INTJf Personals and Profiles

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[Haumea]

Yeah, and how do you initiate on women in real life, by wearing a tshirt with your life history written across it? Dating sites somehow lead to the idea that the more information you plaster across your profile, the HIGHER your chance of getting a date becomes.

I completely agree with this. A sense of mystery is a major element in attraction, and offering up information is just...argh. My eyes glaze over when I read these profiles. Even attractive women frequently seem try-hard ("I'm interested in quantum physics and [obscure novelists]..." - yeah, whatever, darling.)

The whole world's gone fucking retarded or something.

[Subgenius]

I completely agree with this. A sense of mystery is a major element in attraction, and offering up information is just...argh. My eyes glaze over when I read these profiles. Even attractive women frequently seem try-hard ("I'm interested in quantum physics and [obscure novelists]..." - yeah, whatever, darling.)

The whole world's gone fucking retarded or something.

Well, how successful have you and the other guy been during your usage of it? I'm hoping for honesty here.

[Zephyranthes]

I would be reluctant to offer much more information than you would get out of me in real life. My name, what I look like, a greeting and an exchange of phone numbers, and most of that you'd get from a private message from me, not from my profile.

I'll call ya, set us up for coffee or lunch, message you a google maps link to the location and say "have a good night, see you ******". You show up, we get to know each other more, or you don't, and you very likely don't hear from me again.

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Well, how successful have you and the other guy been during your usage of it? I'm hoping for honesty here.I've gotten a few incoming messages with a nigh blank profile, though I wasn't actively sending out messages at the time. I (honestly) know a guy that's good with ladies who does the same thing and he would get a few dates out of it.

[zeroemission]

this is the weirdest personal ads place, like everrrrr.

i like hippy chicks, mousy damsels in distress, nerds that play ukele, japanese organic farmers...

not into the high maintenance thing or travel.

cigarettes? not.

goths... buh bye

motorsports, horse riding, hunting, heavy metal, spanking, flan, spanking horses, gangster, bagpipes, 8 kids, tent revivals, & queens? not in my house!

wanna dance? be my muse? inspire poetry that shakes the cosmos? wash the dishes after i prepare you a delicious 4 course curry?

vegan... been there, done that. i love me some szchewan tofu!

ya gotta love goody goodies. you're knees gotta go week for sentimentality. if you can solve math problems and fix our computer... i trust there isn't a problem the two of us can't figure out.

i'm an INTJ, i like the direct approach. if you're the curious type, you can ask me almost anything. i'll refuse to answer before i lie. i need my personal space, you need your personal space, but i think 75 feet worth of ball and chain is adequate.

i'm very sensitive, as well as insensitive to nihilism & aggression. if i had my way, i'd make you laugh, and laughing and just keep laughing until you get tired and want to snuggle to NOVA or a sunset.

i'm a slow worker. if you don't like long periods of observation, well, you're looking for someone else.

i'm getting old, but biking keeps me fit though i have a couple very interesting scars, just one earring and i'm very, very resilient. good breeding stock.

i don't go for red, halloween, seafood, bland & runny foods, exravagance, pretense, the french defense, gilmore girls, harry potter, fox news, being talked over, arguing, limburger cheese, head cheese, goat cheese, golf, yahtzee, horror, or reptiles.

dolphins are my favorite animal. if i ever did travel, and not saying that i would, i think i'd like to meet a dolphin in the wild.

sky diving used to be on my to do list, but now, i'll stick with surfing.

if you're worried about impressing me, it really doesn't take that much. just say what you mean, mean what you say and know better than to ask questions you really don't want answered. i'm working on the unsolicited compliments thing. it's a new social skill. i don't think i'll ever get feining interest though.

i don't play games except games of skill maybe. when i do, i play to win, but don't want to play if it isn't any fun.

i haven't been with a woman in a long time, by choice, but here might be that elusive, mercurial shy gal that's pointing a mirror at the sun my heart keeps telling me is out there somewhere, probably getting stuck in a revolving door.

the unknown is far less scary than the things i do know. if i don't know, i'll say so and would feel more intellectually challenged for not asking directions than emasculated for doing so. i have a 4th dan black belt in pragmatism with a side order of spatial, underlying form & artistic whimsy. i'm in touch with my feminine side and get choked up watching sonic the hedgehog. when cornered, i switch modes. don't like to go there. don't like that part of me, but i'm an INTJ whose favorite color is cobalt blue-violet.

so, you wanna go camping april 27th 2013?

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the silence was deafening.

WOW!

can't even get a
"you sound pathetic"

[Mystery]

You don't sound pathetic.
How old are you ?

[Carot]

motorsports, horse riding, hunting, heavy metal, spanking, flan, spanking horses, gangster, bagpipes, 8 kids, tent revivals, & queens? not in my house!

wanna dance? be my muse? inspire poetry that shakes the cosmos? wash the dishes after i prepare you a delicious 4 course curry?


Now wait a minute, don't go knocking goth chicks, metal babes and cowgirls (you know what they say: Save a horse, Ride a cowboy).

Also, you cooked it you clean it, let her "help" with the dishes.

Nice of you to get your "want list" out though, helps cut through complications.

You don't sound pathetic, though maybe looking for too much, if someone does everything that you enjoy then where's the spontaneity? Where's the conflict that leads to blissful resolution, the heated discussions?

Also, sorry, I have plans next April, there's a con I want to go to.

Good luck.

[Uncle Mort]

I'm nearly 59 and I've never analysed myself that deeply.

FFS! chill out.

[SwedenF]

Are you sure it's wise to title your thread "wanna get married?". It sounds rather desperate, but your post isn't.

I don't know, maybe I'm overly picky, but I'd immediately discard a guy who starts with that, no matter how cool he is. And I wouldn't regret it for one second.

[koakuma]

No motorsports!? What kind of guy are you?

[Heavy Fuel]

Don't make the list of things you won't do, or you aren't interested in, so long. You never know until it happens that you might like it. Change that to read, "I'll try, do, or eat anything once."

It's all about compromise.

[The Dan Keizer]

It's all about compromise.

Fuck that. Contradicts the nature of love.

Also, I would never marry someone who gets "week in the knees".

[Collide]

You lost me at "I don't do... Harry Potter". I would never be interested in a Harry Potter hater.

[superflax]

Not with you no thanks.

[Heavy Fuel]

Fuck that. Contradicts the nature of love.



Actually, compromise is synergistic with love. You love her enough to go with her to a shitty Shakespeare festival and pretend you're having a good time. She makes you dinner, and you get a BJ of a lifetime.

Tit for tat, so to speak.

[CrudeHypothesis]

wanna get married?

I hardly know you!

Oh, you were serious. Um, no.

[AnnaMolly]

Actually, compromise is synergistic with love. You love her enough to go with her to a shitty Shakespeare festival and pretend you're having a good time. She makes you dinner, and you get a BJ of a lifetime.

Tit for tat, so to speak.


:suspicious:

I knew that some people were living in such ... arrangements, but I didn't know that some of them actually had the gall to call that "love". :thinking:

[Heavy Fuel]

:suspicious:

I knew that some people were living in such ... arrangements, but I didn't know that some of them actually had the gall to call that "love". :thinking:

Not sure what you think constitutes love then. Doing nice things for somebody because it makes them happy, is certainly one aspect. Perhaps you're being too idealistic?

[zeroemission]

i was trying to be playful & funny or at least catch the attention of an INTJ female who IS looking for a relationship. that was really the main reason i joined the site. i figure if i can't meet a gal here that isn't some yucky desperate nutter i have to settle for or that gives me the dreaded "you're a nice guy, but" so she can get on her knees for scum. i'm slowly learning that not all INTJs have the same playful sense of humor as me. even here, people don't always get my jokes.

i'm in my late 40s. i've been celibate a decade, by choice, after a fatal attraction nearly made me choke to death on vomit & cringe whenever women flirt with me now. i'm getting too old for this crap. i don't see myself ever being in a real relationship with someone who likes all of the AWESOME "go against the flow every chance you get" qualities that make me a LOGICALLY good catch. if men think with their inseminators, then you know where women think when they go in heat. if you don't look it up, it's been studied.

i'm just trying to find where all the available women i WOULD be compatible with are hiding. without something like this, i just ain't ever gonna find my cuddle honey. i've tried a bunch of dating sites and get responses like "WTF is wrong with you, are you even human?!"

i KNOW i have something to offer the right gal, but i'm clueless how to meet her. i've tried everything except being that d-bag they ALL want whether they'll admit it or not. i've NEVER hooked up with a gal i'd just met and have turned a few breathtakingly beautiful women down in the past for not pushing my buttons right or too fast for me to size them up for the leap.

i'm getting old and tired. the hair's starting to go and i see the door closing. other than that, i have plenty of stress and neighbors i'd like to beat uncharacteristically if i could ever catch their sneaky butts messing with me and my space. i'm losing my faith in humanity, as a whole.

if i could just see past one gal's need to be tied up and spanked, i know a gal that used to be into me that i lived with plutonically for a year or so that i eventually got used to being around and felt closer to her than my own family. S&M us just a deal breaker for me.

like i said, this place needs a real dating section so all of the guys can sausage party the gals INTJ style

i don't want to "settle for sex" either. i'm just trying to say "hey check out this butt hoochie" in my own clumsy INTJ clinging to the hopeless romantic dream that my soul mate is working her way to me here maybe. i only found out i was a robot a couple months ago.

thanks to everyone who at least bumped the thread. i hope your visit was at least entertaining.

P.S. that whole "camping next year" thing was supposed to imply "i'd like to take a year to get to know you before i start kissing you and go on our camping honeymoon". i keep thinking the rest of you think like i do, and am mistaken at every turn.

goths? NEVER! goths can't channel the woman i imprinted on in childhood... didi conn with her soft lilting voice and smiling eyes. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

No motorsports!? What kind of guy are you?a tree hugging, it's about time the internal combustion engine is eradicated forever for the greater good, lets go kick the living s### out of some CEOs, lobbyists & politicians militant goody goody. at least that's my self image. not a lot of sundresses & dancing bears up in here, but lots of creepy dark types that i KNOW are up to no good. i might be in the "top 20" here for goody goodies, but even i scare myself when pushed and i avoid darkness as much as possible.

[superflax]

this isn't a dating site.

[PRBori]

good try.. funny though I'll give you that part. Some things are interesting, others are like nahh...

In any event, when the time is right the right gal will come along. Good Luck!!

[zeroemission]

i'm aware that this is a forum. i tried geeks.com too. i'm out of ideas. this is like a last gasp attempt at finding true love. otherwise, i'll just ignore it until it goes away and devote all of my energy into correcting my enemies.

[superflax]

there are other dating sites...okcupid.com seems to be popular.

[PRBori]

i'm aware that this is a forum. i tried geeks.com too. i'm out of ideas. this is like a last gasp attempt at finding true love. otherwise, i'll just ignore it until it goes away and devote all of my energy into correcting my enemies.


provide some factual data... who knows she might find you here... :p

[Bonafide]

Or maybe you're just really weird.

[Typhon]

I personally don't understand how you expect to find women if you dislike flan, spanking, bagpipes, and metal. Just doesn't add up.

[Carot]

I personally don't understand how you expect to find women if you dislike flan, spanking, bagpipes, and metal. Just doesn't add up.

See, that's what I'm talking about. If I see a chick with bagpipes, that's it, I'm hers forever. ;D

To zeroemission: Trust me, you're nowhere near out of options yet, but your success can be related to many more factors than simply where you look.

I give you points for the blunt approach at least, don't see that much around here. As some others said you need to trim the grocery list a bit, learn to buy whole wheat instead of multi-grain and all that.

Lack of success isn't simply one single factor, you have to view the problem from multiple perspectives. I know how much failing to find someone can be frustrating, I've been failing for years. This site is good for personal insight as well, seeing how people similar to you perceive a problem or handle a situation, and the answers that can come from all those different angles, no two quite alike.

[zeroemission]

i've ALWAYS believed sames should attract, so i would expect that INTJ/INTJ is the ideal for me. two deeply monogamous people that both need their personal space without a lot of emotional time wasting and more emphasis on backing the love up through action sounds nice.

sadly, all the good ones are taken here. so far.

it's kinda hard to swagger a bad boy persona on an INTJ female that's likely beaten the living daylights out of a BF that raised his fist to her that one time. i don't know if my sister is an INTJ too, but she shares a lot of the traits. she's my heroine for yoking the belt a BF pulled and thought he was going to use on her 'til she snatched it and buckled the crap out of him.

i'm having a hard time imagining any better place to find my soulmate than here short of joining a commune somewhere maybe, but there the available pool would be way to small to do anything but settle in

i'm happy to be here though. i've already made a couple pals i feel like i can say anything to and who at the very least are eager to negotiate clarification on those "oops, chose the wrong words" grey areas.

after enough time, i hope to make more friends too. friends are nice, but not so much for snuggling

In any event, when the time is right the right gal will come along. Good Luck!!part of me still wants to believe that while the other's like *bing* sorry, your time is up

okcupid? been there, doing that, along with speed date, book of matches, mingle2free, are you interested?, connecting singles, date hookup, geek 2 geek, & plenty of fish with NOTHING to show for it but a few clingy overweight women i want nothing to do with and will CONTINUE staying celibate from, one particular clingy latina that loved to argue, and a nice enough inuit gal that probably hated my seafood aversion that eventually found her badboy along with a lot of being ignored in speeddates & penpals that never get back to you or women asking questions like "are you even human" to flat out saying "no effing way! eeff off!" in random speed dates. i've been at ALL of those for a year! that equates to several years worth of dating site activity with hundreds of thousands of potential mates looking for INTJ traits. i don't know how many speed dates i've been on, but it was 800 something the last time i looked.

[holdyourhead]

Man, you just gotta find your own purpose and fulfillment in life. It's not impossible but is very difficult to seek out something so elusive... and it makes you more attractive as a person when you are ambitious in achieving your attainable goals. The aloofness regarding relations also reduces the air of intensity and desperation.

Just noticed your age but it's never too late to just partake in activities you enjoy without clinging to the hope you'll meet someone by doing it. The less you cling to that hope, the more chance it has of actually happening.

[JTG]

this isn't a dating site.

I met my girlfriend here.

[thecase]

okcupid? been there, doing that,

Have you tried browsing the "Test" section on OKC for members who have taken MBTI tests and tested INTJ? That's what I did ;). Then you get the personality match and the assurance that the person is looking to date.

There aren't TOO many female INTJs (assuming you are looking for a female), but there are some. I remember that I browsed users that were like myself, and found a few other female INTJS (just so I knew my competition)!

[superflax]

I met my girlfriend here.

that doesn't make this a dating site. it just makes it a forum on which you found someone else who's interests were similar to yours and you decided to explore this offline.

[Carot]

Honestly OKC is hit or miss depending on location and....the person. I've been on there since 2006 with nothing to show for it.

I agree with him in that dating sites just don't seem to work for me either, that being said, after I decided to delete my account at a future date I suddenly found myself a bit more brazen in my interactions.

There's a certain freedom that comes from the feeling of: "it's not like she'll be interested anyways". I'm trying to determine if there's more to that approach or not.

Seeing as this has been moved to the profiles and personals thread, staying on topic for your browsing pleasure....try not to laugh too much, heh: Okcupid profile name mechanx0, Fariplay, Colorado

How the frak do you link one of those things, hmmm.

