Masturbation

[Tito]

They always say that 99% of people masturbate and the remaining 1% are lying, but I've always wondered if this is true.

So, let's see what's the case in the INTJ forum community.

This poll is completely private, so please vote.

[SirJamesIII]

vcbncvbnvbn... woops sorry i was typing with one hand :)

[Vagrant]

Some people don't masturbate due to simply being asexual and not having any sexual drive. So I wouldn't say that 1% is lying.

[Janus]

Some people don't masturbate due to simply being asexual and not having any sexual drive. So I wouldn't say that 1% is lying.

I bet they at least tried it. Peer pressure can cause a person to do some pretty irrational things.

[Vagrant]

I bet they at least tried it. Peer pressure can cause a person to do some pretty irrational things.

Sure, they may have tried it, but they may not have liked it or tried it more than once.

[BlackMita]

You don't need a sexual drive to masturbate, unless you need to be hungry before eating a snack.

[void]

Do Dutch Rudders count?

[Zombicide]

I didn't jack off until I was in my twenties, before then I'd whip, burn or cut myself for doing or feeling as though I were going to do anything close, it worked pretty good enough, I'd go for weeks, maybe months, without waking up sticky. I felt so bad about nocturnal emissions. Now I masturbate just about every day, often more than once, some times oddly (if I want to) in the same erection.

When I got my first computer, I avoided pornography like it was the plague to a lesser and lesser extent until I accidentally collected porn from a mislabelled torrent. For the most part, I still hate pornography since it turns out virtually all porn sucks and what I'm looking seems not to exist.

[AdmiralJack]

I'm a fan.

[shytiger]

I'm surprised there are so many once a day people. Lots of teenagers voting?

[void]

I'm surprised there are so many once a day people. Lots of teenagers voting?

In the land of the soon-to-be-blind, the one-eyed monster is king.

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[Mogura]

I bet they at least tried it. Peer pressure can cause a person to do some pretty irrational things.
How does that work? "Hey man, if you wanna hang with us cool kids, ya gotta start spanking the monkey, ya know..."

[void]

How does that work? "Hey man, if you wanna hang with us cool kids, ya gotta start spanking the monkey, ya know..."

I don't think it's that direct. All groups love to have circle-jerks, not always metaphorically. Engage the abstainer in a game of Soggy Biscuit and he will have no choice but to wrestle his eel into submission as soon as possible.

[LaoTzu]

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[JTG]

I have been known to yank the plank in my day

[LifeWellWasted]

Why is this not divided into gender?

[katrin]

^ Because most women won't admit to it anyway, so why bother? :laugh:

[Vulkan]

At one point I was doing it three times a day.

Now generally I stick to 3 times every other day, or every couple of days, because work takes up a large chunk of my time.

Damned work, need a better job... so I can masturbate more... yeah.

[Zsych]

I've heard more girls react with disgust at the idea than guys. There should be separate male/female polls.

But seriously, unless you're super religious or have something strange going on where you're really uncomfortable with yourself, you're probably going to do it some time.
(I think that lack of comfort with your own sexuality might explain fewer women masturbating)

[zibber]

Hells yeah.

Mrs. Costanza: "GEORGIE! Why did you do it?!"
George: "It's there?"

[Judoka]

I personally keep up with the "at least once a week".
They always say that 99% of people masturbate and the remaining 1% are lying This saying is not very correct. You need to not include all the religious gooks who think they'll go to hell for doing that first and also all the people that have lost the ability to get excited because of a trauma like soldiers.
Just need to do a little research and you'll find out that except the people I mentioned almost everyone does it. Most people just don't want to admit it especially girls because they usually get labelled as sluts but they do it too, probably even more than us because they're able physically to cum over and over again rapidly. Have no doubts guys out there, just look at the poll, the vast majority do it and pretty much too. And since this forum has a very high girls to guys rate do the math on your own... Of course even on the internet many people won't write about it either.. just look at comments/votes low ratio.

[Rachminov]

I'm a female and I do it pretty often. I have no trouble admitting it online, but real life is a complete different story.

[deacon]

i'd do it 7x a day if i could. it's not the drive that is the reason but finding time to actually romance yourself.

[Tristan]

When I got my first computer, I avoided pornography like it was the plague to a lesser and lesser extent until I accidentally collected porn from a mislabelled torrent. For the most part, I still hate pornography since it turns out virtually all porn sucks and what I'm looking seems not to exist.

You must have the most extraordinary of tastes. The internet has a lot of porn. For instance, if you're looking for pornography related in any way to your username, it exists.

[elizabeth lover]

so once a day is the cap.... that leaves me unrepresented.

[shytiger]

I'm in the at least once a week category because I'd be disappointed if I didn't have a spectacular orgasm, so I like to let the tension build for a few days in between.

[Seriously]

I'm in the at least once a week category because I'd be disappointed if I didn't have a spectacular orgasm, so I like to let the tension build for a few days in between.

Ditto.

And I have no problem admitting this on or offline.

[Nonsuch]

Yes, what an evolutionary leap it was when humankind developed the opposeable thumb.

[SeaCzar]

I'd do it in public if I could get away with it (kidding). My question is: Why would you not?

[Kmal]

They always say that 99% of people masturbate and the remaining 1% are lying, but I've always wondered if this is true.

So, let's see what's the case in the INTJ forum community.

This poll is completely private, so please vote.
not anymore. it kills my intensity, so no thanks.

[themuzicman]

Married. Sex is much better.

