Call me suspicious ... does hearing *L*

[futureperfect5]

too much mean that the other person is:
unfaithful
uninterested
trying way too hard to commit

What if I don't want the **BIG** commitment?
Either way -- It is over ...

I wonder if he'll realize that when I said good-bye
it was GOOD-BYE ... I'll never go back.

Does that seem unfair?

[DrEast]

Sounds like an INFP who needs their fix to me.

[azelismia]

uh, I never thought L was that terrible of a word. I doubt it means any of the things you seem to think. in modern society the L word means like even if it's pronounced Love.

at least that's my take. it's used very casually by most people.

if you want to end it over that you weren't that interested anyway so what's the problem?

[sriv]

I only use love in the most powerful sense. My definition is what I devote most of my time willingly and enthusiastically to. When it is overused, the meaning fades.

[Jakalwarrior]

They are either feeling down or unconfident and wanting to hear it back, or think you dont feel that they love you. All motives aside ;)

you left out the option of them wanting you to reply back with the same to fulfill their own insecurity :P
But hey, we arent there so we cant judge their meaning by context or body language.

[Orya]

In my experience hearing the L word more frequently just means the person loves you, a whole lot, in that moment.

It took me a long time ( 1 1/2 years) of knowing a certain someone before I could ever muster up that word. Even with family, it's a word rarely used.

So yeah, I'd say there's nothing to be paranoid about.

[Caramel]

The other person is telling you that he loves you because you are pushing him away. He's trying to find reassurance in your words, he wants you to say "I love you too" back to him.

[qwerty]

Well, I haven't ever said to anyone who I didn't mean it to. Now I do have someone special to say it to, I say it because I mean it and because I want her to know how much she means to me.

If that comes across as too much sometimes, I guess it means that I can't show her enough so I substitute actions with words.

At the end of the day, it comes down to how you or your SO says it. Do they say it to everyone? Or just to you? It could be very special to single them out or to have them single you out from the rest of the crowd ;). So the more someone says it just to you, the more special you are.

Of course I can see it working the other way, as futureperfect5 said, it could be a way to cover for covert behaviour. At the end of the day though, if that thought enters your head, it means you don't really trust your SO enough subconsciously.

[futureperfect5]

... did not go back
did investigate, casually with a mutual acquaintance

He met her at a private bar after a karate event
that he attended with his friends.

I didn't ask the how long questions, etc.
It seems irrelavent.

For those who think that my lack of expression
or aloofness was the problem or his reason
... knowing the struggle that it takes to be present
in a relationship, for someone naturally detached,
I think that the fact that I was there was a lot,
maybe not enough.

Coincidently, the timing meant that I could move
to a new place, a new environment to explore ...