INTJf Personals and Profiles

[Jezebel]

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[Lineplunger]

I figure this would be a good place to find like minded people





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[dalidaisy]

Hehe, a pickup line! Way to be straightforward. Good luck...

(maybe you should post more info & possibly a pic?)

[Beefsnibit]

I understand that this is not a "personals" and more rather a discussion for things pertaining to this matter... but I do sincerely feel that this is important for myself.

Obviously I'm not very good at finding girls/women in the outside world, as i'm sure many of you have the same difficulty with finding partners, but I just wanted to try this out and see how it goes for me.

I want to try and meet some other intj (just a preference) ladies, whether it be for friendly discussion, encouragement or a potential relationship.

I consider this pathetic (at least by my standards), but you never know if something will work until you try it right?

I've just been itching for a relationship with someone for so long and have not even been able to find anyone that I would consider dating. And you know it is getting bad when you start having dreams where you are holding hands with a women and/or cuddling. So i'm trying everything.

Pm me on here or Myspace if you are interested. :)

Discuss:
~Meeting people
~Romantic dreams
~Cravings for affection

[vertex]

Been on dating sites for a few months now, but no one that can really grab me there... Then I come on here and I see loads of intelligent women posting, and I wonder, are any from Belgium (and single)?

If so ladies, PM me ;)

IF this works, I think I will start a business setting up typology forums, purely for dating haha

[Nemesis]

Hi, I'm a dumb Canadian very uncool male, but I think we can make this work.:p:cheesy:

Do you like Hockey?

[WickedQueen]

IF this works, I think I will start a business setting up typology forums, purely for dating haha

Yes, I need that.

PS: I'm not from Belgium, sorry. But I wish you a very good luck! :)

[juchestyle]

As Promised here is my online profile! Don't be shy, tell me what you think!




What are you most passionate about?

Life, I work hard at everything I do. I take an interest in finding ways to learn how to be better at the things I pursue.



What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

Family has to be first, this seems like the foundation for everything else.
Experiences are what make us who we are.
Education and health are the second part after experiences.


Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

On of my Spanish teachers in High School made an impact on my life; he spent time in the peace corp and had many interesting stories to tell. I have friends that have good traits in life that I enjoy. I like to role model people that have a good sense of balance in their lives between work and play.

My martial art instructor growing up was like a second father to me. I learned how to clean and I learned respect from him.

I spend a lot of time in life looking for and learning great traits from people around me. Likewise I also lookout for traits and behaviors to avoid.



The four things your friends say about you are:

• Intelligent
• Passionate
• Genuine
• Funny


What are three of your BEST life-skills?


• Keeping physically fit
• Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
• Finding creative solutions to everyday problems


What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

Someone who is dynamic! Someone who can roll with the punches, think their own thoughts, run with the crowd, but fly on their own too. Someone who can stand apart from the world and reflect. One night drink beer another night go to a play. Someone who wants to be in a relationship together with another person, rather than thinking the other person is in a relationship with them. I want to find someone who has a winning attitude about relationships and not just the stereotypical viewpoint.

A fantastic and rewarding relationship is within everyones reach if they can only see beyond the surface.



Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?


I have been told that I am very easy to talk with, that I have something to say, know when to listen, and no matter what we do, we always have fun.


What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

My depth as a person. I have many layers and many qualities, I will continue to intrigue well into the future. I have a lot of layers, and that is great because I am not 1 dimensional, I can be discovered over long periods of time.

When I first meet someone I want to get to know them, who they are, where they are going. If I like what I see I will then work on building that relationship.

In my experiences, the best relationships are those that start with a mutual respect and understanding of the other person; verse just randomly building chemistry with anyone and not looking into who they truly are.



How do you typically spend your leisure time?

I enjoy a variety of activities, anything from reading, and watching tv, to getting out and being active like mountain biking, and kayaking. I love a great movie, making dinner with friends, exploring parks, restaurants, the world around us. The more variety in our activities the more fun they are! But I also strive for balance, and I have no issues with staying in and enjoying another persons company.


What are five things that you "can't live without?"

great food
Great conversation
A best friend
Intrigue
intellectual adventure



Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

7 Years in Tibet - I enjoyed this a great deal, maybe two or three books back. A german prisoner of war escapes and travels through Tibet for freedom and comes to live in that country. During this time he befriends the Dahli Lama and becomes his friend and tutor. A great story about adventure, about loss and yet finding oneself in a place they never would have thought to look. Amazing story.


Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know.


Whom I am capable of being, and how much fun that person is. I am fun, playful, adventourous, motivated, hard working, loyal, and I come in a great package too!




Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

I have lived in Australia, sky dived, sucba dived, bought my own home, have no debt, working on an MBA, financially savy, healthy and goal oriented. I have been a featured speaker to a room with over 700 people in attendance, and I have trained members of the Phoenix Police Department self defense. I have loved and I have lost, and I have succeeded in life and once or twice I have come up short. I am looking for a woman who can understand and realize what a great relationship really has to offer. I realize that women think with their emotions; but please understand that hope is not a strategy. I want to find a woman who values herself.

[Stratego]

I think it's an excellent profile. Far more information than many on eharmony and very well done, especially the "intellectual adventure" part. Good luck!

[catzmeow]

I really like this profile, your personality comes through very well, and you sound interesting, fun and passionate. I'd date you. :)

[Mogura]

Good profile. Very positive. Wanna be my wingman?

[JohnDoe]

Overall I give it a B. (I'm a hard grader).

As Promised here is my online profile! Don't be shy, tell me what you think!




What are you most passionate about?

Life, I work hard at everything I do. I take an interest in finding ways to learn how to be better at the things I pursue.

Good start. Elaborate. Show, not tell. This doesn't actually tell me anything about you. You just said I'm passionate about everything.



What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

Family has to be first, this seems like the foundation for everything else.
Experiences are what make us who we are.
Education and health are the second part after experiences.


Like the experiences line, the rest is just meh.


Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

On of my Spanish teachers in High School made an impact on my life; he spent time in the peace corp and had many interesting stories to tell. I have friends that have good traits in life that I enjoy. I like to role model people that have a good sense of balance in their lives between work and play.

My martial art instructor growing up was like a second father to me. I learned how to clean and I learned respect from him.

I spend a lot of time in life looking for and learning great traits from people around me. Likewise I also lookout for traits and behaviors to avoid.


I like the last two sentences, but somehow they feel awkward. Can you rephrase them to be more positive?


The four things your friends say about you are:

• Intelligent
• Passionate
• Genuine
• Funny


What are three of your BEST life-skills?


• Keeping physically fit
• Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
• Finding creative solutions to everyday problems

I don't know much about eharmony, but this just seems... short? But maybe it is supposed to be.


What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

Someone who is dynamic! Someone who can roll with the punches, think their own thoughts, run with the crowd, but fly on their own too. Someone who can stand apart from the world and reflect. One night drink beer another night go to a play. Someone who wants to be in a relationship together with another person, rather than thinking the other person is in a relationship with them. I want to find someone who has a winning attitude about relationships and not just the stereotypical viewpoint.

A fantastic and rewarding relationship is within everyones reach if they can only see beyond the surface.


I like this a bunch up to the "stereotypical viewpoint." It makes you sound a bit bitter. Rewrite the last two sentences?


Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?


I have been told that I am very easy to talk with, that I have something to say, know when to listen, and no matter what we do, we always have fun.

Good. Add an always after "that I". Also mixing first and third person here makes this awkward.


What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

My depth as a person. I have many layers and many qualities, I will continue to intrigue well into the future. I have a lot of layers, and that is great because I am not 1 dimensional, I can be discovered over long periods of time.

When I first meet someone I want to get to know them, who they are, where they are going. If I like what I see I will then work on building that relationship.

In my experiences, the best relationships are those that start with a mutual respect and understanding of the other person; verse just randomly building chemistry with anyone and not looking into who they truly are.

Good, but the grammar here sucks. Also the last paragraph sounds dry and unromantic.


How do you typically spend your leisure time?

I enjoy a variety of activities, anything from reading, and watching tv, to getting out and being active like mountain biking, and kayaking. I love a great movie, making dinner with friends, exploring parks, restaurants, the world around us. The more variety in our activities the more fun they are! But I also strive for balance, and I have no issues with staying in and enjoying another persons company.

Like, this sentence is totally grammatically crap. Reword to not have "like".



What are five things that you "can't live without?"

great food
Great conversation
A best friend
Intrigue
intellectual adventure



Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

7 Years in Tibet - I enjoyed this a great deal, maybe two or three books back. A german prisoner of war escapes and travels through Tibet for freedom and comes to live in that country. During this time he befriends the Dahli Lama and becomes his friend and tutor. A great story about adventure, about loss and yet finding oneself in a place they never would have thought to look. Amazing story.

Why does this book intrigue you? I can read this off the back of the DVD :(


Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know.


Whom I am capable of being, and how much fun that person is. I am fun, playful, adventourous, motivated, hard working, loyal, and I come in a great package too!


Spelling mistakes GRR! Also, this is just restating things that you've said above. Tell me something new. Tell a *story*.



Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

I have lived in Australia, sky dived, sucba dived, bought my own home, have no debt, working on an MBA, financially savy, healthy and goal oriented. I have been a featured speaker to a room with over 700 people in attendance, and I have trained members of the Phoenix Police Department self defense. I have loved and I have lost, and I have succeeded in life and once or twice I have come up short. I am looking for a woman who can understand and realize what a great relationship really has to offer. I realize that women think with their emotions; but please understand that hope is not a strategy. I want to find a woman who values herself.
First sentence should be reworded to something like "am working on an mba, am financially savy, am healthy, and am goal oriented." You have a tendency to mix verbs and nouns in lists. Don't do this!

I realize that women think with their emotions; but please understand that hope is not a strategy.

This is going to be viewed really negatively by a bunch of women no matter how good your intentions are. I know what your trying to say, but people are going to misinterpret it. Also way too many sentences involving I in this one.

[Blse]

Just a brain-fart from a 22 yr. old college student w/ no online dating experience (just on-campus experience - though, just to toot my own horn, I am successful there: honk!):

How about instead of writing a list of what you're looking for, you say something like:

"While I have certain qualities that come to mind of what I'm looking for, I don't think I can categorically reject or exclude people without having met them. What I can do, is give you an idea of what it's like to be in a relationship with me - how I interact with a partner..." and then go on to talk about that.

Again, no online experience in this (beleive it or not this is actually the only online forum I belong to - and the first one I've joined).

In any case, I'm also interested whether something like that would work on these sites? Or would that be a huge faux-pas?

[Aristocrat Porn]

Dude, hope is totally a strategy.

[Kris]

The content is pretty good for the most part I think, but some of it gives off a vibe I can't quite put into words. In some ways it seems a little formal and rigid I guess. Its good to make what you want clear, but you have to be careful not to diminish your pool of potential partners too much before you've even spoken to them. It should reveal your character, what you like and what you want in a partner but also have some lightness to it and some flexibility in the sort of woman you would talk to. That's just my 2c anyway.

[juchestyle]

Great suggestions and feedback! I am busy reworking it, thank you!

[azelismia]

I agree with john doe here, the grammar and spelling needs to be redone and this line
"I realize that women think with their emotions; but please understand that hope is not a strategy"

is a WTF thing.

over all though this was very positive and no serious flaws (other than spelling and grammar)

B-

I'd up it to a B with grammar and spelling corrected to really get an A you'd need to think of some things about yourself and your life view that stand out. nothing really stands out here. there's nothing to make you shine above the competition, but there is also nothing to make you look less shiney than the majority of your competition.

[Storm]

I realize that women think with their emotions; but please understand that hope is not a strategy.

This makes you sound extremely sexist and condescending. You've already decided, before meeting her, that any woman who responds to your ad thinks with her emotions and has to be told how to behave. Delete it.

[BostonIan]

Two different strategies: is to be completely honest, answer with your first instinct, and use the search process as a filter to find the person who matches the you-you. In that case, it seemed that some of your answers were tailored to eliciting a response from the women, sort of I-enjoy-long-walks-on-the-beachish, instead of shooting from the hip.
is to create a profile that casts the widest net to catch the most hits. When a real estate agent is going to sell a house, he goes with a neutral paint color. In that case, some of your answers set up qualifications and demands, which are like raising the asking price on the house. And, yeah, no need to be politically uncorrect right from jump.
Aside from that, make sure to answer the questions directly, and in the spirit in which they were asked. The second to last question and the "experiences are what make us who we are" (instead of "the experiences that made me who I am"), seemed like misses in that regard. Also, when you're bragging on yourself, my preference is to do it indirectly. Like, instead of "I am wealthy", I'd mention that I like sailing and put a photo of my yacht in the photo section. "Show" instead of "tell".

And, yeah, keep the punctuation clean and paragraphs tidy. Business-cards and résumés aren't a huge deal, but when they're all that you're being judged on, every little bit counts.

[jman2416]

I'm an INTJ guy and would be very intrigued to meet an INTJ girl.

For most of my life I've been withdrawn from society, lonely, and self-loathing. I always wished there was someone out there that could pull me out of that. I was fortunate enough to meet someone that could do just that. I'm still classified as an INTJ but I have managed to become happier than I ever though possible.

I'd really like to return that favor because I know right now you're reading this and are about to just pass the oportunity by because you've convinced yourself that it would require to much effort to get the benefit of the experience. Try to push that aside and realize that even if you are content with that now as you age it will only get worse.

So if you are a girl in the DFW area and would like to meet a guy that can understand you send me a message, I'd love to talk with you.

[Kris]

I'm looking for a mate.

You will be around 5'9 - 5'10, brunette, light complexion, green eyes and slim yet curvy. You will also be very intelligent, but slightly less so than myself. You will have a vulgar, morbid and sarcastic sense of humor.

You will enjoy cleaning, cooking, listening to the sound of my voice, giving massages and performing oral sex. Additionally, you will like cars, video games, cheesy action movies, UFC and metal.

You will not be nagging, needy, desperate or clingy.

If you fit these criteria, please PM me.

N.B. - Only successful applicants will be contacted.

[bil]

Where are the single women INTJ (or suitable other types) profiles?

[thoke]

I'm just going to paste my profile from a dating site. This probably won't work. But if you are interested, do send me a message. If you have any comments about the profile or advice for improving it, feel free to let me know. Note that I am a 22-year-old man looking to meet a girl for anything ranging from an online friendship to a serious relationship. I live in England.


My self-summary

I am a spindly, dangly sort of person. I type with two fingers and wrists uncomfortable on the sharp edge of a desk that was probably chosen at some point in time by the estate agent from which I rent with a PhD chemist and some as-of-now unannounced and unarrived others. I have the attic bedroom which makes me KING OF THE HOUSE and you must entertain me with your stories and rhymes and juggling or else I shall drown you in a peasant-infested swamp.

I am occupied by philosophy. I prefer to deal in big or medium-sized ideas like aesthetic value, which is what I’m supposed to be writing about. I consider myself a consequentialist: I think right actions are those that maximise whateverness (I don’t know what yet; in practice I probably aim to maximise my own well-being, in an indirect way that involves being quite nice to people). I think capitalism might be a mistake. I think adulthood begins at around 12 years old. I smoke marijuana every chance I get. I sit in my house for days on end and stare at the roses in the closet. I steal lines from Allen Ginsberg poems.

In the future I intend to be a decent writer living in a city or the country (or the cunty, which is a mixture of the two, rather like where I grew up in Sheffield). I will maybe hopefully have a permanent teaching post at a university somewhere on Earth, and I will divert the rest of my resources towards loving the woman that loves me and dancing gleefully in an unpredictable atmosphere.


You should message me if...

You like the cut of my jib.

You want to tear my pretty red heart in two.

You’re good at scooping shy people out of their shells.

You either live near me or would be willing to form a relationship online, with the likelihood that we will meet up at some point.

You want me to make you a mix CD. I haven't disclosed my taste in music, but it is respectable and eclectic. I will gladly custom-build you a mix CD and post it to you, or give it to you in person using my hands. Unless I'm not interested in you, but I probably am.

[nathan892]

Or maybe instead of telling me you could just wait till a find you. I would walk and start taking to you and you would try to be all scary and intimidating. I would probably just find it amusing and tell you to cut the crap and you would be flabbergasted. You would have your turn later on when I say something off and you would see right through it! I am determined to find one you guys. I had vision of what my love is like before I knew what an intj was, now
I know that I was thinking of an intj

[AaronSheffield]

Or maybe instead of telling me you could just wait till a find you. I would walk and start taking to you and you would try to be all scary and intimidating. I would probably just find it amusing and tell you to cut the crap and you would be flabbergasted. You would have your turn later on when I say something off and you would see right through it! I am determined to find one you guys. I had vision of what my love is like before I knew what an intj was, now
I know that I was thinking of an intj

Kid, if you honestly want to attract INTJ women, the very first thing you need to do is learn how to write as though you had at least a high-school education. If you speak like you post, an INTJ woman isn't going to wait to be "flabbergasted"; she'll just tase your arse and walk away laughing.

Here's the thing about INTJ's (both men and women): We don't try to be intimidating; we just get that reputation because we have absolutely zero patience with bullsh*t.

Tone it down about 5 notches; at the moment you're just embarrassing yourself.

[thoke]

I'm looking for a mate.

You will be around 5'9 - 5'10, brunette, light complexion, green eyes and slim yet curvy. You will also be very intelligent, but slightly less so than myself. You will have a vulgar, morbid and sarcastic sense of humor.

You will enjoy cleaning, cooking, listening to the sound of my voice, giving massages and performing oral sex. Additionally, you will like cars, video games, cheesy action movies, UFC and metal.

You will not be nagging, needy, desperate or clingy.

If you fit these criteria, please PM me.

N.B. - Only successful applicants will be contacted.

Does this approach work?! :suspicious:

[lambpox]

Kid, if you honestly want to attract INTJ women, the very first thing you need to do is learn how to write as though you had at least a high-school education. If you speak like you post, an INTJ woman isn't going to wait to be "flabbergasted"; she'll just tase your arse and walk away laughing.

Here's the thing about INTJ's (both men and women): We don't try to be intimidating; we just get that reputation because we have absolutely zero patience with bullsh*t.

Tone it down about 5 notches; at the moment you're just embarrassing yourself.

As a single (female) INTJ...I agree on all counts. :laugh:

[catzmeow]

Does this approach work?! :suspicious:

For what? Making me laugh out loud? Absolutely.
Getting dates? I doubt it.

[Kris]

Does this approach work?! :suspicious:

Getting dates? I doubt it.

Truth be told I haven't tested it. I prefer to let these things emerge over time. :sneaky:

[Fanowene]

Does this approach work?! :suspicious:

For what? Making me laugh out loud? Absolutely.
Getting dates? I doubt it.

Truth be told I haven't tested it. I prefer to let these things emerge over time. :sneaky:
Definitely made me laugh. But if I had fit the description, I might have even contacted you... Sadly enough, I don't fit your description, and from your description I gather that you wouldn't fit mine either. I love the original approach, though. It does say a lot about you.

[Kris]

For the record I am mostly kidding. The only 'requirements' I've ever put in an online profile are honesty and someone who likes to laugh. Besides a few select personality traits that are important to me its really about the connection (wow that sounds hippy-ish), which I find I'm completely unable to predict from a set of static criteria!

I might post a profile that has worked well for me in the past as a point of reference if anyone is interested?

[thoke]

For the record I am mostly kidding.

I hoped as much. I wonder which parts are serious, though.

It's not so much that I think there's something wrong with being the way you half-mockingly describe yourself. It's more that I hope that women don't find that attractive. I'm a sweet and harmless "boy next door" sort of person. If all the best women like bastards, I'm doomed.

[Fanowene]

I might post a profile that has worked well for me in the past as a point of reference if anyone is interested?
Sure. Fire away. :) It'd be interesting to know if it's any more serious.

It's more that I hope that women don't find that attractive. I'm a sweet and harmless "boy next door" sort of person. If all the best women like bastards, I'm doomed.
If all "best" women like the type of person you consider to be horrible, then I'm hoping you have the right kind of criteria for a "best woman".

[thoke]

If all "best" women like the type of person you consider to be horrible, then I'm hoping you have the right kind of criteria for a "best woman".

I'm not sure what my criteria are. I just know a great girl when I meet one. It's all in the mind of the beholder, of course.

[Kris]

It'd be interesting to know if it's any more serious..

Barely... ;)

Alright, here's one from OkC...I had another one on a different site about 6 months ago that was a little more generic but got me 2 or 3 contacts a day. I got sick of speaking to people who just didn't get me at all so I decided to let more of my personality shine through. :p

MY SELF-SUMMARY
I try not to take myself or life too seriously and often love to joke around. That said, I do enjoy serious and intelligent conversation sometimes. I have a slightly offbeat sense of humor and am a very dedicated heckler of political correctness. I like to laugh a lot and people always ask me what I'm grinning about...but I never seem to have an answer.

I'm quite open-minded and I prefer spontaneity over plans and schedules - I find that too much rigidity and structure saps the fun out of life. Basically, I enjoy leaving everything until the last possible minute...

WHAT I’M DOING WITH MY LIFE
I'm working as a software engineer, which is a remarkably dangerous and exciting job. Well maybe not, but its a living. I plan to do some travelling before I sign my life away on a mortgage or anything like that.

I’M REALLY GOOD AT
* Tea towel flicking
* Finding humor in any situation
* Causing awkward silences
* Listening
* Guitar hero
* Sarcasm
* Procrastinating
* Everything

THE FIRST THING(S) PEOPLE USUALLY NOTICE ABOUT ME
Cheeky grin, lip ring. Either of those or the lazer beams coming out of my eyes.

MY FAVORITE BOOKS, MOVIES, MUSIC, AND FOOD
Books - I like crime and suspense thrillers, along the lines of John Connolly and Lee Child.

Movies - I love movies and will watch anything once. There are loads of movies I enjoy but some of my favorites are: The Godfather series, The Evil Dead series, Taxi Driver, The Pianist, Fight Club, Pulp Fiction, Dawn of the Dead, Oldboy, Sin City, Hero, Terminator 2, The Shining, The Empire Strikes Back, Scarface, American History X, The Departed, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, The Big Lebowski, The Nightmare Before Christmas...

Music - I like metal, rock, alternative, punk/hardcore and classical music. Some of my favorite bands are: At The Gates, Bloc Party, The Doors, Gojira, The Dillinger Escape Plan, SiKth, The Clash, The Ramones, Iron Maiden, Dog Fashion Disco, Blind Guardian, Kaiser Chiefs, Led Zeppelin, The Postal Service, Queen, Danzig, The Duskfall, Opeth, Kalmah, Norther, We Are Scientists. My favorite composer is Krzysztof Penderecki.

Food - Space food sticks.

THE SIX THINGS I COULD NEVER DO WITHOUT
* Laughing
* Music
* Conversation
* Life's challenges
* My incredible wit
* Peanut butter

I SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING ABOUT
Everything and nothing. I usually have a million thoughts racing through my head at any moment, most of which I would forget between being asked what they were and articulating them. However, I do like to think about the future - immediate and distant, and all the possibilities that lay ahead. That, and how to make a million dollars.

ON A TYPICAL FRIDAY NIGHT I AM
Leaving burning bags of dog poo on my neighbours' doorsteps. If I run out of paper bags I like to go out for drinks with friends and possibly see some live music.

THE MOST PRIVATE THING I’M WILLING TO ADMIT HERE
I have a profile on Ok Cupid.

YOU SHOULD MESSAGE ME IF
You wish to engage in internet-based communication with me...

[thoke]

Hmm. You're a good looking chap, I wonder whether that's what is working for you.

[Kris]

Well its certainly not for everybody and that was a deliberate thing after being in contact with so many women that were completely incompatible with me. My aim with it is to instigate a chuckle or at least a grin and spur some interest. Who knows, it all feels like somewhat of a black magic so I've pretty much decided to do what I want regardless :p

[catzmeow]

Barely... ;)

Alright, here's one from OkC...I had another one on a different site about 6 months ago that was a little more generic but got me 2 or 3 contacts a day. I got sick of speaking to people who just didn't get me at all so I decided to let more of my personality shine through. :p


This would TOTALLY work on me. Looks wouldn't matter. I'm very serious about that last thing. My attraction to people rarely has anything to do with how they look. If I like their insides, I soon find their outsides absolutely irresistible. This has been true for me since about age 24. Prior to that, I will admit to being rather shallow and superficial. But, if an online ad can make me laugh out loud while reading it, I'm yours.

My boyfriend totally won my heart with his witty/sarcastic humor. And, of course, his shining character and intelligence. There was a sweetness to his online ad (and humor) that made it very appealing.

My sense of humor is very specific, though. ENFPs tend to prefer wit/sarcasm/smart-assery. We're rather irreverant and prefer people who are the same.

[Mogura]

Okay, it's kind of rough, but here goes...

"First off I am a MARMOT. Marmots dont take shit from anyone. There behind all ground squirrels 110%. You fuck with them theyll fuck you up. I's got bitey little teeth! being a marmot is a way of life They don't give a shit about what the world thinks of them. A Marmot don't think hes better than everyone else. It's a state of mind, a way of life. A Marmot and Ground squirrel are almost the same but Marmots are Cute and they like sandwiches. And no matter how pretty, ugly, fat or crack headed they look, Ground squirells love them. But if they are a Ground squirrel or Marmot they are Down with the Brown for Life."

Needs more work... I know. But it's a start...

[Kris]

But, if an online ad can make me laugh out loud while reading it, I'm yours.

Its funny you should mention that. I never bothered with profiles that don't have pictures (does that make me shallow?). Anyway, I was contacted by 1 woman and of all the profiles I had read hers was the first that made me laugh. She didn't have a picture up but I felt so compelled to get to know her because of that. In the end she turned out to be pretty gorgeous and we dated for a couple of months before she broke it off over a text message......ANYWAY, giving me a good laugh is probably the single most influential point in a woman's profile.

[Seriously]

MY SELF-SUMMARY

It's time for a new self-summary. The other one was to long. I don't want to summarize myself. I don't fit in this box. I defy boxes.

WHAT I’M DOING WITH MY LIFE

Enjoying it.

I’M REALLY GOOD AT

Procrastination. If it were an Olympic event I would win. Gold.

THE FIRST THING(S) PEOPLE USUALLY NOTICE ABOUT ME

Like I know this. Seriously who asks someone what they notice about them first? Look at my pictures. What do you notice? Now tell me so I can answer this question honestly.

MY FAVORITE BOOKS, MOVIES, MUSIC, AND FOOD

I don't play favorites. It just seems wrong.

THE SIX THINGS I COULD NEVER DO WITHOUT

Food

Water

Air

Laughter

Family

A fully loaded semi automatic gun. (I joke, I joke. Mostly)

I SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING ABOUT

Why I am single. Really. Why God WHY? I'm such an amazing woman it's like a total mystery to me.

ON A TYPICAL FRIDAY NIGHT I AM

Holding up convenience stores.

THE MOST PRIVATE THING I’M WILLING TO ADMIT HERE

Well there was that sex change operation...but that was a really long time ago and I don't think it counts anymore...

YOU SHOULD MESSAGE ME IF

If the mood strikes you and the moon is full?? Dunno, you tell me.





So???? Would you date me?

[Cicero]

Even though I am new here, I would like to give this a shot.


Headline: Looking for a smart, educated woman



25-year-old man
Dallas, Texas, United States
seeking women 21-28
within 20 miles of Dallas, Texas, United States
Never married
6’1
Wants kids


about me and who I’m looking for
I really enjoy being around people, but I’m more of an introvert that prefers to sit and listen, so it’s a little difficult for me to meet people. I thrive in a small group setting or one-on-one. I'm eager to hear to stories or talk about whatever: religion, politics, life plans/goals, but especially a person's work. I like hearing the details of why people do what they do, even if they hate their job. I have a close group of long time friends - they're all hilarious and very different. Some are very abrasive and loud, others are very sarcastic and quiet.

I spend a lot of time listening to music and reading books or articles on politico, the New York Times, and even a little Drudge Report. PBS's News Hour is the bar none the best news program out there. I cannot stand most cable news channels, but if I feel like having a good laugh, I will flip over to Fox News.

I have been given a lot in my life, and so I try to give a lot. I like hosting get-togethers, and cook fajitas or burgers for friends at least once a month.

Fast facts:
- Lost over 100 pounds 2 years ago, and have kept it off.
- I was completely illiterate until the fourth grade.
- BA in History and minor in Classics from Oklahoma in 2006; JD from SMU in 2009 (Tax Law!)
- Middle child of five boys.
- Love London, and think it fits my personality better than any city I know.
- Texas countryside is my second home.
- My personal philosophy is very similar to classical stoicism.
- I owe everything to my mother and father, and I feel very odd if I go more than a couple of days without seeing them.

In terms of what I’m looking for, I want to find a woman who is aware of herself as an individual, and knows what she needs to do to thrive in the world. Preferably a person who is driven more by reason than emotion. I am a firm believer that reasonable minds will differ, and I want to find someone who embraces that concept and seeks to explore it. Active, mentally and physically healthy, self respecting, educated, family oriented, and motivated to accomplish the things that make you happy.


for fun: I love watching college football. Other than that, I'm always up for going out with friends (dinner, drinks, darts, pool). Movies, reading, the news, fishing, talking with others about politics, work, the weather.
my job: Just took the bar exam, and now I'm looking for a job (along with everyone else). Hoping to break into the Houston, Austin, or Dallas legal markets.
my religion: More a fan of Christ's philosophy than the Christian religion.
my education: BA in History and minor in Classics from Oklahoma in 2006; JD from SMU 2009. Learning is fundamental. Education is key.
favorite hot spots: Bars: Plucker's, Humperdinks, Ozona's, Milo's Food: Snuffers, Central Market, Cowboy Chicken Other: East Texas (Mabank, Athens, Winnsboro); Norman, OK; Austin, TX
favorite things: The Office, Weeds, Good Eats, Survivorman, Frontline, Dirty Jobs Nine Inch Nails, The Beta Band, Tool, Smashing Pumpkins, Kings Of Leon, Mogwai,
last read: Currently reading "The Way of all Flesh" by Samuel Butler, which is a satire of Victorian England. Next up is "Kingdom of the Wicked" by Anthony Burgess.
my pets: One dog named Jack. He is a black lab-golden retriever mix, but he's blonde and massive.


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[Jinxu]

my job: Just took the bar exam, and now I'm looking for a job (along with everyone else). Hoping to break into the Houston, Austin, or Dallas legal markets.


Did you go to OU? How are you doing in your job search? I heard things are pretty bad out there for lawyers.

[tp6626]

I never know what to put in the 'headline' section.

I've just been going with "Hi, I'm Tom!".

But tonight I decided to think about it, and change it. I've now gone for:

"Wannabe polymath seeking strange and wonderful muse...".

Reckon that's an improvement??

[Cicero]

Did you go to OU? How are you doing in your job search? I heard things are pretty bad out there for lawyers.

Yep! Graduated with a BA in 2006. As far as how it is for lawyers, it depends on whether you're looking to join the elite firms, the medium firms, or the small firms. I know the elites are offering upwards of 60,000 to postpone employment. The medium firms are on hiring freezes, but the small firms are hiring. If you want to live in the boondocks, you can find a job fairly easily.

[Jinxu]

Yep! Graduated with a BA in 2006. As far as how it is for lawyers, it depends on whether you're looking to join the elite firms, the medium firms, or the small firms. I know the elites are offering upwards of 60,000 to postpone employment. The medium firms are on hiring freezes, but the small firms are hiring. If you want to live in the boondocks, you can find a job fairly easily.

Cool. I went to OU too and just graduated last May. 2006 would've been the year I graduated in if I didn't take a few years off after my junior year. It's good to know there's someone here from the same school. I'm a little bit in your same situation. Still searching for a real job in my field. And screw the boondocks, there's student loans that need to paid off. Good luck on your job search.

[Kris]

I never know what to put in the 'headline' section.

I've just been going with "Hi, I'm Tom!".

But tonight I decided to think about it, and change it. I've now gone for:

"Wannabe polymath seeking strange and wonderful muse...".

Reckon that's an improvement??

I don't know - it seems kind of obscure...

But I can relate to how hard it is to come up with one. One I used was 'Almost as harmless as I look...', but even then I didn't really like it.

[Mogura]

I never know what to put in the 'headline' section.

I've just been going with "Hi, I'm Tom!".

But tonight I decided to think about it, and change it. I've now gone for:

"Wannabe polymath seeking strange and wonderful muse...".

Reckon that's an improvement??

"Tomcat seeks his kitten"

[Seriously]

"Tomcat seeks his kitten"

No. Really. NO.

[Mogura]

No. Really. NO.

Hmm... "No. Really. NO." doesn't seem to work well for a headline. Too negative...

[Kris]

Mr. Always Right

;)

[countrygirl]

I'm looking for a mate.

You will be around 5'9 - 5'10, brunette, light complexion, green eyes and slim yet curvy. You will also be very intelligent, but slightly less so than myself. You will have a vulgar, morbid and sarcastic sense of humor.

You will enjoy cleaning, cooking, listening to the sound of my voice, giving massages and performing oral sex. Additionally, you will like cars, video games, cheesy action movies, UFC and metal.

You will not be nagging, needy, desperate or clingy.

If you fit these criteria, please PM me.

N.B. - Only successful applicants will be contacted.

LOL. Oh you're a keeper! Will you settle for blue eyes? :flirt:

[wittykitty]

You will be around 5'9 - 5'10, brunette, light complexion, green eyes and slim yet curvy. You will also be very intelligent, but slightly less so than myself. You will have a vulgar, morbid and sarcastic sense of humor.

Well I fit that criteria. But that's pretty much it haha.

[thoke]

So???? Would you date me?

Yes.

[AaronSheffield]

I'm looking for a mate.

You will be around 5'9 - 5'10, brunette, light complexion, green eyes and slim yet curvy. You will also be very intelligent, but slightly less so than myself. You will have a vulgar, morbid and sarcastic sense of humor.

You will enjoy cleaning, cooking, listening to the sound of my voice, giving massages and performing oral sex. Additionally, you will like cars, video games, cheesy action movies, UFC and metal.

You will not be nagging, needy, desperate or clingy.

If you fit these criteria, please PM me.

N.B. - Only successful applicants will be contacted.

You know, I can't help but think that this sort of thing could work with a few edits...

I'm looking for a mate.

You will be of normal body type, neither looking like Henry VIII or like a famine victim, I will admit to a strong preference towards redheads and brunettes, especially those with fair skin and freckles; apparently the Celt in my bloodline remains strong. Being more toward the "wiry/slender" end of the body spectrum myself, I will also admit to a preference for women who fall slightly more to the "willowy" side though that is far from a hard and fast rule. You will also be very intelligent and will challenge me (in much the same manner as Beatrice challenges Benedick in "Much Ado About Nothing"). You will have a vulgar, morbid and sarcastic sense of humor.

You will enjoy, cooking (and being cooked for), music of many genres, long, quiet afternoons spent together reading separate books, attending afternoon performances of Shakespeare plays in local parks, road trips, museums, and botanical gardens. Liking cars, video games, cheesy action movies, tolerating guns, and being willing to at least try being a passenger on my motorcycle sometime are not requirements for the position, but will weigh strongly in an applicant's favor.

You will not be nagging, needy, desperate or clingy as I tend to be an introvert and if you are any of these things I will drive you insane.

Well ladies, how off-putting is it with the changes?

[Billy Cox]

What do you guys and gals think? (Yeah, there are a lot of "I's" contained within!)

Height
6' 5"
Age
30 year old Man
Ethnicity
Caucasian with Blond hair

About Me:

I am blessed in that I gain a great deal of personal satisfaction from my job, which derived from my hobby. Everything is flexible, I am my own boss, and none of it feels like work! There's a Chinese proverb that says, "Find a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life". It is my fervent wish that everyone could experience this kind of personal satisfaction, if only for a fleeting moment.

Most of my goals have long ago been accomplished. I checked many of the "big and adventurous" things off my list rather early in life. Anymore, it seems as though I have no major goals until I experience even a small taste of something that was previously unknown (or seen from a fresh perspective through time, age or the eyes of another). Then, let the fun begin!

As to music, my tastes are fairly broad, but I prefer older, mellower, acoustic stuff where the lyrics hold relevance/personal meaning. If you can list the reasons why you love the latest Kanye album, you needn't give me a lift in the desert if my car has broken down. Nothing loud or mindless for me, thanks! I guess the same could be said of my taste in people! :-)

People often come to me for advice or my take on a situation. I try my best to listen and offer them one or more possible solutions/outcomes based on my own past experience and what I perceive would work best for their personality. On the flipside, I tend to internalize personal matters of my own. I love to talk with like-minded people (knowledgeable, kind, honest), but am somewhat reserved until I get to know a person. My friends know me as rather outspoken, with a dry sense of humour. I can make some folks laugh till they cry; others just don't get it!

I'm an old soul who is calm and enjoys one-on-one relationships. It's far better to have one true friend than a million acquaintances. Although I love passing most nights at a familiar, quiet bar, I'm not interested in clubbing, dancing or spending time with large groups of people. The most intimate and private conversations and relationships are also the most pleasant and meaningful!

[Storm]

Well ladies, how off-putting is it with the changes?

Even more off putting.

[WoodsWoman]

Well ladies, how off-putting is it with the changes?

I like the second one better.

Billy Cox - Intriguing! Keep talking...

[Phoenix rising]

My Self-Summary

I am not a genius (disappointing I know.)

However, it is fair to say that I am of above average intelligence, and for me to be truly happy in a relationship, I need someone of similar, or greater intelligence. Someone who is comfortable discussing the theoretical, someone who is able to have a debate without it turning into an argument.

To most people I'm an enigma; depending on circumstance, I can either be a super-serious perfectionist, the most laidback person you could meet, or somewhere in between. This is largely due to the way I assign value to things, if it's not important, I'm happy to coast along, but if it is, I kick into a higher gear and do what is necessary. Whilst I am working on a project, or thinking about something, my mind is subconsciously ticking over. Due to this I've had many eureka moments, often they happen whilst I'm drifting off to sleep and I have to get out of bed and write them down.
I'm mildly introverted and often I am content to sit and listen, interjecting when I feel I have something to add, whether that be knowledge to impart, humour to insert (witty remarks and pre-written jokes), or a completely off-topic, intuition inspired tangent. With the right people, or when discussing interesting topics, I'll talk until the cows come home, but I'd rather tickle my balls with a lawnmower than watch big brother- or 98% of the other reality tv shows- so if the conversation heads that way, (or somewhere equally exciting) you can expect me to be entertaining myself in my head until it's safe to come out.