[shytiger]

Married. Sex is much better.

But so much more work.

[Still Standing]

Damned work, need a better job... so I can masturbate more... yeah.

I hear the pay can be good in the porn industry.

I'm a female and I do it pretty often. I have no trouble admitting it online, but real life is a complete different story.

Same here.

Married. Sex is much better.

Who says masturbation has to be a solitary affair? I like the idea of jerk circles or just hanging around masturbating with a friend, male or female. Unfortunately, this seems to be mostly a male thing and I can't see myself doing it with a bunch of guys.

[themuzicman]

But so much more work.

Can be, yes. But so totally worth it.

[Seriously]

Can be, yes. But so totally worth it.

Depends on your marriage.

And masterbation IS sex.

[elizabeth lover]

masturbation and sex barely exist in the same realm.

masturbation= physical
sex= cosmic

[themuzicman]

Who says masturbation has to be a solitary affair? I like the idea of jerk circles or just hanging around masturbating with a friend, male or female.

Meh.. being around naked women doesn't make me want to masturbate.

Unfortunately, this seems to be mostly a male thing and I can't see myself doing it with a bunch of guys.

Agree wholeheartedly.

[Seriously]

My masterbation can be quite cosmic. I've considered marrying my shower massage. :p

[Jon Shea]

No, never.

[elizabeth lover]

but not cosmic in the sense of two becoming one, and one with everything.

[Seriously]

but not cosmic in the sense of two becoming one, and one with everything.

While that is something to shoot for in the meantime I'll stick with my shower massage.

[Anhedonic Lake]

Heh! Seventy seven people viewing the relationship forum right now. Masturbation is such a powerful word.

[Allie]

Married. Sex is much better.

Yes, and with sex/love making and masturbation combined for hour/s long sessions.

[plotthickens]

Jeez, how do you 'never's get to sleep?

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but not cosmic in the sense of two becoming one, and one with everything.

Ya can't have a 12-course meal three times a day.

[reckful]

My only quibble with the poll is there should have been a "No (or rarely), because I'm having plenty of sex with a partner" option.

Not me atm, alas, but I'm just sayin'. There's a big difference between someone who doesn't masturbate (or rarely masturbates) and isn't otherwise having sex and someone who doesn't masturbate when they're in a relationship that involves plenty of sex. I think the former category is very rare (especially among guys), but I imagine the latter category is pretty common (in both sexes).

[mormeguil]

I dont know, even in a relationship I masturbate daily. It's not really a problem to "get it up" later and it's a wonderfull relaxation exercice.

[Ilara]

My only quibble with the poll is there should have been a "No (or rarely), because I'm having plenty of sex with a partner" option.

Aye, this would have been an interesting option.

Considering mormeguil's post above, it might have been interesting to divide up the same number of options as "having regular sex, X frequency of masturbation", and "not having regular sex, X frequency of masturbation".

I would have assumed that people who have more sex do less of the masturbating, but perhaps not...

[Still Standing]

So with all the suggestions popping up (re: gender division, sex/no sex, etc.), maybe a new poll would be in order?

[Ilara]

^Maybe more than one. I don't think that the polls generally allow for a whole lot of options.

It'd be nice if we could get more than one poll in the same thread, so that then the data could be split into basic frequency (this one), then as affected by gender (a second one), and then as affected by the availability of regular sex (a third one). They're all related, so being able to put them in one thread would be cool. That's not possible at the moment, right? ... It'd be complicated though, since there'd have to be a feature that would prevent people from responding to only one (in order to avoid skewing the data).

So, who'll make the new poll? Lol.

[runoverazebra]

^ Because most women won't admit to it anyway, so why bother? :laugh:

It's always seemed strange to me that most women won't admit to it. I have no problem admitting to it. My rabbit and I are very good friends. Of course, I prefer sex. But I was in an LDR for a while, so it was self love or no love.

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Not me atm, alas, but I'm just sayin'. There's a big difference between someone who doesn't masturbate (or rarely masturbates) and isn't otherwise having sex and someone who doesn't masturbate when they're in a relationship that involves plenty of sex. I think the former category is very rare (especially among guys), but I imagine the latter category is pretty common (in both sexes).

I agree with this. It would change the way that I voted in the poll.

[chaostheory]

Slick thread!

And once a day usually, running/exercise mitigates my urges significantly.

[Synchronicity]

Masturbation is enjoyable and healthy. I do it often when I am not engaged in partnered sexual activities.

[reckful]

If a poll can have 20 choices, here's a possible set. If 20's too many but 16 are allowed, maybe the 4 "less than once a month" choices could be cut and "never" replaced with "rarely or never."

The OP could clarify that "partner" means a person with whom you have sex at least, I dunno, once a week? -- and that, for respondents with partners, the frequency part of the response still means masturbation frequency, not sex frequency.

Male, no partner; at least once a day
Male, no partner; at least once a week
Male, no partner; at least once a month
Male, no partner; less than once a month
Male, no partner; never
Male with partner; at least once a day
Male with partner; at least once a week
Male with partner; at least once a month
Male with partner; less than once a month
Male with partner; never
Female, no partner; at least once a day
Female, no partner; at least once a week
Female, no partner; at least once a month
Female, no partner; less than once a month
Female, no partner; never
Female with partner; at least once a day
Female with partner; at least once a week
Female with partner; at least once a month
Female with partner; less than once a month
Female with partner; never

ADDED: My thought was that, after anybody that wants to has had a chance to suggest tweaks to these items, Siso could start a 2nd thread and modify the OP of this thread to add a link to the new one and note that this one has been superseded -- and maybe the posts from this one that don't deal with the survey items could be moved to the new thread.

