What are the things that other people do that infuriate you?

[Big Grizzle]

For example. I have a "superior" at work who plays the tabla outside of work. He is constantly drumming on his desk with little or no regard for anyone else. It is as if he is oblivious that he is even doing it.

He is also completely unable to plan anything. He reacts rather than acts. Generally reacting by panicking rather than applying any sort of logic or reason to the problem at hand.

I have only discovered this whole MBTI theory recently I wouldn't even know where to place him. I do have my own personality type label for him. Which is that he is a f**ktard!

At the moment I am refraining from breaking his fingers. Not sure I can keep it up indefinitely.

What types are supposed to drive us INTJs nuts?

[Doppelbock]

People who drive slow in the fast lane really piss me off.

And overly extroverted people.

[gogurtdynasty]

ooh what makes me aaaaaaaannnngggrrrryyy?

I hate my ideas not being listened to

I hate when i get left angry notes about petty things (like not untying knots)

Music nazis... those people who HAVE to be the one to decide what you listen to

When others tell me an ulterior way of doing things and EXPECT me to do what they say rather than hope i agree with their idea

I also hate being treated like i dont have feelings because i'm an INTJ... i still have feelings i just think about them until i go insane!

I hate when people try to compete for who's more introverted... It's like who the fuck cares it doesn't make you better or worse

I also get fairly annoyed when i write an email including questions and it is not replied to

[TheLastMohican]

Other people interrupt me when I am speaking, and if I don't immediately fall silent and listen to them yak, they accuse me of interrupting them, even though they know that they are the ones interrupting.

Other people arrive late, and if I am not still by the door waiting for them when they finally show up, they say that I am late. (Especially infuriating when it happens routinely.)

Other people throw emotional tantrums during arguments in order to emphasize their statements that I am being emotional, when in reality I am the only calm one.

You can tell from the above list that hypocrisy is really what infuriates me.

[acyckowski]

I have only discovered this whole MBTI theory recently I wouldn't even know where to place him. I do have my own personality type label for him. Which is that he is a f**ktard!

You are correct. He is a f**ktard. The bad news is, you're surrounded by them. The good news is, you know more about them than they do about you.

I agree with TLM: hypocrisy at any level, about any issue. I watch actions to see if they match the words: if they don't, I go absolutely nuts.

[sriv]

I do not get infuriated. I just get disappointed in the inferiority of the other. I get disappointed in myself if I am the person who is in charge of fixing that inferiority.

[TheLastMohican]

I do not get infuriated. I just get disappointed in the inferiority of the other. I get disappointed in myself if I am the person who is in charge of fixing that inferiority.

Having read your post, and seeing your vast inferiority, I am very disappointed in myself.

[sriv]

Having read your post, and seeing your vast inferiority, I am very disappointed in myself.

Rofl. I kid. I am guessing you kid, but just in case. I have never experienced infuriation so I do not know the feeling, but when the time comes, I will.

Anyone can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not easy.
- Aristotle

[TheLastMohican]

Rofl. I kid. I am guessing you kid, but just in case. I have never experienced infuriation so I do not know the feeling, but when the time comes, I will.
I agree that "infuriate" is too strong a word, but I assume this thread is more about what than to what degree. Therefore, for my purposes, things that irritate me "infuriate" me when I am writing about them on this thread..

Anyone can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not easy.
- Aristotle
I do love that quote.

[sriv]

I agree that "infuriate" is too strong a word, but I assume this thread is more about what than to what degree. Therefore, for my purposes, things that irritate me "infuriate" me when I am writing about them on this thread..


I do love that quote.

I just suffer mild inconvieniances as a part of life. I don't whine about them. I have gotten used to getting annoyed.

Yes, it accurately describes the purpose and only rational use of anger.

[TheLastMohican]

I just suffer mild inconvieniances as a part of life. I don't whine about them. I have gotten used to getting annoyed.

Good. Whining is often not well-received here, so more power to you.

(And of course, I am not whining either. My posts are always deep, profound, and excruciatingly mature, without a hint of complaint.)