[Shahira]

The profiles here seem interesting... I don't understand how people here are posting on this thread about how they are looking for a relationship when they should be out doing things. If you want to meet people shouldn't you be out socialising instead of looking for partners on the internet as it seems like most of the time it isn't successful? Maybe you could try developing new interests and participate events that have something to do with the interests? Also, a lot of people are really specific for what they are looking for which only just makes it even more difficult for them to find a partner. Also, some do come off superficial when they discuss what physical traits they would prefer and don't elaborate on what personality traits they are looking for. Not trying to offend anyone, but just thought I should point this out. :)

[Mystery]

Just noticed your age but it's never too late to just partake in activities you enjoy without clinging to the hope you'll meet someone by doing it. The less you cling to that hope, the more chance it has of actually happening.

I agree.
If you're having fun doing what you like at least you won't be that disappointed if you don't find love. But i hope you will, everybody deserves it.

[Carot]

It's funny, I came to the conclusion a long time ago that I have no idea what I'm really looking for. I may know the things I like and the traits I find admirable, but there is no such thing as a person with the right combination of traits....just the right person.

I don't honestly look anymore, but being out where I live, I consider it intelligent to make myself available to be found.

I don't view this forum as a dating sight, but I do think of it as a place where people who struggle with dating issues tend to frequent, specifically issues that I can relate to.

It's nice to just talk about all these things with various people, provide input or opinions, etc.

There's also a whimsical kind of irony here, I can't quite put my finger on it, but it makes me smile.

[zeroemission]

as to ambition... i don't really have much. as long as i have a space i can retreat to where i don't have to put up with BS, good food, music & my bicycles, i have all that i need.

someone i can trust and snuggle with is the only missing piece of the puzzle.

[sed0007]

Egocentric sociopath into sports-cars seeks hot female with large garage for Socratic relationship. Send pic of garage.

[One Big World]

My history tells me I am a sucker for big smiles, warm hearts and full bodies.
Since I'm new here, any vets want to just tell me if that type is likely to surface on this forum?

[Yardy]

I'm very interested in making friends and learning more about people.

[zeroemission]

hey, anyone looking for an INTJ specific dating site, there IS one! i just joined. unfortunately, almost all of the women i score 90%+ with in the soul match category are in other countries with a surprising number of "united arab emerates" as well as a lot of russians and a bit fewer asians.

i am just too much of an individual, and i score just under loyalist in the individualist categories in the ennegram test. i just don't get how goth oriented most of the INTJs here are. the music y'all listen to is hideous! that's probably because most INTJs are crows followed by spiders while there's only one other fox that i saw here. i don't know what it means exactly, but something about me is in the 1% range of the INTJ 2% range so yeah, i'll accept the "maybe you're just weird" assessment.

back to ambition... i don't like it. that's my point. ambition leads to people getting stepped over and is itself a form of social climbing and i just don't go for that. i'm happy as a clam with the simple things in life as long as no one is messing with me and dream of blissful boredom with a boring predictable gal...
who doesn't eat flan, play bagpipes, like spankings or heavy metal.

[Mozza314]

My current profile:
I'm a thinker. I tend to get caught up in computer programming and puzzles. I really enjoy my super-technical job as a full time software developer, but that doesn't mean I'm stuck indoors all day.

No no, I have quite the active side to my life these days. I've recently spent two months visiting the US, hiking through the Canadian Rockies, and canoeing down the Athabasca river. I also discovered my love of running at the start of this year and am currently training for my first half-marathon.

I try to always be open and honest. I'm quite ambitious, but I know when to take a step back and take in the world around me. I'm pretty easy going and relaxed most of the time and definitely enjoy nights in :-).

"The good life is inspired by love and guided by knowledge."
- Bertrand Russell

New profile I'm working on:
Unlike most people, I find great joy in solving Rubik's cubes, memorising pi and creating Turing machines. I'm a natural problem solver, and a nerd through and through.

On the flip side, I have an active lifestyle. Distance running is currently my sport of choice and I'm excited about my first half-marathon next month. Recently I spent a couple of weeks hiking through Canada's rocky mountains and absolutely loved it. I also enjoy tennis, ice skating, cycling, skiing, camping, and trying new things.

Having lived out of home since I was 18 (intjf note: I'm 22), I'm quite independent and mature, but still very much a kid at heart. I like Spongebob Squarepants, can wiggle my ears, juggle, and I don't drink tea or coffee because I never grew out of hot chocolate :-).

"The good life is inspired by love and guided by knowledge."
- Bertrand Russell

I'm trying to convey my personality a bit more, and brag less. Do you think I'm bragging too much in either profile?

And I guess it goes without saying, but I'd really appreciate any other advice too.

Here's a link to my full profile (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.), in all its contextual glory.

[LovelyDystopia]

The current one is fine!

[sircockburn]

The first one is waaaaay too NT to be saved... Trash it.

The 2nd one? Lop off the first paragraph and the ending quote (BR is far too NT-ey of a reference), and you should be OK...Cupid!

[Mozza314]

Why should I avoid showing my NT?

And are you really saying to remove the quote not because of the quote itself but because Bertrand Russell is too NT? That seems weird to me.

[sircockburn]

Why should I avoid showing my NT?

And are you really saying to remove the quote not because of the quote itself but because Bertrand Russell is too NT? That seems weird to me.

I was being half facetious. Half.

[PurpleGiraffe]

The first one is waaaaay too NT to be saved... Trash it.

Yes, God forbid he actually be himself...

Just keep it, man. My main problem with it wasn't how NT it came across but that you had to give so many specific examples of not staying indoors. That felt a little braggy. But yeah, everyone's a critic. :)

[Starbucks]

I just wrote this, it's not very good but you'll stand out and I'll bet you even get some responses.
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I wish I had some exiting story to tell you but life doesn't give you much trouble when you're a evil genius. Although I must admit that at times the CIA comes very close in uncovering my identity, therefore I need a decoy to shake them off. Can you handle the heat? are you loyal and can I trust you?
Before we can go on missions I need to make sure you're cut out for the job. We will have a secret meeting at a coffee house where you tell me everything about your, childhood, hopes, dreams, and wishes. After this meeting I will inform you if you made the cut.
I suppose you're wondering by now what you will get out of this. Each completed meeting will grant you one wish, this wish will be fulfilled by me, no questions asked.
There will be days where we need to do some research, this involves you me a blanket on the couch and some take out. Other days you will be required to escort me through the Canadian Rocky Mountains, where we will set up camp for the night with a campfire and some marshmallows.
If you're not a wuss and think you can handle all the excitement, leave a sign on my page and I'll inform you what's going to happen next.

[Zsych]

I think the second one is obviously better.

It also depends on what kind of person you want to attract. Which in turn relates to what kind of life you want to live, since your choice in friends and romantic partners enhance different parts of your personality.

A good, positive attitude (that isn't drowning in fun), promotes actually achieving things in life. Conversations with intelligent people and having the expectation of regular intelligent conversation, sharpens your mind. So intelligent / fun, is a good kind of person to try to find (and I think the second profile may be better suited to that)

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I wish I had some exiting story to tell you but life doesn't give you much trouble when you're a evil genius. Although I must admit that at times the CIA comes very close in uncovering my identity, therefore I need a decoy to shake them off. Can you handle the heat? are you loyal and can I trust you?
Before we can go on missions I need to make sure you're cut out for the job. We will have a secret meeting at a coffee house where you tell me everything about your, childhood, hopes, dreams, and wishes. After this meeting I will inform you if you made the cut.
I suppose you're wondering by now what you will get out of this. Each completed meeting will grant you one wish, this wish will be fulfilled by me, no questions asked.
There will be days where we need to do some research, this involves you me a blanket on the couch and some take out. Other days you will be required to escort me through the Canadian Rocky Mountains, where we will set up camp for the night with a campfire and some marshmallows.
If you're not a wuss and think you can handle all the excitement, leave a sign on my page and I'll inform you what's going to happen next.

That sounds a little too demanding, although I may have to steal it.

I wish I had some exiting story to tell you but life doesn't give you much trouble when you're a evil genius. Although I must admit that at times the CIA comes very close in uncovering my identity, therefore I need a decoy to shake them off. Can you handle the heat? Can you be loyal to me and the mission?

Before we can go on missions I need to make sure you're cut out for the job. We will have a secret meeting at a coffee house where we can test out your skills and whether you can be a sexy distraction for that guard while I'm taking out that diamond. After this meeting, we will know if you need some private training to get you ready for that top notch stuff we have to do together.

You may be wondering what you will get out of this. Each completed meeting will grant you one wish to be fulfilled by me. No questions asked.

There will be days where we need to do some research, this may involve you, me a blanket on the couch, and some take out. Other days you will be required to escort me through the Canadian Rocky Mountains, where we will set up camp for the night with a campfire and some marshmallows.

If you're not a wuss and think you can handle all the excitement, leave a sign on my page and we can discuss the location of our secret meeting.

[themuzicman]

First one is fine, although it looks a bit odd to say that you went to the US to climb the Canadian Rockies... a lot of people are going to think.. "Um.. .don't you go to Canada to do that."

Other than that, first one.

[Mozza314]

I just wrote this, it's not very good but you'll stand out and I'll bet you even get some responses.
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I wish I had some exiting story to tell you but life doesn't give you much trouble when you're a evil genius. Although I must admit that at times the CIA comes very close in uncovering my identity, therefore I need a decoy to shake them off. Can you handle the heat? are you loyal and can I trust you?
Before we can go on missions I need to make sure you're cut out for the job. We will have a secret meeting at a coffee house where you tell me everything about your, childhood, hopes, dreams, and wishes. After this meeting I will inform you if you made the cut.
I suppose you're wondering by now what you will get out of this. Each completed meeting will grant you one wish, this wish will be fulfilled by me, no questions asked.
There will be days where we need to do some research, this involves you me a blanket on the couch and some take out. Other days you will be required to escort me through the Canadian Rocky Mountains, where we will set up camp for the night with a campfire and some marshmallows.
If you're not a wuss and think you can handle all the excitement, leave a sign on my page and I'll inform you what's going to happen next.

Hahaha, that's awesome! I don't think it's for me though, hmmm. Maybe if I feel like trying something different later on.

[Zsych]

Looking at the profile:

* Fit, smart, thoughtful guy looking for something meaningful
I think Smart automatically includes some of 'fit', and 'Fit' feels a little unnatural in that company. Plus, they can see your picture.

Children: Is there a 'maybe someday' option?

Religion: Atheist? Trying to scare off the religious lot? How about Deist? (if there is a god, he's up to his own stuff and lets us do our own without interference)

I'm looking for a really intelligent girl with her head screwed on. A girl who's passionate, honest, loyal and perhaps has a cheeky sense of humour :-).

The "head screwed on right" implies a judging nature where you might think she's a retard. Which may be true, but it doesn't need to be implied to make the girl think that you might be intending to look at her negatively first.

"I'm looking for someone intelligent and passionate. And her being honest and loyal, with a cheeky sense of humour, would totally make my day."

Movies and TV: I'm not sure about the number of anime listed. Listing some anime is fine, but it feels like there might be too many in there (for a somewhat generic but intelligent girl) *looked again - there were only 3. I think its Inuyasha that struck me as a bit childish to still be claiming - have to pretend to be mature for that initial 5 second impression ... unless you're looking for that kind of girl*

[Haumea]

I'm trying to convey my personality a bit more, and brag less.


Brutally honest take follows - read at your own peril
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As written, you're not conveying your personality - you're describing it.

Key distinction.

There's no creativity or humor or playfulness there at all. The fact that you describe adventurous, outdoorsy activities doesn't help because it reads like the back of a cereal box.

Your misconception is that you think polishing the profile with better descriptions helps.

The reality is that you are not (at least not solely) your words.

And it helps to convey that.

TL,DR: Be more creative. How? That's your task to figure out, young Jedi.

[The Dan Keizer]

I think they both make you sound alright, I don't see much difference. But if I were going to make a dating profile, it would be much shorter. The shorter the better, brother!

[Mozza314]

I think Smart automatically includes some of 'fit', and 'Fit' feels a little unnatural in that company. Plus, they can see your picture.

How does intelligence suggest fitness? They're quite independent as far as I'm aware. Am I missing something? I guess you can see fitness from my photos, but you can only see the primary photo and the headline from the search listing.

Children: Is there a 'maybe someday' option?

I wish. In fact, I would be comfortable just saying "someday". I want kids in the distant future, so "undecided" is actually wrong. However, the only real alternative I have is "Want (more) children of my own" and I think that gives the impression of wanting kids relatively soon, which (I think) would turn off a lot of the girls I'm trying to attract, since I'm only 22.

Religion: Atheist? Trying to scare off the religious lot? How about Deist? (if there is a god, he's up to his own stuff and lets us do our own without interference)

No, that's just what I am. I'm not a deist. I don't mind if it scares off religious girls; I'm not interested in them unless they're not serious about their religion anyway.

The "head screwed on right" implies a judging nature where you might think she's a retard. Which may be true, but it doesn't need to be implied to make the girl think that you might be intending to look at her negatively first.

You really think so? That's never occurred to me. Does anyone else here think that?

[Zsych]

TL,DR: Be more creative. How? That's your task to figure out, young Jedi.

Do you suggest painting a picture? "Its morning and you and me, are sitting together at xx coffee shop, checking out their awesome xxx. We're talking and joking about what we plan to do for the rest of the day. The hiking trail at xx turns out to be great fun and you're amazed by ... "

[Haumea]

Do you suggest painting a picture? "Its morning and you and me, are sitting together at xx coffee shop, checking out their awesome xxx. We're talking and joking about what we plan to do for the rest of the day. The hiking trail at xx turns out to be great fun and you're amazed by ... "

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Dunno. "Be creative by using the following template" doesn't really work, does it?

I mean, you have to get inspired and come up with something unexpected.

[Lilie]

My main problem with it wasn't how NT it came across but that you had to give so many specific examples of not staying indoors. That felt a little braggy.

For me it felt scary, but that's just because people who are really into being fit kind of freak me out. And I hate the outdoors. Probably wouldn't respond to the profile just based on that, it's personal preference though and not a problem with the profile.

I think the profile is fine, depends what kind of people you want to attract. People who also love running around outside will go for it.

[Zsych]

How does intelligence suggest fitness? They're quite independent as far as I'm aware. Am I missing something? I guess you can see fitness from my photos, but you can only see the primary photo and the headline from the search listing.

Smart is also used for someone who looks good. Looking smart would typically mean that you've dressed well, look fairly well taken care of, and probably pleasant (not unhappy).


Stockphoto - Closeup of a smart man smiling over plain background:

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As for the "head screwed on right" which is immediately paralleled by the potential judgment "I might think your head is screwed on wrong"... it might depend on who is interpreting it, but realistically, one's choice of words reflects one's mindset. And plenty of INTJ have a critical edge to their thinking - which is great for a software engineer, and not so great for making people feel comfortable.

Most people who take criticism really well, have decent emotional shields... which means that they may not be very happy, and also, that they may never care very much about what you think of them.

[Claudus]

It doesn't matter what you write in your profile, no one will read it anyway, women will look at your picture, age, and height and decide based on that.

