INTJ take on sex...discuss.

[raconteur213]

I'm interested to hear the INTJ perspectives...

[BadMojo]

Oh the joy of fornication... anyone disagree?

[raconteur213]

Come on you perverts, stop talking about your damn motherboards for two minutes and start discussing your joysticks!

[ShaiGar]

opedial

[schmidt]

What about it ? You're not really asking a question you know...

[lordrrr]

Sex- It's pretty boring.

[Santana28]

i like sex. but if its not perfect, then i forget about it faster than i lose my keys on my way out the door. and when i mean perfect - i mean *perfect.* so needless to say, my sex life is either non-existent or extremely disappointing and unfulfilling. But dangit, at least i keep trying, unlike some INTJs!

[ShaiGar]

I prefer talking during sex. The meeting of genitals is fun. The meeting of minds is pretty much the only reason i love women. I cannot have sex with a woman unless i respect her mind.

[raconteur213]

I prefer talking during sex. The meeting of genitals is fun. The meeting of minds is pretty much the only reason i love women. I cannot have sex with a woman unless i respect her mind.

I can almost agree. A smart hot chica is better than a dumb one.

[colmdubh]

Very true, I actually have had a couple of women tell me they want to have sex but I turned them down because they were too stupid, I just couldn't bring myself to do it...weird I know, the whole one night stand thing I just can't do

[Santana28]

Very true, I actually have had a couple of women tell me they want to have sex but I turned them down because they were too stupid, I just couldn't bring myself to do it...weird I know, the whole one night stand thing I just can't do

lol...turning down easy sex because the person is too stupid... that has GOT to be an INTJ trait. i can seriously relate. i have people i wish desperately i was interested enough in to go that far, but i just cant make myself go through with it because of... THAT!

[Lucid]

lol...turning down easy sex because the person is too stupid... that has GOT to be an INTJ trait. i can seriously relate. i have people i wish desperately i was interested enough in to go that far, but i just cant make myself go through with it because of... THAT!

Ball gags were invented for a reason. :thumbsup:

[errrzarrr]

I'm interested to hear the INTJ perspectives...

ae you a INTJ?
I have doubts.

[raconteur213]

ae you a INTJ?
I have doubts.


Luckily, I am not looking to be judged by you :thumbsup:





raconteur213 added to this post, 0 minutes and 58 seconds later...

Ball gags were invented for a reason. :thumbsup:

Now you are a fun mate to chat with. Humor is underated!!! :lovestruck:

[lordrrr]

Very true, I actually have had a couple of women tell me they want to have sex but I turned them down because they were too stupid, I just couldn't bring myself to do it...weird I know, the whole one night stand thing I just can't do

I couldn't ever bring myself to sex before marriage in general.

[Headstrong]

I have never really had an interest in sex. I'm not sure if that is due to simple lack of interest or a low sexual drive in general. Regardless, I plan on waiting to have sex until I'm married. If I never get married, which wouldn't really be surprising, then I guess I'll live to be an old virgin fart. :-D That's perfectly fine with me.

[Jgib5328]

racon, you are the horniest INTJ on this forum...

Sex is animalistic, people who get too much of it give into their base desires too easily. I'd much rather just have a cute girlfriend that I really like as opposed to hooking up with women all of the time.

[Rick]

Only if I love the lady and there is a commitment.

Otherwise, it is absolutely only for self gratification and love isn't involved. Period - regardless of what anyone else might say.

I don't do that anymore.

[Lucid]

Now you are a fun mate to chat with. Humor is underated!!! :lovestruck:

I agree. There should be more laughing in the bedroom... just as long as there isn't any pointing. ;)

In all honesty though, I have the most fun when I'm comfortable with the guy to joke around with him when it's appropriate. One of the reasons I avoid one night stands is because it can be so awkward and serious.

[gogurtdynasty]

I love sex. It's a shame that I'm not enjoying some right now!

[DeadSpace]

Sex is fun, commitment and/or a relationship are necessary factors for me though, have never, and could never do the one night thing. Laughing (as long as there's no pointing as someone mentioned) , wrestling...not just the act itself, but having fun with your partner. Enjoying each other.

[bubbles]

Every post so far has been relatively short (compared to most threads)...maybe this has something to do with the INTJ's take on sex? :laugh: (I really don't know why I find it so funny)

[gogurtdynasty]

Every post so far has been relatively short (compared to most threads)...maybe this has something to do with the INTJ's take on sex? :laugh: (I really don't know why I find it so funny)

Pfft... what are you saying about my performance??? :scared:

[DeadSpace]

Every post so far has been relatively short (compared to most threads)...maybe this has something to do with the INTJ's take on sex? :laugh: (I really don't know why I find it so funny)

short?:scared: the water was cold...seriously:irked:

[PRBori]

Hmm..

I can enjoy a sexual relationship only with someone I know and is a lasting relationship, not a one-night stand.

In regards to the act itself, it doesn't mean much to me if there are no connections between myself and the person. I tend to differentiate between sex and love. I rather make love than have sex.

To me making LOVE is more meaningful because you become "ONE" with someone who cares about you and that you care about. Someone you share common grounds with and can enjoy being with even if there is no sex.

Having sex is the opposite of love, is just a way to satisfy the physical aspects of the body, not necessarily the intellectual or emotional aspects of it. You don't need to have a connection with the person to have sex. It lacks the essentials.

[joes1788]

I think INTJs everywhere should be applauding sex, seriously applauding it. It's one of the more functional and useful activities this world has to offer. And don't we just love the functional and useful, yes, yes we do. But in increasing seriousness, sex is a great stress reliever. Coupled with the facts that it serves the function of continuing the human race and it can definitely increase the intimacy between all those in a relationship, I'd suggest it to a lot of people who don't have it. And by that I mean that I would suggest it to the more intelligent section of society; everyone else should just close their legs because for the love of god this world doesn't need another stupid person.

[zero]

Sex is overrated.

[apresmoimelle]

Sex- It's pretty boring.

You obviously haven't been doing it with the right person. Sex is actually fun if you make it fun. I know I like to try new things and I hate it when whoever I am with is really sensitive or emotional and wants to hold hands. I really do just like to get my quick thrill and then go back to whatever else I was doing...most likely sleeping or studying.

[xxvinjoexx]

Come on you perverts, stop talking about your damn motherboards for two minutes and start discussing your joysticks!

how can one be a pervert if one is talking about a motherboard?? Anyway, So lets talk about Joysticking, hhmmm, I like sex, but im more of a Passionate person, To me, my job is not complete unless I touch a womans Soul !! But that has its draw backs, Eventually, all the women in my life only want me for the sex, And thats because I always get the wrong type of Female's , Thus, still looking for an INTJ Female to Equal this problem out.





xxvinjoexx added to this post, 18 minutes and 51 seconds later...

Hmm..

I can enjoy a sexual relationship only with someone I know and is a lasting relationship, not a one-night stand.

In regards to the act itself, it doesn't mean much to me if there are no connections between myself and the person. I tend to differentiate between sex and love. I rather make love than have sex.

To me making LOVE is more meaningful because you become "ONE" with someone who cares about you and that you care about. Someone you share common grounds with and can enjoy being with even if there is no sex.

Having sex is the opposite of love, is just a way to satisfy the physical aspects of the body, not necessarily the intellectual or emotional aspects of it. You don't need to have a connection with the person to have sex. It lacks the essentials.

I could not agree with you More !!

[raconteur213]

I suppose I originally asked this question because I am more stimulated by learning than I am by sex; however, I have never enjoyed the becoming "One" theory. I have always looked at it as an interesting distraction from my daily thoughts. I know this is not very romantic...but it is honest.

