To get a GF/BF or not to get a GF/BF. That is the question.

[Timdotz]

I've been pondering this lately.
The debate: Should one get a GF/BF?

As INTJ's, we have the ablity to choose whether or not we want one, and who we want.

I've heard that getting one is a lot of trouble, makes a large hole in your wallet, and takes up a lot of your time.

Not considering emotional points/factors, please state your arguments and reasoning.

[Aronnax]

...Not considering emotional points/factors...

This criteria is excessively restricting. You might as well start a topic about why you should get a job but disregard arguments involving poverty. There are physical reasons for having a partner but they're trivial when compared to the emotional components.

[TheLastMohican]

This criteria is excessively restricting. You might as well start a topic about why you should get a job but disregard arguments involving poverty. There are physical reasons for having a partner but they're trivial when compared to the emotional components.

Exactly.

Actually that is the main reason why I think it is best not to enter a romantic relationship. It only introduces factors that are best left out of decisions. In my opinion the "positive" side of it is only superficial, emotional, and ultimately troublesome.

No offense to those who disagree, of course. ;)

[Timdotz]

Interesting.

But if we involve emotional factors, this argument would be meaningless or otherwise less meaningful as it would solely depend on the person themself, would it not?

[curiousjane]

I've heard that getting one is a lot of trouble, makes a large hole in your wallet, and takes up a lot of your time.


A Lot of Trouble = either a) you aren't willing to give up any part of yourself yet and therefore shouldn't enter into a relationship, or b) you've been listening to the wrong people.

Makes a Large Hole in Your Wallet = Only if you pick a high maintenance one.

Takes Up a Lot of Your Time = Well ... yeah ... this one is inevitable. But if you will resent this, avoid getting into a relationship. If you can place importance on the gift of this time to a person who understands the preciousness of it and appreciates your sacrifice, hold onto that person as hard as you can.

[TheLastMohican]

But if we involve emotional factors, this argument would be meaningless or otherwise less meaningful as it would solely depend on the person themself, would it not?

I think not. The basic point of a romantic relationship is that both parties feel the same emotions towards each other. Since the attraction is mutual, you already have multiple parties on the same wavelength. I think the feeling of love has a universal property at some level, though it affects people differently. Therefore, when people talk about why they would want a significant other, they are all talking about the same fundamental yearning (not just physically, but emotionally).