Also, the second one is better, but still too stiff, you need to work on your story telling. Delete all the useless stuff:
- Spongebob is not cool.
- No one cares about your quote
- Err, let me rewrite this for you:

I work as a software developer, and I really enjoy my job! I get to solve interesting problems all day, and I have a lot of flexibility to pursue interests outside of work.

I just spent two months in the US hiking through the Canadian Rockies and canoeing down the Athabasca river. I love being outdoors and physical activities like tennis, ice skating, cycling, skiing, camping, and running (lately I've started training for my first half-marathon).

I've been living on my own since I was 18, as a result I'm a little mature for my age... although I still drink a little too much hot chocolate when I'm enjoying a quiet night in. ;)

[Warrior]

I thought the second one a little better because I thought it gave a few more specifics on the kinds of activities you enjoyed. That's not to say it is going to attract more people, in fact, I think it will attract less, but I would expect those that do respond to have a better idea of who they are responding to.

[GrlSailorAngele]

You should focus more on describing who you are as opposed to what you like to do. You've got nothing to prove.

Also, shorter is not actually always better. Personally, my online dating profile is rather long, and it's full of descriptions about my introversion and personality quirks. This proves to be useful, b/c I'm an attractive female. I get a lot of messages from guys just based on the way I look and I delete those. I reply to the ones who reference something I said in my profile, b/c it shows they actually read it. Also, the ones who read the whole profile usually say something complimentary about my writing style, and sense of humor. That shows that 1) they read it and 2) they get my sense of humor, which isn't for everyone. Because its very straightforward about the kind of person I am, it weeds out some of the shallow people who are looking for the like, and I see that as a good thing. You want quality, not quantity.

[teri]

Well, as a girl, when I began reading the first one, my immediate thought was " ugh, boring and he might be a controlling know-it-all. In real-life I would probably not get any further than the first two sentences.-After those first sentences, however, you sound very interesting (and like someone a girl would want to get to know better). So, I say, Remove the first two sentences and the first description is great. Your job tells us enough about that you are a thinker and enjoy puzzles, etc..... No need to bore us (even if we are into the same things).

Also, on the second one, I do not like how you began with "unlike most people" --what, do you think you are better than most people or something? I don't know, sort of starts off with the wrong impression.

Hope my opinions help!

[Rohsiph]

Curious about what people think of where my profile has ended up since the last time I checked in on the thread (which was quite a while ago).

My self-summary
Simply put: I'm an intellectual introvert with a robust imagination.

I'm looking for someone similar. Open-mindedness is crucial, as I've never been one to change who I am for the sake of society. (For a paycheck I'll playact, but I've found this is an essential requirement for someone like me to survive in this world).

Romance has been my downfall for most of my life. I have a lot more to offer than most of my peers, and I know I'm a much quicker learner than average, yet I've never gotten a fair chance to prove myself. Much of that comes down to refusing to learn the standard courtship rituals in my youth. I try to offer substantial benefit-of-doubt up front and won't give up on the idea others should treat me the same way, especially if the goal is forging a healthy relationship with long-term potential.

My passions include: writing, entertainment media and philosophy. I've cultivated a wide knowledge of obscure arts and ideas that I'm always eager to share. I'm aiming to make a living off crafting stories someday, and am currently debating whether to hold off on pursuing an advanced degree or to just go for it.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm aiming to publish my first novel around the end of the year, after half a decade of initial drafting plus an extra year of heavy revising. After that, I'm not really sure what I should do next. There are several more books in my head, nearly ready to put to paper, so I'll most likely continue to pursue making my writing into a career.

Currently I'm working a day-job as a sales associate for an electronics department. I spend most of my free time at home because I have to use up almost all of my social energy at work providing good customer service. I never thought I'd have a job like this, or that I'd be able to do it well, yet I'm making it work, despite my introverted nature.


I’m really good at
Just about anything requiring a high dose of critical thinking and problem solving skills. I enjoy looking for unique solutions to common problems, and finding ways to tweak standard methods to be even more effective.

I've been told I'm an excellent listener and I've cultivated a strong level of self-discipline as well.


The first things people usually notice about me
If I'm at work: my ample competence. Otherwise, I'm quiet and easy-going to the point where I actually believe most of the time people who don't know anything about me simply don't notice me at all.


Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: In the First Circle, Hardboiled Wonderland & the End of the World, The Poetic Eddas, Foundation series, Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, The Shadow Over Innsmouth, Catch-22, Dinotopia.

Movies: Electric Dragon 80 000V, Tetsuo: Iron Man, Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory, Jan Svankmejer's Faust, Mad Max: Beyond Thunderdome, Streets of Fire, Labyrinth, Mirrormask.

Music: The Protomen, World's End Girlfriend, Kid You'll Move Mountains, Splashdown, Dmitri Shostakovich, Kashiwa Daisuke, Universal Hall Pass, Avengers in Sci-fi.

TV: Breaking Bad, Burn Notice, Adventure Time, Community, Modern Family, Twin Peaks, Dr. Who, Fraggle Rock.
The six things I could never do without
Entertainment to consume, music for levity, books to expand my perspective, friends & family for support as well as to bounce ideas off of, and the occasional adventure to make life worth all the everyday mundane.


I spend a lot of time thinking about
How close I'll get to achieving any of my many dreams, why I've been so unsuccessful with women in the past, and what I could do to improve my success rate in all areas of my life.

In general I spend a lot of time thinking. Much more than most people. When I was growing up, listening to people who would speak without thinking would often confuse me--I didn't understand many people lack that kind of filter.


On a typical Friday night I am
More often than not these days on Friday night I'm working 2nd shift, closing my department. If I actually have time for myself, I'm probably playing videogames or watching a show, with some time set aside to work on my writing.

I'm not against going out, nor even against going out alone, but I need either good company or a good excuse to follow through. In my college days I'd go to a show (concert or play) at least once a week. If there was a nice venue in the area I'd still make the effort.


The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been grappling with depression since I finished high school, not long after an uncle succumbed to his demons. I do a good job keeping myself grounded and balanced, but I don't have much patience for people who believe anyone can overcome any problem just with positive thinking. Sometimes life just isn't that friendly.


I’m looking for
Girls who like guys
Ages 20–30
Located anywhere
Who are single
For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners


You should message me if
You're edgy, off-beat, intellectual and have a big personality with a touch of the bizarre.

You dig Katsuhiko Maeda (World's End Girlfriend) and/or Kashiwa Daisuke's music.

If you can tell me why the OKC algorithm thinks I'm enormously more competitive than most users.

as Alucard says to the Librarian: "I'm interested in this."

[zo3gI]

Hi! I'm an INTJ girl. I am 20 years old. If i needed to categorize myself, I'd say I've always been androgynous. I dress and act like a guy, and I am extremely attracted to guys that dress and act like girls. It's gets frustrating and difficult because there are so few people that I am actually truly attracted to. I'm usually calm but I can be hyper and random at times once you've gotten to know me. So if anyone wants to talk or get to know me that'd be cool!

[coldheat]

I could use some constructive criticism. Haven't had much luck so far. I'm pretty confident in myself and people that really get to know me always have good things to say about me, but it's kind of hard to describe myself or know what to put on a profile.

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[astrolite]

I could use some constructive criticism. Haven't had much luck so far. I'm pretty confident in myself and people that really get to know me always have good things to say about me, but it's kind of hard to describe myself or know what to put on a profile.

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It is typical for okcupid, that is why it does not work.

I'd lessen the information to create intrigue and add a lot of humor to it. Think of it less of a resume and more of a chemistry builder. Put enough information in there to give them an idea of who you are, but leave some of it to be filled in by their minds.

Make up a fake movie, where you are the leading character and guide it through your interests. You will get incredible responses because it is so novel.

Do not use words like "probably" or "I'd say". Make it a statement, leaving no doubts. You are confident, after all - show it with your words.

[Traverser]

Since I'm giving online dating a serious try, again, I may as well get as much constructive feedback as possible. I would appreciate any useful impressions:

My self-summary

I'm not a fan of summarizing my self into one simple paragraph, but I will give in for the sake of background information. I majored in Criminal Justice, but now seek to start my own business, of what I know not. Above all, I'm very cordial and relaxed, funny even (at least from those who know me). However, I can become very intense whenever my favorite subjects are brought up. In a way, I'm like water; I can be calm in the face of uncertainty, jovial with those I love, yet fierce concerning the things I value most of all. Moreover, I'm a loner, but that does not mean I want to face life alone.

What I’m doing with my life
Building up my wealth and knowledge, for the most part, although I'm becoming more curious about spiritual matters as I tackle the material realm we all inhabit. At the moment, I'm finally starting on Man Economy and State by Murray Rothbard after having finished with one of Bastiat's collection of sophisms. What can I say; I'm a scholar of sorts.

Work-wise, I'm contemplating publishing something. While I do enjoy writing, the market for literature is very cut-throat right now, so I need to figure out an angle that will bring in more revenue than my current job. Otherwise, I'm trying to break out of my shell and form genuine relationships with others.

I’m really good at
I have many talents, so perhaps I should list what I'm terrible at doing:

1) Reading other people
2) Remembering names
3) Feeling comfortable in crowds
4) Trusting others with my wallet (not that I should)
5) Taking risks with my resources (a very frustrating obstacle, to be sure)

The list goes on...

The first things people usually notice about me
Very articulate, dashing, wise and intelligent. Sometimes, I like to imagine that they also find me extraordinarily attractive.

Oh, I know this was a serious question, but I can't help exaggerating a bit. If you find me simply wise and intelligent, that will suffice.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read mostly Economics and Philosophy, especially when it comes to the Austrian School from Mises to Rothbard, Walter Block, Thomas Woods, Hans Hermann Hoppe, Robert Higgs, and others. They're all my heroes, as far as I'm concerned, and I hope to emulate their contributions to peace and prosperity.

Movies and TV, not so much, although I enjoy Blue Man and my personal collection of trailer tunes and soundtracks. As far as food goes, there's nothing like Italian, although I'm sure there are other cultural dishes that are just as delicious, if not more so.

The six things I could never do without

I'll just focus on objects. It seems cliche to mention the usual family, my soul, etc. :

1) My e-book reader. A library in the palm of my hand; simply remarkable.

2) An emergency bag, in case I need a quick escape from a disaster zone.

3) The laptop, the hub of my universe.

4) Personal photos, to remind me of who I am.

5) A comfortable knee strap

6) One pair of wonderfully comfortable shoes.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
My own demise, and what my life will lead up to til that moment. That, and my own immortality, and what it takes to achieve it. Aside from all this, keeping up with world economic affairs occupies the rest of my leisure time.

On a typical Friday night I am
Reading and listening to music, sometimes with a cold tea in my hand and relaxing my feet in a bath.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Eventually, it has to come out. I'm not exactly very experienced with romantic relationships, although I'm beginning to grow interested in living my life with someone very special. My busy schedule and tight budget being what they are, I'm not exactly in the position to date regularly either. At least, not in the traditional sense; the Internet is making this much easier, so I hear.

Also, I'm very apolitical. Being an anarcho-capitalist, it's very easy for me to invite confusion and even anger when I mention this. Normally a private matter, but it has to be addressed. Be forewarned; my libertarian streak is extremely important to me.

I’m looking for
Straight girls only
Ages 18–32
Located anywhere
Who are single
For new friends, long-term dating, long-distance penpals

You should message me if
You're an upstanding lady who takes good care of herself and is serious about developing a real friendship with a gentleman, or something more. Otherwise, move on. If you are afraid of taking risks, even with the tiniest degree of self-esteem, there are plenty of other men who I'm sure would fuel your pursuit of validation without the disappointment.

Also, if you have a great sense of humor and aren't afraid of discussing serious subjects from time to time, that would also be a great plus. All nerdy and geeky types are welcome.

(Note: Ladies, just because I don't initiate a conversation with you doesn't necessarily mean I'm not interested. Some of us, believe it or not, appreciate being approached.)

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It doesn't matter what you write in your profile, no one will read it anyway, women will look at your picture, age, and height and decide based on that.

That's the impression I'm getting on OKC.

[zeroemission]

OK... i'm sure i'm not going to like the feedback... but what do you ladies in particular think i should edit out or change about this?

Greetings fellow intuitives! Where've you been hiding my whole life baby? I recently found out I'm an INTJ, and it was a huge relief to find out "what's broke" with me, at least socially. Now that I know about MBII types, I've come to the conclusion that I could only get along with another INTJ or possibly a mellow INFJ with far left leanings. I'm so left, I've joined the Green Party as I've come to the conclusion the entire 2 party system is corrupt & busted now.

Like a lot of INTJs, I'm very intelligent, especially in the spatial & underlying form domains, but very weak in abstractions. I have the stare, but am not proud of it, and really want nothing to do with anyone that would ask for it. I'm extra nice to nice people though and very opposite of most in that regard, especially males. I'm in touch with my feminine side at the opposite end of my "bring it!" anti-phobic when threatened one too.

Unlike a lot of INTJs, I have an aversion to the goth type darkness and am not proud of sharing the stare with my kin there. I'm looking for an introverted goody goody type that wants the same in a soul mate, and who will nurture my better qualities instead of the less attractive ones losers actively go digging for. That's my goal here, so I'm not too keen on compromising I'm playing all or nothing, and am marriage minded.

I'm also very artistic and dabble in music, photography, writing, cooking, dancing, drawing, engineering and on rare occasions that I paint, I'm usually a colorist, but more of a drafstman.

Perhaps my greatest passion is bicycling if you haven't guessed by my profile pic. If it appeals to hippies, I'm probably into it too, though the Grateful Dead just don't inspire me. They're too bland for me. I like spicier music types, especially if there's a strong bouncy beat as in old school hip-hop when it was still about positivity and self improvement. speaking of spicy, I'm a supertaster and prefer spicy and chewy over bland and runny. I grew up hating all of the milk this and creamed that foods I had to eat & could only stomach pork chops if they were slathered in horse radish. I'm particular averse to seafoods & bitter fruits like peaches & raspberries.

My ideal match is a drama hating mellow gal who maybe even thinks she's boring, when I THRIVE on comfortable boredom. I think only an INTJ could be happy like that. I adored the lack of drama I found with a woman I roomed with years ago. We didn't talk a lot, but we never argued, and part of me liked the attention of being flirted with once in a while. I would have gave in to her were it not for her wanting to be tied up and spanked etc. which is repulsive to me. I'm more of a French maid getting tickled by her feather duster kind of guy. I used to imagine we were an old married couple often when we shared dinners.

Dark minded gals and especially bad boy groupies need not apply. If you aren't a goody goody looking for the same in a man, then you aren't what I'm looking for. I'm looking for the rarest of rare women... a rarity in the already rare INxJ stratosphere... one that's a sweetie and not into the goth crap so many INTJs are. Oh does INTJ music annoy me! It makes me want to torment them with Bobby McFerrin. LOL I like upbeat & bouncy music best. If you really want to understand my tastes in music, check out Grossenhosen by Tipsy. It always gets my toe tapping and puts me in a good mood.

Besides cooking & dancing, probably my greatest social skill is dry sarcasm, though I only make fun of myself or instigating jerks. In company where I feel safe, I become more of a silly playful puppy, but that actually annoyed the last woman that wanted me to be her man as she'd rather argue, even arguing that arguing is necessary in a relationship. BS I say! If two people are on similar wavelengths, especially rational intuitives, and respect each other's boundaries, then conflict is anathema. That's what attracted me to the desription for INFJs, but I found out quick they don't care about facts and logic & will ignore it in arguments, so I'm less inclined to date one now.

