Question for introverts

[Natrushka]

I have these periods of time where I feel much more introverted than usual -which is pretty amazing considering how introverted I am usually. Right now I can feel it coming on; the need to be Left The Hell Alone. Ringing phones, people in my office, planning for social engagements -it all feels overwhelming right now. Normally I just deal - do it, get it over with, and schedule some quality Me Time. But every once in a while I feel as though I am thisclose to shutting down. Even email, my favoured form of communication, feels intrusive. :scared:

Does anyone else ever feel like this?

[Firelie]

Yes. *Quite often, actually. *I usually either ditch everything and go for a long walk without telling anyone, or I hole up in my room and ignore the world. *It used to annoy the hell out of my parents when I'd simply disappear for hours without letting anyone know what I was doing. * :P

I don't do it quite as often now that I live with roommates who don't ever barge into my room unwelcomed (like my parents did).

[rwyatt365]

I have these periods of time where I feel much more introverted than usual -which is pretty amazing considering how introverted I am usually. * Right now I can feel it coming on; the need to be Left The Hell Alone. *Ringing phones, people in my office, planning for social engagements -it all feels overwhelming right now. *Normally I just deal - do it, get it over with, and schedule some quality Me Time. *But every once in a while I feel as though I am thisclose to shutting down. *Even email, my favoured form of communication, feels intrusive. *:scared:

Does anyone else ever feel like this?
How about...yesterday!

I just "vant to be alone" (sorry Marlene Dietrich), was my motto. I don't know why but I just had to be away from everyone. Maybe it was something in the air.

[mind_wander]

Yes. *Quite often, actually. *I usually either ditch everything and go for a long walk without telling anyone, or I hole up in my room and ignore the world. *It used to annoy the hell out of my parents when I'd simply disappear for hours without letting anyone know what I was doing. * :P


That happened to me before, it sure does bugged the hell out my parents. Where did you go? In my room. I checked everywhere, sometimes the best place to hide is the obvious one because no one think of it.

[Natrushka]

It usually lasts a few days for me, though :(

I just received an email about a social event and reading it was like nails on a chalkboard. Sometimes being a member of society is just too much for me to handle. </freak>

[OneBadMother]

Yeah, I generally turn down large social gatherings with talkative people. I do need my alone time, just me and my computer. Too much time around people, especially people I don't want to be around, makes me feel trapped. If I interact with people, I like to do it at my own pace.

[thegnat]

Oh definitely. I've had those moments.

I'm lucky enough to have a single.

Some people wonder how I can handle it but I love being able to not be around people whenever I want. Except of course classes.

[qwerty]

:) yes.

I don't get a chance to do it much now though because of my schedule and number of people who need to keep in contact with me. But when I've had enough I will turn my phone of and just 'disappear' for a few days.
Take the weekend for example I dropped by a friends place to take a break from an assignment I was doing and see what he was up too. When I mentioned I was going back to uni to be by myself (it's great having a weekend card to use the labs when no-one else is there) he looked at me strangely for a while then just nodded (he knows that I do it when I get fed up being around people and doesn't take offense).

[Ian]

Yes - I recognise this too.

I have days, sometime weeks, when I just do not want to talk and I'm not in the mood to listen to idle prattle.

My wife recognises this now and just asks 'if I want to be quiet' - and she is ok (mostly) with a 'Yep'. At home, the computer or playstation, dvd or a book is all I need.

Work can be a bit more difficult at these times - answers to questions can be a bit 'too direct' for some.

As for the so called social gatherings; a real chore at the best of times - I don't know what people find to talk about for hours on end. I share the theory that for some people, if their mouth stops working there is a danger that their brain might start! (thank you to Douglas Adams for that observation)

[Natrushka]

I should post up part of the email my SIL sent my husband about this gathering. Oy. She just doesn't get it - no matter how many times I try to explain "No, I wont have a better time becuase it's 'fun' and I just need to socialize more" :tearinghairout:

Her family's bad enough, but this is an Open House full of people I've never met, will never see again not to mention some of them are probably coming out of spite. <shudder>

Maybe I can catch the flu?

[justmeiguess]

Yeah, it usually happens about once a week although it depends on how hectic things have been.

It happened today, in fact. I had just sat through a two hour lecture that was so boring that even the lecturer was bored. ::)
As per usual I had escaped into my head for the most of it, so when it was over rather than going for a drink with my friends as I normally do, I hung back and then made for the library for some Internet surfing. I came on here, in fact, but given my mood, I could think of absolutely nothing to say.

When it happens at home, I usually just hibernate in my room, reading, watching a film, daydreaming. I also find that durinthis extreme introvertedness (that's probably not a word, is it?) is the best time for me to write, too, because I can really absorb myself in the world of the story.

[Ijz]

I get that a lot when I can't be "myself' around people. The whole "keeping up appearances" act is simple to draining for me. If its job related I see it as part of the job and go anyway. If it involves my social life I'll ask "I'm doing this for myself right?". "Do I really want to be around people that don't accept me from who I am?". If the answer is "No" I will reconsider going.

Anyhoo, you should completely ignore the social pressure imposed on you and base your reasons on your personal beliefs and not those of others.

[Natrushka]

Anyhoo, you should completely ignore the social pressure imposed on you and base your reasons on your personal beliefs and not those of others.



In a perfect world, or if I were single (!), this is what I would do. Unfortunately I share my life with someone. While he understands that I need "me" time he also would be very disappointed if I begged off this one. His parents live on the other side of the country and they're 75 and 73. They're in town rarely. Ironically, his parents I can handle. His sister and her family bug the crap out of me.

I'm not above feigning illness, though ;)

[xtremegeek]

I have these periods of time where I feel much more introverted than usual -which is pretty amazing considering how introverted I am usually. * Right now I can feel it coming on; the need to be Left The Hell Alone. *Ringing phones, people in my office, planning for social engagements -it all feels overwhelming right now. *Normally I just deal - do it, get it over with, and schedule some quality Me Time. *But every once in a while I feel as though I am thisclose to shutting down. *Even email, my favoured form of communication, feels intrusive. *:scared:

Does anyone else ever feel like this?

Yes, yes, yes! The people at work suck the life out of me (always), so when I go home, my family and friends get the worst of me, which is "I want to be left alone." I wish I could find a financially lucrative job where I'm by myself all day, so that I can look forward to interacting with my family and friends when I go home.

I've decided that I have to marry another introvert if I want to have any hope of the marriage lasting. Which begs the question, how many of you married introverts are married to introverts?