Perhaps this is because I always feel superior to my mate? Ego aside, I truly find it hard to find INTJ types females who also share the same ideologies that I do. This, I fell, is the hardest part of being me.

...just random thoughts





raconteur213 added to this post, 1 minutes and 16 seconds later...

I suppose I originally asked this question because I am more stimulated by learning than I am by sex; however, I have never enjoyed the becoming "One" theory. I have always looked at it as an interesting distraction from my daily thoughts. I know this is not very romantic...but it is honest.

Perhaps this is because I always feel superior to my mate? Ego aside, I truly find it hard to find INTJ types females who also share the same ideologies that I do. This, I fell, is the hardest part of being me.

...just random thoughts

fell = feel (gggrrrrrrrr)

[futureperfect5]

:undecided: :huh: ... this is interesting

I could write a lot about experiences, yet I think it would be weird because it seems too personal ... or maybe intimate, to share with other people (people other than the person that it would concern), so maybe that is the reason that the posts are not as lengthy because, as INTJs, if we get involved -- however, uncommitted we want to think of it, it is still personal ...

How could I generalize this topic? I don't think I can.

Except, if I wanted to change or focus the topic to what is it that that I find most attractive, or seductive, or ... yeah, okay maybe this is enough :lipsrsealed:

I'm interested to hear the INTJ perspectives...

[eternaltriangle]

I put off a clinically necessary circumcision (I had phimosis) for years because sex was just not that appealing to me. Having experienced it, it is highly overrated. Given that the costs of a relationship (of even a one-night stand) are high, while there are... ahem... simple alternatives to sex, I don't see sex as an important end in my activities.

Now, being tied to a bed and beaten with a rake - that is another kettle of fish altogether. Now kettles of fish... that is another... damn I am out of analogies.

[Alcuin]

I could never do the one-night stand. On the other hand, there are 12 things I enjoy more than sex, so when given the opportunity for one over the other.. :)

[Moriarty]

Sex: the more deviant and imaginative, the better. Otherwise...ho-hum.

It can really be alot of fun and very exciting, but it can also be mechanical. Make it what you want it to be within the boundaries of your and your partner's limitations.

[scarlet]

Crude and overrated.
Would much prefer a book, cup of tea, hot water bottle, clean sheets and bed to myself.

[OneBadMother]

I would think that sex would solve the reputed tendency of INTJs to delve into mindless sensate activity when under stress in a more constructive fashion than drinking or smoking. :P If nothing else, it provides yet another venue in which INTJ ingenuity can shine.

[Gabrielle]

I'm rather scared about it, to be honest. I happen to be the person who, while single, is quite the male - INTJ, RLOEI, male-brain, you name it. But once I get in a relationship, or some guy holds my hand, or someone kisses me... voila, all the male-ness is gone. Needless to say, in order to succeed in medicine you need to be more masculine than an average Joe, and for me my career comes first.

So... curious? yes. Interested? Not really.

[Sylvanus]

I have several competing priorities when it comes to sex.

A: I'm a Christian
B: I'm always horny
C: I don't let many people into my personal sphere (physical and emotional).
D: I don't attach myself easily to people, I detach quite readily.

If it was just up to my B, I would have sex all the time (assuming I could get the women). However, I have moral and personal reasons to prevent myself from doing so.

I always said I would wait until I got married until I had sex. At a vulnerable time in my life, I met a great woman that lured me into bed (it didn't help I was drunk too). We had been in a relationship a long time and eventually we got married and had kids. Somewhere in there the sex dropped off drastically, but my desire didn't. I detached myself from her a long time ago, but I am still friendly with her and we are still together and married. So I am stuck in the middle of a wierd situation where I rarely have sex and have no ability to obtain any. I have no idea what to do but I don't think there is any right decision. Lack of decision is still a decision. Of course if we did get separated, it wouldn't solve anything, my moral convictions would still prevent me, and I would refuse to get suckered in again.

[eternaltriangle]

Sylvanus, what if you got HER drunk? Payback...

[vaguely dissatisfied]

Sex can be a bodily function, it can be a way of sharing intimacy and/or affection, it can be a release of tension, it can be a way of dealing with psychological issues........etc. It depends on the person and the timing.

[Sylvanus]

Sylvanus, what if you got HER drunk? Payback...

Hmmmm... *stroking my goatee in thoughtful consideration*

[PortInStorm]

Alright, are there way too many smoking avatars because of the thread's topic?

[ceg6]

Sex with the right person, as kinky and perverted and uninhibited as possible is magnificent in my opinion. Nothing boring or overrated about it. Finding the right person is what's difficult. Sex in itself is a tension breaker. A biological function. That doesn't make it bad either.

[SeaCzar]

Sex is overrated.

I agree with this. As someone previously mentioned, I'll take a book and a decent cup of coffee over The Nasty.

[Samantha]

I agree with this. As someone previously mentioned, I'll take a book and a decent cup of coffee over The Nasty.

You guys have got to be playing! Coffee/book over sex???

WOW

[Sylvanus]

You guys have got to be playing! Coffee/book over sex???

WOW

Sex is fun, but ultimately unfulfilling.

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[futureperfect5]

:thinking: You think it is fair to this person (and the children) that you are not interested in to stay married because ... and then not ... because ... so that you can maintain your ... because ...

Are these priorities or excuses for not owning up to the facts on the situation?

:ninja: Switch religions or decide that Christians can have loving, intensely sexual relationships without violating their faith ...

No, really maintain your joint parenting "arrangement" and move on: for both of you -- how long are you going to do this? Obviously, you know better ... Or, at least separate and so you can have a life -- the worst of it happen when you married someone that you did not love, right?

You say Christian, if that means Catholic, the fact that you did not love her alone means that you could have it annulled.

Remember: Children learn from their environment ... what do they see of love and marriage from this convenience that you are supporting?

Okay, so I was in a relationship that was lingering, unnecessarily, once -- because the other person did not want to take the responsibility to end it; and I wasn't inclined to do so because he did not take responsibility for things, generally. He was into the martyr syndrome, too.

I looked at him over breakfast one day and said, "The truth will set your free." :stunned: He was startled.

Finally, I started packing my personal items (I had told him in the beginning that I was not the type to hang out the fight over who should get the toaster ...) He said that he had an appointment and would be back to sort out the details with me. [Probably just to lazy to help or wanted to avoid what was happening.]

It seems that he was surprised that I wasn't there when he returned. The only details I needed were my clothes, toothbrush and purse. Pretty simple.

He wanted to go over a list of things that I might want from the house. I said, "Okay. So, you have never listened to who I am .." I hung up and have not spoken to him since.

Just end it -- if you are concerned about the children, which I doubt, you will try to get custody of them. Most men ditch their children with the ex-wife so they can go frolicking through the meadows which hampers her chances for a new relationship because now you have saddled her with your kids, indefinitely.

On the other hand, she should not have allowed it to happen, having children for you -- she probably knew you would not want, at some point. [Women do this to as a security measure to get more alimony, etc.] :embarassed:

I have several competing priorities when it comes to sex.

A: I'm a Christian
B: I'm always horny
C: I don't let many people into my personal sphere (physical and emotional).
D: I don't attach myself easily to people, I detach quite readily.

If it was just up to my B, I would have sex all the time (assuming I could get the women). However, I have moral and personal reasons to prevent myself from doing so.

