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Cato the Younger
09-23-2007, 04:22 PM
So, are you attracted to INTJ guys like most INTJ females? *I know male INTJs tend to be attracted to more extroverted personalities.
I have no clue.
I mean, I definately think INTJ-ness is SEXY in guys. But I DO find most people I have been attracted to tend to be surprisingly extroverted despite their usual quietness.
I mentioned this somewhere else, but I think it's because I much rather when people TELL me how they feel as I'm not particularly attune to these things unless it's GLARING RIGHT AT ME.
Guido
09-23-2007, 04:29 PM
So, are you attracted to INTJ guys like most INTJ females? *I know male INTJs tend to be attracted to more extroverted personalities.
I was wondering when someone was going to say that! I always suspected that was a secret intention of why these forums were made :o
I was wondering when someone was going to say that! I always suspected that was a secret intention of why these forums were made :o
Let's just say trying to explore if my personality type has lead to my ultimate failure to find the someone to date (among other things) is part of the reason why I'm here. *:thinking: :thumbsup:
By the way... We're hopelessly off topic....
Guido
09-23-2007, 04:44 PM
So uhhh... what age were you when you realized you're a romantic failure?
(Where are 1337 admin powers when you need them!!) >_<!!
Hum... let me turn that around and say that people who've pursued me failed to get me the least bit interested. *And the people I find interesting usually have better things to do than date around.
There isn't exactly an age... I see daily that most of my friends are always dating. *Either long-term, or they find one like.. 2 months after their last break up. *I don't know how they do it. *:-? *How do people find people they click with THAT easily
I think she's out doing more important things than sitting infront of the INTJ forum =/
Jezebel
09-23-2007, 05:08 PM
I think she's out doing more important things than sitting infront of the INTJ forum =/
nah...just working at the office. Nothing important.
edit: it's working now.
Hum... let me turn that around and say that people who've pursued me failed to get me the least bit interested. And the people I find interesting usually have better things to do than date around.
I was always pursued, too. One was an INTJ, and that was the best one ever... But, as usual, INTJs have some difficulty if something they're certain about is dissimilar enough to cause disagreements.
There isn't exactly an age... I see daily that most of my friends are always dating. Either long-term, or they find one like.. 2 months after their last break up. I don't know how they do it. :-? How do people find people they click with THAT easily
I don't get this, either. So few can deal with me that it's almost comical. How can most people be relatively-compatible enough to perpetually date different people? I admit that I do like some crazy extroverts, though (ENFPs are particularly entertaining and attractive). It doesn't mean I dislike INTJ females, though - they're great, but for totally different reasons.
Firelie
09-23-2007, 05:12 PM
Yeah, totally attracted to INTJ males. *OMG ALL U BOYZ R SO HAWT!!!
No but seriously. *The only man I've had any sort of immediate attraction to was an INTJ. *It's not that other types aren't as attractive, they just...don't hold my attention very well. *And it's hard to feel attraction to someone when you're more interested in reading a book than listening to them speak. *That and true small talk is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo so so so boring, and that's how most relationships start. *With that one INTJ guy I liked, very little time passed before we were discussing social norms and why they were ridiculous and our own personal experiences with men/women.
Guido
09-23-2007, 05:25 PM
I've had a good number of girls (though not enough as I'd like :D) drawn to me I guess for whatever reason. Not entirely sure why... given some of their personalities. I usually just think them over and come up with 'this is why I couldn't date you.' Last girl I fell pretty badly for was an ISFP, which interesting to say the least. She was apparently only interested in casual dating instead of a relationship. One of those 'live for the moment born free stay free' kind of girls. Oh god I'm never doing that to myself again. I could try dating an INTJ I guess, but that's like what 0.2% of the population? At the rate I meet people, I'll probably find one on my death bed.
I think more people are in love with the idea of being in love rather than looking at who they're dating. In words taken from Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, they're less interested in Ms. Right and more interested in Ms. Right Now.
qwerty
09-23-2007, 05:50 PM
Reword question: Are INTJ Males attracted to INTJ Females?
If you have enough depth to intrigue me for more than a month then you are off to a good start. :)
Most people seem to be stuck in a loop of what is rather than what in general (what was, is, will be; what it is like, it is going to be like, it is coming from; what could it be, could it have come from; what is it's nature, it's dependency, it's causal effect on nature etc.).
The Rose
09-23-2007, 06:27 PM
So, are you attracted to INTJ guys like most INTJ females? Are you saying that it is believed that INTJ females are usually attracted to INTJ males?
Whatever happened to "opposites attract"?
Is that out of fashion now?
There's a web site that lists types that do well together,
but I did not think that INTJs were attracted to their same type.
I know none of the guys I have ever dated were INTJs.
And almost all of them were "P"s.
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They say "the INTJ's natural partner is the ENFP, or the ENTP."
So, are you attracted to INTJ guys like most INTJ females? Are you saying that it is believed that INTJ females are usually attracted to INTJ males?
Whatever happened to "opposites attract"?
Is that out of fashion now?
There's a web site that lists types that do well together,
but I did not think that INTJs were attracted to their same type.
I know none of the guys I have ever dated were INTJs.
And almost all of them were "P"s.
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They say "the INTJ's natural partner is the ENFP, or the ENTP."
It's bogus. INTJ females tend to like INTJ males because we are the most accepting of how they are, while INTJ males can handle (and be handled by) a much wider array of types, though it's best that we stick to those with a preference for Intuition. I'd guess that most INTJ females that are married are married to an INTJ, INTP, INFJ, or miserable.
There are lots of theories about compatibility, but they're all rather poor. It really depends on the couple more than their types, though it's a fair point to start from, at least on the S/N divide.
Firelie
09-23-2007, 06:52 PM
I believe that "natural partner" stuff is more meant for the males. Personally, all of the E's I know are the people I find the most annoying (I know this because I got some of my friends/acquaintances to take the test once...interestingly enough, most of the ones that took it were -NFJ's). I tend to consider myself fairly complete, so I don't usually look for people with the completely opposite traits.
Tarrick
09-23-2007, 07:07 PM
They say "the INTJ's natural partner is the ENFP, or the ENTP."
Lies. Oh wait.
If you think about it, its natural that they would put a E with an I and P with a J to balance things out.
That being said, I very much prefer Rationals in relationships (though I've only dated once and that was...nevermind. Not going there.) E or not, P or not.
If I find a INTJ girl and we get along well, I'm not going to object! Temperament is good for figuring people out and helping various types to get along by understanding each other.
As for opposites attract, Cato, it's more of a fascination then anything that's stable. Not that they can't work, but it's much more likely that two people with similarities will have a successful relationship. After all, if you plan on being with someone for years and years, you better have some things in common or you'll never like doing anything together.
