Traits of an INTJ.

[SeaCzar]

I cut the following from a link on another thread:

loner, more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family, not very altruistic, not very complimentary, would rather be friendless than jobless, observer, values solitude, perfectionist, detached, private, not much fun, hidden, skeptical, does not tend to like most people, socially uncomfortable, not physically affectionate, unhappy, does not talk about feelings, hard to impress, analytical, likes esoteric things, tends to be pessimistic, not spontaneous, prone to discontentment, guarded, does not think they are weird but others do, responsible, can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others, orderly, clean, organized, familiar with darkside, tends not to value organized religion, suspicious of others, can be lonely, rarely shows anger, punctual, finisher, prepared

My question: Which of the above (let's limit this to 5 each) would you identify with most/least? I'll start.

Most: (in no particular order) not very complimentary, values solitude, analytical, does not tend to like most people, guarded.

Least: (again, in no particular order) unhappy, prone to discontentment, hidden, can be lonely, tends to be pessimistic.

Hmm. Much more difficult to pick the least.

[dandylion]

Most:
Does not talk about feelings
Hard to impress
Does not think they are weird but others do
Observer
Not physically affectionate

Least:
Not spontaneous
Tends to be pessimistic
Can be lonely
Not much fun
Finisher

[AgentofGaming]

Most:
socially uncomfortable
loner
rarely shows anger
detached
observer

Least:
guarded (doubt anyone has anything to do to me)
does not think they are weird but others do (everyone hints this to me, so I guess it finally affected me)
hard to impress (depends on what)
would rather be friendless than jobless (Somehow I'm perfectly fine unemployed)
prone to discontentment (because some things aren't meeting goals)

[eMachine]

Most
Detached
Socially uncomfortable
Not physically affectionate
Analytical
Likes esoteric things

Least
Orderly
Organized
Unhappy
Tends to be pessimistic
Finisher

[Universe]

Most:
does not tend to like most people
analyitical
familiar with the darkside
does not talk about feelings
private

Least:
not much fun (I make people laugh all the time, that make me fun right?)
does not think they are weird but others do(I'm perfectly aware of my strangeness)
socially uncomfortable(despite my strangeness lots of people randomly talk to me anyway)
would rather be friendless than jobless (atm I don't need to have a job)
finisher

argg picking 5 that didn't apply to me was hard.

[Lagawrd]

Most:
observer
rarely shows anger
socially uncomfortable
prepared
perfectionist

Least:
not spontaneous

[INTJoe]

I can't get it down to 5 each....

I've labeled 19 in the "Most" category, and 17 in the "Least", while leaving altruistic, esoteric, and discontentment unranked, as I'm not familiar enough with what they mean.

From this list I wittled it down to 11 Mosts, and 6 Leasts.

Most (no particular order):

Values intellectual pursuits over relationships
Observer
Detached
Private
Skeptical
Doesn't like most people
Doesn't talk about feelings
Hard to impress
Analytical
Guarded
Responsible

Least (no particular order):

Would rather be friendless than jobless. (I'd rather have friends and no job, so long as I've got some hobby or studying to keep me focused).
Values solitude (I like some alone time, and few friends...not SOLITUDE).
Unhappy. (Why do people think we're unhappy!?!??!?!?!?!!)
Orderly/Clean/Organized (I lumped these all together, I'm none of them)
Familiar w/ Darkside (What?......What the hell is this?)
Punctual (lol...not me at ALL. But I get pissed when others are late.)

[Haphazard]

Interesting.

Most:
can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
responsible
detached
hard to impress
socially uncomfortable

Least:
rarely shows anger
finisher
unhappy
not very altruistic
clean

I may not be clean but I am organized. Isn't being able to find things according to the layers of sediment things accumulate in a form of organization?

I'm ambivalent about "does not tend to like most people" because in I do love everybody in theory but in practice I've found that no, I don't tend to like most people.