I always said I would wait until I got married until I had sex. At a vulnerable time in my life, I met a great woman that lured me into bed (it didn't help I was drunk too). We had been in a relationship a long time and eventually we got married and had kids. Somewhere in there the sex dropped off drastically, but my desire didn't. I detached myself from her a long time ago, but I am still friendly with her and we are still together and married. So I am stuck in the middle of a wierd situation where I rarely have sex and have no ability to obtain any. I have no idea what to do but I don't think there is any right decision. Lack of decision is still a decision. Of course if we did get separated, it wouldn't solve anything, my moral convictions would still prevent me, and I would refuse to get suckered in again.

[raconteur213]

You guys have got to be playing! Coffee/book over sex???

WOW

I agree with Samantha...Sam, we should really show these people what they're missing out on? ;D

[green eyes]

Sex with the right person, as kinky and perverted and uninhibited as possible is magnificent in my opinion.

Ohhhhh yeaaaaahhhhh....

Dangit, I'm horny now...and I'm all alone. :(

[Sylvanus]

:thinking: You think it is fair to this person (and the children) that you are not interested in to stay married because ... and then not ... because ... so that you can maintain your ... because ...

Are these priorities or excuses for not owning up to the facts on the situation?

:ninja: Switch religions or decide that Christians can have loving, intensely sexual relationships without violating their faith ...

No, really maintain your joint parenting "arrangement" and move on: for both of you -- how long are you going to do this? Obviously, you know better ... Or, at least separate and so you can have a life -- the worst of it happen when you married someone that you did not love, right?

You say Christian, if that means Catholic, the fact that you did not love her alone means that you could have it annulled.

Remember: Children learn from their environment ... what do they see of love and marriage from this convenience that you are supporting?

Okay, so I was in a relationship that was lingering, unnecessarily, once -- because the other person did not want to take the responsibility to end it; and I wasn't inclined to do so because he did not take responsibility for things, generally. He was into the martyr syndrome, too.

I looked at him over breakfast one day and said, "The truth will set your free." :stunned: He was startled.

Finally, I started packing my personal items (I had told him in the beginning that I was not the type to hang out the fight over who should get the toaster ...) He said that he had an appointment and would be back to sort out the details with me. [Probably just to lazy to help or wanted to avoid what was happening.]

It seems that he was surprised that I wasn't there when he returned. The only details I needed were my clothes, toothbrush and purse. Pretty simple.

He wanted to go over a list of things that I might want from the house. I said, "Okay. So, you have never listened to who I am .." I hung up and have not spoken to him since.

Just end it -- if you are concerned about the children, which I doubt, you will try to get custody of them. Most men ditch their children with the ex-wife so they can go frolicking through the meadows which hampers her chances for a new relationship because now you have saddled her with your kids, indefinitely.

On the other hand, she should not have allowed it to happen, having children for you -- she probably knew you would not want, at some point. [Women do this to as a security measure to get more alimony, etc.] :embarassed:

I think you might be reading a little bit too much into the situation. Perhaps that is my fault for not being completely explicit in my statements. Also I probably shouldn't have laid it all out on the table, but it's too late to take it back.

I think I've got a bit of the seven year itch. I'm not completely satisfied, but I'm not about to cut and run at the first signs of a problem. Also I don't believe that if my religion doesn't allow me to do what I want, that it means I should just find one that will. As it says in the Bible 'What God has joined together, let no man separate'.

I have posted on this forum before something to the effect of "I have always treated people as 'take it or leave it', it shouldn't have surprised me that they treated the exact same way in return." I have to come to the terms with the fact that there are some relationships I can't just turn off and on at will, depending on my mood. In my first 21 years of life, I spent a grand total of 3 months in relationships with women. I had some friends but it was all on the surface, no depth at all. I didn't get much practice with people and I'm still learning.

[juchestyle]

You guys have got to be playing! Coffee/book over sex???

WOW



Hey Samantha,

I am an INTJ and I guess I am lucky to have had the right beginning experiences that keep me coming back for more. Love it, and want some more. It is a great way to let relax and stop the INTJ brain from thinking over time. Plus it energizes me to accomplish more. I am at my best when I am in a healthy relationship!

[Samantha]

I agree with Samantha...Sam, we should really show these people what they're missing out on? ;D


Hey Samantha,

I am an INTJ and I guess I am lucky to have had the right beginning experiences that keep me coming back for more. Love it, and want some more. It is a great way to let relax and stop the INTJ brain from thinking over time. Plus it energizes me to accomplish more. I am at my best when I am in a healthy relationship!

Respectfully,
Matthew

:thumbsup:

I was really beginning to wonder about you intjs!!! After all I am lusting after one and after reading this started to think I was setting myself up for disappointment.

Seriously though ~ you are MEN, regardless of type you're driven by testosterone; therefore sex driven! Come on, you can't tell me that you want sex less than I do.

[thod]

Seriously though ~ you are MEN, regardless of type you're driven by testosterone; therefore sex driven! Come on, you can't tell me that you want sex less than I do.

I was wondering the same. They go on and on about rationality and logic, yakk, yakk, yakk. Give it a rest, lose your virginity and starting spraying the babes with your hot semen. Then you can have a nice cup of tea and a game of chess to recover.

[raconteur213]

I was wondering the same. They go on and on about rationality and logic, yakk, yakk, yakk. Give it a rest, lose your virginity and starting spraying the babes with your hot semen. Then you can have a nice cup of tea and a game of chess to recover.

Agree 100%, I believe Liz Phair sings a song about desperately wanting and needing her man's White Hot Cum. I like woman like her, if I must enter into a relationship.

SEX does not mean STUPID.

[Samantha]

White Hot Cum

Now I'm starting to get horney! :p

[MeV]

couldn't say. I'm a virgin.

[raconteur213]

Now I'm starting to get horney! :p

Love it...you know all of the bible thumpers are reading these posts punching themselves in the groin chanting, "Impure thoughts...Impure thoughts!!!"

But seriously, I do have white hot cum...seriously;D

[stickgirl]

I haven't seen anyone like me... I'm an INTJ female. I do like one night stands on occasion because I get horny and do not have a partner. I'm all for legalized/regulated prostitution. Then, I could safely have meaningless sex as a stress release. But now, I meet people online, and there's always a chance of something going wrong.

I am practically a hermit right now. I don't really have friends and I don't go out where I'd meet anyone. I had a live-in partner for 10 years who I broke up with about 6 months ago, and I think I'm happier being single for now. Owning my own space again has been amazing.

When I was in the relationship, my sex drive was fairly low once we had settled in. Then non-existent before we broke up. I didn't think I'd care about sex after the breakup, but my drive returned. I think having occasional meaningless real sex is a nice alternative to masturbation and does release stress as others have mentioned. Also, the experience is pretty much about me and I am not trying to take care of the other person.

I do have intimacy/control issues. I'm probably less inhibited having sex with a stranger than with an emotional partner, because I'm so afraid to expose that real part of myself. With a stranger I can just assume a character and let it play out. I can do things the real me would not normally do. It gets me out of my shell.

So for now I'm content to hook up with someone online every so often. Hopefully I'll meet "Mr. Right" by chance somehow or when I'm ready I'll hop on to eHarmony.com and hope for the best.

One more comment -- it is funny to me as well that people have so little to say. I know sex is a private thing, and in the real world it is something I don't discuss, period. But we're on an anonymous forum here. Doesn't that give you guys the freedom to step out a bit?

[Theodoric]

raconteur, I've been reading most of your posts and I must say you have got to be one of the most perverted degenerates on this entire forum.

I like you. You remind me of me.

