INTP Women

[wittykitty]

Okay so, I've been thinking about this for a while now. Where are they? And what are they like? How do you think INTP women differ from INTJ women? I would like to meet one some day and see how well we get along. Do you think an INTP woman would make a good friend for an INTJ woman?

Sincerely,
An INTJ woman searching for friends.

[freeeekyyy]

I think they probably differ in much the same way as INTJ and INTP men do. As in, they are more concerned with "logical consistency" than "correctness" in debates.

I think in general INTPs and INTJs can make good friends, so long as they don't spend too much time together. My cousin is an INTP, I love being around him every once in a while, but I can say from experience that when we are around each other too often, we get very snippy, because our differing worldviews become more and more apparent. He's more interested in theorizing, I'm more interested in "making things happen" based on what I already know. This can cause conflicts if you aren't careful, I'm sure it's probably very similar for women as to how it is for men.

[tp6626]

Hey wittykitty, haven't seen you around for ages.

I think Rara Avis is INTP now, but she was originally INTJ when she started out here. I bet she'll know quite a bit about INTP women.

Sure there are others around, but they don't spring to mind.

[BellaBianca]

Hi, there. I don't know any female INTJs, but I always click with the males. Some INTPs can be found in the local library, at the university, at a comic-con, game-con - when I was a teen I used to hang around in a store where they sold comics and games.

She is that one other girl who can't really bond to girls because males are a boring topic.

[wittykitty]

I think they probably differ in much the same way as INTJ and INTP men do. As in, they are more concerned with "logical consistency" than "correctness" in debates.
Probably the best way I've seen it explained. I know one INTP male who I always find fascinating. From when we've talked, he seemed less concerned with being correct than following a logical pattern, whereas I wanted to follow the pattern to a conclusion. It could make for a lot of interesting conversations as a friend however, if views were similar.

Hey wittykitty, haven't seen you around for ages.

I think Rara Avis is INTP now, but she was originally INTJ when she started out here. I bet she'll know quite a bit about INTP women.

Sure there are others around, but they don't spring to mind.

Is Rara Avis still around? I would love her insight as I really know nothing about INTP women.

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Hi, there. I don't know any female INTJs, but I always click with the males. Some INTPs can be found in the local library, at the university, at a comic-con, game-con - when I was a teen I used to hang around in a store where they sold comics and games.

She is that one other girl who can't really bond to girls because males are a boring topic.

So then, what does interest you? Do you consider yourself easy going? I feel like my path should have crossed with an INTP but it never has.... What are your views on societal norms? I think the biggest thing I have in common with the INTP man is our conversations regarding the insanity of societal norms. Though, I'm more likely than him to be critical of it and look for an alternative, whereas he would rather explain the scientific reasoning for it.

[BellaBianca]

Frankly, it is harder to not interest me than to interest me. I try to make almost any topic into something useful but I'm done with it quickly if it doesn't have that much to offer.
With "useful" I think about how something relates to other things I know and creates greater structures.
I am easy going but I get annoyed when someone states something as if it is a fact when it is less dependable.
I am extremely concerned with words and their accuracy which is why I am too conscious of my shortcomings when I am not using my own language.

You can find the INTPs in the game threads. Many of us loves to play with words.

[Dasein]

well, I am an entp and a close friend of mine is an INTJ. We both think similarly, I am just less set in my ways and far less reserved. I would say two NTs generally will mesh incredibly well.

[rara avis]

I think things like friendship primarily depend on the individual people, the stuff that can't be captured by MBTI. But I also think there is often an NT-NT chemistry, or even magnetism, that occurs.

Anyway, I'm not going to tell you I'm the postergirl for all things INTP, but I'll tell you my own POV.

I won't be good friends with:

Anyone who expresses nearly any form of personal frustration with or self righteousness toward me. I met my quota of frustrated people when I was 10. I'm a pretty patient and flexible person, but if you lose your patience with me, bets are off.

Anyone who doesn't seem to demonstrate what I consider to be a respectable and genuine ethical code. I know people who I actually like or find interesting, but who I've seen steal or cheat without concern, or act like a prat to someone else, so they'll probably never be more than friendly acquaintances to me, because I don't trust them on a broad level.

People who are controlling. I might be willing to let someone go ahead and take care of certain business, and it's good to be with people who can hold their own and not be deadweight, or even people who are willing to be the engine behind whatever mutual activity is afoot... BUT- pressure applied to me directly or indirectly can have disastrous effects. I will generally prefer to sit and rot rather than do what I'm told.


