What is your Love Language?

[The Rose]

I have a theory that certains types tend toward certain Love Languages.
I thought I would conduct this unscientific survey to see how it pans out.
Here are a few websites to familiarize you in case you have never heard of them before.

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You can pick a first and second choice if you'd like.

Often your love language is the one you use the most to show your love to other people.

Over the years, I have seen how important words are to me.
Critical words can hurt me deeply,
and encouraging words can carry me for weeks!

Words of Affirmation & Quality Time are my two highest love languages.

[rwyatt365]

Words of Affirmation & Physical Touch;

Tell me I did something right, or good then I'm yours. Do that while holding my hand, or kissing my cheek and you'll have to get out the water hose! :lovestruck:

[Tarrick]

Thing is, is I'm not really sure. Maybe I'm just an emotional rock or something. That and I've never had real reason to explore it.

If I had to guess, it would be Q. Time and ...Dunno.

[qwerty]

Given I've never been a touchy person.

Words and Time is all you ever need :)

[Jezebel]

#1 - quality time
#2 - physical touch

last place - receiving gifts

Quality time is definitely most important to me.

I usually hate being touched by most people, but I'm very different about this with the person I'm in a relationship with.

Words of affirmation was 2nd last for me, even after acts of service. While I do enjoy verbal communication with my partner, I don't like to talk about feelings. I ended up with another rational and apparently, he doesn't either. While words of affirmation are nice, I don't really need to be told I'm appreciated very often. I just know from other signals without being told. I'm fine with that as I communicate similarly.

As for gifts.... we don't even exchange birthday presents or do anything for valentine's day. Random gifts can be nice, and we'll pick up stuff for each other if we happen to notice something the other might like. But it isn't an expectation.

[The Rose]

I'm the same way with gifts.
I have a son whose love language is gifts,
so if I want him to feel loved,
I buy him a trinket or candy or something.
He feels loved.

[Guido]

My dad is an ISTP and would buy gifts for us constantly. Which was ok :o

Quality time and physical contact ftw!

[Rei]

Oh man I've always been horrible at picking out gifts.

I got my best friend mugs for a gift twice in a row... Of course, she really does need a lot of mugs because she leaves them out on her desk all the time... so she has stacks of 7 cups on her desk almost all the time =/

I never buy gifts anymore, and I ask my friends never to by me gifts. It takes so much effort to get somethign practical AND something the person will love. I now say that we will just treat each other to meals. So much more efficient/practical.

[Jezebel]

I now say that we will just treat each other to meals. So much more efficient/practical.
Yes, my circle of friends generally does the same thing. I haven't bought anyone 'formal' gifts in years.

[StJimmy]

words and touch. my wife and i don't even buy each other birthday or christmas presents. i mostly let her handle any gifts purchased for other people.

[The Rose]

Oh man I've always been horrible at picking out gifts.

I got my best friend mugs for a gift twice in a row... Of course, she really does need a lot of mugs because she leaves them out on her desk all the time... so she has stacks of 7 cups on her desk almost all the time =/

I never buy gifts anymore, and I ask my friends never to by me gifts. It takes so much effort to get somethign practical AND something the person will love. I now say that we will just treat each other to meals. So much more efficient/practical.Same here.
I hate it so much,
I'm already beginning to dread Christmas!
It's just another exercise to point out what a loser I am at buying gifts for people.
We have 25 family members on our Christmas list-
most of them children.




My dad is an ISTP and would buy gifts for us constantly. Which was ok :o

Quality time and physical contact ftw!My ISTP son likes gifts.
My ISTP husband's love language is acts of service.

If only I could just keep the house tidy... sigh

[rwyatt365]

Same here.
I hate it so much,
I'm already beginning to dread Christmas!
It's just another exercise to point out what a loser I am at buying gifts for people.
We have 25 family members on our Christmas list-
most of them children.
I dread Christmas too, but I cut out the gift-giving years ago. Of course, now I'm the Scrooge *>:(

[Jezebel]

My ISTP son likes gifts.
My ISTP husband's love language is acts of service.

You mentioning your son made me notice that for me, my preferred love language would not be the same for my family as it is for my romantic partner.

For them, I'd say it is something more like:
acts of service
quality time
giving gifts
and a tie for last between words of affirmation and touch

I guess because my ties to family doesn't necessarily mean I have things in common with them, and I don't want to be around them a lot. I try to do things for them to show I care, and will occasionally get them stuff. I'm very uncomfortable showing affection outside of my relationship, and that includes family.

[Unknown]

Quality time and touch!! Words hit the middle ground. Gifts and Service...not so much.

[acyckowski]

Touch and acts of service.

Gifts and quality time I get, but words of affirmation for an INTJ? I shudder.

[ElstonGunn]

Gifts and quality time I get, but words of affirmation for an INTJ? I shudder.

I don't really understand gifts. They were in a tie with words of affirmation for dead last.

My two highest were quality time and physical touch. That seems kind of odd for an INTJ. Usually it's more like, "Leave me alone... and don't touch me." But then again, love in general seems pretty odd to me. I guess I'll just think of it as a good thing that I'd enjoy doing a bunch of seemingly weird things if I was that fond of somebody.

[Merle]

I got Acts of Service first and Words of Affirmation second.
Acts of service sounds horrible! - Like I like to be waited on hand and foot!

Edit: ahh, ok, I just read what you wrote at the top about how often it's about how you show your love to other people... that makes more sense now.

[ssfanatic]

Score Love Language
0 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
4 Receiving of Gifts
10 Acts of Service
8 Physical Touch

You can say anything, but most likely i wont give a shit. Words are cheap.

[Haphazard]

Highest were physical touch 10, quality time 9, and acts of service 8.

Most of the time all I want an hour to lean on a friend's shoulder. That's it.

[Aurelia]

Score Love Language
6 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
2 Receiving of Gifts
6 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch

It's important to me how someone expresses affection in their actions and words. Definitely prefer touch above anything else however.