You show that not all INTJs are prudes, we can enjoy sex, and don't always go "blah blah blah SCIENCE blah blah blah..." You would think more of us would go for it since it logically makes sense. Sex is a good form of exercise, a great stress reliever, and serves a useful function. It is also incredibly fun! Maybe its the social aspect that is turning some people off to it?

For those of you that say sex is boring, that means:

1) You are bad at it. You need to practice more (have more of it!)
2) You need to find someone else to do it with.
3) Try new things. Anything can get old and boring after awhile, even pleasurable activities.

And sex does not equal stupid. Its just that stupid people have a tendency to make it look bad.

* Hint, stupid people have a tendency to make ANYTHING look bad.

[raconteur213]

Excellent reply, as always, Theodoric...

...and stickgirl, I believe we have something in common. let me know when your in Massachusetts..

[rwyatt365]

Here's another data point from the male perspective;

Personally I like sex - a lot. I think there's nothing better for lifting the fog of everyday life than a good round of sexual activity. It's almost like pushing the reset button on life. It's energizing and invigorating.

What I don't like is the emotional handcuffs that others place on you as a result of sex. Now don't get me wrong, I prefer having sex with a committed partner where there is a strong bond. What I mean is I don't like HAVING to play the role of star-crossed lover, or any other role for that matter. Let's have sex, enjoy the sensations, bask in the glow, and then get on with life.

How can I think about going out to cut the grass after making love (work with me here, I'm thinking "warm" thoughts)? Easy, 'cause that's what I was going to do before you walked by me with those black panties on, and nothing else! So, now that I've completed one task, let me get to the next one. No, I'm not cold and heartless, I just want to get that done before CSI comes on.

You understand, don't you??

[Moriarty]

Well, that pretty much wraps the whole male thought process up!

[Sylvanus]

Todays' Questionable Content comic (too large to post, I'll just quote the applicable portion)

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Hannelore: So...I've been wondering.
Faye: Yeah?
H: When you're done having, uh, sex...what do you you say?
F:Huh?
H: I mean, do you say 'thank you' or 'good job' or 'that was fun' or what?
F: Um, I guess you could...
H: 'Boy that sure triggered a lot of my dopamine receptors! Thanks for helping me trick my body into believing it fulfilled its genetic imperative!'
F: That's a bit...clinical for pillow talk.

[raconteur213]

Todays' Questionable Content comic (too large to post, I'll just quote the applicable portion)

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Hannelore: So...I've been wondering.
Faye: Yeah?
H: When you're done having, uh, sex...what do you you say?
F:Huh?
H: I mean, do you say 'thank you' or 'good job' or 'that was fun' or what?
F: Um, I guess you could...
H: 'Boy that sure triggered a lot of my dopamine receptors! Thanks for helping me trick my body into believing it fulfilled its genetic imperative!'
F: That's a bit...clinical for pillow talk.

I just say, "It cumming, where do you want it to go?"

[Sylvanus]

I think she means right after that.

In this case she would probably want to say "Ok, I've got to shower before this dries in my hair"

[rwyatt365]

I just say, "It cumming, where do you want it to go?"
No, no, no! That's for before, what do you say after? :huh:

[raconteur213]

I think she means right after that.

In this case she would probably want to say "Ok, I've got to shower before this dries in my hair"

I'm laughing here at work and people are like what's so funny... :thumbsup:

[Sylvanus]

I suppose in pretty much all mainstream media, they've got to clean it up a bit. You always see them lying side by side, talking. You never see them cleaning up or saying anything like "can you get me something? it's starting to run into my crack"

[rwyatt365]

I suppose in pretty much all mainstream media, they've got to clean it up a bit. You always see them lying side by side, talking. You never see them cleaning up or saying anything like "can you get me something? it's starting to run into my crack"
Yeah, if movie sex was anything like real-people sex there wouldn't be as many interested adolescents (or even adults). ;D :stunned:

[Sylvanus]

I'm wondering if raconteur is laughing so hard he is attracting a crowd.

[thod]

You never see them cleaning up or saying anything like "can you get me something? it's starting to run into my crack"

Just remember boys, its the girls place to sleep in the wet patch on the sheets not yours.

[rwyatt365]

...but they always ask us to get the towel! What's up with that?

[bebegirl]

We always ask you to get the towel because it's your fault we need one!!:)

[Alaron251]

It's disappointing to the point of morbidity.

[ceg6]

Just remember boys, its the girls place to sleep in the wet patch on the sheets not yours.


There is no wet spot when we are on top. As it should be.

[TeleportThis]

raconteur, I've been reading most of your posts and I must say you have got to be one of the most perverted degenerates on this entire forum.

I like you. You remind me of me.

You show that not all INTJs are prudes, we can enjoy sex, and don't always go "blah blah blah SCIENCE blah blah blah..." You would think more of us would go for it since it logically makes sense. Sex is a good form of exercise, a great stress reliever, and serves a useful function. It is also incredibly fun! Maybe its the social aspect that is turning some people off to it?

For those of you that say sex is boring, that means:

1) You are bad at it. You need to practice more (have more of it!)
2) You need to find someone else to do it with.
3) Try new things. Anything can get old and boring after awhile, even pleasurable activities.

And sex does not equal stupid. Its just that stupid people have a tendency to make it look bad.

* Hint, stupid people have a tendency to make ANYTHING look bad.

No shit. What is wrong with these people? You forgot the possibility that they are lying to themselves because they can't get any.

[OneBadMother]

Wow, that's harsh. People, even among INTJs, have different sex drives. You could consider the possibility that the sex drive of some INTJs is low enough that they don't want to bother with the usual strings and effort needed to find a sexual partner when they can find other things that produce more payoff in their eyes. They might also be able to satisfy themselves better than they find they get satisfied by other people, or they could simply be sexually repressing themselves because they don't like the idea of losing control in the face of their libido. I find that in most cases the risks of sex far outweigh the non-guaranteed benefits. Maybe I do need to find someone else to do it with, but I don't really NEED it to live a productive and full life, and I'm not a big fan of most other people physically or mentally.

[thod]

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[TeleportThis]

Wow, that's harsh. People, even among INTJs, have different sex drives. You could consider the possibility that the sex drive of some INTJs is low enough that they don't want to bother with the usual strings and effort needed to find a sexual partner when they can find other things that produce more payoff in their eyes. They might also be able to satisfy themselves better than they find they get satisfied by other people, or they could simply be sexually repressing themselves because they don't like the idea of losing control in the face of their libido. I find that in most cases the risks of sex far outweigh the non-guaranteed benefits. Maybe I do need to find someone else to do it with, but I don't really NEED it to live a productive and full life, and I'm not a big fan of most other people physically or mentally.

Uuuuh, yeah it was kind of a joke. Sorry if it kind of hit home. Where did I say I NEEDED it to live a productive and full life? But to say that sex is boring or a waste of time or that you'd rather have a cup of tea means theres probably something wrong with the way you are doing it, not the act of sex itself. Also, the more sex you have, the more your sex drive increases, so if you have a low sex drive, there is a higher probability that you aren't getting any. I wouldn't say I was completely out of line in saying what I said, although it was meant to be teasing and not condescending.

[OneBadMother]

Eh, that's all right, it's just that there are definitely people on here who'd actually make that exact sentiment with complete seriousness. :P But I would agree that if sex is outright boring someone's probably doing something wrong.

[Uberfuhrer]

Sex is one of those things that exists merely in fantasy. Yes, I am a virgin, although sex is something I'd like to try before I hit 40. Sex is one of those things that my body desires but my mind resists or something my mind desires and my body resists. It is something that I am bitter about not getting and yet it is something that disgusts me. I occasionally am desirous of a romantic sexual partner and the fact that I am devoid of one makes me feel lonely. I have a side of me that is highly romantic and even kinky.