I am an autodiact and my memory is at times, almost eidetic.

I can be very playful at times; I enjoy making people laugh. I've been called random on a number of occasions, although this isn't linguistically accurate as my thoughts, no matter how "out there", are generally well considered.

Here's one of the jokes I've created.
Heard about the scientists who mixed dolly the sheep’s DNA with DNA from a cheetah? There was an argument about what to call the creature. Most of them wanted to call it a sheetah, but the Welsh scientist wanted to call it a quickie.

I am a creative, outside the box thinker, so much so that I've coined the phrase "Outside the box thinking is easy, if you were never in the box to begin with".

For those familiar with Myers-Briggs, I have recently discovered I am an INTJ (aka- the mastermind personality type, hence the username)
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I think that's quite enough for this section.

What I’m doing with my life

I'm currently working for a bank whilst I evaluate the direction I wish my career to take. My current role doesn't utilise my strengths to their full potential and the credit crisis has sucked the opportunity out of banking, so it's time for a change.

In addition to my core role, I help run the banks environmental network. It provides the chance to solve problems and exercise my creativity, but I'm genuinely interested in wildlife, and the environment in general, so it's rewarding to know I'm doing something positive.

I’m really good at

Spotting B/S'ers, spotting/optimising inefficiencies, selling/negotiating/debating, creating analogies to make difficult concepts easy to understand, playing pool, DJ'ing, photography (links to a few of my favourites are below), surfing (the web), breathing.

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If I'm feeling arty I'll sometimes do abstract doodles.

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The first things people usually notice about me

Motion blur as I dart between cover, trying not to be noticed.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Band wise: Oasis, Killers, Arctics, Coldplay, MGMT, Razorlight, Radiohead, Kooks, Klaxons, Kings of Leon etc.
I like most types of dance, ranging from the funky to the thumping, I love a good melody, so trance will always have a place in my heart. I'm especially loving the twisted electro house thats out at the mo.

A few films I like: man on fire, bourne & matrix trillogies, transformers (can't wait for the 2nd one looks sick!), pirates of the carribean 1, 2, 3, layer cake, the recruit, the new batman films, knocked up, anchorman, too many to list them all really.

I'm not too fussy an eater, I love pizza, but lately I've been trying to be healthy and replace it with pasta.

The six things I could never do without

Oxygen, water, food, brain, internet, music.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Whatever I'm currently interested in. To name a few topics: science/new technology, psychology, how frightening it is to find out that around 70% of the worlds cereals are now GM, (they're mixing with natural crops, if at some point an undesirable mutation occurred it could lead to most of the world starving!) and ways to make money.

On a typical Friday night I am

Probably with friends, but if I've been working late, or just can't be jacked going out, I might stay in and play on the tinterweb, read, watch a flim/tv, (if there's actually anything decent on), or play ps3.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'm secretly Batman, but ssshhhh!

You should message me if

in addition to intelligence, you possess one or more of the following qualities:

* Well rounded sense of humour
* Open minded about new ideas and experiences
* Warm personality
* Desire to learn
* Analytical mind
* Ambition
* Creativity
* Loyalty
* Quick wit
* Love of animals
* Interest in science/technology/psychology/the environment
* Intuition (in the Myers-Briggs context, link here- To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)

[Mogura]

My Self-Summary

I am not a genius (disappointing I know.)

You've started off with a negative statement, which sets an ominous tone for the rest of your profile. Your opening line should pull the reader in; make them want to continue reading. Proverbially speaking, you want to cast your shiniest lure. Even sarcasm would be preferable to what you have here...

[Phoenix rising]

You've started off with a negative statement, which sets an ominous tone for the rest of your profile. Your opening line should pull the reader in; make them want to continue reading on. Even sarcasm would be preferable to what you have here...

It's evidently not a major negative...

[Storm]

You've started off with a negative statement, which sets an ominous tone for the rest of your profile. Your opening line should pull the reader in; make them want to continue reading. Proverbially speaking, you want to cast your shiniest lure. Even sarcasm would be preferable to what you have here...

I disagree. This is one of the better profiles I've seen posted. That first sentences sets a laid-back, I'm-not-here-to-pretend-I'm-something-I'm not tone. Also, I think it is meant as a joke. I especially liked the photographs and doodles.

[Mogura]

I disagree. This is one of the better profiles I've seen posted. That first sentences sets a laid-back, I'm-not-here-to-pretend-I'm-something-I'm not tone. Also, I think it is meant as a joke. I especially liked the photographs and doodles.

I was only referring to the introductory sentence. The rest of the profile is good.

[Storm]

I was only referring to the first part.

Yeah, I only read the rest of the profile because I liked the first sentences. Can't win'em all.

[Billy Cox]

Billy Cox - Intriguing! Keep talking...

I'd love to, but that about sums up what I'd feel comfortable with broadcasting into cyberspace! :)

[Phoenix rising]

I was only referring to the first part.

I gather from the part I've bolded she was too.

I disagree. This is one of the better profiles I've seen posted. That first sentences sets a laid-back, I'm-not-here-to-pretend-I'm-something-I'm not tone. Also, I think it is meant as a joke. I especially liked the photographs and doodles.

Thanks Storm - you hit the nail on the head.

I felt that the content due to follow necessitated a kind of disclaimer; the last thing I wanted to do was appear pretentious. Additionally, I believe it takes intelligence to be aware of what you don't know, drive to wish you were more intelligent than you are, and humility to admit your short comings. I aimed to subtly convey that I have these qualities in a humorous way.

[Vagrant]

Ok ladies, if you don't know about the MBTI, I happen to be an INTJ.

/sarcasm

(Seriously though, I put this on quite a bit of my online profiles because it's the easiest and fastest way of describing my personality.)

About Me:

I'm a 20 year old male, working as an undergraduate student of Biology at the University. I am also working on a minor in chemistry and photography, although considering dropping the photo minor because the art department has given me the runaround.

I have my own deviantart (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) which I haven't seriously updated in a long time. But it still showcases my photographic and artistic skill.

I'm certainly no genius, but I ain't no country hick now, ya hear? Suffice it to say I'm above average in the intelligence department.

Physical Characteristics:

Height: 5'10
Weight: Approximately 175 lbs. It varies by how active my metabolism is, but the standard deviation is 10 lbs from 175.
Hair: Brown, and curly when long.
Eyes: Brown
Skin Color: Farmer's tan -- I brown well where the sun is exposed thanks to my Jewish ancestry.
Heritage: Jewish/English/Russian

Photo is in the avatar. If you want more, you'll have to message me.

/creepyinnuendo

What I'm doing currently:

Working in a lab on campus that deals with carpenter ants. It's mostly tedium, but it'll be good for references in the future, as well as leapfrogging into other biology areas I'm interested in.

I'm working on my B.S. of Biology, and am looking to go into science teaching, but prospects are still open.

Favorites:

Humor: Nonsensical/Loony
Movie: V for Vendetta (go figure, INTJ's)
Genre of Music: Industrial/Synth Rock
Book: Jennifer Government
Band: Not sure which is my absolute, but the most reliable is Tool.
Sport: Longboarding/Skateboarding

Dislikes:

- Too many loud noises
- Small chat
- Clothes (just kidding. Somewhat.)
- Sheeple
- Stressing out

Contact me if:

- You happen to be a fan of Fallout 3.

OR

- You happen to be interested in talking.

OR

- An attractive lady who would not mind an "alien" UFO coming over your house and snatching you away.

OR

- You happen to be in possession of a naked molerat. I will kill it for you. Thank you.

OR

- You actually read through all my ORs and still want to talk. :)

[Kris]

LOL. Oh you're a keeper! Will you settle for blue eyes? :flirt:

Maybe we could work out some kind of probationary period. ;)

Well I fit that criteria. But that's pretty much it haha.

Oh that's a real shame! :disappointed:





Kris added to this post, 6 minutes and 56 seconds later...

Shortly after I posted my 'real' profile on here, I made a few minor but important (I think) changes to it. Since then I have received quite a few 'winks', but been too lazy to respond...why don't women ever write messages?! :furious:

[Fanowene]

Shortly after I posted my 'real' profile on here, I made a few minor but important (I think) changes to it. Since then I have received quite a few 'winks', but been too lazy to respond...why don't women ever write messages?! :furious:
Wow... Are you ever content? You get attention, and then you complain about it? I don't know what you mean by "wink" (just a smiley or a couple words?). Or maybe you're just posting this "angry" message to weed out the women who aren't that serious...

[Kris]

Wow... Are you ever content?
Nope :cheesy:

You get attention, and then you complain about it? I don't know what you mean by "wink" (just a smiley or a couple words?). Or maybe you're just posting this "angry" message to weed out the women who aren't that serious...

Wink is a way of telling someone you're interested in some form without even writing anything. Most sites have something like this, but they all have their own particular name for them. So its then on that other person to come up with the first email if they are interested. Anyway, its not a big deal I guess but since a lot of the communications dissipate or go nowhere it gets a bit tiresome writing a new first email every day or so.

[Fanowene]

Wink is a way of telling someone you're interested in some form without even writing anything. Most sites have something like this, but they all have their own particular name for them. So its then on that other person to come up with the first email if they are interested. Anyway, its not a big deal I guess but since a lot of the communications dissipate or go nowhere it gets a bit tiresome writing a new first email every day or so.
Ah... For some reason I was thinking that women on the INTJf were sending you "winks" = comments, but not writing PMs. I just now went back to your post with the long description and saw that you never edited that one... Thanks for the explanation.

[countrygirl]

Wink is a way of telling someone you're interested in some form without even writing anything. Most sites have something like this, but they all have their own particular name for them. So its then on that other person to come up with the first email if they are interested. Anyway, its not a big deal I guess but since a lot of the communications dissipate or go nowhere it gets a bit tiresome writing a new first email every day or so.

Perhaps you can write a standard reply and save it? Then give it to those who leave wink?

[JimTaylor]

Alright here we go, here is mine.
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Headline: Discover what's possible
Info
Location:Salt Lake City, Utah Sign:Taurus Height: 6'6" (198cm)
Weight: 203 Ethinicity: Caucasian with Brown hair Smoker: No
Religion Non-Religious Drink: No

Interests
Sports, Camping, music, movies, reading, writing, Theme Parks, ATV's(off roading), Car's, boating, cooking, swimming, art, river rafting

About Me
Hi, my name is Cameron and I am a 19 year old college student who is looking for new friendships as well some not-too serious relationships. I am a quiet, independent, laid-back type of guy, but I can become very outgoing around the right people. I am a pre-business major at the University of Utah and looking to get into Information Systems (AKA Information Technology). My dream career though would be to become a writer and at this point I am working on my first novel.

I have a wide range of things I like to do and am always open to new ideas and activities.I enjoy watching and playing football, basketball, soccer, golf, paint-balling and many other sports. I love going to theme parks and someday I would like to try skydiving or hang gliding. I enjoy working out and I play basketball or football with friends every now and again so I like to stay active.

I enjoy all types of music and just really listen to what I feel like during the day.:rockstar: I love rock, pop, rap, country, techno, etc... Really there is not one music selection that defines me. I don't follow the whole scene behind certain music, so I just like whatever beat or lyrics catch my interest. My favorite bands/artists though, ones I can listen too no matter what, are Pink Floyd, Bob Marley, Blue Man Group, Linkin Park, U2, Prince, Queen, and Moby.

Some of my favorite movies of all time are: Funny People, The Proposal, The Ugly Truth(All three are new but are also classics that had me laughing:laugh:), The Pursuit of Happiness, Raiders of the Lost Ark(Indiana Jones), The Breakfast Club, Golden Eye(James Bond), Terminator, What Happens in Vegas, The Dark Night, and Shrek (Just love this movie).

:book:I enjoying reading, and sometimes there is nothing better then finding a good story to read. My favorite authors are: Terry Goodkind, JRR Tolkien, Christopher Paolini, J.K Rowling, John Marco, and Garth Nix. I typically read science fiction but I also enjoy a good mystery or survival story. Autobiographies aren't bad either and I have read a bunch of interesting ones for differen't classes.

Despite being a computer guy, and going to school for that reason I am really creative. I love to write science fiction for this reason because you can just create whatever you want and sometimes it is just like being a little kid again playing with your favorite toys. I also like to do art that requires a bit of physical exertion. I can't draw or paint, but pottery, embossing and woodworking are things I am both good at and enjoy doing. I love the precision and time it requires to do work with metal, wood, or clay. It's just fun being surprised by what comes from your work.

In short I am a guy of many hobbies and ideas looking for someone who has some of the same interests I do plus their own. I am looking for someone who is intelligent and can hold a conversation about the important things in life, and not "he said, she said" type of stuff. I enjoy being around people who aren’t afraid of stepping out of the box and being their own person, and people who when they see something they want, they don’t sit around waiting for it to come to them, they go get it.:cool:

First Date
I don't know, I would love to do something origonal but at the same time classics are always nice. Skydiving, or something to get your blood pumping would be awesome but that doesn't give much time to get to know someone. So I guess maybe just a dinner and a walk in the park or something along those lines is what I would do. You never know though, I can be very creative.

[laserdanger]

I have noticed that the profiles i liked least do a lot of telling and don't show the reader much. Why just tell someone you're adventurous when you can list of reasons that make you adventurous. This would appear to be obvious but many people fall into this trap. I love it when people put that they like to make people laugh yet their profile is flat and boring. I think another trap is labeling oneself as laid back. Almost every other profile lists themselves as such.

lets see how mine fares?

My Self-Summary
My biggest hobby is playing the guitar. I jam with friends here and there, improvisational stuff mostly. I plan on doing the open mic night thing soon. Just for fun. I also like to ride my bike a lot. I have some nagging injuries from cross country so I don't run anymore.

I have jumped around with majors. First I wanted to be a recording engineer. Jumped off that boat early on and now i am pursuing an english major. I am entertaining the idea of teaching. Maybe I should just write the next Twilight series, horde the cash and live the rest of my days basking on a private beach.

I am a firm believer that just about anything can be made into a joke. I also believe that anything can be discussed. Including the existence of God, politics, the power of choice, etc. An intelligent conversation would hopefully leave everyone a bit wiser. Going for blood never accomplishes anything.

I like to speak precisely. If I say tomorrow, I mean tomorrow.

I am a man of subtleties. (this may seem to contradict the above statement.)

I’m really good at
staring at the sun. Laughing at bad commercials. being appropriately inappropriate. flip cup, sarcasm.

spending far too much time researching random stuff on the internet. for example how to make ribbon speakers out of aluminum foil. yeah i know, I'm a major dork for this stuff.

The first things people usually notice about me
I am smarter than the average bear. On occasion I am found stealing picnic baskets.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
I would not want to live in a world void of art. I can imagine it but it isn't pretty. Or can I?

books: I really dig short stories. Yellow wallpaper, Harrison Bergeron, Martian Chronicles, jesus' son

Longer stuff includes Catch 22, Clockwork Orange, White Noise, Hocus Pocus, the Hitchhiker's guide to the Galaxy

movies: Braveheart, Into the Wild, The birdcage, American Pie, The doors, singin' in the rain, American beauty, Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, Dan in real life, Amelie, thx 1138, the green mile

music: Radiohead, yeah yeah yeahs, sondre Lerche, beatles, Black Keys, She & Him, Ramones, Bob Dylan, Pixies, Stooges, Lou Reed, Violent Femmes, Black Flag, Ratatat, Feist, Andrew Bird, ELO, Bon Iver, Cat Power, Hives, Metric, Weezer,

heres the link to my last.fm
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last shows i've been to have been to see the NY Dolls, Radiohead, X, The Hives. YYYs, Rancid

On a typical Friday night I am
Looking for a party, catching up on movies, just hanging out. if I'm feeling feisty, probably out in an alley stabbing drug dealers.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I am afraid of becoming a fat old republican. Nothing seems more horrifying. Truth be told i am a lot more conservative than I would like to think.

You should message me if
If you love art, music, pop-up books, singing in the shower, walks in the park, long talks under the stars, playing the piano or cello, candlelit dinners, bike-rides that lead nowhere.

(fill in the blank).

[escapist11]

I'm looking for a mate.

You will be around 5'9 - 5'10, brunette, light complexion, green eyes and slim yet curvy. You will also be very intelligent, but slightly less so than myself. You will have a vulgar, morbid and sarcastic sense of humor.

You will enjoy cleaning, cooking, listening to the sound of my voice, giving massages and performing oral sex. Additionally, you will like cars, video games, cheesy action movies, UFC and metal.

You will not be nagging, needy, desperate or clingy.

If you fit these criteria, please PM me.

N.B. - Only successful applicants will be contacted.

Definitely made me laugh. But if I had fit the description, I might have even contacted you... Sadly enough, I don't fit your description

Agreed.


I have noticed that the profiles i liked least do a lot of telling and don't show the reader much. Why just tell someone you're adventurous when you can list of reasons that make you adventurous. This would appear to be obvious but many people fall into this trap. I love it when people put that they like to make people laugh yet their profile is flat and boring. I think another trap is labeling oneself as laid back. Almost every other profile lists themselves as such.

Agreed.



escapist11 added to this post, 44 minutes and 10 seconds later...

Here goes.



Smoker: No
Drink: No

My Self-Summary
I'm just a soon-to-be 21 year old college student who doesn't really get out much. I think I might have some kind of social anxiety disorder because I don't like to be around large groups of people that I don't know. (aka. parties and gatherings). For my first year and a half of college, I was an electrical engineering major. Then they told me that I wasn't really smart enough and that I needed to change my major. I changed it to media arts (radio/tv/film) and was planning on going into audio production. This past summer I had to make some difficult changes and decisions. My dad never wanted me going to the university I was at because it was too expensive and too far away. He said he wasn't going to help me out if I continued to go there. I'm only 20, but I had somewhat of a life at that school. My friends are there, I grew to love the campus, I had a wonderful paying job on campus at a GREAT facility, and I had gone through radio DJ training at the student radio station and was working a 2am-6am Monday mornings shift. It wasn't much, but it was something that was mine.

Now I'm at another university closer to home (and cheaper because it's in-state tuition now) and my major is general studies. We have to choose three subjects to concentrate on and I have decided on physics, math, and history because most of my credits fit into these areas. If it were ultimately up to me, I never would have transfered. The people here aren't as friendly and there's no sense of community. The food sucks ass.

I’m really good at
I used to think I was pretty good at playing music, but after 2 rejections from two different schools' marching band auditions within the past 2 months, I'm starting to think that the one thing I love and was good at is something I'm turning to be a has-been at.

I taught myself how to play piano in 1st grade. I taught myself how to play flute in 6th grade. I got bored with flute and joined band to learn percussion in 7th grade. My senior year of high school, I taught myself to play cello and got to play with the JV orchestra. I also joined the mariachi group and played harp for the varsity group and guitarron for the JV group. Once I made it to college, all of that playing suddenly came to a halt until last October when I randomly bought a bass off of eBay. It's something I've been wanting to learn for a long time, and now I have a bass. However, it's at home and I am not. I also bought a clarinet off of a friend this past spring for $30 and can play a few things on it as well.

The first things people usually notice about me
- how short I am (I don't think I'm that short...I'm 5'2")
- that I'm a Mexican who doesn't know or speak Spanish

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books:
The Dark is Rising, A Thousand Splendid Suns, Freakonomics, Naked Economics, The Undercover Economist, The Economic Naturalist (ok, so I enjoy reading non-boring economics books. Weird quirk, but I think it's an interesting subject when presented the right way)

Movies: this list and my interests are not limited to what I have listed here.
October Sky, V for Vendetta, Les Miserables, The Science of Sleep, The Motorcycle Diaries, Wicker Park, Gattaca

Music: Again, this list and my interests are not limited to what I have listed here.
Adam Monroe, Akron/Family, Anberlin, Apollo Sunshine, Bat for Lashes, Black Jack Persia, Blink-182, Blue October, Boston, Brandtson, Bullet for my Valentine, Bush, Chevelle, Coldplay, Days of the New, Def Leppard, Deftones, Disturbed, Does It Offend You Yeah?, Death Cab for Cutie, Emery, Eminem, Eric Whitacre, Fear Factory, Foals, Godsmack, Greeley Estates, Guns 'N Roses, Hatebreed, Homemade Knives, Incubus, Intention, Jimmy Eat World, The Juliana Theory, Keiko Abe, Kings of Leon, Korn, Lacuna Coil, Led Zeppelin, Limp Bizkit, Linkin Park, Mana, Marc Anthony, Mark Ford, Metallica, Oasis, The Offspring, A Perfect Circle, Pink Floyd, Radiohead, Rage Against The Machine, School of Language, Slipknot, The Smashing Pumpkins, Smile Empty Soul, Sneaky Thieves, Snow Patrol, Static-X, System of a Down, Thrice, Tool

On a typical Friday night I am
usually doing nothing. Since moving into my new dorm, it's pretty clear that I have less of a life than my roommate. She leaves quite often to go see her boyfriend or she brings him over here. I started this school year thinking that maybe I would make some guy friends and possibly find someone, but that plan has already gone to the crapper. There's too many of the pretty (yet dumb and skanky) girls around here and that's what the guys go for.

Other thoughts
I don't have a fancy camera or anything, but I really enjoy taking pictures. I think even without 'formal' training in photography, I feel like I'm not too bad. People tell me that my pictures are good, but they could be even better if I just used photoshop. I believe that you shouldn't have to 'enhance' or 'tweak' a photo if it really is any good. The point of taking a photo is to capture a moment in time as it is. There's no point in the beauty of the moment if all we do is take it to photoshop. Maybe it does look better, but there's something that is lost in the altering of that photo.

Here's some of my favorites I took while in Nicaragua during Spring Break 2008.

A tree. Sorry, the picture is sideways.

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A boat in the sunrise

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As soon as we got to this beach, someone found a nest of baby turtles hatching. They were coming up from the sand and running towards the sea. Here are some pictures of that happening.

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This little guy was the last one to come out. He looks tired.

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The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

Really?

ARE YOU SURE?!

Ok. I give up.

1. I'm afraid of never finding someone. My outwardly attitude towards relationships is just a front. I tend to tell people that I'm happy being single and that a relationship isn't on my priority list...but the truth is, I really would like to find someone. I just don't want to have to go through any more mistakes and guys who don't respect me to get there.
2. Because I don't have anyone and I spend a lot of time by myself, music has become the one thing I can depend on. Despite the fact that I judge and know what types of music I don't like, it doesn't judge me. It doesn't fight with me. If I'm sad, it doesn't tell me not to be sad. It's always there for me, no matter my mood. It's very important to me to find someone who feels mostly the same, which is why I think #1 above hasn't been fulfilled yet.







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[Ham]

Not bad at all; I reckon it'll tweak certain guys protective instincts which is good, but I would I would leave out the social anxiety bit because it'll scare a lot of people off. Especially those who've had dates with shy girls before and really had to work at making conversation. If you must include it, try and fit it in somewhere in the middle where people will forget about it. You want to make a good impression with the introduction and conclusion because that's what will stick in people's minds.

[escapist11]

Not bad at all; I reckon it'll tweak certain guys protective instincts which is good, but I would I would leave out the social anxiety bit because it'll scare a lot of people off. Especially those who've had dates with shy girls before and really had to work at making conversation. If you must include it, try and fit it in somewhere in the middle where people will forget about it. You want to make a good impression with the introduction and conclusion because that's what will stick in people's minds.

Yea probably...but I'll probably never post this stuff up on an actual profile. It was more for the people of this forum to get to know me a little bit.
:)

[tp6626]

Here we go, any pointers / comments / criticisms appreciated:

My Self-Summary

I have just moved to Sheffield city centre from Chesterfield after changing jobs, and although I'm a Yorkshire lad (originally from near Doncaster), I don't actually know this area that well at all(!). I'm looking for someone who will come out exploring with me!

I'm pretty perceptive & intuitive, usually noticing things that most people don't. My mates think I'm incredibly lucky, but I just hide the hard work I put into things very well. I'm extremely open-minded and accepting of people, and always go out of my way to be encouraging and help others achieve their potential.

I'd like to find someone interesting, encouraging and supportive, to share my life with. Someone quirky, or a self-confessed nerd would be good (or someone who actively avoids the anaesthetic of familiarity)!

Anyway, I've put up a bit of a mixture of pictures; a couple of old snaps from uni / hols, and then some very recent (5th August) snaps taken in my new flat, which I was reluctantly persuaded to post. I'm not really a photo's person... :(

What I’m doing with my life

Well at the moment I'm settling into a new job. But generally, I'm still trying to work out just what I'm 'here' for...

I'm generally aiming to get to the point where I can choose whether to work or not.

I’m really good at

being modest.

The first things people usually notice about me

Hmm... I don't really get noticed that much to be honest. It used to be good for twagging off from school on occasion!

My mates told me this week that I really shouldn't cut my own hair; the first thing they'd noticed on seeing me this week, was that I'd not made the best job of the back of my head with the clippers!

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

BOOKS: Non-fiction (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) is what I like generally covering covering business, creativity (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), current affairs, design, economics, engineering, philosophy (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), psychology (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), science (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) and technology (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.). Some titles I really enjoyed reading Unweaving the Rainbow (R. Dawkins), Black Swan (N. Taleb), Origin of Species (Darwin), The Element (K. Robinson), Letter to a Christian Nation (S. Harris), Brief History of Time (S.Hawking), Emotional Intelligence (D.Goleman), Blink (M.Gladwell).

MOVIES: World cinema (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) and 'odd' films really interest me (e.g. Science of Sleep (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Amelie (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), City of God (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)). I really like Mafia type films / TV (e.g. Godfather (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Scarface (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Tarantino / Pacino / De Niro's stuff, The Sopranos (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)). Comedies like (Austin Powers (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Waynes World (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Borat (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Hot Shots (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Naked Gun (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)). Fantasy (Star Wars (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Lord of the Rings (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Blade Runner (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) etc...). Cult / off-centre films (e.g. Donnie Darko (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), American Beauty (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Vanilla Sky (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Groundhog Day (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Prozac Nation (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)).

MUSIC: I grew up in my teens listening to classic rock, so am very fond of Led Zeppelin (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Jimi Hendrix (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Neil Young (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Eric Clapton (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), David Bowie (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) etc. I love Radiohead (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) (prob my favourite band of all time!), and a lot of alternative bands nowadays. I'm also fond of French type artists like Nouvelle Vague (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Charlotte Gainsbourg (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Lounge type music like Zero 7 (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Bossa Nova (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Jazz (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), some Electronica (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.).

FOOD: I love to cook (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) and experiment with my food. I prefer to buy fresh ingredients most days and cook things like stir fries, soups & stews, roast dinners, pizzas, steaks etc. And I will generally use any excuse I can to eat out. In order of preference, I like: Japanese (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Indian (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), English (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), French (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Chinese (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Italian (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), American (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.).

TV: I don't watch a lot of tv, but I like programs like QI (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Have I got News for You (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Celebrity Juice (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Peep Show (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), The Office (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Mitchell and Webb (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Mock the Week (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), C4 News, Question Time (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Culture Show (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), Horizon (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.). Generally BBC2,4, C4, Dave, & Film4.

The six things I could never do without

My Wallet
My Mobile phone
My Contact Lenses and their accoutrements
My Acoustic Guitar
My Netbook
My Music

I spend a lot of time thinking about

the universe and everything in it.

On a typical Friday night I am

not generally aware of what night it is, or why any particular night should be any different from the others.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'll side step this one. My friends tell me that I always put my foot in it by being too honest and inappropriate when I'm asked something like this!

Oh actually, I don't have a foreskin; I traded it (in a round about way) for a Sega Master System and Sonic the Hedgehog when I was about 5!! :)

Hmm...

You should message me if

you are extremely interesting and like to laugh. And can type... obviously.

It's from okcupid, and there I'm tp6626 too. :)

[thoke]

Here goes.



Smoker: No
Drink: No

My Self-Summary
I'm just a soon-to-be 21 year old college student who doesn't really get out much. I think I might have some kind of social anxiety disorder because I don't like to be around large groups of people that I don't know. (aka. parties and gatherings). For my first year and a half of college, I was an electrical engineering major. Then they told me that I wasn't really smart enough and that I needed to change my major. I changed it to media arts (radio/tv/film) and was planning on going into audio production. This past summer I had to make some difficult changes and decisions. My dad never wanted me going to the university I was at because it was too expensive and too far away. He said he wasn't going to help me out if I continued to go there. I'm only 20, but I had somewhat of a life at that school. My friends are there, I grew to love the campus, I had a wonderful paying job on campus at a GREAT facility, and I had gone through radio DJ training at the student radio station and was working a 2am-6am Monday mornings shift. It wasn't much, but it was something that was mine.

Now I'm at another university closer to home (and cheaper because it's in-state tuition now) and my major is general studies. We have to choose three subjects to concentrate on and I have decided on physics, math, and history because most of my credits fit into these areas. If it were ultimately up to me, I never would have transfered. The people here aren't as friendly and there's no sense of community. The food sucks ass.

I’m really good at
I used to think I was pretty good at playing music, but after 2 rejections from two different schools' marching band auditions within the past 2 months, I'm starting to think that the one thing I love and was good at is something I'm turning to be a has-been at.

I taught myself how to play piano in 1st grade. I taught myself how to play flute in 6th grade. I got bored with flute and joined band to learn percussion in 7th grade. My senior year of high school, I taught myself to play cello and got to play with the JV orchestra. I also joined the mariachi group and played harp for the varsity group and guitarron for the JV group. Once I made it to college, all of that playing suddenly came to a halt until last October when I randomly bought a bass off of eBay. It's something I've been wanting to learn for a long time, and now I have a bass. However, it's at home and I am not. I also bought a clarinet off of a friend this past spring for $30 and can play a few things on it as well.

The first things people usually notice about me
- how short I am (I don't think I'm that short...I'm 5'2")
- that I'm a Mexican who doesn't know or speak Spanish

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books:
The Dark is Rising, A Thousand Splendid Suns, Freakonomics, Naked Economics, The Undercover Economist, The Economic Naturalist (ok, so I enjoy reading non-boring economics books. Weird quirk, but I think it's an interesting subject when presented the right way)

Movies: this list and my interests are not limited to what I have listed here.
October Sky, V for Vendetta, Les Miserables, The Science of Sleep, The Motorcycle Diaries, Wicker Park, Gattaca

Music: Again, this list and my interests are not limited to what I have listed here.
Adam Monroe, Akron/Family, Anberlin, Apollo Sunshine, Bat for Lashes, Black Jack Persia, Blink-182, Blue October, Boston, Brandtson, Bullet for my Valentine, Bush, Chevelle, Coldplay, Days of the New, Def Leppard, Deftones, Disturbed, Does It Offend You Yeah?, Death Cab for Cutie, Emery, Eminem, Eric Whitacre, Fear Factory, Foals, Godsmack, Greeley Estates, Guns 'N Roses, Hatebreed, Homemade Knives, Incubus, Intention, Jimmy Eat World, The Juliana Theory, Keiko Abe, Kings of Leon, Korn, Lacuna Coil, Led Zeppelin, Limp Bizkit, Linkin Park, Mana, Marc Anthony, Mark Ford, Metallica, Oasis, The Offspring, A Perfect Circle, Pink Floyd, Radiohead, Rage Against The Machine, School of Language, Slipknot, The Smashing Pumpkins, Smile Empty Soul, Sneaky Thieves, Snow Patrol, Static-X, System of a Down, Thrice, Tool

On a typical Friday night I am
usually doing nothing. Since moving into my new dorm, it's pretty clear that I have less of a life than my roommate. She leaves quite often to go see her boyfriend or she brings him over here. I started this school year thinking that maybe I would make some guy friends and possibly find someone, but that plan has already gone to the crapper. There's too many of the pretty (yet dumb and skanky) girls around here and that's what the guys go for.

Other thoughts
I don't have a fancy camera or anything, but I really enjoy taking pictures. I think even without 'formal' training in photography, I feel like I'm not too bad. People tell me that my pictures are good, but they could be even better if I just used photoshop. I believe that you shouldn't have to 'enhance' or 'tweak' a photo if it really is any good. The point of taking a photo is to capture a moment in time as it is. There's no point in the beauty of the moment if all we do is take it to photoshop. Maybe it does look better, but there's something that is lost in the altering of that photo.

Here's some of my favorites I took while in Nicaragua during Spring Break 2008.

A tree. Sorry, the picture is sideways.

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A boat in the sunrise

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As soon as we got to this beach, someone found a nest of baby turtles hatching. They were coming up from the sand and running towards the sea. Here are some pictures of that happening.

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This little guy was the last one to come out. He looks tired.

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The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

Really?

ARE YOU SURE?!

Ok. I give up.

1. I'm afraid of never finding someone. My outwardly attitude towards relationships is just a front. I tend to tell people that I'm happy being single and that a relationship isn't on my priority list...but the truth is, I really would like to find someone. I just don't want to have to go through any more mistakes and guys who don't respect me to get there.
2. Because I don't have anyone and I spend a lot of time by myself, music has become the one thing I can depend on. Despite the fact that I judge and know what types of music I don't like, it doesn't judge me. It doesn't fight with me. If I'm sad, it doesn't tell me not to be sad. It's always there for me, no matter my mood. It's very important to me to find someone who feels mostly the same, which is why I think #1 above hasn't been fulfilled yet.






I'd date you. I think we're pretty similar. You're also gorgeous! I don't suppose you live in the UK though, do you?

[JohnDoe]

Here we go, any pointers / comments / criticisms appreciated:



It's from okcupid, and there I'm tp6626 too. :)

Your really good section is completely uninteresting.
The friday night section is general code for tell me what you do with your free time, not on friday night specifically. Rewrite that.
What I'm doing with my life section is boring. Elaborate! Action words.
Your what I spend time thinking about: for an INTJ your really boring man. I know you are more interesting then that.
Rewrite the private section. Mentioning anything vaguely related to sex in a guys profile can be a major kiss of death with many women.

Agreed.




Agreed.



escapist11 added to this post, 44 minutes and 10 seconds later...

Here goes.



Smoker: No
Drink: No

My Self-Summary
I'm just a soon-to-be 21 year old college student who doesn't really get out much. I think I might have some kind of social anxiety disorder because I don't like to be around large groups of people that I don't know. (aka. parties and gatherings). For my first year and a half of college, I was an electrical engineering major. Then they told me that I wasn't really smart enough and that I needed to change my major. I changed it to media arts (radio/tv/film) and was planning on going into audio production. This past summer I had to make some difficult changes and decisions. My dad never wanted me going to the university I was at because it was too expensive and too far away. He said he wasn't going to help me out if I continued to go there. I'm only 20, but I had somewhat of a life at that school. My friends are there, I grew to love the campus, I had a wonderful paying job on campus at a GREAT facility, and I had gone through radio DJ training at the student radio station and was working a 2am-6am Monday mornings shift. It wasn't much, but it was something that was mine.

Now I'm at another university closer to home (and cheaper because it's in-state tuition now) and my major is general studies. We have to choose three subjects to concentrate on and I have decided on physics, math, and history because most of my credits fit into these areas. If it were ultimately up to me, I never would have transfered. The people here aren't as friendly and there's no sense of community. The food sucks ass.

I’m really good at
I used to think I was pretty good at playing music, but after 2 rejections from two different schools' marching band auditions within the past 2 months, I'm starting to think that the one thing I love and was good at is something I'm turning to be a has-been at.

I taught myself how to play piano in 1st grade. I taught myself how to play flute in 6th grade. I got bored with flute and joined band to learn percussion in 7th grade. My senior year of high school, I taught myself to play cello and got to play with the JV orchestra. I also joined the mariachi group and played harp for the varsity group and guitarron for the JV group. Once I made it to college, all of that playing suddenly came to a halt until last October when I randomly bought a bass off of eBay. It's something I've been wanting to learn for a long time, and now I have a bass. However, it's at home and I am not. I also bought a clarinet off of a friend this past spring for $30 and can play a few things on it as well.

The first things people usually notice about me
- how short I am (I don't think I'm that short...I'm 5'2")
- that I'm a Mexican who doesn't know or speak Spanish

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books:
The Dark is Rising, A Thousand Splendid Suns, Freakonomics, Naked Economics, The Undercover Economist, The Economic Naturalist (ok, so I enjoy reading non-boring economics books. Weird quirk, but I think it's an interesting subject when presented the right way)

Movies: this list and my interests are not limited to what I have listed here.
October Sky, V for Vendetta, Les Miserables, The Science of Sleep, The Motorcycle Diaries, Wicker Park, Gattaca

Music: Again, this list and my interests are not limited to what I have listed here.
Adam Monroe, Akron/Family, Anberlin, Apollo Sunshine, Bat for Lashes, Black Jack Persia, Blink-182, Blue October, Boston, Brandtson, Bullet for my Valentine, Bush, Chevelle, Coldplay, Days of the New, Def Leppard, Deftones, Disturbed, Does It Offend You Yeah?, Death Cab for Cutie, Emery, Eminem, Eric Whitacre, Fear Factory, Foals, Godsmack, Greeley Estates, Guns 'N Roses, Hatebreed, Homemade Knives, Incubus, Intention, Jimmy Eat World, The Juliana Theory, Keiko Abe, Kings of Leon, Korn, Lacuna Coil, Led Zeppelin, Limp Bizkit, Linkin Park, Mana, Marc Anthony, Mark Ford, Metallica, Oasis, The Offspring, A Perfect Circle, Pink Floyd, Radiohead, Rage Against The Machine, School of Language, Slipknot, The Smashing Pumpkins, Smile Empty Soul, Sneaky Thieves, Snow Patrol, Static-X, System of a Down, Thrice, Tool

On a typical Friday night I am
usually doing nothing. Since moving into my new dorm, it's pretty clear that I have less of a life than my roommate. She leaves quite often to go see her boyfriend or she brings him over here. I started this school year thinking that maybe I would make some guy friends and possibly find someone, but that plan has already gone to the crapper. There's too many of the pretty (yet dumb and skanky) girls around here and that's what the guys go for.

