Did you go to Prom?

[cielo market]

What do INTJ's think of school dances?

[Chainsaw Dundee]

I hate dancing. But if a bunch of pretentious horny punks want to blow a bunch of cash on a limo/tux/etc just to dance and possibly get laid, let them.

[thegnat]

senior year with a group.

it wasn't easy convincing me to go...

[Raven Queen]

My friends managed to convince me to go for the school prom next month. I'm dreading it. :(

[OneBadMother]

I went to prom senior year with my ex (not ex at the time). It was not particularly memorable, and I don't really see the appeal.

[bucolic_]

Well, i went to prom jr. year with my girlfriend at the time, but I didn't like it. Only other dance was my middle school graduation dance, which was even worse.

[generalowk]

Yes.

[mind_wander]

Senior year, missed out on the prom and the Senior photo. I don't like pictures and I got more important things to take care of, its called being prepared for College, well at least during that time.

[rwyatt365]

Nope, I was starting college when the school prom was on.

[Rei]

I went to most of them... not so much to hang out WITH people... just among people.
Dances are good work outs.

Prom... I admit I like an excuse to dress up once in a while.

I went to two different high schools, and my best friend was at my old school so I actually went to two proms.

[cielo market]

I didn't go, and (according to my friends who did go) I didn't miss much *[smiley=dozey.gif]

[Yersinia]

I went to my prom with my boy-friend and my friends (who were all in my grade). It was fun but I didn't dance and the food wasn't that great :D Afterwards we went to a near park to have a chat. *nicememories*

[The Rose]

The smartest boy (nerd) in school invited me and I made the mistake of telling my mother. She made me go. Now he's married to a man twice his age and fighting for gay rights in NY. We were friends. I felt betrayed when I found out.

[OFL]

I graduated after my junior year so i was not therefor my senior prom, but i wouldn't have went anyways. I hated school spirit and the type of people i went to school with so i had no interest in going.

OFL :)

[Firelie]

Prom was the ONLY dance I went to. *I convinced all of my friends to go with me because none of them wanted to go. *I mainly wanted to get a pretty dress and flounce around for an evening.

[chocky]

We don't call them proms in Australia, and it was twenty-odd years back for me, and I'm intp, but

NO!

Not going was my way of showing disdain for the system that tried to crush me, and for the peer group that tormented me ceaselessly. Not that anyone would have cared or missed my presence in a nice way, but it at least deprived my tormentors of an extra-curricular opportunity to inflict pain.

So. it was my pathetic, inconsequential stand against sheepdom and herd behaviour. Self inflicted one upmanship ostracism. (And neatly avoided the confrontation with the fact that I was so hated no one would ask me to dance unless it was a joke.) It was so long ago and I was such a prideful teen. I haven't really changed. I'd still rather die than publicly exhibit my un-dance-ability.

Uh, this self-pity is unsightly. Moving along now to something more interesting....

[mind_wander]

We don't call them proms in Australia, and it was twenty-odd years back for me, and I'm intp, but

NO!

Not going was my way of showing disdain for the system that tried to crush me, and for the peer group that tormented me ceaselessly. Not that anyone would have cared or missed my presence in a nice way, but it at least deprived my tormentors of an extra-curricular opportunity to inflict pain.

So. it was my pathetic, inconsequential stand against sheepdom and herd behaviour. Self inflicted one upmanship ostracism. (And neatly avoided the confrontation with the fact that I was so hated no one would ask me to dance unless it was a joke.) It was so long ago and I was such a prideful teen. I haven't really changed. I'd still rather die than publicly exhibit my un-dance-ability.

Uh, this self-pity is unsightly. Moving along now to something more interesting....

Amen to that one :thumbsup:. I had female playing jokes on me like Junior High because I don't have a girlfriend. Its not I don't like girls because my way of thinking is way too different for anyone to comprenhend what the heck I'm talking about. However, only the few managed to get to know me, which is lucky because someone's loss is someone elses benefit.

[chocky]

We don't call them proms in Australia, and it was twenty-odd years back for me, and I'm intp, but

NO!

Not going was my way of showing disdain for the system that tried to crush me, and for the peer group that tormented me ceaselessly. Not that anyone would have cared or missed my presence in a nice way, but it at least deprived my tormentors of an extra-curricular opportunity to inflict pain.

