderings, my semi wouldn't have been delayed enough to finish and return to my seat...close to the desk.

Shadeylark
08-29-2012, 06:59 PM
maybe once or twice when i was 13 or 14... but you learn pretty quickly to get those hormones under control.

castalia
08-29-2012, 07:53 PM
maybe once or twice when i was 13 or 14... but you learn pretty quickly to get those hormones under control.

What if you haven't had sex during the past few years or so?

Autoptic
08-29-2012, 07:57 PM
What if you haven't had sex during the past few years or so?

Or ever...:wacko:*twitch*:stare:*twitch*:bomb:*boom*

Considering the scanning function's unconscious, which is neurologically verifiable regardless of personal testimony at the time, he's either got too weak a libido or is very picky, or he's in a serious state of denial/suppression.

SarcasticVlad
08-29-2012, 08:57 PM
Nope. I don't really like it when people hug me. Unless it's someone I really, really like. But even then I don't get a boner. I do get a strange, pleasant feeling at the back of my neck though.

Arthur Dent
08-29-2012, 10:04 PM
I'm guessing I could be somewhat aroused, but no way to tell how much. And in my case is not common at all, no girls hug me.

curiousgeorge01
08-29-2012, 11:08 PM
Sure if we're attracted to the person and can feel they're attracted to us. Could also be the one way, if we're very attracted to the person.

paperclip
08-29-2012, 11:12 PM
I've definitely gotten wet from hugging someone in a non-sexual way. I have the sex drive of a 14 year old apparently.

DroppedG7
08-29-2012, 11:18 PM
Fill a condom with water but only partially, now squeeze it a little... does it rise?

Antares
08-29-2012, 11:20 PM
Several times in the past, when a guy was attracted to me he got a boner from the smallest interaction.

Sniped Soul
08-30-2012, 12:25 AM
A slight breeze gives me a boner on most days. A pretty girl hugging me would almost certainly give me a boner.

doublejm1
08-30-2012, 02:52 AM
Not from hugging. But kissing is a different story!

iamanintj
08-30-2012, 04:13 AM
Can I ask a similar question without taking over the thread? Guys, do you get extra fidgety around your belt area when you're near a girl you like? This guy I know always ends up with his shirt untucked when I'm near. Wtf.

Frenetic Tranq
08-30-2012, 04:17 AM
Yep, all the time. But only if I am very attracted.

iamanintj
08-30-2012, 02:48 PM
Is it subconscious?i mean obviously for you it's not, but for most guys is it? He is so self aware about his other behaviors I'm having a hard time believing he doesn't know he's doing this

mormeguil
08-30-2012, 04:04 PM
It can happen. It's not counscious and my mind is not racing toward sex. Just enjoying a moment and if that moment as a bit of sexual tension in the background will usually create arousal and erection.

Tito
08-30-2012, 04:20 PM
Guys, have you ever gotten an erection when a girl hugged you?
No

Let's assume that you are sitting next to her and she starts to hug and touch you in a friendy way. Do you get aroused if you find her attractive?
I have been in situations similar to this (one time she even 'jokingly' said "I want you" in a very loud voice and grabbed me by my shoulders and hugged me, all in front of a bunch of strange people that were waiting for their interview at my previous job), but while I have gotten excited, it has never gotten to the point of an actual boner popping up. The fear of being embarrassed by that thing in such a setting is enough to keep it at bay.

Have you ever had to use the bathroom to hide your arousal or take "care" of yourself?
I've never felt the need to relieve myself after getting excited in a public place. Although difficult, especially if I haven't gotten laid in a very long time, which means the boner will not just be a boner, but it will also be extremely sensitive to the slightest move, and that makes it hard to not want to take care of business after getting a few unwarranted but self-inflicted jolts of blissfulness; I tend to sit down and hide it like that or, if I have something to cover my groin area, I'll discreetly use that to hide it.

However, I have been wondering why exactly does it causes embarrassment. A boner is a testament to a man's "manhood," but whatever, most guys are embarrassed by these things, including myself. In all my life (which is not that long, I'm not even 30 yet), I have only seen one guy who once got a boner and simply stood there not caring at all. I thought to myself, I should be able to do that. Yeah, that's still a work in progress. lol

How common is this with guys?
Getting a boner is very common, hardly a day goes by that I don't get a few boners. Sometimes a woman doesn't have to be present. I could be here on INTJforum typing away, highly entertained with stuff that has nothing to do with sex and then, out of nowhere, the little guy wants to be massaged. Most of the times its easy to ignore, but in those times when I haven't been laid in a long time, it gets so sensitive that, unless I'm in a public place or at work or not at home, the likelihood I will relieve myself is quite high. It simply takes over yourself, you can't stop thinking about it because the slightest move, regardless how minute, feels so good which increases the tension, which itself feels good, and, well, temptation to the max. Yeah, that's how it goes....

