Hello etc.

[Elalyr]

Asking an INTJ to introduce herself to the group is like asking an ENFP to sit quietly and listen. ;)

I am 33 years old, living in central Kentucky, and about to get married for the first time. What can I say...I'm choosy. The man that I picked as The One is literate, caustically funny...oh heck, the main thing is he's another INTJ. We lay in bed last night talking about a chairlift that we'd ridden that day, sharing technical observations and trying to work out exactly how they attached the chairs to the cable.

For money, I work as an investment account administrator in a financial planner's office. I'm good at it, but bored. For fun, I play World of Warcraft occasionally (though it's annoying that team play is required for the best stuff) and my fiance and I play tabletop role-playing games. (All kinds, but lately it's been Trinity, Mutants and Masterminds, and a rousing game of 7th Sea the other night.) I've had fun geocaching and hope to do more when this darn wedding planning is finished. I'd like to get back into karate. That' another thing I'll do once the wedding is in the past.

That's all the news that fit to print, methinks.

[bikerscars]

Asking an INTJ to introduce herself to the group is like asking an ENFP to sit quietly and listen. ;)

I am 33 years old, living in central Kentucky, and about to get married for the first time.



marriage...

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh run as fast as you can :yuck:














j/k

best of luck

[Jezebel]

Welcome!

Okay, I'm really curious since you say you're getting married to another INTJ. What type of wedding ceremony are the two of you planning and how many people are going to be there?

[bikerscars]

let me guess...eloping

5 people; bride, groom, best man, maid of honor, and justice of the peace

ahh... the perfect wedding party

[Firelie]

let me guess...eloping

5 people; bride, groom, best man, maid of honor, and justice of the peace

ahh... the perfect wedding party

Heh, that actually sounds pretty good. My mom just about choked me when I mentioned that I'd probably elope if I got married.

But anyway, welcome Elalyr. Your display name reminds me of elves. ^_^

[rwyatt365]

Welcome to the forum!

And don't let those others scare you off - I've done it twice and I'm still alive and sane *:mad: sort of.

[Elalyr]

Okay, I'm really curious since you say you're getting married to another INTJ. What type of wedding ceremony are the two of you planning and how many people are going to be there?

Well, we talked a lot about eloping. However, we decided that the event would be more meaningful to us if witnessed by our close friends and family. Problem is, once you invite the close friends and family, then you get into situations where you can't invite A if you don't invite B, and if you invite one cousin you have to invite them all, etc. As a result, we're now up to 63 guests. I would have been happier with a third that many, but it's water under the bridge at this point.

But we're doing this thing our way. No white foofy dress and no church: we are having this wedding on the top of a mountain ridge at a state park. In deference to grandmothers etc, we are paying for everyone to ride the chairlift up, rather than hiking. (This assumes that the weather cooperates, of course.) To my mother's dismay, I am, in fact, getting married in khaki pants and hiking shoes (plus a fabulous red suede jacket). We wrote our own ceremony; a friend will officiate.

Then we'll head back down the mountain for the reception. There will be buffet food and music, but no dancing. (Well, people can dance if the spirit moves them, but WE are not going through all the "traditional" dances.) Instead, for entertainment, we will have a whole stack of board games. There will be a cake - I'm making the center part, which will be in the shape of a castle. I'm having gourmet cupcakes made, with light green icing and teensy flowers to make a "field" around the castle. Another friend is painting two pewter miniatures for us, which will go on the steps of the castle.

All in all, I think it's going to be very offbeat, and very us. We'll probably confuse a lot of people with our lack of the traditional junk, but I think everyone will have fun. :)

[bikerscars]

good for you...

glad to hear you didn't fall victim to traditions and are doing it your way...

congratulations on finding the person you want to share the rest of your life together

[Tegyrius]

Because I am lazy, I will jack this thread to introduce myself as well, rather than starting my own. I'm the other guilty party in the aforementioned partnership and wedding. INTJ, 32, professional writer (technical at my day job, RPG design on an irregular freelance basis at home). My hobbies tend to have rather short half-lives, but gaming and shooting seem to be pretty consistent. At present, I am rather unnerved at this whole wedding thing and would rather like to have my life back soon.