I do like people who seem to be fairly honest with themselves about themselves, who at the core are both secure and humble. People who have a good perspective about themselves in relation to other people.

I like wit more than pure silliness. Silliness is usually one of those things I have to dredge up a pretend reaction to.

I like people who find me or what I know interesting- I find that kind of irresistible, actually- I love parsing out answers to questions. :)
People who find aaall kinds of other people and things interesting. Curious people.


Very strong J's I know - my mother, my coworker, for instance- can be annoying because they'll make up their minds before things even get started, and seem practically unable to listen worth a damn from there on out. Also will sometimes stonewall whatever's not of interest to their current defined path.

I've also found that INT on INT is no guarantee that everybody's OK with silent, deadpan, or no-strings interactions. Even INTs, regardless of how we ourselves act, are trained to expect and to play to certain responses from others around us. We can be [unintentionally?] manipulative that way, I think, and it's tricky when both people are accustomed to others extending themselves and making concessions, in certain ways.

[masterpeach]

Hey there, INTP woman here. My best (female) friend is an INTJ (as far as I can tell, she didn't take the test) - we've had our arguments and she is - compared to me - very introverted (i.e. I am the one who talks too much), but we've been friends for > 10 years now.
Even though you can't base friendship merely on type, INTPs and INTJs can get along quite well. However, strong Js will always clash with strong Ps.

[schwartzie]

I've developed from a fairly strong INTJ into an INTx. (Depending on the day and mood and demands of the situation, I'll go one way or the other. INTPs value honesty more highly than about anyone else; life is complicated enough, without throwing in deception. I prefer to live much more in the moment than I used to--as an INTJ I was future oriented, and a good planner/designer when necessary. Now I tend to be more spontaneous. Maybe because I'm borderline, I still love problem-solving as much or more than the erection of purely theoretical constructs.

My house is less tidy now, and my personal life as well. I'm probably a better friend now--less determinedly self absorbed. I talk less and listen more. I prefer to make plans on short notice, rather than far out. Like--generally, next weekend is too far out unless it requires tickets in advance.

I don't act before thinking as frequently. I usually can now restrain myself long enough to think through whether what I want to do is really a good idea, and to think about it from a variety of perspectives.

INTPs are pretty verbal, funny, and a pleasure to be with. They are loyal, caring and passionate friends. The INTJ women I most like are healthy enough to be candidly introspective, open, honest, compassionate, and humble. Some INTJs aren't these things--they can be competitive and closed--with so much under the surface that it takes years to develop trust--I tend to shy immediately away from them.
In INT relationships, I've really enjoyed easy quietness--the happiness of being INTs together in a slower-paced, less densely-social environment.

[freeeekyyy]

I've developed from a fairly strong INTJ into an INTx. (Depending on the day and mood and demands of the situation, I'll go one way or the other. INTPs value honesty more highly than about anyone else; life is complicated enough, without throwing in deception. I prefer to live much more in the moment than I used to--as an INTJ I was future oriented, and a good planner/designer when necessary. Now I tend to be more spontaneous. Maybe because I'm borderline, I still love problem-solving as much or more than the erection of purely theoretical constructs.

My house is less tidy now, and my personal life as well. I'm probably a better friend now--less determinedly self absorbed. I talk less and listen more. I prefer to make plans on short notice, rather than far out. Like--generally, next weekend is too far out unless it requires tickets in advance.

I don't act before thinking as frequently. I usually can now restrain myself long enough to think through whether what I want to do is really a good idea, and to think about it from a variety of perspectives.

Are you sure you've really "turned into an INTx" or just developed your Se more?

[schwartzie]

Are you sure you've really "turned into an INTx" or just developed your Se more?

No, I am not sure. For what it's worth, however, I used to be more balanced on the s/n than i am now-- the last couple of times I tested, the N was 20-30% greater than it used to test... overall, I 90+, N ~40, T~50, J~1 or P~1 . In past years, the I and N were less predominant and the J much higher.

[freeeekyyy]

What annoys you more, broad theorizing without ever coming to any conclusions about anything, or when a person believes they have the right answer before they've apparently checked it at all?

[Antares]

One of my best friends is INTP. We get along famously. We differ on the J-P, obviously, and she's a lot more placid (internally. Externally, I'm also very placid) emotionally. I'm definitely melancholic-choleric, while she could be melancholic-phlegmatic. I make value judgments and criticize things much more than she does, and sometimes we disagree because of that.