So. it was my pathetic, inconsequential stand against sheepdom and herd behaviour. Self inflicted one upmanship ostracism. (And neatly avoided the confrontation with the fact that I was so hated no one would ask me to dance unless it was a joke.) It was so long ago and I was such a prideful teen. I haven't really changed. I'd still rather die than publicly exhibit my un-dance-ability.

Uh, this self-pity is unsightly. Moving along now to something more interesting....

Amen to that one :thumbsup:. I had female playing jokes on me like Junior High because I don't have a girlfriend. Its not I don't like girls because my way of thinking is way too different for anyone to comprenhend what the heck I'm talking about. However, only the few managed to get to know me, which is lucky because someone's loss is someone elses benefit.


Yeah, teenagers can be so cruel to one another. Like nothing else I know.

The things that get us treated badly by others at school are the things that can make us great individuals as adults. I'd rather have my scars than act, and think, like one of the sheep. So hang in there mind_wander, as you say those few worthwhile people are the one's that get to know you!

[BloozeGit]

Yes I did.

But I made a point of wearing a BRIGHT Hawaiian shirt and slacks while everyone was all decked in suits and gowns and crap, to express my nascent non-conformist ideals and distaste for pretentious posturing.

We don't really have a tradition of asking for dates so that wasn't a problem. ;D

[Evalind]

A friend and I skipped it and went to a concert out of town instead. :)

[wolf]

No, not that it was an option as I graduated before there were any to consider going to. I wouldn't have gone anyhow.

I didn't do any of those social things in college, either. I even avoided every last ceremony. My skills are unmatched in this area.

[orange]

NO I did not go to prom! My senior year I made a deal with my firends if they got together this rather elaborate pink tux with a bunch of extra crap that I would go and ware it. They fail so I gladly didn't go. One of my teachers was trying to get me to ask a girl that was in one of my classes that he tought to prom and looking back I almost wish that I had.

[Rei]

Prom was the ONLY dance I went to. I convinced all of my friends to go with me because none of them wanted to go. I mainly wanted to get a pretty dress and flounce around for an evening.

FLOUNCE!
It was quite a waste of time at the time of, but I have to admit that planning for it was fun. Looking back, it still gives me the illusion that it was fun.

Man, I wish I got more pictures... spent that much effort to look good and I didn't get many pictures ::)

[aelan]

yes, my junior year I went somewhat willingly, senior year one of my friends pretty much guilted me into going (that year I hated it and couldn't wait till it was over). I didn't have a date either year.

I don't really like dances. I used to, back in middleschool, but once I got to highschool and they became all about being drunk and grinding random people, I lost interest very quickly.. Prom wasn't as bad as the regular dances.

[Ryokurin]

I wasn't going to. In fact it was the only dance I went to during high school. My dad found out that I wasn't and basically him and his girlfriend at the time worked on me a few weeks to get me to do it. I ended up going with a blind date, with a girl that went to a different high school, was taller than me and frankly we didn't have anything to talk about. We hung out maybe an hour into it until I found some people I knew there and I basically ignored her the rest of the night. I think I ran into her once again the day after I graduated and obviously that meeting didn't go too well but I didn't care.

I can go to dances and such now, not that I do it much now anyways as I average a date around once every 4 years or so. I still have to pace myself to handle it however. I'm slowly trying to make myself more sociable.

[Rei]

yes, my junior year I went somewhat willingly, senior year one of my friends pretty much guilted me into going (that year I hated it and couldn't wait till it was over). I didn't have a date either year.

I don't really like dances. I used to, back in middleschool, but once I got to highschool and they became all about being drunk and grinding random people, I lost interest very quickly.. Prom wasn't as bad as the regular dances.
I actually refused to go with a date... No obligations =/

You guys were allowed to drink at high school dances?! What's legal age where you are?


High school dances were good. But parties/dances in University I really don't have interest in unless I go with a huge group of people... It's a safety issue...

[mind_wander]

We don't call them proms in Australia, and it was twenty-odd years back for me, and I'm intp, but

NO!