My IDEAL mate, and I'm aiming for a total package that includes attraction now, would be a petite nerdy/hippy gal with an agreeable disposition, though I'm very attracted to Asian women too as they physically match most of my likes, especially nice noses and mouths. I'm a rare "face person". I appreciate women's bodies, but a sexy face is what really does it for me, especially if it's accentuated by glasses.

any honest feedback is appreciated, even if grudgingly. i know i'm not the best salesman when it comes to romance. i really need some feedback from my target audience.

I am a sucker for long black curly hair in a high ponytail. I like long straight noses and not little pointy ones of knobby ones. I think I'm a nose guy more than anything. Mediterranean features are my favorite, probably because I'm half Greek myself. I'm also a sucker for cutesy voices too though. Sadly, my voice and nose attractions are at odds with each other. Oh well.

I'm not attracted to blonde & blue as much, but would be if the right one came along. Deep green eyes are my favorite. I guess part of that is some bad relationships I've had with them in the past with blondes, but I think it's more about liking a little bit of exotic tan genes. I almost dated an African American gal pal once as she was bright and bubbly if not so much monogamy minded like me.

Turn offs for me would include: tobacco, racism, right wing politics in general, status seeking, women bigger than me, lies, love of anything that requires gasoline, hunting, heavy metal, fundamentalism, gore & horror, traveling, body modifications, rudeness, & clingy obsessiveness, though I'd love to quietly snuggle with a soulmate who at least respects my INTJ need for personal space if not shares it too.

The bottom line, I've had it with opposites and want to find someone on a similar wavelength that gets me and is smart enough to be able to keep up in truly stimulating conversations. If she can make me laugh as I do her as well, all the better.

Oh yeah, if a guy who only has one arm is unattractive to you, then I'm not what you're looking for.

For what it's worth, I've been celibate over a decade by choice after the last woman I was with turned into a fatal attraction and put me off the idea of dating and even made me cringe at any woman who showed interest in me.

*sigh* INTJ, INfP & INTP female opinions are most sought. for what it's worth, the "calculatus eliminatus" rule 'em all out with the blunt truth until your soul mate sees you for the REAL person you are and that gets where you're coming from approach just seems logical to me. i don't like the idea of trying to put a dishonest positive spin on who i am to try and trick someone, oh, like all those people that use their high school pics, or women in particular that only take pics with gorgeous girlfriends... you know who you are ladies!

[Madrox]

This is where I string together a list of adjectives and try to make it seem coherent right? Well, let's give it a shot. I'm an animal loving, pseudohomebound (I feel like I'm missing a hyphen here) business major with a propensity towards making an ass out of myself for my own and others amusement. I'm quick witted with a sense of humor comparable to the Sahara. It's quite likely that I've been compared to Sheldon Cooper a couple... hundred... thousand times except I'm a bit more adventurous and much less neurotic. I have a(n) MBTI of INTJ which is almost accurate to the point of being unsettling.

[The Dan Keizer]

I could use some constructive criticism. Haven't had much luck so far. I'm pretty confident in myself and people that really get to know me always have good things to say about me, but it's kind of hard to describe myself or know what to put on a profile.

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Cut your 'about me' section down to simply saying, "I am a senior college student and I love to travel and do things outdoors." The shorter the better on these profiles, buddy.

Also, remove "girls that act like guys".

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OK... i'm sure i'm not going to like the feedback... but what do you ladies in particular think i should edit out or change about this?

Greetings fellow intuitives! Where've you been hiding my whole life baby? I recently found out I'm an INTJ, and it was a huge relief to find out "what's broke" with me, at least socially. Now that I know about MBII types, I've come to the conclusion that I could only get along with another INTJ or possibly a mellow INFJ with far left leanings. I'm so left, I've joined the Green Party as I've come to the conclusion the entire 2 party system is corrupt & busted now.

Like a lot of INTJs, I'm very intelligent, especially in the spatial & underlying form domains, but very weak in abstractions. I have the stare, but am not proud of it, and really want nothing to do with anyone that would ask for it. I'm extra nice to nice people though and very opposite of most in that regard, especially males. I'm in touch with my feminine side at the opposite end of my "bring it!" anti-phobic when threatened one too.

Unlike a lot of INTJs, I have an aversion to the goth type darkness and am not proud of sharing the stare with my kin there. I'm looking for an introverted goody goody type that wants the same in a soul mate, and who will nurture my better qualities instead of the less attractive ones losers actively go digging for. That's my goal here, so I'm not too keen on compromising I'm playing all or nothing, and am marriage minded.

I'm also very artistic and dabble in music, photography, writing, cooking, dancing, drawing, engineering and on rare occasions that I paint, I'm usually a colorist, but more of a drafstman.

Perhaps my greatest passion is bicycling if you haven't guessed by my profile pic. If it appeals to hippies, I'm probably into it too, though the Grateful Dead just don't inspire me. They're too bland for me. I like spicier music types, especially if there's a strong bouncy beat as in old school hip-hop when it was still about positivity and self improvement. speaking of spicy, I'm a supertaster and prefer spicy and chewy over bland and runny. I grew up hating all of the milk this and creamed that foods I had to eat & could only stomach pork chops if they were slathered in horse radish. I'm particular averse to seafoods & bitter fruits like peaches & raspberries.

My ideal match is a drama hating mellow gal who maybe even thinks she's boring, when I THRIVE on comfortable boredom. I think only an INTJ could be happy like that. I adored the lack of drama I found with a woman I roomed with years ago. We didn't talk a lot, but we never argued, and part of me liked the attention of being flirted with once in a while. I would have gave in to her were it not for her wanting to be tied up and spanked etc. which is repulsive to me. I'm more of a French maid getting tickled by her feather duster kind of guy. I used to imagine we were an old married couple often when we shared dinners.

Dark minded gals and especially bad boy groupies need not apply. If you aren't a goody goody looking for the same in a man, then you aren't what I'm looking for. I'm looking for the rarest of rare women... a rarity in the already rare INxJ stratosphere... one that's a sweetie and not into the goth crap so many INTJs are. Oh does INTJ music annoy me! It makes me want to torment them with Bobby McFerrin. LOL I like upbeat & bouncy music best. If you really want to understand my tastes in music, check out Grossenhosen by Tipsy. It always gets my toe tapping and puts me in a good mood.

Besides cooking & dancing, probably my greatest social skill is dry sarcasm, though I only make fun of myself or instigating jerks. In company where I feel safe, I become more of a silly playful puppy, but that actually annoyed the last woman that wanted me to be her man as she'd rather argue, even arguing that arguing is necessary in a relationship. BS I say! If two people are on similar wavelengths, especially rational intuitives, and respect each other's boundaries, then conflict is anathema. That's what attracted me to the desription for INFJs, but I found out quick they don't care about facts and logic & will ignore it in arguments, so I'm less inclined to date one now.

My IDEAL mate, and I'm aiming for a total package that includes attraction now, would be a petite nerdy/hippy gal with an agreeable disposition, though I'm very attracted to Asian women too as they physically match most of my likes, especially nice noses and mouths. I'm a rare "face person". I appreciate women's bodies, but a sexy face is what really does it for me, especially if it's accentuated by glasses.

any honest feedback is appreciated, even if grudgingly. i know i'm not the best salesman when it comes to romance. i really need some feedback from my target audience.

I am a sucker for long black curly hair in a high ponytail. I like long straight noses and not little pointy ones of knobby ones. I think I'm a nose guy more than anything. Mediterranean features are my favorite, probably because I'm half Greek myself. I'm also a sucker for cutesy voices too though. Sadly, my voice and nose attractions are at odds with each other. Oh well.

I'm not attracted to blonde & blue as much, but would be if the right one came along. Deep green eyes are my favorite. I guess part of that is some bad relationships I've had with them in the past with blondes, but I think it's more about liking a little bit of exotic tan genes. I almost dated an African American gal pal once as she was bright and bubbly if not so much monogamy minded like me.

Turn offs for me would include: tobacco, racism, right wing politics in general, status seeking, women bigger than me, lies, love of anything that requires gasoline, hunting, heavy metal, fundamentalism, gore & horror, traveling, body modifications, rudeness, & clingy obsessiveness, though I'd love to quietly snuggle with a soulmate who at least respects my INTJ need for personal space if not shares it too.

The bottom line, I've had it with opposites and want to find someone on a similar wavelength that gets me and is smart enough to be able to keep up in truly stimulating conversations. If she can make me laugh as I do her as well, all the better.

Oh yeah, if a guy who only has one arm is unattractive to you, then I'm not what you're looking for.

For what it's worth, I've been celibate over a decade by choice after the last woman I was with turned into a fatal attraction and put me off the idea of dating and even made me cringe at any woman who showed interest in me.

*sigh* INTJ, INfP & INTP female opinions are most sought. for what it's worth, the "calculatus eliminatus" rule 'em all out with the blunt truth until your soul mate sees you for the REAL person you are and that gets where you're coming from approach just seems logical to me. i don't like the idea of trying to put a dishonest positive spin on who i am to try and trick someone, oh, like all those people that use their high school pics, or women in particular that only take pics with gorgeous girlfriends... you know who you are ladies!

Jesus Christ, dude, it's a personal not a fucking blog.

[Polymath20]

I could use some constructive criticism. Haven't had much luck so far. I'm pretty confident in myself and people that really get to know me always have good things to say about me, but it's kind of hard to describe myself or know what to put on a profile.

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As written above - don't just describe yourself.

I like to tell stories in my profile. Most of the women I'm matched with a big bookworms, so I'm just catering to my audience. Rather than say "I'm into hiking" I'll tell the story where I had to run across an entire mountain because I didn't want to take a shit in the woods. Reading stories about people is always more fun than reading a manifest about them.

[zeroemission]

Jesus Christ, dude, it's a personal not a fucking blog.OK, that's one vote against full disclosure. i was looking more for opinions on specifics, but i asked for feedback and got it

[The Dan Keizer]

Well seriously, all joking aside, you have to just briefly highlight your best points in these things and NEVER sound demanding about what kind of person you want and you went overboard on both points.

[Polymath20]

Well seriously, all joking aside, you have to just briefly highlight your best points in these things and NEVER sound demanding about what kind of person you want and you went overboard on both points.

After dating around enough, I realized that I had no idea what the fuck I was actually looking for. Believe me, you just want to get out there and experience life.

[INTJRyan]

What would possess someone to write that they almost dated an african American in their profile?

[zeroemission]

Well seriously, all joking aside, you have to just briefly highlight your best points in these things and NEVER sound demanding about what kind of person you want and you went overboard on both points. i KNOW that's an effective strategy, but i'm done with compromising for anyone ever again. it's my way or eff off. the last time i compromised, it almost cost me my life, a second time.

[coldheat]

Some constructive criticism would be appreciated. I'm new to the online dating world.


I enjoy a lot of outdoor activities such as hiking, canoeing, camping, gardening and riding fourwheelers. My favorite place to hike is the Smokey Mountains in Tennessee, but I really want to explore some new places! I like traveling and seeing new places. I like to cook and I eat pretty healthy. I enjoy reading when I get time. I'm pretty open to new things. Fun is as much about who I am with as what I am doing. I try to learn something from everything I do.

I would describe myself as easy-going, caring and responsible. I have a pretty level personality, it takes a lot to get me very upset or angry or frustrated. I would like to find someone that is also easy-going. I feel like nearly any issue should be able to be worked out without getting into a fight. It would be nice to find someone I can have a good conversation with that enjoys the outdoors and traveling and doing random things and just experience this amazing world together. I'm sure there is plenty more to talk about, so you should send me a message if you'd like to know more about me...

[mieu]

Some constructive criticism would be appreciated. I'm new to the online dating world.


I enjoy a lot of outdoor activities such as hiking, canoeing, camping, gardening and riding fourwheelers. My favorite place to hike is the Smokey Mountains in Tennessee, but I really want to explore some new places! I like traveling and seeing new places. I like to cook and I eat pretty healthy. I enjoy reading when I get time. I'm pretty open to new things. Fun is as much about who I am with as what I am doing. I try to learn something from everything I do.

I would describe myself as easy-going, caring and responsible. I have a pretty level personality, it takes a lot to get me very upset or angry or frustrated. I would like to find someone that is also easy-going. I feel like nearly any issue should be able to be worked out without getting into a fight. It would be nice to find someone I can have a good conversation with that enjoys the outdoors and traveling and doing random things and just experience this amazing world together. I'm sure there is plenty more to talk about, so you should send me a message if you'd like to know more about me...

From a pure aesthetics standpoint, try not to begin every sentence with 'I,' I feel like I'm reading a third grade essay.

To me, 'caring,' 'responsible,' 'level-headed' are pretty big promises to make and expect a complete stranger to believe you right off the bat. When someone describes their positive personality qualities and only name things that have to do with how great of a partner they'd be (instead of say, how unique they are) I look at it and really don't take it seriously, to be honest. Is anyone honestly going to put that they're uncaring, irresponsible and emotionally unstable? Perhaps talk about how you value these qualities in yourself and others and and that you live up to them every day. Otherwise, say what makes you stand out from others.

[elpaco]

Here is my profile, what do you think?

About me
I am easy-going and generally speaking pretty good spirits, if you listen good enough you could hear me sing under the shower. I am energetic, gifted with a strange kind of humour which you will learn to appreciate and always looking ahead. These are busy times and i enjoy life in flux. I need some help to slow down every once in a while so feel free to help along.
What I’m doing with my life
When work is challenging I dig in and build solutions that only seam fit on paper, while in fact they might actually work. But I am gone by then, hop on to the next problem and complex environment.

Apparantly I am also into online dating these days. I really like cooking and rely on 8 years of restaurant experience. In most things, but cooking especially one is a student all of his life. And I learn with every dish I make. I really like wine but never really got in to it, there is so much to explore. i like to travel and try new culinary experiences...


I’m really good at
Drinking pitch black coffee and then go into a hyperactive state of mind! Cooking, cycling, bringing creative solutions, running, drinking that coffee, keep on going, cat whispering, entertaining kids, making people raise their eyebrows..


The first things people usually notice about me
My gentle smile and not all things ought to be taken too serious

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anthony Bourdain - Kitchen confidentials

The Wire

Collateral

The six things I could never do without
Good conversations
Good food
Racing bike
My stove
My furry roommates

I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future and how things should be, dreaming. Always looking to improve life

On a typical Friday night I am
thinking about my Sunday roast

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I secretly listen to 80s disco hits and do little dances while I am at it

I’m looking for
Girls who like guys
Ages 25–32
Near me
Who are single
For long-term dating, short-term dating

You should message me if
you like to learn more
Or if you like to go for a run or go cycling

[Madrox]

Some critiquing would be greatly appreciated.

My self-summary
MBTI: INTJ

I once rolled down a hill at 90mph while riding a snowmobile in Otis, Mass. so I guess you could describe me as adventurous (or catastrophically stupid depending on your point of view.) As a novice motorcyclist and a budding Porschephile you can probably surmise that I'm a bit of a speed-freak. Luckily that hunger can be satiated for the most part by video games and simulators.