[patrialevet]

INTP women are fantastic! One of my best friends is an INTP and we get along great!

One of the best things about hanging out with another INT is that we can hang out together without it feeling draining. Also, neither of us take things personally when it comes to a disagreement. We are able to debate things in a healthy manner without getting emotions involved. In the course of our six year friendship we having never had an actual fight beyond being vaguely annoyed at each other and if that happens both of us realize that it really doesn't matter and move on without there being any residual animosity. Along those lines, if either of us drop off of the face of the Earth for an extended period of time as both of our types are wont to do, we can easily pick up where we left off and neither of us feels put out due to the lack of communication.

The only thing that I have actually complained about to her is her inability to actually be on time! We have remedied that though in my giving her a time frame in which she needs to arrive instead of a specific time.

As for finding an INTP, I asked my friend and she told me that you can't find them as they are all at home. I guess I got lucky befriending her while in middle school jazz choir together.

I come from a quartet of friends making up all of the IN types. We find is hilarious that we inadvertently managed to do that as we all got into typology after we became friends.

[misaligned]

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Curious people.
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From what I've seen, INTP types hang out at Larry's, after 5:00 on Tuesdays, and emit a fuzzy white light which feels purple to the touch. In order to spring the trap, they'll need to be sedated.

Yeah.There's no way to really spot curiosity, though, is there? Most of it's in the thoughts and the browser history. I wouldn't place a lot of stock on visual cues. I know an INTP that goes out of his way to ensure that he blends into a crowd, dressing and acting as a roman. You want to spot an INTP? Meet someone who'll engage you in a (real) conversation about anything, but doesn't have any steady hobbies to speak of.

But I could be wrong. I haven't spotted any which didn't confess under torture.

[ESFP]

My friend is an INTP. She used to think she was an INTJ, but that was definitely off. She's low-maintenance/takes care of herself with high standards, is very relaxed and easygoing about letting others be independent because I imagine that's how she'd want to be treated, very sensible and logical, and still caring. Very nerdy.

[Vagrant]

My roommate last year was an INTP male. We got along pretty well. I suspect an INTP female might leave sparks flying for me while she was clueless. :p

[Antares]

Okay so, I've been thinking about this for a while now. Where are they? And what are they like? How do you think INTP women differ from INTJ women? I would like to meet one some day and see how well we get along. Do you think an INTP woman would make a good friend for an INTJ woman?

Sincerely,
An INTJ woman searching for friends.

Oh, and I might add, having gotten to know one INTP girl over the summer really well, I find we operate on different schedules. She's one of the MOST interesting people I've ever met (and I don't say this about a lot of people), and also one of the least self-conscious, that I really enjoyed. But in terms of independence and detachment, I leave her in the dust. Socially, I'm sort of authoritarian. It's my way or the highway. Let's just say she tried to get too close- too soon.

[Cyanios]

I've met this girl online INTP and we are clicked together instantly(i blame her wicked sense of humour) and we have been in a relationship online for almost two months now. we tend to use play on words to kill time, and it's one of my favourite things to do with her beside tanking for her as a healer, for most of that time we have been together.

so yes, in my opinion. INTJ+INTP works wonders:D

[rara avis]

You want to spot an INTP? Meet someone who'll engage you in a (real) conversation about anything, but doesn't have any steady hobbies to speak of.
This describes me pretty well. What I might call hobbies are either extremely broad or very specific but fleeting, or things I intend to do or feel kind of connected to, but don't actually do very much. I have lots of areas of interest, though.

My friend is an INTP. She used to think she was an INTJ, but that was definitely off. She's low-maintenance/takes care of herself with high standards, is very relaxed and easygoing about letting others be independent because I imagine that's how she'd want to be treated, very sensible and logical, and still caring. Very nerdy.
Have we met?

I suspect an INTP female might leave sparks flying for me while she was clueless. :p
Don't bet on clueless, just more patient/flexible/passive- and sometimes more imperceptibly detached- about people-stuff than you are. :smug:

But in terms of independence and detachment, I leave her in the dust. Socially, I'm sort of authoritarian. It's my way or the highway. Let's just say she tried to get too close- too soon.
Personally, I'm pretty seriously introverted- while my "boundaries" can seem nearly non-existent in terms of personal things I'm willing to discuss or display, it should not be mistaken for bonding or closeness. I'm mostly just entertaining myself.