Not going was my way of showing disdain for the system that tried to crush me, and for the peer group that tormented me ceaselessly. Not that anyone would have cared or missed my presence in a nice way, but it at least deprived my tormentors of an extra-curricular opportunity to inflict pain.

So. it was my pathetic, inconsequential stand against sheepdom and herd behaviour. Self inflicted one upmanship ostracism. (And neatly avoided the confrontation with the fact that I was so hated no one would ask me to dance unless it was a joke.) It was so long ago and I was such a prideful teen. I haven't really changed. I'd still rather die than publicly exhibit my un-dance-ability.

Uh, this self-pity is unsightly. Moving along now to something more interesting....

Amen to that one *:thumbsup:. I had female playing jokes on me like Junior High because I don't have a girlfriend. Its not I don't like girls because my way of thinking is way too different for anyone to comprenhend what the heck I'm talking about. However, only the few managed to get to know me, which is lucky because someone's loss is someone elses benefit.


Yeah, teenagers can be so cruel to one another. Like nothing else I know.

The things that get us treated badly by others at school are the things that can make us great individuals as adults. I'd rather have my scars than act, and think, like one of the sheep. So hang in there mind_wander, as you say those few worthwhile people are the one's that get to know you!

Yeah, happy in a way to heading up in college, there are good souls out there who willing to accept your weird way of thinking[ if you wanted to called it weird]. Like you said, "I think I'd rather have my scars than act, and think, like one of the sheep." See the problem is a professor tell you to do something, the natural reaction is either to do or not to do. Not because your an idiot, but you as an individual know that your unique skills can be ulitized much more productive and efficient [kinda like the construct and chain approach]. Tell me what to do, ok, "Here is a pile of work to do, lol your all mine." INTJ reaction, "Help me, ok do not panic, life can be worse." At least I am not like the next person in line who does nothing with your life *:thumbsup:, always continue learning [with mental breaks].

As for the girls making fun of me, during Junior High was all a bad memory. Yes, some people did not know my name-Sam. Trust me, I've had so many nicknames people called me: Sam I am, Green Eggs and Ham, Samuel L. Jackson, Samsonite, Sam the Man, Samantha[I don't know where people is going with this one, at least the Sam part was correct], Jackie Chan nephew, Bruce Lee son, etc. But, thinking about alot of those names were considered famous, so its not a big loss :) Now, in college with either sex, people would mostly laugh with me, not at me *:thumbsup: I took all those negative jokes into a creative sacrastic jokes, without that man its hard to fit in. Hey, as an INTJ, you can turned the table around.

[mind_wander]

No, not that it was an option as I graduated before there were any to consider going to. *I wouldn't have gone anyhow.

I didn't do any of those social things in college, either. *I even avoided every last ceremony. *My skills are unmatched in this area.
Yeah, I know. If you heard that there was an INTJ club or Personality Club, I know you will the first one in line, lol

[TruorTupnm]

I never went to any dances or games or anything like that. Had more entertaining things to do, and none of the humans that I hung out with at the time cared about those things, either. My parents never attempted to get me to try hanging out, either, which was cool. Why would I wish to pay money to head back to school just to watch people bounce around and call it dancing?

[mustangtech]

I didn't see a choice to vote yes and no. I went my senior year but not my junior year. Prom is a huge pain. Glad I did it once, glad I won't ever to it again. There's so much stuff to get worked up over with Prom.

My junior year my friends and myself decided we'd go as just a group of guys, go cause some trouble then leave. But one ended up getting a girlfriend before prom and he had to go with her. Next thing you know someone else has a girlfriend and then someone else...so there were about 3 of us left with no girlfriends, so we had to find dates. I graduated with 80 people in my senior class, so there weren't exactly a lot of people to choose from and everybody knew everybody else. Well I call my friend to ask for advice about who to ask, I tell him who I think I'm going to ask. Then he turns around and tells another one of our friends that I'm going to ask her. So he beats me to the punch. One less girl available and two friends that I no longer trust. When all is said and done I end up not going, instead took the weekend and went to a big Mustang show with my father.