Other thoughts
I don't have a fancy camera or anything, but I really enjoy taking pictures. I think even without 'formal' training in photography, I feel like I'm not too bad. People tell me that my pictures are good, but they could be even better if I just used photoshop. I believe that you shouldn't have to 'enhance' or 'tweak' a photo if it really is any good. The point of taking a photo is to capture a moment in time as it is. There's no point in the beauty of the moment if all we do is take it to photoshop. Maybe it does look better, but there's something that is lost in the altering of that photo.

Here's some of my favorites I took while in Nicaragua during Spring Break 2008.

A tree. Sorry, the picture is sideways.

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A boat in the sunrise

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As soon as we got to this beach, someone found a nest of baby turtles hatching. They were coming up from the sand and running towards the sea. Here are some pictures of that happening.

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This little guy was the last one to come out. He looks tired.

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The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

Really?

ARE YOU SURE?!

Ok. I give up.

1. I'm afraid of never finding someone. My outwardly attitude towards relationships is just a front. I tend to tell people that I'm happy being single and that a relationship isn't on my priority list...but the truth is, I really would like to find someone. I just don't want to have to go through any more mistakes and guys who don't respect me to get there.
2. Because I don't have anyone and I spend a lot of time by myself, music has become the one thing I can depend on. Despite the fact that I judge and know what types of music I don't like, it doesn't judge me. It doesn't fight with me. If I'm sad, it doesn't tell me not to be sad. It's always there for me, no matter my mood. It's very important to me to find someone who feels mostly the same, which is why I think #1 above hasn't been fulfilled yet.







And to finish up all of this crap, here's my mood for the day (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)

Honestly I don't know what to say about this profile. Your photographs alone have me hooked, so I may be being overly generous. Even as an INFJ, I don't like to see lots of emotional talk on profiles. It makes people look desperate for anyone. However, somehow your profile manages to talk about emotions without looking desperate, which is really intriguing. I don't know what to say to this because it violates about every rule I would otherwise yell at people for breaking and yet it manages to be interesting. It manages to violate the rules that normally get profiles thrown on my personal run away from list, and yet still has me intrigued. Maybe its because your honest, maybe its because you sell yourself by telling stories (Which I love to see on profiles), but there is just something about the way this profile is written that makes it really really interesting to me. But it will scare away almost everyone in the world. Except maybe if your lucky the people your looking for. And the people who message every girl on okcupid.

Edit: I thought about this more, and I'm still not sure what to think of this profile. Did you ever post your MBTI test results anywhere on INTJf? There is one in the test section that breaks down into individual scores for various functions... have you ever taken that one?

[Kris]

Haha that damn profile will haunt me forever!

Seriously though, the only real criteria I have for a partner is that we 'connect' and that she finds at least a little amusement in my constant joking, sarcasm and general silliness.

Its a little crappy though that having spoken to quite a few women from other sites and going out I have to say that the vast majority are hardly as interesting as some on here... :disappointed:

[Samueza]

Yea probably...but I'll probably never post this stuff up on an actual profile. It was more for the people of this forum to get to know me a little bit.
:)

Not bad at all; I reckon it'll tweak certain guys protective instincts which is good, but I would I would leave out the social anxiety bit because it'll scare a lot of people off. Especially those who've had dates with shy girls before and really had to work at making conversation. If you must include it, try and fit it in somewhere in the middle where people will forget about it. You want to make a good impression with the introduction and conclusion because that's what will stick in people's minds.

You shouldn't put anything about social anxiety on an actual profile if you want to date successfully. I fully agree about that, and yet I liked your profile better because you mentioned it. It makes you look honest. Writing a dating profile often is about using good tricks to attract as much interest as possible and for me one of the biggest turn-offs is seeing through a trick that is being used to get my attention, so for me looking honest in your profile is a big plus. The other things you said seem interesting, so I would definitely date you.

On a general note: an INTJ-forum may actually be a great place for personal profiles. It may provide a sense of comfort and understanding that can not be found on a general dating site. I can easily imagine me saying more about myself here than I would elsewhere... and I will later on, but I don't have the time to do so right now.

[escapist11]

But it will scare away almost everyone in the world. Except maybe if your lucky the people your looking for.

That's what I'm going for.




Edit: I thought about this more, and I'm still not sure what to think of this profile. Did you ever post your MBTI test results anywhere on INTJf? There is one in the test section that breaks down into individual scores for various functions... have you ever taken that one?

I haven't posted the results, but I have taken the test numerous times. Trust me, I'm INTJ. The various and vast amount of pages on the web that describe INTJs are exactly what I'm like. I just feel more open on this site for some reason...

[Seriously]

Haha that damn profile will haunt me forever!

Seriously though, the only real criteria I have for a partner is that we 'connect' and that she finds at least a little amusement in my constant joking, sarcasm and general silliness.

Its a little crappy though that having spoken to quite a few women from other sites and going out I have to say that the vast majority are hardly as interesting as some on here... :disappointed:

INTJ women ruin you for other women. ;) :p

[Valiyn]

Short and to the point:
My Self-Summary
Hi, I'm Valiyn. I'm currently a student at the Savannah College of Art and Design that is focusing on doing Conceptual Art for the film and game industries.

I'm one of the most creative (especially visually) people you will ever meet.

Super Villains > Super heroes. I know the power of the Dark Side.

My childhood heroes growing up was Emperor Palpatine, Thrawn, and Hannibal Lector.

What I’m doing with my life
Conceptual Art for Video Games and Film.
Comics

I’m really good at
Art, Military Theory, Archery, Sword fighting, and creating Role-Playing Games


The first things people usually notice about me
My almost supernatural intelligence.
Followed by my confidence, which strangely enough, is seen as arrogance instead....

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

BOOKS: Strategy by B.H. Liddell Hart

MOVIES: Kingdom of Heaven

MUSIC: Soundtracks and classical music

FOOD: Chicken fried rice.

TV: Stargate

The six things I could never do without
Quiet/Alone time,
Drawing tools,
Computer,
Concealed weapon for self-defense,
Something to work on.


I spend a lot of time thinking about
Game design


On a typical Friday night I am
Trying to conquer the world!

More testing a wargame of my own creation or drawing.


The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I already have two girlfriends....who wants to be #3?


You should message me if
You are an 18-24 female, into BDSM, submission, like art and games, IQ atleast 150+, and bisexual and interested in a poly relationship.
You also need to put up with me being a smartass and my obsession with telling good stories in entertainment I produce. Also be prepared to test games, critique art, have many rational conversations for no other reason then it's fun, and put up with intellectual challenges on a daily basis.
Highly doubtful someone will bite...but you never know....... :p

[Necrosis]

That's what I'm going for.
I haven't posted the results, but I have taken the test numerous times. Trust me, I'm INTJ. The various and vast amount of pages on the web that describe INTJs are exactly what I'm like. I just feel more open on this site for some reason...

You should express that 'open' feeling you have here to everyone else or at least to someone your interested in. You've got a story to tell from your post. You look really confident in your profile picture, which trust me is a really good thing. Put yourself out there and just have fun. Your a beautiful girl and you've got alot to offer =]]


- that I'm a Mexican who doesn't know or speak Spanish


And don't worry, I'm puerto rican and the only one or two in my entire family who doesn't speak spanish. Still love where I come from though :thumbsup:

[cara]

I'm looking for a mate.

You will be around 5'9 - 5'10, brunette, light complexion, green eyes and slim yet curvy. You will also be very intelligent, but slightly less so than myself. You will have a vulgar, morbid and sarcastic sense of humor.

You will enjoy cleaning, cooking, listening to the sound of my voice, giving massages and performing oral sex. Additionally, you will like cars, video games, cheesy action movies, UFC and metal.

You will not be nagging, needy, desperate or clingy.

If you fit these criteria, please PM me.

N.B. - Only successful applicants will be contacted.

this profile put a smile on my face :laugh: straight to the point, crisp 'n clear.

I would have contacted you, as I pretty much fit the profile (with exception of the video games stuff). but I already have a master to serve on a regular basis ;D

[Medicine Man]

Hello all, I am looking for someone who is awesome at life! She must wake up every morning and say to herself, the world is my oyster, and today I am gonna eat a lot of stew. Being an eternal student is a must. Traveling and an interest in a variety of music is great, with exotic musical tastes even better. A love for the outdoors would be a good thing, but perhaps without the whole "one with nature and the trees part". Neediness, No. Ability to put effort into a relationship, yes. I don't care if you find my bizarre sense of humor funny, but tolerance would be good. Physically, I am attracted to the "whole person" (that's what they all say right?). However, I have the same hormones and neurotransmitters as every other male that wanders this earth. Therefore, a beauty with long legs would be quite alright with me.

About me:
I have many traditional "INTJ" characteristics, as well as a few traits that are just my own. I have a strong work ethic, take my pursuits seriously, and stand up for what I think is right. I like adventures, meeting INTERESTING people, and of course a lot of exercise. Through a series of unfortunate events, I ended up in a city that I do not like, and where I do not belong. I have tried to meet someone who fits the profile above, but so far that has not happened.
My Vital Signs (I am in medical school, so this is the way I have to do it)
Height: 6 ft 1
Weight: 170
Respiration Rate: 14/min
Heart Rate: 47,
Heart Rate: After seeing you, (yes, you) through the roof
OK, now that I pushed that to the limit, please contact me if you think all this sounds pretty good. I would love to get to know an interesting lady!

[JohnDoe]

Hello all, I am looking for someone who is awesome at life! She must wake up every morning and say to herself, the world is my oyster, and today I am gonna eat a lot of stew. Being an eternal student is a must. Traveling and an interest in a variety of music is great, with exotic musical tastes even better. A love for the outdoors would be a good thing, but perhaps without the whole "one with nature and the trees part". Neediness, No. Ability to put effort into a relationship, yes. I don't care if you find my bizarre sense of humor funny, but tolerance would be good. Physically, I am attracted to the "whole person" (that's what they all say right?). However, I have the same hormones and neurotransmitters as every other male that wanders this earth. Therefore, a beauty with long legs would be quite alright with me.

About me:
I have many traditional "INTJ" characteristics, as well as a few traits that are just my own. I have a strong work ethic, take my pursuits seriously, and stand up for what I think is right. I like adventures, meeting INTERESTING people, and of course a lot of exercise. Through a series of unfortunate events, I ended up in a city that I do not like, and where I do not belong. I have tried to meet someone who fits the profile above, but so far that has not happened.
My Vital Signs (I am in medical school, so this is the way I have to do it)
Height: 6 ft 1
Weight: 170
Respiration Rate: 14/min
Heart Rate: 47,
Heart Rate: After seeing you, (yes, you) through the roof
OK, now that I pushed that to the limit, please contact me if you think all this sounds pretty good. I would love to get to know an interesting lady!
This seems creepy.

[Medicine Man]

Haha, that was...unexpected. I would argue that taking internet profile postings so seriously is a little bit weird in and of itself.

[Mogura]

Could you expand on the comment about stew a little? If your first name is Stewart (and this is your logon ID), then i get the humor...

[Synamon]

This seems creepy.
I don't think you are his target audience. :p You clearly don't share his sense of humor either, I thought it was amusing.
Could you expand on the comment about stew a little? If your first name is Stewart (and this is your logon ID), then i get the humor...
The play on words involved oyster, not stew.

[Seriously]

Therefore, a beauty with long legs would be quite alright with me.

Lost my interest there. But then since I'm not a beauty with long legs that's probably not a bad thing. ;)

[Phoenix rising]

I've just updated my profile:
My Self-Summary

I am not a genius (disappointing I know.)

However, it is fair to say that I am of above average intelligence, and for me to be truly happy in a relationship, I need someone of similar, or greater intelligence. Someone who is comfortable discussing the theoretical, someone who is able to have a debate without it turning into an argument.

To most people I'm an enigma; depending on circumstance, I can either be a super-serious perfectionist, the most laidback person you could meet, or somewhere in between.
This is largely due to the way I assign value to things, if it's not important, I'm happy to coast along, but if it is, I kick into a higher gear and do what is necessary. Whilst I am working on a project, or thinking about something, my mind is subconsciously ticking over. Due to this I've had many eureka moments, often they happen whilst I'm drifting off to sleep and I have to get out of bed and write them down.
I'm mildly introverted and often I am content to sit and listen, interjecting when I feel I have something to add, whether that be knowledge to impart, humour to insert (witty remarks and pre-written jokes), or a completely off-topic, intuition inspired tangent. With the right people, or when discussing interesting topics, I'll talk until the cows come home, but I'd rather tickle my balls with a lawnmower than watch big brother- or 98% of the other reality tv shows- so if the conversation heads that way, (or somewhere equally exciting) you can expect me to be entertaining myself in my head until it's safe to come out.

I am an autodidact and my memory is at times, almost eidetic.

I can be very playful at times; I enjoy making people laugh. I've been called random on a number of occasions, although this isn't linguistically accurate as my thoughts, no matter how "out there", are generally well considered.

Here's one of the jokes I've created.
Heard about the scientists who mixed dolly the sheep’s DNA with DNA from a cheetah? There was an argument about what to call the creature. Most of them wanted to call it a sheetah, but the Welsh scientist wanted to call it a quickie.

I am a creative, outside the box thinker, so much so that I've coined the phrase "Outside the box thinking is easy, if you were never in the box to begin with".

For those familiar with Myers-Briggs, I have recently discovered I am an INTJ (aka- the mastermind personality type, hence the username.)
For those that aren't, here is a link that provides a good description- (N.B., it doesn't tell you who I am, but I agree with the majority of it and it will provide an insight into the way my mind works.)

I think that's quite enough for this section.

What I’m doing with my life

I'm currently working for a bank whilst I evaluate the direction I wish my career to take. My current role doesn't utilise my strengths to their full potential and the credit crisis has sucked the opportunity out of banking, so it's time for a change.

In addition to my core role, I help run the bank's environmental network. It provides the chance to solve problems and exercise my creativity, but I'm genuinely interested in wildlife, and the environment in general, so it's rewarding to know I'm doing something positive.

All going to plan, by this time next year I'll be a published scientist :-)

I’m really good at

spotting B/S'ers, spotting/optimising inefficiencies, selling/negotiating/debating, creating analogies to make difficult concepts easy to understand, DJ'ing, finding bargains, playing pool, pub quizzes, problem solving, repartee, laconicism, photography (links to a few of my favourites are below), surfing (the web), killing zombies, breathing, and I am alright at alliteration.


The first things people usually notice about me

is usually motion blur as I dart between cover, trying not to be noticed.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Excluding the last 6 months I haven't spent much time reading fiction. I've got a couple of books from Andy Mcnab's (brilliant) series left to finish, and then I'll start something else.

Band wise: Oasis, Killers, Arctics, Coldplay, MGMT, Razorlight, Radiohead, The Beatles, Kooks, Klaxons, Kings of Leon etc.
I like most types of dance, ranging from the funky to the thumping, I love a good melody, so trance will always have a place in my heart. I'm especially loving the twisted electro house thats out at the mo'.

A few films I like: Man On Fire, Bourne & Matrix trillogies, Transformers 1 and 2, Pirates Of The Carribean 1, 2, 3, Layer Cake, The Recruit, Catch Me If You Can, the new Batman films, Knocked Up, Taken, Dirtrict 9, Zombieland, too many to list them all really.

I don't watch a lot of TV, but some of my favourite things to watch are:
The Big Bang Theory (my new favourite show), nature programmes, QI, Reaper, Discovery channel, Lost, The Inbetweeners (I've seen about 3 episodes, all were very funny, so I'll get around to watching the rest at some point), Shameless, Whose line is it anyway, stand up comedy.

I'm not too fussy an eater, I love pizza, but lately I've been trying to be healthy; I've been eating a lot of pasta, but last week I bought a slow cooker and it's so effortless that casseroles are set to become my staple.

The six things I could never do without

are: oxygen, water, food, my brain, the internet and music.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

whatever I'm currently interested in. To name a few topics: science/new technology, psychology, synchronicities, oxymora and fallacious statements (including why polar bears are recognised as the largest land carnivore, when their Latin name: Ursus Maritimus, means sea bear), how frightening it is to find out that around 70% of the world's cereals are now GM (they're mixing with natural crops, if at some point an undesirable mutation occurred it could lead to most of the world starving!) and ways to make money.

On a typical Friday night I am

usually at home playing on the tinterweb, reading, watching a film/TV, (if there's actually anything decent on), playing ps3, or maybe at the cinema.
I used to go out on the lash most Fridays and Saturdays, but a few months ago I had a bit of a rethink about what I was doing with my life, and I decided to quit smoking and reduce my drinking. I still go out drinking sometimes, but it's more to socialise than drink, these days.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'm secretly Batman, but ssshhhh! In all seriousness, if I'm asked a question I'm more open than most (feel free to ask), but I don't tend to volunteer much. I cut my own hair. How's that?

You should message me if

in addition to intelligence, you possess one or more of the following qualities:

* Well rounded sense of humour
* Open minded about new ideas and experiences
* Warm personality
* Desire to learn
* Analytical mind
* Ambition
* Creativity
* Loyalty
* Quick wit
* Love of animals
* Interest in science/technology/psychology/the environment
* Intuition

Comments and requests for dates appreciated ;)

[cara]

my suggestion is to shorten it a bit (maybe not as radical as I shortened it below, but a bit shorter) and not to reveal too much too soon. what should one ask, if everything is outlined in the profile?! keep the curiousity and interest level up.

to catch my attention and interest the first paragraph would be enough to assess, if I would want to contact you or not. the second would help me know, if YOU would be interested in a reply of mine or not ;)

My Self-Summary I am not a genius (disappointing I know.) I'm secretly Batman, but ssshhhh! In all seriousness, if I'm asked a question I'm more open than most (feel free to ask), but I don't tend to volunteer much. I cut my own hair. How's that?

You should message me if in addition to intelligence, you possess one or more of the following qualities:

* Well rounded sense of humour
* Open minded about new ideas and experiences
* Warm personality
* Desire to learn
* Analytical mind
* Ambition
* Creativity
* Loyalty
* Quick wit
* Love of animals
* Interest in science/technology/psychology/the environment
* Intuition

Comments and requests for dates appreciated ;)

[Phoenix rising]

Ha, yes, but we've all heard about the attention spans of ENFPs :p

I see what you're saying about leaving things to talk about - and I have tried to do this, to an extent - but the feedback I've had from people tends to be positive in regards to the depth of info'.

[Evangelist]

Hey there, this is Evangelist. I enjoy posting on this forum. For a good wrap up of me just check the theology section, I live there. I am from Illinois, right in the middle of it. I could use a fellow intj for dinner sometime. Let's just say friendship since mate might be a stretch.

[JohnDoe]

Nuke


I am not a genius (disappointing I know.)

However, it is fair to say that I am of above average intelligence, and for me to be truly happy in a relationship, I need someone of similar, or greater intelligence. Someone who is comfortable discussing the theoretical, someone who is able to have a debate without it turning into an argument.

Nuke the giant list of things that people must have at the end.
Otherwise good.





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my suggestion is to shorten it a bit (maybe not as radical as I shortened it below, but a bit shorter) and not to reveal too much too soon. what should one ask, if everything is outlined in the profile?! keep the curiousity and interest level up.

to catch my attention and interest the first paragraph would be enough to assess, if I would want to contact you or not. the second would help me know, if YOU would be interested in a reply of mine or not ;)

For OKCupid do not shorten too much.

[Phoenix rising]

Thanks for the input, but seriously, I've had good feedback about these parts. I've had women message me saying I possess qualities x, y, and z. And as far as the opening paragraph goes, I'm averaging about 15 profile views a week, plus comments from INTJs on here that say it's effective for drawing people (or INTJs at least) in.

I did go back and edit it (a little) after Cara's comments, if anyone is eagle eyed and interested enough to spot and critique the parts I've removed, go ahead.

My Self-Summary

I am not (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) a genius (disappointing I know.)

However, it is fair to say that I am of above average intelligence, and for me to be truly happy in a relationship, I need someone of similar, or greater intelligence. Someone who is comfortable discussing the theoretical, someone who is able to have a debate without it turning into an argument.

To most people I'm an enigma; depending on circumstance, I can either be a super-serious perfectionist, the most laidback person you could meet, or somewhere in between.
This is largely due to the way I assign value to things, if it's not important, I'm happy to coast along, but if it is, I kick into a higher gear and do what is necessary. Whilst I am working on a project, or thinking about something, my mind is subconsciously ticking over. Due to this I've had many eureka moments, often they happen whilst I'm drifting off to sleep and I have to get out of bed and write them down.
I'm mildly introverted and often I am content to sit and listen, interjecting when I feel I have something to add, whether that be knowledge to impart, humour to insert (witty remarks and pre-written jokes), or a completely off-topic, intuition inspired tangent. With the right people, or when discussing interesting topics, I'll talk until the cows come home, but I'd rather tickle my balls with a lawnmower than watch big brother- or 98% of the other reality tv shows- so if the conversation heads that way, (or somewhere equally exciting) you can expect me to be entertaining myself in my head until it's safe to come out.

I am an autodidact and my memory is at times, almost eidetic.

I can be very playful at times; I enjoy making people laugh. I've been called random on a number of occasions, although this isn't linguistically accurate as my thoughts, no matter how "out there", are generally well considered.

Here's one of the jokes I've created.
Heard about the scientists who mixed dolly the sheep’s DNA with DNA from a cheetah? There was an argument about what to call the creature. Most of them wanted to call it a sheetah, but the Welsh scientist wanted to call it a quickie.

I am a creative, outside the box thinker, so much so that I've coined the phrase "Outside the box thinking is easy, if you were never in the box to begin with".

For those familiar with Myers-Briggs, I have recently discovered I am an INTJ (aka- the mastermind personality type, hence the username.)
For those that aren't, here is a link that provides a good description- To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. (N.B., it doesn't tell you who I am, but I agree with the majority of it and it will provide an insight into the way my mind works.)

I think that's quite enough for this section.

What I’m doing with my life

I'm currently working for a bank whilst I evaluate the direction I wish my career to take. My current role doesn't utilise my strengths to their full potential and the credit crisis has sucked the opportunity out of banking, so it's time for a change.

In addition to my core role, I help run the bank's environmental network. It provides the chance to solve problems and exercise my creativity, but I'm genuinely interested in wildlife, and the environment in general, so it's rewarding to know I'm doing something positive.

All going to plan, by this time next year I'll be a published scientist :-)

I’m really good at

spotting B/S'ers, spotting/optimising inefficiencies, selling/negotiating/debating, creating analogies to make difficult concepts easy to understand, DJ'ing, finding bargains, playing pool, pub quizzes, problem solving, photography (links to a few of my favourites are below), surfing (the web), killing zombies, breathing, and I am alright at alliteration.

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See the crocodile in the background?

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If I'm feeling arty I'll sometimes do abstract doodles.

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The first things people usually notice about me

is usually motion blur as I dart between cover, trying not to be noticed.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Excluding the last 6 months I haven't spent much time reading fiction. I've got a couple of books from Andy Mcnab's (brilliant) series left to finish, and then I'll start something else.

Band wise: Oasis, Killers, Arctics, Coldplay, MGMT, Razorlight, Radiohead, The Beatles, Kooks, Klaxons, Kings of Leon etc.
I like most types of dance, ranging from the funky to the thumping, I love a good melody, so trance will always have a place in my heart. I'm especially loving the twisted electro house thats out at the mo'.

A few films I like: Man On Fire, Bourne & Matrix trillogies, Transformers 1 and 2, Pirates Of The Carribean 1, 2, 3, Layer Cake, The Recruit, Catch Me If You Can, the new Batman films, Knocked Up, Taken, Dirtrict 9, Zombieland, too many to list them all really.

I don't watch a lot of TV, but some of my favourite things to watch are:
The Big Bang Theory (my new favourite show), nature programmes, QI, Reaper, Discovery channel, Lost, The Inbetweeners (I've seen about 3 episodes, all were very funny, so I'll get around to watching the rest at some point), Shameless, Whose line is it anyway, stand up comedy.

I'm not too fussy an eater, I love pizza, but lately I've been trying to be healthy; I've been eating a lot of pasta, but last week I bought a slow cooker and it's so effortless that casseroles are set to become my staple.

The six things I could never do without

are: oxygen, water, food, my brain, the internet and music.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

whatever I'm currently interested in. To name a few topics: science/new technology, psychology, synchronicities, oxymora, how frightening it is to find out that around 70% of the world's cereals are now GM (they're mixing with natural crops, if at some point an undesirable mutation occurred it could lead to most of the world starving!) and ways to make money.

On a typical Friday night I am

usually at home playing on the tinterweb, reading, watching a film/TV, (if there's actually anything decent on), playing ps3, or maybe at the cinema.
I used to go out on the lash most Fridays and Saturdays, but a few months ago I had a bit of a rethink about what I was doing with my life, and I decided to quit smoking and reduce my drinking. I still go out drinking sometimes, but it's more to socialise than drink, these days.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'm secretly Batman, but ssshhhh! In all seriousness, if I'm asked a question I'm more open than most (feel free to ask), but I don't tend to volunteer much. I cut my own hair. How's that?

You should message me if

in addition to intelligence, you possess one or more of the following qualities:

* Well rounded sense of humour
* Open minded about new ideas and experiences
* Warm personality
* Desire to learn
* Analytical mind
* Ambition
* Creativity
* Loyalty
* Quick wit
* Love of animals
* Interest in science/technology/psychology/the environment
* Intuition (in the Jung/Myers-Briggs context, link here- To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)

[releviau04]

Okay, short and sweet.....

I am a 36yr old, healthy, attractive female that would like to meet one of my own kind (INTJ male).

It's like trying to find the proverbial needle, or like finding the other half of me.

OMG!

[GrnEyz]

White male, 6' 0", nice grin, athletic build, self-employed, with a valid passport, seeks financially independant white nymphomaniac female gymnist who is double-jointed and owns a business jet, a carribean island, a fleet of exotic sports cars, a 70 ft yacht with a 18 ft dingy, enjoys giving oral sex, loves to cook, likes to be tied up 3 times a week, and has an open minded twin sister.

(Actually, I'd settle for someone sane and attractive somewhere close to E. Tenn.)

[cara]

if anyone is eagle eyed and interested enough to spot and critique the parts I've removed, go ahead.

one-eyed eagle here. despite my extreme short attention span ;) I tried to be attentive and actually read through both of your posts 'cause I was curious which parts you shortened (*heavy-duty-to-me*). as far as I noticed, you added two links (good idea!), two words (repartee, lanconicism), ten pics (didn't you have some in the previous post as well?!) and deleted the ice bear/sea bear sentence. pls confirm or correct, if I noticed all the changes.

well, whatever you did...reading (not just scanning) through the whole post was interesting and amusing. I like your doodles. this pic with the croc is terrific!

[Phoenix rising]

despite my extreme short attention span ;) I tried to be attentive and actually read through both of your posts... as far as I noticed, you added two links (good idea!).... ten pics (didn't you have some in the previous post as well?!) and deleted the ice bear/sea bear sentence.

The links were there to begin with, but they were removed by the mod's.


two words (repartee, lanconicism), deleted the ice bear/sea bear sentence.


I actually removed - rather than added - repartee (because I mentioned off the cuff comments etc in earlier paragraphs) and laconicism (because it should be apparent from my profile, and if someone wasn't familiar with the word and looked it up, they could attach negative connotations to its synonym: terse.) I got rid of the ice bear thing to condense it a little, appear slightly less pedantic, and save it for conversation with people who won't have a problem with my penchant for pedantry.

You've earnt yourself a gold star ;)


well, whatever you did...reading (not just scanning) through the whole post was interesting and amusing. I like your doodles. this pic with the croc is terrific!

Thanks :).

[Synamon]

The links were there to begin with, but they were removed by the mod's.

As stated in the OP of this thread:

Do not post links to other websites in this thread. This includes announcing your blog, myspace, facebook, forums, or other social networking communities you might be part of. Your post will be removed if you use it to promote one of your websites, regardless of how subtle it might be. We don't want to have to monitor links to determine how 'innocent' each one is.

The moderators are not going to check out links, instead we will remove them or remove your post entirely. Do not include links.

[cara]

thxs for your reply and the (once again...detailed and precise ;)) explanation...I thought I might have been dreaming the doodles up or something?! *gg*

I wish you all the best for finding somebody who fits your profile :)

[Phoenix rising]

As stated in the OP of this thread:

The moderators are not going to check out links, instead we will remove them or remove your post entirely. Do not include links.

Sorry, I didn't notice the links had been removed until after I'd posted the 2nd one. If them's the rules them's the rules, and I'll respect them going forward, but it does seem that the rule in this thread is inconsistent with the rest of the forum - links to imageshack, photobucket, etc, are left, right and centre on the forum without deletion.

thxs for your reply and the (once again...detailed and precise ;)) explanation...I thought I might have been dreaming the doodles up or something?! *gg*

I wish you all the best for finding somebody who fits your profile :)

Thanks :)

[escapist11]

escapist11 added to this post, 44 minutes and 10 seconds later...

Here goes.

[spoiler]

Smoker: No
Drink: No

My Self-Summary
I'm just a soon-to-be 21 year old college student who doesn't really get out much. I think I might have some kind of social anxiety disorder because I don't like to be around large groups of people that I don't know. (aka. parties and gatherings). For my first year and a half of college, I was an electrical engineering major. Then they told me that I wasn't really smart enough and that I needed to change my major. I changed it to media arts (radio/tv/film) and was planning on going into audio production. This past summer I had to make some difficult changes and decisions. My dad never wanted me going to the university I was at because it was too expensive and too far away. He said he wasn't going to help me out if I continued to go there. I'm only 20, but I had somewhat of a life at that school. My friends are there, I grew to love the campus, I had a wonderful paying job on campus at a GREAT facility, and I had gone through radio DJ training at the student radio station and was working a 2am-6am Monday mornings shift. It wasn't much, but it was something that was mine.

Now I'm at another university closer to home (and cheaper because it's in-state tuition now) and my major is general studies. We have to choose three subjects to concentrate on and I have decided on physics, math, and history because most of my credits fit into these areas. If it were ultimately up to me, I never would have transfered. The people here aren't as friendly and there's no sense of community. The food sucks ass.

I’m really good at
I used to think I was pretty good at playing music, but after 2 rejections from two different schools' marching band auditions within the past 2 months, I'm starting to think that the one thing I love and was good at is something I'm turning to be a has-been at.

I taught myself how to play piano in 1st grade. I taught myself how to play flute in 6th grade. I got bored with flute and joined band to learn percussion in 7th grade. My senior year of high school, I taught myself to play cello and got to play with the JV orchestra. I also joined the mariachi group and played harp for the varsity group and guitarron for the JV group. Once I made it to college, all of that playing suddenly came to a halt until last October when I randomly bought a bass off of eBay. It's something I've been wanting to learn for a long time, and now I have a bass. However, it's at home and I am not. I also bought a clarinet off of a friend this past spring for $30 and can play a few things on it as well.

The first things people usually notice about me
- how short I am (I don't think I'm that short...I'm 5'2")
- that I'm a Mexican who doesn't know or speak Spanish

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books:
The Dark is Rising, A Thousand Splendid Suns, Freakonomics, Naked Economics, The Undercover Economist, The Economic Naturalist (ok, so I enjoy reading non-boring economics books. Weird quirk, but I think it's an interesting subject when presented the right way)

Movies: this list and my interests are not limited to what I have listed here.
October Sky, V for Vendetta, Les Miserables, The Science of Sleep, The Motorcycle Diaries, Wicker Park, Gattaca

Music: Again, this list and my interests are not limited to what I have listed here.
Adam Monroe, Akron/Family, Anberlin, Apollo Sunshine, Bat for Lashes, Black Jack Persia, Blink-182, Blue October, Boston, Brandtson, Bullet for my Valentine, Bush, Chevelle, Coldplay, Days of the New, Def Leppard, Deftones, Disturbed, Does It Offend You Yeah?, Death Cab for Cutie, Emery, Eminem, Eric Whitacre, Fear Factory, Foals, Godsmack, Greeley Estates, Guns 'N Roses, Hatebreed, Homemade Knives, Incubus, Intention, Jimmy Eat World, The Juliana Theory, Keiko Abe, Kings of Leon, Korn, Lacuna Coil, Led Zeppelin, Limp Bizkit, Linkin Park, Mana, Marc Anthony, Mark Ford, Metallica, Oasis, The Offspring, A Perfect Circle, Pink Floyd, Radiohead, Rage Against The Machine, School of Language, Slipknot, The Smashing Pumpkins, Smile Empty Soul, Sneaky Thieves, Snow Patrol, Static-X, System of a Down, Thrice, Tool

On a typical Friday night I am
usually doing nothing. Since moving into my new dorm, it's pretty clear that I have less of a life than my roommate. She leaves quite often to go see her boyfriend or she brings him over here. I started this school year thinking that maybe I would make some guy friends and possibly find someone, but that plan has already gone to the crapper. There's too many of the pretty (yet dumb and skanky) girls around here and that's what the guys go for.

Other thoughts
I don't have a fancy camera or anything, but I really enjoy taking pictures. I think even without 'formal' training in photography, I feel like I'm not too bad. People tell me that my pictures are good, but they could be even better if I just used photoshop. I believe that you shouldn't have to 'enhance' or 'tweak' a photo if it really is any good. The point of taking a photo is to capture a moment in time as it is. There's no point in the beauty of the moment if all we do is take it to photoshop. Maybe it does look better, but there's something that is lost in the altering of that photo.


So I joined OKC for about a week in mid-September. The profile I have quoted here is NOT what I had
on my profile. I actually took the OKC profile seriously and was less blunt on my profile and more open
in word choice and stuff...and I am now happy to report that it's been 3 weeks since I met a wonderful guy.
He's super nice and we have so much fun together. I'm so happy that we found each other.
:)

[Mogura]

Just out of curiosity... For those who have posted your profile in this thread for peer critique/otherwise, have you been approached with expressions of romantic interest?

[Rohsiph]

I've tried a bunch of approaches. Since none of the standard hints ever worked for me, I recently revised and wrote the kind of profile I'd like to see a potential mate write.



Self-summary:

My fires burn in nucleus room, winding into atmosphere and scorching Asgardian canopies. What is normal? the slow lives at the bottom of the mountain; the peasants ignorant of Vesuvius’ fury. Interstellar knowledge bursts through mind’s eye, and from then on there is only climbing.

Climbing and vaulting. Cliffs abound, impassable expanses between faces. Only one way forward: to jump. Somewhere, somehow, one learns to fly; after decades of broken bodies, mangled puzzles of jutting bone.

Understand me. Unlock visions of foreign galaxies, of universes trapped in tunnels. Dance floors where the old Gods share their fecund glories, where cosmic phantasms whirl uncanny appendages around rainbow chandelier.

I exist. Mayan lore echoes through brain: “I am the am, I am the am, I am the am . . .” The lonely lives of German philosophers anchor escaping fantasies, make real worldly terror and steal hope of solipsism—but then fit a wider view where individualism reigned.


What I'm doing with my life:

Detailing eons, fixing dinosaurs, summoning only that which I can put down.

(Working night-shifts, reading, writing).


I'm really good at:

Super Puzzle Fighter II X, making scrambled eggs for myself


First things people notice:

I imagine to look upon myself, first I would notice my eyes, my hair. Then that critter from Muspelheim bubbling underneath my shadow.


Books, films, music, food:

Books: Kafka on the Shore, The Poetic Eddas, Cleveland Anonymous, Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, The Shadow Over Innsmouth

Movies: Electric Dragon 80 000V, Tetsuo: Iron Man, Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory, Jan Svankmejer's Faust, Mad Max: Beyond Thunderdome

Music: The Protomen, Worlds End Girlfriend, Kid You'll Move Mountains, Splashdown, Dmitri Shostakovich

Least favorite food: onions (though onion powder is fine), . . . well, basically anything with the same texture as onions


Six things:

consciousness, extension, perception, critical thought . . . anything else coming to mind I think I could do without.


I spend a lot of time thinking about:

starting my own religion, writing a screenplay titled "Lion in a Skyscraper," listening to memorized Russian Circles songs, sex, breaking old wooden doors, deciphering wind-said whispers, wondering "why tabloids?", whether I should suddenly shout "GUITAR!" in public places, beautiful (naked) women, metathought/metacognition, willing floating continents into existence, wondering "why sports?", robots, sex, cosmic horror, when will Via Audio release their next album, where all the tears i've kept from crying might have gone


Typical Friday night:

improvising on bone xylophone, trying not to mutter the name "Azathoth," shouting the name "A-GA-MEM-NON" very slowly and deliberately at strangers


Private thing:

in a past life, i was an inspiration placed in a hero's heart by a forgotten god


Message me if:

any of this made sense

I have no intention of revising for at least a few months. This is me. Anyone turned off by my kind of creativity need not apply.

But, I share in case anyone might feel like sharing interesting commentaries.

:) smiles

[Mogura]

I've tried a bunch of approaches. Since none of the standard hints ever worked for me, I recently revised and wrote the kind of profile I'd like to see a potential mate write.



Self-summary:

My fires burn in nucleus room, winding into atmosphere and scorching Asgardian canopies. What is normal? the slow lives at the bottom of the mountain; the peasants ignorant of Vesuvius’ fury. Interstellar knowledge bursts through mind’s eye, and from then on there is only climbing.

Climbing and vaulting. Cliffs abound, impassable expanses between faces. Only one way forward: to jump. Somewhere, somehow, one learns to fly; after decades of broken bodies, mangled puzzles of jutting bone.

Understand me. Unlock visions of foreign galaxies, of universes trapped in tunnels. Dance floors where the old Gods share their fecund glories, where cosmic phantasms whirl uncanny appendages around rainbow chandelier.

I exist. Mayan lore echoes through brain: “I am the am, I am the am, I am the am . . .” The lonely lives of German philosophers anchor escaping fantasies, make real worldly terror and steal hope of solipsism—but then fit a wider view where individualism reigned.


What I'm doing with my life:

Detailing eons, fixing dinosaurs, summoning only that which I can put down.

(Working night-shifts, reading, writing).