[Zsych]

i'd do it 7x a day if i could. it's not the drive that is the reason but finding time to actually romance yourself.

Romance yourself... I'm going to assume you're a girl.

not anymore. it kills my intensity, so no thanks.

The validity of this needs to be acknowledged.

Also, I imagine that if masturbation wasn't an option, a lot of introverts would've been forced to develop the skills needed to get more and work on relationships.

[Still Standing]

Also, I imagine that if masturbation wasn't an option, a lot of introverts would've been forced to develop the skills needed to get more and work on relationships.

I think we'd have to remove prostitutes, one-night stands and "friends with benefits" as options too before introverts start believing that they have no choice but to develop their social skills if they want some.

[void]

I think we'd have to remove prostitutes, one-night stands and "friends with benefits" as options too before introverts start believing that they have no choice but to develop their social skills if they want some.

The sheer effort required to develop social skills, combined with the incomprehensibility of human relations (doubly so for sexual relations) sometimes conspire to kill all libido.

[Zsych]

Its not really incomprehensible. Its more acknowledging that its a largely unintelligent, basically animal system, and highly dependent on feelings.

To give a really odd example of the problem. Folding your hands in front of your chest (and thus defending your ribs), makes you a bit more confident and is also a sign of being defensive and closed off to the other person or situation... this gesture has little meaning with respect to normal human interactions in society since people are almost never going to hit you... its actually a primitive kind of reaction that nevertheless continues in humans to this day and has some emotional meaning. The problem is that our sexual instincts are similarly primitive and meaningless.

Masturbation itself is meaningless, and only an option because our reproductive system is too underdeveloped to differentiate between real sexual organs of the opposite gender and any number of other things. You're motivated by pleasure and so you do it. Not because you gained something or had any logical reason to act that way.

[Twix]

Is this for men only?

I voted anyway:P

[Jon Shea]

Is this for men only?

I voted anyway:P

It's for all people!

[mormeguil]

And once a day usually, running/exercise mitigates my urges significantly.

Surprisingly exercice is the other way around for me. It will augment my urges quite a bit (as long as i'm not completely dead from the exercice that is)

[reckful]

Another thought: If there's going to be a new thread (with an extended poll), it might make sense to start it in either the Lounge or the Members Only subforum. Either one would theoretically allow for some additional "on topic" leeway for whatever aspects of masturbation anybody was interested in sharing with the group and, as between the two, the Members Only subforum might make some potential contributors feel more comfortable making full, sordid confessions discussing this sensitive subject.

[LJames]

Can't sleep without it.

[Tito]

Heh! Seventy seven people viewing the relationship forum right now. Masturbation is such a powerful word.
And this is without pics or anyone going into details of the techniques they use.

In that case, this could had become the most popular thread ever in the INTJ forum. :curtain:

[plotthickens]

Another thought: If there's going to be a new thread (with an extended poll), it might make sense to start it in either the Lounge or the Members Only subforum. Either one would theoretically allow for some additional "on topic" leeway for whatever aspects of masturbation anybody was interested in sharing with the group and, as between the two, the Members Only subforum might make some potential contributors feel more comfortable making full, sordid confessions discussing this sensitive subject.


Signed,
Uncle Creepy

[reckful]

Au contraire! Nothing de-creeps a subject quite like a free exchange of views and information in the public square. Or open air. Or something.

What's more, thick one, my suggestion that the replacement thread be started in one of the Community subforums was precisely to ensure that there'd be room in it for rude, bantery posts like yours.

Please try a little harder to be appreciative.

[Nemesis]

I beat my meat like it owes me money.

[Twix]

Idk why women are so against admitting they do it...

[cannotseethe]

Idk why women are so against admitting they do it...

Because whenever they do, some guy says "aww baby, why walk when you can FLY? </crotchgrab>"?

[Judoka]

Because whenever they do, some guy says "aww baby, why walk when you can FLY? </crotchgrab>"?
Yeah don't forget all the losers 30 year old virgins who are like "can I help you next time? ;)".
But to females admitting it it's kinda a taboo, because there is that stereotype that girls should be pure and never even think of sex only until they meet the one and such bullshit....

[Seriously]

Yeah don't forget all the losers 30 year old virgins who are like "can I help you next time? ;)".


Or asking if they can watch.

[Conscious1]

As a female in my 40s, I am happy to announce that not only have I not done such a repulsive thing, I"ve never even thought about doing it much less trying it at least once. It has NOTHING to do with religion because I abhor religion. I just find it to be disgusting and useless. How do I come to this conclusion? I'm an INTJ.

[Undead Bonzi]

As a female in my 40s, I am happy to announce that not only have I not done such a repulsive thing, I"ve never even thought about doing it much less trying it at least once. It has NOTHING to do with religion because I abhor religion. I just find it to be disgusting and useless. How do I come to this conclusion? I'm an INTJ.

Yeah.....the reason you came to your conclusion is...nonsensical. The thread has several INTJ's saying they masturbate and your answer implies that being an INTJ is the reason you hold such a view against masturbation. Do you see the disconnect?

It's fine if you don't like or approve of it and all, nobody is forcing you to stick your hand down your pants, it's just that your answer as to why...isn't an answer and I'm a bit of a troll.