[asongforgrace]

this was quite difficult to narrow down at all

most
prone to discontentment
not very complimentary
observer
values solitude
perfectionist
detached
private
does not tend to like most people
socially uncomfortable
not physically affectionate
analytical
not spontaneous
organized
tends not to value organized religion
can be lonely
rarely shows anger
prepared

least
more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family (love intellectual pursuits but family is most important)
not very altruistic
would rather be friendless than jobless (perhaps due to having few close friends, I/we value them more highly than someone who has many)
guarded
does not think they are weird but others do (I acknowledge different-ness ..but maintain it is everyone else is ‘weird’. Or at least, I’m hoping so..)

[eMachine]

would rather be friendless than jobless (perhaps due to having few close friends, I/we value them more highly than someone who has many)


That could be true, I only have a couple close friends left from my ever-so-slightly more social phase (adolescence) and I can't remember what we used to have in common that made us such good friends in the first place. Never the less, it's good to know they're around to keep me from being a complete hermit.

...Or it could also be that some INTJ's don't mind being unemployed and having all the time in the world for research, study, hobbies, or just to think. It seems like we're always working on something, whether it's a real job or not. I don't think an INTJ is one to just sit around watching daytime television.

(Both are true for me.)

Haphazard
I may not be clean but I am organized. Isn't being able to find things according to the layers of sediment things accumulate in a form of organization?


:thumbsup: I am organized too then. Everyone else may think my apartment is in disorder, but I usually know just where I put something.

[Vivid]

Yes: more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family, values solitude, observer, socially uncomfortable, not spontaneous

Untrue: does not tend to like most people, can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others, clean, rarely shows anger

[Xeraii]

Choosing 5 for least is hard. :irked:

Most

Not very complimentary
Hard to impress
Perfectionist
Observer
Analytical


Least

Not very altruistic
Not much fun
Not spontaneous
Would rather be friendless than jobless
Suspicious of others

[vaguely dissatisfied]

My god (just an expression)!!!! Everything fits absolutely perfectly except for the anger part.

[PRBori]

Is very hard to only pick 5, so here is my list

Most:

detached
Private
hard to impress
analytical
does not think they are weird but others do
responsible
can be lonely
rarely shows anger
prepared
skeptical

Least:

does not talk about feelings
Tend to be pessimistic
more interested in intellectual pursuits
would rather be friendless than jobless
guarded
insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others

I think I need to explain this one a little further: more interested in intellectual pursuits

I'm extremely interested in intellectual pursuits, but will not put it above my immediate family. Although, it is essential for me in order to keep the family going, so I'll say 50/50 on it.

[Zilal]

Cool thread.

I'm all of those things to some degree... yeah, there are big parts of me that rely more on my work than on my friendships for my daily fulfillment... but I'm not really that extreme.

Identify with most:
Skeptical
Guarded
Does not think they are weird but others do
Responsible
Prepared

Identify with least:
Not much fun
Does not tend to like most people
Not physically affectionate
Can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
Orderly

[Jgib5328]

Most:
Perfectionist
Does not tend to like most people
Hard to impress
Analytical
Can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
Familiar with the Dark Side

Least:
Not much fun
Socially uncomfortable
Unhappy
Does not think they are weird but others do
Not spontaneous
Prone to discontentment

I chose to do 6..

[vkut79]

Unhappy. (Why do people think we're unhappy!?!??!?!?!?!!)

This bugs me too, I'm pretty sure we're happy and unhappy about as often as other personality types, on average. Other people probably think we're unhappy because when they imagine themselves in our shoes, they recognize that they would be unhappy doing the things we do. I could say the same about them. Its also the case that the popular notion of happiness applies more to EF type personalities, and so those people imagine that we are unhappy because we don't tend to experience that type of happiness. Our kind of happiness is usually on a more deeper level, and is difficult to see from the outside.

[Santana28]

hmmmm....

