being out of sync of other

[przeor]

What system of thinking do you use to being in sync with society?
I lost life's balance & I'm now felling so lonley

What are you doing to avoid this trap?

[Toby]

Why do you see yourself as being out of sync with society?

What is life's balance?

[Solaris]

Sounds like you let your I take over. You just have to start socializing again.

[Minerva]

What system of thinking do you use to being in sync with society?
I lost life's balance & I'm now felling so lonley

What are you doing to avoid this trap?

Take your time. Seems that you may be a little derailed about something or the other. Did something somewhat traumatizing happen to you lately? You need to regroup yourself by think your way through. But don't rush it. Your answers will come with a little time.

[przeor]

Sounds like you let your I take over. You just have to start socializing again.

That's good advice. But how?

I last time invested 100% of my time in chasing to materialize an idea. I lost balance. So it damaged all of my relationships with outer world. Have an INTJ on this forum similar case in their life?

I don't know what is balance. But it is good if you feel well about your relationships :).

How approach to solve this my subjective problem?

[eclecticjoker]

Get involved in theater?

I'm pretty sure that community theater's function is to draw introverts out of their dank holes and into the brilliant and insane light of creative drama. And interpersonal drama. And everything else.

Worked for me. XD

[ElstonGunn]

What's so bad about being an introvert?


As for the original question, I'm not entirely sure what you mean by being in sync with society. It sounds like something that I might not even be too interested in to begin with. You might want to make sure that you're in sync with yourself before you start working on other things. Of course, there's always the chance that I misunderstood the question.

[AgentofGaming]

That's good advice. But how?

I last time invested 100% of my time in chasing to materialize an idea. I lost balance. So it damaged all of my relationships with outer world. Have an INTJ on this forum similar case in their life?

I don't know what is balance. But it is good if you feel well about your relationships :).

How approach to solve this my subjective problem?
I'm not going to give the vague 'go make some friends' but there are many ways to socialize. You can: meet up with some old friends, find some people to talk over IM, discuss in meeting places for people devoted to one of your hobbies, let work/school put you in a team, join clubs, etc

Similar case? yes, I discarded old friends and avoided people 3 times in a row. I moved to another high school in halfway in second semester for junior year. Later went to post-secondary (no familiar faces) and furthermore friends I met in first year dropped-out. As well I never maintained my friendships with friends I didn't see and never talked to friends at all over the summers (complete gaming social isolation), so the end result is quite obvious.

The balance is that friendship isn't a one way street. People won't try to be friends with you if you don't reciprocate; they eventually give up. That said you must invest more than 0% in socializing if you're expecting to have people still around.

[Solaris]

That's good advice. But how?

I last time invested 100% of my time in chasing to materialize an idea. I lost balance. So it damaged all of my relationships with outer world. Have an INTJ on this forum similar case in their life?

I don't know what is balance. But it is good if you feel well about your relationships :).

How approach to solve this my subjective problem?

Well, there you go, you didn't pursue your goal with balance. Don't invest 100% in anything. Small steps. I'm an E, so I parse out bits of alone time for myself to keep balance, you have to do the opposite. As others suggested, try reconnecting with those who are closest to you.

I'm thinking English isn't your first language, what is it? If we know, perhaps somebody else here speaks it and can help.

[przeor]

Thanks :)