As for the authoritarian streak you mention- in my experience, that can be a significant (and difficult) difference between INTJ and INTP. INTJ can be so similar to ISTJ rigidity/judgment on all kinds of things, only a bit weirder, maybe less standardized. Often just as aggressive and pervasive (and obstructive) though. :)


The only thing that I have actually complained about to her is her inability to actually be on time! We have remedied that though in my giving her a time frame in which she needs to arrive instead of a specific time.


My ENFJ sister uses something she calls "blow time". She cites a time to meet somewhere plus blow-time, and that means give or take 15-20 minutes. Works pretty well for both of us. She's always late because she can't stand waiting (and would rather make others wait) and I'm always late because, the more I try to hurry, the more difficulty I have prioritizing tasks on the fly.

[ya lyublyu tebya]

My mom is an INTP. It might not be like this with others, but she's basically a ditzier INTJ with a (sometimes maddening) tendency to leave everything open-ended. We have the best conversations; she's awesome. :D

[Supaslim]

My closest and oldest friend (as in, friend I've had the longest) is an INTP woman. I don't think we've ever been in a fight, we always have something to talk about, and we just get along great. IMO, INTJs and INTPs can be a very compatible combination.

She is an engineering student, so she's typically hanging around with the guys. Most of her friends are male; I'm one of the few exceptions- then again, I don't act like most females. She's quite a bit more intelligent than me, low maintenance, and very easy to get along with. I can't think of a single person who dislikes her, unlike the throng of people who have it out for me. She's much more socially adept than me.

Compared to me... She's more flexible in her schedule, more spontaneous, but she's also less reliable. If you're in my schedule, whatever is planned is going to happen- you just have to let me know about it a month in advance. With her, she pencils things in left and right, but she also cancels a lot (she's as busy as I am).

She is also slower to make decisions. It took her three years to settle into a definite major (it was mechanical engineering for a while, then math, then maybe art or meteorology, now geological engineering), and even before that, she waited until the last minute to finalize her choice of university. Whereas I had my entire college career planned out by the time I was a sophomore in high school. So, yeah. P versus J.

In the way of our friendship... She's always been there if I needed her. She's the only friend I have that I feel I can be completely honest with. She's the only one in my circle of friends who has seen me in all my INTJ "glory", without the mask, and she's always been very accepting of my personality. She's also good for helping me through dilemmas that I can't reason my way out of. Of course, I'm there for her too. Overall, a great friendship, and a great friend. I wouldn't be the person I am today without her influence, for better or for worse.

[Lynch]

Picking up a dead thread... :)

My best guy friend is an INTJ and we get along great except when it comes to putting theories into action. I'm interested in getting things done, but he's perfectly fine with just thinking about it. And, I like to be at least semi-neat and organized, whereas he's perfectly fine with being messy. We do have some awesome debates though.

Where to find female INTPs: I really have no idea. I don't think I've ever met another female INTP. I teach middle school, and come straight home most days. The only venturing outside the home/work I might do is to go to an art show, theatre play, and of course grocery shopping. Otherwise, if shipping weren't so expensive in this part of the world, I'd have my groceries shipped to me, and eliminate that "venturing out."
I see a lot of INTPs suggest finding us at libraries, but IMO, I'd rather just stay home and use the internet to research my interests. I might find myself at a library once a year, but I'm too absent minded to return the books I checkout, so eventually I run up some heavy fines. To troublesome to me.

[Cidheli]

[QUOTE=rara avis;1444977]

Personally, I'm pretty seriously introverted- while my "boundaries" can seem nearly non-existent in terms of personal things I'm willing to discuss or display, it should not be mistaken for bonding or closeness. I'm mostly just entertaining myself.

wow this is totally me

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I have started asking people there types, and so far I've only found one INTP female. Look for girls with all guy friends, in smart fields like research :)

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And libraries? No way... Maybe like a college library...sitting by themselves in a cubicle

[Merle]

Picking up a dead thread... :)
I might find myself at a library once a year, but I'm too absent minded to return the books I checkout, so eventually I run up some heavy fines. To troublesome to me.