Senior year all my friends still have girlfriends so I know I've got to get on the ball and find a date. The prom is May 1st. So I figured I'd ask the Monday after the Super Bowl...plenty of time to work out contingentcies should something go wrong. So I aks this girl who I was really good friends with (and had had a crush on for some time, but she didn't know it of course). She was already going with one of her friend's friends. Devasted, I knew I had plenty of time so I continued the search. I then ask another girl whom I'd been fairly close friends with, she didn't even returned my call, she had someone else tell me she wasn't interested. Needless to say I haven't really spoken to her since. I could have respected her if she told me no to my face, but she really pissed me off. I then ask a sophomore I'd had art class with, she would have gone but her dad didn't want her to go with a senior, not her fault no hard feelings there. Finally I aksed a girl I really didn't know she said sure. We went with all my friends and their girlfriends and I can say it was one of the most akward nights of my life. Luckily my date really just wanted to dance with the other sophomore girls who were there so I was spared that.

Sorry to ramble on...prom sucks.

[Rei]

I didn't see a choice to vote yes and no. I went my senior year but not my junior year. Prom is a huge pain. Glad I did it once, glad I won't ever to it again. There's so much stuff to get worked up over with Prom.

My junior year my friends and myself decided we'd go as just a group of guys, go cause some trouble then leave. But one ended up getting a girlfriend before prom and he had to go with her. Next thing you know someone else has a girlfriend and then someone else...so there were about 3 of us left with no girlfriends, so we had to find dates. I graduated with 80 people in my senior class, so there weren't exactly a lot of people to choose from and everybody knew everybody else. Well I call my friend to ask for advice about who to ask, I tell him who I think I'm going to ask. Then he turns around and tells another one of our friends that I'm going to ask her. So he beats me to the punch. One less girl available and two friends that I no longer trust. When all is said and done I end up not going, instead took the weekend and went to a big Mustang show with my father.

Senior year all my friends still have girlfriends so I know I've got to get on the ball and find a date. The prom is May 1st. So I figured I'd ask the Monday after the Super Bowl...plenty of time to work out contingentcies should something go wrong. So I aks this girl who I was really good friends with (and had had a crush on for some time, but she didn't know it of course). She was already going with one of her friend's friends. Devasted, I knew I had plenty of time so I continued the search. I then ask another girl whom I'd been fairly close friends with, she didn't even returned my call, she had someone else tell me she wasn't interested. Needless to say I haven't really spoken to her since. I could have respected her if she told me no to my face, but she really pissed me off. I then ask a sophomore I'd had art class with, she would have gone but her dad didn't want her to go with a senior, not her fault no hard feelings there. Finally I aksed a girl I really didn't know she said sure. We went with all my friends and their girlfriends and I can say it was one of the most akward nights of my life. Luckily my date really just wanted to dance with the other sophomore girls who were there so I was spared that.

Sorry to ramble on...prom sucks.
Yeah... that's why I insisted on going alone. I hate to have to go with someone and it'd end up being all awkward.
One of my guy friends actually suggested that I went with some guy (who was also one of my guy friend). I got so angry with him because 1) you don't tell me what's good for me, 2) if he wanted me to go with him, he should ask me himself so I could tell him that I didn't want to go with anyone. My friend kept insisting that because everyone else was going with someone that I should too. I was angry with him for a long time, but they all got together and bought my corsage for me... which really meant I ended up with two, because my mother had one made for me too.

[mind_wander]

I didn't see a choice to vote yes and no. I went my senior year but not my junior year. Prom is a huge pain. Glad I did it once, glad I won't ever to it again. There's so much stuff to get worked up over with Prom.

My junior year my friends and myself decided we'd go as just a group of guys, go cause some trouble then leave. But one ended up getting a girlfriend before prom and he had to go with her. Next thing you know someone else has a girlfriend and then someone else...so there were about 3 of us left with no girlfriends, so we had to find dates. I graduated with 80 people in my senior class, so there weren't exactly a lot of people to choose from and everybody knew everybody else. Well I call my friend to ask for advice about who to ask, I tell him who I think I'm going to ask. Then he turns around and tells another one of our friends that I'm going to ask her. So he beats me to the punch. One less girl available and two friends that I no longer trust. When all is said and done I end up not going, instead took the weekend and went to a big Mustang show with my father.

