"Sorry, what did you say?"

[Cubedout]

This is my worst habit. I'll be so wrapped up in my head that I'll have to ask the other person to repeat what was just said. Any of you guys have this problem?

[Darkmist]

My worst habit. Probably not. Gets paper and pen out to make a list. I do this though yes. As well, I nod and respond while my mind is elsewhere and get constant flack for not recalling what someone told me.

I told you that. Don't you remember?

Uh, not so much.

[malefide]

Yep. Often people's speech is so unclear and garbled-sounding to me that I have to ask them to repeat it like four times over before I finally understand, which is kind of embarrassing.

My INTP dad has this tendency of being so caught up in thinking that he won't reply to something someone says right away, but then after ten minutes of silence, he'll respond. So his brain obviously processed the information of what was said, but it was low on his list of cognitive priorities, so it didn't get addressed until he was done thinking. But that's just a theory.

[curiousjane]

Ha!

YES.

Especially when I'm online (this forum, for example), concentrating, and my roommate tries to tell me about her day. We're great friends, so I really should pay attention.

After awhile, I realize that she's still talking, and I don't have a clue what she just said. And then I have to admit I was paying more attention to people I've never met than I do a good friend and person I see every day.

How embarrassing.

[ethsar46]

Yes, this always happens when I talk to my parents.

ie. i might be over at their place, ill ask "whats for dinner?" they tell me what it is, like a minute later ill ask "whats for dinner?" again.

Also happens to me alot at work, since sometimes people just ramble on about crap you know is useless so I just tune out and go into "nod to pretend your listening" mode.

[Zirka]

Yup. All the time, to the point where it seems like I don't hear anything my friends say. And I also tend to forget what people have told me, so I always get the "I thought I told you about ________?" to which I respond with a blank stare.

[mental drift]

all the time, and I hear a lot from my wife I told you this or that, but a lot of times I'm zoning. If she was an INTJ she could figure out how to get her way just by saying I told you....(we were going to the movies tonight, we were going to lunch, you had to clean the garage, I needed a hundred dollars, etc..), but she's an ENFP so no worries.

[Pinkie]

Yes, this happens to me all the time. People always attribute it to bad hearing, though, rather than a busy mind, which makes me somewhat amused.

[Metamorphosis]

I rarely do this. It seems to me that if I'm not paying attention to what someone is saying to me, then I could be missing a valuable piece of information.

I hate repeating myself (and normally don't) so I Hate it when someone does this to me.

[Duncan Cade]

I do this very rarely. About once a week.

[quest ion]

Yeah, happens to me all the time. Can't help it!

[Doppelbock]

This is my worst habit. I'll be so wrapped up in my head that I'll have to ask the other person to repeat what was just said. Any of you guys have this problem?

Uh, yeah, I think this is a standard INTJ thing. I'll even still be in my head so I won't hear what the other person repeats and then I'm faced with deciding to ask yet again or just fake it.

[geonerd]

Uh, yeah, I think this is a standard INTJ thing. I'll even still be in my head so I won't hear what the other person repeats and then I'm faced with deciding to ask yet again or just fake it.

yeah i do this too lol. people also accuse me of staring and i'm like...no, i'm thinking, and you just happen to be in front of me.

[BlackHawk]

(All too) Common Scenario:
Me: Wait a minute . . . I think someone's talking at me. (yes, at me)
*Turns to face person*
Me: "Sorry, I didn't catch that"
Him: "I said *strange background droning sound* "
Me: Oh darn, I did it again "Uh huh . . . Oh, cool! . . . Right. Definitely . . ."

Later:
Him: "Remember when I told you about that really cool new building in Dubai?"
Me: So that's what that was about . . .

[gogurtdynasty]

Mine is probably NOT asking people to repeat themselves...

Smile and nod boys... smile and nod

[lordrrr]

This is my worst habit. I'll be so wrapped up in my head that I'll have to ask the other person to repeat what was just said. Any of you guys have this problem?

All the time man! People get annoyed by it but screw their needs.