[Solaris]

Well, here's what the test said:

5 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
9 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch

I'm not sure about the test. There seemed to be a lot of gifting questions paired with choices I wouldn't normally make. I do like getting gifts, but it's not the most important thing in the world. Certainly spending quality time together is important, that's probably accurate in being top in my list. While not very touchy feely normally, I'm more so in a relationship.

[AliciaS2R]

Score Love Language
5 Words of Affirmation
2 Quality Time
6 Receiving of Gifts
12 Acts of Service
5 Physical Touch

[ginandsour]

9 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
2 Receiving of Gifts
5 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch

[asongforgrace]

11 Quality Time
7 Physical Touch

- which isn't inaccurate, but I'm not very touchy-feely with anyone other than a partner, so I tend to express my love for others firstly with quality time, but secondly with acts of service or (attempted) gifts

[Pinkie]

I got the same scores on touch, acts of service and quality time. I guess I'm a polyglot.

[Nausved]

Words of Affirmation: 6
Quality Time: 10
Receiving of Gifts: 0
Acts of Service: 4
Physical Touch: 10

The others are nice, too, though—except for gifts. If you give me a gift, you have to convince me that you do it because you want to, not because you feel obligated or because you're trying to get something from me.

[vaguely dissatisfied]

Honestly, very few of the these 5 things are what does it for me. What I crave the most from my partner as an affirmation of his love is his attempts to understand and accept me by truly listening to what I say, making the effort to understand what I need and want, and then acting on that.

[ElstonGunn]

If you give me a gift, you have to convince me that you do it because you want to, not because you feel obligated or because you're trying to get something from me.

You mean you don't like it when someone tries to buy your attention/affection/love? :p


Honestly, very few of the these 5 things are what does it for me. What I crave the most from my partner as an affirmation of his love is his attempts to understand and accept me by truly listening to what I say, making the effort to understand what I need and want, and then acting on that.

That's probably the ideal. I scored highest on quality time and physical touch, but it would be very easy for someone to give me too much of either of those things. It would help (to put it lightly) if she understood that.

[PRBori]

Profile Results
Score Love Language
6 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
3 Receiving of Gifts
6 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch

How someone express himself is important to me, but nothing better than expending quality time together which compliments the other three: Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Words of Affirmation.

Material Gift have hardly any impact on me. Is not what someone can offer me, is how someone treats me and shows me that he cares that matters the most. A simple "I Love You" and actions to show it matters much more than a gift.

[Kristian]

Presents has a symbolic value. It's a test. Does this person know me? I can get quite disappointed if the present says nothing about me.

And I am very good at giving gifts. I know people’s core needs - maybe because I work in advertising. And I notice little things they say or do and remember them. My presents are also a way of open up people's perspective sometimes – something they must know/have – so we can discuss/talk about it.

On the other hand I couldn't tell the birthday date of any one - not even my family. I don't care about birthdays - only Christmas.

3 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
7 Receiving of Gifts
2 Acts of Service
11 Physical Touch

[vaguely dissatisfied]

You mean you don't like it when someone tries to buy your attention/affection/love? :p




That's probably the ideal. I scored highest on quality time and physical touch, but it would be very easy for someone to give me too much of either of those things. It would help (to put it lightly) if she understood that.
Oh.........I like it when they try to buy me.........but, ideally...............

Yeah, I'm getting way to much touch and not enough contact. Listening is great, but not with a vacant stare.

[spiritdetectivegirl]

7 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
2 Receiving of Gifts
6 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch


Sounds about right.

[JTG]

I'm strongly physical, with service and time almost tied after that. Words mean little to me, and gifts go almost unnoticed other than if somebody feeds me, which i see as more hospitality (service) than gift.

[PortInStorm]

This is so difficult for me. I know I really need touch from my husband and a sense that he's proud of me/likes me (so words of affirmation).

But what's not on there is
- revealing, in-depth, satisfying conversation,
- a sense that they know you so well they can almost read your mind, an emotional connection
- paying attention to you,
- and a real caring from them (asking if you're OK, doing what you need them to do whether that's staying home for the night, giving a back rub, or getting the rest of the groceries etc)

[eMachine]

This is so difficult for me. I know I really need touch from my husband and a sense that he's proud of me/likes me (so words of affirmation).

But what's not on there is
- revealing, in-depth, satisfying conversation,
- a sense that they know you so well they can almost read your mind, an emotional connection
- paying attention to you,
- and a real caring from them (asking if you're OK, doing what you need them to do whether that's staying home for the night, giving a back rub, or getting the rest of the groceries etc)

I agree.

9 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
2 Receiving of Gifts
9 Acts of Service
2 Physical Touch

I think I scored highly for Acts of Service more as wishful thinking than how much it really means to me. My husband isn't that helpful around the house. :p

[SeaCzar]

4 Words of Affirmation
11 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
7 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch

I think someone needs to come up with a better test for this. Physical touch? Me? Ah, let me think about this....ah, NO!!

[Nekocatz]

Score Love Language
6 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
4 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch

sweet?

[creativeRhino]

quality time by a big margin then
acts of service then
touch then
words of affirmation

[DeadSpace]

5 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
6 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch

[drjones013]

Profile Results
Score Love Language
6 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
8 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch

I found the test to be highly SJ/NF biased in both wording and choice. The main problem with the test was the author's lack of divisive choices, most questions lacked the dichotemy necessary to properly assess preference. This was probably because of the way that the author qualified the love language; it could have been avoided by creating a scenario/multiple choice set up.

... that having been said, yeah, quality time is pretty important. Words of Affirmation, though? Please, I'm dating an INTJ. We're NT's, we don't have time for "I love you honey" every day/week//

[Duncan Cade]

Words of Affirmation & Physical Touch;

Tell me I did something right, or good then I'm yours. Do that while holding my hand, or kissing my cheek and you'll have to get out the water hose! :lovestruck:

Same results here. Gifts ended up last.