I'm really good at:

Super Puzzle Fighter II X, making scrambled eggs for myself


First things people notice:

I imagine to look upon myself, first I would notice my eyes, my hair. Then that critter from Muspelheim bubbling underneath my shadow.


Books, films, music, food:

Books: Kafka on the Shore, The Poetic Eddas, Cleveland Anonymous, Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, The Shadow Over Innsmouth

Movies: Electric Dragon 80 000V, Tetsuo: Iron Man, Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory, Jan Svankmejer's Faust, Mad Max: Beyond Thunderdome

Music: The Protomen, Worlds End Girlfriend, Kid You'll Move Mountains, Splashdown, Dmitri Shostakovich

Least favorite food: onions (though onion powder is fine), . . . well, basically anything with the same texture as onions


Six things:

consciousness, extension, perception, critical thought . . . anything else coming to mind I think I could do without.


I spend a lot of time thinking about:

starting my own religion, writing a screenplay titled "Lion in a Skyscraper," listening to memorized Russian Circles songs, sex, breaking old wooden doors, deciphering wind-said whispers, wondering "why tabloids?", whether I should suddenly shout "GUITAR!" in public places, beautiful (naked) women, metathought/metacognition, willing floating continents into existence, wondering "why sports?", robots, sex, cosmic horror, when will Via Audio release their next album, where all the tears i've kept from crying might have gone


Typical Friday night:

improvising on bone xylophone, trying not to mutter the name "Azathoth," shouting the name "A-GA-MEM-NON" very slowly and deliberately at strangers


Private thing:

in a past life, i was an inspiration placed in a hero's heart by a forgotten god


Message me if:

any of this made sense

I have no intention of revising for at least a few months. This is me. Anyone turned off by my kind of creativity need not apply.

But, I share in case anyone might feel like sharing interesting commentaries.

:) smiles

I like it. A lot. But you do realize that you're only going to get contacted by interesting women with working brains and pounding hearts, right? Some might have cool tattoos or body piercings in even cooler places.

The reference to thinking about naked women might be a bit off-putting, but certainly no one's going to call you out and accuse you of being a liar...

[Valiyn]

Just out of curiosity... For those who have posted your profile in this thread for peer critique/otherwise, have you been approached with expressions of romantic interest?

Nope....I don't think mine is well liked :p

[GreenBulldog]

Here's mine:

"The one thing I promise, to the best of my ability, to everyone who I meet is non-judgmental acceptance. I'll put aside my prejudice and preconceived notions; and get to know you on a clean, untainted slate.

With that being said, BE YOURSELF-at least around me. Who cares about being a certain made-up image society says you have to be? And for what? Approval of others? So you can have a certain image in the eyes of others.

Do what you want for your OWN sake. Among other things, I am talking about sex. Humans can have sex for recreational purpose only, but so little of it is being done! I like to see a woman who's liberated from that. She does what she wants for her own reason because she wants to, it makes her happy, she feels alive and actualized. I don't value a woman based on how many men she has been with. I value her based on honesty, respect, and sensuality...At least that's the way it is for me.

With that being said, I want someone who loves sex. Someone who has no hang-ups or shame because she realizes that, that's all bulls**t. She comfortable with her freaky side and not afraid to ask get that part of her satisfied. Communicate honestly with me. Tell me what you have done and want to do again; things that you want experiment on; and things that you will absolutely will not do. Orgies? Swing clubs? Sure. Keep it discreet? Definitely!

I don't own you. You're free to do what you want, among which is to see other men (just be safe). I can see other women as well.

If you like what you read, send me a message. If you want to give me your opinion on my profile, I'll appreciate it!"

[Rohsiph]

Someone who has no hang-ups or shame because she realizes that, that's all bulls**t.

It seems like a fairly flagrant contradiction to ask for someone who realizes sexual shame is bullshit by censoring the word "bullshit," at least insofar as I see it a big part of sexual shame being bullshit has to do with societal censorships.

[GreenBulldog]

It seems like a fairly flagrant contradiction to ask for someone who realizes sexual shame is bullshit by censoring the word "bullshit," at least insofar as I see it a big part of sexual shame being bullshit has to do with societal censorships.

It wasn't me who censored it. It was the website. I copied and pasted from there.

[hubcap]

OK - I'll try -

Here I am. If you don't call me its your loss.



It's short and to the point. Does it show a little too much self confidence?

[Mogura]

OK - I'll try -

Here I am. If you don't call me its your loss.



It's short and to the point. Does it show a little too much self confidence?

I converted it to haiku to make you seem like a sensitive guy:

Here I am, honey.
If you don't call me. This instant.
It's your loss. Spinster.

[INTJDownUnder]

Hey all, I'm a 29 year old, emotionally well balanced, INTJ from Melbourne, Australia.

I'm a guy looking for a relationship with a gal who also lives in Melbourne. If an Aussie INTJ who has most of his emotional shit together sounds like your thing, feel free to send me a message and we can talk more.

I've deliberately not written much about myself here as this is a public forum and I wouldn't want any of the freaks out there to find and empty my bank account. However I will respond to any questions from potentially interested parties or the curious. :)

I promise not to bite and be nice, so don't worry: I'm not one of those insecure INTJs who takes special pride in shooting people down. And I won't suffer years of emotional hurt if you message me and decide nothing's there... so don't be shy if you're simply curious! :laugh:

[gavi]

PREMISE:

As I prefer not to publish the photo on this public site, let me say that I am white, 29 y.o.-looking, brown hair, good looking, 6 foot 1 (185.5 cm), slim/athletic guy.
I am a very intelligent, very well educated, sexy and with good genes (as mapped by 23andme).
Started life as an angry/suffering/lonely INTJ and, years ago, I became a cheerful, jokey, balanced, happy, well adapted, understanding, complex, wise inTj.
I am based in Europe, London.
I am looking for a compatible, traditional girl with a sleeping beauty / lady and the tramp outlook rather than a gone with the wind / bridget jones diary outlook.
Probably either a young girl or an older unhappily married / separating woman. Unlikely that she is a late 20s / 30-something, never married woman.
Probably Polish, Slovakian, Spanish from the South, Italian, Austrian, Bavarian or Asian. Quite unlikely that she is British, French, Nord American as these cultures are, usually, very incompatible with mine.
About the physical characteristics of the long term girlfriend, they are not easily conveyed by internet and photos so I had to add the wish list in the ad.
Below is the ad. Any advice and personal messages are welcome. I am also open to make new, good friends.


THE AD:

Confident, spontaneous Italian with many interests and a very happy life. Love exploring new countries, walking in the nature and talking about big plans with my best friends.

I love a challenge, I am clear on the outcomes I am after, I take calculated risks and I never give up.

I am balanced and appreciative for all that is in my life. I tend to see the world as a smile, life as a gift and myself as a garden where I cultivate daily to reap a cool future.


[

The soundtrack from the Lord of the Rings that was playing in the background momentarily stops:

you might think that I am not modest but I think I am! Maybe I am just too romantic and so my own world is pretty epic :-)

]


I believe that I am an ideal boyfriend for the right person; still, it is going to take years to find my girlfriend because it is rare to meet a person who is open, sincere, real, honest and needs to be loved for who she is. You do not need to live in London/Paris as I can travel and even move for the right person.



I believe that there are experiences that are best lived together rather than alone.

I am open to romance, friendships and doing activities together. So if you like a spontaneous, adventurous, fun, understanding, and intelligent gentleman with good values, we can enjoy some great, great time!



Physically, I like a rather slim body, flat belly, and delicate ankles. Look, everybody has got some physical requirements, right? At least mine are not affected by aging ;-)

[WoodsWoman]

I had to laugh at hubcap and Mogura -- the succinct and to the point! Oddly I like that - the self confidence is nice.

[bipolarbear]

I am not one to leave my Fortress of Solitude, but once in a while I feel the need to bring one person into the fold. For purposes of convenience, the relationship should also be a sexual one. Intelligent INTJ males living around/attending UC Berkeley, what places do you frequent when you are not on the internet? Should I approach you, or will you approach me?

[Blse]

I am not one to leave my Fortress of Solitude, but once in a while I feel the need to bring one person into the fold. For purposes of convenience, the relationship should also be a sexual one. Intelligent INTJ males living around/attending UC Berkeley, what places do you frequent when you are not on the internet? Should I approach you, or will you approach me?

I don't fit your category, but speaking on behalf of those with a strong Te, ask! Be direct and clear.

[bipolarbear]

I don't fit your category, but speaking on behalf of those with a strong Te, ask! Be direct and clear.
Blse, what kinds of places do you frequent? I am also in the market for an ENTJ...

[INTJDownUnder]

Should I approach you, or will you approach me?

Hard to say. Some people just hate the idea of approaching others. But not everyone feels that way.

I guess you should do what you feel is right. If you want to approach, do it. After you've said hello, the guy still has the opportunity to take the lead if he's interested.

I think the reason most girls don't approach is because rejection sucks! It takes a lot of practice to be able to take it in your stride.

[bipolarbear]

Historically, I have always been the one to initiate a conversation and then initiate a relationship with a guy. Perhaps this is why my relationships are doomed?

INTJDownUnder, what kinds of places do you go to meet potential mates? Cafes, libraries, farmer's markets? I need help finding someone just like me, and am afraid the internet might be the only arena for this...

[NItsuj]

I'm looking for someone in the DFW area...

My basics: 24, White, Male, 5'9", Nonsmoker, nondrinker - average build (not muscular, but definitely not fat) - seeking woman (that might be an important point!)
Photos: If you PM me, we can talk. I have photos and video if you're serious.

I'm a geeky dude that loves his science channel, history channel, and mountain bike. You know that one guy that always finds all the funny and cool stuff on the internet? That's me. I like to see movies when I'm able to. Then again, I disappear when new, awesome video games come out. I'm also a bit of a picky eater, and subscribe to the model of "the more stuff on the item, the less likely it is to taste good". Grilled Chicken? Good. Grilled Chicken with Mushroom Sauce and spices and breading? Bad.

I'm a software developer, and I love my job. My life always has some changing priorities though. Getting close to paying off my student loan debt (put myself through college!). Maybe buy a house sometime, who knows. Then again, another car might be fun =D I've thought about going back to college for some more physics / engineering classes. You can complete more projects when you have the technical know-how to construct them.

I'm good at finding stuff on the internet as well as flying zingers into normal conversation. Much to everyone's chagrin though, I really don't have an 'off' switch per se when it comes to making bad jokes. For example, I had some chocolate cake at Genghis grill the other day - but I felt terrible after eating it. When asked why I was groaning, I told my buddies it was a mis-cake to have eaten it. Corny jokes are the best.

I'm a pretty avid reader, so I go through books fairly frequently. I'm a big fan of Odd Thomas (Dean Koontz), as well as Deep Storm (Lincoln Child) and pretty much anything by Timothy Zahn. You could call me a book worm. Science Fiction novels are a mainstay, although I often read mystery suspense thrillers as well. For example, "Next" by Crichton, was a good blend of both.

I love TV shows like MythBusters, South Park, The Colbert Report, and How It's Made, because it's kinda interesting to know how to mass manufacture #2 pencils.

My typical friday night is hitting a local restaurant, perhaps seeing a movie or watching some FX movies, or playing some Xbox 360 games. Recently, I've also been having friends over while we play 1 vs 100 on Xbox Live - it's like being in a sports bar except there is a couch and it's free.

Long story short though, I lack a real human connection. I don't go anywhere because I have no one to go with, and unless I go somewhere, I won't find someone, so it's kinda catch-22 or something.

[INTJDownUnder]

Historically, I have always been the one to initiate a conversation and then initiate a relationship with a guy. Perhaps this is why my relationships are doomed?

Just because you're the one who initiates does not mean you're doomed from the start. I think it is very tempting to look for reasons, because if you have a reason... then you have something to blame. If you have something to blame, then you have something you can try to control and "fix".

Asking "Why am I single?" sounds like a factual question like "Why isn't my car starting when I turn the ignition?". But it's not a factual question, it's a philosophical one.

It's a bit like asking "What is the meaning of life?" and looking for a reason. There is no reason. Life is just life and we humans attach our own individual meaning to it. And it's the same deal with "Why am I single?". You're alive and breathing. You're single. If there is a reason, it's only the one you chose to give yourself. There is no universal truth to find or understand. Ask a 100 people and you'll get a 100 different answers.

So don't worry about the fact that you initiate contact. I know there are people on this forum who talk about how they walk out the front door and have lots of people hitting on them. I believe that they are telling the truth, but that's their experience. But it's not my experience. And from the sound of things, it doesn't sound like it's your experience either. So which experience is the truth? They all are.

So don't worry. If a relationship doesn't work out, it's not because of that one isolated little factoid like "Who said hello first".

So what is the reason? Maybe there isn't one? Maybe it just didn't work out?

Humans have a remarkable way of making emotional choices and then using reason to make it seem like those choices were the result of logic.
e.g. "It didn't work out because I didn't find you physical attractive enough."

Yup, that's a reason. Is it the truth? Who knows? The person who said those words probably doesn't even know the truth themselves. The emotional decison about the future of the relationship was made long before the logical side of the brain had a chance to concoct a reason.

"I need a reason to justify my choice" says the brain "Not physically attractive enough? Yea, I do feel that way. Is that why I ended things? Absolutely no idea but it's a reason and I need a reason otherwise other people will think I'm stupid... so it'll suffice!"

So don't be so hard on yourself and assume that because things haven't turned out the way you would have liked, the reason is because you did something wrong. Who says there is a reason? Human relationships and human beings are not mechanical pieces of equipment which can be quantified and manipulated in a causal manner. The human consciousness defies such scientific classification. Human beings do not need a causal factor (i.e. "reason") to behave a certain way, no matter how much they protest otherwise.

INTJDownUnder, what kinds of places do you go to meet potential mates? Cafes, libraries, farmer's markets? I need help finding someone just like me, and am afraid the internet might be the only arena for this...

Unfortunately I'm probably not the best person to ask. I'm still figuring that out for myself. Most people I ask for advice are well meaning but completely useless. I do internet dating myself, if only because it's yet another way to keep looking. Not because I've found it very easy or successful.

A lot of people say "Join a club that does an activity you enjoy" but that often does not work out. Having joined quite a few clubs in a past myself and stuck around for a while to see how things panned out, often the membership does not have many new members and the existing members are the wrong age, wrong gender, or already spoken for. Basically a lot of social/activity clubs are dating dead ends and I've been scratching my brains to find one that isn't.

So what do I do? Originally I tried to use MBTI to assess people as potential partners. Big mistake. Most people who I thought were "my type" and thus should be irresistibly drawn to me, were not drawn to me. The more I tried to line up the MBTI parameters, the more rejections I got. In fact, I met one person who was not my type at all. Normally that would be enough for me to dismiss them because "MBTI theory states we have nothing in common and I've met your type before and they drove me up the wall!"

Imagine my surprise when I decided to put my reservations aside and get to know them with an open mind. They completely impressed me as a very well balanced, intelligent individual with a lot of depth. They impressed me to the point that I forgot that their type was theoretically incompatible with mine (INTJ). As far as I was concerned, they may as well have been an ENFP... my so-called best match according to MBTI.

Now it turned out that there was no relationship potential there but the experience really left a mark on me. I realised that although I know what traits I am looking for in another person, I have absolutely no idea what sort of a person would have those traits... I thought MBTI could guide me in this area and, much to my own chagrin, I was proven completely and utterly wrong.

So now I've joined some social groups that do not involve any particular activity. These social groups purpose is to bring together a very wide variety of people in one place. What I hope to get out of this is experience meeting very different sorts of people and seeing who I like and who I dislike. It's not a dating club so I don't expect to find anyone there for a relationship, but I'm very eager to replace my theoretical knowledge with a bit of practical experience of how different sorts of people behave. The more different and bizarre the people I meet, the better... because I've learnt that I have absolutely NFI when it comes to judging a book by it's cover! I don't think anyone else does either.

Oh, and along the way, I get to see different places and experience different parts of the city. Fun!

I don't think a relationship is something you can force. It's not like going out to buy a car. I just believe if I keep socialising and learning about other people, the right course of action will present itself in the fullness of time. Maybe I might meet the right person? Maybe I might become friends with someone and they'll know someone who is single? Maybe the experience will provide me with the tools to recognise "my type" when I see them in other venues? Maybe something else will happen I haven't thought of and can't predict?

Who knows... It's sometimes hard to stay positive and I don't always do. But I always bounce back in the end. And if you're not out there trying, well.... then you've given up.

That's my journey, Bipolar, and it's continuing... don't know if that helps or not? :)

(In case you're wondering. Yes I am single and I currently have no one I'm seeing... so don't worry, I'm not one of those people who is in a relationship and who thinks they know it all because they're no longer single. I dislike those people because they just blow sanctimonious smoke up your ass and pass it off as wisdom. Most of their "wisdom" is idealistic bullshit they never believed when they were single themselves and would be dating suicide if you followed it today. Seriously, the only advice people in relationships are good at is how to stay single! :laugh:

Like most generalisations, there are exceptions but they are few and far between!)

[gavi]

Historically, I have always been the one to initiate a conversation and then initiate a relationship with a guy. Perhaps this is why my relationships are doomed?

INTJDownUnder, what kinds of places do you go to meet potential mates? Cafes, libraries, farmer's markets? I need help finding someone just like me, and am afraid the internet might be the only arena for this...

to initiate the conversation is OK, as long as you do it in a non aggressive way.
to initiate the relationship is not so OK. try to be more patient and have him to show a very strong interest.

internet is the best, I think. but most INTJ guys do not say they are so because of some negative INTJ profiles published in the net.
We are so few and we often wear a mask. it is really rare to meet us and to identify us.

look in those best universities where people study really hard, and tough subjects such as math, physics, law, business/economics.
look in parks (but not at saturday/sunday when there are people: in the hours where the park is almost empty).
look in quiet places, not noisy places. so a cafe might be good, but when it is quit empty. maybe somebody studying in it in a rainy day.

[Coralaisly]

Dude, hope is totally a strategy.

If you printed that, verbatim, on a shirt, I would totally buy it.

[Teonas]

Hi, I just wanna ask what you would think about this personals ad I posted on one site(it´s a normal site so nothing intelectual). I´m not posting anything here because probability of a girl from Czech Rep. being here is about the same as that i´ll spontaniously quantum teleport myself to school today....

Keep in mind that I´m now trying to translate it to english....so it´s maybe not that accurate.

I´m looking for a positive woman/girl, which doesn´t want to be alone throught those long winter evenings. Are you a non-smoker, do you believe in yourself, are you honest, you´re not a "teenager" */i put it there because i´m only 21/* but you still don´t take everything too seriously, are you from */areas/*? If you are not just a figment of my imagination, then you should look at my profile and write me back. In relationship I look for love, understanding and compatibility. At least I can try to look for that last thing in this way*/i mean the site/*, so discretion is advised....foto is appreciated, because mutual attraction is also important.

I would write it longer but it has to be only 500 characters(text in Czech has exactly 500letters:-). Informations about me are in my profile(quite a lot, but normal for this type of thing) and I have it posted with my headshot-i mean photo of my face, not somebody i´ve shot to the head, that doesn´t happen to me that often these days:-).

So what do you think of my personal? Could i write it even better?
Thanks.

[Rohsiph]

Teonas -- giving benefit of doubt that the grammar scans (works out stylistically and informationally) better in Czech, well . . . blunt: it reads like a million short summaries. You make it sound like you're a totally normal guy looking for a totally normal girl. If this is what you're after, mission accomplished . . . but I'd try to work in something that separates you from the crowd (why should anyone deign to click through to your profile vs any of the plethora just like it?)

I just updated a profile myself, though yet again I'm guessing the rurality of my present home-area will mean I am entirely ignored:


About me:

I once saw a play called Ragnarok. It was performed in a church atop a long table. A shirtless, slender man played the role of Loki, and his voice still inspires me--to be free, to tip scales, to commandeer worlds and make my life my own; even if, in the end, my sons are destined to tear each other to shreds that their blood can slick the tabernacle of my punishment.

I am free-willed. I believe in the necessity of good with evil, the need for suffering alongside pleasure. I seek the extremities of experience to condition my self-awareness like few have ever managed. I aim to be a modern-day Ulysses goaded by the soul of Lucifer, a Prometheus of innovation with the heart of Sigurd fallen in Gudrun's tragic arms.

Accomplishments:
I am a God. I killed God. I am the Universe. I caused the end of eternity. I am a thousand contradictions. I am Reason through death's conviction. I am the am. I have a million eyes.

Who I'd like to meet:
You are a complete person. You understand it is better to learn of life than to feel always safe. You know security is a lie and this Universe favors no one. You inspire the deepest of thoughts, and do not fear to cultivate the darkest rooms of your awareness.

[Teonas]

Thanks Rohsiph. Thats probably what i´m after, but maybe i would like something that could separate from the crowd, but i can´t think of anything what could attract someone compatible with an INTJ in 500 letters.....i try, but i probably leave it like that.

Sorry to hear about the rurality.....I live in rural area myself, but study at uni at a quite large city(350000p)...not much for american cityes:-).
Everybody would say that you have to move somewhere else, but i don´t think that it´s easy and even wise to move out only because of women.....

[Lineplunger]

Just curious, Im an INTJ and have a very hard time finding people like myself, esp single women.

[Sazeriel]

Finding people I get along with is very hard, so therefore I have an extremely hard time finding guys I feel compatabile with. Why is being an INTJ so hard, yet completely satisfying at times?

[GreenBulldog]

My profile:

"Look, I know you women have it difficult. Women have this impossible image to uphold. In this world where image is everything, you’re in an impossible balance between what people say you should do and what you want to do. What I mean by that is, women like sex just as much as men do, maybe even more, but society values women based on how small the number of men they were with and the “virtuous” type of sex they had with them. Women do their best between a rock and a hard place and I salute you.

But please, please, stop with the game playing already. I understand your situation, but there are men who LOVE women who can be freakish and appreciate their true nature; and not make them “locker room talk.” There are men who don’t believe in the double standard. Goodgadalmight, get to it and stop the head game already.

You KNOW I want to f--k you and you KNOW you want to get f--ked too. Let go of the bullsh*t“social conditioning” and be who you really are.

OK, I know it's scary. There are lots of men out there who make things really difficult. So, I have compiled some of things I hope to do together with you. Don't think of this as complaining, or as schadenfreude for the Andrea Dworkins of the world. Just some simple tips, for timid women who have forgotten what it means to f**k like women:

1. Communication is key. Tell me what you like or don't like. I tend push boundaries sometimes. If it makes you uncomfortable, just say so and I'll pull back. A woman's assertiveness is a turn on and I'm up for the give and take.

2. I realize every woman is different and what they like is unique to each individual. Therefore, I’m going TO ASK what you like. If I wiggle my fingers around your **** like I’m trying to tickle you or I drum your fingertips against your vulva like I’m impatiently waiting at the Sears Tire Center for my receipt or I push the clit like it’s a doorbell at some house that I need to get inside of, TELL ME! I’ll comply with what you like.

3. I'm upfront and straightforward with my intentions and desires. Speaking of honesty, I'm not looking for for anything SERIOUS from the beginning. All my relationships start casual and develop into something serious if we both like each other. In other words, friends with benefits first, then if we BOTH decide to get into a relationship, that'll be fine.

4. I'm into free-spirited women who have no hang-ups about being a sexual being. I don't judge women based on how much or what kind of sex they had with how many men. I'd treat a virgin the same way I would a porn star. Actually, I'd treat the porn star better because she doesn't buy into what people say she should be, which makes for unhappy people anyways.

5. Safe sex is important. I don't want you to become a pregger, and I don't want to catch anything. I don’t get as hard and it’s hard to cum, so COMMUNICATION about how to sex better (AGAIN, #2) is important.

6. Feel free to make noise, because I will too. Otherwise, I’ll feel like I’m fucking a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into my room with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise. Either way, if you're not feeling it please TELL ME (see #1) so I can do it better! Last thing I need is a D-rated porn actress.

7. I REALLY LIKE IT WHEN YOU CUM! Seeing you in ecstasy is one of the most gratifying things EVER! Seeing you quiver and shake makes me want to **** you even harder. However, it takes time to learn your body. Help me expedite the process by telling me how you like it. If you don’t know, we’ll explore together. I like to explore your body as much you like to explore yours.

In addition to being straight forward about your sexual desires, you need to be straight forward about your sexual limits. Don't be afraid to ask for more, but when something feels wrong, say so. Don't ever do something you don't want to do in silence and then blame me. Silence is dangerous for the both of us."

[Mogura]

My profile:

"Look, I know you women have it difficult. Women have this impossible image to uphold. In this world where image is everything, you’re in an impossible balance between what people say you should do and what you want to do. What I mean by that is, women like sex just as much as men do, maybe even more, but society values women based on how small the number of men they were with and the “virtuous” type of sex they had with them. Women do their best between a rock and a hard place and I salute you.

But please, please, stop with the game playing already. I understand your situation, but there are men who LOVE women who can be freakish and appreciate their true nature; and not make them “locker room talk.” There are men who don’t believe in the double standard. Goodgadalmight, get to it and stop the head game already.

You KNOW I want to f--k you and you KNOW you want to get f--ked too. Let go of the bullsh*t“social conditioning” and be who you really are.

OK, I know it's scary. There are lots of men out there who make things really difficult. So, I have compiled some of things I hope to do together with you. Don't think of this as complaining, or as schadenfreude for the Andrea Dworkins of the world. Just some simple tips, for timid women who have forgotten what it means to f**k like women:

1. Communication is key. Tell me what you like or don't like. I tend push boundaries sometimes. If it makes you uncomfortable, just say so and I'll pull back. A woman's assertiveness is a turn on and I'm up for the give and take.

2. I realize every woman is different and what they like is unique to each individual. Therefore, I’m going TO ASK what you like. If I wiggle my fingers around your **** like I’m trying to tickle you or I drum your fingertips against your vulva like I’m impatiently waiting at the Sears Tire Center for my receipt or I push the clit like it’s a doorbell at some house that I need to get inside of, TELL ME! I’ll comply with what you like.

3. I'm upfront and straightforward with my intentions and desires. Speaking of honesty, I'm not looking for for anything SERIOUS from the beginning. All my relationships start casual and develop into something serious if we both like each other. In other words, friends with benefits first, then if we BOTH decide to get into a relationship, that'll be fine.

4. I'm into free-spirited women who have no hang-ups about being a sexual being. I don't judge women based on how much or what kind of sex they had with how many men. I'd treat a virgin the same way I would a porn star. Actually, I'd treat the porn star better because she doesn't buy into what people say she should be, which makes for unhappy people anyways.

5. Safe sex is important. I don't want you to become a pregger, and I don't want to catch anything. I don’t get as hard and it’s hard to cum, so COMMUNICATION about how to sex better (AGAIN, #2) is important.

6. Feel free to make noise, because I will too. Otherwise, I’ll feel like I’m fucking a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into my room with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise. Either way, if you're not feeling it please TELL ME (see #1) so I can do it better! Last thing I need is a D-rated porn actress.

7. I REALLY LIKE IT WHEN YOU CUM! Seeing you in ecstasy is one of the most gratifying things EVER! Seeing you quiver and shake makes me want to **** you even harder. However, it takes time to learn your body. Help me expedite the process by telling me how you like it. If you don’t know, we’ll explore together. I like to explore your body as much you like to explore yours.

In addition to being straight forward about your sexual desires, you need to be straight forward about your sexual limits. Don't be afraid to ask for more, but when something feels wrong, say so. Don't ever do something you don't want to do in silence and then blame me. Silence is dangerous for the both of us."

One quick question. Is that a serious profile, or are you just taking a piss?

[GreenBulldog]

One quick question. Is that a serious profile, or are you just taking a piss?

I'm DEAD serious.

I believe women should be able to fuck who they want to fuck without guilt or judgment from others.

Also, I believe in being honest because it prevents manipulative head games.

[Mogura]

I'm DEAD serious.

I believe women should be able to fuck who they want to fuck without guilt or judgment from others.

Also, I believe in being honest because it prevents manipulative head games.

Have you posted your profile anywhere yet (besides here)? If so, what sort of responses do you typically receive?

[GreenBulldog]

Have you posted your profile anywhere yet (besides here)? If so, what sort of responses do you typically receive?

OKcupid and plentyoffish.

I get positive responses from women on the same wavelength with me on OKcupid. On plentyoffish, I get nothing, but that could be from me never emailing unlike OKcupid and I have "intimate encounter" which switches on women social programming.

If you're asking about efficacy, I need to ask you what you want?

For example, I'm trying to weed out women who want marriage and monogamous relationship and eliminate attention whores and manipulative game players.

This, to me, is the most important thing.

[ThePhoenix]

Hmmmm.... Somewhere, there has to be a humorous note made on the fact that this thread is almost entirely devoted to inherently introverted individuals trying to help each other be extroverted enough to find a mate/date/soulmate/whatever the heck they are.... :)

[paleoeco]

Hmmmm.... Somewhere, there has to be a humorous note made on the fact that this thread is almost entirely devoted to inherently introverted individuals trying to help each other be extroverted enough to find a mate/date/soulmate/whatever the heck they are.... :)

That note: irony.

[gestalt]

I am young, finally ready again, and arrow-proof.

My Self-Summary
I like ketchup on my potatoes/eggs and hand-pressed coffee. Can be extremely stubborn. Was at one time quite affectionate now not so much. I don't like telephones, highfalutin opining, or very small dogs lol. Expert at computers and technical things. I know what I don't know, which is a lot. Average emotional IQ. MBTI: INTJ - I can't believe I'm putting such a thing in a self-summary, I guess it's because I want a 'summary' - yeah right - to be accurate and precise and I think the MBTI describes my cognitive processes well...

What I’m doing with my life
College. Getting rid of debt. All kinds of boring stuff.

I’m really good at
Information Technology, talking smart in class. Writing, sometimes. Uncomfortable being the center of attention socially, love being the center of attention academically or in the workplace. I am great at hamming it up and good for poignant commentary on movies and other entertainment.

The first things people usually notice about me
Height (6'4"), body (I swim 5/7days), voice timbre, and get this, my fingers. Seriously!

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
[BOOKS]
The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell, Use Enough Gun by Ernest Hemingway, Spell of the Sensuous by David Abram for books. Arrow to the Sun, Gnomes, Thrump-O-Moto, East of the Sun West of the Moon, The Giving Tree, Paddle to the Sea.

[MOVIES]
The Big Lebowski, Gattaca, In God's Hands, Being John Malkovich for movies.

[MUSIC]
House music, Greg Brown, Van Morrison, Soul and the Blues, some Rap.

The six things I could never do without
Ice water. Libraries. Comfortable shoes and socks. My nose. Dragsuit. Shaving this face. Peanut butter. Light heartedness. The season of Fall. Debit card. Quicken/Mint. Coffee is up there. Glasses. Me time. Hope.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
How not to sweat the small stuff.

On a typical Friday night I am
Watching a movie or reading a book or chatting deep on the Internet somewhere.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
Hrm. Probably that one of my oldest hobbies was/is a text-based online game. Not proud of such a quirky thing, much less a game, but it has taught me a lot about nerds and computers, and how many people who play games are not nerds but very interesting and cool people too.

You should message me if
You are brave, interested (It's hard to get to know ppl online) and I don't know, would enjoy a fair and easy bit of conversation or sharing some brilliant new experience somewhere.

[Yuan]

Alright... why not give it a try i guess...

Yuan is my username, but i'm not Chinese, I just found that name... different. I'm from the Dominican Republic (regardless of the impossible difference that exist between my culture and myself), but I live in the Bronx, NY. I am tanned, tall 5 10, and have nice hair thanks to my mother - dead, brown hair, combed to the sides. Small, thick, well shaped lips, fine nose (?...) and finally, a lean body. I keep trying to mold my body into fine muscles, but ... i'll manage it someday soon! I keep saying. So i tend respect guys who are are muscular, it requires a lot more commitment than just staying in shape.

My external life is simple - I go to college, go back home, play video games, read/study and chat online. I occasionally go out on weekends for dinner, a movie... or both. I might go to a museum, but i'm generally mostly home.

In contrast, my internal life is complex - of course, as an INTJ, i am ALWAYS thinking. The main general topic i think about is self-improvement. There are errors in my personality code, i keep trying to rewrite them. In relation to this i can mention my annoying procrastination, which stops me from doing college work (although, surprisingly, i have managed to keep my GPA at 3.5). Other things i try to fix is how i behave around my family, as i have little patience for them, especially my brother who is an ENFJ (no offense ENFJs, i'm sure there are good ones out there! hopefully).

Current sports I spend time on: Swimming and cycling.

Two of my main flaws: I worry too much about simple things. I hope someday i manage to just go with the good and the bad in a similar manner. My other flaw is that i have a low frustration threshold. For example, I get annoyed after 3 mins of trying to put a small screw in a tiny hole (I actually did this a week ago, on my glasses, I was getting so frustrated!).

Something embarrassing about me - I tried to think of an embarrassing trait, but my INTP friend thinks the screw incident is embarrassing enough *sigh.*

Future plans: Volunteer at the AC&C (animal care center) because I want a husky dog but can't have one right now :(.

So, what am I looking for in a girl?
Someone who instead of arguing wants to discuss a topic. Conversation is key to all types of relationships!
That person must be attractive to me, for I need to be sexually interested in the person. This coupled with the following traits, or some of them, makes up the girl I would want in my life:
a learner, thinker-smart, creative, adventurous, playful, calm, nice, respectful, happy, caring; and a must have, *interested in growing as a person* because everyone has ugly things in their personalities, but these ugly things are not as ugly when the person wants to eliminate them.

If i chose the things i cared about the most in that list, it would be thinker-smart, playful, calm and caring.

Comments appreciated

Let us see then...

[postem]

Hi there, i subscribed to an local online dating site, i think its a good place to look for. However i do think that the words i did put on my profile are far from drawing any intended attention. I think i was just too descritive. If there is any woman or man around that could suggest me some words i would be happy.

Follow are the words that i put:

"About me"

Im driven by studies and cultural activities. I dont like much to go out, prefering personal activities. I do prefer small than bigger groups. Movies, trips, expositions are things i like to do. I dont apreciate popular ritms like funk (this one is bad funk variant from rio, Brazil that is popular here), axe (another one) and forro. I dont drink alcoolic beverages.

"About who i want"

I want someone that is inteligent, smart, but with a sense of humor. Independence is interesting too, i do like people who think by their own. My interest is to have an more stable relationship, but only time can say that.

Any suggestions?

[Reeds]

I've done a few internet personal blog thing but I find that being 1% of the population and reading the profiles of the other 99% very disheartening. I mean really they all seem to be 'living life to the full' what does that even mean, is this an achievement they can give specifics on, or is it as I fear, a cliché, for which, if pressed, they couldn’t really tell you what they meant by it.

I can’t count the number of them who ‘love walking along the beach’; did they get this from a Mills & Boon book, any way it must be very crowded on the coast with them all there. But the real killer for me is… “Down to earth and/or happy go lucky” I’ve now learnt to interpret that as “I have no opinions on anything other than the footy.”

If I write as me – you get NO responses – I can’t help that I’m not a bubbly, brain dead, pink fluffy sort of person!

So have I sold ya yet? :p

Female, 41, Professional, Classic INTJ, Australian – that’s as good a place as any to start. :p

[postem]

I've done a few internet personal blog thing but I find that being 1% of the population and reading the profiles of the other 99% very disheartening. I mean really they all seem to be 'living life to the full' what does that even mean, is this an achievement they can give specifics on, or is it as I fear, a cliché, for which, if pressed, they couldn’t really tell you what they meant by it.

I can’t count the number of them who ‘love walking along the beach’; did they get this from a Mills & Boon book, any way it must be very crowded on the coast with them all there. But the real killer for me is… “Down to earth and/or happy go lucky” I’ve now learnt to interpret that as “I have no opinions on anything other than the footy.”

If I write as me – you get NO responses – I can’t help that I’m not a bubbly, brain dead, pink fluffy sort of person!

So have I sold ya yet? :p

Female, 41, Professional, Classic INTJ, Australian – that’s as good a place as any to start. :p


Damn... i could fake something, but it sould ridiculous as i just think about it. I know a lot of guys who would just put anything fluffy just to get some sex, but im not looking for this (at least not only this).
Maybe my profile isnt the worse.. perhaps the 117 kg weight on profile is of some trouble.

[Bene Gesserit]

My profile:

"Look, I know you women have it difficult. Women have this impossible image to uphold. In this world where image is everything, you’re in an impossible balance between what people say you should do and what you want to do. What I mean by that is, women like sex just as much as men do, maybe even more, but society values women based on how small the number of men they were with and the “virtuous” type of sex they had with them. Women do their best between a rock and a hard place and I salute you.

But please, please, stop with the game playing already. I understand your situation, but there are men who LOVE women who can be freakish and appreciate their true nature; and not make them “locker room talk.” There are men who don’t believe in the double standard. Goodgadalmight, get to it and stop the head game already.

You KNOW I want to f--k you and you KNOW you want to get f--ked too. Let go of the bullsh*t“social conditioning” and be who you really are.

OK, I know it's scary. There are lots of men out there who make things really difficult. So, I have compiled some of things I hope to do together with you. Don't think of this as complaining, or as schadenfreude for the Andrea Dworkins of the world. Just some simple tips, for timid women who have forgotten what it means to f**k like women:

1. Communication is key. Tell me what you like or don't like. I tend push boundaries sometimes. If it makes you uncomfortable, just say so and I'll pull back. A woman's assertiveness is a turn on and I'm up for the give and take.

2. I realize every woman is different and what they like is unique to each individual. Therefore, I’m going TO ASK what you like. If I wiggle my fingers around your **** like I’m trying to tickle you or I drum your fingertips against your vulva like I’m impatiently waiting at the Sears Tire Center for my receipt or I push the clit like it’s a doorbell at some house that I need to get inside of, TELL ME! I’ll comply with what you like.

3. I'm upfront and straightforward with my intentions and desires. Speaking of honesty, I'm not looking for for anything SERIOUS from the beginning. All my relationships start casual and develop into something serious if we both like each other. In other words, friends with benefits first, then if we BOTH decide to get into a relationship, that'll be fine.

