Parties

[Tarrick]

Heh, that's the problem with us "unsociable" people...we're too social online when everyone else is out partying.

Partying is overrated and more expensive. Plus you're more liable to do something stupid. At least in general. The only parties I every go to (aside from family ones) are LAN parties with my friends.

[Firelie]

NERD ALERT NERD ALERT!!

J/k, my brother and I used to love playing Heroes 3: Of Might and Magic over a LAN back in the day...*sigh*

[Tarrick]

NERD ALERT NERD ALERT!!



Watch your language Missy. It's "Geek". Nerd is for that "Other" coast.

[Rei]

Agreed...
Though I'm occasionally in a sociable enough mood to ACTUALLY enjoy a party and a few drinks. It does help if I went with good friends... which I don't have too many of... and the ones I have happen to... not live in the middle of no where like I do.

[Guido]

I just came back from a house party :o Socializing isn't so bad if it's with the right people. I used to be a complete mute with people, as they generally bothered me. About 4 years ago I changed this (being sociable that is... people still bother me :o) after I became good friends with an ENFP who showed me the benefits of being sociable. I should probably make a post about this as it's a pretty interesting topic.

[Jezebel]

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[Tarrick]

I see someone used their mystery powers and had me start a thread.

In any event:

What kind of parties do you all enjoy? Big, small, specific types (like LAN or Movie Binge) or more general get togethers?

[Jezebel]

I see someone used their mystery powers and had me start a thread.

I just thought the divergent conversation was good enough to deserve its own thread ;)

[Jezebel]

What kind of parties do you all enjoy? Big, small, specific types (like LAN or Movie Binge) or more general get togethers?

I generally don't like parties, but go occasionally when my friends invite me. They're usually the backyard barbecue parties. It's not so bad, I have some introverted friends I go with and we sit together. I usually take a laptop and/or books. It's kind of funny, sometimes we'll all just sit there on our laptops or reading the whole time. Some people approach us and talk for a bit and leave, but I never feel pressured to make an effort to socialize.

I used to go to LAN parties when my friend lived next door... but haven't since he moved away.

[Guido]

1337 admin powers :o

Admittedly, LAN parties are by far the best hahaha. Small parties are good if they're with the right people... otherwise it's just weird and I get filled the need to get out of there... which clashes with 'this is socially awkward if I just leave'. There's been many a time when I've thought to myself 'Man, if I only could just instantly teleport home and escape the social mess that would ensue if I did so' or 'Maybe I could leave a clone behind so people would think I was still here.' I haven't found out how to teleport or make clones yet though.

The odd thing is, which might not be true for a lot of people here, I do enjoy going to the big ones. And I mean the monster parties where I don't know more than 2 people out of like 150+. The key is to drink a lot of alcohol :D At these huge parties most people don't know each other, so it makes it a lot easier to meet new people. I don't entirely plan to be single for life, so I try and force myself into these parties, even if I only do it once or twice a year.

Slightly off topic, but has anyone felt 'more normal' after drinking a bunch of alcohol? I feel like my brain gets slowed down a bunch and I stop thinking about absolutely everything, and as arrogant as this sounds, I feel like I'm on other people's wavelengths. Pretty much meaning that drinking alcohol makes me temporarily dumber, so I can get along with people better :D

[Guido]

Yeah... that's another I'm curious about... I never make plans with my friends... like ever. The amount of socializing (especially from the E ones) is really more than I can handle. So when a free night comes along that I can do my own thing, I readily hop on it.

[Rei]

I've had a LAN party. It was hilarious... 2 guys and me, sitting up till 6am playing games.

Anyway... I've been forced to socialize since I started my teens. My mother really wanted to up my useless social skills as - according to her - I will need them in the future no matter what my career path is.

So I'm generally alright at parties of any kind as long as there's someone talkative present to lead and continue the conversations. I tend to get into these awkward stalls when i start to say things because half the time it's some sarcastic comment that will probably offend SOMEONE there.