[Antares]

Score Love Language
4 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
6 Receiving of Gifts
1 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch

I don't need your words of affirmation. My own is enough.
I like quality time.
I don't need your gifts.
I don't need you to do stuff for me. I'm not handicapped.
I hate it when you touch me for no good reason. Hands off!

:yuck: I don't agree with most of the choices, but I had to pick the lesser of the two evils. Greetings everyone. This is how (un)romantic I am. I feel a bit disgusting now... Have to go rinse off. *runs to piano and starts practicing*

[Kfbr]

3 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
7 Acts of Service
12 Physical Touch

I do enjoy the touch of my female companions :]

[Sesquipedalian]

It is fascinating how alike INTJs are in so many ways, yet how different we are in our love languages. I've known for along time that I have a strong need for physical touch, and I indeed scored highest on it. Good hugs (none of that "side-hug" crap), massages, even literally just being touched on the arm by someone I care about can really send a jolt of energy through me.

I also need words of affirmation from those I care about, because I'm so hard on myself to begin with that I don't need others beating me up as well.

Quality time, gifts, and acts of service scored relatively low. My quality time is typically spent alone, gifts are nice, but I usually know what I want (It's hard to genuinely surprise me with something I would actually buy myself), and I don't want anyone's help with most things because much of the time it's a one-man job and I know how to most efficiently do it myself.

[UnknownEntity]

3 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
5 Receiving of Gifts
3 Acts of Service
11 Physical Touch

[PortInStorm]

I need physical touch a lot too. One thing I loved about my female best friend was that she wasn't afraid to be a toucher with a fellow female, plus she was very encouraging. So see, SJs aren't all bad!

[pallasathena]

Words of affirmation- 6
Quality Time- 9
Receiving Gifts- 3
Acts of Service- 9
Physical Touch- 3

It seems to be accurate. I'm not a big touchy-feely person. Gifts are nice, but not necessary. I value the gift of one's quality time and service more than material things. It may be trite, but the best things in life really are free.

[HappyMondays]

As it happens, I just finished this book. FYI on the book, you "get" the idea after the first ten minutes and the guy goes on about it f-eva.

Anyway, Words of Affirmation.

My wife: Acts of Service - cuz, like all women, she just wants to sit on her butt and let someone else do the work.


I kid, I kid.

[PortInStorm]

Good, 'cause I was gettin out the ol' battleax! :-)

[Elfrun]

Thought I'd resurrect this...

Score Love Language
10 Quality Time
8 Physical Touch
5 Words of Affirmation
5 Receiving of Gifts
2 Acts of Service

[seoa]

where are the scores coming from? am i missing some entirely obvious link somewhere :)

[Elfrun]

where are the scores coming from? am i missing some entirely obvious link somewhere :)

Try the second link ;)

[paradanmellow]

Score Love Language

6 Words of Affirmation
6 Quality Time
2 Receiving of Gifts
8 Acts of Service
8 Physical Touch


XD

[seoa]

doh! found it now. it's amazing the difference it makes when you actually click on the little "1" when you want to view the first page of a thread.... :)

Score Love Language
11 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
2 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch

Spend lots of time, telling me how great i am, and i'll do pretty much anything for you :)

The gifts & service would have been zero just for themselves, but in a couple of the questions they were tied into quality time (i only like gifts when someone's spent time thinking what i'd like, otherwise i find them meaningless - and having someone come round to help with a household-project is more about the time they're spending than what they're doing).

[Bioplasmoid]

Mine is (suprisingly to me):

6 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
3 Receiving of Gifts
5 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch

I love physical touch and chose that over other options plenty of times, though not always. Question no.29 really cracked me up with option 2. Classic!

[Headstrong]

Score Love Language
6 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
2 Receiving of Gifts
5 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch

[Erika Redmark]

Mine are quality time (11) and words of affirmation (8).

[Max]

Quality Time - 10
Acts of Service - 9
Receiving of Gifts - 5
Words of Affirmation - 4
Physical Touch - 2

[INtPagan]

Score Love Language
6 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
3 Acts of Service
11 Physical Touch

That wasn't a huge mystery to me.

[seoa]

hmmm.... couldn't help myself, i was curious.... gotta "feeling" that QT & PT as a pair was being mentioned quite often

total INTJs listing their scores: 31 (i ignored scores from people like me :))

of those:
top 2 items = "quality time & touch": 12
gifts explicitly mentioned as zero, or lowest score: 13

everything else was pretty randomly scattered...
3 each went for "quality time + words of affirmation"
3 more for "words & touch"
3 more just for "quality time" (nothing else scoring that close)
3 more for just "touch"

not one person had "gifts" in their top 1 or top 2, the other four languages were picked by 1 or 2 people, making up the 31.

and since of those who had "touch" listed in their top 2 sometimes expressed doubt as to its correctness for them... i think we can safely say there's no definite link between MBTI and GC's love langs.

quel surprise! :)

[ssrprotege]

Score Love Language
5 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
6 Receiving of Gifts
9 Acts of Service
1 Physical Touch

[Malotis]

7 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
3 Receiving of Gifts
6 Acts of Service
5 Physical Touch

[Lupin]

Score Love Language
6 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
5 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch

An interesting tie between Quality Time and Physical Touch..... can't help being a passionate creature, just need to know that there's enough quality time together to allow that to happen!

Was a little surprised but upon reflection, if the hat undeniably fits then.......

[ChrisM]

I took the test yesterday, and it said my top two (almost even) were quality time and physical touch.

In all honesty, though, it depends on the person and the type of relationship when it comes to love languages. I value quality time when we are going the right thing, I value physical when it's with the right person/right way/right time, and I value words of affirmation usually only when someone is tying to understand me (I usually don't ever need compliments... unless I did a really great job and I would appreciate being noticed).

There are just so many instances that differ. The test is as right as it can be, but it sure feels like an over-simplification.