There are times where I have no interest in sex and thus become antagonistic against those who enjoy it -- I label them as animals with limited intellectual capacity. Another side of me is just jealous of the people who are able to get laid, and thus, I become angry and resentful. Furthermore, another side of me is too socially incompetent to even consider going after such a relationship. One of the core things I fear is rejection, so I basically reject the world before it rejects me and never go through with my ambitions. Being a recluse, I also don't want to lose the godly feeling inside of me when interacting with the outside world.

[thod]

Why don't you hire a hooker then?

If you hire a new one each night you will surpass the male average for "women fucked" in a few weeks. You will realize they all do the same stuff and become familiar with female bodies. You will thus lose some of your hangups and become more confident about approaching females. You will have no expertise in relationships and only a basic knowledge of sex, but its a start. You could regard the financial cost as being like any other training course. The advantage is that the parameters are clear cut without requiring any commitment or emotional investment on your part. If you fear doing this is your home town, take a vacation abroad for anonymity and lower fees.

[Capt57]

One of the core things I fear is rejection, so I basically reject the world before it rejects me and never go through with my ambitions.

Try doing this, in situations where you think you might be rejected...hope for it! Yes, in your mind think- I really hope I get rejected. Make yourself feel it. How does rejection feel? Is it embarrassment and humiliation, feel it and hope for it.Try and physically increase your heart rate and flush your face red with blood. Go over every aspect of it then go say hi and see what happens.:thumbsup:

[SeaCzar]

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[Riz]

Does anyone else find this problem, that you have to fantasize while having sex to reach orgasm, no matter how hot your wife is?

[thod]

Does anyone else find this problem, that you have to fantasize while having sex to reach orgasm, no matter how hot your wife is?

If you cant orgasm the problem is probably too much sex. After a recent orgasm you can get hard and get it in, but its much harder to achieve orgasm again.

The problem is thrusting too fast leading to ejaculation too soon, or not thrusting enough and going soft, so you to wank a few strokes to get it hard enough to get in again. Women have it so easy.

[escapist11]

My roommate thought you wear condoms to have babies.

[Uberfuhrer]

My roommate thought you wear condoms to have babies.

Well, I suppose you can spin it in a certain way that would make that viewpoint true. ;D

[Sylvanus]

My roommate thought you wear condoms to have babies.

I wonder how babies were made before latex was invented? Fig leaves?

[Uberfuhrer]

I wonder how babies were made before latex was invented? Fig leaves?

Storks brought them. ;)

[Tinmaiden]

Asexual, and too busy with other endeavors to wonder at what I'm missing.

[Serket]

fact of the day: Tutankhamun had a leather condom in his tomb.

[Sylvanus]

Storks brought them. ;)

Then came the stork jihad to prevent overpopulation from too many sources of babies.

[OneBadMother]

Then came the stork jihad to prevent overpopulation from too many sources of babies.

We invented the Industrial Revolution in efforts to suffocate the stork population to death, but it only served to kill off their predators, leading to the population boom. :o

[raconteur213]

My roommate thought you wear condoms to have babies.

I would like to meet her...

[Uytuun]

I think that no one mentioned children and STDs so far...how does that influence your take on sex?

[raconteur213]

I think that no one mentioned children and STDs so far...how does that influence your take on sex?

It's just another gamble in life... ;)

[thod]

I think that no one mentioned children and STDs so far...how does that influence your take on sex?

Not a problem if you put on a condom. I have had them bust though and you end up with the ring of the condom around the base of your shaft and girl fishing the rubber out of her insides. You simply don't realize it has happened until you withdraw.

There is no excuse for children with all the contraceptive methods around. STD's are a problem. I simply cant understand why people don't cure them instead of passing them around. Its not like the people don't know if they got crabs and its easy to cure.

[Serket]

Clearly its all just a conspiracy by the Catholic Church, to wipe out the poor in Africa though a combination of overpopulation and AIDS. Thus the church will reign supreme and victorious and can "eliminate third world poverty".

Its like a totally brilliant plan!

[kedelfor]

I don't want to speak for everyone, but it almost seems that a lot of us (INTJ)s have to be emotionally involved with the person we have sex with. And we all know how hard it is for us to find someone that we can be emotionally involved with. So it is very catch 22.

For me though I love sex. I know I do not get enough of it. I have been with out for a long time and am not going to go do the one night stand thing.

What people need to realize that even though we have our relationship issues INTJs tend to get good at anything they put the time into doing. I don't want to sound egotistical, but I know that sex was never a problem in any of my relationships. Even though that number is not high. I was told that is actually one of few things she had no complaints about.

For all the none INTJs just remember that we master most things we do, give us a chance and you may be surprised. Even though you have no idea what I said I will surprise you in the sheets.

[HeterodoxRobot]

Sex- It's pretty boring.Wow, I feel bad for you.

Sex is what you make of it.

[futureperfect5]

Well, I for one hope that you won't find out about the empty experience that most people think of as sexual activity. I can also assure you that your body will function as it is intended.

I would venture to say that, if you think of sexual expression as yet another form of communication ... maybe if you start to address the communication aspects, the rest would sort itself out.

Is there a hurry about this? Why push yourself into something that you aren't truly inclined toward -- at the moment. Learn to relax first, I mean generally. The is no right age or frequency or amount involved.

Sex is one of those things that exists merely in fantasy. Yes, I am a virgin, although sex is something I'd like to try before I hit 40. Sex is one of those things that my body desires but my mind resists or something my mind desires and my body resists. It is something that I am bitter about not getting and yet it is something that disgusts me. I occasionally am desirous of a romantic sexual partner and the fact that I am devoid of one makes me feel lonely. I have a side of me that is highly romantic and even kinky.

There are times where I have no interest in sex and thus become antagonistic against those who enjoy it -- I label them as animals with limited intellectual capacity. Another side of me is just jealous of the people who are able to get laid, and thus, I become angry and resentful. Furthermore, another side of me is too socially incompetent to even consider going after such a relationship. One of the core things I fear is rejection, so I basically reject the world before it rejects me and never go through with my ambitions. Being a recluse, I also don't want to lose the godly feeling inside of me when interacting with the outside world.

[spiritdetectivegirl]

I have never really had an interest in sex. I'm not sure if that is due to simple lack of interest or a low sexual drive in general. Regardless, I plan on waiting to have sex until I'm married. If I never get married, which wouldn't really be surprising, then I guess I'll live to be an old virgin fart. :-D That's perfectly fine with me.

Fantastic. I agree with your every word. Now could you carve that into a bullet and give my mother and grandmother a good old mob style hit?

What's so bad about wanting to be a virgin anyway? I find alot of freedom in it personaly.

But that's me.

Now about that bullet.....

[Headstrong]

Fantastic. I agree with your every word. Now could you carve that into a bullet and give my mother and grandmother a good old mob style hit?

What's so bad about wanting to be a virgin anyway? I find alot of freedom in it personaly.

But that's me.

Now about that bullet.....

I'm all for carving, but you'll have to leave the mob style hit to someone else. ^_^

[spiritdetectivegirl]

I'm all for carving, but you'll have to leave the mob style hit to someone else. ^_^

Ah, read that everyone? Hitman wanted, one that's not afraid to whack a mother and old woman. Any takers?

[Sylvanus]

Ah, read that everyone? Hitman wanted, one that's not afraid to whack a mother and old woman. Any takers?