They say "the INTJ's natural partner is the ENFP, or the ENTP."
Lies. Oh wait.
If you think about it, its natural that they would put a E with an I and P with a J to balance things out.
That being said, I very much prefer Rationals in relationships (though I've only dated once and that was...nevermind. Not going there.) E or not, P or not.
If I find a INTJ girl and we get along well, I'm not going to object! Temperament is good for figuring people out and helping various types to get along by understanding each other.
As for opposites attract, Cato, it's more of a fascination then anything that's stable. Not that they can't work, but it's much more likely that two people with similarities will have a successful relationship. After all, if you plan on being with someone for years and years, you better have some things in common or you'll never like doing anything together.
Just to throw this into the bucket of facts.
My first serious love interest was an ENFP, second was ENTP, and for the past year or two I've been finding a ESTJ (i think) rather interesting.
I think the ENTP/ENFP's would make good partners for INTP's. *I think I need some extroversion in my life, because everyone else I'm close with are Introverts. *And it's generally better to pair a J with a P because if both were J's there's be problems trying to get them to judge the same way the other does.
Wow, that was horrible wording... but hopefully you get the jist of it.
May I add that, I think INTJ's will end up being only friends. They each know the other WAY too well to be in a relationship together. When people are exactly the same, trouble happens. Too much comparison...
Tarrick
09-23-2007, 08:32 PM
May I add that, I think INTJ's will end up being only friends. They each know the other WAY too well to be in a relationship together. When people are exactly the same, trouble happens. Too much comparison...
Perhaps. Perhaps not. People can be very different even with the same temperament. I know two INTPs and they are very dissimilar. In the end, its about the personality and how well two people click, not the temperament.
The Rose
09-23-2007, 09:35 PM
There are lots of theories about compatibility, but they're all rather poor. It really depends on the couple more than their types, though it's a fair point to start from, at least on the S/N divide.I wouldn't know who makes the best companions.
Now that you mention it, I don't think I would like being married to an E.
I am married to an ISTP.
We just celebrated our 25th Anniversary.
We've been through our ups and downs,
but he is faithful , honest, hard-working, and is good at the things I am not good at.
Hum I guess your're right.
Rose brought up a good point. You need to find a complement of a sort. Even with the same temperments, people can still be good at different things that complement eachother.
But back to the point.
I still think INTJ guys would be great. I've always had a soft spot for male fictional characters with INTP personalities. Maybe I just like my personality that much, it'd be interesting to find an INTJ guy friend. :P
Cato the Younger
09-23-2007, 10:16 PM
I've never actually met an INTJ girl. I would like to though.
I've never actually met an INTJ girl. *I would like to though.
Well we ARE very rare...
Firelie
09-23-2007, 10:21 PM
Well we ARE very rare...
...but oh-so-wonderful. *;D
Tarrick
09-23-2007, 10:25 PM
Well we ARE very rare...
...but oh-so-wonderful. ;D
I'd say you have a rather high opinion of yourself, but the same is true for us guys too.
The Rose
09-23-2007, 10:30 PM
Gee I wish I had that high an opinion of myself!
I don't like being INTJ at all- though it's better than ESTJ.
It's hard being INTJ.
Most of the time I don't feel accepted or understood.
Gee I wish I had that high an opinion of myself!
I don't like being INTJ at all- though it's better than ESTJ.
It's hard being INTJ.
Most of the time I don't feel accepted or understood.
It's hard, but I like it that way. Because then we know the people we are close with are genuine (well they sure ask heck spent enough energy on us anyway). It's frustrating when I'm not understood when I try to explain concepts and such.. but otherwise, it's fun having our own little secrets with ourselves... the jokes that other people won't understand :P
Inside jokes with self FTW!
The Rose
09-23-2007, 10:48 PM
Gee I wish I had that high an opinion of myself!
I don't like being INTJ at all- though it's better than ESTJ.
It's hard being INTJ.
Most of the time I don't feel accepted or understood.
It's hard, but I like it that way. *Because then we know the people we are close with are genuine (well they sure ask heck spent enough energy on us anyway). *It's frustrating when I'm not understood when I try to explain concepts and such.. but otherwise, it's fun having our own little secrets with ourselves... the jokes that other people won't understand *:P
Inside jokes with self FTW!chuckles.
Jezebel
09-24-2007, 01:22 AM
I'm attracted to different types for different reasons. I'm just not attracted to most people in general. I think INTJs can be very attractive, but I'll also admit to liking (some) extroverts. In the end though, I think that the MBTI is good for reaching a better understanding of people but not for determining which relationships will work.
I've been in a relationship with an extrovert for years. It's good and bad. He keeps me from being a hermit, introduces me to people I have common interests with, and keeps conversation going with other people when we're in public (which takes a big load off people expecting me to socialize). I do actually find the extroversion an admirable quality... but I consider myself on the extreme end of introversion.
On the downside, it can be very draining. I don't think he really understands why I require so much time alone and why I get so agitated when he interrupts me when I'm working on projects. We've had to compromise a lot on this. Even right now, he's still out with friends and I came home to spend the rest of the evening at my computer alone.
Well we ARE very rare...
...but oh-so-wonderful. ;D
Yeah, really. :lovestruck:
:(
Cato the Younger
09-24-2007, 03:20 AM
Man, narcissism sure is a wonderful thing.
Man, narcissism sure is a wonderful thing.
You have clearly never met a female INTJ, let alone dated one...
Again... :lovestruck:
My husband and i are both INTJ's. we get along great. We met online, which I think is eaiser for those of us who have problems with chit chat, from profiles we both knew what we wanted, what are goals were and if we were going to be somewhat compatible before every having to speak to one another.
That may be a route other INTJ's want to explore.
The Rose
09-24-2007, 11:44 AM
My husband and i are both INTJ's. we get along great. We met online, which I think is eaiser for those of us who have problems with chit chat, from profiles we both knew what we wanted, what are goals were and if we were going to be somewhat compatible before every having to speak to one another.
That may be a route other INTJ's want to explore.
That's interesting.
I am having such a hard time believing INTJs get along with each other.
I can barely get along with myself! :D
Hm...
I do meet people online. And I do find it easier to talk to people I meet online.
Then again, I'm not likely to want to date people I meet online. I don't know if it's me being traditional, or me freaking out about internet pedo's... no offence, but we all know they're out there (heck one of them could be lurking this forum).
Anyway. I don't think I've ever met an INTJ male so I can't be what that would be like. I know one other INTJ girl (she took the test)... who is surprisingly sweet... so now I'm slightly doubting her type... Maybe I'll retype her myself...