[Still Standing]

As a female in my 40s, I am happy to announce that not only have I not done such a repulsive thing, I"ve never even thought about doing it much less trying it at least once. It has NOTHING to do with religion because I abhor religion. I just find it to be disgusting and useless. How do I come to this conclusion? I'm an INTJ.

Sex without the intent of procreating is also pretty useless (and disgusting to many people,) so I assume you avoid that too?

[Seriously]

Yeah.....the reason you came to your conclusion is...nonsensical. The thread has several INTJ's saying they masturbate and your answer implies that being an INTJ is the reason you hold such a view against masturbation. Do you see the disconnect?

It's fine if you don't like or approve of it and all, nobody is forcing you to stick your hand down your pants, it's just that your answer as to why...isn't an answer and I'm a bit of a troll.

Don't act like you haven't tried to force people to stick their hands down their pants. :nono:

Dirty ESFP. :p

[Savagelight]

Every male should masturbate once per day for health reasons.

[Deliberator]

When I was a teenager I did it daily, for awhile twice or three times daily. One day I did it nine times. Now that I'm breastfeeding my desire for sex is pretty low so I rarely if ever feel inclined to take matters into my own hands.

[Eye on Earth]

Usually someone else does it for me. When someone else isn't around I wait. To me the tension of waiting leads to a much more satisfying climax. More than a month though and I have to take matters into my own hands, so to speak. I just find that option to be so boring when it can be so much more fun with someone else.

[Judoka]

As a female in my 40s, I am happy to announce that not only have I not done such a repulsive thing, I"ve never even thought about doing it much less trying it at least once. It has NOTHING to do with religion because I abhor religion. I just find it to be disgusting and useless. How do I come to this conclusion? I'm an INTJ.
Just because your older than most of the people here and perhaps by a huge gap doesn't make every word you write truth. It doesn't mean you have a clue about what you're talking about.
By the way wanting to touch yourself is normal, if you find that disgusting then the problem must be with you. I heard from sexologists how there are people who from young are were taught that the area down there is an "eww" or "no no" and this thought eventually made them stay away from sex until they were 40 and finally took a treatment.

[Mary Clare]

I just had a weird experience where one of my guy friend told me it was common for little boys to masturbate together. I have never heard of this before. Am I just naive?

[Azmorgrim]

Depends on your marriage.

And masterbation IS sex.

True in a way.
My friend preferred masturbating to sex with his wife simply because he knew how to pleasure himself better than his wife.

[BuShinJu]

I beat my meat like it owes me money.

I punish my dong like I caught it breaking into my house.



Boys
Spank the monkey
Slap the salaami
Shuffle the cards
Polish the soldier
Shake hands with beef
Jerk the gerkin

Girls
Rub one out

Help me out ladies :thinking:

[plushbug]

INTJ female > 50 here ;D and yeah, the taboos against women--er, no, sorry, make that aka "respectable women" as opposed to--? :thinking: y'know, I hesitate to say "sluts", here, because that isn't a descriptor I've ever been able to feel fair, reasonable, or anywhere near sufficient for any of the women I've known, to whom it's ever been applied. But unfortunately, yeah, "slut" is the word I'd expect to hear thrown around any woman in most of the communities I've known, once she's expressed being sexual--or, often, even only sensual--in any context. And then the costs begin to mount in terms of her typically being at least mildly discredited in every public role she plays, and available for shunning by everyone publically invested in being "respectable", as devalued to worthless and no longer entitled to respect in any sphere. With lots of "eww, icky" reactions thrown in.admitting to their sexuality in any context except within the bedroom bounds of a committed, monogamous relationship have been just that ferocious throughout my life, that even today, no, I wouldn't broach the subject of masturbation in public, either. Or any subject touching on my own or anyone else's preferences in sexual pleasure. Quite aside from the fact that as a middle-aged, overweight, and never better than pleasant-looking female, I could count on practically anything I might say evoking the whole "eww, icky" response from anyone younger and thinner in the audience, I'd have to be concerned about professional consequences. And if I were younger and thinner, its potentially setting me up as a target for unwanted propositions! Respond to others' rare broaching of such subjects--sure, when I can't gracefully dodge or remain an observer, I've no trouble being calmly, casually and briefly blunt about my tastes and sex life. Initiate, prolong, or let details into the picture, though--not too damn likely! And about the only difference online is that I feel freer to react--basically, to say the same things, without being socially cornered into it.

So I wavered between the 'at least once a week' and 'at least once a month' selections, and voted for the latter...reality at this stage is somewhere between the two. Down a bit in frequency from 20 or 30 years ago, when I'd have said 'at least once a week' with an option for more, but function remains the same *shrug* and frankly, who in their right mind wouldn't expect it? :laugh: I may be old and fat, but I'm also healthy, happy, and when I itch, I scratch. No big, and entirely my business.

[Deliberator]

Just because your older than most of the people here and perhaps by a huge gap doesn't make every word you write truth. It doesn't mean you have a clue about what you're talking about.
By the way wanting to touch yourself is normal, if you find that disgusting then the problem must be with you. I heard from sexologists how there are people who from young are were taught that the area down there is an "eww" or "no no" and this thought eventually made them stay away from sex until they were 40 and finally took a treatment.

I don't think there's necessarily a problem if you don't like the idea of masturbating. Just don't judge others for it.

I do think it's ridiculous to say that the conclusion is reached based on "INTJ"ness. Rational thought does not determine value judgments.