4. I'm into free-spirited women who have no hang-ups about being a sexual being. I don't judge women based on how much or what kind of sex they had with how many men. I'd treat a virgin the same way I would a porn star. Actually, I'd treat the porn star better because she doesn't buy into what people say she should be, which makes for unhappy people anyways.

5. Safe sex is important. I don't want you to become a pregger, and I don't want to catch anything. I don’t get as hard and it’s hard to cum, so COMMUNICATION about how to sex better (AGAIN, #2) is important.

6. Feel free to make noise, because I will too. Otherwise, I’ll feel like I’m fucking a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into my room with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise. Either way, if you're not feeling it please TELL ME (see #1) so I can do it better! Last thing I need is a D-rated porn actress.

7. I REALLY LIKE IT WHEN YOU CUM! Seeing you in ecstasy is one of the most gratifying things EVER! Seeing you quiver and shake makes me want to **** you even harder. However, it takes time to learn your body. Help me expedite the process by telling me how you like it. If you don’t know, we’ll explore together. I like to explore your body as much you like to explore yours.

In addition to being straight forward about your sexual desires, you need to be straight forward about your sexual limits. Don't be afraid to ask for more, but when something feels wrong, say so. Don't ever do something you don't want to do in silence and then blame me. Silence is dangerous for the both of us."

thanks for your honesty. I am a woman, but i can realate to most of your "demands/wishes"

[Yuan]

I've done a few internet personal blog thing but I find that being 1% of the population and reading the profiles of the other 99% very disheartening. I mean really they all seem to be 'living life to the full' what does that even mean, is this an achievement they can give specifics on, or is it as I fear, a cliché, for which, if pressed, they couldn’t really tell you what they meant by it.

I can’t count the number of them who ‘love walking along the beach’; did they get this from a Mills & Boon book, any way it must be very crowded on the coast with them all there. But the real killer for me is… “Down to earth and/or happy go lucky” I’ve now learnt to interpret that as “I have no opinions on anything other than the footy.”

If I write as me – you get NO responses – I can’t help that I’m not a bubbly, brain dead, pink fluffy sort of person!

So have I sold ya yet? :p

Female, 41, Professional, Classic INTJ, Australian – that’s as good a place as any to start. :p
I really agree with those comments you made lol. I've seen many profiles and most mention at least one of those details. "live life to the fullest" GAH! ... "I do not use logic. I do everything I want to do NOW period. By the way, I dance at clubs everyday." It really is disheartening to see 99% of those profiles be like that. By the way, what really got me was the way you turned them nicely into a joke. "It must be very crowded on the coast" simply great lol.

[Reeds]

I really agree with those comments you made lol. I've seen many profiles and most mention at least one of those details. "live life to the fullest" GAH! ... "I do not use logic. I do everything I want to do NOW period. By the way, I dance at clubs everyday." It really is disheartening to see 99% of those profiles be like that. By the way, what really got me was the way you turned them nicely into a joke. "It must be very crowded on the coast" simply great lol.

Thanks :)
More despair is to come when you realise that the other half, which are not camped out at the beach, are giving detailed descriptions of their exercise regime or about their favourite sporting teams Or talking (sometimes there photos!) about the biggest fish they caught or the motorbikes/cars they race. Surely that is a profile for attracting another man!?

I did read one the other day saying he liked to drink daily and so must his partner – and I thought I’m soooo there – not :p

[GreenBulldog]

thanks for your honesty. I am a woman, but i can realate to most of your "demands/wishes"

I'm glad you liked it, but "social programming" keep women from responding to profile like these.

[Reeds]

I'm glad you liked it, but "social programming" keep women from responding to profile like these.

I disagree - when I read a profle that jumps straight to sex - I can't help but think thats a conversation that happens when we have at least said 'Hello....' For those looking only for sex I'm sure it will work and I'm sure there are women out there who might respond to it as the first instant, that all they were seeking. I also sure for most of us we are looking for something more than just sex. I don't respond to those sorts of profiles as the guy is only interested in sex and I' looking for something more. I'm not saying its bad what you have said, you have made your intentions and purpose clear, I just question the timing of such a converstaion as your first introduction to someome.

As an INTJ, I'm a private person and tend to repell those who assume on a relationship before there is one. For me that converstation happens once I know you and we are moving in that direction.

[GreenBulldog]

I disagree - when I read a profle that jumps straight to sex - I can't help but think thats a conversation that happens when we have at least said 'Hello....' For those looking only for sex I'm sure it will work and I'm sure there are women out there who might respond to it as the first instant, that all they were seeking. I also sure for most of us we are looking for something more than just sex. I don't respond to those sorts of profiles as the guy is only interested in sex and I' looking for something more. I'm not saying its bad what you have said, you have made your intentions and purpose clear, I just question the timing of such a converstaion as your first introduction to someome.

As an INTJ, I'm a private person and tend to repell those who assume on a relationship before there is one. For me that converstation happens once I know you and we are moving in that direction.

You don't respond because you're looking for something more, which is fine.

However, even women who are just looking for sex are hesitant to respond to those because of social programming.

[Dru]

I'm glad you liked it, but "social programming" keep women from responding to profile like these.

yours was perhaps the only post i've read so far that made any sort of impression on me. congratulations, you're interesting. :cheesy:

[Reeds]

You don't respond because you're looking for something more, which is fine.

However, even women who are just looking for sex are hesitant to respond to those because of social programming.


I guess two things occur - that most women aren't looking for just sex (I'm sure that there are a few, but I have to confess I don't know if any - even if they are just looking for something casual there is still an expectation of liking/respecting the guy) and on one level you are right, there is a social convention that calls women sluts, and men studs, for the exact same behaviour. Still I wonder, even for a woman just looking for sex, that this approach is too detailed as if it was already a long and lasting relationship. Surely casual means keeping it casual.

A few years ago I saw a doco where they planted two attractive people one male and one female to go up to strangers and say something like, "I'm sorry to approach you out of the blue, I don't normally do this but you are so striking and attractive and I wondered if you'd sleep with me." Of all the people approached none of the women said yes but almost all of the men did. Their conclusion, from a biological point of view, was that women have few eggs, have to invest a great deal in being preggers and therefore want a partner who can support them and is worth the effort and evolution has developed them to be selective in whom they procreate with, to achieve this.
(They also concluded that male sperm being so plentiful and the evolutionary desire to spread ones genetic material so strong that is was this that motivate the men – they weren’t just being sluts :p)

So while there is a social convention, there is also a biological one. Its the nature nuture thing again.

[Rohsiph]

By now it's hard to say if it's because of my location, my physical appearance, or what I've written. Probably a combination, as far as I can tell least-important is my appearance.

But, 3 months since overhauling my profile, I'm yet to receive the slightest intimation. The only responses I've gotten are in this thread.

The world continues leading me to believe no one "normal" wants anything to do with someone like me. I am: creative, honest, passionate, intense. They want comfort that I could never provide. In a twisted way it's fine--if they gave me 'regular comfort' I wonder if it might lead me to betray my own convictions.

And I continue digging beyond my location for profiles that pique my curiosity. They don't seem to exist. All too normal. Can't begin to share the extent of my loathing for women who insist upon "no head games," like it's only men who 'play' them and they could be at all standard, whatever the hell they even are.

[GreenBulldog]

I guess two things occur - that most women aren't looking for just sex (I'm sure that there are a few, but I have to confess I don't know if any - even if they are just looking for something casual there is still an expectation of liking/respecting the guy) and on one level you are right, there is a social convention that calls women sluts, and men studs, for the exact same behaviour. Still I wonder, even for a woman just looking for sex, that this approach is too detailed as if it was already a long and lasting relationship. Surely casual means keeping it casual.

A few years ago I saw a doco where they planted two attractive people one male and one female to go up to strangers and say something like, "I'm sorry to approach you out of the blue, I don't normally do this but you are so striking and attractive and I wondered if you'd sleep with me." Of all the people approached none of the women said yes but almost all of the men did. Their conclusion, from a biological point of view, was that women have few eggs, have to invest a great deal in being preggers and therefore want a partner who can support them and is worth the effort and evolution has developed them to be selective in whom they procreate with, to achieve this.
(They also concluded that male sperm being so plentiful and the evolutionary desire to spread ones genetic material so strong that is was this that motivate the men – they weren’t just being sluts :p)

So while there is a social convention, there is also a biological one. Its the nature nuture thing again.

You like to complicate things?

I'm not going to disagree with what you said though.

Think about this: All women want sex. As much as men if not more. They would rather have a stiff one in them than spend a night alone.

If no stigma was attached-the subjective criticisms, the negative labels, the guilt, and the judgment-to women having sex with a different guy every night just because she likes the pleasure, then what would happen?

Even better, lets say women have the power to erase everyone's memory, including all the different guys they sleep with every night, whenever they want to. That way, no one would know what they do every night. What do you think will happen then?

---------- Post added 12-22-2009 at 09:16 PM ----------

yours was perhaps the only post i've read so far that made any sort of impression on me. congratulations, you're interesting. :cheesy:

Thanks. I'm glad you like what I wrote.

Are you single and live in the Bay Area? (Ha, ha. No harm in trying.)

[Dru]

If no stigma was attached-the subjective criticisms, the negative labels, the guilt, and the judgment-to women having sex with a different guy every night just because she likes the pleasure, then what would happen?

i'd throw 98% of my inhibitions out the window, that's what. despite being aware of the double standard and finding it absolutely deplorable - not to mention pointless, nowadays - i am subject to its whims.

Even better, lets say women have the power to erase everyone's memory, including all the different guys they sleep with every night, whenever they want to. That way, no one would know what they do every night. What do you think will happen then?

same thing really :cheesy:
i like the first scenario better though.


Thanks. I'm glad you like what I wrote.

Are you single and live in the Bay Area? (Ha, ha. No harm in trying.)

single, yes. unfortunately for you, i live in michigan... so, yeah, it's unfortunate for me also. the weather is horrible this time of year.

[GreenBulldog]

i'd throw 98% of my inhibitions out the window, that's what. despite being aware of the double standard and finding it absolutely deplorable - not to mention pointless, nowadays - i am subject to its whims.


True. As much as one can say, "I don't care what others think" it doesn't always work like that. Personally, that's how I'm trying to be, but I'm not there...yet.


same thing really :cheesy:
i like the first scenario better though.


I'm reminded of the movie, "Men in Black."


single, yes. unfortunately for you, i live in michigan... so, yeah, it's unfortunate for me also. the weather is horrible this time of year.

Damn. Unfortunate for the both of us.

Just to clarify, it's unfortunate for you because the weather is bad AND you live far from me. LOL!

[Dru]

True. As much as one can say, "I don't care what others think" it doesn't always work like that. Personally, that's how I'm trying to be, but I'm not there...yet.

same. i'm still fuming about how my sister - my christian sister, might i add - has already labeled me as 'promiscuous' because of my first one-night stand... although i've only actually slept with two people. =/

i suppose i should get around to making a personal profile for myself to post, instead of simply commenting on others' posts... meh *procrastinates*

I'm reminded of the movie, "Men in Black."



Damn. Unfortunate for the both of us.

Just to clarify, it's unfortunate for you because the weather is bad AND you live far from me. LOL!

but more unfortunate for you, for the same reason. they don't make 'em like me in san francisco. :p

i'm the new, i'm the new new model! *dances*

[Reeds]

You like to complicate things?

No I just don't over simplfy them on a single cause.


I'm not going to disagree with what you said though.

Think about this: All women want sex. As much as men if not more. They would rather have a stiff one in them than spend a night alone.


Now was that from Raw or Delirious? I'm not going to disagree with you either BUT not just any stiff one - damn we can be fussy :p


If no stigma was attached-the subjective criticisms, the negative labels, the guilt, and the judgment-to women having sex with a different guy every night just because she likes the pleasure, then what would happen?

Even better, lets say women have the power to erase everyone's memory, including all the different guys they sleep with every night, whenever they want to. That way, no one would know what they do every night. What do you think will happen then?


We would all be sleep deprived? :suspicious:

Anyway good luck in your quest.

[GreenBulldog]

but more unfortunate for you, for the same reason. they don't make 'em like me in san francisco. :p

i'm the new, i'm the new new model! *dances*

Reeeeeeeeeeeeealy???

Let me know if you come down to the Bay Area.

I'm curious to see the new models.

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Now was that from Raw or Delirious? I'm not going to disagree with you either BUT not just any stiff one - damn we can be fussy :p


I don't remember which one, but it was from Eddie Murphy.


We would all be sleep deprived? :suspicious:


LOL!

[Bene Gesserit]

Think about this: All women want sex. As much as men if not more.

I think its a tie there


They would rather have a stiff one in them than spend a night alone.

Wrong !

---------- Post added 12-23-2009 at 09:09 PM ----------

I'm glad you liked it, but "social programming" keep women from responding to profile like these.

Well i dont care about social programming. All my life i have been label for being loos/ easy, even tho i have never been that way. :p
When i have asked why i got resons like:
speak to opent about sex, and thats like an inventation ! ( the same persons then aks me for advise in sex !!!):rolleyes:

You are too good loking, hmm again a stubit answer, like all women who looks good, have no morale in sex !!!:stunned:
and so on

Why i dont resond to your profile, well its simpel, i have never respondet to a profile. And i look for more then sex. :alien:

Sex i can always get, like almost all women, soo i need much more then that, and that i cant see in your profile. :suspicious:

What can you offer besides sex ?, if your are looking for a relationship, well how about shering some of your interest, wishes for the future and soo on. Come on make me curious to get to know you

[Yuan]

I think its a tie there



Wrong !

---------- Post added 12-23-2009 at 09:09 PM ----------



Well i dont care about social programming. All my life i have been label for being loos/ easy, even tho i have never been that way. :p
When i have asked why i got resons like:
speak to opent about sex, and thats like an inventation ! ( the same persons then aks me for advise in sex !!!):rolleyes:

You are too good loking, hmm again a stubit answer, like all women who looks good, have no morale in sex !!!:stunned:
and so on

Why i dont resond to your profile, well its simpel, i have never respondet to a profile. And i look for more then sex. :alien:

Sex i can always get, like almost all women, soo i need much more then that, and that i cant see in your profile. :suspicious:

What can you offer besides sex ?, if your are looking for a relationship, well how about shering some of your interest, wishes for the future and soo on. Come on make me curious to get to know you
The interesting thing about this conversation you're having with the guy is that he seemed to have caught your attention and others' as well...

[Bene Gesserit]

The interesting thing about this conversation you're having with the guy is that he seemed to have caught your attention and others' as well...



Caught my attention yes. see him as a potiental partner, based on the tekst nope ;)

[GreenBulldog]

Wrong !


Really?

Well, as Reeds said, "not just ANY stiff one." I could understand that as I don't want just ANY hole either.

However, are you telling me that you would rather NOT have sex than to have sex with men you find attractive both physically and mentally?

What if the social norms was that a woman's value DOES NOT depend on the number of men she slept with? You can have sex with attractive men until you find "the perfect one" who can provide you with more than sex.

What would happen then? Would you still say you rather sleep alone than have guilt and judgment-free sex?


Well i dont care about social programming. All my life i have been label for being loos/ easy, even tho i have never been that way. :p
When i have asked why i got resons like:
speak to opent about sex, and thats like an inventation ! ( the same persons then aks me for advise in sex !!!):rolleyes:

You are too good loking, hmm again a stubit answer, like all women who looks good, have no morale in sex !!!:stunned:
and so on


Preaching to the choir here. People can be so judgmental and stupid, which is why I preach what I do in my profile.


Why i dont resond to your profile, well its simpel, i have never respondet to a profile. And i look for more then sex. :alien:


That's cool. You have to know what you want.

But think about what I said earlier: Do you think the "right man" for you will think you have less value as a woman if you had lot of men in the past? Is that at least part of the reason you won't respond to a profile like mine? Is that at least part of the reason you won't keep me (or someone you find attractive) as a fuck buddy until you find the right man?


Sex i can always get, like almost all women, soo i need much more then that, and that i cant see in your profile. :suspicious:

What can you offer besides sex ?, if your are looking for a relationship, well how about shering some of your interest, wishes for the future and soo on. Come on make me curious to get to know you

Besides my incredibly good-looks and charm? LOL!

Joking aside, you should be able to tell from what I wrote I offer non-judgmental acceptance. I also don't believe in "social norms" that robs people of happiness. Do you think those apply only to sex?

That alone should say a lot about me, but that's if you don't get caught up in the sex part.

I could say more, but unless you live in the Bay Area, the point is mute.


The interesting thing about this conversation you're having with the guy is that he seemed to have caught your attention and others' as well...

What's your goal of having a profile? You just want to have a conversation?

Personally, I rather be ignored by women who are not looking for the same thing than to have a conversation that goes nowhere (this is a discussion board, so this place doesn't count).

[Yuan]

What's your goal of having a profile? You just want to have a conversation?

Personally, I rather be ignored by women who are not looking for the same thing than to have a conversation that goes nowhere (this is a discussion board, so this place doesn't count).

I was referring to the impact your profile made. You must admit your profile is very different from others. Your strange profile worked in creating a discussion, which is a success; you got the attention you probably hoped for.

My goal in having a profile is to have a conversation, yes, find a friend, which could grow into an intimate relationship, or not. I wouldn't mind being contacted by someone who is not looking for the same things I am and just be friends. However, I do have a greater hope to be contacted by someone who shares my interests. Alas, my hopes are not high. That is what it comes down to.

[GreenBulldog]

I was referring to the impact your profile made. You must admit your profile is very different from others. Your strange profile worked in creating a discussion, which is a success; you got the attention you probably hoped for.

It's a success if the goal is to JUST get attention and create a discussion. However, that's NOT my goal.

My profile is different from others. I'm upfront and straightforward, which makes me different. What makes you different?


My goal in having a profile is to have a conversation, yes, find a friend, which could grow into an intimate relationship, or not. I wouldn't mind being contacted by someone who is not looking for the same things I am and just be friends. However, I do have a greater hope to be contacted by someone who shares my interests. Alas, my hopes are not high. That is what it comes down to.

If that's your goal, fine. My goal is to be contacted only by someone who shares my interests.

[Bene Gesserit]

However, are you telling me that you would rather NOT have sex than to have sex with men you find attractive both physically and mentally?).

no if i find a man attractive physically, and have a lot in common with him, i would have sex with him, but not as a fact. Many facktors count here.

What if the social norms was that a woman's value DOES NOT depend on the number of men she slept with? You can have sex with attractive men until you find "the perfect one" who can provide you with more than sex.

What would happen then? Would you still say you rather sleep alone than have guilt and judgment-free sex? ? yes, i would rather sleep alone,if i cant turn on a mans mind, i cant do sex. soo the social norm dosent matter, at all.



Preaching to the choir here. People can be so judgmental and stupid, which is why I preach what I do in my profile. yea i liked that


That's cool. You have to know what you want.

yep

But think about what I said earlier: Do you think the "right man" for you will think you have less value as a woman if you had lot of men in the past? Is that at least part of the reason you won't respond to a profile like mine? Is that at least part of the reason you won't keep me (or someone you find attractive) as a fuck buddy until you find the right man?

no it takes a really long time for me to open and get close to anyone. and i am very very much intuitive and sensitive, soo sex well why settel for sex with a nice body and mind, when i can have the bedst. i mean the flows there is with a peson who sends out soo maney signals and so on, is the best sex ever, hard to explain. i know how to get perfeckt sex, and i a willing to have les sex and get that, then just fuck a lot, and "just" get the body experience. soo the short answer would bee, i want it all ;-)



Besides my incredibly good-looks and charm? LOL!

Joking aside, you should be able to tell from what I wrote I offer non-judgmental acceptance. I also don't believe in "social norms" that robs people of happiness. Do you think those apply only to sex?


i like your bluntnes, but then again, soo are all INTJ's and i just love that honest direckt talk. dont know if its only in sex you apply that, but if not, well tehn you could be Marry Manson (lol) og an angel, who knows, there is many nuances there, makes me curius about how you stand on moral and etics, where lies the line for you. just curius


That alone should say a lot about me, but that's if you don't get caught up in the sex part.

I could say more, but unless you live in the Bay Area, the point is mute.
well i don live in the Bay Area, soo lets mute the point ;-)


What's your goal of having a profile? You just want to have a conversation?
no conversation is great, and i like it here. for the first time i have found a place where pepole talkes about the same things i do, and have much of the same quistions to things as i do and soo on, i dont feel alone anymore. soo my goal, no goal, just a place i love to explore.


Personally, I rather be ignored by women who are not looking for the same thing than to have a conversation that goes nowhere (this is a discussion board, so this place doesn't count). lol saved by the bell. well good luck

[GreenBulldog]

no it takes a really long time for me to open and get close to anyone. and i am very very much intuitive and sensitive, soo sex well why settel for sex with a nice body and mind, when i can have the bedst. i mean the flows there is with a peson who sends out soo maney signals and so on, is the best sex ever, hard to explain. i know how to get perfeckt sex, and i a willing to have les sex and get that, then just fuck a lot, and "just" get the body experience. soo the short answer would bee, i want it all ;-)

If this is the position you want to maintain, that's fine. We're all different.

It just doesn't make sense to me. What you're saying to me sounds like even if you're hungry, you wouldn't eat until the best meal was served to you. You wont' be having lesser meals to tide you over until you get the best is what you're saying to me. There's no shame in having lesser meals, you know?


i like your bluntnes, but then again, soo are all INTJ's and i just love that honest direckt talk. dont know if its only in sex you apply that, but if not, well tehn you could be Marry Manson (lol) og an angel, who knows, there is many nuances there, makes me curius about how you stand on moral and etics, where lies the line for you. just curius


What do you think my ethics are?

How do you think a guy with the honest direct talk is?

[Dru]

Besides my incredibly good-looks and charm? LOL!

i call bluff. we need proof of this before the discussion can move any further.

it's pivotal to the conversation, see... you can't with reasonable expectations ask for sex if you're not sexy.

[GreenBulldog]

i call bluff. we need proof of this before the discussion can move any further.

it's pivotal to the conversation, see... you can't with reasonable expectations ask for sex if you're not sexy.

Uh, oh. She's telling me to put my money where my mouth is (although I was joking). Whether you find me good-looking or down right butt-ugly will depend on your taste in men.

I'll PM you a link to my profile which has my pics on it.

That's true. You can't have sex with someone you don't find physical attraction to.

[Dru]

Uh, oh. She's telling me to put my money where my mouth is (although I was joking). Whether you find me good-looking or down right butt-ugly will depend on your taste in men.

I'll PM you a link to my profile which has my pics on it.

That's true. You can't have sex with someone you don't find physical attraction to.

weeeeell... that's not necessarily true. it's just not quite as much fun that way. :p

[Thoth]

My profile. Input welcome, because I think I'm scaring girls away somehow. Maybe it's my height? (5'9" / 175cm)


I am porous, permeable, and pressurized.
My Self-Summary
MBTI: INTJ

I'm a pretty easy-going guy with a sarcastic sense of humor and a passion for anything I do. I speak a couple of different languages and have lived in a few different countries long enough to pick up some... entertaining... stories.

Like, I once regained consciousness with my face pressed to the passenger side window of a black BMW turning donuts in the courtyard of Moscow State University. The driver was some supposed chess champion named "Tigran" who kept insisting that "the circle" was the best defensive position. That's when I noticed the Kalashnikov-toting militiamen outside...

You think I'm lying, but I'm not.

I got chased away from a black-hole town in the South by an overwhelming population of cockroaches, and I settled here in Colorado for the cloudless climes and starry skies. I like to go exploring for great mountain scenery and those obscure and fantastic hole-in-the-wall restaurants, but this is always a lot more fun with a friend along.

What I’m doing with my life
I'm finishing up a petroleum engineering degree and taking hefty bids from Big Oil. Before you come barking at me with your Green Peace propaganda, I do not club baby seals and grind them up for drilling mud. ;)

I’m really good at
Numbers and I are lifelong pals. I think Big Bird introduced us. But math is that oddball friend that no one wants at parties because he rubs everyone the wrong way and unintentionally makes people cry. Maybe that's why we get along.

The first things people usually notice about me
"Holy crap, that guy is really serious," which just isn't true. The benefit of this mistaken perception is that I can jokingly convince just about anyone of some pretty absurd things.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
I'll eat anything slow enough for me to catch it. I prefer it to be spicy. If you can cook well, you get mega brownie points.

My favorite books address large themes and have interesting settings. I love The Fountainhead, Dune, Ender's Game, and Crime and Punishment.

I like grizzled music. For the past few years, I have been on a constant Tom Waits kick that all the Chloraseptic in the world hasn't been able to cure.

On a typical Friday night I am
There is no "typical Friday night" for me.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I was once hustled by a spastic diplegic in a decked-out Hoveround. He was trolling my campus with a handwritten sign that advertised in a palsied script: "Moon Pies, 50c. Candy bars, $1." When asked if I wanted to purchase a Moon Pie, I naturally agreed because I'm not one to pass up a killer deal like that.

"Oh, I'm sorry. I actually forgot that we're all out of Moon Pies." He flashed me an incredibly evil grin. "But we do have RUTH-- Bab-EE, RUTH!"

I was rendered slack-jawed by the one-two combination of a bait-and-switch routine couched in a Goonies reference. I wordlessly handed over the dollar, took the Baby Ruth, and ate it in stunned silence.

You should message me if
I like sharp-minded and analytical people with a caustic sense of humor. Closet geeks are welcome, good hygiene a must. If you can spend hours in conversation on a topic you're passionate about, all the better.

[SelfMadeBum]

The guy above belongs to me.

Do.

NOT.

Touch.

[Storm]

Thoth, what website are you hosting that profile at? It's one of about 2 profiles I was intrigued enough to read the entirity of.

[Thoth]

It's on OKCupid.

You sound frisky, SelfMadeBum. ;)

[Phoenix rising]

My profile. Input welcome, because I think I'm scaring girls away somehow. Maybe it's my height? (5'9" / 175cm)


I am porous, permeable, and pressurized.
My Self-Summary
MBTI: INTJ

I'm a pretty easy-going guy with a sarcastic sense of humor and a passion for anything I do. I speak a couple of different languages and have lived in a few different countries long enough to pick up some... entertaining... stories.

Like, I once regained consciousness with my face pressed to the passenger side window of a black BMW turning donuts in the courtyard of Moscow State University. The driver was some supposed chess champion named "Tigran" who kept insisting that "the circle" was the best defensive position. That's when I noticed the Kalashnikov-toting militiamen outside...

You think I'm lying, but I'm not.

I got chased away from a black-hole town in the South by an overwhelming population of cockroaches, and I settled here in Colorado for the cloudless climes and starry skies. I like to go exploring for great mountain scenery and those obscure and fantastic hole-in-the-wall restaurants, but this is always a lot more fun with a friend along.

What I’m doing with my life
I'm finishing up a petroleum engineering degree and taking hefty bids from Big Oil. Before you come barking at me with your Green Peace propaganda, I do not club baby seals and grind them up for drilling mud. ;)

I’m really good at
Numbers and I are lifelong pals. I think Big Bird introduced us. But math is that oddball friend that no one wants at parties because he rubs everyone the wrong way and unintentionally makes people cry. Maybe that's why we get along.

The first things people usually notice about me
"Holy crap, that guy is really serious," which just isn't true. The benefit of this mistaken perception is that I can jokingly convince just about anyone of some pretty absurd things.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
I'll eat anything slow enough for me to catch it. I prefer it to be spicy. If you can cook well, you get mega brownie points.

My favorite books address large themes and have interesting settings. I love The Fountainhead, Dune, Ender's Game, and Crime and Punishment.

I like grizzled music. For the past few years, I have been on a constant Tom Waits kick that all the Chloraseptic in the world hasn't been able to cure.

On a typical Friday night I am
There is no "typical Friday night" for me.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I was once hustled by a spastic diplegic in a decked-out Hoveround. He was trolling my campus with a handwritten sign that advertised in a palsied script: "Moon Pies, 50c. Candy bars, $1." When asked if I wanted to purchase a Moon Pie, I naturally agreed because I'm not one to pass up a killer deal like that.

"Oh, I'm sorry. I actually forgot that we're all out of Moon Pies." He flashed me an incredibly evil grin. "But we do have RUTH-- Bab-EE, RUTH!"

I was rendered slack-jawed by the one-two combination of a bait-and-switch routine couched in a Goonies reference. I wordlessly handed over the dollar, took the Baby Ruth, and ate it in stunned silence.

You should message me if
I like sharp-minded and analytical people with a caustic sense of humor. Closet geeks are welcome, good hygiene a must. If you can spend hours in conversation on a topic you're passionate about, all the better.

Cool profile, but shouldn't the I, I've bolded, read as you?

You should message me if
I like sharp-minded and analytical people with a caustic sense of humor. Closet geeks are welcome, good hygiene a must. If you can spend hours in conversation on a topic you're passionate about, all the better.

[Thoth]

Yeah, the category label sets up how you should phrase that section. Thanks! =)

[Bene Gesserit]

If this is the position you want to maintain, that's fine. We're all different.


It just doesn't make sense to me. What you're saying to me sounds like even if you're hungry, you wouldn't eat until the best meal was served to you.
True thats how i want it, the very best. I didn't say its easy, to be hungry for very long, but the price for waiting is worth waiting for.


You wont' be having lesser meals to tide you over until you get the best is what you're saying to me. There's no shame in having lesser meals, you know?

I know. But if a meal always is lesser its like setteling for what you can get, and dont expect better. Its like eating a meal that looks fine, but the taste ain´t right. Why settle ;-)


What do you think my ethics are?

hmm i think your ethics is formed by your wants and needs. Whats okay for you may not be okay for others. I sounds like you want to eat just anything, and aint that picky. does that make any sense ?

How do you think a guy with the honest direct talk is?
i like a guy like that, it tells me he is independent, have high self-confidence, and stands up to his beliefs, and doesn't take any crap.

[Dressage]

Thoth, I think the story in the 2nd paragraph could be "scaring" some women away. 'Regaining consciousness' makes me wonder about a drug/alcohol problem or poor judgment leading to getting into bad situations. I could see not even reading the rest of the profile after that, and the remaining elements paint a different picture. Also, "good hygiene a must"...how many people on the dating scene would claim to not have good hygiene? I find that comment a little off-putting.

[Mogura]

Also, "good hygiene a must"...how many people on the dating scene would claim to not have good hygiene? I find that comment a little off-putting.
Though we all have our requirements or wish lists in a partner, I would avoid including them in a profile. Besides limiting your opportunities, as Dressage mentioned, it could be off-putting, even to those that meet your stated requirements.

That said, if hygiene is that important to you, you could say something like, "I believe in taking good care of myself (through regular excercise, a proper diet, a well-balanced lifestyle, blah blah)... and I am looking for someone with similar values... You've indirectly and subtly communicated that hygiene is important...

[BrokenSequencer]

28yr old, white, male, Huntsville, AL

In the OKC tradition, here's mine...(haven't been on OKC for a while now...making this up as I go along.)

Three words that define you:
I am askew, unconquered, and able.

Self Summary:
I'm the guy who will wear you down, wear you out...I'm the "know it all" who doesn't know shit...I'm the guy who's constantly searching, who is too cool for everything, who doesn't care about your fads, your trends, who is more true to himself than his self is to his self (and that will end up pissing you off.) I am in love with life, although we have a bittersweet relationship (she cheats on me quite often, but I love her too much to beat her ass.)

I'm a sarcastic asshole, but I'd run into a burning building to save a kitten. I'll piss you off, only to make you laugh afterward. I love to love, I love to be loved, I form close bonds with a few people rather than loose relationships with many acquaintances. I respect intelligence, thought, passion, art, music, and love.

I’m an INFJ/INTJ...Google it.

What I’m doing with my life:
living

I’m really good at:
everything

The first thing people usually notice about me:
I'm alive (sometimes)

My favorite books, movies, music, and food:
books: I am reading, "The Social Contract." Impressed? No? Ok.

movies: I prefer talkies.

music: Anything with soul. Metal (not shitty 80s metal...real metal) to old school country to jazz to drum n' bass.

food: I abhor vegetables...it's meat and cheese all the way (although potatoes and corn are good...with meat and cheese.)

The six things I couldn't do without:
Oxygen, water, blood, brain, heart, liver, lungs

I spend a lot of time thinking about:
filling out this profile information.

On a typical Friday night I am:
breathing

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here:
I am afraid of myself.

You should message me if:
You've run out of 900 numbers to call.

---------- Post added 12-28-2009 at 01:59 PM ----------


So???? Would you date me?

Seriously,
In one word: HELLTOTHEMOTHERFUCKINGYES!

[Scryer]

Never done a personal ad myself but whatever, I need to try something new. I'm gonna copy some questions from the first post and fill it out :P .

Describe Your Physicality:

I am a 6ft caucasian male looking for a female.
I am an average-thinner build; basically I can't fit into skinny jeans unless they're oversized :P .
Brown hair, green eyes, straight teeth.
I don't smoke either; but I use to.
Age is 18.


What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

1. My family. Honestly, I grew up in an excellent family in the sub-urbs in Canada. I have no complaints about my family at all.
2. My independance. I like to be completely independant of anyone else and I like to do things without anyone else's approval. I'm not uncooperative, I just like to consider oppurtunities as they reveal themselves.
3. My ability to reflect on my actions. I am always reflecting on myself and my actions and I always try to steer myself in the direction that I want to go.


Who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

A director that I had that directed me in the play ''The Ecstasy of Rita Joe'' back in high school. I really fell in love with acting and play production since that day. I played the Magistrate in that play and... It's hard to describe it but the work that I put into the part and the rehearsals were just incredible! My director definitely had me evolve my professional attitude in the field. I could truly respect my own performance for once.


The four things your friends say about you are:

1. Loyal.
2. Witty in a polite sense.
3. Fearless to speak my mind.
4. Dark sense of humour (think Black Comedy)


What are three of your BEST life-skills?

1. Adapting. I can adapt, calm myself down (if needed), and re-evaluate a situation and determine the best course of action while still remaining calm. I have been told that I ''blossom where I'm planted'' and I believe it too.

2. Education; with this I mean I am always trying to enroll myself in education in one way or another. For example, I always take acting classes and I always apply for travelling positions.

3. People-skills. This is funny because I am a shy person (or so I believe) but I do have good people-skills. I love customer service positions because I love solving their problems. I always find that I relate to most people fairly fast and that I can keep a conversation going.


What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

I definitely look for someone with a founded sense of independance. I like to introduce people to new things such as seeing plays more frequently or attending festivities/parties. THerefore I would be interested in trying something new (for once :P ). I also want dedication this time :P . And I would always like to be seen as an equal.


How do you typically spend your leisure time?

If you haven't guessed already, I focus a lot of my energy into drama and theatre. I have been doing it for 6 years now and I just can't seem to get enough. I am trying to shift my focus into more film acting though because I am pursuing a sustainable career and film acting is where the money is. Not that I'm doing it for the money, I would just rather have a career in film as opposed to stage theatre.

I also spend a lot of time reflecting (I'm introverted for a reason :P ). I usually reflect taking walks outside in the hotter seasons. I also have an interest in the environment as well so sometimes (more like rarely) I will be involved with minor projects that help perserve the environment (such as planting trees).

I also like working a good job. Cash-flow is very healthy for my mental health :P .


What are five things that you "can't live without?"

1. Good food.... My favourite food is spicy food.... Just fyi.
2. Deep conversation, sorry I just find small talk a little boring but necessary.
3. Career-oriented goals.
4. Someone I can feel comfortable to really talk with.
5. My independance.


What are your 3 favourite quotes?

1. ''There is nothing either good or evil; only thinking makes it so.'' - Hamlet.
2. ''I am not bound to please thee with my answers'' - Merchant of Venice.
3. ''Courage is grace under pressure'' - Source unknown.


Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?

My movements for sure. I have this tendency to attract attention to my movements. My friends tell me it's undescribable. I have been accused of being a dancer or flamboyant. Honestly, my movements (which has been described to me as ''graceful'') give out wrong messages to people.


What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

I wish that people would not notice my movements and that they would listen to me. When people notice me, I notice that they tend to get false ideas on who I am. For example, in extreme cases, they refuse evidence to live in their imaginations.


Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friend knows.

They know that I am extremely protective in the subtlest way. They know that they can share their deepest thoughts with me and they are consistently proved that it is all confidential.


Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

I am hoping to move to British Columbia in January 2011 I am healthy and will be working out during this year for business reasons... Don't get me wrong, I am not whoring myself out :p ; I just think that in order to get a sustainable acting career, I need to maximize my physical potential as well as any talent.

I am not going to lie, my last relationship ended badly so am looking for someone who is willing to truly understand me. Don't get me wrong, I will try to give 100% on understanding you back; you give what you get, etc, etc. I live in central Canada so I am not really looking for a long-distance relationship. B.C potentials are different since I plan to move there :P .

PM if interested.

[GreenBulldog]

I know. But if a meal always is lesser its like setteling for what you can get, and dont expect better. Its like eating a meal that looks fine, but the taste ain´t right. Why settle ;-)


That's the thing: You're not settling. It has nothing to do with settling.

I don't understand it, but that doesn't matter.

As long as you're GENUINELY happy, that's all that matters.


hmm i think your ethics is formed by your wants and needs. Whats okay for you may not be okay for others. I sounds like you want to eat just anything, and aint that picky. does that make any sense ?

Like I said, it has nothing to do with being picky. It has nothing to do with anything being beneath you. It has nothing to do with anything being too good or not good enough or pride or self-respect or anything of that sort.

A woman's value DOES NOT depend on how many men she fucked and how she fucked them. That's basically the core of what I'm saying. If you don't believe in this, then that would explain why we're in a disagreement.


i like a guy like that, it tells me he is independent, have high self-confidence, and stands up to his beliefs, and doesn't take any crap.

You guessed right to some degree how I am.

[Cambium29]

OK, this is worth the fun and laughs . . . any takers?

=========================================

5'-6" curvy blonde omnivore allergic to shellfish but attracted to cowboy boots seeking a companion to kick rocks with on the path of life. Enjoys travelling whether it's across the country or across the street. Prefers to take the scenic route.