In any case, it'd be an interesting event... to meet an INTJ male
Guido
09-24-2007, 12:19 PM
I'd have no problem meeting a fellow INTJ in person, but not under the context of dating. If by chance it turned into dating, that'd be ok. I just don't think I could click with a girl I hadn't spent a bunch of time with in real life.
Also, I don't think you can just go to the corner store and pick girlfriends out that are lined up in the shelves. If they did, I'm sure they'd be on sale in groups of 12, and I'd only want one. Dating from the internet just kind of seems like that to me. Besides, doing that would be like admitting failure in my ability to meet people in real life... which I guess I'm close to doing :x I suppose if there was a corner store filled with INTJs in Montreal, I would probably take a look. And those definitely don't come in bulk hahaha.
I'm at work now trying to code btw... and I'm not getting all that much done. These forums are rather interesting :o
And you have to watch out for the pedos. However, you can't be scared of pedos if you are one :o
Come here little girl and show me your bum
Besides, doing that would be like admitting failure in my ability to meet people in real life... which I guess I'm close to doing :x
...
I'm at work now trying to code btw... and I'm not getting all that much done. These forums are rather interesting :o
The feeling is mutual.
And by the way, I'm in a stats class right now, being rather bored...
Tarrick
09-24-2007, 02:09 PM
I just don't think I could click with a girl I hadn't spent a bunch of time with in real life.
Agreed. Dating without a foundation of friendship is something that I can't see, simply because there would be no prior understanding of the person without a romantic context.
I just don't think I could click with a girl I hadn't spent a bunch of time with in real life.
Agreed. Dating without a foundation of friendship is something that I can't see, simply because there would be no prior understanding of the person without a romantic context.
Exactly... what if they have some very annoying habits you just cannot stand? :suspicious:
You totally miss out on all the little things about the person you're supposed to come to love. In any other issue, I'd want to speed through the process, but in a relationship, the process is too important.
Meeting people in day to day life wasn't hard either, its just that I always ended up with someone compleatly opposite who seemed exciting at first, then got rather frustrating and eventually turned to a lack of interest. Mostly because I think alot of INTJ people think they need to find someone with the social qualities they're working on, which also makes it so much harder to meet someone. Meeting people over the internet is a great way to establish conversation without the chit chat-y ness. We met in person far before we decided to get married, but we got to know each other first online.
yeah the pedo's are creepy, but if your over 13 they ussually leave you alone :)
Though you do get very strange people, my husband and I just seemed to click.
We get along great because we understand each other, we can talk without annoying one another and when one of us wants to just read a book or be alone, there is an understanding that its not because we're trying to ignore the other person, just that we want to read our book!
Maybe meeting online isn't the best for all people, so what are other suggestions for meeting another introverted person? They're not the type to ussually hang out in bars.
We get along great because we understand each other, we can talk without annoying one another and when one of us wants to just read a book or be alone, there is an understanding that its not because we're trying to ignore the other person, just that we want to read our book!
Maybe meeting online isn't the best for all people, so what are other suggestions for meeting another introverted person? They're not the type to ussually hang out in bars.
I guess you ended up with the "best case scenario" :D
I hear what you're saying; the biggest pain in the ass is when you just want time alone, and your partner is bugging you about spending time together. Meeting people online is great, but I'm reluctant to meet anyone I meet online in person. Though I must say, I have a close friend (that I barely have time to talk to thesedays, but close friend none-the-less) that I met online, and on occasion hang out together in person. (He was an extrovert though)
Actually, personally I wouldn't mind hanging out at a bar because to be there with anyone. Just sitting there alone with your favorite beverage, watching people, eavesdropping on ppl's storied :P. (okay that sounds kind of creepy, but you learn a lot about society that way...)
radioactivez0r
09-24-2007, 03:05 PM
I had this sudden great idea to ask the forum: What do you do to meet people? And then I realized that this probably isn't the place to go for that advice, haha. A friend recently told me that I just need to socialize more (after being shot down once again), but...I have absolutely no use for socializing for the sake of it. If something like volunteering at a free form radio station gets me social, that's cool because the people are there for the same reason, but the energy expended in just hoping to randomly meet someone while out on the town...ugh.
re: online...I've met some interesting people online, but about 1 in 50 are physically attractive to me. that may just be my picky-ness.
I had this sudden great idea to ask the forum: What do you do to meet people? *And then I realized that this probably isn't the place to go for that advice, haha. *A friend recently told me that I just need to socialize more (after being shot down once again), but...I have absolutely no use for socializing for the sake of it. *If something like volunteering at a free form radio station gets me social, that's cool because the people are there for the same reason, but the energy expended in just hoping to randomly meet someone while out on the town...ugh. *
re: online...I've met some interesting people online, but about 1 in 50 are physically attractive to me. *that may just be my picky-ness.
Volunteering was probably the thing I did to force myself to socialize... or at least learn to stop being completely awkward when I talk to (older) people in person.
I don't think socializing is really going to do the trick considering we're so picky. The chances in meeting someone we're attracted to is low enough... I don't see the point in looking. My strategy is to sit and wait for one to come along. Not like I can't survive without a husband :thinking:
Tarrick
09-24-2007, 09:18 PM
I had this sudden great idea to ask the forum: What do you do to meet people?
Topic split senses...tingling...
You do realize what this thread is morphing into right?
Guido
09-24-2007, 09:20 PM
I haven't given up on looking yet, and probably won't ever. As cumbersome and frustrating as it can be, it drastically increases my odds. As low as those odds are...
Guido
09-24-2007, 09:21 PM
Oh oh!! We're going to organize a BBQ at my place?
Tarrick
09-24-2007, 09:28 PM
Montreal is a bit far out for me Guido...Vancouver Seattle area would be much more doable. :thumbsup:
Evalis
09-24-2007, 10:28 PM
There isn't exactly an age... I see daily that most of my friends are always dating. *Either long-term, or they find one like.. 2 months after their last break up. *I don't know how they do it. *:-? *How do people find people they click with THAT easily
It's simple - They lie. Both to themselves and to the other person. Part of how this is done was already posted - joining a volunteer group, a sport, something to get your outside into the world and meet people. The issue here, is that if you are doing this to meet people, logically you should be going out to -meet- people, and the activity is arbitrary. However doing this comes across as extremely aggressive and 'fake' (although it couldn't be further from the truth) and will turn people away. Your alternative is to then join an activity you enjoy.. but in doing so, you will rationalize that the activity is the important part, and you have little care whether or not you meet someone as long as the activity retains your interest, and then leaving when it no longer does.
Other people do not have this 'problem'. They are fully capable of convincing themselves that they love the activity (even if they hate it) and are most certainly not there to meet anyone for any sexual reasons (although they frequently talk about fancies with 'certain' acquiantences) and if just want to get out, talk to people, and if 'something happens then it happens.' This is also, fortunately, the explanation that other people are willing to accept, and will not scare anyone away.