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Girls
Rub one out

Help me out ladies :thinking:

Roughin' up the clam

[void]

I punish my dong like I caught it breaking into my house.

To paraphrase Good Ol' J.R, "you beat your meat like it's a government mule".

[JYFly]

I'm close to 21 but I still manage to do it at least 3-4 times a day. I think my unorthodox method is the main reason for this (I tried doing it the "normal" way for a while, but I only felt like masturbating about once a day).

[reckful]

Surely you didn't intend to tell us you have an "unorthodox method" that has tripled your frequency but not tell us what the method is.

PS: Don't worry. We won't tell anybody else.

[girlfromperu]

Still living with the rents, I feel I'd do it more often if I lived alone.

[Marcus Septim]

shamelessly

[JYFly]

Surely you didn't intend to tell us you have an "unorthodox method" that has tripled your frequency but not tell us what the method is.

PS: Don't worry. We won't tell anybody else.I was debating whether I should go into more detail because it was potentially TMI. But since there's demand...

When I just stroke the shaft, I only feel like masturbating once a day, but when I'm humping a pillow or the bed with a somewhat full bladder, it's not uncommon to have a few ejaculations per half-hour.

[reckful]

And you don't find there's any inverse correlation between quantity and quality?

Also: I'm at a loss as to what role the somewhat full bladder plays, but feel free to tell me to, um, piss off if that would be TMI from your standpoint. :p

[JTG]

I just had a weird experience where one of my guy friend told me it was common for little boys to masturbate together. I have never heard of this before. Am I just naive?

I can't really say i've heard the same. I discovered masturbation around the age of 13, and while it has been a regular fixture in my life since then, i can't say it has ever been a social outlet. Occasionally done with/in the presence of romantic partners, but never have i "squeezed one out with the guys"

The only instance i've heard any friends mention was one occurrence of 3 guys watching porn together, but i was told the goal at that time was to obtain and compare measurements of their erect penises. I'm not sure if that counts.

[Talita]

it can be so much more fun with someone else.

I do it quite often, but always fantasizing (with a man who is really into me making love to me and all). I feel so very ready to love but quite not complete once I can not fall in love! I mean, it simply hasn't happened to me in a looong time.

(Right now I wish I could be making love...)

[JYFly]

And you don't find there's any inverse correlation between quantity and quality?

Also: I'm at a loss as to what role the somewhat full bladder plays, but feel free to tell me to, um, piss off if that would be TMI from your standpoint. :pThe amount is smaller after the first time, but I can't tell you about the thickness or anything since I don't really inspect it.

Also, I think that since the prostate is under the bladder, a fullish bladder in combination with the humping would end up stimulating the prostate, causing longer erections and more ejaculations as a result. I don't know enough about anatomy to say that with confidence, though; all I can say is that my erections last longer with a full bladder than without.

[reckful]

In asking about quantity vs. quality, I was referring to how often you masturbated (quantity) vs. the quality (intensity, etc.) of the pleasure, rather than the quality of any other byproduct of the orgasm ;D -- i.e., the same trade-off shytiger was talking about in this post. (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)

[JYFly]

Ah, okay. It does feel more intense than usual if I haven't masturbated in more than 24 hours, but I wouldn't hold it off just because of that. Any orgasm that isn't a quickie is intense enough for me, for now at least.

[Rho1334]

Hell I'll admit I do it at least twice a day. Hell there was even one time i did it 5 times within a 12 hour period.

[JTG]

It seems the more free time/boredom i have, the more i masturbate. Not really surprising. Eight times in a day is my personal record, and for some reason it was immediately followed by a week of nothing. It wasn't planned or anything, i just didn't have the urge. The week of nothing is probably also another personal record, unless the first 13 years count :P

[INiTeJer]

I voted for 'at least once a week', but it is generally closer to more or less every day - just not at the moment. i don't know why.

Edited to add: i'm a male and didn't start masturbating until my early 20s. i don't have a great statistical sample, and guys are prone to exaggeration with this stuff, but my general consensus of my inner tribe is that I was a very, very late bloomer. Any thoughts?

[reckful]

I'd guess you're in a very small (less than 5%?; I don't have any statistics to cite) minority there. Did you not indulge earlier because you thought it was "wrong" in some way? When you say you "didn't start," did you literally never even try it, or just not do it regularly?

[ZincLysine]

I hit it off once a week unless there's sex available, in which case its just sex. I would do it more, but I think it affects my athletic performance. So I just hold off. But I let myself get aroused a lot in exchange. Its against my religion, so I stopped for like 8 months when I was a teen, but I couldn't stop having wet dreams. In the end, I decided to do a one a week technical jack off.

[Vulkan]

A slight change on the topic, how long have you "drawn out" a session without orgasming?

I believe my record was somewhere around 4 hours, talk about intense when you finally do "fire" though. My Gods.

Of course, by then you're rather tired, I don't usually draw it out that long, mostly because I don't usually have the time and of course aforementioned tired.

[Conscious1]

I never said my word is truth, so read and reread if you have to. No one ever told me sex whether alone or with another person was a no no. I PERSONALLY find masturbation repulsive and a depraved act.
When I say it's because I'm an INTJ that means to me that MY opinion was studied, thought out, researched and whatever else I had to do to reach that conclusion, excluding the actual act itself. That's all folks, I was not concluding that we all think alike.
I didn't down anyone for doing it, I have caught my son several times and simply closed the door without any negative comments whatsoever.