Most: (in no particular order) values solitude, does not tend to like most people, socially uncomfortable, would rather be friendless than jobless, can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others

Least: (again, in no particular order) not very altruistic, tends to be pessimistic, organized, punctual, not physically affectionate

[ArchonAlarion]

Most:
more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family
not very altruistic
detached
skeptical
not physically affectionate
analytical
can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
clean
tends not to value organized religion
orderly
familiar with darkside

Least:
not much fun
would rather be friendless than jobless
not spontaneous
does not think they are weird but others do
finisher

[SeaCzar]

This bugs me too, I'm pretty sure we're happy and unhappy about as often as other personality types, on average. Other people probably think we're unhappy because when they imagine themselves in our shoes, they recognize that they would be unhappy doing the things we do. I could say the same about them. Its also the case that the popular notion of happiness applies more to EF type personalities, and so those people imagine that we are unhappy because we don't tend to experience that type of happiness. Our kind of happiness is usually on a more deeper level, and is difficult to see from the outside.


I completely agree with this. Just because I am not laughing out loud all the time and not "touchy-feely" (the latter makes my skin crawl), I consider myself very happy and content with my life.

[AliciaS2R]

Most, in no particular order

Observer
Hard to impress (most of us put our pants on the same way, one leg at a time :))
Tends not to value organized religion (Some feel a need to belong, I do not)
Rarely shows anger
Does not talk about feelings


Least, in no particular order

Not much fun (I have a sarcastic and warped sense of humor, if you can't laugh at yourself... blah blah blah)
Orderly (I am a terrible pack rat)
Does not tend to like most people (I like most until they give me reason not to)
Can be lonely
Does not think they are weird but others do (I know I am a bit different, that's part of my charm ;) )

[Tokey41]

Most: perfectionist, analytical, can be lonely, skeptical, more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family

Least: not very altruistic, unhappy, tends to be pessimistic, does not tend to like most people, would rather be friendless than jobless

[DeadSpace]

Most: not very complimentary, observer, analytical, does not think they are weird but others do, familiar with darkside, tends not to value organized religion.

Not very complimentary is what bugs me the most, have to remind myself to compliment people when they do something well.

Least: not very altruistic, not much fun, not physically affectionate, tends to be pessimistic, suspicious of others.

[thod]

Typical Beliefs
I feel like an alien in a frightening environment.
Since the world is dangerous, you have to watch out for yourself at all times.
There are reasons for everything. Things don't happen by chance.
Sometimes my inner feelings are an indication of what is going to happen.
Relationships are threatening.
I am defective.


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[ginandsour]

Most:

would rather be friendless than jobless
observer
values solitude
detached/private
hard to impress

Least:

does not think they are weird but others do
can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
orderly
rarely shows anger
finisher

[More Tea]

Very interesting thread!

I most identify with:

values solitude (I'd go a step further and add that I need periodic solitude)
familiar with darkside (very much so, for better or worse. At least it spares a person from being artificial)
tends not to value organized religion (this is almost an understatement)
likes esoteric things
observer

And least with:

does not think they are weird but others do (I *know* I'm weird)
does not talk about feelings (I do, sometimes, but in a meaningful context)
not much fun (by SF standards)
unhappy

... well, the rest of it is pretty true. Think I'll stop at four for this category.

[Gabrielle]

Most:

loner
Unspontaneous
Responsible
Perfectionist
Detached
more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family
would rather be friendless than jobless
does not tend to like most people
hard to impress
analytical

finisher
prepared
punctual

Least:
Suspicious of others
Rarely shows anger
prone to discontentment
familiar with the dark side
tends not to value organized religion

[Richard0612]

Very interesting!

Most:
More interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family [relationships, definitely; family, much less so]
Would rather be friendless than jobless
Analytical [saying that I'm analytical is like saying that the universe is sort of big :p]
Tends not to value organized religion
[Always tries to be] Prepared
Not much fun [sorry, had to pick 6; not much fun by normal (read: ESFx) standards]

Least:
Does not tend to like most people [it's not that I don't like people for what they are, I just need my space!]
Finisher
Hidden [ask a straight question, get a straight answer]
Does not think they are weird but others do [of course I know I'm weird!]