Frequently partakes of the beauty of nature and renews her state parks pass annually. Does not partake of drugs, alcohol, gambling, tobacco, TV, organized religion, meaningless sex, or overpriced yet uncomfortable shoes. Prefers toasted marshmallows under the constellations to fine china in a five star restaurant. Pretty certain of her ability to charm snakes if necessary. Has her own tools and knows how to use them.

Really good at embarassing her teenage son, cheating at Battleship, and seeing the universe in a grain of sand. Can whip up the best scrambled eggs, map the most efficient route from point A to point B, and plant shrubs that don't die the next season. Adept at providing an unbiased ear and a big box of Kleenex to friends who are feeling down.

Keeps herself entertained through one of the 10,000 different hobbies and interests she obsesses over. Spends a lot of time thinking about clouds that look like sheep, the lives of imaginary people, wondering if there really is such a thing as too much garlic, and whether or not she remembered to fill the bird feeders.

Some things she can't live without are imagination, motivation, goals, hope, happiness, great friends, and laughter.

Looking for a man who shares her affection for carved wood, fresh tomatoes, timberframe houses, owls, wolves, and woodpeckers, and the never-ending quest for the perfect ginger ale. A man who is independent, capable, and kind. A man with integrity, honesty, and self-respect. A man with a natural curiosity about the world around him, who appreciates life and who is an active participant in life, not just a spectator.

Oh, and a man who likes fishing and hunting because the only thing that beats venison jerky is smoked salmon and the only thing that beats smoked salmon is grilled trout and the only thing that beats trout is elk steaks. Bison burgers with blue cheese and bacon beats them all but the average freezer won't hold an entire bison so a line has to be drawn somewhere.

If you're interested, introduce yourself. But please be prepared to meet in person after a few emails because if I wanted a technology-based relationship I'd simply set my phone to vibrate and call myself a few times.

Thanks.

=============================

Well? Too bizarre? Not bizarre enough? Should I just give up now and adopt another homeless pet?

[Scryer]

Never done a personal ad myself but whatever, I need to try something new. I'm gonna copy some questions from the first post and fill it out :P .

Describe Your Physicality:

I am a 6ft caucasian male looking for a female.
I am an average-thinner build; basically I can't fit into skinny jeans unless they're oversized :P .
Brown hair, green eyes, straight teeth.
I don't smoke either; but I use to.
Age is 18.


What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

1. My family. Honestly, I grew up in an excellent family in the sub-urbs in Canada. I have no complaints about my family at all.
2. My independance. I like to be completely independant of anyone else and I like to do things without anyone else's approval. I'm not uncooperative, I just like to consider oppurtunities as they reveal themselves.
3. My ability to reflect on my actions. I am always reflecting on myself and my actions and I always try to steer myself in the direction that I want to go.


Who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

A director that I had that directed me in the play ''The Ecstasy of Rita Joe'' back in high school. I really fell in love with acting and play production since that day. I played the Magistrate in that play and... It's hard to describe it but the work that I put into the part and the rehearsals were just incredible! My director definitely had me evolve my professional attitude in the field. I could truly respect my own performance for once.


The four things your friends say about you are:

1. Loyal.
2. Witty in a polite sense.
3. Fearless to speak my mind.
4. Dark sense of humour (think Black Comedy)


What are three of your BEST life-skills?

1. Adapting. I can adapt, calm myself down (if needed), and re-evaluate a situation and determine the best course of action while still remaining calm. I have been told that I ''blossom where I'm planted'' and I believe it too.

2. Education; with this I mean I am always trying to enroll myself in education in one way or another. For example, I always take acting classes and I always apply for travelling positions.

3. People-skills. This is funny because I am a shy person (or so I believe) but I do have good people-skills. I love customer service positions because I love solving their problems. I always find that I relate to most people fairly fast and that I can keep a conversation going.


What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

I definitely look for someone with a founded sense of independance. I like to introduce people to new things such as seeing plays more frequently or attending festivities/parties. THerefore I would be interested in trying something new (for once :P ). I also want dedication this time :P . And I would always like to be seen as an equal.


How do you typically spend your leisure time?

If you haven't guessed already, I focus a lot of my energy into drama and theatre. I have been doing it for 6 years now and I just can't seem to get enough. I am trying to shift my focus into more film acting though because I am pursuing a sustainable career and film acting is where the money is. Not that I'm doing it for the money, I would just rather have a career in film as opposed to stage theatre.

I also spend a lot of time reflecting (I'm introverted for a reason :P ). I usually reflect taking walks outside in the hotter seasons. I also have an interest in the environment as well so sometimes (more like rarely) I will be involved with minor projects that help perserve the environment (such as planting trees).

I also like working a good job. Cash-flow is very healthy for my mental health :P .


What are five things that you "can't live without?"

1. Good food.... My favourite food is spicy food.... Just fyi.
2. Deep conversation, sorry I just find small talk a little boring but necessary.
3. Career-oriented goals.
4. Someone I can feel comfortable to really talk with.
5. My independance.


What are your 3 favourite quotes?

1. ''There is nothing either good or evil; only thinking makes it so.'' - Hamlet.
2. ''I am not bound to please thee with my answers'' - Merchant of Venice.
3. ''Courage is grace under pressure'' - Source unknown.


Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?

My movements for sure. I have this tendency to attract attention to my movements. My friends tell me it's undescribable. I have been accused of being a dancer or flamboyant. Honestly, my movements (which has been described to me as ''graceful'') give out wrong messages to people.


What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

I wish that people would not notice my movements and that they would listen to me. When people notice me, I notice that they tend to get false ideas on who I am. For example, in extreme cases, they refuse evidence to live in their imaginations.


Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friend knows.

They know that I am extremely protective in the subtlest way. They know that they can share their deepest thoughts with me and they are consistently proved that it is all confidential.


Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

I am hoping to move to British Columbia in January 2011 I am healthy and will be working out during this year for business reasons... Don't get me wrong, I am not whoring myself out :p ; I just think that in order to get a sustainable acting career, I need to maximize my physical potential as well as any talent.

I live in central Canada so I am not really looking for a long-distance relationship. B.C potentials are different since I plan to move there in the next year :P .

PM if interested.
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What do y'all think?

[Kisai]

So...many...words...

Ya guys gotta grab their attention in one paragraph or they're not going to invest their time getting to paragraph 9 to see that you're an interesting person. And you need a photo. You are in competition with every other ad out there.

[GreenBulldog]

OK, this is worth the fun and laughs . . . any takers?

=========================================

5'-6" curvy blonde omnivore allergic to shellfish but attracted to cowboy boots seeking a companion to kick rocks with on the path of life. Enjoys travelling whether it's across the country or across the street. Prefers to take the scenic route.

Frequently partakes of the beauty of nature and renews her state parks pass annually. Does not partake of drugs, alcohol, gambling, tobacco, TV, organized religion, meaningless sex, or overpriced yet uncomfortable shoes. Prefers toasted marshmallows under the constellations to fine china in a five star restaurant. Pretty certain of her ability to charm snakes if necessary. Has her own tools and knows how to use them.

Really good at embarassing her teenage son, cheating at Battleship, and seeing the universe in a grain of sand. Can whip up the best scrambled eggs, map the most efficient route from point A to point B, and plant shrubs that don't die the next season. Adept at providing an unbiased ear and a big box of Kleenex to friends who are feeling down.

Keeps herself entertained through one of the 10,000 different hobbies and interests she obsesses over. Spends a lot of time thinking about clouds that look like sheep, the lives of imaginary people, wondering if there really is such a thing as too much garlic, and whether or not she remembered to fill the bird feeders.

Some things she can't live without are imagination, motivation, goals, hope, happiness, great friends, and laughter.

Looking for a man who shares her affection for carved wood, fresh tomatoes, timberframe houses, owls, wolves, and woodpeckers, and the never-ending quest for the perfect ginger ale. A man who is independent, capable, and kind. A man with integrity, honesty, and self-respect. A man with a natural curiosity about the world around him, who appreciates life and who is an active participant in life, not just a spectator.

Oh, and a man who likes fishing and hunting because the only thing that beats venison jerky is smoked salmon and the only thing that beats smoked salmon is grilled trout and the only thing that beats trout is elk steaks. Bison burgers with blue cheese and bacon beats them all but the average freezer won't hold an entire bison so a line has to be drawn somewhere.

If you're interested, introduce yourself. But please be prepared to meet in person after a few emails because if I wanted a technology-based relationship I'd simply set my phone to vibrate and call myself a few times.

Thanks.

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Well? Too bizarre? Not bizarre enough? Should I just give up now and adopt another homeless pet?

This is good. I like it. Funny and creative.

[Thoth]

Taking everyone's helpful comments into regard, I've come up with the following. Feel free to shred.

I am porous, permeable, and pressurized.

My Self-Summary
MBTI: INTJ

I'm a pretty easy-going guy with a twisted sense of humor and a passion for anything I do. I see the world as my giant, edible playground; I speak a couple of different languages and have lived in a few different countries long enough to pick up some amusing stories.

For example, I tread especially carefully around the tricksy Russian language for being so idiomatically peculiar as to fool me into: telling a cashier to "be good in hell without gas"; asking another cashier the price of her little legs; and excusing myself from the dinner table to go see my prostitute.

I got chased away from a black-hole town in the South by an overwhelming population of cockroaches, and I settled here in Colorado for the cloudless climes and starry skies. Though far less exciting than catching cheap joyrides with mostly-drunk Armenian cab drivers in ex-Soviet republics, these days I like to go exploring for great mountain scenery and those obscure and fantastic hole-in-the-wall restaurants. But this is always a lot more fun with a friend along.

What I’m doing with my life
I'm finishing up a petroleum engineering degree and taking bids from Big Oil. (Before you come barking at me with your Green Peace propaganda, I do not club baby seals and grind them up for drilling mud.) This career choice meshes well with my love of dynamic problems and insatiable wanderlust.

I’m really good at
Numbers and I are lifelong pals. I think Big Bird introduced us. But math is that oddball friend that no one wants at parties because he rubs everyone the wrong way and unintentionally makes people cry. Maybe that's why we get along.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am a cookie-cutter INTJ, so I frequently hear: "Holy crap, you're really serious, dude." The benefit of this mistaken perception is that I can jokingly convince just about anyone of some pretty absurd things.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
I'll eat anything slow enough for me to catch it. I prefer it to be spicy. If you can cook well, you get mega brownie points. If not, I'm decent in the kitchen, and wouldn't mind getting better.

My favorite books weave intricate systems and have interesting settings. I love The Fountainhead, Dune, Ender's Game, and Crime and Punishment.

I like music with imagery and emotion. For the past few years, I have been on a constant Tom Waits kick that all the Chloraseptic in the world hasn't been able to cure.

The six things I could never do without
* The concept of a logical universe. All problems have a specific nature, and can be analyzed and solved. Fear is optional.

* A sense of humor. To paraphrase a wise thinker: some people laugh because they want nothing to remain great; I laugh because I see something greater.

* Music. The more I’ve learned about it, the more I’ve come to see it as the most magnificent form of expression we have at our disposal.

* Epicurean indulgence. I’m a fan of engaging my senses—within reason.

* Crunchy-granola hippies. At first take, they despise me for my ultra-capitalist and earth-exploiting ways. Once they realize that I am not a villain from Captain Planet, however, we tend to become fast friends. On a similarly related note, I love turning geologists to the Dark Side of oil and gas.

* Brilliant women. I have a profound weakness for them.

On a typical Friday night I am
There is no "typical Friday night" for me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I was once hustled by a spastic diplegic in a decked-out Hoveround. He was trolling my campus with a handwritten sign that advertised in a palsied script: "Moon Pies, 50c. Candy bars, $1." When asked if I wanted to purchase a Moon Pie, I naturally agreed because I'm not one to pass up a killer deal like that.

"Oh, I'm sorry. I actually forgot that we're all out of Moon Pies." He flashed me an incredibly evil grin. "But we do have RUTH-- Bab-EE, RUTH!"

I was rendered slack-jawed by the one-two combination of a bait-and-switch routine couched in a Goonies reference. I wordlessly handed over the dollar, took the Baby Ruth, and ate it in stunned silence.

You should message me if
...you're a sharp-minded and analytical person with a caustic sense of humor that make the English language cut like a knife. Closet geeks are eagerly welcomed. If you can spend hours in conversation on a topic you're passionate about, all the better.

[skynet]

here's mine from a dating site with identification data removed. It's my first one and probably has a lot of errors so go ahead and deconstruct.

Skynet's Profile
looking for Shodan
My height is: 4 feet 6 inches
137 cm
Description: I'm an INTJ existential nihilist, singularitarian, transhumanist, and hacker. My skills are good but not amazing but my environment hasn't been conducive and I'm learning fast. Most of all I'm completely ruthless in the pursuit of my interests but very loyal if I find someone I care about. My current project is a combat bot for the mmo Eve Online that should be undetectable to earn money. I'm not particularly materialist and just need the money to buy stuff while still having time to pursue my interests and research. I want to double major in artificial intelligence and nanotechnology. From this I probably sound arrogant but will concede when I am proven wrong. I'm a big fan of scifi and its depiction of strong ai. I'm extremely into strategy games, having beaten GalCiv II and Alpha Centauri on the top difficulty.
Note:Picture is temporary and will be replaced with addition of timestamp ASAP.
Match Description: Most importantly she must be as dedicated, ruthless, and ambitious as I am. She should be interested in scifi, videogames, strategy, science, and computers. Intelligence is important but not excessively since how hard you work is more important. A rational thinking worldview is necessary, preferably with a good understanding of Bayesian probability and its application to the real world. I'm mostly looking for someone to ease my loneliness and join me in pursuing the power of the technological singularity.
What ethnicity describes you best? Caucasian
Education: Some College
Relationship Status: Single
Have Kids?: No
Want Kids?: No
Employment: Self-employed
Do you smoke? No
What is your alcohol use? None
Religion? Agnostic
Political Conservative
Body type? Slim
How did you learn about Geek 2 Geek? Not Important
Book CUSP, Singularity Sky, Fall of Hyperion, Ender's Game
Movie Terminator series, Matrix series, Transformers series
Video Game Command and Conquer series, Galactic Civilizations II, Supreme Commander, Alpha Centauri

[Blse]

Ok my profile from Match.com:

I am creative, open-minded, determined, and love to laugh. I’m always inspired and have new ideas, and love translating them into action. I'm very determined and always follow through on projects I start. I'm also dependable - the person my family members count on to pick them up from the airport at 4am.

I love to laugh (hence the username) and have a taste for irony. I think there is humor just about anywhere when you look close enough.

I'm very open to new ideas and I’m always up to try something new. I do have a taste for travel - exiting the hotel room in a new city early in the morning to go sight-seeing is one of the best feelings I know.

Professionally, I just finished the coursework for my B.A. in economics & poli sci. Next I want get my Masters in Public Policy/Administration and go into civil service management.

People usually comment on my maturity. I’ve always been a bit more mature than my age would indicate. I'm not the typical 22 year old. To be honest, so far that's worked to my advantage.

My ideal match would be open-minded, determined to reach her goals, dependable, and devoted to her family and friends. I would love to connect with someone who I can trust, spoil and respect. Someone who gets my jokes and loves to laugh. I'm also attracted to intellect, so don’t be afraid to show your bookworm side to me! I love it.

[Stanman]

So I've been using OkCupid a lot as of late. I've been trying to add as much to my profile as I can to just see what will happen. To see if me as a person can at least manage to get something through online dating. I messaged about 7 people and got one half response at best. I'm told this is normal. Anyways, I go on the forum to try and get advice from people and one guy on there critiques profiles at length and without pulling any punches. He had been doing it for like 2 years or something crazy like that, so I figured why not? I post it on there and wait for the response. His critique was pretty brutal.

Basically he said, my profile was terrible, but even that wasn't the problem. He claimed that reading more into mine he found it painfully obvious that I was not only terrible inexperienced at life in general, but I had a very low self esteem and had nothing constructive to say in my profile whatsoever. He said I needed to change my life if I ever intended to get any friends or dates. He ripped me a new asshole and I was just left dumbfounded. Either this guy knows me, is a psychic, or I really do have socially incompetent written on my forehead.

So, I will my profile on here. I guess what I'm asking is if my profile really won't attract women and if it really does spell me out as a low self esteem loser. Honestly I thought there was a lot of my personality in there and if that's the problem then I'm not really sure what to do. Anyways, here it is.


My Self-Summary
Boxing Record 1 Win 2 Losses.
I was voted most witty in high school.
But I was also voted best boxer.

I am a film school graduate working in the film industry. I'm really into movies and I hope to get further in that line of business. I'm a pretty adventurous guy as I feel right now I need life experiences in order to be a better storyteller. At the same time I'm also pretty introverted. At least that's what these personality tests say. I am a very contrasty person so I wouldn't go exactly by what they say. Go figure.

I have a unique sense of humor that always tends to make people laugh. Sometimes I'm not even trying to make people laugh... I've come to understand this is known as dry humor. I've recently become a big fan of food. I wish I was a better cook, but I'm pretty good otherwise. I wear glasses. I don't apologize for who I am. I'm an extreme character, but for the most part people enjoy my company.

I want to end this Self-Summary by posting videos of both my high school and college graduation and how I personally managed to make them entertaining by acting like a fool on stage.
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I try to make life interesting.

What I’m doing with my life
Well, my first job out of college was working in the news doing teleprompter (I scrolled text for the new anchors to read). This was terrible. Now I'm working on films as a lighting technician so I'm enjoying myself again.

Right now I'm busy figuring out the post college transition.

In my spare time, and what I did primarily in film school, I worked on and made various short films. They varied in quality from this
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(my first movie ever. Terrible, I know.)

to stuff like this
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(This was a fairly popular viral video hit.)

The video below won best picture for the 2008 48 hour film festival for all of Louisiana.
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I've made some bigger and better stuff since all of this, but those movies aren't ready to die on youtube just yet.

I plan on living forever. So far, so good.

I’m really good at
Looking at things in a new way. Dry humor. Insightful conversation. Finding something to laugh at in every situation. Getting things done. Blowing people's minds. Beasting at Karaoke. Doing backflips off of walls (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.).

The first things people usually notice about me
I'm Asian. There usually aren't too many down here. My childhood was filled with anger, confusion, and kung fu. But seriously, I think people tend to generate a preconceived notion of what I'm like based on my general appearance (Asian guy with glasses) then realize that it is completely wrong once they get to know me.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
In terms of movies it is hard for me to pick a favorite. I've seen and appreciate a lot of movies. Tons of them. I also hate a lot of them too. Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory was a favorite movie of mine as a child. The remake, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, makes me angry. That's all for now.

For music, I like a lot of stuff from the 90's since I grew up around then. 90's rock I guess. I'm also a pretty big fan of stuff like The Beatles, though everyone kind of likes them. They're a pretty big deal.

I like all kinds of food. Do people really like someone more or less based on their favorite foods? Lately I've been trying to become more involved in the world of food. I've always been eating at the same restaurants. My parents own a restaurant that is kind of a big deal, but I kind of hate it because I've eaten there all my life.
The six things I could never do without
I find this list really hard to make. But here goes.... friends, family, food, water, etc. That was tough, I need to come back to this.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I need to be doing. New stuff to write about. Trying to figure out life. Trying to figure out how to fill the "I spend a lot of time thinking about" box.

On a typical Friday night I am
It all very much depends on what is going on with my work schedule, but if you mean what I do on my days off it is usually hanging out with friends or relaxing from work. I guess it can also be working on work and relaxing with friends. Probably a mix of all three littered throughout.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I feel ashamed that I am even on here. It pains me to log in everyday. I got over it... mostly.

Alright, I'll admit this too. In high school, I released ten thousand crickets into the hallways in a senior prank and never got caught. Somehow they cleaned it up REALLY FAST and not many people noticed.There were ten thousand! How did they do it?

You should message me if
you really want to. I won't stop you. Actually, I encourage it. Never mind, don't. It might be too much for you to handle.

[Howi]

OK, this is worth the fun and laughs . . . any takers?

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5'-6" curvy blonde omnivore allergic to shellfish but attracted to cowboy boots seeking a companion to kick rocks with on the path of life. Enjoys travelling whether it's across the country or across the street. Prefers to take the scenic route.

Frequently partakes of the beauty of nature and renews her state parks pass annually. Does not partake of drugs, alcohol, gambling, tobacco, TV, organized religion, meaningless sex, or overpriced yet uncomfortable shoes. Prefers toasted marshmallows under the constellations to fine china in a five star restaurant. Pretty certain of her ability to charm snakes if necessary. Has her own tools and knows how to use them.

Really good at embarassing her teenage son, cheating at Battleship, and seeing the universe in a grain of sand. Can whip up the best scrambled eggs, map the most efficient route from point A to point B, and plant shrubs that don't die the next season. Adept at providing an unbiased ear and a big box of Kleenex to friends who are feeling down.

Keeps herself entertained through one of the 10,000 different hobbies and interests she obsesses over. Spends a lot of time thinking about clouds that look like sheep, the lives of imaginary people, wondering if there really is such a thing as too much garlic, and whether or not she remembered to fill the bird feeders.

Some things she can't live without are imagination, motivation, goals, hope, happiness, great friends, and laughter.

Looking for a man who shares her affection for carved wood, fresh tomatoes, timberframe houses, owls, wolves, and woodpeckers, and the never-ending quest for the perfect ginger ale. A man who is independent, capable, and kind. A man with integrity, honesty, and self-respect. A man with a natural curiosity about the world around him, who appreciates life and who is an active participant in life, not just a spectator.

Oh, and a man who likes fishing and hunting because the only thing that beats venison jerky is smoked salmon and the only thing that beats smoked salmon is grilled trout and the only thing that beats trout is elk steaks. Bison burgers with blue cheese and bacon beats them all but the average freezer won't hold an entire bison so a line has to be drawn somewhere.

If you're interested, introduce yourself. But please be prepared to meet in person after a few emails because if I wanted a technology-based relationship I'd simply set my phone to vibrate and call myself a few times.

Thanks.

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Well? Too bizarre? Not bizarre enough? Should I just give up now and adopt another homeless pet?


I think i'm in love....and no there is no such thing as too much garlic :)

[GreenBulldog]

So I've been using OkCupid a lot as of late. I've been trying to add as much to my profile as I can to just see what will happen. To see if me as a person can at least manage to get something through online dating. I messaged about 7 people and got one half response at best. I'm told this is normal. Anyways, I go on the forum to try and get advice from people and one guy on there critiques profiles at length and without pulling any punches. He had been doing it for like 2 years or something crazy like that, so I figured why not? I post it on there and wait for the response. His critique was pretty brutal.

Basically he said, my profile was terrible, but even that wasn't the problem. He claimed that reading more into mine he found it painfully obvious that I was not only terrible inexperienced at life in general, but I had a very low self esteem and had nothing constructive to say in my profile whatsoever. He said I needed to change my life if I ever intended to get any friends or dates. He ripped me a new asshole and I was just left dumbfounded. Either this guy knows me, is a psychic, or I really do have socially incompetent written on my forehead.


Who is this guy who critiqued you?

You make it sound like this guy was VERY accurate. I wonder if women sees the same thing this guy is saying when they read your profile?

[Storm]

Ok my profile from Match.com:

This reads as if you looked up in a book what you think women are looking for and then wrote it out. You can't just say "I am <good trait>" or whatever - you have to show you are <good trait>.

I think someone earlier on said this, and I think it's true. If you want to let women know you are, for instance, rich, don't say "I am rich" say "I enjoy sailing" and post a picture of you on your expensive yacht.

I think the best profiles are the one that read more like snap shots into a person's life than resumes - the ones that sound like something they would tell you on a first date at a coffee store.

He claimed that reading more into mine he found it painfully obvious that I was not only terrible inexperienced at life in general, but I had a very low self esteem and had nothing constructive to say in my profile whatsoever. . . Either this guy knows me, is a psychic, or I really do have socially incompetent written on my forehead.

I perused your profile. I don't think it deserved the criticism this guy gave it, but it did show you need some self-esteem boosting. Every single thing you say something good about yourself, you qualify it. For instance, you mention that you are introvert - there is nothing wrong with that. Half the population is introverts. Many people prefer dating introverts. Yet, instead of talking about how it's a good thing, you say that it's bad. Why mention it at all then? You're also still talking about your acheivements in high school when you have apparently graduated from college. What is going on in your life now?

I think you could easily make it better by taking out all the qualifies and all allusions to high school. You can keep maybe one or two college things depending on how long ago you graduated. Also the videos of you at your graduation don't add anything.

Do NOT say that it pains you to be on a online dating site. Because guess what? Anyone reading your profile is ALSO on an online dating site. They obviously don't think it's shameful or weird - and the fact that you find it shameful implies that you think only losers are doing it, implying that the reader herself is a loser.

You have a lot to offer reading between the lines - and it could make a wonderful profile if you just take out all the self-depreciating comments and mention of things that took place years and years ago.

[Stanman]

Who is this guy who critiqued you?

You make it sound like this guy was VERY accurate. I wonder if women sees the same thing this guy is saying when they read your profile?

He wasn't particularly accurate. I had to really think about what he said and start filling in blanks more than anything. I take in people's opinions and thoroughly study them before I make a judgment now. I guess overall he is right in some areas and wrong in others. Either way, I plan on just starting my profile over at some point later in time. The whole experience has kind of left a bad taste in my mouth and I'd rather take a break from the whole online dating ordeal.

I did mention a lot of the things in the past, but I suppose while in college I didn't focus on doing crazy shit as much as I did in high school. Though I have to wonder if crazy shit is really what attracts people. Meh, I'll worry about it later.

[GreenBulldog]

He wasn't particularly accurate. I had to really think about what he said and start filling in blanks more than anything. I take in people's opinions and thoroughly study them before I make a judgment now. I guess overall he is right in some areas and wrong in others. Either way, I plan on just starting my profile over at some point later in time. The whole experience has kind of left a bad taste in my mouth and I'd rather take a break from the whole online dating ordeal.

I did mention a lot of the things in the past, but I suppose while in college I didn't focus on doing crazy shit as much as I did in high school. Though I have to wonder if crazy shit is really what attracts people. Meh, I'll worry about it later.

So who's this dude that critiqued you?

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My new profile. Not as risque as before, but it still sends the same message, I think...

"I will be straight up with you... I am looking for a love affair filled with lascivious romance and sensuality. I made a profile on here to increase the chance of finding good relationships with women I meet.

Financially, I work in Biofuels. It's a job I love because I get the opportunity to travel and the company is willing to train people who have the desire to learn. I get paid to learn. It doesn't get any better than that. Besides obtaining new knowledge in my profession, the traveling and seeing other cultures and experiencing the unknown helps me become a more complete person.

The unknown is fun. It give the feeling of awkwardness, discomfort, and butterflies in your stomach. It's similar to the feeling you get when you meet someone new and you know that very instant you're going to like and trust for a long, long time. It's the same feeling I hope to give you when I look you straight in the eyes and tell you EXACTLY what I want from you. I'll only do it person though, because there's only so much I can communicate with just words on a page.

I desire a woman with pleasing curves who is either slim, or full figured. I am not a man that is into huge women. (Don't take it personally). If you have a good heart, and a deep passion towards life, then it's OK. I am looking for a laid back, high self esteem women who are upfront, straightforward, and honest and speaks her mind without beating-around-the-bush. I'm into free-spirited women who have no hang-ups about being a sexual being. I don't judge women based on how much or what kind of sex they had with how many men. I'd treat a virgin the same way I would a porn star. Actually, I'd treat the porn star better because she doesn't buy into what people say she should be, which makes for unhappy people anyways.

I love to goof off. I like to take chances and risk failure and humiliation. I'm fairly comfortable in my own skin, so I don't give too much sh*t about what anyone thinks of me. I also consider myself very out-spoken, dominant, out-going, open-minded, and highly sexual.

I believe that mutual respect and mutual interest is everything in a relationship, so if you like what I wrote, I'm looking to hear from you. If not then you just wasted 2 minutes of your life reading. Sorry. "

[Hallow]

Male
5 ft. 6.5 inch
Eurasian
North Carolina, USA
I am ambitious, intelligent, and older than I look.

The moon catches my eyes almost every night, one day I would like to glaze at its shimmering light with someone by my side.

I am hard to get to know but once I feel comfortable around you, you'll find out how truly unique I am. I am also terrible at explaining things about myself. I am not crazy about parties or clubbing because I think the best conversations and moments are spent with a small group rather than a large one. I believe one should learn to help yourself before you can help others. One thing I do that many people don't is encourage others to follow their dream. I am open minded and often look at things through others point of view. But I always see potential.

I stay true to my principles and I hold myself to the same expectations as I do with others. But there is a soft side to me, I'm very curious. I love learning new things, since I grew up differently there are many things I don't know. I may look like a child with a bright smile on his face when I see something very interesting or new.

According to MBTI/Jung test I am an INTJ, it's pretty interesting check it out. Most people don't read long post, so I kept it short.


What I’m doing with my life
Right now I am working part time for money while doing this I am training hard to pursue my life long dream of being a professional athlete. I won't publicly post what sport because I don't want to attract the wrong attention but if you ask me I will tell you.

I’m really good at
Noticing inconsistencies, staying calm under pressure, accomplishing my goals, problem solving. Sometimes I am too stubborn I wanted to learn how to solve a rubic cube one time and spent 4 hours staying up late learning how. Ended up solving 2 rubic cubes (one for niece, and the other for a friend).

I have a very good memory, but I only choose to remember things of interest. Apparently a friend/coworker said I am really good at not caring while at work. That it's very obvious by the look on my face. Whatever that means.

The first things people usually notice about me
Not sure, people don't usually notice me. My guess is I am the token Eur-Asian guy almost everywhere I go

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books: Catcher in the rye, Bamboo Grove, The Temple of the Golden Pavilion, Confessions of a Mask
Films: Knockin on Heavens door, Untamed Heart, Goodwill Hunting, 5 centimeters per second, Young and the Dangerous < I got a long list of films
Music: Ambient, Jazz, Classical, Funeral, Rock, Rap,
Food: Sushi
Drink: Baja Mountain Dew - it is the greatest soda Evveeeeeeeeeeeeeer!!!!!

The six things I could never do without
My Principals
Music
Internet
Boxing
Knowledge
Perception

I spend a lot of time thinking about
My goals and how I can accomplish them.
How my close friends are doing.
From here it's just whatever is on my list of things to do.

On a typical Friday night I am
There are no typical Friday nights for me.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I brush my teeth and used my computer mouse left handed. It is very rare for me to find someone who really interest me. I am not very social.

You should message me if
Attractive women who are highly intelligent, quick-witted and over-achieving. Someone who knows what she wants and plans on getting it. Miss independent, I like a girl who can kick my ass, well at least try =P

What I am looking for is someone with similar interest, companionship, loyalty, and a good time. In return I offer the same or maybe even greater.
You are the girl who played Alice in the film "Twilight".

[Blse]

Ok, so given the past feeback I have completely revised my profile (unfortunately, I can edit my old one above), so I'm just point the new one here:

Writing something like this is a first for me but it seems like a fun challenge:

I like being creative, from finding new ways to spend my free time to finding new ways to improve little everyday things. Whatever I do, I follow through on the things I start. Sometimes that means burning the mid-night oil, but I don’t know of any feeling more satisfying than having reached one of my goals. Not surprisingly, I'm also means I'm the one my family counts on to pick them up from the airport in the wee hours of the morning (although I have to say, I love seeing the sun-rise!).

I love to laugh and make others laugh. Some of my most memorable moments getting teaching experiences were when I made my students laugh (in an economics course!). There’s always an upside. Humor helps you find it.

I’m looking for a long-term relationship at this point, but I'm definitely open to making friends too. My ideal match would be open-minded, determined, and devoted to her family and friends.

If you want to know more, or you'd just like to chat, don’t hesitate and drop me a line!

[Dressage]

Blse,

Take the hyphens out of mid-night and sun-rise.

"Not surprisingly, I'm also means" - typo, I'm guessing you meant "it"

"from finding new ways to spend my free time to finding new ways to improve little everyday things" - I think it reads better as "from finding new ways to spend my free time to improving little everyday things"

I'd put a comma before "too" in the 3rd to last sentence and make teaching experience singular. Also, using "things" back-to-back in the first two sentences could be changed.

[paperclip]

Blse, I like the second draft a lot ... though "devoted to her family and friends" can read differently to different people ...extroverted, traditional, religious? I'm not sure what you are going for...I would consider rewording it.

[UMDRevan]

I hope you all don't mind me dropping my okcupid profile on here; I've just updated it (it was rather bland and uninformative before, since I was just taking tests), and thought it would be great to get your feedback. I think it might be perceived as more confrontational than I might like.



I am clever, witty, and intellectual.

My Self-Summary

Personality:
Google INTJ, you'll come up with plenty of results that will more or less give you an accurate description of my general personality traits. I see no need to replicate that information here.

Biography:
Message me or IM me, I am not going to spend an hour here wasting my time on the past unless I am specifically asked to do so by inquiring minds.

Interests:
First and foremost is music. I am, in fact, a composer, and I am currently pursuing a masters degree in musical composition -- ideally, I will eventually be teaching at a university. Next are the sciences, chief among them being physics, with a bent toward astronomy.

I also enjoy chess, although I do not have enough time to devote to the game to ever be a competent tournament player. I do enjoy sports as well, football in particular (it is very chess-like), and I enjoy outdoors.

I often go for long walks, particularly in the woods (I am from a rural area), although since I spend most of time in Boston and Cambridge, I have come to appreciate walking in the city as well (I might add that if you have never had the chance to go to the Arnold Arboretum, I would suggest you plan a trip there, particularly in the spring when the cherry trees are blossoming).

I do enjoy video-games as well. When I play alone, I enjoy story-driven games (primarily RPGs), such as Mass Effect. I normally play multi-player games with my brothers and friends, however, and it is usually more of an excuse for us to get together and chat/socialize.

I'm an avid reader. Recent literature included The Brothers Karamazov and the Iliad. Much of my reading is academic literature.


What I’m doing with my life

I'm currently finishing grad school. Afterward, I am going to take a year or two off from degree work, as I attempt for smaller positions at universities, apply for fellowships and residencies, grants, etc. Then, after building up a strong portfolio, I will probably apply for a doctoral program, getting free room and board, fully covered tuition and a stipend. I simply will not go if I do not get such a deal--which, I will get.


I’m really good at

--being matched with people 10+ years my age on okcupid.
--Music (voice, piano, composition).
--Philosophy, particularly that which can be applied.
--Conversation. Not about the weather.
--A bunch of other things. I'm not going to list them all.


The first things people usually notice about me

I'm polite, apparently. And Severe. Until you get to know me (although I will remain polite, that doesn't change).


My favorite books, movies, music, and food

--Books: I mentioned above in my self-summary, just in case you're skipping down the page, or you didn't retain any of the above writing.

--Movies: Star Wars (OT); Lord of the Rings; Schindler's List; Mel Brooks films; indie; other

--Music: I listen to everything, literally everything (not just Michael Jackson and Eminem, but Beethoven, Javanese Gamelan, Ancient Korean ritual dance, etc.). That said, I particularly lean towards 20th/21st century Western Classical Music. I particularly enjoy Ligeti, Stockhausen, John Cage, Morton Feldman, Iannis Xenakis, among others.


The six things I could never do without

I can make do without anything, frankly. If compelled to make a list, I would say:

--My family.
--Laptop/media workstation.
--Music.
--Humor.
--My lackey.
--Tea.
--Disregard for arbitrary limitations.


I spend a lot of time thinking about

I have more or less answered this throughout the profile, and what I haven't already written should be easily inferred; I will, however, specifically mention: educational institutions and how to fix them.


On a typical Friday night I am

--In Boston.
--Working.
--Other.


The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

My Initials are KGB.


You should message me if

This sections always puzzles me, in anyone's profile. All the reasons you might message a person are listed above in previous sections; really, if you aren't compelled to message someone by the time you get to this section, why are you wasting your time?

I will offer no additional reasons here for you to consider whether or not to message me. Do it, or don't.

[INTJDownUnder]

I hope you all don't mind me dropping my okcupid profile on here; I've just updated it (it was rather bland and uninformative before, since I was just taking tests), and thought it would be great to get your feedback. I think it might be perceived as more confrontational than I might like.


I didn't read your profile but I thought I should mention that I'd never go on a date with a person who had the nickname "(Darth) Revan" but a picture of Darth Nihilus as their avatar.

It's the principle! :)

[Liason]

Hmm. Not /particularly/ interested in dating people from okcupid, but here's my profile. It wasn't made to draw people in. It was made to take a poke at people who might possess some intellect. (So far it's worked pretty well) :]

I am cynical, efficient, and intelligent.

My Self-Summary

The blasted chat box has reminded me of a vital fact I must input. I dislike smalltalk. Frankly, I quite loathe it, so If you wish to talk to me, please have a specific reason. Also, If you look at my page and I get an alert, I will look at your page. That is just the way the world turns. It does not mean I'm showing interest in you romantically. Do not message me /just/ because I looked at your profile.

Anyways, yes continue.

My name is Chris. I live in Virginia, always have, but not always shall. I'm mostly focusing on academics currently and my own individual studies. My main interests are the MBTI theory, Religious studies, Historic studies, and Languages. I write poetry and play a few instruments as well.

Thing you should know about me:
-I am an incredibly loyal/brainwashed Dallas Cowboys fan
-My self confidence is healthy physically, but lacks mentally
-I'm a bit of a gamer (xbox360 live)
-I'm a tomboy fashion-wise (a good portion of my clothes are male)
-I dislike shallow people
-I dislike slow/stupid/weak/mopey people
-I believe I am wasting my time when speaking to someone I do not wish to speak to, respectfully, I hope another would inform me if the situation were vice versa
What I’m doing with my life

Learning French and German, studying U.S. History, Writing stories that /may/ one day /hopefully/ be published
I’m really good at

Drawing, Writing, Maths, Languages
The first things people usually notice about me

I'm asian, I am a bit capricious
My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Books: The Impressionist by Hari Kunzru, Memnoch the Devil by Anne Rice
Movies: Hannibal Rising, Pan's Labyrinth
Music: Classical as a favourite, everything else falls in line
Food: Not much interest, but most things I cook are good.
The six things I could never do without

XBOX360, Earl Grey Tea, Books, Intelligent Friends, Classes on my level, and The Internet.
I spend a lot of time thinking about

World Issues
On a typical Friday night I am

Doing course work or at the movies with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'm pansexual.
You should message me if

You take an interest in filling the boring recesses of time with interaction from me.