Senior year all my friends still have girlfriends so I know I've got to get on the ball and find a date. The prom is May 1st. So I figured I'd ask the Monday after the Super Bowl...plenty of time to work out contingentcies should something go wrong. So I aks this girl who I was really good friends with (and had had a crush on for some time, but she didn't know it of course). She was already going with one of her friend's friends. Devasted, I knew I had plenty of time so I continued the search. I then ask another girl whom I'd been fairly close friends with, she didn't even returned my call, she had someone else tell me she wasn't interested. Needless to say I haven't really spoken to her since. I could have respected her if she told me no to my face, but she really pissed me off. I then ask a sophomore I'd had art class with, she would have gone but her dad didn't want her to go with a senior, not her fault no hard feelings there. Finally I aksed a girl I really didn't know she said sure. We went with all my friends and their girlfriends and I can say it was one of the most akward nights of my life. Luckily my date really just wanted to dance with the other sophomore girls who were there so I was spared that.

Sorry to ramble on...prom sucks.
Yeah... that's why I insisted on going alone. *I hate to have to go with someone and it'd end up being all awkward.
One of my guy friends actually suggested that I went with some guy (who was also one of my guy friend). * I got so angry with him because 1) you don't tell me what's good for me, 2) if he wanted me to go with him, he should ask me himself so I could tell him that I didn't want to go with anyone. *My friend kept insisting that because everyone else was going with someone that I should too. *I was angry with him for a long time, but they all got together and bought my corsage for me... which really meant I ended up with two, because my mother had one made for me too.
Yeah, all this is part of the INTJ mentality, "You don't tell me what's good for me!" This was the first thing, came to mind. I am an individual who can decide by myself. NO spoonfeeding me please! You are apparently talking to the wrong personality type: How about a lovely "Feeler" or "Extravort"
Well maybe, but like my original train of thought. No please!

[aelan]

yes, my junior year I went somewhat willingly, senior year one of my friends pretty much guilted me into going (that year I hated it and couldn't wait till it was over). *I didn't have a date either year.

I don't really like dances. *I used to, back in middleschool, but once I got to highschool and they became all about being drunk and grinding random people, I lost interest very quickly.. *Prom wasn't as bad as the regular dances.
I actually refused to go with a date... No obligations =/

You guys were allowed to drink at high school dances?! *What's legal age where you are?

21..but that never stopped anyone. *It was mostly a boarding school too, so they'd do everything at school.

[StJimmy]

i was prom king. seriously. but it was a tiny school so really it doesn't count for much.

[Wolfie]

i was prom king. seriously. but it was a tiny school so really it doesn't count for much.

Wow. An intj... prom king..?
I don't understand what is wrong with me. I never really fit in anywhere but the dance company. I dance. I love to dance. I'm not that bad at it. Normally, I would use very...well punctuated sentence fluency, but the English teacher said "Abrupt, swift cuts add," she said like potency or something... I don't understand this... I just came back from a dance rehearsal, and now I can't think. I'm not even exhausted.
Anyways, when I'm sixteen and have a job I'll probably ask my dance friend to go to a dance with me.

[Gabrielle]

I went to my ex-boyfriend's prom, who was an INTP. Needless to say, I did not enjoy it. Since he was a year ahead of me, when my turn came (he was already in college across the pond in UK), I told him not to bother. I went to a national debate tournament instead.

[deicruxified]

my mom was actually bribing me at that time... still i won't budge...i have chosen not to join because i have issues with the whole batch. in fact i was one of the famous people way back then but i don't find it practical buying a gown for a one time event and you're not even sure if you can still use it in the future.

i started joining ball parties when i started working... for the sake of getting business contacts. of course i had no idea since i never exposed myself to proms or whatever but i won a modelling show. i went for the money of course but the rest is all crap. i hate fame if it's not resulted by my own ingenuity or intellect since beauty is onky skin deep. the mind is timeless

[yllmar]

I had determined that I wasn't going to prom in High School, and any chance of having a traditional date went out the window because of my announcement. I had a few teachers that liked me, and they and my mother guilted me into going at the last minute. I went stag by choice, I wasn't going to ask anyone to go with me anyway. Come to think of it, maybe subconciously I deliberately announced not going so I wouldn't have to bother with asking around for a date... who knows... anyway, a buddy of mine and I went for the first part where everyone gets all blubbery and sentimental. We both ducked out and went to an action movie before the real dancing started.