[ushop]

Most:

observer (I prefer to watch and listen until I have something good to contribute)
values solitude
punctual (Being at least 15 minutes early is "on time" for me. I don't mind waiting.)
hard to impress
guarded


Least:

rarely shows anger (Ha)
finisher (I have so many ideas that actually finishing something takes a long time)
not physically affectionate (I love hugging my friends and family : )
not very complimentary
not much fun

[Darkmist]

Would rather be friendless than jobless? Depends on the friends and the job.
Not much fun? Once again, that depends on who you ask.
Unhappy? Do I abound with joyful play? Eh, no. But I wouldn't say I am an unhappy person.
Pessimistic? No, realistic.
Not spontaneous? I can be when I'm bored.
Familiar with the darkside? I take this to mean dark and brooding, gloomy, thoughts of death. Nope.
Rarely shows anger? Depends on the situation and the company I'm in.

The rest fit well, though clean and orderly is subjective. To an SF, I probably seem just the opposite. But I know where my stuff is, it is fairly well organized and clean to me doesn't mean a daily house scrubbing. It means no filth and no clutter.

[BlackHawk]

Most:
-analytical
-loner
-detached
-values solitude
-perfectionist

Least:
-lonely
-not spontaneous
-unhappy
-prone to discontentment
-familiar with darkside

[Witchyamelia]

I suppose I am hard to impress....and I can relate a bit to "the darkside"...but I disagree that INTJ's are pessimistic...I am a glass half full type, as is my son (also an INTJ)...we are optimistic odd folks... :)

[Fervency]

Most:
-Perfectionist (I get my priorities done, but I'm happier when I don't have a deadline. no deadline=more time for creativity and "perfection")
-Values solitude
-Analytical
-Not spontaneous (I would rather be prepared or have a plan, but I can be flexible.)
-Observer
-Private
-Guarded
-Does not tend to like most people (because they're all extroverts, bleh...just kidding...ok, maybe not so much)

Least:
-Familiar with the darkside (yikes, no thanks)
-Tends not to value organized religion
-Not physicaly affectionate
-Not very altruistic
-Not very complimentary

[nightfire]

Most:
-Observer
-Private
-Analytical
-Responsible
-Prepared ("Failed to prepare - prepare to fail")

Least:
-More interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family (these two should be balanced)
-Would rather be friendless than jobless (I am jobless right now... It isn't necessary to get a job to have an income.)
-Familiar with darkside (What?..)
-Not much fun (Yeah... Obviously written by an extrovert.)
-Socially uncomfortable

[httc1978]

Most
- Analytical
- rarely shows anger
- more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family
- loner, detached, values solitude (gives me time to speak to who i want to really.. my innerself)
- familiar with darkside

Least
- can be lonely
- perfectionist
- spontaneous
- hard to impress
- not very altruistic

[jimmywallaby]

Most:

tends to be pessimistic
can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
not very complimentary
perfectionist
responsible


Least:

rarely shows anger
tends not to value organized religion


Those are really the only two thats least, the rest describe me pretty accurately

[suzyk]

Most:
-Loner
-Would rather be friendless than jobless
-Values solitude
-Observer
-Responsible
-Tends to be pessimistic
-Detached
-Private
-Hidden
-Paranoid
-Skeptical
-Organized

Least:
-Analytical
-Does not think they are weird but others do
-Rarely shows anger

[sriv]

Most:
-skeptical
-observer
-analytical
-rarely shows anger
-values solitude

Least:
-familiar with the darkside
-does not talk about feelings
-unhappy
-loner (I try not to be)
-does not tend to like most people

[Toby]

Most:

prone to discontentment
responsible
values solitude
prepared
observer


Least:

does not tend to like most people
suspicious of others
likes esoteric things
tends to be pessimistic
unhappy

