Do you replay the day?

[mustangtech]

As long as I can remember when I start getting ready for bed, ie taking a shower, brushing my teeth, I start to replay the day in my head and it continues till I get to where I started getting ready for bed. I'll recount things I've done, conversations I've had. I'll think of things I should have said in certian situations. I'll even chuckle when I re-tell myself a joke someone told that day. I mentioned this to my mother a year or two ago and she thought I was crazy. She was asking me for some reason how long it usually took me to go to sleep and I said "30 minutes to an hour depending on how much happened that day." And then I had to explain to her what I just wrote above. My mom thought that was the craziest thing she had ever heard. Does anyone else do this?

[Firelie]

Yes. It's usually overlaid with what I could've done better, or my hopes for the future, or whatever. It usually takes me about the same amount of time as you to get to sleep unless I'm seriously exhausted. :)

[cielo market]

I do this all the time. It takes me forever to fall asleep... "I could have done this instead" or "I should have done that" pops in my head. I think I'm subconciously trying to make myself more aware of my mistakes and solving them so that I may never commit them again. Of course, if something went well for me that day, I like to replay that as well to remind myself of "what works"

Leave it to an INTJ to absorb any and all beneficial knowledge from any event. ;)

[vulcan]

sometimes if something stands out in the day. most of the time i don't think about the past.

[qwerty]

Yeah it's good until something bad happens... Then no sleep until I solve it.

[vulcan]

Yeah it's good until something bad happens... Then no sleep until I solve it.
haha. this is one of the reasons i first though i was intp.

long sleepless nights over stupid shit.

[Opti]

If things haven't gone according to plan i.e I haven't achieved everything I wanted to because other factors have come on the agenda.. I have had to prioritize .. *I will then sometimes analyse the day in order to confirm if my order of priorities were correct.... or where I could have made an improvement...

I used to replay conversations all the time, now I don't. I'd rather use my brain more contructively ...

[thegnat]

I used to replay the day and analyze it and/or other things tangential to the day until no end before I went to sleep. It took me a long time to get to sleep.

I used to be an extreme worry wort when I was younger too. I grew out of that phase luckily. Before I hit middle/high school even.

Now I'm just too exhausted mentally and physically to do analyze the day to the extent I used to. I might pick one small thing to attempt to analyze then think about sleeping and my mind is like yeah! sleep! sleep rules! Then it won't let me analyze much else.

And due to efficiency and energy saving - it has had to quit worrying about things - so it still wanders but it worry/analyze insufficient things.

[dayguard]

I try to write down how I could have done things better. Writing is very therapeutic. And I get to zone in to the problems areas of my life.

When something emotional significant happens in the day (or when something is still not done), that's when the tape recorders works overtime.... over and over again.

[Entropy]

Yeah. Except I don't wait until bedtime to reflect upon the day, sometimes I reflect on things that happened as the day goes on. Probably the reason that I miss so much. Too busy thinking about a conversation I had three hours ago.

[mrMunson]

Yeah I do reflect over the day before going to sleep. Not necessariliy everything that has happened during the day, but if there's been something important, or some new situation. Maybe if I had a conversation with someone I don't know from before. I'll analyse my actions and conclude if I did the right things, or things that I should have had done otherwise.

[The Rose]

I used to replay my failures over and over again. I would dwell on them for weeks or months or even years, beating myself up for my failures. MBTI was one of the things that helped me stop doing that.

For example, 25 years ago, I had a friendship with "Cindy" for about a year. We grew apart from each other. After several years, I called her, just to catch up with her and see how she was doing. In the first 10 minutes of the phone call, I teased her about one of her strong personality traits. Instead of laughing at herself about it, she got offended and hung up on me! I called her back to try to apologize, but she wouldn't answer the phone.

Something like 5 years went by. I still felt bad that I had offended Cindy and made her hang up on me! In order to win her back, I determined to become her "secret sister" for a whole year. So once a month, every month, for 12 months, I sent her an anonymous card or gift. I gave her a beautiful throw blanket for her birthday. When I wrote something, I always used my best penmanship. In the 12th month, I wrote a 2-page letter revealing who I was, apologizing for offending her and hurting her feelings, asking her to forgive me. I never received a response from her.

I think another 5 years went by. I called her. I was just calling to say hi and be friendly, and well, I still didn't know if she had forgiven me. So I asked her, "Have you forgiven me?" She responded, "Have you repented?"

