Your Personal Values

[blackpanther]

I've recently been doing a lot of work related to career coaching which has been bringing up the concept of personal values quite often. I am curious. In terms of your general lives, what are your own top 5 values (ex. independence, autonomy, financial security, stability)?

[MONADANOM]

1. First: do no harm
2. Alleviate suffering
3. Prevent suffering
4. Independence (financial, emotional, whatever)
5. Productivity/creativity

[scorpiomover]

Truth.

Reason.

Do no harm.

Help people.

Enjoy life.

[DistortionEngin]

My survival, my joy, and my indulgence above all others

Reason/caution

Disregard subjective and popular opinions the of others

Don't panic

All morals, values, ethics, doctrines, exct. are only guide lines

[Peterviera]

I believe that people should not drink, they should not do drugs, they should not have sex before marriage, or touch or kiss before marriage.

I believe that people need to have pride in their last names, and honor them. I also believe that people should have pride in their heritage and pass on their traditions to their children, along with their ideas and ideology, and should leave a legacy for their children, and their future children, a legacy or tradition that should be carried by the family for the rest of their lives. I was brought up to have pride in my last name, and to honor it by any way possible. Also in my family when someone gets married to someone in my family, they must follow our customs and traditions, and rules.

If a man gets married to a woman, and the man dies, the woman is not allowed to remarry or have a boyfriend and must keep the husbands last name and honor it if he dies. The only time she can remarry is if they did not have children before he died, but if they have children and she chooses to remarry or find a boyfriend, the children will be taken from her, and she will be disowned from the family, and they will never speak to her again. If the man is married to the woman, and the woman dies the man is not allowed to remarry or find a girlfriend, unless if they did not have children before she died. If they do have children and he chooses to remarry or finds a girlfriend the children will be taken from him and he will be disowned from the family.

I believe marriage is the most important thing in the world, and that when two people get married they should be marrying for life, they should be so close to each other that they both know what they are thinking or how they feel without saying anything. I believe that when two people get married it should be their souls combining together knowing that they will always be together on earth, and knowing they will always be together after they die and go to heaven.

Add: I also believe that men, and women should stick to traditional roles in society. Men should be the ones to go out, and work and bring the money back home to the family to take care of them. The women should stay home, and take care of the household and the children, and they should be homeschooling the children. Also the fathers day just does not end when he comes back from work, he should also be homeschooling the children when he comes back from work teaching them ideas, and subjects, and events that he feels that are important in the world. For example if he is a business owner he should be teaching his kids how to be business men and women. He also should teach his kids how to defend themselves.

Also women should be be allowed to talk with men, and men should not be allowed to talk with women. If a woman wants to go out into public she should be with her husband or a male family member to make sure nothing happens. Also she should wear long dresses that come down to her ankles, and she should wear a long sleeve shirt to cover up all of her arm down until it reaches her wrist. The Wife should be submissive in the marriage, but should be in control of the household.

A man should be a good husband to his wife and show her love every day, he should notice when she cleans up the house or changes something in the house. He should notice when she dresses up for him, or puts up makeup for him. He should also give her as much attention as possible putting the wife and family first, above all else(friends, etc). He should also come home everyday, and talk about the wifes day, and how it went. He also should try to be romantic with the wife as much as possible.

The wife should also show her love every day, she should notice when the husband dresses nice for her, and she should be appreciative and thankful when a husband buys her a gift. When he is down or sad she should talk to him about the problems going on, and try to help him solve them or comfort him, and show him the positive side of things. Also she should try to be romantic with the husband as much as possible.

[SirJamesIII]

I believe that people should not drink, they should not do drugs, they should not have sex before marriage, or touch or kiss before marriage.

I believe that people need to have pride in their last names, and honor them. I also believe that people should have pride in their heritage and pass on their traditions to their children, along with their ideas and ideology, and should leave a legacy for their children, and their future children, a legacy or tradition that should be carried by the family for the rest of their lives. I was brought up to have pride in my last name, and to honor it by any way possible. Also in my family when someone gets married to someone in my family, they must follow our customs and traditions, and rules.