When I make plans with my friends. Usually they try to get me to join them in some outing or another. I tend to make excuses not to go to the ones with friends that I can no longer relate with. Those I still go out with must be at the same level as me (eg. in Undergrad studies) or higher education. It bugs me when I can't talk about regular life without being afraid of hurting someone's ego. Anyway, the only outings I plan are small things with just my best buds and I (a group of 3). Or, I make sure there are at least 3 extremely talkative/entertaining people (who're ESFJ, ENJF, ESTJ) to keep things light. (eg at a barbecue) I've actually ditched an outing because I found out these three people were not going. :-/

[Firelie]

Oh Jezebel, thank you thank you for splitting this off. I hate getting really off topic in support threads, but I didn't have the heart to tell anyone to move it somewhere more appropriate. :scared:

Anyway, parties are okay as long as they're with friends. The problem with friends, though, is that they tend to have other friends, who may or may not show up and derail a perfectly fine party. If I get invited to a big party, I tend to try and weasel my way out of it unless the person is really really wanting me to go and it's a special occasion. After about 3 hours or so, though, I'm shot and all I want to do is to not meet another human being for the next few days. haha. Luckily I moved pretty far out and I don't have a car, so I get to use my "I need to catch the bus soon, thanks for inviting me" excuse alllllll the time (most of my friends know by now that I refuse to sleep over at their houses under any circumstance)

[qwerty]

Never been the party animal so instead I became a bouncer for 4 years to ensure that I wasn't missing out on anything and found I was on the money. Generally the principle of a party is fine as long as it's done right, but there seems no perfect way to have a party.

Outcome 1: Alcohol is involved at which point people become irrational and things are not fun.
Outcome 2: No alcohol, nobody leaves their cliques and anyone that does is too superficial to have fun with.
Outcome 3: Small doses of alcohol are involved - majority of the drinkers leave for the pub after the alcohol is gone and the rest awkwardly go home.
Outcome 4: (the Networking business party) you really have to be a political and business like person to enjoy these. So much superficial jabber and when you find someone who is interested in talking about your work, you find that no matter how you explain the concept they never understand it (they like the idea not the theory). No-one talks about the squirrels outside.
Outcome 5: (The seminar/conference party) Pros: pizza and smart people Cons: people who are trying to promote their work and won't talk about anything else. Though if they are doing interesting work then it becomes a good party because everyone gets involved.
Outcome 6: (Muso/entertainers party)These are some of the most interesting parties and in small doses are really fun. Get a room of clowns and muso's drunk and the muso will get their instruments and start jamming while the clowns sit around and just tell joke after joke and exchange funny anecdotes from the road.

[radioactivez0r]

I was never one to actually be invited to parties, but as my circle of friends has grown I meet more people and, like last year's Halloween weekend, end up at parties where I know almost nobody. Luckily, I trust my friends, and so it's generally a good group of people and I have a good time, whether I'm drinking or not (and I usually don't). There's probably some comfort threshold that has to be crossed for me to actually start enjoying myself, but I don't know how to define it (and it actually sounds really nerdy to even propose the idea). For example, at the 2nd party last Halloween, someone approached me first to talk to me (possibly because of my enormous costume), and after that it was just easier.

LAN parties....are the best. We used to have a few guys nearby who got together every few months for a night of gaming, but as life goes, they've pretty much stopped. Guys move away, start families, etc. Now, I head down to LA once or twice a year to game with some friends down there, and it's a blast.

[TeleportThis]

Watch your language Missy. It's "Geek". Nerd is for that "Other" coast.

Which coast is which? I'm from the Midwest and

Geek : Computers, Anime :: Nerds : Books, art

[TeleportThis]

But to be on topic about parties. I used to be in marching band and we had a party the night before every football game and it was an awesome time. My roommate and I throw a chili dinner party every fall. Other than that, I guess I go to more gatherings or get-togethers, rather than full fledged parties.

[Tarrick]

Watch your language Missy. It's "Geek". Nerd is for that "Other" coast.

Which coast is which? I'm from the Midwest and

Geek : Computers, Anime :: Nerds : Books, art


Geek is for the West Coast. That "Other" coast is generally called the East Coast.

As for "Nerds : Books, art" shouldn't it be "Bookworms: Books"?

[TeleportThis]

That would be too obvious.

[wise]

What kind of parties do you all enjoy? Big, small, specific types (like LAN or Movie Binge) or more general get togethers?

I generally don't like parties, but go occasionally when my friends invite me. They're usually the backyard barbecue parties. It's not so bad, I have some introverted friends I go with and we sit together. I usually take a laptop and/or books. It's kind of funny, sometimes we'll all just sit there on our laptops or reading the whole time. Some people approach us and talk for a bit and leave, but I never feel pressured to make an effort to socialize.