[ethsar46]

Most:
perfectionist
does not think they are weird but others do
punctual
finisher
observer

Least:
prone to discontentment
not spontaneous
unhappy
not much fun
hidden

[malefide]

Most:
responsible
analytical
observer
perfectionist
private

Least:
would rather be friendless than jobless (I would not give up the friends I do have for any job.)
not much fun (I'm fun to certain people, sure.)
unhappy (why is this even on here?)
can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
socially uncomfortable

It was difficult to choose the five least like me...all of those things I identify with at certain times--sometimes at the more extreme points of my life (i.e. at my worst I am too insensitive, lack altruism, etc.), but I wouldn't use those term to describe my personality in general.

[Merle]

Most: observer, values solitude, private, analytical, likes esoteric things

Least: orderly, punctual, unhappy, rarely shows anger, prone to discontentment.

[soundchaser]

Most:

more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family
values solitude
skeptical
analytical
tends not to value organized religion


Least:

not physically affectionate
does not think they are weird but others do
rarely shows anger
not much fun
can be lonely

[robolizard55]

most
observer (always)
responsible (way too much)
familiar with darkside (but it doesn't bother me at all, don't even see it as "dark")
rarely shows anger (I have hardly, count it on one hand, felt true "anger")
values solitude (oh goodness yes)

Least
not physically affectionate (family gets hugs constantly and girlfriend gets everything else)
suspicious of others (way too trusting of individuals, do not trust the masses)
can be lonely (never have I felt lonely, even when completely isolated)
hidden (maybe not for public display, but if you are interested and worthy, it's all there!)
prone to discontentment (awfully happy considering how the world is crap)

[Alstroemeria]

Honestly, I had more things to put on the least list than the most list. I've taken several MBTI tests, and and I've always scored as moderately INTJ. I function like an INTJ but I don't express many INTJ traits (though I'm capable of most of them), and the other MBTI's don't describe me well at all.

Most:

observer [I like to absorb information and size up the situation before acting.]
values solitude [There's a reason my phone is turned off at home.]
detached [I can be very impartial... nothing more to it.]
analytical [Hahaha.]
responsible [This ties in with being very unreliant on others.]

Least:
punctual [It's not that I "forget" what time it is or anything, I just don't care about arriving on time for appointments.
more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family [The people in my life are very important to me (I can live without them, but I choose not to).]
not much fun [This can have a lot of meanings, but I'm actually kind of... eck... silly.]
skeptical [I'm open to a lot of things, as long as they make sense.]
does not tend to like most people [I actually make an effort to find admirable traits in other people.]

[desg90]

Most:
- perfectionist (to a pathological level)
- private (Even have some related phobias)
- socially uncomfortable (clumsy nerd or aspie?)
- hard to impress (result of believing everything should be possible)
- can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others (apathy? selfishness? Aspergers again?)

Least:
- not very altruistic (can be generous and overindulgent if I'm in the mood)
- does not tend to like most people (I don't like introductions, but that doesn't mean I dislike people just because)
- clean (overindulgence can lead to hygienic negligence at times. But, that doesn't mean I'm a disaster. I'm just an orderly slob. ;))
- suspicious of others (nah, they should be suspicious of me)
- familiar with the dark side (it's a side I'm willing to explore, but, I'm not so familiar with it).

[fINTiP]

This is interesting.

I find that list very foreign to me, and I'm only one letter removed.

These are the only things I could relate to:
hidden,
skeptical,
hard to impress,
anylitical, [sic],
likes esoteric things.
(Upon another look, I saw 3 more):
detached,
rarely shows anger,
can be lonely

That is 8 items.

Every other thing on that list seems to be an either unappealing, negative, or neutral trait to me. I see not one thing I want to be, nor one thing I am.

Very odd indeed. I do hope this isn't an insulting statement? I do mean it objectively.

[Jakalwarrior]

Just 5? hmmm... Anyway, these are the most black and white, the rest are grey.