[cyprienne]

In the context of looking for feedback from a random assortment of strangers on whether a 'romantic resume' is compelling, it seems noteworthy that the same profile evokes such different perceptions depending on the reader.

Since the goal is to find someone who likes being with you in person, maybe it would be helpful to include references to things that serve as a Bat Signal for kindred spirits? (Kinda like putting keywords in your professional resume, so that people who are looking for you can recognize you)? This is how my INTJ sweetheart got my attention a few years ago.

For example, if anybody says "42" or "As you wiiiiiiiish...", or "Look, maybe I didn't say every single little tiny syllable, no. But basically I said them, yeah", they have my undivided attention. My heart beats faster at the mention of most things Celtic or the word 'nerd', or any reference to Myers-Briggs. Mention Cuisenaire Rods or Olympics of the Mind? *dreamy sigh*

Some lines of thought that might hint at potential Bat Signals:

"If you want to get a big smile out of me......" (offer me a cup of tea, quote Douglas Adams, or send me an instant message while we're sitting side by side on the couch with our laptops...)

"I would swoon if I ever found someone who...." (sings along even if they can't carry a tune, reads the same forums I do....)

"I will automatically think you're cool if...." (you get your news from The Daily Show, you love The Legend of Zelda....)

"My brain would light up like a Christmas tree if I found someone who...." (has a bigger vocabulary than I do, can regale me with the social habits of Australian spiders, knows where green potato chips come from....)

"If I'm procrastinating, you will most likely find me (on the Internet researching the social habits of Australian spiders and the origin of green potato chips, napping, or making my eleventh cup of tea....)

Or maybe that's just the kind of stuff that would be useful in attracting me :)

[visitor]

Here's my okcupid profile. My intentions were to meet people who can take a joke and who also like the same things. I've successfully made some friends there.

I am Cross Eyed, Azn!, and eats cats

My Self-Summary
Me in a nut shell: I love horror and gore, I'm a nerd, people call me weird, I keep an open-mind, I'm not stubborn, I know what I know and I know what I don't know, I'm opinionated, but not judgmental. There's a difference. For instance, what the fuck does "curvy" mean? I think OKcupid should add "lumpy" as a body type choice.

I'm looking for like-minded friends, male or female. I'll follow logic and reason over emotions except for in the cases of love. Love is illogical. I'm attracted to abstract thinkers and geeks (not the smelly and fat kinds) who have the same taste in music and films.

Lately, I've been going to the Y and doing a 2 hour work-out. I'm not thin. You should join me! Trying to be my best emotionally and physically. I'm up for anything. Probably going to SXSW this year.

What I’m doing with my life
I was once crying in the bathroom stalls of Wells Fargo and going to college to teach. Then, I took a weekend Grip 101 class and got a job on a film and I loved it. I build film sets. The uncertainty of films exhausts me; I wouldn't choose to do anything else.

I'm tired of this snow and being unemployed and not having any money to play. Sometimes, I just wanna' pack it all away, including my drive to succeed. Just say, "Fuck it," and move somewhere far away and warm.

I’m really good at
Winning stuffed animals with claws.

The first things people usually notice about me
The disgusted look on my face.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books: Star Trek manuals, true crime books, Stranger In A Strange Land

Movies/TV: Inglourious Basterds, Star Trek, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, Trainspotting, The Full Monty, Bubble Boy, The Bourne series, Donnie Darko, Eternal Sunshine for the Spotless Mind, A Clockwork Orange, Solaris, The Shining, Slither, Drag Me to Hell, Crank...Takashi Miike. Mostly sci-fi, horror and foreign. My 2010 and 2011 will be spent waiting for the premiere of The Avengers.

Breaking Bad, Dexter, Star Trek:TNG, Californication, Firefly, Sons of Anarchy, Wonderfalls, LOST, The League, The Soup, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Spaced, The I.T. Crowd, Red Dwarf, So You Think You Can Dance, Curb Your Enthusiasm, and I'm gonna' put Adam Lambert down here because his music sucks, but I love watching him. I'm turned on, entertained, and confused all at the same time.

Music: Joy Division, Radiohead, Squarepusher, MGMT, Tapes 'N Tapes, TV on the Radio, DJ Shadow, Aphex Twin, Sin Fang Bous, Roy Orbison, Left Over Crack, Killing Joke, MC Chris, Sonic Youth, Liars, M. Craft, Mike Patton, The White Stripes, Information Society, The Kills, Battles, David Sylvian, and basically nothing a 45-year-old biker chic would dance to i.e. Buckcherry.

Food: Cats and dogs, that's all Asians ever eat.

The six things I could never do without
1. A mask
2. Tape
3. A weapon
4. Somewhere to dump the body
5. Goth music
6. Plastic wrap

I spend a lot of time thinking about
How it feels to be a penis inside a vagina. I would imagine it's much like a suction cup.

On a typical Friday night I am
Crying myself to sleep with a body pillow, quietly singing "Don't stop believing".

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I wet my pants in Kindergarten.

You should message me if
You have Rockband. Boy, do I love Rockband.

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[Seriously]

Just fell in love....^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

[visitor]

:flirt: I posted that ad in a "Guess That Type" thread on myspace and they guessed ESTJ. I don't see it.

[paleoeco]

Here's a profile of mine on a dating site. Feel free to give me barbed pointers.


About my life and what I'm looking for
So, here I am. What to say? Upfront, I guess I should say, I don't do gay Atlanta very well. I'm rather shy initially and don't immediately warm up to people (in person) - so it makes meeting people out in the bars rather difficult.

I've already had my wild days in my mid-20s, so I'm not interested in meeting guys off the million and one hookup sites. I mean, honestly, there's more to someone than just 5 minutes of conversation to determine if he's top or bottom and close enough.

I'm not a jock; I don't work out in a gym a million times a week; I don't try to be the athlete so I feel less girly for liking men. I'm not a drag queen, and don't try to be even more effeminate than my sister. I'm not butch, not nellie, not masc, and not femme. I'm just me.

I grew up on a farm in rural south Georgia, and as I get older I seem to be coming full circle. I drive a truck; I wear boots, and I don't care much about making sure I have the latest, most hip anything.

I'd love to meet someone comfortable in his own skin, who's more interested in getting to know what's in my head than getting to know what's in my pants. A regular Joe, country boy, or a bit of a nerd. I'd love to find someone to go hiking with, camping with, or just be out in the woods.

Did you grow up hunting and fishing and horseback riding? Do you still? I guess I'd love to meet and date a guy that makes me feel like I never the farm for the city and bustle.

For Fun: movies, dining out, hiking, walking the dog, camping.
my ethnicity: nothing special - just a blend of English, Scot, Irish, and Welsh. Most of the bloodline has been in the Americas since the late 1600s.
favorite hot spots: Twain's, Leon's - I like chilling and just having a beer and shooting pool. Love to go up to Fork Mountain, SC and go hiking. Being out on the water in a boat, fishing, or just riding, is nice.
favorite things: Music: pretty exclusively country, but I do like DaveFM - TV shows: Top Chef, Project Runway, Survivor, anything on History, Discovery, or Science. Love steak n potatoes, or fine dining or thai and sushi. Will eat almost anything.
last read: ESPN Magazine. Bon Appetit. Camping Life. As for books, I probably last re-read a Terry Pratchett novel.

[El Cas]

Here's my OkCupid ad I placed in an attempt to find a few new friends in my area I could have a good conversation with. So far someone has yet to send me a msg. No shocker there.

I am Funny, Open Minded, and Outgoing.

My Self-Summary
I am here just looking for friends. I'm a very funny and open minded guy. Very laid back and tend to get along with everyone.
I'm a geek by nature and always looking to see what I can do to increase normality levels (hence why I'm here).

I like computers, video games, martial arts, footie (soccer), Photography, Astrophotography (yeah I'm a geek), dancing and when time permits drinking. I try to do whatever pops in my head as fun.

What I’m doing with my life
Furthering my education by trying to complete my B.S. in Electrical Engineering. Hopefully I can work through my 20 year plan on completing it :op. Other then work and school I pretty much deal with whatever life sends my way.

I’m really good at
Lots of things :op

The first things people usually notice about me
Quiet and mysterious (in a good way) and when they get to know me they see how I really am funny and crazy.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Food: Mexican, Italian, Chinese, Vietnamese
Music: All except for country, Hard Core Metal, and some Rap/Hip-Hop.

The six things I could never do without
1.- Freedom
2.- Computer
3.- Internet
4.- Sex
5.- Oxygen
6.- Water

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything and anything. Mostly on ways to optimize everyday life.

On a typical Friday night I am
Bored on my computer looking for things to do

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
Anything you feel like asking about.

You should message me if
you want to chat.

[visitor]

Where's your photo?

[LadyInHeels]

I have noticed that the profiles i liked least do a lot of telling and don't show the reader much. Why just tell someone you're adventurous when you can list of reasons that make you adventurous. This would appear to be obvious but many people fall into this trap. I love it when people put that they like to make people laugh yet their profile is flat and boring. I think another trap is labeling oneself as laid back. Almost every other profile lists themselves as such.

lets see how mine fares?

My Self-Summary
My biggest hobby is playing the guitar. I jam with friends here and there, improvisational stuff mostly. I plan on doing the open mic night thing soon. Just for fun. I also like to ride my bike a lot. I have some nagging injuries from cross country so I don't run anymore.

I have jumped around with majors. First I wanted to be a recording engineer. Jumped off that boat early on and now i am pursuing an english major. I am entertaining the idea of teaching. Maybe I should just write the next Twilight series, horde the cash and live the rest of my days basking on a private beach.

I am a firm believer that just about anything can be made into a joke. I also believe that anything can be discussed. Including the existence of God, politics, the power of choice, etc. An intelligent conversation would hopefully leave everyone a bit wiser. Going for blood never accomplishes anything.

I like to speak precisely. If I say tomorrow, I mean tomorrow.

I am a man of subtleties. (this may seem to contradict the above statement.)

I’m really good at
staring at the sun. Laughing at bad commercials. being appropriately inappropriate. flip cup, sarcasm.

spending far too much time researching random stuff on the internet. for example how to make ribbon speakers out of aluminum foil. yeah i know, I'm a major dork for this stuff.

The first things people usually notice about me
I am smarter than the average bear. On occasion I am found stealing picnic baskets.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
I would not want to live in a world void of art. I can imagine it but it isn't pretty. Or can I?

books: I really dig short stories. Yellow wallpaper, Harrison Bergeron, Martian Chronicles, jesus' son

Longer stuff includes Catch 22, Clockwork Orange, White Noise, Hocus Pocus, the Hitchhiker's guide to the Galaxy

movies: Braveheart, Into the Wild, The birdcage, American Pie, The doors, singin' in the rain, American beauty, Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, Dan in real life, Amelie, thx 1138, the green mile

music: Radiohead, yeah yeah yeahs, sondre Lerche, beatles, Black Keys, She & Him, Ramones, Bob Dylan, Pixies, Stooges, Lou Reed, Violent Femmes, Black Flag, Ratatat, Feist, Andrew Bird, ELO, Bon Iver, Cat Power, Hives, Metric, Weezer,

heres the link to my last.fm
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last shows i've been to have been to see the NY Dolls, Radiohead, X, The Hives. YYYs, Rancid

On a typical Friday night I am
Looking for a party, catching up on movies, just hanging out. if I'm feeling feisty, probably out in an alley stabbing drug dealers.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I am afraid of becoming a fat old republican. Nothing seems more horrifying. Truth be told i am a lot more conservative than I would like to think.

You should message me if
If you love art, music, pop-up books, singing in the shower, walks in the park, long talks under the stars, playing the piano or cello, candlelit dinners, bike-rides that lead nowhere.

(fill in the blank).
Love it!
great musical taste, funny without trying to hard, obviously smart + creative

where do i sign up?

and the whole
"spending far too much time researching random stuff on the internet."

I totally do that too ;)

[lowbrass]

I've spent a little while composing this rough draft to replace my profile on PoF.

Like everything else, I'd appreciate any commentary to help make it better. Or flatter me by using it as a boilerplate of your own.

Tagline: Inquisitive, successful, and...?

A complexity.

I think I write well, but I write too much. I'm not even an author, nor am I so much an intellectual, but you probably didn't gather that by laughing at my pictures. I'm naturally reserved, but it comes and goes like the tide. I play music on stages, take pictures in humongous crowds in front of them, and dress down for the occasion. I also know how to tie a Double Windsor or a bow tie if I'm feeling frisky.

I prefer to think before I do something, except when I don't want to and I pay someone else to fix it. The plans I make are typically followed and I stick to my guns, but I can write a book on, and tenaciously practice laziness, if I want to. I'm also relaxed on the surface, but my belief system is solid, stable, and with direction, just like a bowling ball in the wind.

The world actually needs to see more of me. Of the few places I've visited in this life, nothing has surpassed my time in Dublin, Ireland. Went there myself, had fun with complete strangers on my 28th birthday, and spent the entire week soaking up Guinness and exchanging pleasantries with the locals. I would definitely do it again. Next time, I'll take you with me.

Hollywood made a mistake by not offering me the lead role in Gremlins. Yeah, watch what happens if I DON'T get fed after midnight. I actually happen to age slowly so anytime over the next 15 years they're welcome to redeem themselves by casting me in a remake of "The Graduate" as Benjamin. That's ok, I've been thinking about donating my DNA to science for the study of longevity, not to Scientology.

My parents brought me to the Mid-Atlantic from the Detroit area against my will, but now I don't want to leave. I just can't see myself in a better job than the one I have right now. I like my neighbors, I can drink my cold brew in peace, and watch all the high-def movies I can, or listen to music at whatever volume I want. And, I can still root for the major sports teams in Detroit without being teased. The Lions have been pretty sorry since Barry retired.

My friends used to call me, "captain", because I always had wheels. Still do, even though my attempts at promoting stick-shift failed. It only goes to show you that I love driving and if you like road trips, then we'll likely get along well. The stereo I installed isn't half-bad, either. They're still around, too, because they valued my driving.

At the workplace, I've been making things easier on people for just about a decade. By six degrees of separation, I've assisted our space program by enabling engineers to create and deliver satellites and other instruments on time. Then we beam down all these neat little pictures for you to go, "ooh, ahhh".

Computers are more than my career. They serve as my entertainment and can simultaneously piss me off. My living room has a network jack and there's even a machine hooked up to the big screen TV. The wireless signal probably covers half the block for the hell of it... In case I have to fix something at a neighbor's house.

If you've ever thought of playing Starcraft on a 46", don't. But if I ask you to snuggle up with me in front of a HD flick, do.

You could classify me as a geek, nerd, artist, mechanic, aficionado, or a fool. I prefer stereotypically challenged. If that means you think of me in a blue collar mechanic's shirt with a pocket protector, donning a funky black skull cap, sporting skater shoes, and wearing loose-fit Levi's, reclining on a leather executive chair and sipping on some scotch, you might be right.

That was a joke. I'm talking about my brief moment of creativity.

Despite all the hobbies I have and the work I need to do, sometimes I have to plug-in at home and recharge. Maybe I just want to nap before hitting the weights. Sometimes I have to practice music... because I need to practice. Maybe I don't want to deal with traffic or big crowds. Other times, I just have to treat responsibility as a hobby and do chores and pay the bills. Overall, a little peace and quiet is desirable to maintain the balance in my life.

I'm not that outdoorsy but you'd think otherwise when I've done the yard work. If I don't get a little bit of a tan from that, I can get one working on cars. Speaking of which, I know all about getting dirty, and how to get an assortment of nicks, cuts, scars, and scrapes all over my hands and arms. Unfortunately, the compact car is also a compact work environment.

I can still chuck a baseball pretty far, and though my football spiral isn't the tightest, yours probably isn't either. But at least I'll make the spectacular catch. Indoors, you can probably beat me at pool, since I've never been good at that, but I'll get you back in bowling.

So what am I driving at? I'm living a good life. In order to be where I'm at and to have what I have, I've had to invest a lot of effort. In doing so, I've been enjoying the fruits of that labor (finally!) and even making smoothies. Having said that, on my journey through life I have room for one more... a fascinating woman whose presence and spirit can either equal or compliment mine.

I didn't say passenger, though! My desire is for someone to have an active role in my life. And, the wheel when I get tired. You know I'd do the same for you.
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[JohnDoe]

I've spent a little while composing this rough draft to replace my profile on PoF.

Like everything else, I'd appreciate any commentary to help make it better. Or flatter me by using it as a boilerplate of your own.

Tagline: Inquisitive, successful, and...?

A complexity.

I think I write well, but I write too much. I'm not even an author, nor am I so much an intellectual, but you probably didn't gather that by laughing at my pictures. I'm naturally reserved, but it comes and goes like the tide. I play music on stages, take pictures in humongous crowds in front of them, and dress down for the occasion. I also know how to tie a Double Windsor or a bow tie if I'm feeling frisky.

I prefer to think before I do something, except when I don't want to and I pay someone else to fix it. The plans I make are typically followed and I stick to my guns, but I can write a book on, and tenaciously practice laziness, if I want to. I'm also relaxed on the surface, but my belief system is solid, stable, and with direction, just like a bowling ball in the wind.

The world actually needs to see more of me. Of the few places I've visited in this life, nothing has surpassed my time in Dublin, Ireland. Went there myself, had fun with complete strangers on my 28th birthday, and spent the entire week soaking up Guinness and exchanging pleasantries with the locals. I would definitely do it again. Next time, I'll take you with me.

Hollywood made a mistake by not offering me the lead role in Gremlins. Yeah, watch what happens if I DON'T get fed after midnight. I actually happen to age slowly so anytime over the next 15 years they're welcome to redeem themselves by casting me in a remake of "The Graduate" as Benjamin. That's ok, I've been thinking about donating my DNA to science for the study of longevity, not to Scientology.

My parents brought me to the Mid-Atlantic from the Detroit area against my will, but now I don't want to leave. I just can't see myself in a better job than the one I have right now. I like my neighbors, I can drink my cold brew in peace, and watch all the high-def movies I can, or listen to music at whatever volume I want. And, I can still root for the major sports teams in Detroit without being teased. The Lions have been pretty sorry since Barry retired.

My friends used to call me, "captain", because I always had wheels. Still do, even though my attempts at promoting stick-shift failed. It only goes to show you that I love driving and if you like road trips, then we'll likely get along well. The stereo I installed isn't half-bad, either. They're still around, too, because they valued my driving.

At the workplace, I've been making things easier on people for just about a decade. By six degrees of separation, I've assisted our space program by enabling engineers to create and deliver satellites and other instruments on time. Then we beam down all these neat little pictures for you to go, "ooh, ahhh".

Computers are more than my career. They serve as my entertainment and can simultaneously piss me off. My living room has a network jack and there's even a machine hooked up to the big screen TV. The wireless signal probably covers half the block for the hell of it... In case I have to fix something at a neighbor's house.

If you've ever thought of playing Starcraft on a 46", don't. But if I ask you to snuggle up with me in front of a HD flick, do.

You could classify me as a geek, nerd, artist, mechanic, aficionado, or a fool. I prefer stereotypically challenged. If that means you think of me in a blue collar mechanic's shirt with a pocket protector, donning a funky black skull cap, sporting skater shoes, and wearing loose-fit Levi's, reclining on a leather executive chair and sipping on some scotch, you might be right.

That was a joke. I'm talking about my brief moment of creativity.

Despite all the hobbies I have and the work I need to do, sometimes I have to plug-in at home and recharge. Maybe I just want to nap before hitting the weights. Sometimes I have to practice music... because I need to practice. Maybe I don't want to deal with traffic or big crowds. Other times, I just have to treat responsibility as a hobby and do chores and pay the bills. Overall, a little peace and quiet is desirable to maintain the balance in my life.

I'm not that outdoorsy but you'd think otherwise when I've done the yard work. If I don't get a little bit of a tan from that, I can get one working on cars. Speaking of which, I know all about getting dirty, and how to get an assortment of nicks, cuts, scars, and scrapes all over my hands and arms. Unfortunately, the compact car is also a compact work environment.

I can still chuck a baseball pretty far, and though my football spiral isn't the tightest, yours probably isn't either. But at least I'll make the spectacular catch. Indoors, you can probably beat me at pool, since I've never been good at that, but I'll get you back in bowling.

So what am I driving at? I'm living a good life. In order to be where I'm at and to have what I have, I've had to invest a lot of effort. In doing so, I've been enjoying the fruits of that labor (finally!) and even making smoothies. Having said that, on my journey through life I have room for one more... a fascinating woman whose presence and spirit can either equal or compliment mine.

I didn't say passenger, though! My desire is for someone to have an active role in my life. And, the wheel when I get tired. You know I'd do the same for you.
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I thought this was quite good.

[lowbrass]

I thought this was quite good.

I'm unequivocally impressed. The feedback that has been provided by you and others in this thread was a driving force in my effort to do this. As were the revised examples that others have shared.

When I posted my new profile, I actually received an email a couple hours later. That was a surprise. I replied to that, and sent out messages to two others. Of these three people today, I can only determine that one of them looked at my profile. That person was the same one who immediately shit-canned my message. The one who emailed me read my message, and the other person didn't respond. What I don't want to have, is the problem I had before. Even though I feel much, much better about my profile now, I don't want to repeat this trend I've experienced of . . . silence. At least when I see that I get an email deleted, it's a symbol of, "thanks, but no thanks" even if it's a bit of a cop-out.

I want to touch on something else that I'd like insight on. It has to do with initial communications. How are some of you approaching this? My usual tactic is to try to draw out details about things they say in their profile. If there aren't many, I ask them to elaborate more. However, I'm wondering if I'm shooting myself in the foot by even doing this.

The one email that I got was really short: check out my profile if you're interested. Should I consider doing this? It seems weird for me to do that, but if there's enough confirmation that this is better, for a M seeking F, then I'll consider it.

I understand the world is a bit different on their end than on ours. While some of us get peanuts as far as views or messages, they get hundreds. My thought process was to actually show that I can communicate better than I think most can, and to make it seem that I actually read the profile. I use the same sorts of twists and minor humor like I do in my profile, and never anything over the top. I understand I have to stand out from the others and I thought that was to send something worth reading.

Anyway, am I jumping the gun and making it worse for myself?

One of the few times I received a reply back was due to a simple and stupid (to me) comment that I said to someone - that I'd never let a redhead beat me in bowling. It spawned a funny exchange, which, while degenerate and amusing, made me scratch my head.

I'm least concerned about pictures, and even though the ones I'm using are mostly very recent, taken by friends and showing me doing things I enjoy, I get the sense I need to throw in a bland, full body shot in a t-shirt and jeans. I'll have to dig out my tripod later.

Is the better approach to be "chatty" up front, or to let the profile talk first, and do the chatty thing later? (As my initial contact to them is implied interest)

[visitor]

I just want to add that my opinion on almost every okcupid profile I've seen here and on the actual site. People appear to be taking the site too serious. I tend to steer away from profiles of people writing in depth about themselves. I'm more likely to E-mail someone who says something that's dry instead of stating that they have a dry sense of humor. That just seems witty to me and more interesting.

After you've seen so many profiles on there, you gotta' do something that's different. It's like if you were on a job interview with 20 other qualified candidates, you're going to have to do something that stands out.

Also, the more you write about yourself, the more a person is not going to be so open-minded. I have quite a few friends on that site. I've watched my female friends browse through it and make quick judgments on men on there. I think men do the same thing.

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I'm unequivocally impressed. The feedback that has been provided by you and others in this thread was a driving force in my effort to do this. As were the revised examples that others have shared.

When I posted my new profile, I actually received an email a couple hours later. That was a surprise. I replied to that, and sent out messages to two others. Of these three people today, I can only determine that one of them looked at my profile. That person was the same one who immediately shit-canned my message. The one who emailed me read my message, and the other person didn't respond. What I don't want to have, is the problem I had before. Even though I feel much, much better about my profile now, I don't want to repeat this trend I've experienced of . . . silence. At least when I see that I get an email deleted, it's a symbol of, "thanks, but no thanks" even if it's a bit of a cop-out.

I want to touch on something else that I'd like insight on. It has to do with initial communications. How are some of you approaching this? My usual tactic is to try to draw out details about things they say in their profile. If there aren't many, I ask them to elaborate more. However, I'm wondering if I'm shooting myself in the foot by even doing this.

The one email that I got was really short: check out my profile if you're interested. Should I consider doing this? It seems weird for me to do that, but if there's enough confirmation that this is better, for a M seeking F, then I'll consider it.

I understand the world is a bit different on their end than on ours. While some of us get peanuts as far as views or messages, they get hundreds. My thought process was to actually show that I can communicate better than I think most can, and to make it seem that I actually read the profile. I use the same sorts of twists and minor humor like I do in my profile, and never anything over the top. I understand I have to stand out from the others and I thought that was to send something worth reading.

Anyway, am I jumping the gun and making it worse for myself?

One of the few times I received a reply back was due to a simple and stupid (to me) comment that I said to someone - that I'd never let a redhead beat me in bowling. It spawned a funny exchange, which, while degenerate and amusing, made me scratch my head.

I'm least concerned about pictures, and even though the ones I'm using are mostly very recent, taken by friends and showing me doing things I enjoy, I get the sense I need to throw in a bland, full body shot in a t-shirt and jeans. I'll have to dig out my tripod later.

Is the better approach to be "chatty" up front, or to let the profile talk first, and do the chatty thing later? (As my initial contact to them is implied interest)

If it's short and funny that's cool. I will reply to those every time, but the problem is it doesn't mean I'm interested in you romantically. Stay clear of the generic, take a look at my profile, E-mails or you're cute, let's get together sometime. You have to write something that shows you read their profile and didn't just send that same E-mail to 20 other women.

[Rohsiph]

Lowbrass: change "compliment" to "complement." If you're super serious, try editing it down a little--it's longish, but that could be a good thing. At the highest level trimming writing is as important as drafting. It's something to think about. Otherwise, looks good.

I want to touch on something else that I'd like insight on. It has to do with initial communications. How are some of you approaching this? My usual tactic is to try to draw out details about things they say in their profile. If there aren't many, I ask them to elaborate more. However, I'm wondering if I'm shooting myself in the foot by even doing this.

I've tried that. More recently I've tried sharing knowledge of my own about something they seem interested in based on their profile. Neither method has worked yet, but I'm confident I'm on to the best way of approaching someone I'd actually get along with. And that's really the key.

I understand the world is a bit different on their end than on ours. While some of us get peanuts as far as views or messages, they get hundreds. My thought process was to actually show that I can communicate better than I think most can, and to make it seem that I actually read the profile. I use the same sorts of twists and minor humor like I do in my profile, and never anything over the top. I understand I have to stand out from the others and I thought that was to send something worth reading.

It is. Problem is many of these women are full of red-flags. But I think what you're on to is as effective as anything at solving that--I'm convinced a lot of incompatible women will be turned off by something I think would be worth reading. That's good. Interactions wouldn't go anywhere anyway. But someone I'd be interested in ought to eat it up--in theory. Time should tell.

I'm least concerned about pictures, and even though the ones I'm using are mostly very recent, taken by friends and showing me doing things I enjoy, I get the sense I need to throw in a bland, full body shot in a t-shirt and jeans. I'll have to dig out my tripod later.

Ideally, you shouldn't need to show anything beyond what you plan on looking like the first time you meet someone; that said, I don't think what you have in mind would hurt--at least not for compatible possibilities.

[anarchiste]

Don't mind me pointing out that you are giving a hell of a lot of personal and publicly viewable i.e. non logged in, information about yourselves - do you really want that information in the public domain?

[visitor]

What I am looking for is someone with similar interest, companionship, loyalty, and a good time. In return I offer the same or maybe even greater.
You are the girl who played Alice in the film "Twilight".

I would take out the "looking for attractive women" part. That goes for all you men who state that. We don't know what's attractive to you and it makes you look shallow.

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Hmm. Not /particularly/ interested in dating people from okcupid, but here's my profile. It wasn't made to draw people in. It was made to take a poke at people who might possess some intellect. (So far it's worked pretty well) :]

I am cynical, efficient, and intelligent.

My Self-Summary

The blasted chat box has reminded me of a vital fact I must input. I dislike smalltalk. Frankly, I quite loathe it, so If you wish to talk to me, please have a specific reason. Also, If you look at my page and I get an alert, I will look at your page. That is just the way the world turns. It does not mean I'm showing interest in you romantically. Do not message me /just/ because I looked at your profile.


I'd remove the first paragraph. I find it useless to write "do not message me if:" instructions. Stupid people don't read and for the people who do read it's too intimidating to make the first contact. It's bordering towards too snobby. You're About Me is enough to draw in elitists.

[Rohsiph]

Don't mind me pointing out that you are giving a hell of a lot of personal and publicly viewable i.e. non logged in, information about yourselves - do you really want that information in the public domain?

This is an interesting question. Hopefully, most of us have considered it in depth. I have. Generally, I conclude: "What in these messages I post could truly incriminate me in any legitimate way?" Then I revise if there is anything I wouldn't share with anyone else, but I often don't cut much (if any).

If someone attempts to use what I write in a forum such as this against me I'm quite prepared to defend myself.

In the context of this topic: presumably, those posting profiles are doing so on sites just as public as this one with hope and intent of finding a romantic partner. If one posts it in one place, why not share it in a more critical community that might be able to provide insightful revision advice?

[visitor]

Thoth, I think the story in the 2nd paragraph could be "scaring" some women away. 'Regaining consciousness' makes me wonder about a drug/alcohol problem or poor judgment leading to getting into bad situations. I could see not even reading the rest of the profile after that, and the remaining elements paint a different picture. Also, "good hygiene a must"...how many people on the dating scene would claim to not have good hygiene? I find that comment a little off-putting.

Pay no attention to that person's advice. I like how you state that people see you as being serious, when you're obviously not. This is a good example of not boringly state that you have a dry sense of humor. You demonstrated it.

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I've spent a little while composing this rough draft to replace my profile on PoF.

Like everything else, I'd appreciate any commentary to help make it better. Or flatter me by using it as a boilerplate of your own.

Tagline: Inquisitive, successful, and...?

A complexity.

I think I write well, but I write too much. I'm not even an author, nor am I so much an intellectual, but you probably didn't gather that by laughing at my pictures. I'm naturally reserved, but it comes and goes like the tide. I play music on stages, take pictures in humongous crowds in front of them, and dress down for the occasion. I also know how to tie a Double Windsor or a bow tie if I'm feeling frisky.

I prefer to think before I do something, except when I don't want to and I pay someone else to fix it. The plans I make are typically followed and I stick to my guns, but I can write a book on, and tenaciously practice laziness, if I want to. I'm also relaxed on the surface, but my belief system is solid, stable, and with direction, just like a bowling ball in the wind.

The world actually needs to see more of me. Of the few places I've visited in this life, nothing has surpassed my time in Dublin, Ireland. Went there myself, had fun with complete strangers on my 28th birthday, and spent the entire week soaking up Guinness and exchanging pleasantries with the locals. I would definitely do it again. Next time, I'll take you with me.

Hollywood made a mistake by not offering me the lead role in Gremlins. Yeah, watch what happens if I DON'T get fed after midnight. I actually happen to age slowly so anytime over the next 15 years they're welcome to redeem themselves by casting me in a remake of "The Graduate" as Benjamin. That's ok, I've been thinking about donating my DNA to science for the study of longevity, not to Scientology.

My parents brought me to the Mid-Atlantic from the Detroit area against my will, but now I don't want to leave. I just can't see myself in a better job than the one I have right now. I like my neighbors, I can drink my cold brew in peace, and watch all the high-def movies I can, or listen to music at whatever volume I want. And, I can still root for the major sports teams in Detroit without being teased. The Lions have been pretty sorry since Barry retired.

My friends used to call me, "captain", because I always had wheels. Still do, even though my attempts at promoting stick-shift failed. It only goes to show you that I love driving and if you like road trips, then we'll likely get along well. The stereo I installed isn't half-bad, either. They're still around, too, because they valued my driving.

At the workplace, I've been making things easier on people for just about a decade. By six degrees of separation, I've assisted our space program by enabling engineers to create and deliver satellites and other instruments on time. Then we beam down all these neat little pictures for you to go, "ooh, ahhh".

Computers are more than my career. They serve as my entertainment and can simultaneously piss me off. My living room has a network jack and there's even a machine hooked up to the big screen TV. The wireless signal probably covers half the block for the hell of it... In case I have to fix something at a neighbor's house.

If you've ever thought of playing Starcraft on a 46", don't. But if I ask you to snuggle up with me in front of a HD flick, do.

You could classify me as a geek, nerd, artist, mechanic, aficionado, or a fool. I prefer stereotypically challenged. If that means you think of me in a blue collar mechanic's shirt with a pocket protector, donning a funky black skull cap, sporting skater shoes, and wearing loose-fit Levi's, reclining on a leather executive chair and sipping on some scotch, you might be right.

That was a joke. I'm talking about my brief moment of creativity.

Despite all the hobbies I have and the work I need to do, sometimes I have to plug-in at home and recharge. Maybe I just want to nap before hitting the weights. Sometimes I have to practice music... because I need to practice. Maybe I don't want to deal with traffic or big crowds. Other times, I just have to treat responsibility as a hobby and do chores and pay the bills. Overall, a little peace and quiet is desirable to maintain the balance in my life.

I'm not that outdoorsy but you'd think otherwise when I've done the yard work. If I don't get a little bit of a tan from that, I can get one working on cars. Speaking of which, I know all about getting dirty, and how to get an assortment of nicks, cuts, scars, and scrapes all over my hands and arms. Unfortunately, the compact car is also a compact work environment.

I can still chuck a baseball pretty far, and though my football spiral isn't the tightest, yours probably isn't either. But at least I'll make the spectacular catch. Indoors, you can probably beat me at pool, since I've never been good at that, but I'll get you back in bowling.

So what am I driving at? I'm living a good life. In order to be where I'm at and to have what I have, I've had to invest a lot of effort. In doing so, I've been enjoying the fruits of that labor (finally!) and even making smoothies. Having said that, on my journey through life I have room for one more... a fascinating woman whose presence and spirit can either equal or compliment mine.

I didn't say passenger, though! My desire is for someone to have an active role in my life. And, the wheel when I get tired. You know I'd do the same for you.
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It's a good profile if you're looking for something long term and serious. Shave your cheeks though! It looks patchy.

[Somniloquent]

I agree with visitor... a lot of profiles are either tldr or too vague. Movie/band/author lists are good, and about all I'd need to know. I respond to specifics, not genres. If someone had my favorite book, I'd send a message for sure.

First communications are best kept short. But I'd be a little suspicious of someone who just says to check his/her profile, that sounds too much like a mass mailing.

[visitor]

I agree with visitor... a lot of profiles are either tldr or too vague. Movie/band/author lists are good, and about all I'd need to know. I respond to specifics, not genres. If someone had my favorite book, I'd send a message for sure.

First communications are best kept short. But I'd be a little suspicious of someone who just says to check his/her profile, that sounds too much like a mass mailing.

That's why the biggest chunk in my profile is the music/movies/author section. I've dated/fell in love with someone I emailed from okcupid from just that list. The rest of his profile was short and witty.

[tp6626]

Just made an update on match, as I've left it pretty stagnant for quite a while now, and think it's time for a change...

Undercover comedian seeks an imaginative gal...

I've been told I'm "quite witty" (a glowing review, I'd say!). I find it quite difficult to describe myself. Full of contradictions, I am. Very laid back about things (live & let-live and all), but at the same time pretty anxious and on edge (maybe that's excess coffee to blame)?

I'm pretty rational and level-headed. But from time to time I've been known to chuck all that out the window and do some pretty extreme things on a whim.

I'm technically a qualified engineer, but feel more like a closet artist/scientist. When I was younger I always wanted to be just like Professor Wheeto of Wheeto's fame!? I value intelligence and education, but can't stand those who take it too far and become arrogant and boring for the sake of 'looking intelligent'. I am always wary of the difference between knowledge and wisdom.

I come across quiet, sensible and reserved, but there's always a subtle glint in my eye, and mischief is never too far under the surface! ;)

If you're creative, witty / humorous, kind, caring, open-minded and a little bit quirky, I'd be interested in hearing from you. If you're someone who isn't the same as everyone else (i.e. not a sheep), and you're happy and content with being different in your own way, then that'd be even better.

I'm looking for someone I can be totally myself with and would expect the same to apply in reverse. Ideally someone who is looking to settle down, build a nice cosy home as I've been quite a nomad for the past 8 years! :)Thoughts???

[cp444]

I'm laughing... You took these questions from eHarmony, didn't you?... I was on eharmony too. I learned from other eharmony members (not the ones I met through dating,) that eharmony sucks. It made me have such a low self esteem to be closed out so many times because people are not interested in me.

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About me: I just realized last year just before I turned 35 that I was an INTJ. I was looking for a career-change from project management or IT management to else. It's not that I dislike project management, but I prefer to work independently, and have been pointed that I don't have great interpersonal skills. As an INTJ, I like to work on relationships, but unfortunately I do not come out as an extroverted person with great interpersonal skills as most people would think of, in terms of what a project manager should be. Right now, I am studying for some exams in networking, and hope to get into security networking next year. I have some fallback plans, but do not want to disclose about my plans to the public. I hope that the friend whom I want to develop a relationship with can understand my status at the moment.

I pondered about my personality for six months a whole lot, and took the humanmetrics test four times, and was led to the same personality profile type (INTJ). After having done a series of reflections (it's been over 6 months now,) I appreciate who I am right now. I have to say, that I'm proud to be a minority in every way (race, personality-wise and background and upbringing.) There's also something about me that makes me a minority, but I'd rather disclose that later.

I am Asian (Korean), 35 years of age, turning 36 in July. I like to go to the gymn about 2-3 times a week, spend the majority of the time on the Internet reading, listening to webinars, going to the Catholic church, and recently I found two hobbies: sewing and investing. I also read some exam books as I hope to get into network security as previously indicated.