:laugh:

[Big Grizzle]

I also get fairly annoyed when i write an email including questions and it is not replied to

LOL...I have a close friend who does that. It is irritating because she is constantly giving me sh*t for any typos but seems incapable of discerning the difference between a "." and a "?"

[Xenolar]

Some relatively common human behaviors that truly get on my nerves:

- Overly vibrant displays of emotion (often at the expense of logic).
- A disturbingly absolutist outlook on personal opinions (especially those regarding moral values).
- A lack of what I consider to be a rudimentary concern for personal hygiene (examples including not washing hands before eating, eating food that has dropped on the floor, etc.).
- Unnecessary cursing, yelling, and other erratic behavior.
- A herd-like mentality--an unwillingness to even consider going against social norms and regulations.
- Ignorance, especially in important areas.
- (Related to the above) proclaiming factually inaccurate statements as truth.
- Political and/or religious dogma.
- The belief in astrology, along with many other irrational superstitions.
- Grammatical laziness.
- Hedonism.
- Complaining about self-inflicted obesity.
- A surplus of talkativeness.
- The tendency people have to become emotionally defensive when I make objective criticisms.
- The rejection, whether conscious or not, of the scientific method.
- Oh, the list goes on.

[Vivid]

Usually as long as people can compensate for the ways they irritate me, it's easy to overlook some of the ways they anger me. But here are some irritating things.

1. Being Late - If you need more time, tell me. Don't make me wait for you.
2. Unpleasant Emotions - I don't enjoy being around people with strong negative emotions unless the person acknowledges said emotions and wants to help themselves.
3. Overly Affectionate - If I say I don't want to talk about something, don't persist. I've had a person pester me about not allowing them to love me, and I only knew them for about two months. O_O The relationship ended there.
4. Narrow Mindedness - Fixed opinions are okay, but it's good to respect the opinions of others and not feel an intense need to convert others.

[notoppings]

People that ask for advise then argue how this can't possible work for them without having even tried it.

People who always give up or find negative reasons to never try.

[Coraline]

Breathe.

[Vivid]

People that ask for advise then argue how this can't possible work for them without having even tried it.

People who always give up or find negative reasons to never try.

I would think they have a good reason, but simply can't pinpoint it.

[airshiplogic]

Chewing their food loudly. The crunch of food is alright but overly emphasising the sound is unbelievably annoying.

[Doppelbock]

Oh, yeah, I forgot. People who interrupt me when I'm talking.

[Motor Jax]

the ones that use English Dictionary words wrongly

i mean, i reads the American Heritage Dictionary 2nd College Edition for fun, it's my favorite book

the people i work with didn't even know cholestrol actually comes from 2 Greek words... wtf?




anyways, people who think their banter is more important than anyone else's





oh, i worked with this chick that would speak like 5,000 mph!!! and i constantly found myself agreeing to stuff before i even knew what she was saying... oh, that was infuriating... i'm all like, slow to f^&k down, please!

[ShaiGar]

Gossiping. Cannot stand it.

[pallasathena]

I hate tardiness a LOT! Another one I hate is when someone asks you to take them someplace because they don't have a car and you wind up going to 100 different places instead of the one they originally said they wanted to go to. I had a friend that used to do that to me and it drove me nuts! I finally told her that she needed to learn how to drive and get herself a car ASAP.

Here's one I really hate. Have you ever been acquainted with someone who is always complaining and wants you to commisserate with them on a regular basis? Every time something bad happens, they're on the scene complaining and crying about whether it's about them or not. I call them "misery-chasers". Nothing good ever happens to them and when you try to tell them about something good happening to you, they get mad and say that you're bragging or that you're insensitive. :thumbsdown:

[Motor Jax]

ha ha ^

how about people that work in the checkout that looks like they absolutely hate working there. if they didn't want the job, they shouldn't have applied there

i work with this chick that sighs everytime she comes in to relieve me on the weekends (at job #2), and she'll continue sighing until i am getting up to get off from work. and she displays an attitude that she doesn't want to be there. first off, i'm all like "b!$#h back up, i'm trying to get this passdown finished for you". and second, "why do you work here when it sounds like you don't want to be here?"... oh, and she'll impatiently taps her foot the whole time also, until i get up to go leave... i've only turned to her once after she sighed a few too many times and looked her right in the eyes and told her, "i'm getting this ready to send out", glared at her again and then finished up what i was doing. i think she got the message


*apologizes for seeming a bit strongly about this*

it's just people like that, that really do it for me

[mkay]

I'm hard to infuriate. I don't like seeing people getting taken advantage of, but I'm also annoyed by people who let themselves get taken advantage of. ... I also don't like people who are lazy at work.





mkay added to this post, 6 minutes and 3 seconds later...

Here's one I really hate. Have you ever been acquainted with someone who is always complaining and wants you to commisserate with them on a regular basis? Every time something bad happens, they're on the scene complaining and crying about whether it's about them or not. I call them "misery-chasers". Nothing good ever happens to them and when you try to tell them about something good happening to you, they get mad and say that you're bragging or that you're insensitive. :thumbsdown:

Oh yeah, definitely. I had a friend like that. Always the victim. So I said, hey, you notice how you're always victimized by life? Why is that?

She's probably good and pissed off right now. I'm OK with that, because I figure if my main function as a friend is to listen to someone wallow, I don't need that. ... So that kind of behavior annoys me, but I avoid people like that.

[marcclarke]

What consistently blows me away is that people feel free to interrupt me at any time of day or night to ask me that answer(s) to questions that they have made no effort whatsoever to answer for themselves. Blows me away. I ask, "Have you Googled that?" and they reply, "Why should I? I know you will know the answer" as if that somehow makes interrupting me (and what I was already doing) not only OK, but also even expected. Aaarrrggghhhh! In other words, people who (apparently) have no concept of personal boundaries infuriate me. I have even managed to question some of them deeply enough that they (MBTI Extroverts all) have told me that they can't have fun unless they interrupt me. An arranged time for a chat of predetermined duration (a phone call, a Skype chat, a visit at the coffee shop, or whatever) is so not fun for them that they completely refuse to participate.

[changos]

I hate people telling me what they did (with horror) and me taking side on it (like with my girlfriend) I get mad and after a week I see the girl laughing like nothing happened... When I ask "how can you tolerate this after XXXXXX" and they say "it was a week ago!!"

I just hate when people don't make sense...

[Entropy]

-Bullshit.

-Pretend that they like a person more than they actually do because it's "nice" and they don't want to be "mean", thus they end up leading that person to believe that s/he has a chance at a friendship/relationship, etc.

[ssrprotege]

Generally I control my emotion (or it will be disastrous), but I get angry on certain things..

I hate when someone tries to manipulate me. They seem to see me as one who will get easily taken advantage of - just that infuriates me. Also I get infuriated by asking useless questions to me, especially the questions that mean to annoy me. I have a guy sitting next to me and say, "Hey, have you ever gotten drunk?" "Have you been killed [in spy vs. spy, a water-gun fight, this is my school's grad tradition]?" He has been ignored quite a while, but he doesn't stop. I hate those idiots like this. So, someone who constantly talks to me for no reason and who wants to engage me with small, petty gossips I hate.

I cannot stand ones who are not (intellectually) serious and concentrate on enjoying whatever comes to them. Maybe this one infuriates me simply because I have hard time understanding them. I do my work keeping what will happen in the future in mind - not many people seem to do so. That includes ones without intellectualism.

Of course, as a strong introvert, I find ones interrupting my alone time extremely ungrateful.

Above all, I feel hatred when someone applies my idea in an incorrect context to demolish my idea. I consider it an offence and reveal my indignation.

I don't like remarks with grammatcal mistakes, but those don't infuriate me. Just that I HAVE to correct the errors such as "different than" or "anyways."