I'm game, if the money's right.

[Santana28]

its messy?

;)

[spiritdetectivegirl]

It can be as messy as you like, just make sure you embed that bullet good and hard.

Only then will you get some good money out of it. Xd

[Kuriozidee]

I don't much care for 1 night stands but I also view it more as stress relief or exercise. I need consistency and a partner that I trust but once that happens... anything goes! I am definately not inhibited in that sense...

[Riz]

If you cant orgasm the problem is probably too much sex. After a recent orgasm you can get hard and get it in, but its much harder to achieve orgasm again.

The problem is thrusting too fast leading to ejaculation too soon, or not thrusting enough and going soft, so you to wank a few strokes to get it hard enough to get in again. Women have it so easy.

Wow, that is so true. What about penis pains, when you have cum, and like 5 minutes later, the woman turns you back on and wants another round. And it hurts. But I know what you mean about it going soft... thats just annoying.

[True Rune]

I have never really had an interest in sex. I'm not sure if that is due to simple lack of interest or a low sexual drive in general. Regardless, I plan on waiting to have sex until I'm married. If I never get married, which wouldn't really be surprising, then I guess I'll live to be an old virgin fart. :-D That's perfectly fine with me.

I'm the same way. I may even be asexual. I'm just not interested, and people are annoyed at that..

[Jakalwarrior]

I thought I was going to be a virgin forever mostly because I refused to have sex with anyone I wouldnt want to mary or have kids with for obvious reasons... since sex is procreation and all. Pair that with my inability to dechiper flirting real time AND the inability to act on it if I do manage to because im too busy calculating probabilities (deciding that the worst case scenarios outweigh the possible positives).

Anyway, an INTJ female found me and handled matters from there. All I had to do was be myself and make sense to her (while being a bit cute ;) ) Im now married and the only thing better than sex is drunk kinkey sex. I actually think she uses it to control my mood. If I get a lot im happy, talkative, and clingy. The longer I go without the more withdrawn and uncaring I am.

its messy?

;)

Only if its good

[sriv]

Sex is an adventure I am not willing to partake.

[HeterodoxRobot]

What's amazing about sex, is the fact that it is an intensely pleasurable activity that does not require any type of intellectualizing.

It is a sensory experience enmeshed with a whirl of physical and emotional stimuli.

Plus, it *feels* great!!!!

[Richard0612]

What's amazing about sex, is the fact that it is an intensely pleasurable activity that does not require any type of intellectualizing.

It is a sensory experience enmeshed with a whirl of physical and emotional stimuli.

Plus, it *feels* great!!!!

You've summed up all the reasons why I believe that I'm asexual!
[feeling?! :scared:]

[Uberfuhrer]

I've mostly heard that sex was just a fun, messy activity like playing in the mud and not the romanticized melding of souls.





Uberfuhrer added to this post, 8 minutes and 1 seconds later...

Sex is disturbing:

Minor injuries

It can be irritating to your skin when your sweaty pubic hair rubs against hers.
Someone's hair my get accidentally pulled or caught.
Someone may clumsily fall over as you're changing positions (e.g., when she's getting off you from being on top, when you try to transition from missionary with you kneeling and her laying down to missionary with both of you laying down).
You may hit your head against the headboard, har har har.
When you're going at it missionary style you can end up hitting the bottom of your bladder on her pelvic bone. That gets old after ten minutes...
Your knees and elbows can get sore after a while from rubbing on the bed/floor/etc.
During doggy style if you slip out and then accidently thrust back into her pelvis. This can hurt the tip of your dick.
If she's riding you and you slip out she can come down on your dick. Usually it gets bent a little and hurts for a minute. At the worst you can rupture the tissue and take a trip to the hospital.
You may get scratches, bruises, pulled hair (purposely this time), and bite marks. That's cool.
You may fall off the bed or hit your elbow against the wall or something else like that. You just gotta laugh when this shit happen. Messiness

You probably know this already, but overall sex is messier than what you see on t.v. or in porn.
You're going to get hot and sweaty of course.
The woman's lubrication is going to dribble all over the place and possibly stain the sheets. Someone is going to get semen on them at some point. Condom wrappers are going to litter the ground. You may kiss passionately and slobber all over each other.
Someone may let out a fart right in the middle of things.
Sometimes when you pull out and she changes positions she'll fart out her vagina (queefing).
If you finger her your fingers may be covered with a lot of her clear lubricant when you pull them out. You may have to wipe them off on your leg or something. Classy.
If you have sex when she's on her period, well use your imagination.
If you have anal sex you may get some poo on your dick.
If you have a good session, when you're done you're going to be sweaty, red faced, tired, and a bit out of it. Your hair will be messed up, gross stray hairs will be stuck to your skin, the girl will have a bit of white lubricant running out of her cootch. You'll have a bit of cum dribbling out of your dick. There will be at least one condom wrapper on the floor, the sheets and pillows will be all over the place, and the bed will have a wet spot on it. If you cuddle afterwards you'll start to stick together and it'll feel gross when you pull apart. It's great.Courtesy of this site (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.).

[schwartzie]

I think that no one mentioned children and STDs so far...how does that influence your take on sex?
The intentional making of babies is -by far- the best sex....

[HeterodoxRobot]

You've summed up all the reasons why I believe that I'm asexual!
[feeling?! :scared:]That would be incredibly rare, but, I dunno, it's still possible.

If you don't mind my asking, are you a virgin?

[raconteur213]

I've mostly heard that sex was just a fun, messy activity like playing in the mud and not the romanticized melding of souls.





Uberfuhrer added to this post, 8 minutes and 1 seconds later...

Sex is disturbing:

Minor injuries

It can be irritating to your skin when your sweaty pubic hair rubs against hers.
Someone's hair my get accidentally pulled or caught.
Someone may clumsily fall over as you're changing positions (e.g., when she's getting off you from being on top, when you try to transition from missionary with you kneeling and her laying down to missionary with both of you laying down).
You may hit your head against the headboard, har har har.
When you're going at it missionary style you can end up hitting the bottom of your bladder on her pelvic bone. That gets old after ten minutes...
Your knees and elbows can get sore after a while from rubbing on the bed/floor/etc.
During doggy style if you slip out and then accidently thrust back into her pelvis. This can hurt the tip of your dick.
If she's riding you and you slip out she can come down on your dick. Usually it gets bent a little and hurts for a minute. At the worst you can rupture the tissue and take a trip to the hospital.
You may get scratches, bruises, pulled hair (purposely this time), and bite marks. That's cool.
You may fall off the bed or hit your elbow against the wall or something else like that. You just gotta laugh when this shit happen. Messiness

You probably know this already, but overall sex is messier than what you see on t.v. or in porn.
You're going to get hot and sweaty of course.
The woman's lubrication is going to dribble all over the place and possibly stain the sheets. Someone is going to get semen on them at some point. Condom wrappers are going to litter the ground. You may kiss passionately and slobber all over each other.
Someone may let out a fart right in the middle of things.
Sometimes when you pull out and she changes positions she'll fart out her vagina (queefing).
If you finger her your fingers may be covered with a lot of her clear lubricant when you pull them out. You may have to wipe them off on your leg or something. Classy.
If you have sex when she's on her period, well use your imagination.
If you have anal sex you may get some poo on your dick.
If you have a good session, when you're done you're going to be sweaty, red faced, tired, and a bit out of it. Your hair will be messed up, gross stray hairs will be stuck to your skin, the girl will have a bit of white lubricant running out of her cootch. You'll have a bit of cum dribbling out of your dick. There will be at least one condom wrapper on the floor, the sheets and pillows will be all over the place, and the bed will have a wet spot on it. If you cuddle afterwards you'll start to stick together and it'll feel gross when you pull apart. It's great.Courtesy of this site (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.).

