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INTJNATL777
03-25-2012, 10:31 PM
The very essence of an INTJ (according to Myers Briggs) I'm an attractive (based on what I'm told regularly) 33 year old black male trying to connect the dots... People flock to me in social settings I always end up being the life of the party and I'm constantly told my presence is amazing but when it's all said an done find relief in my solitude. My life have been characterized by being loved by many and being hated by the few haters who call me arrogant / stuck up??? Degree in Communication but have been out of work for 2 years now.

GQ style and complimented daily on how well put together I am and what a "nice young man" I am. Yes, I'm gay but I've never been in a relationship and because of my strong conservative religious upbringing.

I'm very smart, well versed in a wide variety of subjects. I speak foreign languages and have traveled the world. Have an affinity for learning about history and culture but totally abhor the idea of teaching, even at a collegiate level. I have forced myself to stop watching Jeopardy because I kick ass when I watch and people are always amazed at what I know if I watch it with people. In social situations I always end up being the life of the party but when it's all said and done, I find relief in my solitude.

I've decided to come here to meet like minds and try to learn from other people's experiences so that I can get a grip and not feel like my life is swirling down the Sh*@#er.

I need to find a direction, regret not working hard to make my dreams of becoming an airline pilot happen. I was a flight attendant but as you can already guess, my INTJ personality put the kibosh on that after 2 years... I work for a small firm as a bid coordinator and while I love the analytical nature of what I do, I hate working for the people I work for because of the disorganization and lack of pay. Not only that but (INTJ) I feel like the people I work for use for my many talents and give me a hard time because well, a few DNA strands less and they'd be classified as troglodytes (That's terrible I know and forgive me please)

I have read the 10 steps to being successful for an INTJ and I am using my current situation to apply the lessons I am learning.

Has anyone gone through this? and how did you handle it? I love sciences, Art's and Humanities but who can afford grad school these days? And what the H-E-DOUBLE- Hockey Sticks would I pursue if I had the money with a Liberal Art's background? (A word about Law, I HATE THAT IDEA... Period) Law used to be a noble profession to me now it's about greed and screwing people) My goal is life is to be a good human being not to hurt people but how do I negotiate my personality my talent and who I am. Based on what I've read, INTJs are very rare and someone complex in the design of their personality, I am trippin though!

deconspire
03-26-2012, 07:02 AM
Hey man, welcome to the forum.

roninpro
03-26-2012, 10:00 AM
I love sciences, Art's and Humanities but who can afford grad school these days?

I'd just like to point out that a lot of science programs actually fund their graduate students. That is, you receive a salary for attending and researching / teaching with the school. If not for this, I would not be in graduate school right now.

Best of luck.

INTJNATL777
03-26-2012, 10:24 AM
I'd just like to point out that a lot of science programs actually fund their graduate students. That is, you receive a salary for attending and researching / teaching with the school. If not for this, I would not be in graduate school right now.

Best of luck.

But aren't Assistantships very competitive?

SacrificialLove
03-26-2012, 11:15 AM
I need to find a direction, regret not working hard to make my dreams of becoming an airline pilot happen.

Why can you not pursue this? If your heart is in the cockpit, that's where your body should be. :) I wish there was a way that I could get my INTJ pilot back in the sky (he stopped with his commercial license; he was on his way to obtaining his CFI right before terrorists hit the twin towers on 9/11). :(

INTJNATL777
03-26-2012, 11:47 AM
Well, A. Costs IS RIDICULOUS! I still have to get my Instrument, Commercial Multi... and build time! Credit is bad so loans are out. and I need a job that pays enough to sustain daily living and cost which is hard to come buy in this economy.

B. After working for a regional airline as a FA and talking with current pilot friends who wish they could do other things because of scheduling and work rules, I can't negotiate the cost / benefits.