[ThunderPrincess]

For example. I have a "superior" at work who plays the tabla outside of work. He is constantly drumming on his desk with little or no regard for anyone else. It is as if he is oblivious that he is even doing it.

He is also completely unable to plan anything. He reacts rather than acts. Generally reacting by panicking rather than applying any sort of logic or reason to the problem at hand.

I have only discovered this whole MBTI theory recently I wouldn't even know where to place him. I do have my own personality type label for him. Which is that he is a f**ktard!

At the moment I am refraining from breaking his fingers. Not sure I can keep it up indefinitely.

What types are supposed to drive us INTJs nuts?

That is pretty much the types of things that annoys me the most about people in general...they have no consideration...they do not think of how something they do or something they say may affect another person..they go on their merry se;lfish way all the day long...never ever seeing the big picture of their choices...

In other words people who do not think any further than the end of their own freaking noses annoys the hell out of me





ThunderPrincess added to this post, 2 minutes and 16 seconds later...

Gossiping. Cannot stand it.

Yeah me too...that is something that infuriates me...it is senseless..useless and has no place in my world...frankly I do not understand why people do it...it seems they do it because they feed off of other peoples' pain and sorrows or weaknesses

[Retz]

I dislike people who are flamboyant about their sexual preference around me.

[mkay]

That's funny. Makes me think of straight men who always brag about how often they get laid. I always think, yeah, right.

[curiousjane]

I don't like remarks with grammatical mistakes, but those don't infuriate me. Just that I HAVE to correct the errors such as "different than" or "anyways."

Oh, really? Well, I don't like spelling mistakes. ;)

[Dominick]

Basically the whole lot of INTJ pet-peeves can be boiled down to one thing:

We _demand_ other people to make sense.

Now you can figure out what a bloody mess this demand is when 80%+ of the people out there are emotional and social junkies rather than logical, structured and congruent xNTx. Talk about pain.

[Merendino]

I'm new to the board, but its good to see others out there as INTJ's.

I tend to really not get annoyed much because I believe a majority of the people I deal with everyday just don't think like I do. Subsequently that leads me to feel like they may not be grinding their gears on as much as I am, so I let them slide most of the time.

But that brings me to what actually DOES annoy me. People's willingness to remain ignorant on a topic that confronts them that is sound and straightforward. Anti-intellectualism blows me away. I can understand that not everyone will know everything about everything, but damnit, don't act like learning something isn't important! And don't call me an elitist or something meant to degrade the fact that I give a rats ass about knowledge. Its counter productive on multiple levels. Truly the most annoying thing for me is a willful disregard for learning.

And one more minor one but ultimately gets me riled up for a few minutes... when someone takes an idea I had expressed and twists it horribly because they obviously don't understand it, then when you re-explain it to them to clarify, they don't let go of their insult/retort to your idea/argument, and instead keep you stuck in the past replaying their moment of triumph over your poorly explained first attempt at the idea. Aggravating.

*Edit: spelling and grammar*

[Aesthesis]

I hate it when people use double negatives when they're speaking without even realizing it, as they try to mean the opposite of what they're saying. Such as "I don't want no help!". IT'S WRONG!

[Merendino]

I hate it when people use double negatives when they're speaking without even realizing it, as they try to mean the opposite of what they're saying. Such as "I don't want no help!". IT'S WRONG!

Haha, that makes me laugh, and forces me to point out their fallacy. Its fun to use logic and reasoning in a completely non-threatening way just to show people how sometimes it CAN be interesting to people OTHER than the NT rational's.

[darkkodiak]

Off the top of my head, people's unwillingness to learn more, especially if it will solve their problems and go on as if there are no solutions to their problems. Also, the disregard for safety when it's obvious or pointed out that they will get hurt.

[SmileyMan]

Arrogance without reason and hypocricy.