The second stage of lying is restriticting information to the other person that they would like to hear. Let's say that the person in question absolutely loves football, but their date early into the conversation expresses that they find physical sports rediculous and boring. Rather than say "Hey now, I love sports", and attempt to get into a debate on the merits of watching football with a cold beer over attending a ballet, they decide to respond with "Well I can understand how some guys could get into that kind of thing.. what is it that you do find interesting?" *And.. SUCCESS. They have made a potential friend out of someone who they know will hate them without a week or two after they pull out that first beer and glue themselves in front of the screen for 2hours of what their prospect believes to be mindless drivel.
The Rose
09-24-2007, 10:52 PM
All this talk makes me thankful I'm already married.
BTW: I met my husband in a bar.
I was working there.
He was frequenting the place. ;)
Guido
09-24-2007, 10:56 PM
It's simple - They lie.
Hahaha, oh man that gave me a good laugh.
The second stage of lying ...
and yet another :D
There isn't exactly an age... I see daily that most of my friends are always dating. *Either long-term, or they find one like.. 2 months after their last break up. *I don't know how they do it. *:-? *How do people find people they click with THAT easily
It's simple - They lie. Both to themselves and to the other person. Part of how this is done was already posted - joining a volunteer group, a sport, something to get your outside into the world and meet people. The issue here, is that if you are doing this to meet people, logically you should be going out to -meet- people, and the activity is arbitrary. However doing this comes across as extremely aggressive and 'fake' (although it couldn't be further from the truth) and will turn people away. Your alternative is to then join an activity you enjoy.. but in doing so, you will rationalize that the activity is the important part, and you have little care whether or not you meet someone as long as the activity retains your interest, and then leaving when it no longer does.
Other people do not have this 'problem'. They are fully capable of convincing themselves that they love the activity (even if they hate it) and are most certainly not there to meet anyone for any sexual reasons (although they frequently talk about fancies with 'certain' acquiantences) and if just want to get out, talk to people, and if 'something happens then it happens.' This is also, fortunately, the explanation that other people are willing to accept, and will not scare anyone away.
The second stage of lying is restriticting information to the other person that they would like to hear. Let's say that the person in question absolutely loves football, but their date early into the conversation expresses that they find physical sports rediculous and boring. Rather than say "Hey now, I love sports", and attempt to get into a debate on the merits of watching football with a cold beer over attending a ballet, they decide to respond with "Well I can understand how some guys could get into that kind of thing.. what is it that you do find interesting?" *And.. SUCCESS. They have made a potential friend out of someone who they know will hate them without a week or two after they pull out that first beer and glue themselves in front of the screen for 2hours of what their prospect believes to be mindless drivel.
Okay, I guess that was obvious...
I just can't wrap my mind around how the hell they can be so... "whatever" about these things.
Tired, brain lacking vocab...
StJimmy
09-25-2007, 04:30 PM
So, are you attracted to INTJ guys like most INTJ females? I know male INTJs tend to be attracted to more extroverted personalities.
My late teens/early 20's were spent with a female who I'm convinced at this point was also an INTJ. Our relationship quickly went from verbal sparring and flirting to an intense emotional and physical involvement that eventually descended into a death spiral during what I call the days of "Sex, Drugs, and Rock n Roll."
I'm not convinced that it couldn't have worked if we had met, say, half a decade after we actually became involved. Two emotionally clumsy INTJ's pawing at each other, both in "learning phases," led to a nasty love/hate situation.
My partner for most of the last decade is an ENFJ. We contrast and complement each other in ways that still surprise me. Of course our relationship has evolved, and the influences we've had on one another are obvious. She mellowed me out; I made her more aggressive. She helped me get in touch with my feeling side (however tentative the contact might be) and she has literally exploded intellectually.
bikerscars
10-04-2007, 12:36 AM
i dunno...
i'm a breast man myself ;D
i've yet to find a good longterm match...
i lose my patience with all the irrational behavior and small talk i seem to find in the fairer sex(but that's cause i've dated mostly social butterflies)
i'd like to date a intj or p to see how the compatibility would play out(but they are needles in a haystack)
rasoirviolon
10-04-2007, 12:59 AM
Perhaps I'm being ignorant here but I find it very interesting that those who have discussed past relationships are able to ascribe an MBTI label to those they have been involved in. How did you manage to figure that out? ...Surely you didn't make them sit down and take an MBTI test of some sort. Are you guys intuitively able to label people accurately with the MBTI descriptions? (This is probably off topic from the original question).
As for myself, I have no idea what any of the people I've encountered would fall under in the terms of MBTI. (The farthest I can probably go is figuring if they're E or I). Personally romantic relationships seem to be an utter distraction from more "satisfying" things in life like intellectual pursuits and work.
deicruxified
10-04-2007, 01:00 AM
i dunno.. i got an intj colleague and we agree telepathically that boss is bullcrap..
anyway, not dated an intj guy yet but i'm attracted to guys with temperament same as squall's of ff8 (he looks like john rzeznik of goo goo dolls)... mysterious and quiet
Perhaps I'm being ignorant here but I find it very interesting that those who have discussed past relationships are able to ascribe an MBTI label to those they have been involved in. How did you manage to figure that out? ...Surely you didn't make them sit down and take an MBTI test of some sort. Are you guys intuitively able to label people accurately with the MBTI descriptions? (This is probably off topic from the original question).
I had the first two take the test. It might've been wrong, but probably not.
The third took it before we started, so we knew our types before we started dating.
Perhaps I'm being ignorant here but I find it very interesting that those who have discussed past relationships are able to ascribe an MBTI label to those they have been involved in. How did you manage to figure that out? ...Surely you didn't make them sit down and take an MBTI test of some sort. Are you guys intuitively able to label people accurately with the MBTI descriptions? (This is probably off topic from the original question).
As for myself, I have no idea what any of the people I've encountered would fall under in the terms of MBTI. (The farthest I can probably go is figuring if they're E or I). Personally romantic relationships seem to be an utter distraction from more "satisfying" things in life like intellectual pursuits and work.
This question was raised somewhere else too.
You don't actually have to take the test. *You just access how the person learn things and deals with problems. *I've gotten some practice at it... and I've successfully typed several people quite accurately.
This site gives you a pretty good explination as to how to determine the dominance of the 4 'scales': To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Then you can go to the links on the side to see the type you think the person is, and see how accurate the description is. *Usually it's pretty accurate down to the little habits they might have. * *:o
Firelie
10-04-2007, 03:31 AM
Hmm...looks like my mom might be an ENFJ and my dad an ISTJ...
iamnotspock
10-08-2007, 04:02 AM
I dated an INTJ for awhile. I know b/c we discussed our types and she basically fit the profile. Anyway, it didn't really go anyplace. There just weren't any real sparks. Also, I think she would've liked it if I had more parties and social events to take her to, since she was clearly hoping to get a social life out of the relationship, but the problem was, so was I.