Most:
analytical
skeptical
tends to be pessimistic
socially uncomfortable
not very complimentary
familiar with darkside
tends not to value organized religion
suspicious of others
detached

Least
punctual
orderly
not physically affectionate
not spontaneous
not much fun

[American Quest 1983]

Most
Analytical
Punctual
Perfectionist
Organized/Clean
Would rather be friendless than jobless

Least
Not very complimentary
I know that I am weird
Familiar with Dark side
Unhappy
Do not tend to like most people (I am neutral to most people)

[fINTiP]

Might I point out that "Does not tend to like most people" does not mean "Dislikes most people"?

[selimut]

most:

not physically affectionate
observer
responsible
does not talk about feelings
values solitude

least:

more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family
does not tend to like most people
unhappy
tends to be pessimistic
prone to discontentment

[Provoker]

Most:

analytical
guarded
orderly
familiar with darkside
finisher

Least:

hidden
not much fun
tends not to value organized religion
socially uncomfortable
loner

[Mistress Corvidae]

I cut the following from a link on another thread:

loner, more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family, not very altruistic, not very complimentary, would rather be friendless than jobless, observer, values solitude, perfectionist, detached, private, not much fun, hidden, skeptical, does not tend to like most people, socially uncomfortable, not physically affectionate, unhappy, does not talk about feelings, hard to impress, analytical, likes esoteric things, tends to be pessimistic, not spontaneous, prone to discontentment, guarded, does not think they are weird but others do, responsible, can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others, orderly, clean, organized, familiar with darkside, tends not to value organized religion, suspicious of others, can be lonely, rarely shows anger, punctual, finisher, prepared

My question: Which of the above (let's limit this to 5 each) would you identify with most/least? I'll start.



Most: observer, not physically affectionate, orderly, tends not to value organized religion, can be lonely

Least: more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family, perfectionist, not much fun, hidden, analytical

It was hard to make both of these lists because I can identify almost everything on there.

[Cuivienen]

most:
tends not to value organized religion,
private,
analytical,
responsible,
perfectionist.

least:
likes esoteric things,
familiar with darkside,
unhappy,
suspicious of others,
tends to be pessimistic.

[Roy G Biv]

Most:
values solitude/private
skeptical
perfectionist
detached
punctual
not physically affectionate
hard to impress
analytical
tends not to value organized religion
likes esoteric things

Least:
suspicious of others
prepared
can be lonely
rarely shows anger
not much fun
unhappy
does not talk about feelings

[onlyparallel]

Most
does not talk about feelings,
hard to impress,
analytical,
likes esoteric things
responsible,

Least
not much fun
does not tend to like most people (i am very adept at finding little things to like in people)
not physically affectionate
not spontaneous

[royalstar]

Most: loner, perfectionist, private, socially uncomfortable, not physically affectionate

Least: not very altruistic, organized, clean, finisher

I'm very disorganized. I'm not the most...hygienic person. And I'm very lazy, can never be focused enough to finish anything I initiate. I'm such a perfectionist that I set the bar to high to meet. Then when I find what I want is beyond me to accomplish, I get frustrated and give up completely..

[azelismia]

would rather be friendless than jobless (in my current situation where i need some means to survive anyway, if I won the lottery and had a ton of money at my disposal I don't think I'd continue working)
analytical,
likes esoteric things,
rarely shows anger
skeptical

least:
not spontaneous,
prone to discontentment,
guarded,
can be lonely
clean, I am cluttered but not filthy...

[Zerpantine]

Most:

Not very altruistic
Not physically affectionate
Can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
Skeptical
Perfectionist

Least:

Likes esoteric things
Not much fun
Responsible
Finisher
Not spontanious

[Chimerical]

most
more interested in intellectual pursuits than relationships or family
rarely shows anger
responsible
punctual
can be lonely

least
does not tend to like most people
can be insensitive or ambivalent to the misfortunes of others
not much fun
finisher
not much fun

eh.....