If a man gets married to a woman, and the man dies, the woman is not allowed to remarry or have a boyfriend and must keep the husbands last name and honor it if he dies. The only time she can remarry is if they did not have children before he died, but if they have children and she chooses to remarry or find a boyfriend, the children will be taken from her, and she will be disowned from the family, and they will never speak to her again. If the man is married to the woman, and the woman dies the man is not allowed to remarry or find a girlfriend, unless if they did not have children before she died. If they do have children and he chooses to remarry or finds a girlfriend the children will be taken from him and he will be disowned from the family.

I believe marriage is the most important thing in the world, and that when two people get married they should be marrying for life, they should be so close to each other that they both know what they are thinking or how they feel without saying anything. I believe that when two people get married it should be their souls combining together knowing that they will always be together on earth, and knowing they will always be together after they die and go to heaven.

Add: I also believe that men, and women should stick to traditional roles in society. Men should be the ones to go out, and work and bring the money back home to the family to take care of them. The women should stay home, and take care of the household and the children, and they should be homeschooling the children. Also the fathers day just does not end when he comes back from work, he should also be homeschooling the children when he comes back from work teaching them ideas, and subjects, and events that he feels that are important in the world. For example if he is a business owner he should be teaching his kids how to be business men and women. He also should teach his kids how to defend themselves.

Also women should be be allowed to talk with men, and men should not be allowed to talk with women. If a woman wants to go out into public she should be with her husband or a male family member to make sure nothing happens. Also she should wear long dresses that come down to her ankles, and she should wear a long sleeve shirt to cover up all of her arm down until it reaches her wrist. The Wife should be submissive in the marriage, but should be in control of the household.

A man should be a good husband to his wife and show her love every day, he should notice when she cleans up the house or changes something in the house. He should notice when she dresses up for him, or puts up makeup for him. He should also give her as much attention as possible putting the wife and family first, above all else(friends, etc). He should also come home everyday, and talk about the wifes day, and how it went. He also should try to be romantic with the wife as much as possible.

The wife should also show her love every day, she should notice when the husband dresses nice for her, and she should be appreciative and thankful when a husband buys her a gift. When he is down or sad she should talk to him about the problems going on, and try to help him solve them or comfort him, and show him the positive side of things. Also she should try to be romantic with the husband as much as possible.

holey moley. I wouldn't last long in your world

[Peterviera]

holey moley. I wouldn't last long in your world

Hehe not many would. That is why i will settle just for a country.

[Chameleon]

Protect the family, at any cost.

Do what is 'right' by myself and others: Sense of 'right' in constant evolution.

Always strive to be better than myself, no one else.

No matter how good I am (or think I am), I am no better than anyone else.

Raise up the people around me to their full potential.

[blackpanther]

Protect the family, at any cost.

Do what is 'right' by myself and others: Sense of 'right' in constant evolution.

Always strive to be better than myself, no one else.

No matter how good I am (or think I am), I am no better than anyone else.

Raise up the people around me to their full potential.

These are great. Really remind me of my own... of course with my own little twists :)

[CaelestisPeste]

1. Family
2. Ambition
3. Security (financially, physically, emotionally)
4. Growth (as a person and financially)
5. Happiness

2 and 3 will be interchanged when I get older.

[Peterviera]

1. Family
2. Ambition
3. Security (financially and physically)
4. Growth (as a person and financially)
5. Happiness

2 and 3 will be interchanged when I get older.

Glad to see that people still believe in this while most of the majority of the world give up putting family's first.

[CaelestisPeste]

Glad to see that people still believe in this while most of the majority of the world give up putting family's first.

I don't know about the majority of the world.
I'm a first generation American, so to me this is tradition and is required of me. I don't know what my kids (if I do decide to have any) would turn out; I might send them abroad to study.