As for attraction, she said she liked that I was "goofy" (well, it beats donald duck) and had a lot of things to talk about. I also think she appreciated the fact that I did not spend any time online in "virtual worlds" which had apparently swallowed her ex up whole.
One last tid-bit if you're looking for INTJ women: I opened an eharmony account, and the only two women that got to open comm. with were both INTJ's. Many more women would initially communicate with me, answer some q's, and then drop out. So my conclusion was that the pic was not the problem, but rather my responses. I have no idea what eHarmony's 29 dimensions are about, but this offers some kind of validation for INTJ-INTJ connections.
Firelie
10-08-2007, 11:45 AM
eHarmony has a spot to list MBTI results? Or did you ask the women their type?
rwyatt365
10-08-2007, 11:48 AM
eHarmony has a spot to list MBTI results? *Or did you ask the women their type?
New-age pickup line? "Hey babe, what's your MBTI type?"
eHarmony has a spot to list MBTI results? *Or did you ask the women their type?
New-age pickup line? "Hey babe, what's your MBTI type?"
And if she doesn't know about it, you can intrigue her with the explanations :thumbsup:
Tarrick
10-08-2007, 11:05 PM
eHarmony has a spot to list MBTI results? Or did you ask the women their type?
New-age pickup line? "Hey babe, what's your MBTI type?"
Oh yes...I can see it know...
Really. I can.
Really. I can.
So can I...
Honestly... I'd be intrigued... ::)
INTJohn
10-09-2007, 05:28 AM
One last tid-bit if you're looking for INTJ women: I opened an eharmony account, and the only two women that got to open comm. with were both INTJ's. Many more women would initially communicate with me, answer some q's, and then drop out. So my conclusion was that the pic was not the problem, but rather my responses. I have no idea what eHarmony's 29 dimensions are about, but this offers some kind of validation for INTJ-INTJ connections.
eHarmony's 29 matching criteria are founded/based on Keirsey's mate/matching observations & criteria as written in his book "Please Understand ME II" - 1998;
15/20 bux paperback.
In theory (and personal observation/experience) NT Rationals are best matched up with NF Idealists or another NT Rational .......for the long haul - now if all you want is a weekend fling with no connection or intellectual depth,(a "Mental Health" weekend if you will) I definately suggest an SP Artisan (they are as fun AND shallow as it gets).
My daughter, an INTJ, has been with her ENFJ boyfriend for over 3 years now and
they are absolutely perfect - they are great together and complement each other tremendously. She is studying Molecular Biology/Genetics with a dual degree in Philosophy and he is getting his degrees in Mathematics & Teaching.
rational Idealist and an idealistic Rational - a match that can form a VERY powerful "Us"..........
INTJohn
Jbmontag
10-09-2007, 12:21 PM
Everyone seems to vouch for the existence of the elusive INTJ female. I never met one, always filed it with Bigfoot and Nessie ;D
Everyone seems to vouch for the existence of the elusive INTJ female. I never met one, always filed it with Bigfoot and Nessie ;D
I TOTALLY think Nessie exists :thumbsup:
rwyatt365
10-09-2007, 01:54 PM
Everyone seems to vouch for the existence of the elusive INTJ female. I never met one, always filed it with Bigfoot and Nessie ;D
I have never met an INTJ female in person (that I know of). The fact that so many have found this forum is amazing!
I would compare the elusive female INTJ to a quark; a fundamental and necessary building block for all things which has not been detected or isolated in nature. Of course, quarks come in several flavors; up, down, top, bottom and strange!
phoenix
10-09-2007, 02:04 PM
I would compare the elusive female INTJ to a quark; a fundamental and necessary building block for all things which has not been detected or isolated in nature. Of course, quarks come in several flavors; up, down, top, bottom and strange!
Oh dear...now we'll get a "Which quark do you most closely resemble" poll. At least the response explainations should be interesting.
Thanks Wyatt! *:P
rwyatt365
10-09-2007, 02:34 PM
I would compare the elusive female INTJ to a quark; a fundamental and necessary building block for all things which has not been detected or isolated in nature. Of course, quarks come in several flavors; up, down, top, bottom and strange!
Oh dear...now we'll get a "Which quark do you most closely resemble" poll. At least the response explainations should be interesting.
Thanks Wyatt! *:P
Oops, I forgot the charm quark!
orange
10-09-2007, 09:57 PM
I have a female INTJ friend that I met in highschool and oddly eough we now go to the same college.
That being said I could NEVER date her, and she would say the same about me. I have no doubt about that! She is great as a friend and at first I did like her. It didn't take me long to figure out that we had nothing other than our personality type in common. Well, our type and that we are both good at math.
If I were to meet an INTJ female with intrest that were similar to mine and didn't dissagree on how I see improtant things that would be great.
As for the S/N divide I fail that. Both of the girls I have liked are S's
first was a ESFP. normally that would be hell, but although she was an S she easily adapted or atleast mimiced traits of an N.
right now I like an ESTJ (but is very close to being a ISTJ) but the hard thing there (and probally the reason I havent asked her out) is that I can't read her (I think that it she is more of a I than an E in more personal settings. those IT traits in those situations make it hard to read). Therefor, I have NO clue for dates if I were to ask her out. I cant tell her emotional state, her likes and dislikes, or much of anything unless told. Its frustrating.
that said I have not had the guts to ask either out. and have had to turn down sevral ESFXs that just annyed the crap outa me.
yes, you read between the lines correctly I have not had a Girlfriend.
sorry for going off topic there at the end. I was going to say more about my current intrest but I don't want too seem as hopeless as I am and realized how off topic I had gotten.
brstng4
10-10-2007, 12:52 AM
I like INTJ males, but I just can't seem to find one with the same interests as me, let alone find one in general. Most of the people I've dated were not INTJs, though I couldn't tell you exactly what they were. I'm pretty much doomed, because I live with a bunch-o-rednecks (the south) [smiley=bucktooth.gif] Theres no hope for me, unless I move.
rwyatt365
10-10-2007, 07:44 AM
I like INTJ males, but I just can't seem to find one with the same interests as me, let alone find one in general. Most of the people I've dated were not INTJs, though I couldn't tell you exactly what they were. I'm pretty much doomed, because I live with a bunch-o-rednecks (the south) [smiley=bucktooth.gif] Theres no hope for me, unless I move.
