Being Disregarded

[maai]

Has anyone else ever posted a comment or good suggestion in a different forum and have them totally disregard you? (And I'm not referring to INTJforum.com)

I have posted good ideas/suggestions in a different forum. Have them totally disregard the suggestion. Then later someone else will make the suggestion and everyone else thinks its a wonderful suggestion. I mean it's like DUH I made that suggestion on the last page.

Or, worse yet have someone take a perfactly innocent comment and go ballastic on it?

[maai]

Ohh well. It happens here too. :-X

[Raven Queen]

Heh heh, you are Being Disregarded.

I wouldn't know though, because I don't really post much on other forums.

[thegnat]

Ohh well. It happens here too. :-X
it happens on all forums.

Just imagine how cluttered forums would be if everyone responded to everything?

you're not talking to people you know.

you're talking to internet personalities. You don't know that this is the actual person's personality. I don't mean that in INTJ/ESFP sense. I'm talking about how people project a different personality than their real life personality. They could make themselves tougher, smarter, dumber, etc online.

People will respond to things that they have time to respond to/want to respond to.

People won't respond to things they don't care about.

They aren't generally thinking of the other people's feelings.

It's internet forum "life".

[maai]

It really does not bother me. I was just wondering if other INTj's noticed something similiar. Trying to strike up a discussion on the subject.
Maybe I should have a poll on what Winnie-the-pooh animal INTj's identify with? I dunno. Bored to the point of even watching TV tonight.

[qwerty]

more often than not it's more a case of misunderstanding. People don't see the idea the way you do, then when someone else rewords it they see the brilliance

[Epicurus]

The best thing to do (if the forum rules there allows it) is to smug them down with sarcasm and calling them names, in ''fun'' way ofcourse. That is if they are clearly idiots and thats all clear.

[Rei]

I think a lot of the time people just miss posts.

I usually don't care if someone else takes credit for whatever I posted before (It comes with the whole, working in the background, not in the limelight thing).

It does bug me when people go ballistic about a perfectly innocent post though. I hate being accused of something that's not true.

[Panthera]

yeah I know exactly what you mean. It happens to me alot even in my family. I will make a comment on something and be totally ignored. How to deal with it? I push the anger deep down until it festers and I finally explode. Then everyone thinks I am a *&%$#. I tell you, you can't win. The best thing to do is realize that most people can't stand having someone smarter than them, so they have to steal your ideas and make it seem like their own.

[generalowk]

Actually, this happens to me a lot in real life (not by INTJs, though), and it's a big pet peeve of mine.

I must have a sign on me that says "please feel free to interrupt this conversation I'm having" without even the courtesy of excusing yourself. Most don't even wait until I've paused after a sentence. Must be mostly E-types.

I would never butt in to someone else's private conversation unless it was extremely urgent (e.g. "the building's on fire!").

[toonia]

This happens to me irl and on some forums. Here is my month old blog post referring to this sort of thing. The people least likely to do this to me have been INTJs.
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It is a strange phenomenon and now I wonder if it is related to Ni specifically.

[Jezebel]

This happens to me irl and on some forums. Here is my month old blog post referring to this sort of thing. The people least likely to do this to me have been INTJs.
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Members that don't have an account there can't read it. :-/

[thegnat]

Oh it happens to me in real life a lot actually.

It used to happen a lot more than it does now I think because I've learned to be a bit more clear in my speech.

[logan235711]

more often than not it's more a case of misunderstanding. People don't see the idea the way you do, then when someone else rewords it they see the brilliance
yep :)

[mind_wander]

Has anyone else ever posted a comment or good suggestion in a different forum and have them totally disregard you? (And I'm not referring to INTJforum.com)

I have posted good ideas/suggestions in a different forum. Have them totally disregard the suggestion. Then later someone else will make the suggestion and everyone else thinks its a wonderful suggestion. I mean it's like DUH I made that suggestion on the last page.

Or, worse yet have someone take a perfactly innocent comment and go ballastic on it?

Why I have, not really in here, but others. Most likely the different way of thinking could be more of the problem.

[mind_wander]

yeah I know exactly what you mean. *It happens to me alot even in my family. I will make a comment on something and be totally ignored. How to deal with it? *I push the anger deep down until it festers and I finally explode. *Then everyone thinks I am a *&%$#. *I tell you, you can't win. *The best thing to do is realize that most people can't stand having someone smarter than them, so they have to steal your ideas and make it seem like their own.
Same here, kinda sux being a sideliner huh. Unless they need you for something.

[Firelie]

Actually, this happens to me a lot in real life (not by INTJs, though), and it's a big pet peeve of mine.

I must have a sign on me that says "please feel free to interrupt this conversation I'm having" without even the courtesy of excusing yourself. Most don't even wait until I've paused after a sentence. Must be mostly E-types.

I would never butt in to someone else's private conversation unless it was extremely urgent (e.g. "the building's on fire!").

There's this girl at work who does that a lot. It's usually something inane and completely useless, so I ignore her and keep talking to the person I was originally talking to. What makes it hilarious is that the girl gets so annoyed that she's being ignored that she repeats her comment over and over again until she realizes we're not going to respond to her. And yes, she's one of those "E-types".

[rwyatt365]

Ohh well. It happens here too. *:-X
Huh? Did you say something? :-? ;D (j/k)

[rwyatt365]

Actually, it happens to me in real life but not so much on forums. I often wonder if people have a "filter" that blocks my comments/suggestions and renders me invisible.

[maai]

I guess its time for quiet thinking.

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[maai]

Mmmm--I'll try thinking again

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Darn- I think too visually!!