But I don't know if its common for guys to get boners whenever a hot woman hugs them. I guess if I was curious enough, I could be focusing on every guy that gets hugged and try to see if the usual movements that accompanies attempting to hide a boner follows such event, but I got more important things to do. lol

Age could be a factor, though. If its a very young guy, just barely out of the teen years, then its quite possible to get a boner from a simple hug or even, from other more simpler things that have nothing to do with sex at all.

Meh, everyone is different.

Distance
08-30-2012, 04:28 PM
While in a relationship with one of my exes, he claimed he had full control of sexual thoughts as it pertained to control over his body. So one day, when he least expected it, I leaned seductively into him without kissing or stroking or anything else beyond full body contact. *schwing*

ummon
08-30-2012, 04:31 PM
I can only remember getting hugged by a girl once. I didn't get a boner, but rather felt really awkward. She must have noticed that, cause she was apologetic the next time we met. :D

Lolwut
08-30-2012, 04:41 PM
I suspect he has a severe porn addiction

castalia
08-30-2012, 04:47 PM
I should also mention that this sort of thing has happened to me with two other guys who were almost certainly INTJ (or INTP). This is the third guy.

I admit that I might come on a bit too strong. I am very assertive and if I like a guy and want to show him I like him, I will touch and/or hug him often. Perhaps this confuses the INTJ.
But I find it odd that the three guys who reacted this way were INTJs. Shock factor maybe?

Hariar
08-30-2012, 07:17 PM
I don't like hugging, so the few times I have received (I would never initiate such a monstrosity) hugs from females in my own age group (which is now many years ago), I did not at all get aroused. The last time was in high school, and I felt more dazzled afterwards than anything else. It generally feels 'too close' and unnatural (awkward).

Less direct physical contact can arouse me, but often social situations in themselves are the most arousing. Once I was in the common laundry room in the student village where I live, and there was only me and this female there. She seemed kind of introverted, and was also visually attractive; so at one point I got really aroused by her and the situation "we" were in. There was never any physical contact between us, and when the arousal happened, I was standing like 5 meters away from her, or something like that; minding my own buisness (we were both waiting for machines to become available).

To sum up, physical contact can often feel too 'direct' for me. I supposed it is related to strong introversion, or something like that.

Aldec
08-30-2012, 07:53 PM
If I am sexually attracted to a girl, yes.

Typhon
08-31-2012, 12:12 AM
I often get erections when anyone hugs me too closely. It could be because I am always commando so I feel their bodies more but I'm not sure.

ummon
08-31-2012, 01:48 AM
I should also mention that this sort of thing has happened to me with two other guys who were almost certainly INTJ (or INTP). This is the third guy.

I admit that I might come on a bit too strong. I am very assertive and if I like a guy and want to show him I like him, I will touch and/or hug him often. Perhaps this confuses the INTJ.
But I find it odd that the three guys who reacted this way were INTJs. Shock factor maybe?

If you like a guy and he gets erections when you hug him, you're in a very good situation. Just saying.

bawb
08-31-2012, 02:28 AM
I should also mention that this sort of thing has happened to me with two other guys who were almost certainly INTJ (or INTP). This is the third guy.

I admit that I might come on a bit too strong. I am very assertive and if I like a guy and want to show him I like him, I will touch and/or hug him often. Perhaps this confuses the INTJ.
But I find it odd that the three guys who reacted this way were INTJs. Shock factor maybe?

Will you hug him more or less now that you know the effect of your hugs on him?

castalia
08-31-2012, 12:14 PM
Will you hug him more or less now that you know the effect of your hugs on him?

I want to hug him more and take things to the next level. However, I am a bit worried that he might be embarassed by this as it happens in public. The last INTJ that had this happen to him a few too many time started avoiding me after a while.....but then again, I think he had a different problem.

---------- Post added 08-31-2012 at 09:15 AM ----------

If you like a guy and he gets erections when you hug him, you're in a very good situation. Just saying.

Haha. Would it be a problem if he didn't get erections while hugging?