INTJ's are pretty scarce everywhere. Not too many up here in the (soon to be) frozen north.
jellosubmarine
10-10-2007, 09:46 AM
From the male perspective - I would really like to find the answer to this question as, true to type, I am walking past a previous long term relationship with no desire to look back. I would really like to know why so many friends and lovers try to make life so complicated then act confused when I weary from trying to untangle the knot and walk away. Isn't it better to lead a simple, direct life?
Tegyrius
10-10-2007, 09:58 PM
Everyone seems to vouch for the existence of the elusive INTJ female. I never met one, always filed it with Bigfoot and Nessie ;D
I found one.
No, you can't have her. ;D
bikerscars
10-10-2007, 11:18 PM
No, you can't have her. ;D
tsk, tsk...
how selfish
how selfish
I think "everyone for themselves" is a general INTJ rule of thumb. :thumbsup:
bikerscars
10-10-2007, 11:44 PM
how selfish
I think "everyone for themselves" is a general INTJ rule of thumb. :thumbsup:
i was just teasing :P
i was just teasing :P
So was I
bikerscars
10-10-2007, 11:57 PM
goes to show we are socially inept online as well
teasing again :P
Tarrick
10-11-2007, 02:40 AM
I prefer the term "straight forward to the nth degree"
Jezebel
10-12-2007, 04:59 PM
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I think female INTJ's are definitely attracted to male INTJ's.
I've met a number I'd say.
I would assume they are attracted on the basis of the guys ability to simply tolerate (and laugh at the sarcasm) as she cuts people to pieces intellectually. I don't think they are attracted to guys that have any F traits (abt 20%) because she's got more balls than him...lol.
I have mainatined for a while that there are at least 2 different classes of INTJ. The one with high aggression (corporate ambition etc) and the other less so (More the scientist). The ones I have met are the corporate ones.
I'm not sure that INTJ males are that attracted to to INTJ women though. Why?
Simply because I don't believe guys don't go for intellectual stimulation as their main attraction in women. If they are the analytical protector provider then they well want a woman who is more F with looks and some dependency on him to keep them together. (Hell, how else is procreation going to occur if sex isn't the INTJ's primary motivating force!!!! :D).
What I've found with corporate INTJ women is that I'm just competing with them. Invariably they say things that even I think are social Doh's. As an example, I know/knew a woman that really seemed to be dead keen on me (Tall, blonde head turner with a reasonable amount of brains) who unbelievably said in front of the group I was with, that she'd never have "battered an eyelid at me when she was in her teens as she was with the "in crowd" who met all the best personalities and had all the money".
Anyway, she's the one trying to impress me all the time about how good/great she'd be at this and that I do... guess she can't handle the fact that I'm not interested. Probably can't handle failure.
Blendy
10-15-2007, 02:41 AM
As a female INTJ, I don't find myself attracted to male INTJs, and I know several. Although it's nice to be understood by a fellow INTJ, I suspect it would make for a dreadfully boring relationship (for me personally). I do prefer more extraverted types, and am currently dating an ENTP. For me, N is the crucial similarity; I can't see myself ever dating an S. As the lone N who came from an S-filled family, I believe the N/S fundamental difference in worldview is the hardest typological barrier to overcome in relationships.
Vayate
10-15-2007, 04:17 AM
I actually do find myself attracted to INTJ and ENTJ females, largely because I want someone who will stimulate me intellectually and can match my strong personality. Must admit I'm probably an oddball because I really like to fight.
Currently, I'm very interested in an ENTJ. For some reason, I do seem to prefer extroverts to a certain extent provided that they're not obnoxious (possibly because, despite my love for my own lair at the home/office, I do like to interact to a limited extent every once in a while). I did meet an INTJ girl a couple years back, and we're very good friends. Social awkwardness on both sides coupled with stoicism to pretty much destroy any chances of progression beyond friendship. So despite the occasional preference for extroverts I do find that introverts are well worth the additional initial time and effort they require.
thegnat
10-15-2007, 10:00 AM
OMG you INTJ males are hawt! hehe
I'm honestly not around INTJ males too much - can't really think of one off the top of my head - at least my age. I think perhaps I would be though since I can relate. I don't tend to find "normal" guys all so attractive. I can talk better to similar minded people - if they're way different conversation falls WAY flat - had that happen to me. All someone could do was pry into my personal life and pry more and didn't like at all what I wanted to talk about - that was quick.... At least some similar interest would be nice. I do like intellectually stimulating conversation. I dunno. haha. gotta go!
OMG you INTJ males are hawt! *hehe
I'm honestly not around INTJ males too much - can't really think of one off the top of my head - at least my age. *I think perhaps I would be though since I can relate. *I don't tend to find "normal" guys all so attractive. *I can talk better to similar minded people - if they're way different conversation falls WAY flat - had that happen to me. *All someone could do was pry into my personal life and pry more and didn't like at all what I wanted to talk about - that was quick.... *At least some similar interest would be nice. *I do like intellectually stimulating conversation. *I dunno. haha. gotta go!
Ditto the first line XD
But on the other hand, I don't think it'd work out very well. I've also found over the years that contrary to most people here (it seems), I like people whose minds work differently but have the same "values" - for lack of a better word. More specifcally E/ISTJs, they keep things interesting. And because I need someone to stimulate my E, ENTJ's or ENTP's are also a good prospect.
mind_wander
10-15-2007, 10:41 AM
I've never actually met an INTJ girl. *I would like to though.
Nym, what you said about INTJ/INTJ does hold true. Things does click quite quickly, but uncertain at first. INTJ's like to doubt the unquestionable, luckly for tests right.
Actually, I think like 2 weeks, I've talked to my female neighbor in taking a similar Myer-Brigg's *personality test, it came out to be INTJ [Already know she has a BF]. Female INTJ's' s are similar to male INTJ's, on a positive note: Has similar things in common. I talked about in general what genre of tv shows do you watch. Without saying what kind of genre of tv shows I liked mostly. She commented, "the most probably more toward Sci-fi"; nice when someone is speaking your language right and very opened-minded. We've both have the similar feelings about this one, "Others tend to misplace our personality category." In addition, "She mentioned, often times felt that are dissimilar from other females"; this I can perfectly understand. At the moment, more like treating each other as mutual-friends. Nice to know there is a INTJ neighbor by ya :)
Rei,
Don't worry about doubting male INTJ because really are like you, but the only difference is gender. The nice thing about it is you will understand each other insides jokes, while others just stare at you blankly. Alot of similar things in common, I'm not for certain there is a spark of love; but more steer toward friendship, one step at a time.
-Another note, yeah its very easily to communiate to other INTJ's online. I had given a Myer's brigg personality test on another forum: To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. [A fellow INTJ send me here]. In here we got alot of unique and rare people. I always wondered why so many the weird and odd people in here. After viewing all the possible personalities type out there, its nice to know I felt like being more understood.