I'm a nerd and as such was seduced by the vile temptress Nintendo at a very young age. I've never been able to free myself from her herculean grip, so instead of struggling I've learned to embrace her stranglehold on me. She has at least allowed me to occasionally spend time with her cousins Sony and Microsoft though.

The pursuit of knowledge is a lifelong commitment for me. I'm fascinated by even the most esoteric minutiae of almost everything. You would definitely want me on your bar trivia team, as long as it has nothing to do with sports or pop culture. Admittedly I'd probably be an ideal candidate for the Diogenes Club.

What I’m doing with my life
Right now? Online business classes while working through some (quite literally) internal issues. Eventually I'd like to own my own business.

I’m really good at
Finding new and exciting ways of inadvertently injuring myself; makes for some hilarious stories. Everyone tells me I'm good with computers, but I'm really not. Apparently I'm a decent cook... well, nobody's died from my cooking (yet).

The first things people usually notice about me
I'm the quiet guy in the corner who suddenly drops a massive logic/humor bomb that blows your mind. Or my huge... tracts of land.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Stephen King, R.A. Salvatore, Dan Brown, Arthur Conan Doyle

Movies: Silence of the Lambs, Boondock Saints, Senna, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Rocky Horror Picture Show, The Shining.

Shows: BBC's Sherlock, Top Gear, Breaking Bad, Criminal
Minds, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Game of Thrones, Merlin, Sons of Anarchy.

Music: Rock, Avenged Sevenfold, The Beatles, CCR, Three Days Grace, Johnny Cash, Eminem, The Who, Nobuo Uematsu, Richard Wagner

Food: Beef and anything that ends with parmigiana. Pan fried white-fish with just some salt and pepper is amazing if cooked properly (seriously, bring your fat to just before its smoke point and fry for 90-120 seconds per side depending on thickness)

Video Games: Super Metroid, World of Warcraft, Starcraft, Final Fantasy, Dragon Quest, Star Ocean, Dragon Age, Diablo 2, Gabriel Knight, Chrono Trigger.

The six things I could never do without
The internet
The internal combustion engine
Arizona Green Tea
My dogs
Video games
A computer

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Anything and everything.

On a typical Friday night I am
At home on the computer or playing with my dogs. Very rarely do I go out.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can't listen to Harry Chapin's Cat's in the Cradle anymore without crying. Oh, I also know the meaning of life.

You should message me if
You're pondering what I'm pondering.
Or if you're interested in which amusing ways I've managed to injure myself.

[mieu]

Some critiquing would be greatly appreciated.

My self-summary
MBTI: INTJ

I once rolled down a hill at 90mph while riding a snowmobile in Otis, Mass. so I guess you could describe me as adventurous (or catastrophically stupid depending on your point of view.) As a novice motorcyclist and a budding Porschephile you can probably surmise that I'm a bit of a speed-freak. Luckily that hunger can be satiated for the most part by video games and simulators.

I'm a nerd and as such was seduced by the vile temptress Nintendo at a very young age. I've never been able to free myself from her herculean grip, so instead of struggling I've learned to embrace her stranglehold on me. She has at least allowed me to occasionally spend time with her cousins Sony and Microsoft though.

The pursuit of knowledge is a lifelong commitment for me. I'm fascinated by even the most esoteric minutiae of almost everything. You would definitely want me on your bar trivia team, as long as it has nothing to do with sports or pop culture. Admittedly I'd probably be an ideal candidate for the Diogenes Club.

What I’m doing with my life
Right now? Online business classes while working through some (quite literally) internal issues. Eventually I'd like to own my own business.

I’m really good at
Finding new and exciting ways of inadvertently injuring myself; makes for some hilarious stories. Everyone tells me I'm good with computers, but I'm really not. Apparently I'm a decent cook... well, nobody's died from my cooking (yet).

The first things people usually notice about me
I'm the quiet guy in the corner who suddenly drops a massive logic/humor bomb that blows your mind. Or my huge... tracts of land.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Stephen King, R.A. Salvatore, Dan Brown, Arthur Conan Doyle

Movies: Silence of the Lambs, Boondock Saints, Senna, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Rocky Horror Picture Show, The Shining.

Shows: BBC's Sherlock, Top Gear, Breaking Bad, Criminal
Minds, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Game of Thrones, Merlin, Sons of Anarchy.

Music: Rock, Avenged Sevenfold, The Beatles, CCR, Three Days Grace, Johnny Cash, Eminem, The Who, Nobuo Uematsu, Richard Wagner

Food: Beef and anything that ends with parmigiana. Pan fried white-fish with just some salt and pepper is amazing if cooked properly (seriously, bring your fat to just before its smoke point and fry for 90-120 seconds per side depending on thickness)

Video Games: Super Metroid, World of Warcraft, Starcraft, Final Fantasy, Dragon Quest, Star Ocean, Dragon Age, Diablo 2, Gabriel Knight, Chrono Trigger.

The six things I could never do without
The internet
The internal combustion engine
Arizona Green Tea
My dogs
Video games
A computer

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Anything and everything.

On a typical Friday night I am
At home on the computer or playing with my dogs. Very rarely do I go out.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can't listen to Harry Chapin's Cat's in the Cradle anymore without crying. Oh, I also know the meaning of life.

You should message me if
You're pondering what I'm pondering.
Or if you're interested in which amusing ways I've managed to injure myself.

1) I love it
2) Do not change a damn thing
3) What're you doing this Saturday? :flirt:

[Madrox]

1) I love it
2) Do not change a damn thing
3) What're you doing this Saturday? :flirt:

Saturday? I think that's the day I'm trying out my giant laser on the moon. You can come if you'd like.

[mieu]

Saturday? I think that's the day I'm trying out my giant laser on the moon. You can come if you'd like.

Oh my gosh I love blowing up the moon, we have so much in common!

[Madrox]

Mieu, you didn't show up at my giant laser test! (It worked by the way)

[antipathy]

This is my current profile, but I think I will be changing to something a little different soon. I'm just getting the wrong kind of attention:(
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So...for those of you who had the misfortune of reading the last profile, my apologies. I started typing, whilst ignorant of the timeout on the page, and ended up just dashing it out.

About me? I'm a 36 yr old island resident, recently released from LTR captivity (7 years), back into the wild, and have realized that my local population is too small to for me to have any chance of finding the right woman, rather than just the next woman, and at 36, I'm not intrested in serial dating.

Some people find me funny, I tend to be extroverted when comfortable, and quiet when uncertain, I am very comfortable in my own skin and prefer someone who feels the same. I love my dog beyond reason, and my potential date must be accepting of dog hair. If your profile reads like a text message, and English is your first language, please move on to the next match.

I have a hard time relating to the concept of drive/ambition, as I love where I live and there's not much opportunity for that kind of thing here, and I don't really accept worldly/monetary success as a substitute for for the rather consistent happiness I experience daily. To be fair, I admire and respect accomplishment, just haven't found it to be sufficient justification for relocation to the city or the burbs.

I love my family, but have few real friends, as a tribute to my belief in quality over quantity. I can accept the world as grey, but prefer personalities that choose objectivity where applicable.

I believe there are two kinds of compromise in relationships: one, where you get half of what you want, all the time, and the other where you get everything you want, half the time. I prefer the latter.

I Like books, TV, and movies, but hate reality TV. I have (seasonally adjusted) stable employment.

Lastly, I am an ex-smoker, who regularly uses an electronic cigarette as a substitute. There was no choice for this in the Q&A section. If something that looks like smoking, but has none of the stink, trash, burn holes, disease and death, is a deal breaker, then please move on. I have never kissed a smoker since I have quit, so I'm not really sure if I can tolerate that or not.

Likes:
90's music
Hiking, walking, camping
Boxers (dogs)
Direct communication
Strong, independent women
People who do what they say, and say what they do
Pool
Getting stuff done/fixed around the house
Originality
Confidence
Travel
Enjoyable flirting
Punctuality
Making things
Sarcasm
Smiles
Literacy
Curiosity
Skepticism
Beer
Science
Disneyland
Days off
Full spectrum light bulbs
Intelligence
Willingness to fail......(learning)
Moments of solitude




Dislikes:
Low self esteem
Mullets
Slobs
Subtext
Country music
Church (spirituality and faith are great, but don't ask me to believe the grandfatherly white man speaks for God)
Sociopaths

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And here's my latest email from a woman 7 years my senior:

"Wow u look sweet........"

I guess she couldn't even make it to third paragraph.

[Xam]

Been on dating sites for a few months now, but no one that can really grab me there... Then I come on here and I see loads of intelligent women posting, and I wonder, are any from Belgium (and single)?

If so ladies, PM me ;)

IF this works, I think I will start a business setting up typology forums, purely for dating haha

Where in Belgium? Is Holland close enough?

[Bullseyebud]

Any good?
Honest comments/suggestions?
Different approach needed?

My self-summary

Unfortunately, any self-summary I write, is going to be to brutally honest for anyone to choke down. Especially in the short time they'll be here for.

Recently I've been passionate about searching for a special individual I could share my life with.

What I’m doing with my life

Full time student studying Business Entrepreneurship.

I’m really good at

I have a particular knack for Video Games. I was ranked 5th in the world, in Modern Warfare 3, for certain accolades within the first few, and ensuing, months of its release. I remain in the top 1000 today. That's out of more than 16 million players btw.

Hit-me-up on XBL if you wanna play with me or chit-chat.
My GT is Bullseyebud

The first things people usually notice about me

Do you mean; before or after, I tell them I'm blunt?

I'm also told I have a queer eye, for the straight guy.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Games - The Elder Scrolls series, MW/CoD series, Fable series, Dead Space I & II, Armored Core series, Fight Night 4, Gears of War series, Halo series, Fallout series, and Borderlands. Almost Anything Nintendo ~The Legend of Zelda~ All time Fav

Movies - Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Pirates of the Caribbean, The Godfather, No country for old men, The Kings speech, Braveheart, Capote, The Pianist, Casino Royal, Hugo, Wall-E, Spirited Away, The Nightmare before Christmas, There Will be blood, Gangs of New York, Batman, Super 8, The Rum Diary, Iron Man, and The Avatar.
I have good taste in Horror, Romance, Comedy, and any other genre under the sun. I've seen thousands of movies, Literally.

TV Shows - The American Horror Story, Mad Men, South Park, Sons of Anarchy, Burn Notice, American Dad, Blue Mountain State, Futurama, Family Guy, Law and Order, Wilfred, Pawn Stars, and the History channel.

Music - Linkin' Park, Jay-Z, Mt. Eden, KiD CuDi, Hoobastank, Black Eyed Peas, Modest Mouse, Deadmau5, Tiesto, Eminem, Swedish House Mafia, and Ronald Jenkees.
I also appreciate Classical Piano.

Food - Nahm Nahm Nahm, I love food, Mashed Potatoes are my favorite. :}

The six things I could never do without

1. My Poker Face -and Poker
2. My Motorcycle
3. Video Games
4. A Dictionary
5. Good Conversations/Company
6. Leather apparel

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Philosophy

On a typical Friday night I am

I'll spend my Friday night relaxing, I usually try and find a good movie, TV series, or documentary to watch on Netflix.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit

Well, I would never!

I’m looking for
Straight girls only
Ages 18–24
Near me
Who are single
For long-term dating, short-term dating

You should message me if

The only thing I truly care about is if your genuine and honest with me; that being said, if you have to force yourself to think of something to say to me, I'm probably not interested.

I'm looking for an Organic Relationship -not an organic person. :) When I say organic, I mean, the sense of a continuous or naturally developing relationship, which has a mind of its own, that grows over time.

[DeadIdealist]

Just for giggles:

Female (straight), ~20, 5'5'', Atlanta.

My Self-Summary:
I am a... oh, God. I honestly don't know. Well, I do have a nickname... so I'm a dead idealist. A cynical one, too. Meaning that I believe in the idealized state of man and I believe civilization is driven to the idealized state of man. That is one where people are mostly driven by good intentions and suffering is reduced to a minimum. I intend to fulfill my vision of the next idealized state, so I try to do what I think is best, even if it comes at a cost. The ideal is more important to me than anything else, and I intend to follow it even when it ceases to make sense. I am cynical in that I believe everyone will try to stop me. And I don't care. This is what I live for.

Those who reject the idealized state of man and attempt to reduce man to mere evolution or animal instincts are my enemies. Regardless of where we came from, I believe man is destined for more.

I have many issues, and at times I am hypocritical, at times I fail myself and go against my own philosophy. While I am well-meaning overall, sometimes that doesn't manifest in the best ways. I am quite intent on correcting all of those issues over time. Whether you would prefer to wait for the finished product or join in on the beta testing is up to you. Always open to feedback.

What I’m Doing With My Life:
Currently, getting a computer science degree. Pretty much my entire life revolved around computers. I like programming, I like gaming, a few of my best friends are online. Still not quite solidified on what branch of computer science I will concentrate on, time will tell. Right now, I am trying out graphics. I generally tend to stay away from pure device programming.

Also getting into a new sport and trying to exercise more. I also want to become more outgoing and get better at meeting people. I also want to be the person that anyone struggling with something can talk to and that I could say to them what I need to say.

I’m Really Good At:
Nothing in particular, to be honest. I'm no genius and I am only a college student. I am a decent programmer and I can get things done. I am usually best at big picture things, so I like to be in charge of general program design.

The First Things People Usually Notice About Me:
I believe I have one of those bitch/sad face things. I am more of a person you discover over time than one you can read at first glance.

Favorite Books, Movies, Shows, Music:

[These are never too representative since I tend to forget, and I don't want anything too identifying]
Books: Dune, Harry Potter, The Dark Tower, The Talisman, The Stainless Steel Rat

Movies: Gattaca, The Dark Knight

Shows: Star Trek, Babylon 5

Games: most RPG's, old school shooters, StarCraft, MOBA's

Music: progressive rock/metal, other stuff

The Things I Could Never Do Without:
Pencil and paper.

I Spend a Lot of Time Thinking About:
Life, the Universe, and everything.
Guys.
Morality/ethics.
School.
Programming.

Things I Care Most About in a Partner:
Honesty.
Kindness/empathy.
Having your own philosophy and worldview.
Ability to deliver on promises and get things done.

On a Typical Friday Night I Am:
At home doing nothing productive whatsoever; sometimes sitting with classmates in some study room trying to finish a homework at the last minute.

[Freeburgh]

Good grief I considered posting and had an attack of self-consciousness, which seems ridiculous given I have posted it online to try and attract someone. So yeah. Criticism welcome. Maybe.

My self-summary
I'm an imaginative, empathic guy who loves to ride his bicycle, help others and follow my passions.

I am enigmatic, tactile, and driven.

Very open and honest.


What I’m doing with my life
Learning to appreciate it.

Working, riding, socialising, learning.

Planning. I like to have a plan, even if it's planned spontaneity.

Putting a little rental project together.

Coming this close || to starting my videography hobby.

Learning to make do with the lens already on my SLR.

Spending as much time in Bright as I can.


I’m really good at
Being creative.
Smiling.
Writing silly poetry.
Cooking.
Kissing.
Cycling.
Coaching.
Eating.
Napping.
Making stuff up.
Finishing things - like blocks or boxes of chocolate in record time.
Putting my foot in it.