I was working in a kitchen the other day (Because of kitchen-duty), when some guy proclaimed himself as the supervisor of the rest of the group, even though he was in no position to do that. He had forced me to start cleaning up the dining hall, meanwhile he himself was just sitting there on his fat ass, chatting with some other idiots - hypocriticising dick. When I was done there, he told me to wash 12 metal plates with burnt potatoes and chicken fat on them. "You're not getting out of here before they're 100% clean", he said, smiling, while building a pile out of the greasy and burnt metal plates. He also told me that I wasn't allowed to use the washer (There was a big "industrial dishwasher" in the kitchen), because I deserved this as punishment for being lazy and never doing anything (Funny thing he said that, because he's the fat fuck), even though the kitchen hadn't been my area of responsibility for months and I therefore couldn't had done anything in the kitchen.

I could've hit him right there, but I'm not a violent type. This guy is the type of guy who doesn't think of intellectual work as "real work" and will end up in a manager-position at some cheap chain-restaurant, just like his father.


Stupid people disturbing me with stupid problems.

I hate it when someone keeps asking me questions that they'd know the answers to, if they had just listened instead of doing something else. "Hey. What was it "a" meant again?" THE TEACHER HAS SAID IT 4 FREAKING TIMES NOW, BUT YOU DON'T KNOW THAT, BECAUSE YOU SIT THERE AND GOSSIP WORTHLESS CRAP. "Boohoo. I just don't get this. WHY MUST IT BE SO HARD? Can't we just play outside? It's summer!" and let us not forget the "*Sigh* I still don't get it.." x5. Maybe you'd get it if you did something else than gossip the whole time.



Please excuse the swearing; I only wrote what I think in those situations.

[mental drift]

With my wife when she doesn't do what she says she is going to do.

With my kids when I have to repeat something more than twice before they do it.

With others, I think I can tolerate obnoxious behavior better than many, but I can't stand an obnox. person who constantly touches, like jokingly pushes or taps or something, annoying.

Plus a lot of other things people do, but I'll keep the reply short and readable.

[TheLastMohican]

I was working in a kitchen the other day (Because of kitchen-duty), when some guy proclaimed himself as the supervisor of the rest of the group, even though he was in no position to do that. He had forced me to start cleaning up the dining hall, meanwhile he himself was just sitting there on his fat ass, chatting with some other idiots - hypocriticising dick. When I was done there, he told me to wash 12 metal plates with burnt potatoes and chicken fat on them. "You're not getting out of here before they're 100% clean", he said, smiling, while building a pile out of the greasy and burnt metal plates. He also told me that I wasn't allowed to use the washer (There was a big "industrial dishwasher" in the kitchen), because I deserved this as punishment for being lazy and never doing anything (Funny thing he said that, because he's the fat f***), even though the kitchen had been my area of responsibility for months.


What a moron.
What kept you from defying him? Does he actually have any power?

[Chainsaw Dundee]

hmm..

Mostly, being imposed on. Whether it be physically, socially, authoritively, doesn't really matter. I tend to get aggressive when people do so.

It really pisses me off when people lollyfuck about, and I lose valuable resources as a result of this. This includes people on the road, people I travel/work with, even myself from time to time. Not necessarily going somewhere without a plan, but due to a terrible performance from lack of focus and direction. I had an isfp friend who was notorious for this, as well as an enfp who was almost as bad.

[SmileyMan]

What a moron.
What kept you from defying him? Does he actually have any power?

I resisted when he told me to wash the floor. I didn't want to start any verbal fight, and he also threatened with going to the teachers and say I wasn't doing what I was supposed to be doing (That would result in one week more of kitchen duty), so I just softly resisted by saying "Oh? No. Make one of the others do it," and he did.

I'm at a continuation school (For social gain. The schooling-part is the same level as the High School year I'd be in now), so I live together with everybody else. I don't want to start a fight with someone here, as I'm near that someone at least 24/5. The guy who was an asshole has a pretty good social standing and quite a lot of friends, so it wouldn't be very smart of me to get in a verbal fight with him.