For several seconds, thoughts flashed through my mind, "Have I repented?" "Didn't she get my letter?" "I'm sorry, I was wrong, would you please forgive me" isn't repenting? Her question threw me. I didn't understand how she could ask me that question. While I was trying to think of a non-offensive response, she hung up on me!

Thankfully, I had learned about MB types by that time. This time I realized, "You know what? I am not the one with the problem!"

I have quit agonizing over Cindy hanging up on me. I realize that the moment she hung up on me, I was completely forgotten about. She wasn't home wringing her hands all upset over the whole thing. Our relationship is broken because that's the way she wants it.

I have learned to accept my failures and keep moving forward, and stop beating myself up for them - generally. ::)

I'm not positive, but I'm pretty sure she's an ESTJ.

My point in this post is that, I beat myself up for 5 years over Cindy hanging up on me the first time, and then went to extreme lengths to correct it. Now I realize that I am not always at fault. Sometimes it's the other person's fault, and I'm not going to waste my life agonizing over it.

[INTJoe]

I don't do this, ever. The only things I think about are things that are bugging me. But I never replay the entire day. Usually I'm thinking about tomorrow/next week/next year if I cannot get to sleep.

I would doubt that replaying the entire day just to do so is a strictly INTJ thing.

[niffer]

Only certain events that were particularly interesting, or occurances that bugged me. I often think of different ways that I could've done things, or concoct fantasy scenarios that are parodies of the day's happenings..mostly including the opposite gender.

*cough*

[Darklord]

Not systematically, but if something happens that leaves an impression, I mull it over again and again, and if it's something embarrassing, you can bet it'll pop up in my mind years and years later to mortify me once again about being caught making shadow puppets in math class once in sixth grade or whatever.

"I should have said that and that, and if I had just remembered that I'd have pwned them, and I'll bet they'll mention this again and then I'll say this and that and..."
"Oh, God, I'll bet they took that the wrong way and now they'll go around remembering it and looking for more dumb things I do... I'd better just withdraw a bit and leave them alone."
"If I had taken that elevator instead of this one, I probably would have saved at least ten seconds..."

[fripping]

only the interesting bits.

[ThrowerMatt]

I'm the same way, I always go through what I went through during the day in my mind while trying to sleep. Maybe that's why I can never seem to fall asleep.

[Myrak]

I'm usually replaying the bad parts of my day throughout the day, but when I'm going to bed I'm usually set on sleeping (probably because I go to bed so late, I'm to tired to think).
I always get hung up on what went wrong for me, and it's something I'm determined to change about my mindset.

[quentin]

If I make a mistake I'll replay how I should have handled the scenario correctly if I could zap back in time and do it all over again....about a million times.

[RoqueBear]

OMG yes!

Some times I'll continue to replay a conversation or an event over in my mind subconsciously. I'll be driving home and all of a sudden some very mundane event will explode into my head revealing a completely new perspective and information on an event. Sometimes I'll solve problems making a jump from A to Z in an instant without even knowing what happened in between.

When this happens its like my mind just hits the floor running full speed. Ill start rapidly putting pieces of a mental puzzle together in different ways. This does happen just before I fall asleep on occasion.

[Provoker]

I do my best thinking before I go to bed, I explore the depths. I visit dialogue's I had during the day, I analyze problems, social problems, etc. If someone made a normative comment earlier that day such as 'you should do x' and I responded at the time with a line of argument say opposed to that, I will think of logical reasons that reinforce the intuitions I had at the time. Ideas usually explode in my mind like shooting stars that last only a moment and then discintegrate and are superceded with new stars (new ideas). The thoughts are like scraps, like variables or dots and I am constantly trying to connect the dots to formulate the holistic picture. Every detail I analyze is part of an organic whole. I seek to understand both part and whole with what ever information is available in my thought. Sometimes it could be rediculous things like recalling the word bilateralism and I will begin to obssess and dwell and have megalomaniac fantasies of being in a dialogue in which someone says something and I respond "yes, we had a bilateral agreement". All of this takes place within less then a second, and is replaced with new explosive thoughts. My gf always asks me what I am thinking and I always tell her that I can't pinpoint one thing. I am never thinking about one thing unless I am focussed on a thesis or something more hands-on. But when I am just contemplating I am bombarded with ideas and thoughts. In effect, a thought comes when it wants not when I want. "I" really have no say in the matter. I go through moments of mental lapses where there is void, nothing. And I could be in the middle of a washroom at a nightclub at 2am and snap my head up all the sudden because I just had an epiphany - say - the idea of waterproof ipods.