[athenian200]

Hmm... not sure between Words of Affirmation and Quality Time, both are important. I appreciate acts of service deeply, but don't naturally see them as necessary for caring. I certainly like touch, but it's not a big deal. Gifts seem too materialistic in closer relationships (although they're a nice gesture from people I'm not close to), and make me feel like I'm being bribed to care about the person, which can actually make me feel further away from them.

EDIT: Just noticed the test. Scores similar to my anticipations...

9 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
8 Acts of Service
5 Physical Touch
0 Receiving of Gifts

[AutisticCuckoo]

#1 - physical touch (a score of 12 on that one!)
#2 - quality time

Receiving of gifts got a score of 0.

Can you tell I really miss someone to cuddle with? :)

[Chisos]

Score Love Language
4 Words of Affirmation
11 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
8 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch

Notwithstanding this, Physical Touch is important for me.

If I end up having all that Quality Time, hey, we gotta be touching. Right?

[foroneonly]

6 Words of Affirmation
11 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
5 Acts of Service
8 Physical Touch

[Andantino]

Score Love Language
2 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
8 Receiving of Gifts
9 Acts of Service
2 Physical Touch

[kizuki]

9 Quality Time
8 Physical Touch

[iuniperus]

10 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
4 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch





iuniperus added to this post, 2 minutes and 8 seconds later...

Wait... INTJs need words of affirmation?! You guys sure don't seem to give it as much as you'd like to get it... :sulk:

[bricklayer]

I don't have one. I love people for who they are.

[Shaz]

6 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
4 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch

not very original :)

[Seppuku Savant]

5 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time

[iMiki]

Quality time and Physical Touch were both tie.

If I have a partner, I would spend a lot of quality time with him.
At first, I'll be uncomfortable with that touchy thingy. Once I fully trust my partner, then I'm ok with it. :)

I like Words of Affirmation too. It's my second highest.

[Linwenilid]

9 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch

I'm surprised that Quality Time got a 6; I guess I have to stop asking him to pick up his clothes... :P

[VeridisQuo]

10 Physical Touch
9 Quality Time
7 Acts of Service
3 Words of Affirmation
1 Receiving of Gifts

I think it is really accurate in my case....gifts are only material stuff and the best gift you can do to someone you love is time. I really feel the love of someone when I touch her or look closely at her (eyes). Words can be meaningless is they are not proven in everyday actions and through the time I spend with the person I love. Words and gifts are not essential to describe or prove a feeling than sometime i have a hard time putting words on...

[kansuke]

Interesting! I'll recommend this test to my future gf.

my result is:

Words of Affirmation 8
Quality Time 10
Receiving Gifts 2
Acts of Service 6
Physical Touch 4

[NephilimAzrael]

5 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
8 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch

Physical I certainly am.

[imposter]

5 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
4 Acts of Service
12 Physical Touch

[Cocoa]

Must have been in that mood or something. Basically here is the quiz:
To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Please select your love language from the POLL once you are done :)
Select more the 1 if so applies.

My results:
Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 7
Physical Touch: 6
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 2

[Freedom Geek]

Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Seriously]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 8
Acts of Service: 5
Physical Touch: 5

[Plane Stress]

Quality Time:9
Physical Touch:8
Receiving Gifts:6
Words of Affirmation:6
Acts of Service:1

*shudder* I don't think I believe in any of the stuff they asked.

[Hjordis]

Quality Time:9
Physical Touch:8
Receiving Gifts:6
Words of Affirmation:6
Acts of Service:1

*shudder* I don't think I believe in any of the stuff they asked.
Agreed. On at least 70% of them I didn't want to pick either choice, and my results don't seem right now.

Acts of Service: 9
Quality Time: 9
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Clockwork]

Your primary love language is probably
Words of Affirmation.

Your secondary love language is probably
Physical Touch.

Compliments and Kisses <3

Words of Affirmation: 11
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 4
Quality Time: 4
Receiving Gifts: 2

[dalidaisy]

I didn't like a lot of the choices, either...

Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 8
Words of Affirmation: 8
Physical Touch: 3
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Autoptic]

Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 7
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

Of course, all is theory.

[Harmony]

Your primary love language is probably
Acts of Service
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Acts of Service: 10
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 7
Receiving Gifts: 3
Physical Touch: 2

I think this is the most difficult test I've done on here... Hardly any of those answers fit me...

[probity]

Your primary love language is probably
Acts of Service
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Acts of Service: 8
Physical Touch: 8
Quality Time: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Merle]

I did this once before when I was in a different relationship than now, one which wasn't particularly pleasant - then I got Acts of Service first and Physical Touch last.

These are my results now :) :

Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 5
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 3

What a difference actually liking someone makes lol!

[Ntwadumela]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 5
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

It's definitely true that I wish to touch people (to show I care, because the words often fail me. The words usually sound a little too rational, rather than sympathetic or empathetic). Sadly, I rarely touch others, affectionate or otherwise.

[Shy18]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[intellael]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 8
Acts of Service: 5
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Plane Stress]

Interesting that most of us have one category that is 0 or 1, with most others at least 5. A poll on here would be nice, with options for both lowest and highest.

[Chronos]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 11
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 3
Acts of Service: 2

[SequorVeritas]

Your primary love language is probably
Words of Affirmation

with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Words of Affirmation: 11
Physical Touch: 7
Quality Time: 5
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 3


...like the "probably" disclaimer at the beginning. Makes sense though.

[BostonIan]

Physical Touch, with secondary Acts of Service, Quality Time.
Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 7
Quality Time: 7
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 2
I'd have guessed "physical touch" going in, seems about right.

[Geodess]

Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 6
Receiving Gifts: 0


i should venn diagram these results.. i think there is alot of overlap for me between physical touch and quality time... kolchak tv watching can become quality time with a sweet back rub...a held hand and a random sweet comment

[loosefanbelt]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 0

[DanteFalling]

I don't know how valid these are.