I used to go to LAN parties when my friend lived next door... but haven't since he moved away.

This sounds like my kind of party. The trouble is no one else I know would agree.

What is an LAN party?

[Tarrick]

LAN (Local Area Network) Party is when all your friends (or at least some of them) haul their computers over to someones house and play computer games (like Warcraft 3, StarCraft, CounterStrike, etc.) together.

Movie watching may also be involved.

[wise]

LAN (Local Area Network) Party is when all your friends (or at least some of them) haul their computers over to someones house and play computer games (like Warcraft 3, StarCraft, CounterStrike, etc.) together.

Movie watching may also be involved.

Thanks Tarrick. I wasn't sure how Local Area Network related to a party. My 26 year old stepson could live in an LAN party then, being a Warcraft freak. He's had many LAN parties and I didn't know it until now. I could sit around in a similar setting, but know nothing about Warcraft. Then again I am 48.

Another issue with parties, or social gatherings in general, is I always get alone and "regroup" after a party/gathering. Much social interaction drains me. Is this typical of anyone else?

[Jezebel]

Another issue with parties, or social gatherings in general, is I always get alone and "regroup" after a party/gathering. Much social interaction drains me. Is this typical of anyone else?
Definitely. It's part of being an introvert. No matter how much I like the people I'm with, I become very drained and need to withdraw after socializing for a while.

[Guido]

I think it depends alot on the poeple you're talking to aswell. The furthur they deviate from rational thought, the harder they are to deal with.

[Firelie]

Definitely. It's part of being an introvert. No matter how much I like the people I'm with, I become very drained and need to withdraw after socializing for a while.

Exactly. No matter how much you like them... I think that's why I like having roommates. When I want to be social, I can walk out, sit down and be social. When I don't want to be social, I can close my bedroom door and drown out the world.

[Rei]

I like having roommates. *When I want to be social, I can walk out, sit down and be social. *When I don't want to be social, I can close my bedroom door and drown out the world.


That is exactly how I'm spending my life in dorm.


but now that you guys mention it.
I do end up turning back within myself towards the end of any sort of gatherings.
I could be very active at first (depending on who we're with), sometimes I just busy myself with cleaning up etc.


Difference b/w introverts and extroverts.... extroverts get warmed up, introverts cool down =/

[Rei]

Watch your language Missy. It's "Geek". Nerd is for that "Other" coast.

Which coast is which? *I'm from the Midwest and

Geek : Computers, Anime *:: *Nerds : Books, art



From what I understand. Geek is a term to describe serious enthusiasts of whatever nature... where as Nerds are just people who sit around and drill their eyes into their learning material non-stop.

[oceanicon]

I hate most parties. druggy, slutty, loud, expensive, unnecessary.
but hanging out with 4 or more good friends without alcoholic excesses can be some serious fun. parties aren't generally bad. it's just the way how the party is.

[iwin]

Good old LAN parties, I miss those too. ::)

[aude]

Never was the one to be invited to parties. Everyone assumed i was too arrogant and self centered to have any fun at a party. The times that i was asked i was the one in the corner socializing with the misfits, or kids. I could never accept some ones offer to dance, since i always found my self laking the proper means of doing something like that. What is the point of moving your body to some form of music, it is beyond me. Just like those people who swim and ski. Never could understand the point. Man that does sound like i am arrogant :-?

[The Many]

Never was the one to be invited to parties. Everyone assumed i was too arrogant and self centered to have any fun at a party. The times that i was asked i was the one in the corner socializing with the misfits, or kids. I could never accept some ones offer to dance, since i always found my self laking the proper means of doing something like that. What is the point of moving your body to some form of music, it is beyond me. Just like those people who swim and ski. Never could understand the point. *Man that does sound like i am arrogant *:-?

No, that's not "arrogant". That's "rational" :D. I detest swimming, skiing and dancing... but on the other hand, I love drinking, smoking (when I am intoxicated is really the only time I am not thinking about things all the time, it is very relieving) and even the odd drunken conversation can be a great deal of fun. But I suppose I'm not as introverted an INTJ as most others on this site.

[thegnat]

I usually don't have time to party.

I'm also usually not invited.

If I am I don't really enjoy them.

Unless you do consider conferences "parties". I call them "pizza talks". They're usually pretty good.