[EsoteriEccentri]

Eating loudly, refusing to be reasoned with.
Putting their hand down their top. (when girls put their hand under their T-shirt to rest it on their shoulder)
Oooh, lots of things. xD

[Fuchikoma]

people hipocritically annoying me and then asking "why are you mad?"

insinuations to complain about what im doing/not doing. (if you have a problem say goddamnit!)

i know some guy that doesnt like to be interrupted when he speaks. but... sh**t, he doesnt ever let anybody else speak and he interrupts anyone who tries to refute him. that pisses me off bad

[DrEast]

Semantic argumentation. State your definitions before arguing their validity, people! So many times I've seen two people (usually one of them being me) argue intensely from positions that are in perfect harmony.

[ChrisnOrbit]

I hate it when my feelings are tossed aside as invalid. You guys can related right?!

[quest ion]

I hate it when people ask me questions when it's obvious they already had the answer. I guess it's just to get my attention.
I also hate it when people can't make their OWN decisions which ultimately only affects THEM, not me.
I hate it when people asks for my opinions and eventually ignoring my replies. Well, the point of this, I'm still figuring out. Some people just have something missing in their brains I guess.
I cannot stand stubborn people, as well as people who stereotype.

[Aronnax]

When someone asks me for advice on how to solve a problem, I stop what I'm doing, work out a solution and explain it to them several times. Then they proceed to do do something completely different and come complain to me after failing miserably.

[OneHertz]

People who drive slow in the fast lane really piss me off.

This really pops into my mind first when I hear that question. I don't even know why because I usually leave enough time and I am not really late.

[RoyalINTJ]

- people interrupting me in the middle of idea i am explaining saying that they know what i mean when obviously they dont... because the whole point of me explaining something is that there are complex details which has to be recognized before some opinion can be told about the thing i am explaining... brrr that so sick or

- i get interrupted when i am explaing an idea to someone about himself... hes like hey this is boring.. i am like hey you need this pal.. bah its those time i dont even wanna help anyone who asks me anything...

and one last thing... people winning me in some games because they got lucky uhh i know its all me.. but man i hate that you work your winning scheme and somebody just rolls 12 3 times in a row...

[Motor Jax]

the checkout at the register, whenever you hand over a credit card and it is declined, they say, "i'm sorry. it's declined." but they say it with that pitiful whine like you're a little pup and they feel sorry for you

but i usually just go, "good, i didn't think it would have gone through anyways. here's some cash."

[Beery Swine]

People who tell me I'm doing something wrong when they don't even know what the hell it is I'm doing. They think they know, but have no real clue, and can't be convinced otherwise unless you walk the dumbshits over to what it is you're doing, spell it out for them, and present a power point presentation as to why they're wrong.

Without the fear of legal and other forms of retribution they would die by my hands.

[RMacy]

I hate being interrupted or disturbed.

I like to be left alone.

[sm80403]

Yes, certain things infuriate me but the energy to sustain "real" infuriation is so taxing that it generally doesn't last long with me (just move on); I just put it in the memory bank for later use in understanding how to deal with the (schmuck) person later.

1) People who are afraid of "out of the box" ideas and insist on doing things the same old way (and then "Gee, why did we get the same old crappy results???")--and then label you as a rebel without even thinking about how your ideas could change things for the better.

2) People who decide that I am a threat because I sometimes come up with better ideas than them (again, that "out of the box" kind of thinking--which for me is the only way to make work fun). Generally these are people at work that are trying any way they can to work their way up the ladder. . .which is not my goal at work-I just like work!

3) People who say they'll do something, you then count on them for that "something" (projects, travel, parties, etc etc etc) and they don't follow through (my sister a chief example).

4) Having a moron for a boss (not my situation at the moment, thank goodness).

5) The "good old boy" network.

6) People who are mean to animals.

7) Violence.

Like most INTJs, it boils down to I WANT PEOPLE TO MAKE SENSE!

[catd]

6) People who are mean to animals.

7) Violence.



6 can drive me to 7

[Terian]

Bothering me when I'm in reverie.

And this is a pet peeve, but still: People pluralizing abbreviations with an apostrophe. It's INTJs not INTJ's. Apostrophes in this context indicate possession, never plurality.