The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Acts of Service
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Acts of Service: 11
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 3
Physical Touch: 1

[towith]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 11
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 3
Acts of Service: 2

[Storm]

Interesting little quiz:

Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 2

[spiritdetectivegirl]

Quality Time: 11
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 3
Receiving Gifts: 3

[SurpriseMe]

Quality time: 10
Physical touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[curiousjane]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results

Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 8
Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 2

This test is odd to me, no matter how many times I take it. Would I rather be hugged or told I'm beautiful? Umm, both please? At the same time? :p

[QuintessentialI]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 9
Physical Touch: 6
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[WratSpa]

Your primary love language is probably:
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being:
Words of Affirmation


Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 8
Physical Touch: 6
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Mogura]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 4
Acts of Service: 2

Invalid test. No mention of chocolate whatsoever...

[Tookie]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.


Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 8
Acts of Service: 7
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 2

Not surprising at all.

[lamplighter]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1

[ssrprotege]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 9
Acts of Service: 7
Receiving Gifts: 3
Physical Touch: 1

[Rho1334]

5 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
10 Acts of Service
5 Physical Touch

[paleoeco]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch


Complete set of results
Quality Time: 12
Physical Touch: 8
Acts of Service: 6
Receiving Gifts: 2
Words of Affirmation: 2

[Nuzke]

Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 8
Physical Touch: 5
Words of Affirmation: 3
Receiving Gifts: 2

[Cerridwyn]

The Five Love Languages
My primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Acts of Service: 7
Quality Time: 7
Receiving Gifts: 5
Words of Affirmation: 1

Interestingly enough I am a gifter. But the physical touch is right for me

[nosarama]

Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 3
Receiving Gifts: 1

[randuincanus]

Acts of Service: 12
Quality Time: 8
Receiving Gifts: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Physical Touch: 0

[SummerSky]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Words of Affirmation: 9
Physical Touch: 6
Acts of Service: 2
Receiving Gifts: 2

I wish they had a third option since I often couldn't really decide.

[qwerty]

The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 12
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 6
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[abski83]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 8
Words of Affirmation: 2
Receiving Gifts: 1

:)

[qwerty]

;):cool:

You sound perfect Abski

[Amphorian]

Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 8
Acts of Service: 7
Receiving Gifts: 2
Words of Affirmation: 2

[SimplyOtter]

Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 8
Physical Touch: 7
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1


:) of course. it makes sense to me.

[Pupton]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Acts of Service: 8
Quality Time: 7
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[coffeeloverfreak]

Quality Time and Physical Touch were mine.

But yegawds, some of those questions? Sheesh! What's with all the gift stuff anyway? I got a 0 on the gifts one, I think. I couldn't care less if someone buys me gifts.

And why are there no statements like "I feel loved when you challenge me?" or "I feel loved when you debate current events with me?" or "I feel loved when you make me laugh?"

[Orpheus]

I got Quality Time then Physical Touch. I don't think anyone on the forum is going to score high on Recieving Gifts. Most of us aren't very rooted in the physical world. I don't even know if that should be one of the languages. It seems extremely selfish and superficial, and isn't love supposed to be the opposite of that? " I only know you love me when give me jewelry and money for new clothes." Disgusting. The sad thing is, I know a lot of women like this.>_<

[LvHmBirth]

I don't even know if that should be one of the languages. It seems extremely selfish and superficial, and isn't love supposed to be the opposite of that? " I only know you love me when give me jewelry and money for new clothes." Disgusting. The sad thing is, I know a lot of women like this.>_<

It's not only about getting, though, it's also about expressing. I know many people who like to show that they care by tucking little notes (also considered to be gifts) into their SO's lunch or briefcase, or who enjoy finding the perfect gift for someone they care about.

[Orpheus]

^ thanks for the explanation :)
Guess I'm just in a bad mood; I'm seeing a lot of things negatively. The beginning of that still stands though; I don't think many forum members will score high on Gifts.

[The Maelstrom]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Physical Touch: 11
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 3
Words of Affirmation: 3

Well no big surprise there

[LvHmBirth]

The beginning of that still stands though; I don't think many forum members will score high on Gifts.

Yes, well, I don't disagree with that.

My primary love language is also Quality Time, followed by Acts of Service and Physical Touch. I get a zero on Gifts, too. ;)

[AliTree]

receiving gifts is my primary love language. my secondary is words of affirmation.

[JohnDoe]

Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 5
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Hatsumomo1]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 6
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Plastikcat]

Your primary love language is probably
Words of Affirmation
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Words of Affirmation: 11
Physical Touch: 8
Quality Time: 6
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Airius]

Quality Time: 12
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 4
Acts of Service: 3

[loosefanbelt]

I am glad this thread is here. I posted my results here a while ago and just this morning had a conversation with a couple who are struggling a bit in their marriage. The woman's love languages are gifts and physical touch. The man's are quality time and words of affirmation. They are struggling. I know the MBTI on them - the man's type I concur with, the woman's I think is a mistype on her part, or at least that she has a strong X on two of the four categories.

That lead me to realize that my beloved and I had exactly the same love languages. It made it easy for us. Even when we were stressed, we could find each other. I see this couple who are having to learn and practice love languages that do not come naturally to them. And when you are stressed, you tend to revert to your natural behaviors.

I think for mate selection, that if you can get the right MBTI pairing and the right love language that you are in really good shape. Not foolproof, of course. But I was always amazed how easy it was for us. And I am witnessing how hard it is for others. Application of these tools is a great thing. It is not just another helloquizzy.

I am also glad to see the poll results and see what is going on, tho it would be GREAT to have an MBTI correlation.

Thanks, Cocoa...

[Caedus]

Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 8
Words of Affirmation: 5
Physical Touch: 4
Receiving Gifts: 4

[LadyInHeels]

Receiving Gifts: 11
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 2
Physical Touch: 1

I'm a material girl, I've always liked gifts because they last the longest, they're still there even if the original gifter is not.

[Shorgenfunkel]

Really, quality time and physical touch are the top two and equal. But the test, being bullshit (as per usual for tests) doesn't seem to agree.