I guess this is an analysis :laugh:

I think it is much less "messy" when you know what you are doing. The above sounds like a Farrely Bros movie???

My take:

Become a stud (Watch paul newman movies[60s/70s])
Become a magnet (Develope a personality)
Treat women with respect (equality is very hot)
Wear a rubber (When you fuck)
Shower (self expalnatory[note: you can landscape your pubic hair])
Engage her in conversation (or leave)
REPEAT

[Uberfuhrer]

Wow, I feel bad for you.

Sex is what you make of it.

I don't get what you mean here.

And do people who like sex like pain, sweat, and exercise, too? I hate sweating, especially. The description I had posted above just makes it sound gross and uncomfortable...so why do it?

[raconteur213]

I don't get what you mean here.

And do people who like sex like pain, sweat, and exercise, too? I hate sweating, especially. The description I had posted above just makes it sound gross and uncomfortable...so why do it?

Uber, get your ass in the gym!
Watch early Paul Newman for lessons on how to be suave.
And take some risks for christ sakes...

[HeterodoxRobot]

I don't get what you mean here.

And do people who like sex like pain, sweat, and exercise, too? I hate sweating, especially. The description I had posted above just makes it sound gross and uncomfortable...so why do it?You bring to sex, what *you* enjoy!!!

There is sweaty monkey sex, there is role-playing sex, there is drunk sex, there is leisurely morning sex, there is I-just-want-to-get-off sex, there is I-absolutely-love-you sex, there is oh-my-god-I-need-you-inside-of-me-right-now sex, there is yawn-I'm-bored sex, there is make-up sex, there is angry sex, there is painfully pleasurable sex, there is teasingly pleasurable sex, there is let's-take-our-time-exploring-each-other's-bodies sex, there is fuck-me-like-an-anonymous-stranger sex.


Lol, I can keep on going...

[raconteur213]

You bring to sex, what *you* enjoy!!!

There is sweaty monkey sex, there is role-playing sex, there is drunk sex, there is leisurely morning sex, there is I-just-want-to-get-off sex, there is I-absolutely-love-you sex, there is oh-my-god-I-need-you-inside-of-me-right-now sex, there is yawn-I'm-bored sex, there is make-up sex, there is angry sex, there is painfully pleasurable sex, there is teasingly pleasurable sex, there is let's-take-our-time-exploring-each-other's-bodies sex, there is fuck-me-like-an-anonymous-stranger sex.


Lol, I can keep on going...

See, this is Hetero flirting with me...she wants the rac

[Uberfuhrer]

Uber, get your ass in the gym!
Watch early Paul Newman for lessons on how to be suave.
And take some risks for christ sakes...

But I hate sweating and exercising! And I'm gathering that people who like sex are the ones who like exercise and sweat.

[HeterodoxRobot]

See, this is Hetero flirting with me...she wants the rac:rolleyes:





HeterodoxRobot added to this post, 1 minutes and 19 seconds later...

But I hate sweating and exercising! And I'm gathering that people who like sex are the ones who like exercise and sweat.
Uber, do you enjoy masturbating?

If you can enjoy masturbating, then you certainly can enjoy yourself some S-E-X.

[Uberfuhrer]

I don't sweat when I masturbate.

And is sex all that different from masturbating (aside from the obvious)?

[raconteur213]

But I hate sweating and exercising! And I'm gathering that people who like sex are the ones who like exercise and sweat.

Learn to love it!

Sound mind - Sound body: neglect one, the other will suffer...just a matter of time.

Regarding gym sweat...learn to love it!!!





raconteur213 added to this post, 1 minutes and 10 seconds later...

I don't sweat when I masturbate.

You must be a pro.

[HeterodoxRobot]

I don't sweat when I masturbate.
Purchase yourself a high-powered fan, and let the awesome sweat-less sex ensue!!!

[raconteur213]

I don't sweat when I masturbate.

And is sex all that different from masturbating (aside from the obvious)?

Sometimes..lol

[HeterodoxRobot]

And is sex all that different from masturbating (aside from the obvious)?For men, I am guessing it is infinitely better than masturbation. The *right* vagina is an incredibly hospitable place for an erect penis, being warm, wet and tight.

*sorry, but it's the truth*

[Uberfuhrer]

The other problem is that I don't have anyone to fuck...

I don't think I ever felt an orgasm when I masturbate (or at least I don't know what it's supposed to feel like). I get tired of masturbating with my hands. I tend to prefer fantasizing and letting the hard-on ensue automatically.

[raconteur213]

For men, I am guessing it is infinitely better than masturbation. The *right* vagina is an incredibly hospitable place for an erect penis, being warm, wet and tight.

*sorry, but it's the truth*

Don't forget the mouth, sexy! :lovestruck:

[HeterodoxRobot]

The other problem is that I don't have anyone to fuck...

I don't think I ever felt an orgasm when I masturbate. I get tired of masturbating with my hands. I tend to prefer fantasizing and letting the hard-on ensue automatically.Yes, finding an appropriate sexual partner can be quite the daunting task...

And, you've never orgasmed? Really?

Are you on any type of meds that might restrict you from doing so???





HeterodoxRobot added to this post, 1 minutes and 25 seconds later...

Don't forget the mouth, sexy! :lovestruck:Lol, true, mouths can be quite hospitable too.

[Uberfuhrer]

Yes, finding an appropriate sexual partner can be quite the daunting task...

And, you've never orgasmed? Really?

Are you on any type of meds that might restrict you from doing so???

Well, I don't know if I've ever orgasmed. What is it supposed to feel like for a male? I usually just get tired, but I don't really feel anything physically.

I'm on Paxil, and every time I tried getting off of it, I just had these intrusive thoughts and headaches. Is there anything OTC that I can get to counter the sexual side effects that Paxil causes?

I also consume a lot of Mountain Dew, but I believe its relation to sexual impotence was an urban legend.

And what do we mean by appropriate sexual partner?

[thod]

There is a very easy test to know if a man has orgasmed or not. If you had you would know. I find this hard to believe. I read some place near 100% of men had masturbated by age 15.

[HeterodoxRobot]

Well, I don't know if I've ever orgasmed. What is it supposed to feel like for a male? I usually just get tired, but I don't really feel anything physically.

I'm on Paxil, and every time I tried getting off of it, I just had these intrusive thoughts and headaches. Is there anything OTC that I can get to counter the sexual side effects that Paxil causes?

I also consume a lot of Mountain Dew, but I believe its relation to sexual impotence was an urban legend.

And what do we mean by appropriate sexual partner?
I believe most men masturbate until they finally ejaculate.

Have you ever ejaculated before???

I am not a man so I cannot tell you, descriptively, how it feels.

Also, yeah being on anti-depressants can totally fuck with your sex drive, I recall that when I was on meds, not only could I not cum, but I would rarely, if ever, feel/become sexually aroused.

I dunno, about anything OTC, if it bothers you, talk to your doctor about it.

And by finding an appropriate sexual partner, I was referring to the difficulties inherent to the "mating game". Finding a compatible partner of the opposite sex can, and oftentimes does, suck!!

[Uberfuhrer]

I believe most men masturbate until they finally ejaculate.

Have you ever ejaculated before???

I am not a man, so I cannot tell you, descriptively how it feels.