So, I voted no, but I went and left early.

In retrospect, I wish I had stuck to my guns and not gone altogether. I could've saved a lot of money.

[Aoiluna]

I did go to prom, but that was the only dance I ever went to. Instead of getting limos we used my date's father's '55 bel aire and my friend's dad's camaro. I only spent $10 on my dress that I picked from the clearance rack, and used shoes that I already had. My date payed for the ticket, and all the guys already had suits. The most expensive thing was getting my hair done (I have a lot of it) which I didnt pay for. We had fun as a group, but overall prom is overrated. being part of a graduating class of 888 (yes thats 3 8's) it was so crowded and I was surrounded by many people I disliked a whole lot. I still had fun with my friends though, and would have regretted it had I not gone.

[rwyatt365]

I did go to prom, but that was the only dance I ever went to. Instead of getting limos we used my date's father's '55 bel aire and my friend's dad's camaro. I only spent $10 on my dress that I picked from the clearance rack, and used shoes that I already had. My date payed for the ticket, and all the guys already had suits. The most expensive thing was getting my hair done (I have a lot of it) which I didnt pay for. We had fun as a group, but overall prom is overrated. being part of a graduating class of 888 (yes thats 3 8's) it was so crowded and I was surrounded by many people I disliked a whole lot. I still had fun with my friends though, and would have regretted it had I not gone.
Ooooo! a '55 Bel Aire - tasty!

What color(s) if I may ask? Did your dress match? :-?

Hey, I'm a car-guy!

[justmeiguess]

I went to school discos when I was a kid, but that was basically people jumping up and down to cheesy pop.

I didn't go to either the High School "Leavers" party or the Sixth Form Ball (when I actually finished school). I didn't go to the party because no one I liked was going , just the "popular" crowd. I didn't go to the Ball because:

a) It was too expensive, what with dress, food etc.
b) I hate dresses and haven't worn one since the day I got to choose my own clothes
c) I don't like any of the food on the menu, plus it was with wine and I don't drink
d) I hate dancing with a vengence - can't do it, don't want to do it and don't like people trying to make me do it.

So, instead I went to the cinema with my Mum to see Spielberg's War of the Worlds. :-[

[Aoiluna]

Yea me and my friend dressed in purple and black and the cars were blue and white. Everything looked good together, and we didnt even plan it that way, haha.

[spookyu]

I guess I'm the odd INTJ out here. I went to prom, enjoyed it. I actually enjoy dancing, maybe because I'm not so terrible at it. The only thing that I found to be somewhat irritating is my date ditching me, but I turned it around by dancing with about two dozen different girls by the end of the night. Honestly I doubt I could do it again and be that much of a socialite, well, maybe, but I know it took about a weeks worth of mental preparation and I didn't go out for a few days after.

[xanodel]

Hrmm, I actually did go, and in a totally INFJ moment (warning) because one of my friends wanted to go, didn't have a date, and didn't want to go alone, so I went with her under the pretense that we'd both be there as girls without dates, and have a jolly good time. Ended up that both of us got guys to go with us as friends, and my "date" was quite a riot. It wasn't bad, but that was because the guy I went with as friends, and my other friends, were pretty keen on not keeping me alone to my thoughts for a long time. XD

[The Many]

Yes, I went. It was alright, I suppose... I mean, I hate dancing, so I got suitably wasted instead. The problem was that there was a girl I wanted who was hitting on me (we didn't have dates, after all that is WAY too competitive for Sweden...) and wanted me to dance, but I was too drunk to get it all working. Not that I would have danced anyway, mind. But still.

[Bradtv]

Nope

[WavesSootheMe]

I'm a dancer. I started at a very young age and competed all through high school. Choreographed and picked up some new styles in college. Anything with dancing and I'm there. I went both my junior and senior year, but with a group of friends that I knew well. My junior year I was asked to a prom in Las Vegas which was a neat novel experience for me and my senior year my friend asked me in this really creative, sweet way. In both cases, I was with at least two other people that I knew and with whom I liked spending time. If dancing wasn't a talent of mine or I'd have to go with people that I didn't really know, then I probably would have avoided dances too.