Amusing anecdote: I actually found Elalyr on a personals site by searching for the keyword "INTJ" with a 500-mile acceptable distance.

let me guess...eloping

5 people; bride, groom, best man, maid of honor, and justice of the peace

ahh... the perfect wedding party
Love, like murder, shouldn't have witnesses. ;)

Well, we talked a lot about eloping. However, we decided that the event would be more meaningful to us if witnessed by our close friends and family. Problem is, once you invite the close friends and family, then you get into situations where you can't invite A if you don't invite B, and if you invite one cousin you have to invite them all, etc. As a result, we're now up to 63 guests. I would have been happier with a third that many, but it's water under the bridge at this point.
Or perhaps water off the cliff, if we can arrange suitable circumstances...

Then we'll head back down the mountain for the reception. There will be buffet food and music, but no dancing. (Well, people can dance if the spirit moves them, but WE are not going through all the "traditional" dances.) Instead, for entertainment, we will have a whole stack of board games. There will be a cake - I'm making the center part, which will be in the shape of a castle. I'm having gourmet cupcakes made, with light green icing and teensy flowers to make a "field" around the castle. Another friend is painting two pewter miniatures for us, which will go on the steps of the castle.
I will note that this cake is going to be made of pure awesome. Here's the mold. (http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product.asp?order_num=-1&SKU=13968250)

[Jezebel]

And welcome to Tegyrius! Very interesting having both parties of an INTJ couple on the forum. I hope you both stick around so we can thoroughly study you and the dynamics of your relationship. ;)

One more question: how long have you two been together?

[Firelie]

Heh, he has an elf name too. Sweet.

[rwyatt365]

And welcome to Tegyrius! Very interesting having both parties of an INTJ couple on the forum. I hope you both stick around so we can thoroughly study you and the dynamics of your relationship. *;)

One more question: how long have you two been together?
Doctor, we've found suitable subjects. Now if we can just get them under the microscope...

[Tegyrius]

And welcome to Tegyrius! Very interesting having both parties of an INTJ couple on the forum. I hope you both stick around so we can thoroughly study you and the dynamics of your relationship. ;)
When you figure them out, be sure to let us know. ;)

One more question: how long have you two been together?
We started dating in early 2005 - the official "we found each other" date is 2/13. I proposed last year on April Fool's Day, and was half-prepared to claim the ring was cubic zirconium and aluminum if she turned me down.

Heh, he has an elf name too. Sweet.
Greek, rather. It started off as a self-reference to a character in some of my freelance work and sort of turned into consistent self-identification on a half-dozen forums.

(I steal from David Drake and derive the names of all of my elven characters from tranquilizers. :D)

[Evalind]

We lay in bed last night talking about a chairlift that we'd ridden that day, sharing technical observations and trying to work out exactly how they attached the chairs to the cable.

I think I knew my husband was the "One" when we spent an entire date eating pizza and discussing HTML in length. He's INTP, but that's good enough. :)

Welcome!

[Rei]

First of all...
WELCOME MY DEARS! *hands a kebob of roasted marshmallows*

Secondly... What can I say...I'm choosy.

Aren't we all?

Third We lay in bed last night talking about a chairlift that we'd ridden that day, sharing technical observations and trying to work out exactly how they attached the chairs to the cable.

That is so great ::)
I'm at a complete loss for words.

Fourth Then we'll head back down the mountain for the reception. There will be buffet food and music, but no dancing. (Well, people can dance if the spirit moves them, but WE are not going through all the "traditional" dances.)

There are "traditional dances" for weddings? :scared:

[More Tea]

At present, I am rather unnerved at this whole wedding thing and would rather like to have my life back soon.


Hang in there, it gets better directly after the wedding. I just got married two-and-a-half weeks ago. Before the wedding, everything was very stressful. Random nightmares, random worrying about dumb details. And all that for a wedding of only 25 people held in our very own living room.

Small was good, but in retrospect, we still would have eloped. Being married is great. It's the getting married part that causes unfortold suffering and torture.

[wise]

Welcome from another central Kentuckian. Hope you enjoy this forum as much as I have.

[wise]

There are "traditional dances" for weddings? :scared:

The chicken dance. The official traditional wedding reception dance. :(

[phoenix]

There are "traditional dances" for weddings? *:scared:

The chicken dance. The official traditional wedding reception dance. *:(


But...but...if they were chicken, they'd never have made it to the reception, right?

[schwartzie]

Well, we talked a lot about eloping. However, we decided that the event would be more meaningful to us if witnessed by our close friends and family ...[so] we are having this wedding on the top of a mountain ridge at a state park. In deference to grandmothers etc, we are paying for everyone to ride the chairlift up....

I think everyone will have fun. :)



This is pretty amusing--chairlifting the grandmas in.

[malefide]

Welcome to the forum to both of you... I was originally from central Kentucky (Bowling Green to be exact).

I hope you find the forum worth your time!