Again, in MY OPINION it is a useless act.

[themuzicman]

I never said my word is truth, so read and reread if you have to. No one ever told me sex whether alone or with another person was a no no. I PERSONALLY find masturbation repulsive and a depraved act.
When I say it's because I'm an INTJ that means to me that MY opinion was studied, thought out, researched and whatever else I had to do to reach that conclusion, excluding the actual act itself. That's all folks, I was not concluding that we all think alike.
I didn't down anyone for doing it, I have caught my son several times and simply closed the door without any negative comments whatsoever.

Again, in MY OPINION it is a useless act.

<sarcasm>
But you disagree with people who are obviously more intelligent and more experienced than you are, so you must have an invalid and irrational opinion to be disregarded because their Ni is far superior to yours.
</sarcasm>

[zibber]

I never said my word is truth, so read and reread if you have to. No one ever told me sex whether alone or with another person was a no no. I PERSONALLY find masturbation repulsive and a depraved act.
When I say it's because I'm an INTJ that means to me that MY opinion was studied, thought out, researched and whatever else I had to do to reach that conclusion, excluding the actual act itself. That's all folks, I was not concluding that we all think alike.
I didn't down anyone for doing it, I have caught my son several times and simply closed the door without any negative comments whatsoever.

Again, in MY OPINION it is a useless act.

How can you research whether something is repulsive, depraved and useless?

(Also, would you mind actually sharing these insights?)

[jfc]

A slight change on the topic, how long have you "drawn out" a session without orgasming?

I believe my record was somewhere around 4 hours, talk about intense when you finally do "fire" though. My Gods.

Of course, by then you're rather tired, I don't usually draw it out that long, mostly because I don't usually have the time and of course aforementioned tired.

in my 20s I used to visit porn shops, sometimes I would delay my orgasm for up to 6 hours.

[void]

Again, in MY OPINION it is a useless act.

Life is pretty useless too. Doesn't stop people from enjoying it.

[WaeV]

4 to 7 per week

[poetic intj]

Went with "less than once a month" although it's more like 5 times a year.

The reason is that despitewhat western doctors will tell you, masturbation can be potentially bad for males. For women, it's a different matter and as long as they don't destroy their clitoral nerves with over-powerful vibrators, masturbation is good for them for a variety of reasons. But for men, too much masturbation leads to all sorts of issues ranging from liver problems, to chemical depression. This is because for most men, orgasm is synonymous with ejaculating, and ejaculating 5 times a week puts a lot of strain on the liver, and your brain...the places that contribute to building up the hormones involved in ejaculation/orgasm.

I can get by without ejaculating because I have learned to separate orgasm from ejaculation, and have found orgasm substitutes that leave me satisfied. For instance, the powerful feelings that music evokes in me can be equivalent to a cathartic orgasmic release in terms of how my body reacts (there is some kind of oxytocin release or climax when I am really being moved by a piece of music). I am also a natural lucid dreamer, and If I am single, my particularly vivid wet dreams throughout the year provide me with more than ample release and it's a natural way to "keep the pipes clean" without over-straining my body.

[Ky1986]

I never said my word is truth, so read and reread if you have to. No one ever told me sex whether alone or with another person was a no no. I PERSONALLY find masturbation repulsive and a depraved act.
When I say it's because I'm an INTJ that means to me that MY opinion was studied, thought out, researched and whatever else I had to do to reach that conclusion, excluding the actual act itself. That's all folks, I was not concluding that we all think alike.
I didn't down anyone for doing it, I have caught my son several times and simply closed the door without any negative comments whatsoever.

Again, in MY OPINION it is a useless act.

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So you 'researched' it... to me this mean's you rubbed a few out in search of the feeling and if you found it distatestful. so, by my reading and rereading of your post, i feel your only possible resarch could be by yourself, hand down pants. unless you watched others masturbate and tried to deduce the worth and repulsiveness of the act.

[Crazyblue]

@Vulkan- Not really worth drawing it out for a long time from my own experience. I never really set a timer, but when I start getting bored after 45 minutes for longer sessions.

[alphawolf]

I masturbate about twice a week, and have sex about three times a week.

[Ky1986]

Haven't had sex in a year and a half. (depressing)
maybe a quick pull a few times a week.

[Blackwark]

At least once a day. Even while in my relationship, I've kept it up. It's quick, easy, and feels great. And I'm thinking my liver can take the strain (skeptical acknowledgment) since I rarely drink alcohol and don't take any meds.
And I've NEVER been depressed due to masturbating. I find that to be a spurious claim at best. You'd have to be pretty messed up in the head for the relatively light chemical stew your body deals with during and after orgasm and ejaculation. Maybe some people just can't handle it for some reason or other, or, more likely, they get depressed because they think they've done something wrong. I felt terribly guilty after my first fuck. Wasn't my orgasm's fault. My religious upbringing just needed some sifting out.

[poetic intj]

^It's your body, so you can do what you want. Just know that consequences are possible.

For starters here's a brief quote from epsychology.us:

One recently published study reported that 87% of women and 95% of men have practiced masturbation—but when done to extreme, it causes drastic changes in brain and body chemistry. Masturbating too much can over-stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions and disrupt the liver’s release of enzymes that synthesize neurotransmitters acetylcholine, dopamine, and serotonin. Additionally, the liver’s ability to release enzymes that aid in hormone production is affected. As a result, the brain and adrenal glands produce too much dopamine, norepinephrine, epinephrine, and other hormones and neural transmitters.