Quality Time: 12
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 6
Receiving Gifts: 3
Words of Affirmation: 3

[loosefanbelt]

Really, quality time and physical touch are the top two and equal. But the test, being bullshit (as per usual for tests) doesn't seem to agree.

I am confused by your comment - do you think the questions are poorly written?

[Shorgenfunkel]

I am confused by your comment - do you think the questions are poorly written?

Yeah, a lot of the "dichotomies" really aren't dichotomies at all; the alternatives have nothing to do with each other in a fair few questions.

And also, they could be equal. There was no option for that.

[catzmeow]

Physical Touch: 10
Words of Affirmation: 8
Quality Time: 6
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 3

[loosefanbelt]

Interesting that physical touch and quality time are ranking so high here. There are those in the threads who talk about hating people touching them - must be that the right person is okay...?

[jndiii]

Interesting that physical touch and quality time are ranking so high here. There are those in the threads who talk about hating people touching them - must be that the right person is okay...?

Sort of. I've discussed it in other posts.

In summary, the touching bypasses the logic test an INTJ puts on human connections. Quality time can simply be spending quiet time with someone. ... It's a very particular quality time ... not the kind where she asks me what I'm thinking, for example, and I fumble for words I can't find to explain thoughts that would be completely alien to her even had I the words. (Really, it takes a special kind of girl to appreciate my analogizing Riemannian geometry to the distribution of people around a room at a party.)

Compare with the other three love languages. Note the general INTJ dislike of compliments (words of praise). Acts of service is just normal duty for an INTJ, why would one invest meaning in something that I'd do whether or not I liked you? Gifts are kind of like compliments, it's hard to give a correct gift to an INTJ.

But with touch, the only barrier is whether it's OK. With quality time, the only barrier is whether we like being around you. The rest requires too much damn thinking, and we end up with the wrong conclusions because our conclusions are too logical (and usually based on our own Fi, which is precisely the wrong set of axioms for dealing with arenas that are properly Fe).

See? Touch and quality time are easy. ;)

That ... and the reason we don't like getting touched is that it's so meaningful and intimate to us, not that we don't enjoy it.

[loosefanbelt]

Ahhhh - my ENTJ was pretty verbal about his affection, telling me several times a day that he loved me - calling and texting me... but I can see that his E function was at play. I think his F and T scores were closer - he was a T though...

[Llama]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1

--
What's strange is that while I wish these things, I am a more 'acts of service' and 'gift giver' person to my partner.

[Philosoraptor]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 7
Physical Touch: 6
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

Had a lot of trouble choosing...A lot of these pairs seemed to be false dichotomies. Several times I wanted to pick both and several times I didn't want to pick either.

[jndiii]

Ahhhh - my ENTJ was pretty verbal about his affection, telling me several times a day that he loved me - calling and texting me... but I can see that his E function was at play. I think his F and T scores were closer - he was a T though...

Note that it was good enough for you for him to just say, "I love you." It's easy to follow that formula if you're an NT: "Hmm, she's on my mind again. I know! I'll call her and tell her I love her." And yeah, he was E.

My ex was ESFJ (I'm guessing, but after 1.5 years of marriage counseling, I'm pretty darn sure.) Her love languages were Acts of Service and Words of Praise. "I love you" only went so far with her. She'd reply with the equivalent of, "But what have you done for me lately?" :p

I think both MBTI and Love Languages are useful tools w/r to how you weather the tough times: the thing I note about me and my ex is that we got along great, and we still get along fine ... we just can't handle disagreeing with each other. (We started out agreeing on most everything, so it was hard to spot this ...)

[tinapay]

The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Receiving Gifts.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Receiving Gifts: 7
Quality Time: 5
Words of Affirmation: 5
Acts of Service: 3

Hm. Maybe, when I get older, I would appreciate Acts of Service more. It's more like a husband|wife thing. Not for casual relationships.

[coffeeholic]

Your primary love language is probably
Acts of Service
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results
Acts of Service: 11
Words of Affirmation: 6
Physical Touch: 5
Quality Time: 5
Receiving Gifts: 2

[Wapiti]

Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Lesondemavie]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 9
Physical Touch: 6
Receiving Gifts: 4
Words of Affirmation: 1

[Cold Heart]

I definately agree with this one. It means more to me to spend time with someone, but I love buying little things and surprising them.

The Five Love Languages
Your primary love languages are probably
Physical Touch and Quality Time

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Maleficent]

Your primary love language is probably
Words of Affirmation
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Words of Affirmation: 8
Acts of Service: 6
Quality Time: 6
Receiving Gifts: 6
Physical Touch: 4


Interesting...

[Gnome de Plume]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Words of Affirmation: 9
Quality Time: 8
Receiving Gifts: 2
Acts of Service: 1

[thiagofralves]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 7
Physical Touch: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 2

[Tiberius Danger]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 3
Receiving Gifts: 1

Accurate. That was a fun little exercise.

[Luciferi]

I'm surprised so many people said this was hard for them or that answers didn't fit them. I didn't have any trouble making a clear choice between each set.

Anyway, here's mine. Pretty accurate, I would say.

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 3

[Deadgod]

The Five Love Languages Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Quality Time: 11
Words of Affirmation: 9
Physical Touch: 6
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Zane]

Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 8
Physical Touch: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1


there were far to many gift options. I felt selfish just reading it.

[alrightgame]

This test is completely fraudulent if you have never been in a loving relationship.

I don't think it's right.

Complete set of results
Acts of Service: 9
Physical Touch: 8
Quality Time: 6
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 2

[WaeV]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 8
Receiving Gifts: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Acts of Service: 0

[EmilyEvenstar]

My results

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 8
Words of Affirmation: 6
Physical Touch: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Philosoph135]

The Five Love Languages

My primary love language is probably Quality Time with a secondary love language being Acts of Service

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 10
Words of Affirmation: 5
Physical Touch: 3
Receiving Gifts: 1

Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.