The first things people usually notice about me
That I am not them.
That I am male.
That I need a shave.


Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Sci-fi and anime. Nearly anything foreign, or with Jean Reno or that crazy Italian dude from La Vita e bella in it.

Natural History with David Attenborough.
South Park irreverence / religious history.
TopGear.
Myth Busters.
Being Human

Comics:
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As a teen of the 80's I do enjoy it, but enjoy most music. I am fairly flexible but heavy stuff really doesn't fit. Currently have Cafe del Mar on repeat.


The six things I could never do without
Creative outlets
A bicycle and somewhere to ride it
Connections with others
Affection
Open space
Freedom to be who I am
My imagination


I spend a lot of time thinking about
Physiological biomarkers.

Taking any concept from anywhere and then seeing if it fits elsewhere. Intrigued to discover there is such a thing as societal entropy, although the image I had in my head was closer to the movie Wall-E.

Wondering what it would be like to meet someone with a really high enemy rating - I mean. Would we detest each other at sight? Within one sentence? After a conversation? When would we notice?

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On a typical Friday night I am
Doing groceries and relaxing after a good week of work.


The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My preferred love languages are physical touch, and quality time.

The more I observe the world and its people, the more I believe many of our mis-communications occur due to a lack of understanding of how people wish to be loved.

Some say, "treat others as you wish to be treated".

I say, "treat others the way they wish to be treated".

You should message me if
You're fit, have a sense of humour and a passion in life. Preferably in Melbourne, if not Australia.

[lumin]

^ I like the non-longwinded nature of your profile. Many here have too much text and I just skip huge paragraphs. ;D

[orestes]

I'm having a hard time writing about myself.

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[Mozza314]

Sounds great to me. I'd date you. All I can say is maybe drop the comment about self-deprecation. I get what you're saying, but it might not be worth it for the spooking it may cause.

[Carot]

I might recommend a bit more to the self summary, it's the first thing that gets read while others doing a search. Something before the "MBTI" part maybe.

[antipathy]

I'm having a hard time writing about myself.

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We're a 92% match....nice smile. lol.

(In all seriousness, it looks fine to me)

[Freeburgh]

I'm having a hard time writing about myself.

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I have a theory that if you want to filter for people who read profiles, choose a less attractive profile pic.

[orestes]

Sounds great to me. I'd date you. All I can say is maybe drop the comment about self-deprecation. I get what you're saying, but it might not be worth it for the spooking it may cause.

Thanks! I added a smiley after the self-deprecation comment to make it a little less serious. Not worried about spooking. Honestly, if someone is bothered by my self-deprecating sense of humor, it's best we don't date.

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We're a 92% match....nice smile. lol.

(In all seriousness, it looks fine to me)

Ha! Very funny. 92% match, huh? Send me a message. ;)

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I have a theory that if you want to filter for people who read profiles, choose a less attractive profile pic.

Hmm. I wonder if that wouldn't weed out more people than necessary, though.

[antipathy]

You're 2 states away, and I can't even bring myself to message women in Portland or BC ( I'm in Washington state).

Though if "transporters" ever become a reality, it will revolutionize online dating :)

[Phaze228]

Thanks! I added a smiley after the self-deprecation comment to make it a little less serious. Not worried about spooking. Honestly, if someone is bothered by my self-deprecating sense of humor, it's best we don't date.


Might want to add "humor" at the end of it. I mean when I just read self-deprecation, I think of cutting. When I see a smiley face after it, I think, crazy psycho-bitch enjoys cutting. But then again, the rest of the profile doesn't point to "crazy psycho-bitch enjoys cutting". So I guess you could use it to weed out people who focus too much on one specific line after reading the profile and then present with a facial expression like so ; :wreck:

[Plato]

I'm having a hard time writing about myself.

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I like it. I think you've done a nice job presenting yourself while keeping it short with an easy read. And, we're a 94% match. :flirt:

This is nit-picky, but since a few have commented on the self-deprecation remark, I would recommend moving it, if you want to keep it. In my opinion, "And apparently, I'm also really good at self-deprecation." would fit much better under "They probably think, 'A humanoid object with distastefully long hair is approaching me.'" It's just not so apparent when first reading what you're really good at.

I'd also move the "Comments on my appearance..." to the "You should message me if" section.

But yeah, both of those are nit-picky. I think you've presented yourself quite nicely.

[PhilipJFry]

Extra bonus points to DeadIdealist for listing Star Trek and Starcraft. Forget online profiles, just go to Dragon Con and grab whichever nerd you like best.

Also if I had to date a guy, I'd have Freeburgh on speed dial.

[PurpleGiraffe]

Eh, why not? :) I'm not exactly looking for an INTJ (I don't know what exactly I'm looking for), but I might be able to get some interesting feed-back anyway. :nice:

I've gotten a decent amount of responses, for what it's worth. Met up with and dated an INFJ but decided to just be friends. Talking to another girl at the moment. Other than that, just enjoying singledom. ;D

But have fun!

*******

My self-summary
I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing.
-Socrates

What I’m doing with my life
I spend my days doing various activities which include working, training for and participating in ridiculous 5K races (just recently got back from a zombie 5K), looking into grad school programs, reading and just trying to spend my days living in the moment.

I’m really good at
Being myself. There are a lot of other things, but without a doubt, that's what I'm best at.

I'm also really good at: 1.) sleeping 2.) being patient and 3.) knowing random, but seemingly relevant facts to interject into a conversation.

The first things people usually notice about me
I can only go with the feedback that I've been provided but I am usually told that I have a great smile (orthodontics and good hygiene, baby!), pretty eyes, and sexy legs/ass (did I fail to mention that I'm also really good at being honest? ;))

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Les Miserables, Life of Pi, The Awakening, The Hunger Games, Harry Potter, His Dark Materials trilogy, Pride and Prejudice, Jane Eyre, pretty much anything about quantum mechanics, neuroscience, or psychology/sociology

Movies: Lord of the Rings, Dawn of the Dead (Romero), My Fair Lady, Mean Girls, Labryinth, The Muppets, Harry Potter, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, 28 Days Later, Sabrina, Roman Holiday, Return to Oz, The 10th Kingdom, and on and on.

Shows: The Walking Dead, Battlestar Galactica, Xena: Warrior Princess (guilty pleasure - I realize it's actually a pretty bad show,) Dr. Who, Glee, Pawn Stars, Once Upon a Time, How I Met Your Mother, Lost, The Twilight Zone

Music: The Flaming Lips, Neko Case, She and Him, Radiohead, 80s pop, 90s awesomeness, No Doubt, The Cardigans, The Cranberries, Madonna's older stuff, Adele, etc.

I spend a lot of time thinking about How roughly 1% of all of the static we can see on tv is a direct result/lingering by-product of the Big Bang, and it leads me, therefore, to ponder that no matter how much we try to deny it or fight it, we are all connected on some inexplicable level.

On a typical Friday night I am
It really varies. Often it's working out at the gym and then chilling with a movie and maybe some pizza or Chinese. Sometimes it's crashing early from a really long week. Sometimes, it's going out and catching a movie or getting drinks. It really depends. I might be, kind of, a creature of habit, but I'm not a robot. (Even if I might play one online.) :)

[My username has the word "Robot" in it]

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I collect comic books, and my secret favorite, other than some of my vintage Silver-Age titles, is a 6 comic run of a title called "I Was Kindnapped by Lesbian Pirates from Outer Space."

I’m looking for
•Girls who like girls
•Ages 24–35
•Near me
•Who are single
•For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, long-distance penpals

You should message me if ...

1.) You like discussion or debate over a wide range of topics
2.) You realize that you are imperfect and those imperfections are what help make you a perfect person.
3.) You constantly seek to improve yourself in order to become a better version of you, while knowing that you will never be "the best" because no standard exists.

Don't message me if...
1.) You could hurt animals
2.) You don't think you are a person worthy of love, respect, honesty, and value.
3.) You don't think people are worthy of the values mentioned in #2.

[Plato]

PurpleGiraffe, if I were a girl and lived near you, I'd definitely message you.

[gracious]

PurpleGiraffe, if I were a girl and lived near you, I'd definitely message you.

If I were a girl who likes girls then I would too. :awesome:

[PurpleGiraffe]

If I were a girl who likes girls then I would too. :awesome:

Aww, thanks, guys! :loved::faint:

[Mozza314]

One of the profiles below is mine and one I think is good:

Vacant space, enquire within haha. New to the scene, need someone to kick it with and be my partner in crime ;)

What can I say, I'm looking for something..more. Someone to love and give my all. I desire trust and honesty..as well as commitment. I'm also a cheesy romantic. Can be random at times haha, but at least I love to enjoy life. Whatever it is, I'll try it. Wherever it is, I'll go there. I want to succeed in life..but I cant do it without someone by my side. I can be the silent type at first, but once im into the swing of things, thats when I usually come out. But talk to me and you'll find out more :P

Fit, nerdy professional

I'm an honest, thoughtful guy, who loves running by the ocean as much as staying in with a good movie and hot chocolate.

Clubbing isn't really my thing. I enjoy it once in a blue moon, but I'd much rather go stargazing on the beach. My job is very technical and mentally full-on, but I also appreciate the simple things in life, and understand the importance of quality over quantity. I enjoy solving Rubik's cubes, wiggling my ears and, well, Spongebob Squarepants. I'm a kid at heart.

I'm looking for something... more. I believe that life should be inspired by love and guided by knowledge. I'm here to find a girl who believes that too.

Which do you prefer, and which do you think is better?

[QTee]

I'm on the market guys n gals ;)

[Busboy]

I'm going to live up to my eccentricity by first disclosing all my issues, my negative traits, and all the reasons why one wouldn't want to date me.

Well god damn, I really can't think of any.

[Anime]

Okay this profile may need a lot of help. Tell me what part you liked and which part would be a red flag. I tried really hard to focus on the fun part rather than the logical part. Maybe I am attracting the wrong people, maybe I need more logic/reasons in this profile. Anyways I am 20 years old male.


Hello my name is _____ :) Since this profile is really long I like to get to the point. What makes me special? I guess you can say is I am one of those special gems. My profile is a bit long, but that only shows how much passion I put into writing this profile. I wish I could make my writing have more passion, but I always take it off because I look silly.

My personality is a Thinker which is: "You love to explore ideas. You enjoy solving problems. You have an abstract and analytical way of thinking. You are inspired by futuristic ideas and potentials. Relationships: Stress can come from fear appearing foolish. You want others to accept that you feel deeply, even though you may not express it" Anyways this is just my personality, so this does not mean I am looking for someone with a similar personality.

Please don't see my personality as dull because I am a very passionate guy. Music is my soul, and Anime is my heart :) Japanese Anime is unique because they are filled with passion :)

I am currently in college and my future plans is to become a pharmacist. I am finished with the math section of my career (Passed Calculus 1 and 2). The main reason I am here is to find a special girl.

My dating experiences: I dated about 5 girls overall. I was extremely shy at that time, so I couldn't express my feelings to them. I did not ask out any of them meaning they liked me for who I am :). I am hoping to find my future wife (I do not plan to rush anything that's why I am taking it slow.) I plan to get to know the person for 6-10 years before I decide to marry. Just because you live 5-8 hours away its not impossible for me to travel to you.

I am a very nice guy :) I do not have much of a social life. I tend to be on the books a lot more. I am very talkative meaning I could talk about a subject for hours. I am a very friendly person, and I could make friends easy. I am a busy person. I work on weekends to help my father with his Bounce House business working 12 hours a day, so I get a lot of outside time :). The only free time I have is during night time. One of my favorite things to do would be thinking. I like to solve puzzles and think of meaningful things.

What is the first thing that people notice about you? (emotional, caring, loyal, trustful, friendly)

I am a guy xD. Don't be jealous j/k. I make stuff happen, so if this somehow works out I could either move to the area (then apply to a college over there) or visit you often. I love life, and I want to see more. I am a fun person to be with, but I may be a little shy at first. I am a very caring person, and I will help a person to the end. I love to go snowboarding, hiking, ocean, Disney land (world of color) and travel.

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

All of the characteristic I list, is what I will do also. I want the girl to be by my side through good and bad moments. I would like if you can show me all of your sides. I will not judge you.

[Seablue]

Yeah I think this needs work. Let me just say a few thoughts I had while reading that:

What makes me special? I guess you can say is I am one of those special gems.

That really says nothing about you except that you like yourself. When I see "I am special" in someone's profile my reaction is always "show, don't tell". Talk about your personality and interests and let the reader decide if you seem special (not to mention, if it's special as in special gem or special as in too weird for me).

My profile is a bit long, but that only shows how much passion I put into writing this profile. I wish I could make my writing have more passion, but I always take it off because I look silly.

That seems a little off to me. Basically you are saying: "I wrote this with passion. I wish I could write with passion."

I get what you meant but it isn't clear. Maybe remove the second sentence. Or change it to "I think it is best to write with passion, even though I do realize that it looks silly a lot of the end". Something like that. Just to clarify.

My personality is a Thinker which is: "You love to explore ideas. You enjoy solving problems. You have an abstract and analytical way of thinking. You are inspired by futuristic ideas and potentials. Relationships: Stress can come from fear appearing foolish. You want others to accept that you feel deeply, even though you may not express it"

Unless you are writing this profile for a MBTI related dating site or something like that, it's a little weird to state "my personality is a Thinker". I mean imagine a personality test you know nothing about, and seeing on a profile: "My personality is an 99B". Wouldn't you think: "...what?".

Best to rewrite that as: "The most important thing about my personality is that I love to explore ideas, solve problems" etc. If possible change it a little, don't copy the quote too closely.

You can mention somewhere on your profile: "if you are familiar with the MBTI, then it might interest you to know I type as..." but it shouldn't be the first thing you say and you shouldn't "hide" behind quotes. Talk about yourself, not about Thinkers.

Please don't see my personality as dull

No. Sounds a little desperate and it won't change how people see you. If they see you as dull they see you as dull and saying please won't change it. Skip that.

I am a very passionate guy. Music is my soul, and Anime is my heart :) Japanese Anime is unique because they are filled with passion :)

"I think I am a very passionate guy, and love music and Japanese Anime because I think they excess at expressing strong emotions" (I am trying to find another word than "passion" that you use a lot), or "are the forms of arts that touch me the most" or whatever.


My dating experiences: I dated about 5 girls overall. I was extremely shy at that time, so I couldn't express my feelings to them. I did not ask out any of them meaning they liked me for who I am :).

I'm not sure that's a good thing to say that. Or at least it's unclear why you are saying that. Do you mean to say you are shy and like girls who make the first move? That you don't have a lot of experience with dating? That you do have enough experience with dating? Find out what you meant to say and say that rather than talk about past girlfriends (probably not the first thing a girl you date wants to hear about).

The parts I skipped were fine.

[Anime]

Yeah I think this needs work. Let me just say a few thoughts I had while reading that:

That really says nothing about you except that you like yourself. When I see "I am special" in someone's profile my reaction is always "show, don't tell". Talk about your personality and interests and let the reader decide if you seem special (not to mention, if it's special as in special gem or special as in too weird for me).

That seems a little off to me. Basically you are saying: "I wrote this with passion. I wish I could write with passion."