[selimut]

yup! used to ask people to repeat themselves a lot but found out it drives them crazy. so now i don't bother. my advice.. just nod and smile. it keeps everyone happy.

[lordrrr]

yup! used to ask people to repeat themselves a lot but found out it drives them crazy. so now i don't bother. my advice.. just nod and smile. it keeps everyone happy.

Yeah, but what if it's like, a teacher giving instructions to doing a science experiment or something? You know something important?

[gallihand]

All the time. To the point where people started getting annoyed so I adopted generic responses that signal interest and possible but not definite agreement and amusement. After a while you realize that if it really WAS important they'd pick up on that I haven't really responded to get more information or clarification.

[Serpent7]

No. As a matter of fact, I NEVER repeat myself, even when asked. The reason, of course, is that I have found that if I give people adequate time, they often can 'play back' what I just said. Thus, I need not repeat it, and they have just learned something new about themselves. Win - win.

[selimut]

Yeah, but what if it's like, a teacher giving instructions to doing a science experiment or something? You know something important?

i don't seem to have this problem. i think it's one of intj's skill..selective hearing.

[Rei]

i don't seem to have this problem. i think it's one of intj's skill..selective hearing.

I have horrible hearing if someone talks to me out of no where... but I'm one of those people who actually hears what the teachers are saying when she gives instructions. It bugs me so much when we do group work, and my group members are like, "so what did the teacher say we have to do?" :suspicious:

[bluenote]

Yup all the time! In fact I don’t even notice when a a crowd of people has passed by. Some people think I’m forgetful actually I’m too absorbed in what’s in front of me. Can’t people understand total concentration and focus?

[Jenny Penny]

This happens to me when I'm in meetings at work and when I'm around extraverted sensors who talk constantly. My INTJ dad visibly talks to himself while you're talking to him. I'm not that bad!

[Jakalwarrior]

yeah i do this too lol. people also accuse me of staring and i'm like...no, i'm thinking, and you just happen to be in front of me.

This used to happen to me alot. Now I check every now and then to see if somone has moved into my eye resting spot. If they have I get a little annoyed and pick a new spot. Also got a lot of "are you ok?"s when I was in highschool.

As for human speech. I hate meaningless details and slow talking people. Drives me crazy. I just want to download the core story in about 2 seconds and be done with it.

I work a job where I help people. They always want to tell me a long drawn out story hoping it will affect my descision etc.. I space out and wait for it to get done. Catch some high points incase they mention it again. Maybe read a web page. I hate to tell them but the story doesnt affect me at all. Ive already made a system of guidelines in my head so that I can do the max for everyone within fair bounds. Ive taken discretion out of it by not being lazy. Just cut to the chase and I will tell you what you are eligble for! /snooze. If im already doing everything I can, I can't do more for a sob story!

[True Rune]

Yeah, I didn't think this was an INTJ thing though.. But it happens.

[AgentofGaming]

It's some sort of mind noise I have from my thoughts in the background, I tune out of the real world partially. However if someone engaging me the noise is lower.

For someone who is not present and who I don't want to give attention to their voice becomes the noise instead of the thoughts. Worse when it's combined with phone noise. Today I actually told person to repeat 5 times, and then they gave up. :blank:

[Snowdragon]

"What?"

I find myself doing that with people all the time.

[ssrprotege]

This is my worst habit. I'll be so wrapped up in my head that I'll have to ask the other person to repeat what was just said. Any of you guys have this problem?

Yes, happens always happens to me, as I zone out quite frequently. It's rare that I get the things quickly so that I don't have to ask the other person. I think this (generally) frequently happens to INxx types.

[sriv]

Way too much. I say "What?" sometimes just to think about what I will say while they are occupied repeating themselves.
It is an extremely bad habit that I have to stop. Annoys people and I can see it.

[Rei]

Okay, I take back the comment about horrible hearing...
I actually have great hearing.

It's just that I rarely give people my full attention when they're speaking to me, so I usually lose the first half of every sentence I hear... Or the latter part of the paragraph.