[Peterviera]

I don't know about the majority of the world.
I'm a first generation American, so to me this is tradition and is required of me. I don't know what my kids (if I do decide to have any) would turn out; I might send them abroad to study.

I will end up home schooling my kids, and teach them how to be business men, and women, and try to get them to start up their own businesses.

Also tradition is something that is rarely passed down now days. Along with heritage. At least it is that way in America, and Europe.

[CaelestisPeste]

I will end up home schooling my kids, and teach them how to be business men, and women, and try to get them to start up their own businesses.

Also tradition is something that is rarely passed down now days. Along with heritage. At least it is that way in America, and Europe.

Cultural tradition isn't necessary required to create a productive and caring person. I think what children really need to learn are more values: honesty, morals, respect, etc. Most Americans find that difficult possibly because they have jobs, no one's home anymore and the TV basically raises their children. Although some children can learn that on their own through observation.

[DeaconSyre]

I had to write a personal credo in college. Never thought I would actually open that file again. Here it is:

The utmost important right in my life is that of freedom. Every one of my ethical and moral views reflects, in some way, my desire for freedom. Along-side my desire for freedom is a skeptically agnostic religiosity. This means that I absolutely cannot believe something is wrong or evil because of anything metaphysical or based in religion. This list of viewpoints will demonstrate how those forces affect my opinions on matters both ethical and moral as well as legal.

-Censorship is evil. It is the absolute removal of free speech even if it's bleeping out a word when showing a movie on a family channel.
-Suicide should be completely allowed. It should be up to the person living the life to choose whether or not they die.
-Violence is not needed in any situation where it's not involved already.
-The advancement of progress should be the deciding factor in the legality of an action where no one is physically harmed or mentally assaulted or abused.
-The idea of races is absurd and serves no purpose other than to identify an ancestry for medical concerns.
-Any form of non-merit based discrimination is wrong.
-If someone intentionally kills someone else they have lost the right to live.

These are just a few of my viewpoints on matters ethical, moral, and legal. They don't generally relate in any way but I feel that they are good indicators of the way in which I think. To me the most important things are freedom, progress, fairness, justice, and peace and not specifically that order.


TLDR;
freedom, progress, fairness, justice, and peace and not specifically that order

[mllebrie]

Integrity, loyalty (to family and friends, yeah, my fam and I are tight, we've had to be), industriousness, ambition, fortitude.

[emrah]

(1) Creativity
(2) Mastery
(3) Rationality
(4) Tranquility
(5) Improvement

[TheStranger]

Innumerable mysteries will be left untouched; there is not enough time nor inclination to pierce them all.

[Paul Siraisi]

I've recently been doing a lot of work related to career coaching which has been bringing up the concept of personal values quite often. I am curious. In terms of your general lives, what are your own top 5 values (ex. independence, autonomy, financial security, stability)?

I don't really think of values as stuff I want. Or if that's the question, then I want to live well, that's about it--not picky about how I get there.

But when I think of values, I think of things I should do. I have three things:
1. Speak the truth.
2. Support life.
3. Learn.

[CyanideSoda]

1. Personal freedom
2. Respect yourself and others
3. Responsibility for one's actions

The other two come and go but I've long lived by these three values.

[Leesh]

Accountability
Responsibility
Honesty
Kindness
Faithfullness

[AnaK]

My personal values:
1. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
2. Judge not, lest you be judged.
3. Live your own life, and let others live their's.

(I can't always live up to the above, but it's my ideal.)

For a job I want:

1) Flexibility
2) Access to fresh air and sunshine
3) Supportive management
4) To be appreciated for my unique talents
5) Some sort of idea about how long the job will last
6) My manager to judge me on my results, not my effort.
(This one is huge. Sometimes my job is easy for me, and I think people think I'm a slacker because I don't appear to be working hard enough. )
7) To not require me to be too detail oriented.
(Secretarial stuff is hard for me. I'm not a secretary, don't get mad when I'm not good at it.)

[Trevor Black]

My values are all focused towards well-being, in one form or another, the well-being of me and of those around me within my reach.