I get what you meant but it isn't clear. Maybe remove the second sentence. Or change it to "I think it is best to write with passion, even though I do realize that it looks silly a lot of the end". Something like that. Just to clarify.

Unless you are writing this profile for a MBTI related dating site or something like that, it's a little weird to state "my personality is a Thinker". I mean imagine a personality test you know nothing about, and seeing on a profile: "My personality is an 99B". Wouldn't you think: "...what?".

Best to rewrite that as: "The most important thing about my personality is that I love to explore ideas, solve problems" etc. If possible change it a little, don't copy the quote too closely.

You can mention somewhere on your profile: "if you are familiar with the MBTI, then it might interest you to know I type as..." but it shouldn't be the first thing you say and you shouldn't "hide" behind quotes. Talk about yourself, not about Thinkers.

No. Sounds a little desperate and it won't change how people see you. If they see you as dull they see you as dull and saying please won't change it. Skip that.

"I think I am a very passionate guy, and love music and Japanese Anime because I think they excess at expressing strong emotions" (I am trying to find another word than "passion" that you use a lot), or "are the forms of arts that touch me the most" or whatever.

I'm not sure that's a good thing to say that. Or at least it's unclear why you are saying that. Do you mean to say you are shy and like girls who make the first move? That you don't have a lot of experience with dating? That you do have enough experience with dating? Find out what you meant to say and say that rather than talk about past girlfriends (probably not the first thing a girl you date wants to hear about).

The parts I skipped were fine.

Thank you for the feedback. I edited a lot of stuff. I am wondering is it better to stress the logic part? Because when I wrote that profile it was very elitist like. One of my favorite is

Geniuses------------- Talk about ideas
Smart people---------Talk about events
Uneducated people----Talk about other people

Should I leave that out? Because I think so far my profile is attracting everyone. I took off the personality, so it will be harder to find out on my character.

From other places they say "You got 30 secs before the girl leaves, so try to edit it to one paragraph" Now Do I need less info on my profile?

Here is my edited profile:

Hello my name is ______ :) Since this profile is really long I like to get to the point. What makes me special? Well I am not like many typical men that only want girls looks. That being said I am looking for a girl that is open minded, and seeks the internal value within a person.

Music is my soul, and Anime is my heart :) Japanese Anime is unique because they are filled with passion :)

I am currently in college and my future plans is to become a pharmacist. I am finished with the math section of my career (Passed Calculus 1 and 2). The main reason I am here is to find a special girl.

What is the first thing that people notice about you? (emotional, caring, loyal, trustful, friendly)

I am a guy xD. Don't be jealous j/k. I make stuff happen, so if this somehow works out I could either move to the area (then apply to a college over there) or visit you often. I love life, and I want to see more. I am a fun person to be with, but I may be a little shy at first. I am a very caring person, and I will help a person to the end. I love to go snowboarding, hiking, ocean, Disney land (world of color) and travel.

I am a very nice guy :) I do not have much of a social life. I tend to be on the books a lot more. I am very talkative meaning I could talk about a subject for hours. I am a very friendly person, and I could make friends easy. I am a busy person. I work on weekends to help my father with his Bounce House business working 12 hours a day, so I get a lot of outside time :). The only free time I have is during night time. One of my favorite things to do would be thinking. I like to solve puzzles and think of meaningful things.

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

I want the girl to be by my side through good and bad moments. I would like if you can show me all of your sides. I will not judge you. I would like to know the girl first before I start dating her. I plan to get to know the person for 3 months before I decide to date. Just because you live 5-8 hours away its not impossible for me to travel to you.

[Seablue]

I don't really like "elitist" stuff in profiles, though I guess you could say I am a bit elitist in real life when it comes to intelligence. The thing is, I tend to think that it is useless to state "I'm smart" or "I'm a genius" on a profile - it's the other person who will be the judge of that when she meets you.

So while talking about your personality is important, I think it's best to do that through concrete examples. Topics you like to think about, skills you have, favorite books, etc.

If what you put in your last post is the whole of your profile, no, I wouldn't say it's long, mine was longer I think, and my boyfriend's much longer. Writing a long profile is not a bad thing. But it is good to start with a "summary" (for the "you have 30 seconds before you leave" thing). Also I don't know what dating site you are on but OkCupid had a "You should message me if..." part at the end of the profile, as a conclusion. And it could be pretty useful, at least for people who didn't simply answer "if you like my profile"...

[Genotipe]

About Me:

I´m 21 years old male. Silent, lonely and always daydreaming. If I must tell the truth, I'm a pretty depressive person, but I know very well to hide it (very appealing, huh?). From outside it seem I´m cold, bitter and sarcastic, but people who get to know me normally realise that´s just a shell. Very good listener. My english is crappy. You will usually find with headphones on, looking to the infinite lost in my thoughts, may they be about something deep or just about how cute are kittens.

Physical Characteristics:

Height: 1,70 m
Weight: 55 kg
Hair: Black
Eyes: Brown
Skin Color: not milky, but pale in overall terms.
Heritage: as far as I know just spaniard.


What I'm doing currently:

I study medicine, this is my 4th year. I have not decided it yet, but I will probably choose psychiatry when I get my degree.

Favorites:

Humor: absurd, morbid, black, sarcastic.
Movie: the Fight club.
Genre of Music: black metal, melodic death, metalgaze, dark ambient, post-rock.
Book: Steppenwolf, by Hermann Hesse.
Band: i´d say Dark Tranquillity.
Sport: martial arts, running.
I love videogames and cats.

Dislikes:

- I HATE not to have a lot of spare time. Love my spare time. Seriouly.
- People who do not know to say anything directly.
- Couples who are always kissing and doing I´m-so-in-love-stuff in public.
- Noise, shouting.
- Politics and football. Sick of them. I do not sympathise religion of almost any kind, I got an overdose when I was younger.

Contact me if: you think you´ll be that über-woman that can stand me without becoming mad.

[Cryogenics]

I've never done the online dating thing before so this is all new to me. Normally I dislike these sorts of 'about-me' pages because their scope is quite limited. 5 minutes face-to-face reveals a lot more. I'll give it a shot though. (I don't have a pic up yet but I'll get to that later).

I think an MBTI can provide some basic insights but it also does not fully frame someone. For the record though, I am INTJ.

Critique away.

Basic physical stats

Male
27 years old
5'10''
175 lbs.
I would say I am more athletic/muscular than most
Dark brown hair, hazel eyes


What are you most passionate about?

- Learning. Constantly. For instance, I've never done art before so I think I want to try guitar.

- The idea of using science to make people's lives better. Energy, drugs, clean water, computers, and the like. I am a non-traditional chemical engineering student. (work part time and go to school part time).

- I really enjoy engaging my senses by being physically active. I am a firm believer that keeping fit is a fun hobby that pays numerous dividends. I'm a lot happier when I'm active. I started rock climbing a year ago and l dig it. It's like solving a puzzle. As is the case with other sports, it's often your mind that quits before your body does.

- Meeting new people. They are a never ending source of ideas and perspectives. Bill Nye (who is a total badass) said "Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don't" and it's so true!

I learn a lot from people. I am described as the silent type/introverted (duh) but I highly value my friendships. I enjoy going out to bars, rock/rap/electronic shows, and the occasional party.

What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

-Family
-The internet
-Good health


Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

A former martial arts instructor from when I was a kid who taught me a fundamental truth. I used to do kung fu. I don't remember very many of the movements but what I walked away with was the literal translation/philosophy of kung fu which is "skill through effort."

This idea planted a belief in myself that I am capable of damn near anything I want if I put the work in.

The four things your friends say about you are:

-Charming
-Witty
-Good heart
-Cynical


What are three of your BEST life-skills?

- Work ethic
- I am adaptable
- Seeing things from multiple points of view


What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

A girl with wit is fun to be around.


Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?

I'm quiet.

What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

-I have a dark sense of humor that doesn't always get a chance to show itself.

How do you typically spend your leisure time?

-Reading, gym, movies, hanging out with friends, video games once in a while


What are five things that you "can't live without?"

-Physical activitity/sports. It's fun and it feels good. Adrenaline slows time down.
-Books
-Internet
-Music (for now all I do is listen but I love it)
-Interesting conversation/connections


Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

Sci-fi book called "Exogene" by TC McCarthy........it's about technology-gone-wild in war. The insanity of some of the events and ideas in this book I cannot begin to describe. I enjoyed the depiction of something not quite human and it's own emotions/aspirations/longings/perspectives in the midst of being grown in a vat and then deployed in a war zone.

Yeah I know that's heavy subject matter but I read a variety of things.

[Maedhi]

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Speaking as a straight guy, that is one of the most interesting profiles I have ever read.

[Cryogenics]

Thanks man!

[Seablue]

And speaking as a woman, the profile is fine, but get rid of that part:

but if they don't have an interesting mind then they are only good for one thing.

For me it's pretty much a deal breaker if a guy writes on his profile about "girls that are only good for one thing". Showing despite against women (even some women) is NOT something that attracts women.

Imagine about what you would think about a girl's profile with stuff like: "Most men are disgusting pigs but I'm still hoping to meet a good guy". Or: "I'm tired of meeting dumb men, they are only good to pay for the restaurant on the first date but then I'm gone". I bet in the first case you would be thinking that you don't really want to spend the first ten dates trying desperately to prove you are not a disgusting pig to a defensive woman. And in the second case you would think "what a bitch" and have no intention of ending up as one of those guys she considers dumb and takes advantage of.

Well, that's the kind of signal a woman gets from reading your profile: the signal that if she goes on a date with you, and you don't find her up to your standards, you'll classify her as "only good for one thing", and instead of stopping to date her you'll try taking advantage of her while secretly despising her.

Generally speaking I'd say it's very bad taste to show despite or anger against people you've dated or fucked on an online profile. My policy in this matter would be, I don't CARE who you've dated or fucked before we met ; but if you tell me how much you despite them before we have even started dating together, my understanding will be that you have issues in that area, and that you tend to despite the people you fuck. Guess what? That does not make me eager to fuck you.

Also, you can actually remove the whole sentence, including the beginning:

I'm a dude so of course I care about looks

When talking/meeting people on a dating site, I would assume by default that they are looking for physical attraction on top of the rest. I don't need them specifying that they care about it. If someone wrote "of course I care about looks", I would think they are being defensive about it, which means either that they don't feel right about it themselves (why? issues about sexual attraction?) or because they care about it too much and are too picky (and that they are being defensive because people have complained about them being that way in the past).

And the "I'm a guy so..." beginning. Urg. Seriously. As if all guys cared about looks, as if women didn't. As if all guys fucked women they don't find intellectually engaging, as if no women did. But nevermind about that. The most important thing is, whatever you have to say, don't say it after hiding behind your gender. Again, if you don't get what I mean, try reversing it with "I'm a girl" and a negative cliché about girls. Like, "I'm a girl so of course I care about money and will expect you to pay for the dates". Really? Do the "I'm a girl" part makes the sentence better or worse? I'm thinking worse, because it means she denies responsibility for her behavior. She's a girl! She can't help it! You wouldn't hold that against her, would you? :flirt:

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Anyway. Like I said the rest is fine, but this whole sentence, really, get rid of it. No woman will message you because of that part, but some women might choose to not message you because of it. Trust me, I'm not the only woman for whom that stuff would hit a nerve because it's bullshit and we've read it too often.

And don't try to pass it as "it's dark humor, I'm looking for a girl who can enjoy that". If it's humor, all for the best. But it's lame and it's been written a thousand times already, so what little comic value there might have been in it is long gone.

Don't take it too personally though. I could copy/paste what I've written to you and use it as a reply again and again. There's a lot of people who don't realize what they are doing and how they are shooting themselves in the foot when they show despite against the opposite gender in a dating site profile.

[Cryogenics]

Seablue,

Noted. Thanks for the honesty.

What did you like about the rest of the profile? Or is it merely "fine"? ;)

[Seablue]

Seablue,

Noted. Thanks for the honesty.

What did you like about the rest of the profile? Or is it merely "fine"? ;)

Hm, what do I mean by fine... Well, overall I think you have a good balance of saying some general things about your personality ("passionate about learning") and more specific things ("never done art, planning on learning guitar"). That balance is something I consider important because too often, people will say stuff like "I'm funny, outgoing and artistic" without actually giving any example of what they do, which leaves the reader with a very fuzzy idea of who they are. And while I don't recall actually reading a profile that had the opposite flaw, I can imagine what it would look like (a random list of activities without any sort of description of the moral character linking those activities between them).

Other than that, while your answers aren't very long, it seems that they are to to the point and honest. Take the "what is the first thing that people notice about you?" question for instance. Lots of people would answer that with some kind of (not very funny) joke like: "Nothing, I'm a ninja, they won't ever notice me" or "how impossible it is not to fall in love with me". I appreciate it when someone can write the whole profile in an honest, straightforward way, and doesn't seem to avoid all the questions by answering them with jokes or overused quotes.

And aside from the sentence I criticized in my first post, an overall lack of things that trigger an "oh no, you don't want people to read that" reaction.

The only other criticism I could make is that it's a little short, but then I don't mind long profiles while some people won't bother reading them, so it's up to you.

I couldn't get more specific, but then it doesn't matter if I would date you based on your profile. What matters is, if a girl who would be interested in you if she met you in real life read your profile, would she be more likely to run away or to respond well to it? That's why I try to stick to general criticism and not get into things that depends on personal taste like "great favorite book!" or "guitar sucks, pick something else".

[zibber]

Put some flaws, though.

[IotaNull]

Why do I do this to myself? Why don't I have anything better to do with my Easter than write yet another OKC profile?

My self-summary
Are you sitting comfortably? Then I'll begin.

There isn't much I can write here that won't make me sound either really generic or incredibly pretentious and insufferable... so I guess I'll have to go with "unusual, non-pretentious and hopefully at least a little bit sufferable". :p

I'd like to say I'm on here "for a laugh", but considering I've stuck around intermittently for about two years I guess that's not really true. I tend to express myself much better in writing than in speech (admittedly still not very well), so I figure this is a good way to try to meet interesting people.


What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently in my third year of (supposedly) studying Maths and Philosophy at university; it's not as strange a combination as it sounds. I don't have any crystallised plans for a career yet, so I definitely wouldn't describe myself as ambitious or "highly driven" or any of that nonsense -- I'm just seeing where my education takes me. Also trying to acquire a Time Turner, because my university can't seem to go one term without giving me a timetable clash. V_V

Hobbies-wise, I like fencing, tabletop gaming, swimming, reading, creative writing (sometimes informative, sometimes just goofy nonsense; it's fun to indulge my urge to be cryptic and pretentious sometimes) and pretty much anything I can enjoy from time to time without getting too invested in it. Variety is the spice of life. Or would be if I didn't hate most spices. But you know what I mean.


I’m really good at
Spelling, formal logic, using big words to save time and regretting it when I have to spend five minutes explaining what they mean, making a total fool of myself when talking to customer service staff, looking grouchy in photos, eating breakfast at 11 o'clock in the evening, failing at writing interesting introductions to profiles on online dating sites.
The first things people usually notice about me
Lately, how much I look like Jonathan Crane from Batman Begins. I really hope that's without the mask.


Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Richard Dawkins for the first and third (I've never tried him for the fifth).