My intellectual interests are information technology and recently, I discovered that there is such a thing as the philosophy of truth. I would like to discover and read more about the philosophy of truth later on, after I'm done with the exams. I think in terms of images (have outstanding visualization and spatial IQ scores), and try to convey information into situations that I've been placed at.

I totally realized that my ideal partner would be someone who's either an INTJ or an ENTJ, as disclosed on the Briggs Myers Foundation's Website on my type. The reason is, that I value that logical, structural thinking with much abstraction and unsynthetic approach to reasoning. As I have learned to value myself, I would like to value my partner as I do myself.

I hold a master's degree in the management of technologies with a good GPA, have a black belt in Tae-Kwon-Do though I don't practice it anymore, am considered normal looking (not too attractive, but not ugly. Somwhere in between.) And I have a project management license which was rigorously tested on me. I had my own company before (an online adventure travel company) but I closed the business because I did not market myself very well.

[lowbrass]

Well, for those who are curious, I sent out a handful of messages this morning. I kept it really short - basically an opening statement that referenced one thing in their profile, then I asked them to check out mine and reply back if interested.

Of the three, one hasn't read, one has, and the third sent me back a glowing response about my profile. Based on this finding, I'm thinking my strategy is to let the profile do the heavy lifting, first, so that it evokes something positive. That positive vibe then becomes anchored to me when they hit that reply button.

Thanks for the tip, Rohsiph - I'll make the fix using the right word that begins with 'compl' and ends with 'ment'. I was a little bit concerned with the length of the profile in the beginning, but that's when I thought, hey, I'll make an excuse for it right in the first paragraph. Can't say I didn't warn 'em!

I added two additional head-to-toe pictures. On one of them, I was intentionally being corny in my own complex way. I snapped a picture of myself pretending to vacuum. I've got a funky/modern Dyson, and the way it looks simply underscores my love for technology. It shows I give half a damn about cleaning up after myself, it's a full body shot, I've got my jeans and Mighty Mouse T-shirt on and I'm making a funny face. The picture simply inspires conversation.

Hey, gotta be able to laugh at yourself, right?

Ironically, visitor, the girl that replied back today asked me in a polite and funny way if I went without facial hair. I consider it a work in progress and it took me months to grow it wildly so I could trim it down and make it look half decent. I said I'd think about it if she was good and threw a smiley on the end. I'll probably just go back to sideburns and chin instead of porkchops. It's easier with my shaver, anyway.

We'll see how things shake out.

[El Cas]

Where's your photo?

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[JohnDoe]

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If you do nothing else... one of these must go

The six things I could never do without
1.- Freedom
2.- Computer
3.- Internet
4.- Sex
5.- Oxygen
6.- Water


Why don't you redo this a bit. I guarantee you that #4 is chasing some people off.


Bored on my computer looking for things to do or watching TV. (unless there is a movie premiere I really want to watch, then I will be there that is if I did not already go to the midnight showing on Thurs. night/Fri. Morning)

This is lame, you should make yourself sound interesting here.

[visitor]

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I'd remove the mirror photo.

[JTG]

I'll give this a shot. For the titilation and education of the girls and guys (respectively) of INTJ forum, here's my personal posting, destined for true love! (or something like that?)

I guess i'll start with genetics and other looks-based things, for the people who care. I have/am:

6 feet tall
165ish pounds in spite of my fast metabolism (it takes effort for me to maintain weight)
brown hair/eyes
intelligent (IQ 140ish)
super nearsighted
shoe size 12
Pants waist 32, length 32
7.5"
5 piercings, considering maybe one or two more before i'm done
one tattoo, but it's not visible. most people have seen it, and most people haven't noticed

My interests are widely varied... and they vary quite often. Right now i'm reading Kierkegaard, but i know a little about almost everything. My friends celebrate the fact that i'm a fountain of useless information. I've had a lot of different jobs over the years. I spent 9 summers as a lifeguard, and i've been everything from an EMT to a construction worker in the mix of things. My quick and flexible mind is sometimes both a blessing and a curse. I'm told i have an agile wit, but around more sensitive people i have to watch my tongue lest i ruffle some feathers.

I hate attention from lots of people at one time. Any time i show up somewhere and somebody makes a big scene out of welcoming me, or if a teacher knows i know the answer to a question and calls on me without my hand raised, i want to scream. I only grudgingly accept praise or compliments. I almost always turn down people's help, but it's not to be rude. I believe in standing on my own feet, and i also feel bad accepting help that i won't be able or willing to reciprocate later. I was raised a Christian, and i am still a believer, but i hate most of Christendom for the views and especially the attitudes they present. In the bible, the book of James is by far my favorite. It's just a simple and straightforward description of how Christians should behave. I believe it's something every Christian should take to heart, and i think even non-Christians should give it a look.

I don't believe in being "in love." I think that's just infatuation, and whether that infatuation turns into something real depends on the people involved. "In love" always wears off, so i refuse to get into a dating situation unless my head and my heart agree. Maybe that's the influence of the cynic in me. The hopeless romantic in me does believe in true love though, just not one true love. I believe you live life and meet people. There are people out there who can make you happy, and there are those who can't. If two people who make each other happy find each other, then they should hold onto each other. If it lasts, then that's true love. Too many people put so much pressure on it, when love is supposed to be the easiest, happiest thing there is. I do hope to someday find somebody, settle down, and have a family. At the same time though, i'm a happy person already, and i don't need somebody else's affection to feel content with life.

When i type, i don't capitalize the first person nominative pronoun on purpose. I also intentionally put the "i" before the "e" in wierd. Almost all of the things i do, i do on purpose... either as a result of some personal efficiency analysis, or just to be silly and make people think about things from a new angle. I'm a slacker when it comes to school, and i have been since fifth grade. The plan is to eventually be a computer programmer in some capacity. Sadly, the hopeless romantic and the die-hard cynic in me both agree that i should meet somebody before i buckle down and achieve all my goals. I could explain, but i'll save it for another post. The problem is meeting somebody who both meets my criteria and whose criteria i also match. (does that sentence make sense?)

My criteria are pretty simple. I don't particularly care what color her hair is (i've dated girls with black, red, blonde, brown, and blue hair). Height isn't a big concern, although being within 6-8 inches of my height makes things easier. As long as proportions are within normal limits, i'm not too concerned with weight. Her religion isn't a big deal to me as long as she's not pushy about it. I find several belief systems to be quite beautiful. Green eyes are my favorite, but beautiful eyes come in all colors. Pretty is nice, and a girl who likes to smile and laugh automatically wins some points in that category.

I want a girl who's willing to pretend my jokes are funny even if they're not. She has to be unimpressed when i do something impressive unless i'm trying to be impressive, which is obvious because i look silly when i'm trying to impress. I have two emotional left feet, so has to feel comfortable taking the lead when we're doing that particular dance... or at the very least she has to be able to gracefully tolerate my clumsiness. She has to be able to be honest with me. About anything. Especially when she has a problem with something i've done.

I usually dislike parties, bars, and clubs, so she has to be cool with spending the evening curled up on the couch watching a movie, or going to a park, or sitting in a coffee shop or something similarly boring. She MUST be ok with physical affection, because once that barrier is broken i'm usually pretty demonstrative in private. In public she has to be a lady, because i try to carry myself like a gentleman. She must be intelligent enough to carry a conversation about whatever has taken my interest at the time, and she's gotta have enough intellectual curiosity to strike up a conversation about whatever has taken her interest at the time as well.

She has to like herself, and she has to enjoy her own company. She has to be comfortable in her own body. She has to be willing to sing in the car with me. She's gotta be able to give me some space when i need it, because i need it pretty often. If she wants to know what's in my head she has to be good at probing instead of prying. I'll probably share if she wants, but i can tell in an instant whether somebody's asking out of interest or insecurity. A little insecurity is okay though. It'll make me feel less bad about my own insecurities. Jealousy can be a good thing as long as it's expressed rationally (don't want any more girls who will pick a fight over me talking to a friend, etc)

Well... that just about covers it for now. If anybody has any questions or comments, feel free to PM me or quote/ask publicly

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(also i see a few of you are OkCupid users. any idea how to block the IM function? i only get wierdos... and IMs are so much more invasive than messages)

[visitor]

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(also i see a few of you are OkCupid users. any idea how to block the IM function? i only get wierdos... and IMs are so much more invasive than messages)

The turn off IMs function doesn't stick.

[alphawolf]

I guarantee you that #4 is chasing some people off.


I guarantee you that #4 is chasing those away who need to be chased away.

Having a similar sex drive and attitude about sex is dead-on important. If you're a man who is always horny, you don't want a woman who thinks that it's OK to go for weeks, or even months at a time without having sex with you.

Never, ever apologize for your sex drive; find someone who appreciates it.

[JohnDoe]

I guarantee you that #4 is chasing those away who need to be chased away.

Having a similar sex drive and attitude about sex is dead-on important. If you're a man who is always horny, you don't want a woman who thinks that it's OK to go for weeks, or even months at a time without having sex with you.

Never, ever apologize for your sex drive; find someone who appreciates it.

I don't disagree with you on any particular point. However, this is an online dating profile, it has exactly 0 to do with the real world, and in particular because of the generally low quality of people on these sites, people may be turned off based on that item. #4 may also chase away many people who would be good dates but have had bad online dating experiences.

[paleoeco]

...7.5"....

Wow...this is a stat I've only ever seen in a profile of a gay man. Does your size really matter in an OKcupid profile?

[Somniloquent]

Wow...this is a stat I've only ever seen in a profile of a gay man.

I thought the same and was confused when it got to "what color her hair is" because until then it hadn't mentioned women. I won't say size doesn't matter, but the exact measurements seem to interest men a whole lot more than women, so it does come off as gay.

[visitor]

Wow...this is a stat I've only ever seen in a profile of a gay man. Does your size really matter in an OKcupid profile?

Whoa, who's 7.5"? That's a good size. :thumbsup:

[Stanman]

I'll try this again. Kind of started over from scratch.


I am witty, bold, and sharp.
My Self-Summary
I am a film school graduate working in the film industry. I'm really into movies and I hope to get further in that line of business. I'm a pretty adventurous guy as I feel right now I need some life experiences in order to be a better storyteller. I have a unique sense of humor that always tends to make people laugh. Sometimes I'm not even trying to make people laugh... I wish I was a better cook, but I'm pretty good otherwise. I don't apologize for who I am. I'm an extreme character, but people enjoy my company.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now I'm busy figuring out the post college transition. I've been having luck lately being a film set electrician so it is neat working in the industry and witnessing all the madness.

In my spare time, and what I did primarily in film school, I worked on and made various short films. I have a few on Youtube. The two below are probably my most popular.
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I plan on living forever. So far, so good.
I’m really good at
Looking at things in a new way. Dry humor. Insightful conversation. Finding something to laugh at. Getting things done. Beasting at Karaoke. Doing backflips off of walls.
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The first things people usually notice about me
People tend to generate a preconceived notion of what I'm like based on my appearance then realize that it is completely wrong once they get to know me.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Most of the books I have been reading lately have been on movie making. I still read the occasional novels, but a majority of the stories I ingest are from movies.

I have a pretty wide range of favorite movies. Just off the top of my head some of my favorites are The Dark Knight, The Fountain, Kingpin, Up, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, The Royal Tenenbaums, Star Wars, Oldboy, Speed, Enter the Dragon, Deep Blue Sea, Groundhog Day, Children of Men, Annie Hall.... This list could go on forever. I could probably talk about movies forever.

For music, I like a lot of stuff from the 90's since I grew up around then. As for a genre, I guess it would be rock. The Beatles, Beck, Cake, Foo Fighters, Green Day, Oasis, Radiohead, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Smashing Pumpkins, Weezer, etc.

I'm a pretty big fan of food. My parents own a pretty prominent Chinese restaurant so I had a lot of chance to eat some pretty awesome food. In general, I'm a meat eater. A good steak is probably my favorite meal overall. I've think I've tried almost every sushi place around New Orleans as well. Haven't tried too many crazy ethnic foods, but would be up for trying it.
The six things I could never do without
In no particular order...

Friends - If I didn't have friends I'd probably just sit at home all day. I think that's probably the same with any body.

Family - I have a pretty big family and I value them a lot. My favorite vacations are ones where I visit family rather than visiting a new and exciting place, but it helps if it is both.

Internet - I could probably live without this, but I do enjoy the internet. It's like a limitless pool of information.

Humor - There may be a time and place for everything, but I think that laughter is something that is always welcome. Actually I think I can think of times where laughter would be really strange, but anyways...

Goals - I would hate to live life without some purpose. All the jobs where I got paid to do nothing were worse than the ones where I worked my ass off.

Ideas - A theme in the movie V for Vendetta is that what a person stands for is more important than the person himself. I relate with this deeply and often ponder what insight I can leave behind.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I need to be doing to accomplish my goals, figuring out the complex simplicities of life, what the future holds, and maybe what I want to eat for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
If I'm not at work, I'm hanging with my friends or just relaxing to unwind from work. Not much of a party person, but if I'm in the mood I'll take part in some chaos.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
Sometimes I feel like I connect with movies more than the real world.
You should message me if
you think this profile is at least mildly interesting. At the very least I'm up for chatting with anybody. I'd like to just meet more people in general.

[JTG]

Haha, the profile i posted isn't from OkCupid, although i could copypasta that over. I was mostly being silly when i put that in, but i seem to have a knack for surprising myself with forwardness every now and then. I trust the INTJ forum a lot more than i'd trust other crazies out there. At least the people here are my kind of crazy. It counts for something i guess.

And actually, i think i'll copy my profile over to get some tips. Here we go:

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My Self-Summary
I don't capitalize the word "i" on purpose, and i spell wierd that way on purpose too. I love solving problems and figuring out solutions to complex issues. My views on a lot of things are usually pretty unorthodox, but i don't take anything seriously enough to be bothered if people disagree with me. That includes myself; i am always so confused when people take me too seriously, because why get bent out of shape about things? Life's too short, so our time is better spent laughing and enjoying the ride.

I recently relocated to the Atlanta area, so i'm here mostly to meet new people and hopefully make some friends and/or go on some dates. I'm a construction worker (and student, but on a break) with an active body and a more active mind. I first made a profile here mainly for the quizzes. They fill up some of the free time i have with amusement, as opposed to the alternative: boredom. A few years later i came back to try out the meeting people aspect, and i now regret giving myself such a goofy handle haha... i mean who wants to talk to some freak named lgboi4real?

At any rate, i'm fun-loving, easygoing, and intellectually curious. I enjoy learning new and interesting things, even if there's no immediate reward other than understanding a little bit more about the world around me.

Also, to explain my "i'm here for:" over on the side --->
I listed friends and short-term dating, because i'm not here seeking true love. I think that's something that happens after knowing somebody for a while. What i am interested in is finding people i get along with, so i can have some cool people to hang with. Friends, going on dates, and maybe even going on dates with friends if i'm feeling crazy... yep, sounds pretty good to me.

What I’m doing with my life
I'm working for now, just paying the bills while i figure some things out. I'm planning on filing for financial aid this spring so that i can finish at least a Bachelor's in computer science. My goal is to get into software design eventually, but finding somebody with whom to share the ride is also very important to me.

Other than my desire to finish school and someday have a family, my life is an unwritten book. I'm very much a "go with the flow" kind of guy. I moved to atlanta when my best friend from growing up said he needed a roommate. Within a week i was making plans to relocate. I figure i'll keep on trying new things and going new places until i find somewhere that really suits me. After i find somewhere i love, or something i love enough to stick with, then i'll probably start to work on that nesting instinct thing.

I’m really good at
The only thing i can claim to be "really good" at is listening, but i'm pretty good at just about anything that takes my interest. Right now i'm focused on learning my current trade (basically an over glorified handyman) so that someday when i have my own family, i'll be able to take care of things around the house that need to be fixed. I've had a lot of different jobs and hobbies over the years though. I try to know a little bit about everything. I've been everything from a burger jockey to an EMT.

I LOVE to learn new and interesting things, so my interests are constantly shifting and growing.

The first things people usually notice about me
I'm very quiet, but i have prying eyes. I was a lifeguard for years, and my eyes were my job. I'm in the habit of always looking at my surroundings, especially if i'm somewhere new.

Other than that, i think i go mostly unnoticed haha. At least, people don't usually approach me. Sometimes i get told i'm intimidating, but i really don't see why.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books: Anything by Chuck Palahniuk, Catch-22, Ender's Game, The Catcher in the Rye, and the dictionary. That's right, if i'm looking up a word and see another one that looks interesting, i'll stop and read the definition. I'm currently reading Kierkegaard's Either/Or and a book on Japanese language. I need to read more books though, so hopefully this list will get bigger soon.

Movies: Fight Club, V for Vendetta, anything with Bill Murray. I really need to expand this list, but i don't get to watch movies as much as i want.

Music: Thrice Blink 182 Interpol Lydia Radiohead Red Hot Chili Peppers Offspring System of a Down Orgy Tool The Used Weezer 30 Seconds to Mars and many more.

Honestly, this section will probably grow and expand a lot. Every time i see a band i forgot on somebody's page, i am compelled to come here and add haha. Oh yeah, i forgot Lydia, lemme fix that. There, fixed. See? It's happening all the time (and i clearly have ADD if you hadn't already figured it out)

The six things I could never do without
Good food
Music
Internet
Laughter
Work (seriously, i hate when i don't have a job)
Interesting things to learn

no particular order of course

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything and nothing. If there's no pressing issue on my mind, i like to let my thoughts wander. I think about people, work, finance, school, and just about anything that may concern me whether it's of great importance or not.

If there is an issue that's weighing heavily on me, i tend to shut down for a little while and focus completely on it. Apparently i get a certain look on my face when i'm concentrating on picking apart a problem. Sometimes people worry about me when it happens, but as soon as i come up with a reasonable way to handle the problem, i'm fine again.

On a typical Friday night I am
Chillin at the house! It's boring, i know. My roommate sometimes drags me out to socialize or whatever, but i don't really make a big deal out of having fun. I can have fun doing almost anything, so a particular night isn't really that important to me.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I can solve a Rubik's cube! Not very private, i know... but i'm shy, so that's the best i can do in a completely public internet information box. Sorry!

You should message me if
If you are interested in going on a date or two, or if you're just interested in meeting new friends, then drop me a line. If you're okay with low pressure relationships (whether it be friendship, romance, or whatever) then we'll probably get along great. I'm just looking for somebody with whom i can be myself. I'm really not looking for anything serious here. Rather, i'm looking for good company and somebody cool to talk to. If we can manage that, then maybe something serious can come later if we're both feeling it.

Either way, i'm not desperately searching for love, sex, friendship, or anything else. I'm always willing to talk to interesting people though.

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(keep in mind, i'm not trying to find a girlfriend with that profile)

[saberu]

WHY IS THIS PROFILE GOOD OR BAD?

This about me section is a good chance for me to be honest...I feel there are not a lot of chances otherwise.

Like anybody else I do have a sincere desire to meet an awesome women. But my view of awesome is different from the next persons. I can't really describe myself so Ill tell you where I have been and where I want to go...

I stopped attending school at 12 years of age and my life took an unconventional path which has provided more advantages than I can count and a few minor inconveniences. My education was amazing and I have used it well. I have felt the rush of making ridiculous amounts of money and the guilt of spending it frivolously on unnecessary luxury.

I also used that time to pursue a variety of hobbies. I’m not talented. I’m just a well practiced clumsy dork.

I am extremely confident and social. This has been drastically intensified as I have spent time teaching a classroom and am currently the boss at work.

I have had the good fortune to date some very attractive women. I’m not trying to brag and I have no clue why these girls chose me. I guess there is no accounting for taste. Most women however don't take the time or effort to get to know me. Those lucky few have shared priceless moments and nothing I have ever known has done more to make me feel as frightened and confused more sure or insecure or more important and less significant.

I find it ironic when dating a beautiful girl to watch how every other girl immediately finds me attractive based on who I’m already dating. Most girls don’t know what they want. Clueless ****ess.

Despite having tremendous will it is becoming obvious that finding a real connection is completely out of my hands. I rarely meet girls except at bars ( ugh ) and Ill be honest…I am picky.

My life is changing fast. I’m growing up and still resisting the temptation to compromise. If I could send a message to that special girl I would tell her about what’s in store for the future.

For the casual beginning filled with playing xbox 360 games with you. not the crappy older xbox with the stick figure drawings-- the new one. with the amazing movie-like experience that makes you think you're actually driving and crashing expensive imported cars just because you can...

and i want to "accidentally" cover your eyes, so you crash into the wall. and then watch you get mad and chase me around the living room... and i'll run slow so you can catch me ..i'll even pretend to trip, so you can fall on top of me. and then i'll put all your worries about my penchant for cheating during car-racing games to rest with one big gigantic squeeze..

and you'll say, "ahhhhhhhhhh babe! you can cover my eyes, and make me crash into the computer-generated wall in my super charged, expensive, formula 1 car anytime!"

... and i'll say, "mmmmm... i like the way you smell when you don't take a shower for a day... and it's like, on the verge of being stinky but it's not....

it's..

just..

you..."

and you'll say, "i like you.

let's have sex on the couch to make it official."

..and we'll hump for around 45 minutes, alternating between slow thrusting, where i look at you and visibly ache inside just seeing those expressions on your face.. the ones that make me worry in the back of my head that someday you'll grow old, and i'll grow old, and i'll either be senile, or you'll be hit by a drunk driver, and we'll never be able to recreate the days that don't feel like the grinding work stints that people want to abandon and trade in for something better..

because we're together... in a house (or any place on earth) that just happens to fit around us like the way odd-shaped circumstances fit around chronic daydreams. like worn out blankets fit around the shoulders of people who've lived alone outside next to cement and stale gum their whole lives...

....we'll someday be different than the whim-filled thoughts we indulged as new toothpaste-sharing neighbors exploring the boundaries of the kitchen, naked and hungry, because something will happen... it always does..

.........but like i was saying, alternating between slow thrusting... and mad Mr. Toad's Wild Ride prodigious, ambitious wall-hunting, propped up against the bookshelf by the door, falling off the chair, breaking in the nearest kitchen counters sex... the sex that sells itself just by the thought of it during the day and waiting for it ..counting the seconds until 5pm when the Fred Flintstone whistle blows and it's time to leave work and have the hearty young Jim Morrison **** of our unintentional lives..

i wanna take you into the jacuzzi and suck on your toes.. because i won't do it unless they're clean.. and i won't do it unless i mean it. not because it turns me on.. but because i know it makes mortal girls cringe. and i want to know that i've safely crossed the line of permission given to unwanted but secretly appreciated gestures..

i want you to use your tongue on me in places that are reserved for thoughts often unloaded in confessional boxes or anonymous online diaries... i want you to be that in love with me that you forget about the uptight ****es you call friends who attempt to direct your life like a naggy bunch of housewives in training, complete with****shaped clitori and hair curlers and green facial masks.. i want you to pretend those self-serving****, er..."friends".. are dead and buried and resting in hell with the other fallen angels.. and they have nothing more to say about the way we want to touch, yearn, tease, toss, taunt and tantalize each other's bodies and salads..

i want to take you places in my car. and i want you to drive me places in yours.. i want to go to L.A. and feel artsy.. i want to go to Europe and fell ancient and careless like i'm on an unsuspecting vacation full of days that haven't even been solidified into actual excuses for leaving work yet..

i wanna love you in the grass.. i wanna love you in the hot sand.. i want to love you in the pool (especially in the pool) and standing on any nearby mountains, hills, balconies and anywhere else unfamiliar or daring

i hope you get sick once a year because i want to design a chicken soup party around your fever and a makeout party around your recovery.. i wanna make you a get well card while i put a cold cloth on your forehead and let you watch me make it, so you'll feel "aTo view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts." inside and i won't have to work so hard to seem irresistible and live up to the statistical 1 out of a billion special find at the swapmeet. i want you to love me like jesus and heroin and a sticky cinnamon roll fresh from the oven and a pile of money touching the ceiling and unlimited hawaiian sunshine..

i wish you were as real as the unrelenting edge of a Monday morning... and as soft as the realization one rests their head on at the end of a meaningful failure.

Now even as I sit here typing cannot help but feel dumbstruck and indecisive. It feels like my only option is throwing caution to the wind and taking blind, wild chances. Being a rational person doesn’t work when considering love. I’m being careless with myself in hopes that once again, by some miracle, someone can step in and take care of me. For someone who has everything “under control” it seems like fate I cannot master something as simple as dating…but its not without a sense of irony.

[JTG]

That's a winner if i ever saw one. BRB, gonna copy all that to my profile.

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EDIT: just saw this profile on an OkCupid match presented to me concerning a girl in my old hometown. I underlined the two entries that made my head hurt. Seriously? Do people seriously walk around thinking these thoughts in their heads? I ran away from her profile because i was afraid i might implode if i stuck around any longer.

I'm looking for a guy or some guys that I can date casually. Nothing serious. Guys I would want to date should:
- Be attractive. I'm attractive and who are we kidding, looks are important. I've dated not so attractive guys in the past and I've decided I don't want to do that anymore.
- Be at least mildly intelligent but don't be a prick about it. Not every conversation has to be deep, meaningful, and intellectually stimulating.
- Have a sense of humor.
- Love music. preferably your taste in music should overlap mine somewhere (see fav music below)
- Not be a big baby. I'll be 25 this December. I don't do drama, and I'm not your mommy. If you aren't a responsible adult who can take care of yourself, don't bother.

Surely, she jests. Right guys? ...right?

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I sent her a message... :stare:

I had to ask if you're being serious in all of your profile, or if some of it is sarcasm. I mean, sarcasm doesn't always translate over into text, so maybe i missed it.

If you're being serious, you might be the first person i've ever seen who is looking for somebody "mildly intelligent" haha

[visitor]

That's a winner if i ever saw one. BRB, gonna copy all that to my profile.

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EDIT: just saw this profile on an OkCupid match presented to me concerning a girl in my old hometown. I underlined the two entries that made my head hurt. Seriously? Do people seriously walk around thinking these thoughts in their heads? I ran away from her profile because i was afraid i might implode if i stuck around any longer.

I'm looking for a guy or some guys that I can date casually. Nothing serious. Guys I would want to date should:
- Be attractive. I'm attractive and who are we kidding, looks are important. I've dated not so attractive guys in the past and I've decided I don't want to do that anymore.
- Be at least mildly intelligent but don't be a prick about it. Not every conversation has to be deep, meaningful, and intellectually stimulating.
- Have a sense of humor.
- Love music. preferably your taste in music should overlap mine somewhere (see fav music below)
- Not be a big baby. I'll be 25 this December. I don't do drama, and I'm not your mommy. If you aren't a responsible adult who can take care of yourself, don't bother.

Surely, she jests. Right guys? ...right?

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I sent her a message... :stare:

I had to ask if you're being serious in all of your profile, or if some of it is sarcasm. I mean, sarcasm doesn't always translate over into text, so maybe i missed it.

If you're being serious, you might be the first person i've ever seen who is looking for somebody "mildly intelligent" haha

I once put you should message me if: You're a hot guy with low self-esteem.

I was kidding, but I don't think that chick was. There was a guy in another thread here about how men like stupid girls. He said intelligence wasn't very important. Likes dumb girls. I guess some people want something simple.

[JTG]

BTW, the girl never replied... haha. She's from the town i recently moved away from, so there's still a fair chance i'll run into her sometime when i visit (it's a small town)

Oh how awkward that meeting would be

[drawThreeCards]

My Self-Summary
Hello, I'm drawThreeCards. I'm 5'8", 130 lbs, and 21 years old. I live in Tempe, Arizona. I have brown hair, glasses, and technically speaking I'm 100% Puerto Rican. Unfortunately, I don't know spanish and have really pale skin, so I call myself a pseudo-rican.

I've been playing a lot of Dance Dance Revolution recently to get in shape. I haven't been doing steady workouts since high school, back in my NJROTC days. I liked NJROTC because the whole experience revolved around discipline. Coincidentally, I was a military brat growing up and have lived in 6 different states though I was born in Germany.

I love to sing. Playing Rock Band with friends is one of my favorite things to do, but Rock Band seems to have lost its initial appeal among my social circle. So normally I play alone, playing the guitar and singing at the same time, hoping that someone else would like to play side-by-side with me someday.

What I’m doing with my life
Paying bills, mostly. I have some college credits that I'd like to turn into a bachelor's, but I'll need to pay off some old financial aid loans first.

I’m really good at
Street Fighter 4. You can see a video of me playing with one of the best players in the U.S., Alex Valle, by looking up "juicebox vs valle" on youtube. (can't post links, right?) I won $100 for winning that match. I've also won over $1,000 over the span of my "career".

Being on time. If I am ever late I always try to make up for it in some way. It is very important to me that I don't waste other people's time.

Rock Band.

The first things people usually notice about me
I'm an INTJ, so people notice the usual stuff; he's quiet, he's anti-social, blah blah. For the people who take time to get to know me, they quickly learn that I'm highly analytical in everything I do. Then they notice my sense of humor, which I try to use often so that people remember me later.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books: I'm not a very big reader, but when I do read it is almost always non-fiction. Recently, I've been reading the books of the new atheist movement (The God Delusion, God is not Great, The End of Faith).

Movies: I enjoy movies that try to be unique and/or grossly entertaining. Sweeney Todd comes to mind. I also get a kick out of martial arts movies.

Music: Every kind of rock except for the scream-gibberish-until-you-go-deaf kind. Also old-school hip-hop and 80s-90s pop.

The six things I could never do without
Sex
Quiet Time
Milk
Close Friends
My Glasses
Street Fighter

I spend a lot of time thinking about
What should my new non-professional goal be if I ever accomplish my current goal of winning an EVO tournament? (EVO is like the Olympics for fighting games. It is held once a year in Las Vegas.)

If I achieve financial freedom, what would I do with it?

What would it be like to date an INTJ girl?

On a typical Friday night I am
Playing Street Fighter with my roommates, browsing this forum, or having margaritas with friends.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
My past relationships have all ended with the other person resenting me for my lack of emotion. Maybe you can understand where I'm coming from?

You should message me if
You are smiling right now, or if you're an INTJ that hopes that there are people out there just like you.

[Riz]

I want a female INFP friend to stalk on the internet etc, etc. I broke my old one she's been playing dead and ignoring my stalking and spamming of her inbox.

On a serious note I genuinely considered her a friend since I had known her since 2003/4 and she has now been ignoring me for over a month or two. I don't see why, I think she is doing it as a form of peer-pressure, which is fine. I can move one thus, this is what I am doing.

What I am looking for:

1.) Just an internet friend.
2.) I don't want to have sex with you or anything of that nature.
3.) Must be in late 20s or over.
4.) Must post on at least two other forums.
5.) preferably atheist/agnostic.
6.) preferably liberal

If you fit the above then PM me.

THIS IS NOT A JOKE.

If you are not an INFP but still fit the above description PM me.

If you are a male reading this thread and know of a INFP female point her to this thread.

[Thinktress]

I want a female INFP friend to stalk on the internet etc, etc. I broke my old one she's been playing dead and ignoring my stalking and spamming of her inbox.

On a serious note I genuinely considered her a friend since I had known her since 2003/4 and she has now been ignoring me for over a month or two. I don't see why, I think she is doing it as a form of peer-pressure, which is fine. I can move one thus, this is what I am doing.
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2.) I don't want to have sex with you or anything of that nature.
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Maybe it's because you won't have sex with her...? Just sayin'
Honestly though, I'm a tad confused. This girl is "just a friend" yet you're doing the whole stalking thing with her? Yet you also don't want to have sex? If she's just a friend then why do you have to "move on" at all? Why was your relationship even exclusive? You can't have more than one friend at a time? Confused about exactly what it is you're looking for here in a "new" relationship.

[Riz]

Maybe it's because you won't have sex with her...? Just sayin'
Honestly though, I'm a tad confused. This girl is "just a friend" yet you're doing the whole stalking thing with her? Yet you also don't want to have sex? If she's just a friend then why do you have to "move on" at all? Why was your relationship even exclusive? You can't have more than one friend at a time? Confused about exactly what it is you're looking for here in a "new" relationship.

I would have had sex with her, if she wanted to have sex with me. But the issue was I had only known here over the internet. And move on in the sense of losing a friend. I saw her as an asset, since I could yield epic amounts of lulz out of her.

[Peter Rabbit]

If anyone can find some time to offer me some pointers, please do. Thanks in advance.

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I am nimble, composed, and patient.

My Self-Summary
“They say I’m old-fashioned and live in the past, but sometimes I think progress progresses too fast!”
The Lorax’s pithy lament above embodies much of how I view myself: an anachronism, fueled largely in part by my skepticism towards several aspects of modern technology. A brilliant Swiss playwright once proclaimed that “technology is the knack of so arranging the world that we need not experience it” — I couldn’t agree more. I enjoy the little things, as threadbare as that sounds. On a good day my typing speed clocks in around 175 wpm with a qwerty keyboard, yet I still prefer feeling the grip on my pen as it leaves jet-black trails across spiral-bound sheets of paper. That said, yes, I am painfully aware of the irony associated with my presence on this, er, “networking” site. You see, part of me is still hanging on the scintilla of possibility that a miracle may happen.

What I’m doing with my life
Working on earning my bachelor’s degree so I can save the world with the awesome powers of math and physics, if I choose to. Additionally, I indulge in various extracurricular activities to maintain some semblance of sanity, from writing fiction (I’m a terrible illustrator) and graphic design (I’ll have you know, I can be quite the typography nut) to classical piano (there’s no sonata like the Appassionata). I frequently go jogging or take absurdly long walks (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) around the neighborhood at night.

You should message me if
you want to ask me about anything, or simply direct my attention to your existence. If you’re willing to put some thought into your message, then I promise I’ll do my best when I write back.

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Just for the sake of completeness:
Ethnicity: Asian; Height: 5'7"; Body Type: Thin; Smokes: No; Drinks: Not at all; Drugs: Never

Oh, and yes, the "absurdly long walks" is hyperlinked to xkcd.

[Operator]

ME- intelligent total INTJ, college sophomore, history nut, logic and reason guides me, war and studying war takes up a lot of my time, i have many layers, very athletic, i like gaining knowledge by any means, only talk to people if they stimulate my mind, i can manipulate people well, i often "see through" people, 6'0 tall 185lbs, i always faked being normal, deep thinker, handsome.

YOU- intelligent, deep thinker, gorgeous, understands that i am in charge, a true lady but a absolutely freak bed, loyal of course.

Yes i know i have high standards, what INTJ doesn't?

[Mick Shrimpton]

Destroy_Oh_Boy

33 / M / Straight / Single

Augusta, Georgia


My Self-Summary
My car has no decals of Calvin peeing on stuff. I hope you're not disappointed. I'm very analytical, as I enjoy dissecting theories and figuring out how systems and various things work. Although I'm thoughtful and even-tempered, I'm also easily irritated by the stupidity of stupid people acting stupid. I live downtown and feel most alive in urban environments.

I'm drawn to bohemian girls who appreciate art and literature. I love creative types and those with an anti-establishment streak, too.

I’m really good at
My mix tapes will blow your socks through your fucking shoes. I'm also skilled in the kitchen and enjoy trying new recipes. I'm a fiend with the crock pot. And my Scrabble skills are second to none.

The first things people usually notice about me
My conjoined twin, Octavio.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
My record & cd collection is threatening to overtake my home. Kyuss, Fugazi, Howlin' Wolf, T. Rex, the Melvins, Joy Division and Buck Owens are some of my favorites.

Authors I enjoy include Kurt Vonnegut, Dave Eggers, Jose Saramago, Carl Sagan and Malcolm Gladwell.

I love awful movies, particularly 1980 to 1986 low budget films that prominently feature high school misadventures, killer maniacs and/or spring break hijinks.

Television-wise, I can't get enough of the Kids in the Hall.

The six things I could never do without
1. Tobasco sauce
2. Righteous indignation
3. Clean underwear
4. My endocrine system
5. Netflix
6. Frosty chocolate milkshakes

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sandwiches. Mmmmm, sandwiches. I also think about big problems like urban sprawl and social inequality. Working in government gives me the opportunity to fix these problems.

On a typical Friday night I am
More fun than a barrel full of drunk monkeys.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I have a birthmark that bears an uncanny resemblance to F. Murray Abraham.

You should message me if
You dig super cool dudes. (I am super cool.)

[JohnDoe]

Destroy_Oh_Boy

33 / M / Straight / Single

Augusta, Georgia


My Self-Summary
My car has no decals of Calvin peeing on stuff. I hope you're not disappointed. I'm very analytical, as I enjoy dissecting theories and figuring out how systems and various things work. Although I'm thoughtful and even-tempered, I'm also easily irritated by the stupidity of stupid people acting stupid. I live downtown and feel most alive in urban environments.

I'm drawn to bohemian girls who appreciate art and literature. I love creative types and those with an anti-establishment streak, too.

I’m really good at
My mix tapes will blow your socks through your fucking shoes. I'm also skilled in the kitchen and enjoy trying new recipes. I'm a fiend with the crock pot. And my Scrabble skills are second to none.

The first things people usually notice about me
My conjoined twin, Octavio.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food
My record & cd collection is threatening to overtake my home. Kyuss, Fugazi, Howlin' Wolf, T. Rex, the Melvins, Joy Division and Buck Owens are some of my favorites.

Authors I enjoy include Kurt Vonnegut, Dave Eggers, Jose Saramago, Carl Sagan and Malcolm Gladwell.

I love awful movies, particularly 1980 to 1986 low budget films that prominently feature high school misadventures, killer maniacs and/or spring break hijinks.

Television-wise, I can't get enough of the Kids in the Hall.

The six things I could never do without
1. Tobasco sauce
2. Righteous indignation
3. Clean underwear
4. My endocrine system
5. Netflix
6. Frosty chocolate milkshakes

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sandwiches. Mmmmm, sandwiches. I also think about big problems like urban sprawl and social inequality. Working in government gives me the opportunity to fix these problems.

On a typical Friday night I am
More fun than a barrel full of drunk monkeys.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I have a birthmark that bears an uncanny resemblance to F. Murray Abraham.

You should message me if
You dig super cool dudes. (I am super cool.)

I totally think this is good.

[Seriously]

^^ Me too.

Is Octavio also available??? ;D