Haha. I got banned from my local library on two separate occasions for not returning books...once, when I was 17 and so still a 'child' I ran up a huge fine that I couldn't pay and they threatened to take my parents to court! It got forgiven eventually (I guess I just ignored it for long enough that they were forced to let it go?). I then got a new card, at 18 - as an adult, which is a different category of membership, and did the same thing.... so now I'm banned. None of this was malicious in any way!

[ummon]

Haha. I got banned from my local library on two separate occasions for not returning books...once, when I was 17 and so still a 'child' I ran up a huge fine that I couldn't pay and they threatened to take my parents to court! It got forgiven eventually (I guess I just ignored it for long enough that they were forced to let it go?). I then got a new card, at 18 - as an adult, which is a different category of membership, and did the same thing.... so now I'm banned. None of this was malicious in any way!

There's a reason book stores exist. ;)

[Distance]

As with all types, there are cray-cray ones but overall, INTP women are awesome. They're fun, calm and logical. Also fiercely autonomous where detachment is their methodology to distance and/or give them time to think things through, subsuming new data into their understanding of the concept and of the world.

[The Dan Keizer]

INTP women are probably too nerdy to hang out with the pseudonormal INTJ female.

[Silphiums]

Okay so, I've been thinking about this for a while now. Where are they? And what are they like? How do you think INTP women differ from INTJ women? I would like to meet one some day and see how well we get along. Do you think an INTP woman would make a good friend for an INTJ woman?

Sincerely,
An INTJ woman searching for friends.

Where are they?
-- we are everywhere...

How do they differ?
-- in many ways. But superficially look for chameleon behavior (see comment above)- INTPs can (doesn't mean they always do, but they can...) blend/mirror the current social circumstance, or a really odd sense of humor.

As others have mentioned the INTP-INTJ combination can work really well. Two of my few lifelong friends are INTJ women and we get along swimmingly. I highly recommend them, INTPs are the bomb :D

[scorpiomover]

Okay so, I've been thinking about this for a while now. Where are they?Try a library, bookshop, comic shop, electronics shop or computers shop at 5 minutes before closing. An INTP will probably be so engrossed in their book/comic/electronics manual/computer manual, that they'll have to be asked to leave. Extra bonus points for them, if they look slightly bemused at the shop assistant, before agreeing to leave, as if they are thinking "What? Leave? Me? Just as I'm getting to the good bit of page 127 of the history of MS-DOS? Why can't you just lock up and leave me to read for the night?"

Alternatively, just ask people if they feel like their bodies are "flesh suits" and if they were "born in a library". Answering "Why? Don't you?" to both questions should qualify.

And what are they like?I gather that they have the personalities of a male INTP, in a female body. I can't really say for sure, as I've never been a female INTP in this life, and have not been close enough to female INTPs to truly understand their close psychology. Maybe get to know a few and find out?

How do you think INTP women differ from INTJ women?Maybe how INTP males differ from INTJ males?

I would like to meet one some day and see how well we get along. Do you think an INTP woman would make a good friend for an INTJ woman?Depends. INTPs and INTJs have the reversed functions. What you are intense about, they are broad about. What you are broad about, they are in depth about. What you conclude, they question. What you question, they accept. Can you admire and respect someone who is your total equal, and also your total opposite?

An INTJ woman searching for friends.Have you also tried ENTP women? INTJ males seem to like ENTP males. Just saying. You can be friends with more than INTPs.

[The Dan Keizer]

INTPs are the stereotypical nerds. Like when you see somebody that should be in a cartoon or movie about nerds... that's an INTP. INTJs are nerds as well but you can't really tell as much by looking at them.

[anticlimatic]

Here's a long-shot theoretical angle-- get into History, some. Check your local museums, or any sort of mellow and inviting establishment that happens to be set in an old building. Since INTPs use Si as their third function, and since our third function is often associated with what 'fascinates' us, and since Si pertains a lot to memory and sense-aesthetics, I speculate that I am probably not the only INTP who feels most comfortable and at home in such environments.

[vampyroteuthis]

^Sort of. The Mütter Museum (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.).

[Rawumber]

I am an INTP. I also have fallopian tubes.

[itsaboutluck]

With most people (if you’re around a female/person long enough) it is easy to figure out their personality. However, you can be around an INTP female for years and still not understand it. That’s how adaptable we are. It is easy for us to “fake” our personalities, especially if it’s a onetime “small talk” conversation. The longer you know us, the harder it is for us to make small talk. So we’ll become quiet/ less talkative more often. But if you bring up a conversation that we’re interested in, we will talk more and passionately so. There is also a point one can cross in a friendship with INTP that we’ll be more comfortable around the person, so we’ll gradually be able to talk more.
This is just how I am. I am an INTP female, but I don’t know if that applies to anyone else.