But in short, yes, whether I will it or not, everything interesting gets replayed.

[Colette]

Yes I do this, far too much, and just before sleep at night. Or it may begin in the evening when my responsibilities for the day are over, and I have some quiet time to reflect.

I'm a very poor sleeper at the best of times; averaging around 5-6 hours per night, and my system has had to get used to this low level of sleep as I don't wish to rely on sleep medication. I'd like to be able to switch off my mind, but find that I usually can't - even with tools like music and meditation, which I have tried many times.

Throughout the day I am usually thinking either about the past or the future - very seldom about what is happening in the present, unless it comes up and smacks me in the face..

[Wapiti]

long sleepless nights over stupid shit.
Oh how true, things that wind up being so trivial get played over and over again.

I try to write down how I could have done things better. Writing is very therapeutic. And I get to zone in to the problems areas of my life.

When something emotional significant happens in the day (or when something is still not done), that's when the tape recorders works overtime.... over and over again.

Just recently I have found writing things down to be therapeutic as well, it helps me to organize my thoughts better.

And I have noticed as well that the things that stir me emotionaly are the things that get replayed. Matter of fact things or things that are straight forward logically, generally do not get replayed.

[dandylion]

Always, and at the most random times about the most random stuff. Not only do I reflect on my day, I also think about the future and planning every little thing I'll do the next day, even trivial things like telling a joke to a certain person at a certain time... and then I'll think about all their possible reactions to the joke. It's so stupid, but I can't help myself.

[Jed3]

Yeah I always go over everything. I like to think about what I could have done better, and what I plan on doing for the rest of the week. It must be and INTJ thing.

[AgentofGaming]

I try to write down how I could have done things better.
I do my best thinking before I go to bed, I explore the depths.

So any of you get up in the middle of night to write stuff down?
I do, and it's so annoying but if I don't have it down on paper, I can't sleep.

[dandylion]

^Yep, I do all the time. If I don't have paper I just turn on the computer and record any details into notepad or something...

In fact, I just woke up because I had a vision of my spin on building an Eichler house, so here I am with Photoshop drawing out the house plans and whatnot... only it's 9 AM on a Sunday.

[august]

i currently have about three speeches repeating constantly in my head that i would like to tell certain people. i wrote these "speeches" before sleeping and revise them when daydreaming or when falling asleep. i'll never actually say them because it would be completely counterproductive to how i want a few relationships to advance.

and i HATE when i come up with something i should've said during the day. it tends to echo in my head for a long, long time: one or two lines, repeated over and over. sometimes it's pacifying but mostly not.

[Hdier]

I will play back conversations, correcting myself and imagining different directions it could have gone. I cannot do anything to stop this, however it has proved useful when I've been faced with similar situations.

[pavman]

Yes yes, I do this all the time... always kick myself for coming up with something better to say after the fact... I don't replay everything, just the things I view as having not been perfect or having gone horribly wrong...esp. when it comes to dating ;o)

[AgentofGaming]

and i HATE when i come up with something i should've said during the day. it tends to echo in my head for a long, long time: one or two lines, repeated over and over. sometimes it's pacifying but mostly not.

Me too. It always has that feeling that a much better result would have come out of it if I had worded it better.
That's why I like edit buttons on forums.

[Sheepo]

I usually replay only either extremely dissapointing situations on my part. As in situations in which I dissapointed myself. Such as times where I didn't act like myself because of stress, environment or otherwise... I also correct myself and glue into my mind what I should do next time if the same situation was to arise, but I never follow through anyway; so it really doesn't matter!

Or I either replay something funny that happened or something memorable. Then I just laugh at it, enjoy myself, as if I was watching a movie ^^.

I also replay "reading between the lines" scene in which I needed to do so. I usually just reply whatever comes into my head that fits during these times, though I notice what they want me to say. Then I just replay these scenes and see how I should approach them next time around.

[Vojnik]

When you have had a long hard day its good to reflect on things that haven't gone wrong.

[MixISTJandINTJ]

Ooh boy. I replay a lot.