Books: Ben Goldacre, Stephen Hawking, Richard Feynman -- mostly nonfiction. I enjoyed the Hunger Games trilogy; the thing I remember most about it was going "WHAT" out loud when I looked at the time after reading it all in one sitting. I really liked George Orwell's Animal Farm, and I'm trying to read more "fictional nonfiction" and classical literature. I really need to get around to reading 1984 at some point.

TV: Doctor Who, Firefly, Game of Thrones and sometimes The Big Bang Theory. I don't watch TV a great deal.

Movies: Inception, the recent Batman films, Source Code, Serenity, The Hunger Games (surprise), Star Wars, The Artist, In Time, The King's Speech, Harry Potter, The Matrix, Limitless, Cypher, The Avengers, Life of Pi, just about anything Christopher Nolan has ever made. Special mention goes to The Hangover 2 for being the most annoying thing I've ever seen on a digital screen, which is quite an accomplishment when you've dealt with flashing spam popups and your cat's tail wagging across when you're trying to concentrate on Metroid Prime. (Update: Superbad has now overtaken Hangover 2 as the most annoying thing. I cringed at the "humour" for about twenty minutes before unceremoniously turning it off and going back to playing Doodle Jump.)

Music: I'm one of those annoying people that likes "a little bit of everything without being a fan of anything". If you really want specifics: Pink Floyd, Muse, Vib Gyor, Pendulum, Coldplay, AC/DC, Lady Gaga (shut up, it's catchy), Rammstein and most famous classical music.

Food: I could go on all day about this, but suffice to say I'm a really fussy eater. I can't make myself like onions, peppers, mushrooms or onions, which doesn't leave me with many options in terms of exotic food.

Games: Deserves a category of its own. Most commonly Skyrim at the moment, but I've also played Zelda and Metroid games quite a bit. I'm a big fan of exploration games.


The six things I could never do without
- The dictionary app on my iPhone. Best 59p I ever spent.
- L'internet. Shameless addict.
- The words "arbitrary", “byzantine", "exculpatory", "uncharacteristically", and Oxford commas.
- My close friends, who I don't get to see very often. For all the hype about "best friends are made in university", I made much better friends in sixth form than I ever have here.
- Peppermint tea, which is SO much simpler to make than normal tea. No milk? No sugar? No problem.
- Custard doughnuts. Five years later and I still can't get over the novelty.


I spend a lot of time thinking about
What would happen if Pinnochio said that his nose would lengthen. Whether I'm allowed to shoot the messenger if the message is a thermal detonator. Why so many students have plans for a zombie apocalypse but not for their own graduation. When Staff Robot is going to start taking archery lessons.


On a typical Friday night I am
Failing to honour my apparent obligation to get down and have fun, fun, fun, fun. For shame.


The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't take myself nearly as seriously as people tend to assume, although I'm terrible at conveying this.


I’m looking for
Girls who like guys
Ages 18–24
Near me
For new friends, long-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
You wouldn't be caught dead starting any sentence with "I'm old-fashioned, so...". You have a working Time Turner I can borrow. Or if you just want to challenge me to a game. :) I don't bite (unless you're into that sort of thing).

P.S. Please put some actual content in your messages. If you can't find anything more interesting to say than "hi how r u today, wanna chat", I'm probably not going to respond.

[Seablue]

I like the profile. The only sentences I might want to remove are the second, because it's the sentence in which self-depreciation is most obvious and I don't think that sentence serves much of a purpose in the profile. There's a bit of self-depreciation in other parts of the profile, but it's always mixed up in useful stuff, and personally I think your writing makes it come across as humour, so I'm fine with it.

Also calling being "highly driven" nonsense. I'd say that based on your profile, you have a good chance of attracting an NT girl, and there's a chance she would be career focused (I'm not saying it's a sure thing, I'm not career focused myself) and that could put her off unnecessarily. Unless I don't get your meaning and it's the term "highly driven" that annoys you rather than the actual behaviour. And if you think you couldn't stand to be with a career focused girl, well obviously leave that sentence as it is, since you have no need of trying to not put them off.

[IotaNull]

I like the profile. The only sentences I might want to remove are the second, because it's the sentence in which self-depreciation is most obvious and I don't think that sentence serves much of a purpose in the profile. There's a bit of self-depreciation in other parts of the profile, but it's always mixed up in useful stuff, and personally I think your writing makes it come across as humour, so I'm fine with it.

I did consider removing it but thought it might make the summary section a bit short... but on a second reading, I suppose a summary doesn't need to be that long.

Also calling being "highly driven" nonsense. I'd say that based on your profile, you have a good chance of attracting an NT girl, and there's a chance she would be career focused (I'm not saying it's a sure thing, I'm not career focused myself) and that could put her off unnecessarily. Unless I don't get your meaning and it's the term "highly driven" that annoys you rather than the actual behaviour. And if you think you couldn't stand to be with a career focused girl, well obviously leave that sentence as it is, since you have no need of trying to not put them off.

I put that because of how many other men call themselves ambitious (which I think is usually nonsense); it never occurred to me how a career woman would take that. Thanks.

[Busboy]

"Hi!

Just wanted to let you know that I really enjoyed reading your profile. You had me cracking up. No wait, you had me before that, at, "eye color: brown." I'm so impressed by your sarcasm that I'd give my life savings up just to go out on a one hour dinner-date with you, so that maybe, just maybe, I could die a happy man.

You know how a lot of couples say that they're "best friends" and blah blah blah!? I always thought that was bullshit.

Until now. I already know we'd be good friends. I'm really eccentric myself, and, I never actually thought I'd run into another person like me, much less a girl, and even less-likely-- an attractive one! :)

Well, I've never been great at expressing my feelings, and all I can muster up to say is that I'd really like to meet you and get to know you.

I saw that you had already viewed my profile so I am assuming these feelings are mutual. My initial reaction when I clicked the "who's viewed me recently" tab was, "holy fucking shit, that's the hottest bitch who's ever checked me out, imma hafta bang her."

Lol. I immediately started beating off to the rest of your pictures! It's as if we've already had sex. We might as well get the formalities out of the way and just do it for real, you down?

Anyways, I started getting paranoid that some dude made your fake profile just to fuck with guys like me, so I popped your profile pic into Google Image Search just to make sure.

That message waiting in your Facebook inbox is from ME btw ;) ;) miss "Bianca S..." ;) ;)

Haha, aren't you impressed by my research skills? Well, since I already know your full name and home address, it's almost rude at this point to not even introduce myself!

My name's ___ , nice to meet you (soon in real life!).

Lemmie know when you wanna hang out, I'm the dude chillen across the street in that black van w/ tinted windows btw. You been home for hours!!! I think you need to get out of the house! Lets go do something!

:)"

What do y'all think? Hurry, I'd like to send this to her before she wakes up.

[dangerousdavid]

Saw this on another site

SWM in boring job seeks whiny shrew for co-dependency, tepid sex, and shouting matches. I enjoy drinking, petty theft, pornography, and self-righteous indignation. I like to run with scissors. I love to give compliments that prominently display my gender stereo-types. I used to think I was indecisive, but now I'm not too sure. For fun, I enjoy browsing other people's profiles and making shallow judgments about their employment, and social skills. Everything I need to know about life I got from watching Jerry Springer. In my free time I have written a thesaurus that included an emphasis on the most useful curses. I would kill to win the Nobel Peace prize. I have middling intelligence but try to appear smarter by affecting a world-weary air, memorizing useless statistics, and chuckling at my own mean-spirited, agenda-driven jokes.

YOU: You are a man-hating, bitter shrew with a misplaced sense of entitlement and utopic expectations. Over time you will blame me and grow hostile when I don't fulfill every need you've ever had. Bonus points if you just finished dating every guy in town but now want to take your time with me. My perfect night would include getting hammered in a shitty bar while you flirt with seedy old drunks, followed by a loud screaming match and culminating in an ashtray blow to the head - yours or mine, it doesn't really matter. I would be open to an unsatisfying fling but prefer a long-term, soul crushing descent into alcoholism and pills. Age unimportant, but I often condescend to women under 22 and rehash mother issues with women over 43. Serious replies only, please.

[Cocolata]

I posted this on a site. I wanted to find out if anyone would be really interested in what laid beneath the surface. If anyone could be interested in me as a me. Not me as a relationship-product. Not surprisingly, no one has ever replied. I must add up that I did not post my photo, but I am quite attractive and with a very nice fit figure. Yet, people can't see beyond. And if they can't see beyond they will only be distracted with the surface, which will eventually vanish.

From the shores of classical depression through the mounts of exhilaration, a new brand of man arises, the Homo sapiens. Freely the species takes upon the task of mating, relentlessly failing and hopefully trying. Hence this short essay to inspire the reader to keep looking elsewhere, as his dreams, aspirations and fascinating tasks will very probably not be fulfilled, satisfied or even captured by this profile.
Go elsewhere in search of chimeras! Alas, you shall find in the next one, a willing soul ready to try that which this tortured one will not. The path of desire traces our hearts and dictates our actions, you who still has hope try anew to find the unreachable happiness in the winks and texts of a smily princess. I, the forgotten and ethnic one, shall keep on wishing you fortune. There is indeed a unique dimension reached by those who succeed in the cyclical ritual of mating.

This posting is more of a lament to all what we miss while looking.

[oldnick]

Girls (and guys if you like), please tell me what sucks about my dating profile. Tell me if you like it too ! Any rating/comment welcome.

I need to build a solid profile.

I got a new job and moved to a new city, and I'm ready to get back into the dating world, so I made a profile on okcupid and filled it the best I could being honest, check here (you can see it without having an account):

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Please tell me what sucks about it

Also tell me if the photo sucks, in my opinion it's my best photo, but this stuff is subjective and I have a feeling maybe it's not so good to others...

I haven't gotten any positive replies so far.

[plotthickens]

So others don't have to follow link, here:

My self-summary
I'm quietly confident/cool/calm/zen :)
I'm a thinker, but I do know how to act efficiently when the time is right.
Creative.
I like to take my time. I smile a lot :)
I'm warm and easygoing, people like me :)

What I’m doing with my life I just moved in Paris because I got an awesome new job there !


I’m really good at Thinking, being creative, cooking, smiling, making people feel comfortable.


The first things people usually notice about me I smile a lot and they usually smile back.


Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food I like Sci-Fi, adventure and comedy TV shows and movies,
typically I will like stuff like:
Friends, LOST, Game of Thrones

I like pop/rock music best
Something I noticed is that often, I will discover a new song or artist and listen to it over and over for hours and days because it gives me a specific feeling/atmosphere I like at the moment, then later I won't really listen to it again when the special feeling is gone.


The six things I could never do without Water
Food
Freedom
Affection
Sunlight
Honor


I spend a lot of time thinking about The universe, what are we and where are we ?
I actually built some own original theories of mine, you want to hear it ?


On a typical Friday night I am Out or movies/games at home.


The most private thing I’m willing to admit I want to be a dad ! (don't be scared ! Not necessarily right now, but like maybe within 10 years)


I’m looking for

Girls who like guys
Ages 20–30
Near me
Who are single
For long-term dating


You should message me if You like my picture or my personality or both :)

[Cocolata]

Who are you looking for? It is very general. You are marketing yourself. Who do you wish to attract? Think of your consumer. Will anyone do?

[Munglik]

So others don't have to follow link, here:

My self-summary
I'm quietly confident/cool/calm/zen :)
I'm a thinker, but I do know how to act efficiently when the time is right.
Creative.
I like to take my time. I smile a lot :)
I'm warm and easygoing, people like me :)

What I’m doing with my life I just moved in Paris because I got an awesome new job there !


I’m really good at Thinking, being creative, cooking, smiling, making people feel comfortable.


The first things people usually notice about me I smile a lot and they usually smile back.


Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food I like Sci-Fi, adventure and comedy TV shows and movies,
typically I will like stuff like:
Friends, LOST, Game of Thrones

I like pop/rock music best
Something I noticed is that often, I will discover a new song or artist and listen to it over and over for hours and days because it gives me a specific feeling/atmosphere I like at the moment, then later I won't really listen to it again when the special feeling is gone.


The six things I could never do without Water
Food
Freedom
Affection
Sunlight
Honor


I spend a lot of time thinking about The universe, what are we and where are we ?
I actually built some own original theories of mine, you want to hear it ?


On a typical Friday night I am Out or movies/games at home.


The most private thing I’m willing to admit I want to be a dad ! (don't be scared ! Not necessarily right now, but like maybe within 10 years)


I’m looking for

Girls who like guys
Ages 20–30
Near me
Who are single
For long-term dating


You should message me if You like my picture or my personality or both :)

Saying "I'm warm and easygoing, people like me" is a bit annoying. Trust that they will see it for themselves.

[PurpleGiraffe]

Saying "I'm warm and easygoing, people like me" is a bit annoying. Trust that they will see it for themselves.

Plus, it begs for one to ask the question, "Well, then why are you single and on the internet looking for dates?" Sure, there are a lot of reasons why one might be single and use the internet and some of them are very mundane/pedestrian, so yes, people might like you and you can still be on the internet looking for dates, but you also could just be completely full of yourself and/or so socially inept that you are incapable of noticing that they don't actually like you.

Therefore, yes, it is very much usually a good idea to just let someone come to that conclusion for himself or herself.

[kintsukuroi]

oldnick: Some resources on taking a good picture.

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Ease up on the emoticons. If you must use them, use no more than two. Leave the "admitting private thing" blank. "You should message me if," for all the talk of equality and the like, the expectation is men message women, not the other way around, so put anything you want here; it doesn't matter. "Six things can't live without": be creative. Leave food, water, air, clothing, shelter off of it. "Spend a lot of thing thinking about"... too deep here can come off as very strange. OKC's vibe tends to be lighter and more casual than most.

Don't answer more than 100ish of the questions, and skip every question relating to sex, drugs, politics, or religion--unless these things are critical to you.

Be relaxed about it. OKC is a great way to meet people and just hang out; treat it as such, and not a "dating site," and you will do well.

Best of luck.

[oldnick]

Thanks for the recommendations :)
I will remove the 'people like me' stuff
and rework some stuff you said

I did get a phone number last night so my profile doesn't suck as much as I tough, I was just impatient ! Still need heavy tweaking tough, which I will do :)

[Yardy]

Ad:

I'm male and perfect and interesting; so there's my self-summary. I really like long walks around the beer canned, needle-littered streets of my home town.

I write, and I'm not published, so it's okay to poke fun.

I'm a commitment-loving organism. I'm not just out for good times. I love everybody.

Occupation:

I work as a blackjack dealer at a local tribal casino. I've been an assistant martial arts instructor and I've just started taking lessons at a new dojo. I'm a student, and have taken way longer than is traditional. I'm 25, I have two distinguishing associate's degrees, am about to finish my first bachelor's degree and I've taken no time off.

Interests:

Martial arts, writing, drawing, playing drums, people.

Prefers:

- I'm not very picky about life. I don't complain a lot. I do like to share with other people, so it's nice if I have interests in common with others.

- I'm kinda fluffy, but I work out regularly and would prefer to associate with people who care about fitness and Martial Arts.

- I prefer people over just about everything else. I don't make fun of people and I don't try to hurt anyone's feelings on purpose. Feel free to talk to me about anything.

Location: Oklahoma, USA.

I'm super comfortable with long distances and have traveled to meet several online friends and romances. Proximity isn't an issue for me.

[Vicki]

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