[Fujimoto]

With most people (if you’re around a female/person long enough) it is easy to figure out their personality. However, you can be around an INTP female for years and still not understand it. That’s how adaptable we are. It is easy for us to “fake” our personalities, especially if it’s a onetime “small talk” conversation. The longer you know us, the harder it is for us to make small talk. So we’ll become quiet/ less talkative more often. But if you bring up a conversation that we’re interested in, we will talk more and passionately so. There is also a point one can cross in a friendship with INTP that we’ll be more comfortable around the person, so we’ll gradually be able to talk more.
This is just how I am. I am an INTP female, but I don’t know if that applies to anyone else.

Hell I'm an INTP male and that applies to me too. :)

Welcome to the forum, btw!

[Dancingqueen]

I have an INTP daughter and if she's a reliable representation of the group, I want to know more! We get on like a house on fire. She is quiet, deep and approaches life from a refreshing angle. Her sense of humour is insane. She trolls me IRL. I wish I knew adult women like her...a breath of fresh air!

[itsaboutluck]

Hell I'm an INTP male and that applies to me too. :)

Welcome to the forum, btw!

Thanks


I have an INTP daughter and if she's a reliable representation of the group, I want to know more! We get on like a house on fire. She is quiet, deep and approaches life from a refreshing angle. Her sense of humour is insane. She trolls me IRL. I wish I knew adult women like her...a breath of fresh air!


What do you want to know more about?

[Dancingqueen]

What do you want to know more about?

That's weird, you quoted me a Fuji.

I want to know more (instances of) female INTP's not more about them.

[Distance]

The easiest place to find INTP women is in cyberspace.

[Lelen]

Hello,
I am an INTP female. It is true that we are rare. But, it is not alays fun to be the 'special' or 'rare' one. You are aften seen as a loner and a very know-it-all. So not a lot of people are keen on getting to know you, but if we really try and let one person in, then a new world opens up to them. They notice that we aren't really loners but more someone who is always deep in thought, or trying to figure somehing out. It is not that we are particualrely know-it-alls, but we like to fix wrong things. And so that were some of the negative sides.
Some of the positive sides is that we usually have no problem with insights. We like getting to know things, which gives us the opportunity to be globally informed and so to be rather universaly. Our theories are always on impulse, which is why it can be rather abstract.
I am also nicknamed 'the daydreamer' or 'the encyclopedia' or 'the smartass'.
I dont have a lot of friends, two very close ones and six,'friends'. I usually only really talk to my close friends, and do things (if I feel obliged to, that is) with all of my 'friends', where I prefer to bring a close friend with me.
So generally we like to be alone or with a close friend, who is capable of being silent, theory, fantasizing and finding new interests (if our last interest has bored us). We don't like obligations, crowds, lecturing and chatting about ridiculous things.

This is based on a little bit background information of MBTI typs (just started reading and researching about it) and my own experience. So this is definetly not the most right answer, but at least it is from a female INTP.

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INTPs are the stereotypical nerds. Like when you see somebody that should be in a cartoon or movie about nerds... that's an INTP. INTJs are nerds as well but you can't really tell as much by looking at them.


That is wrong. Granted, I am seen as a loner (and I like reading about all sorts of stuff a lot), but not as a nerd. I have sense for fashion, mainly because I have a good eye for beauty. I have friends and other interests than books. I like sports, especially wintersports and biking. I am quite sportive, I even was asked into the nationals for skiing.

Do you still think I am a nerd?

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With most people (if you’re around a female/person long enough) it is easy to figure out their personality. However, you can be around an INTP female for years and still not understand it. That’s how adaptable we are. It is easy for us to “fake” our personalities, especially if it’s a onetime “small talk” conversation. The longer you know us, the harder it is for us to make small talk. So we’ll become quiet/ less talkative more often. But if you bring up a conversation that we’re interested in, we will talk more and passionately so. There is also a point one can cross in a friendship with INTP that we’ll be more comfortable around the person, so we’ll gradually be able to talk more.
This is just how I am. I am an INTP female, but I don’t know if that applies to anyone else.