Second of all, I specifically said chemical depression, which I distinguish from other forms of depression such as existential depression. Chemical depression isn't caused by guilt or some kind of emotional trauma, it's a purely physiological reaction when you have exhausted the brain and hormone-producing glands. You might feel perpetually tired, listless, unmotivated etc.

If you have an exceptionally healthy, and balanced system, then yeah, these negative effects could be lessened in severity if not avoided. It means your body could keep the parasympathetic system healthy.

[Melinda]

Im curious to find out if the few "no never"s have a religious reason behind it or if its just because it isnt appealing, or maybe a different reason

[INTroJect]

1 - The poll needs to be separated by sexes

2 - The poll needs to have a category for multiple times in a day as opposed to just >1*/day.

3 - My record is when I was 18 and ate 2 dozen oysters the night before, not believing the hype about being a aphrodesiac. The nexy day was a Sunday, I was in the navy and had guard duty of an empty building. Every half an hour I had rove duty where I was to tour the building (checking it for terrorists) and would stop in the restroom to husk the corn. I Flogged the log each rove for 8 hours meaning I somehow managed to do it 16 times. The same effect hasnt happened since. Could the placebo effect do that?

4 - I still often go through off and on periods of rubbing the magic genie lamp, although way more on than off.

5 - I am prone to agree with the harmful effects that some believe that it has, im a bit testy after punching the clown 5 times on any particular day, I dont think that its guilt.

6 - If I stop, making like pee-wee herman in a movie theater, I find myself becomming way too horny and suddenly, everywhere I look - I see men's packages. Big bulging crotch baskets everywhere. Sry heteros, not my fault.

7 - I did go through a period of like 2+ months when I completely stopped yankin it and wasnt having sex either. The moment that ended that 2+ month waiting period was WOAH, talk about a flood of pancake batter.

8 - There should also be another poll of lube/no-lube

9 - Why is it that im left handed but feels better to tap the testicle taffy with my right?

10 - There should also be a poll for which hand used commonly and which used for slapping the salami.

[Still Standing]

Im curious to find out if the few "no never"s have a religious reason behind it or if its just because it isnt appealing, or maybe a different reason

I guess I wouldn't find the experience too enjoyable either if I had been caught a couple of times as a child by my mother scolding me with an angry "Don't put your hands down there!"

Out of curiosity, I researched a few forums about mothers' reactions to their child caught masturbating, and I was surprised at the amount of negativity, even when there was no obvious religious background. Mothers don't like to view their children as sexual beings, just like most people don't really like to think that their mother has sex and masturbates too.

[INTroJect]

Im curious to find out if the few "no never"s have a religious reason behind it or if its just because it isnt appealing, or maybe a different reason

I find it strange that most of the people who dont do it, they never explain.

[Still Standing]

The nexy day was a Sunday, I was in the navy and had guard duty of an empty building. Every half an hour I had rove duty where I was to tour the building (checking it for terrorists) and would stop in the restroom to husk the corn.

Oh yeah, masturbating on the job - that is so cool! When I need a break at the office, I sometimes go to the handicapped bathroom to do what I gotta do. It somehow makes my work more interesting afterwards.

[INTroJect]

Oh yeah, masturbating on the job - that is so cool! When I need a break at the office, I sometimes go to the handicapped bathroom to do what I gotta do.

Ah yes. Bless those handicapped bathrooms.

I havent done it much but I also like it when im driving late at night. Ejaculation needs to be carefully planned for but, no need to worry about making too much noise.

We need a thread to research the most interesting places/situations where it has been done.

[Still Standing]

I havent dont it much but I also like it when im driving late at night, ejaculation needs to be carefully planned for but no need to worry about making too much noise.

Yeah, that's cool too. I wouldn't risk driving at the same time, but I do have a very open-minded friend and I've done it a couple of times in his car, with the passenger seat down, while he was driving. And in turn, I drove his car for a while so he could do the same.

We need a thread to research the most interesting places/situations where it has been done.

Yup.

[INTroJect]

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Yeah, that's cool too. I wouldn't risk driving at the same time, but I do have a very open-minded friend and I've done it a couple of times in his car, with the passenger seat down, while he was driving. And in turn, I drove his car for a while so he could do the same.

Hmm. Thats interesting. Gay or not gay? How did the conversation get started on that?

[Still Standing]

Hmm. Thats interesting. Gay or not gay? How did the conversation get started on that?

Not gay and married. His wife doesn't know (about our intimate sharing, not seeing each other). We're both nudists and are used to seeing each other naked when we go to nudist events together (his wife isn't a nudist) so the topic of sex and masturbation sort of came up naturally at some point. I'm not physically attracted to him but he's attracted to me, so I guess this is sort of a compromise where we're having fun together and he isn't actually cheating on his wife.

[INTroJect]

Not gay and married. His wife doesn't know (about our intimate sharing, not seeing each other). We're both nudists and are used to seeing each other naked when we go to nudist events together (his wife isn't a nudist) so the topic of sex and masturbation sort of came up naturally at some point. I'm not physically attracted to him but he's attracted to me, so I guess this is sort of a compromise where we're having fun together and he isn't actually cheating on his wife.

Cheaters.

Well, I dont mean "cheaters" as in "unfaithful to your spouses", I mean "cheaters" as in "cheating the definition of cheating so that its not cheating".