[igeryu]

I wonder how many non-INTJs took part in the poll...Not to exclude people, but I think it would be more interesting to see if there's any trend that links MBTI type to love language. I'm sure there's no clear cut "INTJ Love Language", but at least a tendency to be certain ones

[Americano]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 7
Receiving Gifts: 2
Words of Affirmation: 1

[Benzebub]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 12
Physical Touch: 8
Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Luciferi]

Interesting how there are almost no gift-receivers on this forum.

I was talking about this last night with my younger brother (he is not an INTJ or even close to it, but we have very similar values) and he is the same as me: quality time and physical affection. We were discussing gift people, though, and we both came to the conclusion that neither one of us likes gift people in general, not even as friends.

It's not because they want gifts, but because they always seem to have bad personalities and are very materialistic. My boss is a gift person and he thinks he can treat me like shit so long as he buys me a nice gift later to make up for it. It is literally the only way he can understand affection. There is just something about that kind of mentality that rubs me the wrong way.

Do any other INTJs or even people who scored low on gifts feel that way about those whose language is gifts? Or do you have a negative opinion of one of the other languages? Just curious what everyone's perception of the five different languages might be.

[soanyway]

Physical Touch was a 9 and Quality time was next also 9. Makes me think, no wonder my husband makes me mad he doesn't do much of either...Cool test!

[uneingenue]

My results:
Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

[Rudy]

Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 7
Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 2

[greenzebra]

Quality time: 11
Acts of service: 7
Words of affirmation: 6
Physical touch: 4
Receiving gifts: 2

[WoodsWoman]

Tied physical touch and quality time.

[lioness]

Physical Touch: 11
Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 5
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

Knew that..

[Takeru]

Quality Time: 9
Physical Touch: 8
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 3

[yoginimama]

"Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 8
Physical Touch: 6
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 0"

[Nightsun]

Acts of Service: 9
Quality Time: 8
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Titian]

Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 5
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

Although I believe this kind of inquiry would be very valuable information I do agree with several of you that the test seems both inadequate and inherently flawed. Perhaps we could develop a new experiment that returns more thorough and accurate results?

[wsx]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[LevBron]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 11
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 6
Receiving Gifts: 2
Words of Affirmation: 1

No wonder I suck at giving words of affirmation.

[Nikita]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 8
Words of Affirmation: 6
Physical Touch: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[niffer]

Complete set of results

Quality Time: 8
Physical Touch: 6 Receiving Gifts: 6 Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 4

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

..Hehe I found it difficult to choose between many of them. Really all these things are nice, except I feel uncomfortable commanding people to help me out >_>

[seraphyn]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 12
Physical Touch: 7
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 3
Receiving Gifts: 2

[Murky Muse]

Your primary love languages are probably
Physical Touch and Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 8
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

[brecia]

Your primary love languages are probably
Quality Time and Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 8
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 4
Receiving Gifts: 4

[Solaris]

Complete set of results

Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 8
Words of Affirmation: 2
Receiving Gifts: 1

Well, I already knew that. The test is too see-through though, and it would be too easy to skew it. They need more examples, and not rewordings of what each "language" is.

I know it's physical touch for my husband, so I'm much more receptive to that then previously. The last two just seem like somebody needing somebody else to validate them and make me cringe a bit. I enjoy both, but I don't *need* them to feel loved.

[Anhedonic Lake]

I don't know. What's the language Satan speaks again? Oh yeah,reverse English...

[t3hrubikscube]

I got the same on Quality Time and Words of Affirmation.

[MerieM]

Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 8
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 3
Receiving Gifts: 1

They have to add a "both" and "none" option, for meeeeeh.

[Nikonman]

Quality time and physical touch. Acts of service and gifts mean almost nothing to me.

[gius]

This is an eye opener I guess. I never thought of people seeing gifts that way.

Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 8
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[S3raphymn]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 7
Receiving Gifts: 4
Acts of Service: 2

Interesting!

[Chilibean13]

Wow, thanks. This just gave me an idea for my Experimental Psychology class next semester. I am definately Word of Affirmation. One compliment will leave me feeling good for hours. If my husband gave me a compliment everyday, I'd be the happiest person in the world.

[gius]

I'm curious about the other types now, what they would get.. It's a really interesting way of finding out how to treat someone. From the responses here, it seems like a type with an S needs something physical, that they can hold in their hands... a gift. At the same time from my experience, when you explain things to them, you always have to have it very literal and in a as-a-matter-of-a-fact way than an abstract idea or a story where they join all the pieces or read between the lines. So the gift and this idea connects perfectly.

[paradoxical]

Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

And I think my husband must have Acts of Service and words of affirmation at the top of his list. No wonder we aren't always on the same page :-) I'd say this is pretty accurate of me.

[Jonathan Brewer]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 9
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Pope]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 8
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[XFire35]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Acts of Service: 7
Quality Time: 7
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 2

[Esside]

Your primary love languages are probably
Physical Touch and Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 7
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[cara]

Score Love Language

9 Acts of Service
9 Quality Time
7 Words of Affirmation
3 Physical Touch
2 Receiving of Gifts

Sounds reasonable, I feel loved when I feel supported and when I am the center of attention. I can be receptive to praise (depends on who expressed it). Interesting that physical touch didn't score higher. I am touchy.

[lancelot]

Do you have a boyfriend?

Can't remember the last time a actually said that.

Love language is English.

If I was in a relationship I would give her quality time!

[Tirannwn]

Your primary love languages are probably
Physical Touch and Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

This makes sense. I seem to feel the most rejected when a small physical contact is repeatedly broken (e.g. scooting over slightly when sitting close), and when sensitive conversations elicit the "deer-in-headlights" response. The kicker, though, is that touch without quality time makes me think that the relationship risks becoming too physically oriented. I like for my SO to double as my best friend. Touch is not enough for that.