That is all true. I tend to blend into the crowd too, but because of my introversion I don't mix, which is why I still stand out sometimes( exept when my friends are with me) . Some people even say that I am a very kind and extovert girl - which is not always true (ha-ha), even though I am trrying to fix that.It is just that blending reflex. So we're hard to be discserned out of a crowd. But one you get to know us, then it is clear that we are INTP.

[Indubitably]

Okay so, I've been thinking about this for a while now. Where are they? And what are they like? How do you think INTP women differ from INTJ women? I would like to meet one some day and see how well we get along. Do you think an INTP woman would make a good friend for an INTJ woman?

Sincerely,
An INTJ woman searching for friends.

If my experiences with both INTJ men and women are any indication, there are often instances where INTJs and INTPs get on better with each other than they do with individuals of their own type. It tends to be something of an "odd couple" pairing, where all you ever seem to do is bicker over almost ridiculously mundane trivialities, yet somewhere underneath it all, both parties seem to realize that in the end-game, they wouldn't have it any other way. It takes a certain innate sense of personal pride in having tested one's metal against a worthy adversary, and a willingness to recognize that anyone who has earned enough respect that you would honor them with the exulted title of "enemy", holds even greater value than being right. You might think that this is a near impossible task in light of the fact that both INTJs and INTPs really, REALLY, like to think that they're right about pretty much everything they say, but almost paradoxically, we seem to pull it off almost by accident simply by hanging around each other more often than one might presume is strictly healthy for either individual involved.

As for where you can find them, try the theoretical physics, mathematics, and analytical linguistics departments at your local university: the female INTP will usually be that one professor without a penis, trying to explain to all the professors who do have a penis, that not only are semantics germane to the discussion at hand; semantics, are in fact precisely the reason, that the whole lot of them are flat out wrong about everything they have ever assumed to be true.

[Bucky Goldstein]

I don't personally know any INTP women. The ones that came out that on those *worthless* internet quizzes turned out to be INFJ or INFP.

As an INTP I find INFJ women the most appealing of all the other types and the best for conversation. I don't know any INTP women, and only know of one possible INTJ girl from high school - she was math geek and not very interesting.

[Antares]

I think they probably differ in much the same way as INTJ and INTP men do. As in, they are more concerned with "logical consistency" than "correctness" in debates.

I was best friends with two INTP women and can attest that they're different from INTJ women (which is, of course, myself) much the same way INTPs and INTJs differ in general. I'm always driven to conclude something even if it's not totally logical (if logic fails at some point I plough through with my intuition. It can be wrong but at least I HAVE something). They would prefer to have no conclusion if it means they make no leaps in logic. They also don't like to take sides and their opinions are usually so carefully moderated they don't feel like opinions at all. I think this is because they like to present everything in a logically consistent light.

Whilst I say: "I think that's complete bullshit." They will say something like: "This view is invalid because your reasoning does not logically follow from your premise." And proceed to explain. I'm also much more direct and assertive. On a bad day I CAN border on aggressive.

It tends to be something of an "odd couple" pairing, where all you ever seem to do is bicker over almost ridiculously mundane trivialities, yet somewhere underneath it all, both parties seem to realize that in the end-game, they wouldn't have it any other way.

My ex is an INTP and this is also accurate. We bicker about almost everything, but never fight. Even our breakup is the best breakup anyone could hope for. Totally rational. "I think we need to end the relationship because of these reasons." "Okay. Fine with me. Your reasons are valid." Then we go back to being close friends.

[leslissocool]

but I always click with the males. Some INTPs can be found in the local library, at the university, at a comic-con, game-con - when I was a teen I used to hang around in a store where they sold comics and games.

She is that one other girl who can't really bond to girls because males are a boring topic.




Pretty much defines me.

I don't have many females friends, to be honest they never interested me. I'm quite masculine in my interests, and I always would rather mess around and play with guys. I'm a huge geek, I play AD&D quite avidly and I'm really into comics and anime. I pick up hobbies really easy, I'm never bored. I recently started to play the drums, because we have a drum set at home (my husband is a musician). I mean, not many girls are interested in the things I am.

In school, you find me in an empty room drawing/painting/reading Russian literature. I ate lunch in the art room while I finished some of my paintings, in college I lived on the art rooms. Not a big social butterfly. I'm a mom now, so you find me rolling in the ground with my kids, playing with gadgets and teaching them about them, and doing puppet shows to the works of Ariosto. Not a very typical parent, I do therapy with my kids too since they have special needs.

I'm really laid back.