Also, yeah being on anti-depressants can totally fuck with your sex drive, I recall that when I was on meds, not only could I not cum, but I would rarely, if ever, feel/become sexually aroused.

I dunno, about anything OTC, if it bothers you, talk to your doctor about it.

Yes, I have ejaculated, though I don't really feel anything physical except for my penis getting sticky. Is an orgasm a physical or psychological sensation? Though I find that it is done mostly without touching my penis. My erections are generally caused automatically when I fantasize about things like sucking on a girl's toes and stuff like that.

But the fact that I may never be able to feel this sensation makes me depressed.





Uberfuhrer added to this post, 1 minutes and 36 seconds later...

And by finding an appropriate sexual partner, I was referring to the difficulties inherent to the "mating game". Finding a compatible partner of the opposite sex can, and oftentimes does, suck!!

How is sexual compatibility determined? What are the factors generally considered? What is meant by what people "want?"

[raconteur213]

I blame your sedintary lifestyle. Goto the gym...seriously. You are a puppy and you have all the time you need to work on your perspective.

[Uberfuhrer]

I blame your sedintary lifestyle. Goto the gym...seriously. You are a puppy and you have all the time you need to work on your perspective.

How will going to the gym help with my predicament?

Is an orgasm a similar sensation to urinating?

[bebegirl]

Uber, you are too young and cute to throw in the towel about sex....actually all you mostly need is a towel (eventually :) ) so I agree....just get out there and let it go.....you are wasting all your good youth, stamina, and hormones on all this analyzing....you have plenty of time for that when you are old and need to take a pill first......

[sriv]

Being a consequentialist, I take the consequences more seriously than the process. Sex results in shallow short-term pleasures and long-term risks. There are better uses of my time.

[Uberfuhrer]

Uber, you are too young and cute to throw in the towel about sex....

So I guess you've seen my pictures?

[Serket]

An orgasm is a chemical relase in the brain that is experienced as physical pleasure. Certain medications such as anti-depresants can inhibit this chemical release. As other have stated, you know it when it happens. If you doubt you've had one, then chances are you havn't. It should coincide with ejaculation, and should not feel like urinating (although I'm female so maybe I'm wrong here?)

[Uberfuhrer]

Dammit. I hate antidepressants. Is there any form of medicine that can counter the lack of sensation caused by antidepressants? I want to be able to feel this mysterious sensation. I've been on Paxil for a long time and all my attempts to get off of it just made things worse.

[bebegirl]

Yes, Uber I saw your pictures :) I'm sorry I didn't check all the earlier posts and see that you were on Paxil...I am a pharmacist, actually, and that's a pretty tough one...and I'm sorry if I came across as too glib and casual...I am thinking you have been on it a long time?

OMG I am going from bad to worse!!! Sorry, Uber...have you ever tried decreasing your dose (probably is my guess)...are you game to try again? Are you getting other kinds of support (like counseling?)...sorry I don't want to get too personal......

No there are no OTCs that can counter-act the side effects...I hate anti-depressants (and Tylenol, but that's another discussion) for this reason: you get maybe a little of one good thing and a bunch of other really bad shit.....

[Uberfuhrer]

Yes, Uber I saw your pictures :) I'm sorry I didn't check all the earlier posts and see that you were on Paxil...I am a pharmacist, actually, and that's a pretty tough one...and I'm sorry if I came across as too glib and casual...I am thinking you have been on it a long time?

OMG I am going from bad to worse!!! Sorry, Uber...have you ever tried decreasing your dose (probably is my guess)...are you game to try again? Are you getting other kinds of support (like counseling?)...sorry I don't want to get too personal......

No there are no OTCs that can counter-act the side effects...I hate anti-depressants (and Tylenol, but that's another discussion) for this reason: you get maybe a little of one good thing and a bunch of other really bad shit.....

I answered this question in my personal thread (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.). I don't want to derail this thread.

[Serket]

Bit slow on the uptake today. Paxil is called Aropax here. I was on it for about a week before I couln't stand it any longer. I couln't concentrate on anything. Now on Citalopram, no affect on sex drive or ability to orgasm.

Note: I have no medical training, seek professional advice. I can only offer subjective opinions :)

[Sylvanus]

I've been sleeping all day, so I missed most of the conversation, but I hope I am not too late.

But I hate sweating and exercising! And I'm gathering that people who like sex are the ones who like exercise and sweat.

I hate to exercise, but I do see the benefits of it. A cursory inspection of the picture thread I couldn't find you, so I don't know if you are overweight or anything. Of course, you can still be skinny and not in shape too. However, exercising does a lot for you. It boosts your self image, it can help with depression (not necessarily cure it) and increases testosterone (especially anaerobic exercise) which can boost your sex drive.





Sylvanus added to this post, 21 minutes and 2 seconds later...

I don't get what you mean here.

And do people who like sex like pain, sweat, and exercise, too? I hate sweating, especially. The description I had posted above just makes it sound gross and uncomfortable...so why do it?

If you don't like sweating, do it in a well ventilated room. Preferably with fans blowing on you. Sex doesn't have to be all out pounding her as fast and hard as you can until you are both exhausted. Like Hetero said, there are lots of ways to do it.

It doesn't have to be messy either. It is true that there are juices involved, and they do leak, spurt etc... But if you are careful about it, you can keep them under control. Put a towel down under her, keep a couple towels handy for wiping up and such. Just do it in a way that doesn't kill the mood.

It doesn't have to be painful. Some guys/girls like it rough, if you aren't one of them, it would be a good idea to be with a woman that isn't either.


I don't sweat when I masturbate.

And is sex all that different from masturbating (aside from the obvious)?

Sex is different from masturbating. Although a lot of the same motions are involved, there are definite differences in how vaginal sex, a blowjob, masturbation and a handjob feel. Just like for a woman, vaginal sex, oral sex, fingering and a vibrator all feel different. And all of these can be used in a single 'session' (but IMO, handjobs are just about useless).

Sex is a lot of fun, but sometimes it isn't worth the trouble. Sometimes you just want to get off, and don't want to bother with going through all the legwork required to get to that point. Also, men's sex drives tend to be a lot higher than women's. In relationships there is a lot of give and take, sometimes she wants more than you do, so you do it anyway because you know that there will be times that she doesn't want to but does it anyway. However, if it happens too often where you push her into it (or vice versa) then one or both of you will be seriously unhappy in the relationship. That's why I masturbate about ten times more often than I have sex.

[Serket]

That's why I masturbate about ten times more often than I have sex.

I think that goes for almost everyone on this forum.
Except maybe raconteur213. (Just wanted to get it in there before he does, and we all know he will)[haha 'get it in', oh I do love a good pun;D]

[Sylvanus]

I think that goes for almost everyone on this forum.
Except maybe raconteur213. (Just wanted to get it in there before he does, and we all know he will)[haha 'get it in', oh I do love a good pun;D]

I was just trying to help him out. I think that's pretty typical for the general population. From what I have read of Uber's posts he hasn't much experience in relationships in general, so a little perspective on how to make it all fit together is appropriate (I think).

[gogurtdynasty]

This thread desperately needs an individual to step into the big boy shoes and do what truly needs to be done; sweat and grunt... maybe make buzzing sounds on occasion

I accept this self imposed challenge

*monkey-esque grunting begins*

[Serket]

who is this triffle of an insect?

[thod]

Unsure about the workings of the female body?
You can always get a job at this Chinese hospital.

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[ShaiGar]

awwessome.

[OddFactor]

Wow, I feel bad for you.

Sex is what you make of it.

QFMFT!

Especially when you have a partner who's into the same stuff as you are.