The INTJ Misfit

[IgnoranceIsKind]

For the whole of this week, my school is going through the year's first term examinations. Of course, I didn't quite study for it because I am absolutely confident that my end terms would just bring me through to the next year (as it has previously in 2007, failed all my papers throughout the year but got straight As for the end terms).

I have skipped practically two-thirds of my papers so I could just stay home and read. My classmates aren't very happy with this. For some reason, they expect me to go through this hell week just like how they're doing because they know need the grades but I don't. And secondly, I suspect they are secretly grudging against me for having this freedom while they are prisoned in school under tormenting examinational conditions.

I can't help but feel that they should just stay out of my business. While I don't usually take criticisms to heart, this time round it really bugged me. And I can't help but feel so annoyed at these people. Sometimes while reading, I'd suddenly drift to mental scenes of torturing them with fire and knives. It is impeding my 'study' at home and for that I just cannot tolerate anymore.

I take pride in the plans I have for my education. I am able to evaluate which test papers I can skip for more time at home and such and still make it through the year. I have been doing this for as long as I can remember.

Sigh. Do any of you have ways to deal with such circumstances?

[mind_wander]

My INTJ bro had been doing this, also with careful planning and strict scheduling. You can skipped certain steps or papers. While others lack the proper guidance to plan ahead, so they blamed it on you, for their carelessness. Just ignore them because their just plain jealious of you.

[coffeeloverfreak]

Agree with #1. Except, I have to ask: how do they know you're doing this? Are you obnoxiously going on and on endlessly about how you don't have to study and how they're "suckas" who do? I can see a half-dozen scenarios where they might be justifiably getting annoyed with you.

Do your own thing, fine. Just don't rub their face in it. Some people actually have to work hard for their grades; try to be sensitive to that.

[Zilal]

No, although oddly, I had a dream this morning that my friends decided I was "too perfect" and were hunting me down so they could beat me up. I wonder where that came from.

As for the mental scenes of torturing them, have you considered how much anger you might be suppressing over this? Do you feel you're able to express yourself to them well, or at all?

[IgnoranceIsKind]

coffeeloverfreak:

When asked why I am repeatedly absent for my test papers, I merely replied, and this is in the exact words which I told them, that I have found a way to cut corners and still maintain damage control. All I want to do is to stay home and read up on some books I have been obsessively engrossed in. I did not show any form on arrogance, and was even pretentiously demure about it (made special efforts for this).





IgnoranceIsKind added to this post, 3 minutes and 21 seconds later...

No, although oddly, I had a dream this morning that my friends decided I was "too perfect" and were hunting me down so they could beat me up. I wonder where that came from.

As for the mental scenes of torturing them, have you considered how much anger you might be suppressing over this? Do you feel you're able to express yourself to them well, or at all?

In school I usually keep to a close group of friends, and am indifferent to the rest. Somehow, there are some people who just can't agree with what I'm doing and they want to impose their beliefs on me, such as to turn up obediently for papers and such.

The problem with people nowadays is that they think and act in accordance to this on what they're 'supposed' to think, and not think individually for themselves.

[Zilal]

The problem with people nowadays is that they think and act in accordance to this on what they're 'supposed' to think, and not think individually for themselves.

Well, I think there's a great deal of truth in that (although one could say it'd always been that way, not just nowadays). Of course, we can't do much about the other people. But if you practice what you want them to practice, and move toward being more and more open-minded and less reactionary about other people's behavior, you'll find the annoyance lessening with time.