[Swanee]

Physical Touch and Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 7
Quality Time: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 6
Receiving Gifts: 2

[Dru]

Physical Touch: 12
Words of Affirmation: 7
Quality Time: 7
Receiving Gifts: 4
Acts of Service: 0

i'd say that's fairly accurate. being fawned over with gifts and "acts of service" seem superficial to me. compliments alone are nice once in a while, but when paired with physical touch... i might as well be made of butter. :blush:

[reckful]

Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 7
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

I haven't done much reading on the languages, but those results seem right. I'd say Quality Time and Physical Touch are definitely the big two for me.

[Swaybar]

Quality Time: 9
Physical Touch: 8
Receiving Gifts: 5
Acts of Service: 4
Words of Affirmation: 4

Fits well.

[Silhouette]

Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 6
Physical Touch: 5
Receiving Gifts: 5
Acts of Service: 4

[Bones820]

The Five Love Languages

Your primary love language is probably:

Physical Touch with a secondary love language being Quality Time.

Complete set of results:

Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 6
Receiving Gifts: 1

[HappyToBeMe]

The Five Love Languages
Your primary love languages are probably
Physical Touch and Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 8
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 8
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[lioness]

Quality Time: 12
Physical Touch: 8
Acts of Service: 5
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1


This has changed over time. Used to be touch, time, words, service, gifts. This is true now.

[Zsych]

I think I half choked just trying to answer those questions - too much feeling :p

I had no interest in either answer in some cases but anyway:

Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 7
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Pride Battery]

Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 10
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 1
Receiving Gifts: 1

[InfiniteLoop]

Quality time, but touch is a close second. That makes tons of sense, actually - I just want someone to hang out with me from time to time, and I'm actually a really 'touchy' person in that I'm very likely to hug or put an arm around my friends or family members, maybe rest my head on their shoulders. I usually comfort people by putting a hand on their shoulder or arm, or holding their hands - just being there to be a shoulder to cry on, and physically showing I'm supporting them as well. I often joke that I'm a "hug whore" and will literally do anything if it means that I get to hug someone I care about. I love hugs. ^^

[igeryu]

Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 9
Acts of Service: 7
Physical Touch: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Tkae]

Your primary love language is probably
Words of Affirmation
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results
Words of Affirmation: 10
Physical Touch: 7
Receiving Gifts: 5
Acts of Service: 4
Quality Time: 4

[Dasein]

My primarily love language is words of affirmation. Secondary is Acts of Service.

[Blse]

Words & Touch.

According to the test:

The Five Love Languages Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.


Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 11
Words of Affirmation: 10
Quality Time: 5
Receiving Gifts: 4
Acts of Service: 0

Not quite, acts of service do mean something to me; they can mean a whole lot actually.

[dontmesswithme]

Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 9
Acts of Service: 6
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 0

I've been meaning to take this quiz for the longest time.

[Zombicide]

Quality Time

38% Words of Affirmation, 38% Physical Touch

From the Okcupid test.



For the recommended test

Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Physical Touch: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[flavored]

mine turned out like...

words: 9
touch: 9
time: 7
service: 5

def true. it's crazy how different the results are when you sub in family members though, because i remember doin this like 8 years ago, but service was at the top and touch was at the bottom.

[Booko]

Acts of Service: 12
Quality Time: 9
Physical Touch: 5
Receiving Gifts: 2
Words of Affirmation: 2

If there had been a way to score a zero on receiving gifts and words of affirmation that would be more accurate. Unfortunately some of the questions asked me which I prefer of two things that I don't care about.

[OrangeAppled]

How'd I order them for myself (in a romantic relationship):

Quality Time > Words of Affirmation > Acts of Service = Physical Touch > Receiving Gifts

Test results:

Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 10
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 2
Receiving Gifts: 2

[badlydrawn]

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 12
Physical Touch: 9
Words of Affirmation: 5
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 1

[Brittishcoal]

I prefer acts of service and then physical touch. Acts of service seem to show that if you take your time to do something for another you mean something to them. Physical touch is just something you both enjoy normally and is a natural way of expression for me.

5 Words of Affirmation
6 Quality Time
0 Receiving Gifts
10 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch

[MrFreakaficial]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 4
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 2

[BingeArtist]

Physical Touch: 11
Words of Affirmation: 10
Quality Time: 5
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

[pff]

Your primary love language is probably Physical Touch with a secondary love language being Quality Time.

Complete set of results

Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 6
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 1

[EL Gato]

Primary love language
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 9
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 3
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Blizz]

Physical Touch: 11
Quality Time: 10
Acts of Service: 4
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1

[EricJ]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Charmed Pop]

Your primary love language is probably
Acts of Service
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.
Complete set of results
Acts of Service: 11
Quality Time: 9
Physical Touch: 6
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0

[RandomLurker]

Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Acts of Service: 8
Words of Affirmation: 8
Receiving Gifts: 3
Physical Touch: 0

This makes me laugh because I'm really good at giving gifts to others. No surprise on physical touch, I don't trust people. Quality time is spot on though.

[psykhe]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time

[Dolores]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.


Complete set of results
Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 10
Acts of Service: 4
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1

[drake2]

Quality Time: 11
Words of Affirmation: 8
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

[Lyra]

Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1

I'd say this was pretty accurate for me. Gifts and acts of service are meaningful but quality time by far most important to me. I'd say words have the edge over touch although not according to my score heh

[nolabel]

Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 8
Physical Touch: 7
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

[OwenF]

Quality Time, followed by Words of Affirmation.

That test was exhausting.

[jkatra]

Physical Touch: 11
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 3
Acts of Service: 2

[specialist]

Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 10
Acts of Service: 5
Words of Affirmation: 3
Receiving Gifts: 1

Interesting result. I generally don't like being touched, and would prefer quality time together. I guess if it's the right person touching is good.

[Engimatic]

Mine was Quality Time and Words of Affirmation...I have never really received many gifts and touching me, outside my circle and that special someone, will get you hit.

I've always bought gifts for that special someone though. Not on special occasions, hate that whole idea, just randomly, and always firm them with words.

[Hollyhock]

Quality time
Acts of service

[ikush]

Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 3
Words of Affirmation: 3

[soffbord]

Physical Touch: 9
Acts of Service: 8
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 4
Receiving Gifts: 1