At times, I've simply given up asking people to repeat themselves, and just smile/laugh and nod instead. :blank:

[Ironmind]

Often, special when my girl is starting to talk, don't hearing anything at all, and say; yess/or smile..
When it's important, it's not hard to listen, only meaningless info is hard to listen at, it's making me tired.
Indeed, also slow talking is making me tired.., please tell me short what's going on, now!

[TheBlindSage]

I actually don't do this much at all.
Well, unless I'm distracted.

[fictionsmosaic]

I've done this many times. Although sometimes I'm so caught up in whatever I was doing at the time that I might smile and nod at the wrong moments. Got myself a kick once because of that. For the most part, it isn't all that bad. Sometimes people catch it, sometimes they don't.

I did it a few times with some teachers, most of them didn't mind. If it's just a mindless banter, then there's little chance of me hearing anything. One girl I knew loved that about me, she'd rant like nothing I've ever heard before and I'd smile and nod, sometimes she'd ask me if I paid any attention or not by asking questions.

[kusaninja]

the only time i do this is checking the time. ill look at a clock or something, and then realize i didnt check what the time was, i was just checking the clock.
other than that, im fairly good at multitasking. must come from years of watching tv, listening to music, talking on cell phone, doing homework, and playing video games at the same time.

[dori]

All the time.

Its where the Dori nickname comes from, Finding Nemo. If after 5 seconds something doesnt interest me I zone out and have no idea of whats been said.
Your mouth is moving but all i hear is blah blah blah.

[Ironmind]

the only time i do this is checking the time. ill look at a clock or something, and then realize i didnt check what the time was, i was just checking the clock.


Same here, wonna know the time, have a look at my phone, and no info has reach my mind..

Crazy!

[catd]

yeah i do this too lol. people also accuse me of staring and i'm like...no, i'm thinking, and you just happen to be in front of me.

:laugh: That's hilarious! I stare a lot too but really I'm not staring, I'm thinking! People do think you are staring at them though.

I lose interest easily and my mind wanders. I use to hear "You don't pay attention" constantly from my father.

[Motor Jax]

i'm always like, "what was that?"

[Rhiannon]

"Huh?" is the most used word in my vocabulary. I'm sure I say it like a total moron too.

I can't help it that my mind goes elsewhere during conversation! They'll say something that triggers a thought/idea, and like I want to miss out on where it all leads.

[Double Victory]

Almost every time I talk to someone this happens. Sometimes I even am paying attention, I just can't understand what they're saying. One of my friends is that same way, and when we try to have conversations they always end up (amusingly) useless.

Her: I love rain!
Me: ....Did you just say, "Elephant?"
Her: Elephant!!!

Most of the time, though, I zone out when I shouldn't.... like when a professor is giving me instructions on how to do the homework, or something like that. Paying attention just requires so much effort....

[tp6626]

Yeah this is exactly what I do. I hear words that aren't there, when they just sound a little like something else. Especially when I've had lots of caffeine.

I thought that I was losing my hearing, but I have very good hearing elsewhere. For example, I can pick out nearly every instrument on a CD, and can usually tell when cars arrive at my flat without looking out the window (which makes people in the same room think I have a sixth sense or something!).

Anyone else get this, or know a way to get round it, as it can cause minor problems / arguments at work?

[Vathir]

I do this occasionally as well.

However, I have an INTP friend who does this -constantly-, so I don't think it's so bad for us.

[Genuine]

I do this a lot.

I'm trying to respond back but I'm talking in my mind about something else at the same time as them. And the other person's noise gets blocked out.

[True Rune]

It happens, more than I would like it to.. being a student and all.
I posted before in this topic.. I wish I could sleep, really.
Forgive me.

[cahernandez]

This is my worst habit. I'll be so wrapped up in my head that I'll have to ask the other person to repeat what was just said. Any of you guys have this problem?

me too. esp. when i am in the relax mode, i can figuratively close my ears and won't hear/ understand what the other person is saying.