INTJ Social Behaviors with other INTJ's

[Chaos]

Having a personality that is classified in being in only 1% of the population I find myself interested in other INTJ's like myself.

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we both have the same personality and IQ (which is remarkable, I think). I met his family and his mother and sister are also INTJ's.

I get along with his mother, but his sister Michelle is very hard to get along with. She is a lead chemist for a pharmaceutical company and I really don't think she thinks she can do no wrong. A workaholic (which my boyfriend and I are also) she is just high strung and very opinionated.

Now, being an INTJ myself I can understand allot of her anger, frustration and what its like being a woman with the same personality.

I guess I just figured that since we did have the same personality we would/might become friends.

[absurd]

My dad says he's an INTJ. We often argue about random stuff and I don't really relate to a lot of his ideas. I feel he's severely lacking in self-confidence and sometimes quite irrational for someone claiming to be an INTJ.

On the other hand, we bond through common interests. I often discover that he's interested (or used to be interested) in some subject I'm currently studying in my leisure time. And we have a kind of complimentary music taste where I discover artists through him and he discovers through me.

I can't remember the last time I had an interesting conversation with him. When I try to initiate a conversation with him about some topic I find fascinating or just any kind of intellectual, technical, or political conversation, he ends the conversation in some abrupt way. It's like he's nervous or something.

[Jenny Penny]

I knew this INTJ girl in college. Well, sort of. We sat next to each other in chem lab. We didn't really talk all that much. I was interested in being friends with her at first but then came to find out she wasn't all that interested in making friends. She seemed judgmental and wasn't friendly in the least. That sort of frustrated me because I thought it would be fun to have a female INTJ friend.

I think, in your situation, perhaps it might just take some time or a discovery of a shared interest to spark a connection. There is also a chance that, no matter what you do, it won't matter.

I'm also thinking maybe two female INTJs could bring out competitiveness between them if one is underdeveloped.

[Homini Lupus]

I wouldn't give for granted that INTJs easily become friends. First introvertedness is in the way, and it can bring a lot of misunderstandings. Then, both are Js, and if one opens up, the other may think it's too aggressive or fake or that you're wasting his time.

[ScurvyRose]

You are friends! That is just how it is!

[mind_wander]

Having a personality that is classified in being in only 1% of the population I find myself interested in other INTJ's like myself.

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we both have the same personality and IQ (which is remarkable, I think). I met his family and his mother and sister are also INTJ's.

I get along with his mother, but his sister Michelle is very hard to get along with. She is a lead chemist for a pharmaceutical company and I really don't think she thinks she can do no wrong. A workaholic (which my boyfriend and I are also) she is just high strung and very opinionated.

Now, being an INTJ myself I can understand allot of her anger, frustration and what its like being a woman with the same personality.

I guess I just figured that since we did have the same personality we would/might become friends.

My INTJ bro is going into the pharmaceutical field and a workaholic; I can understand his frustrations and tries to hide it away from people to blend in. We both are Intj's going through the competitiveness, who's on top at times? Since this situation is somewhat similar to me, so my advice is pretty much be upfront with everything and don't hide anything; it shows dishonesty. Back up your statements with facts! and the other INTJ mannerisms listed on this forum. If you follow this, then there wouldn't be any big problems.

[replicant]

The girl that is an INTJ and my co-worker. I am nice to her. I am even respectful to her even after the crap she pulled with another co-worker (who has left) on me. I am like this because no matter what people do to me, I am not going to stop being who am I for them. I am undaunted. However nice I am with her and sometimes kind and giving - I don't want to be her friend. She's very judgmental, callous at times, sometimes manipulative, extremely picky and not at all easy-going, slightly arrogant and haughty, and also, she lacks social reciprocity. Sometimes she acts nice but I swear it seems so fake when compared to her general behavior. So, that's an example of two INTJ women not meant to be friends.

I get along with guys VERY well. My husband and a good portion of my male friends are INTJs with a few E's in there too.