Rei,
Don't worry about doubting male INTJ because really are like you, but the only difference is gender. The nice thing about it is you will understand each other insides jokes, while others just stare at you blankly. Alot of similar things in common, I'm not for certain there is a spark of love; but more steer toward friendship, one step at a time.
Well the problem is that when you're exactly the same, the pairing becomes very one-sided, and together we have this big huge hole on the other side of the spectrum. *Even though I'm pretty borderline on most of my traits, so I'm balanced overall, I think it's more healthy to have a complement to show me that other ways work too. It's all about balance.
Jezebel
10-17-2007, 02:10 AM
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Natrushka
10-17-2007, 11:14 AM
I've never met an INTJ male offline. I've met a few females, ironically.
From what I've observed online I'd can see myself attracted to a male INTJ, I just don't know that I'd be able to live with one - when I imagine myself with someone like me it usually doesn't end well.
aelan
10-30-2007, 02:32 PM
I'm not sure, as I've never met anyone who I've known to be an INTJ. *I'm pretty sure if I were to go out with someone, I would want him to be an I, probably an N, and pretty balanced between T/F and J/P (as I am), though there are things that are much more important than type. *I basically want to go out with a male-version of me who's slightly more emotionally expressive and wouldn't mind letting me be a little more in control (just a little- I'm not controlling, I promise! *[smiley=smug.gif])
Santana28
11-02-2007, 01:57 PM
I'm not sure.... I seem to be attracted to anyone with the NT aspect.
BloozeGit
11-02-2007, 09:33 PM
If that really were the case, then considering that we make up 1% of the population and assuming a random normal distribution of personality types across nationalities, age groups etc...the chances of a mutually-attracted INTJ heterosexual couple are really low.
We're pretty much screwed (no pun intended) from a reproductive point of view :o
cielo market
11-02-2007, 09:36 PM
I would be. Sadly, I have yet the opportunity to test that theory. :P
Daniel
11-03-2007, 06:24 PM
eHarmony has a spot to list MBTI results? Or did you ask the women their type?
New-age pickup line? "Hey babe, what's your MBTI type?"
Oh, man. Made me laugh :thumbsup:
Daniel
11-03-2007, 07:00 PM
If that really were the case, then considering that we make up 1% of the population and assuming a random normal distribution of personality types across nationalities, age groups etc...the chances of a mutually-attracted INTJ heterosexual couple are really low.
We're pretty much screwed (no pun intended) from a reproductive point of view :o
I just don't want to believe that could be true.My current stategy is not to avoid meeting new people, attend all parties I have the possibility to go (not to have fun, but to examine all the people present), on summer holidays (then I have a lot of time) I actualy do pickup.I was lucky enough to approach an INTJ.We had a great time together - just the two of us holding hands, walking along the seashore, talking about philosphy...Unfortunately it didn't last- we live in different cities.
The point is that if you really want and if you put effort into it, you can find your soulmate.
Yet, I do agree that's very difficult for us, and currently I'm dying inside because I'm alone and do not see the prospect of things changing in the near future.And just everyone around seem to be in relationships except me and my INTJ friends.
Hmm...a contraversal post..all in all - difficult, but possible (effort or luck needed).
orange
11-03-2007, 07:53 PM
Hmm...a contraversal post..all in all - difficult, but possible (effort or luck needed).
I would say effort and luck.
thegnat
11-03-2007, 08:22 PM
Hmm...a contraversal post..all in all - difficult, but possible (effort or luck needed).
I would say effort and luck.
I would add time in there. If you don't have time you're pretty much screwed to have any luck or ability to put effort.
Bossy Mom
11-03-2007, 08:42 PM
Being an INTJ female, I have been very attracted to INTJ males. I like a Howard Roark-type of man, one who has integrity, high intelligence and a drive to create. I also like one who likes to sit next to me on a cold winter night in front of the fireplace and we read books.
Daniel
11-04-2007, 04:07 AM
I would add time in there. If you don't have time you're pretty much screwed to have any luck or ability to put effort.
Yap, time is very important.
And because I always put studying, my creative work and realizing ideas a priority, I seem to lack time for social interactions.Consciosly I want them (to find people alike) , but subconsciosly I don't care about them.
Chelle
11-04-2007, 07:47 AM
I am an Canadian INTJ female who came across an American INTJ male. Dated briefly. Attraction? no idea. At first he seemed to catch my attention mainly because I am frequently misunderstood and the fact that our decision styles matched I thought it may be interesting. The unfortunate thing is as things un-folded his decision style (and the fact that he was much older) was not responsive to how I logically put things in order.
Would I try it again? Maybe. The major issue was poor communication, low EQ and a general disregard for the Others situation. Was this a by-product of INTJ???
My profile is also quite rare: Economics by profession and art as a hobby.
Do INTJ males have low EQ???
thegnat
11-04-2007, 11:33 AM
And because I always put studying, my creative work and realizing ideas a priority, I seem to lack time for social interactions.Consciosly I want them (to find people alike) , but subconsciosly I don't care about them.
yeah I understand that....but I don't *seem* to lack time...I *do* lack time hehe. And part of me tells me if you ever would find some like person and you want to date them, would you have enough time?
I am an Canadian INTJ female who came across an American INTJ male. Dated briefly. Attraction? no idea. At first he seemed to catch my attention mainly because I am frequently misunderstood and the fact that our decision styles matched I thought it may be interesting. The unfortunate thing is as things un-folded his decision style (and the fact that he was much older) was not responsive to how I logically put things in order.
Would I try it again? Maybe. The major issue was poor communication, low EQ and a general disregard for the Others situation. Was this a by-product of INTJ???
My profile is also quite rare: Economics by profession and art as a hobby.
Do INTJ males have low EQ???
In short, yes by using "normal standards".
Given something like 80% of women are F, then emotional compartmentalization by the INTJ guys is going to be hard to understand.
But, any male INTJ can relate more to F's and other less INTJ women so long as he decides something worth understanding (Some guys like the concept of relationships but don't like the practicalities (inefficient, messy, diversionary all come to mind...). Yes, INTJ guys care, often it’s kept from those in their immediate surroundings... So it’s just a matter of spending time understanding etc. However, all people have varying degrees of caring... I think INTJ's are pretty loyal once they've decided investing their time and effort in the other person (And that takes time for that decision to be made).
BloozeGit
11-04-2007, 12:30 PM
Do INTJ males have low EQ???
EQ is not something that comes naturally to most INTJs (by virtue of INTJ definition) but can be adapted to over the course of time and by trial and error. Some of the monumental faux pas I've made have served as hard lessons for me.