Person056
08-31-2012, 12:42 PM
the way i've put it once is that there are two kinds of erections for me. non sexual and sexual. it can happen when i'm in an excited emotional state and since i enjoy physical affection from the people that i'm close with it excites me emotionally...and physically. i've had hugs from female friends in times past and gotten an erection. sometimes just talking to them did. because it made me very happy to talk with them.

that being said, i felt no sexual compulsion to seek sexual fulfillment. it wasn't like...Girl: gives me hug. Me: gets erection and wants to have sex with her. no, nothing like that. it takes an entirely different context to be aroused sexually by a female. generally one that is ascribed a definite sexual intention.

ummon
08-31-2012, 01:26 PM
Haha. Would it be a problem if he didn't get erections while hugging?

No, the converse is not true. Most guys who're attracted to you won't get an erection when you hug them.

And in general, the mere fact that so many guys get erections when you hug them would suggest to me that you're pretty physically attractive, so you're much better off than most girls anyways. Of course, being pretty means you have to take the initiative, cause most guys are going to think they don't stand a chance with you.

Which brings me to this:

I want to hug him more and take things to the next level. However, I am a bit worried that he might be embarassed by this as it happens in public. The last INTJ that had this happen to him a few too many time started avoiding me after a while.....but then again, I think he had a different problem.

It would be embarrassing to him if he thought you weren't attracted to him. Which would also explain why he started avoiding you.

castalia
08-31-2012, 01:34 PM
And in general, the mere fact that so many guys get erections when you hug them would suggest to me that you're pretty physically attractive, so you're much better off than most girls anyways.

It's not loads of guys. I have a sample of three INTJs and perhaps one other guy.


Of course, being pretty means you have to take the initiative, cause most guys are going to think they don't stand a chance with you.

Really? I've always assumed that pretty girls have lots of guys chasing after them. Now you're saying that beautiful women have to make the moves because men are afraid of initiating?

vampyroteuthis
08-31-2012, 01:41 PM
Just invite him over.

sunitaishot
08-31-2012, 08:54 PM
It's common.

If one can feel a woman's body, even through clothing, then if there is existing attraction a hard-on is likely.

scorpiomover
08-31-2012, 09:07 PM
Only if she's really hot, or I really like her. But then I'd probably be hiding a semi, even before we started to hug.

Except that this male friend of mine who is "afflicted" with boners when I hug him is 38, not a teenager.Then either he's got an over-active sex drive, and everyone has this problem, or you are incredibly good-looking, and have this problem with everyone, or this guy is SERIOUSLY into you.

P.S. I have feelings for him too. Just wondering whether this was normal or if there is something wrong with him.Means he has a MAJOR Jones for you.

castalia
09-01-2012, 02:58 PM
Everytime I hug or peck him, he returns the hug/peck. He moves closer when I touch his arm.

However, this can also be friendly body language, right?

Apex
09-01-2012, 03:09 PM
Guys getting boners just from hugging?
If we are both naked, then yes.

24601
09-01-2012, 04:31 PM
Everytime I hug or peck him, he returns the hug/peck. He moves closer when I touch his arm.

However, this can also be friendly body language, right?

Girl, not if you're in America or Canada. Then it means he's DTF.

castalia
09-01-2012, 04:38 PM
Girl, not if you're in America or Canada. Then it means he's DTF.

Pardon me, but what's DTF?
And what if I'm an American in Britain? What does it mean in this context?

ectopic
09-01-2012, 04:41 PM
"DOWN TO FUCK".

Urbandictionary is your friend. :D

Citroen
09-01-2012, 04:44 PM
Woman! I'll tell you! The average 12 year old boy needs more clothing changes than a baby does with diapers. They have multiple erections when they sleep!, wake-up, and multiple while in class. The chance that he has a boner just because that's how the organ works is pretty high. If this guy has a crush on you he probably has had sex with you multiple times in his fantasies and looking at you probably intensified those memories. Hormones, what you gonna do huh. :)

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Tocsin
09-01-2012, 04:54 PM
The unexpected boner can sometimes prove useful. (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)

Nostalgia
09-01-2012, 08:11 PM
The unexpected boner can sometimes prove useful. (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)

Germans not only have strong will but they also have very strong erection....


as for the question...Never!!!!!! because I am always the master of my domain!

Shinganist
09-01-2012, 08:27 PM
It was... hard to hold back but nope, haven't had that problem... arise? BWAHAHA. The only times that's happened it always led to sex so... I don't know. Yes, and it's been awesome.

"Just imagine if girls weren't weirded out by our boners and stuff, and just like, wanted to see them. That's the world I one day want to live in." Evan - Superbad