[Sali]

I never said my word is truth, so read and reread if you have to. No one ever told me sex whether alone or with another person was a no no. I PERSONALLY find masturbation repulsive and a depraved act.
When I say it's because I'm an INTJ that means to me that MY opinion was studied, thought out, researched and whatever else I had to do to reach that conclusion, excluding the actual act itself. That's all folks, I was not concluding that we all think alike.
I didn't down anyone for doing it, I have caught my son several times and simply closed the door without any negative comments whatsoever.

Again, in MY OPINION it is a useless act.

No offense intended, but how do you research whether of not something is "depraved" or "repulsive"? Isn't that a matter of opinion based on your own perception of reality? Repulsiveness is obviously quite subjective, I think it would be more appropriate to say that you are repulsed by the act rather than to say the act itself is repulsive, though perhaps I lost your meaning in your phrasing.

[INTroJect]

Sali you could have atleast acknowledged the last line where he says his opinion is that its a useless act. I can only agree with him there. But sex with a condom on is also pretty useless too.

[zibber]

Sali you could have atleast acknowledged the last line where he says his opinion is that its a useless act. I can only agree with him there.

My penis respectfully disagrees.

[shytiger]

Sali you could have atleast acknowledged the last line where he says his opinion is that its a useless act. I can only agree with him there. But sex with a condom on is also pretty useless too.

I agree with Zibber's penis. In what sense is it useless? In what sense is anything in life useful except for the feeling it provides?

[kita]

Im curious to find out if the few "no never"s have a religious reason behind it or if its just because it isnt appealing, or maybe a different reason

There are some women who really can't give themselves an orgasm, and others who are already getting more sex than they really want to be having.

[INTroJect]

My penis respectfully disagrees.

I agree with Zibber's penis. In what sense is it useless? In what sense is anything in life useful except for the feeling it provides?

Ok. I lost my stoic composure for a moment on this one.

However, as I regain my mental facilities I must ask: what is its use? Making babies and exit of waste fluids. So, any use beyond those purposes would be useless? The other purposes would fit in the same category as a Nintento Wii.

While you 2 are awestruck from this brilliance that I have bestowed, I will be over at xvideos.

[palauoriginal]

i do it once a week because of testosterone level fluctuations. Test levels amp up throughout the week and by the 7th day they drop. After release a Test drop is induced.
Yea I thought about it too much.

[DrArt]

Several times a day when I'm stressed. I would prefer a relationship, but such is my ronery ronery existence.

[INTroJect]

i do it once a week because of testosterone level fluctuations. Test levels amp up throughout the week and by the 7th day they drop. After release a Test drop is induced.
Yea I thought about it too much.

I have no idea what you are saying here, but it sounds like it might be interesting. Could you translate please?

[georgiana]

Wow, I wasn't expecting to find such a thread on these forums, lol. I think that the more one masturbates and has sex, the more he/she wants and needs sex. Someone's sexual drive is not set in stone.

Sorry I haven't read the entire thread. :p

[True Rune]

As far as asexuals go, some of them masturbate, but I suppose the reasons are different then sexual people. I've read that they often do it in unorthodox ways and resort to fetishism. I admit I lack perspective so please don't interrogate.

[RedOrange823]

Wow, how did I miss this thread? I voted for the at least once per week option, but it is sometimes less than that. And I absolutely refuse to do it during my monthly Woman's Hell Week (if you know what I mean), and I only refuse to do it during said week because it aggravates me (though some women say it alleviates them).

[LaoTzu]

I think that the more one masturbates and has sex, the more he/she wants and needs sex.

Agreed.

I'll even do it just a few hours after sex. Regardless of whether the sex was awesome or not.


Just a tip for those who may have difficulty with Premature Ejaculation: If you take your time in masturbating, you can train your body to hold off; rather, If you just 'get the job done' as fast as possible when you masturbate, you train your body to not take it's time during intercourse.

I have no empirical evidence to back this up...but think about it....

[Storm]

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[s4nder]

The reason is that despitewhat western doctors will tell you, masturbation can be potentially bad for males. For women, it's a different matter and as long as they don't destroy their clitoral nerves with over-powerful vibrators, masturbation is good for them for a variety of reasons. But for men, too much masturbation leads to all sorts of issues ranging from liver problems, to chemical depression. This is because for most men, orgasm is synonymous with ejaculating, and ejaculating 5 times a week puts a lot of strain on the liver, and your brain...the places that contribute to building up the hormones involved in ejaculation/orgasm.

What are your sources? It's interesting how this information can only be found on a couple of sites promoting different herbal products. Anything from hair loss to liver dysfunction is apparently caused by masturbation. Just buy this salve and you can do it ten times a day with no ill effects!

I would imagine that if frequent masturbation (and sex) were harmful, most of the male population wouldn't get urges several times a day. The brain and body are certainly interested in making you do it as often as possible.

[CoMpLiCaTeD]

I do from time to time to prevent the temptation of sleeping with old partners. They'll call or we will be around each other and they try to tempt me to see how far it will go. Especially if I have told them that I will not sleep with them any more.

[Margaret32]

I started masturbating when I was 9 or 10, with orgasms, several years before I knew those words and that what I was doing was sexual. Frequency = usually 2-3 times weekly, sometimes daily or a few times daily. It depends on how anxious or stressed that I am.

I received many negative messages about masturbation, sex and men from my mother. I am also very private and insecure, thus I am a 50 year old virgin. I cannot fathom being intimate and sexual with a guy, although I certainly fantasize about it a lot. Maybe I will get over my fears someday.