And I'm still trying. ::)
Being an INTJ female, I have been very attracted to INTJ males. *I like a Howard Roark-type of man, one who has integrity, high intelligence and a drive to create. * I also like one who likes to sit next to me on a cold winter night in front of the fireplace and we read books.
Yeah right.... substitute "read books" for something else and I'll believe it... :P
Re: Are INTJ Females Attracted to INTJ Males?
Online = No, though I haven't yet knowingly 'chatted' to one, beyond posting in this forum.
In The Real World = I have only just started typing others, I believe there are 2 x INTJ males at work whom I have known for over 2 years... #1 INTJ is the person I most like & respect at work. I have always kept myself at a distance from him incase my attraction to him betrayed me ... #2 INTJ Beyond passing hello's, we never really chatted until recently (brought together on a project), there is now a lot of banter between us. I am attracted to him but more as a friend. I think however he is attracted to me, but I don't think he would ever act on it.
mind_wander
11-04-2007, 08:56 PM
I've never met an INTJ male offline. *I've met a few females, ironically.
From what I've observed online I'd can see myself attracted to a male INTJ, I just don't know that I'd be able to live with one - when I imagine myself with someone like me it usually doesn't end well.
Don't get your hopes up, INTJ's are great hiders. Sometimes a good INTJ hides in front of your face, without knowing it. I see many people, asking other people "Go take the Personality test, until hit INTJ male." Ok, lets hook up. J/k. The chances is still low as to relationship standards, but conversations, as friends would be my advice.
mind_wander
11-04-2007, 09:09 PM
Yeah, its really true that the "F" personality seems come toward my direction, but I don't ignore the other personality types. Actually, today I talked with my female INTJ neighbor and we get along just fine, not really arguements in any topics [balanced thought], but more disputing on how we INTJ's see the world differently. Giving some comfort because not many INTJ's[your gender personality trait], gonna give you the answer too those same questions that I asked myself. Being nice about it, don't worry about it, "You are not wrong on how you see the big picture and details, some people only like to see whats in front of them without seeing the other possibilites." I really, don't mind her bring in her own friends, hey life is life. Things can come up spontanous, throwing sarcistic jokes from time to time, its fine around everyone, but it can't be one of those harmful sarcistic jokes which will damage internally(so uncool). In that case, that female INTJ, so be out the door, ASAP before you even say what happened.
No one wants to be in the wrong footing, as for relationship, toward more friendly neighbors. I like that better, so its easier to conversate then having to deal with emotional issues. Unless, if the topics about emotional issues, we can always help each other out. What are your chances to ever meet another male INTJ like me, lol. Neutrality is key too, try to stay on topic, but off topics is not so bad. Afterall, don't we kinda think the same? She is very nice, asked about my day and see how are things. Which is great to know someone cares, for others :) I asked the same, hey I know we are all busy, perfectly understandable. If you come, then you come, if not, then not. Apparently, I am not an feeler, so I can sort it out in my mind. No emotional detachment on my shoulders. If I was, probably eternally emotional, why didn't she come back? :'( Luckily to be just INTJ :)
WyohKnott
06-01-2008, 11:32 PM
I have only very recently started attempting to figure out MBTI types of the people I know, and I only know one other confirmed INTJ. However, the one I do know, I am very attracted to... and looking back, I can tell that most of the other guys I've been attracted to have been quite similar in personality to him. So, I would say the answer is yes. Mostly it's just nice to know someone who understands me that well, and having the same MBTI type probably helps with that.
Trinity
06-02-2008, 12:14 AM
I actually am, although I've never been in a relationship with one there certainly was one INTJ in particular where there was a lot of tension, I think we both over analysed all the potential downfalls then reconsidered and went ahead and stayed friends.
I think that INTJ would have challenged me mentally not emotionally, I don’t know, there certainly seems to be some emotionally open guys on this forum, I just wonder how much transfers to real life ?
I think the ENTP/ENFP's would make good partners for INTP's.
No, I find both of them extremely annoying, as partners, as friends, ENFPs tend to be too fleeting for me.
I was with an INTJ and I enjoyed it to its fullest, they can be really extroverted once they feel comfortable, it's the same with an INTP.
If you find the person who complements you like that it doesn't matter the type really, I was fortunate to find an INTP who complements me [I guess I am more J than him with a lot of things, but he is J with what I am not] so it works.
quest ion
06-02-2008, 11:44 PM
The appearance of INTJ males tend to be really sloppy/weird. Tends to scare me off before I dare speak to them.
Haha.
Antares
06-03-2008, 07:17 AM
I've ever been attracted to anyone outside the NT temperament, but I don't think I ever liked an INTJ. One of the guys at my school is either INTJ or INTP. Any efforts to 'lighten up' always end up turning into another serious discussion. I know an INTP too. We're quite close as friends, but I can't see myself with either of them. Some people mentioned previously that INTJ male accept INTJ female better, but for me, I don't give a damn who accepts me. I'm myself no matter what. I've always been attracted to ENTPs; most of them are charming and cocky (in some people, this kind of arrogance is overbearing, but it's just right in others). One of them whom I was once attracted to handled my silence and even would tease me about my quiet nature. To me, they just add the 'spice' in my life (E types in general. Yes. Even ESFPs). I can be loud, obnoxious and arrogant with ExTxs. I can be bizarre and silly and it would only entertain them; not offend them.
onlyparallel
06-03-2008, 06:40 PM
Hell Yes I am. I prefer INTJ men. Though, I probably cannot speak for the whole remale INTJ population, I think INTJs would do well with other INTJs.
Marcus
06-03-2008, 06:50 PM
The appearance of INTJ males tend to be really sloppy/weird. Tends to scare me off before I dare speak to them.
Haha.
Speaking of double standards.
ChrisM
06-06-2008, 05:58 PM
I was with an INTJ and I enjoyed it to its fullest, they can be really extroverted once they feel comfortable, it's the same with an INTP.
Very true.
If you find the person who complements you like that it doesn't matter the type really, I was fortunate to find an INTP who complements me [I guess I am more J than him with a lot of things, but he is J with what I am not] so it works.
Decisions are critical. Two hard knock INTJ's could drive each other nuts if they don't share responsibility/roles in decision making. This is unlikely to happen, but definitely possible.
I am attracted to INTx for the deep mutual understanding and respect. I think INTJ's would especially be great (if they had similar beliefs) simply for their patience and their willingness to work at a relationship.
Two INTJ's MUST BECOME FRIENDS FIRST or the relationship could be too flimsy. One of the Intj's might simly "reject" the relationship in their mind (for some reason) at a certain point of time if the mutual friendship (or connection) hasn't been made.
But anyways... you INTJ ladies are hott!!
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