Signs an INTP likes you?

[Jinglish]

...Because it's outside the jurisdiction of the INTJ thread (or at least I'm guessing, due the the presence of Fe instead of Fi), and I have a bit of a crush on an INTP friend and I'm wondering if it's mutual.

[Freedom Geek]

You ask if you can do something and they reply with something nonsensical... (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)

[elsdfr]

Hah, I like the chair question as a supposed INTP response.

I remember being in a place once where I had to ask for a chair. The girl said no so I looked around and said if anyone else wants one they can get one of those. She said "I don't care"... so I sat in the one at her table and argued for five minutes why I was entitled to this chair. I then turned around to my table where the people I knew where sitting. Sure enough five minutes later she came over and sat on my lap... what the! :laugh:

[speedsuit721]

Haha, I just went out with an INTP last night and got laid for the first time! We played Scrabble for a couple hours. I had no idea whatsoever if he liked me or not, and then he invited me back to his place. And then as I was looking at some books he had, he put the moves on.

And then he wanted to cuddle for two hours! Watching Star Trek! So... I guess that means he likes me?

They're a hard bunch to read. I imagine dealing with INTJs must be similarly stymying. I think if an INTP keeps talking to you and reveals some personal information, they must at least like you a little.

[Freedom Geek]

Also be prepared to be for very quick speaking... (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.)

[elsdfr]

Hmm Scrabble huh? You sure he didn't start it off with some suggestive words?

[Gazelle]

If they initiate contact and/or remember/ask/refer to things about you. Since they're stuck in their own head with their own thoughts, the fact that they are noticing and thinking about you in that way means a lot.

One of my favorite ways to flirt as an INTP is to play Scrabble with a guy:)

[elsdfr]

Best Scrabble player I knew was an ENTP. Good luck figuring that guy out.

[Latro]

Hmm Scrabble huh? You sure he didn't start it off with some suggestive words?
Just for an outside perspective, I'm too competitive playing Scrabble to choose to use (or not use) suggestive language simply because of the person I'm playing with. I used "sex" with a friend of mine earlier, and it only had to do with the fact that it got me 30 points (triple word score).

[speedsuit721]

He made it clear he was quite competitive and would not let me win. He actually did win, but that's because I was busy making huge words and not playing strategically enough to hit the double word score squares. But no suggestive words on his part. Undressing me... now that was suggestive.

[Freedom Geek]

What's the best way to tell a boy you like that he shouldn't go near his garbage can at 4am on Wednesdays?
There's a guy with a feathered hat and I think he saw me look at him. I bet he thinks I'm a freak looker. I should leave a note on his car.
I'm not sure that's his car. I'll leave a note on all the cars.
Taken from a fictional INTP's twitter page.

[DanteFalling]

If they actually remember your "real" name 50% of the time.
If they assign you a special number because they don't want to forget you.
If they make an appointment with you to talk and then at the appointment tell you they apologize but have something very selfish to say: they have feelings for you and are only telling you out of selfish reasons.
They look at you with a knowing look and then attempt a facial contortion: smile.

[d3br074]

I just wrote about how to tell if an INTJ likes you and INTPs are similar in many ways. There will likely be a lot of overlap. I wrote this list based on how I act when I like someone. (for the record, I only have a moderate J trait so it might be even more applicable)

possibly visible signs:
-smiling at you or a lot around you
-need to fill all dead space with talking to minimize uncomfortable silences
-afraid to touch you in any way except maybe a handshake
-never interrupts you
-teases or makes fun of you
-talks about his/her problems/shortcomings with you
-*intently stares into your eyes
-**sudden uneasiness/looking away if eye contact is made

*if the INTJ has reason to believe the feelings are reciprocated
**if the INTJ is not certain that feelings are reciprocated

invisible signs:
-being acutely aware of where you are
-self-consciously concealing most outward appearances of affection
-thinking about you interferes with ability to concentrate

INTJ can be very afraid of rejection to the point that they can be too afraid to show their affection if they have any doubts as to whether you like them as much as they like you.

[Indubitably]

lol Good luck with this one, I've gotten to the point where I can at least admit when I am interested in a woman, but that took years.

That and we may inadvertently reject you and be entirely oblivious of the fact. There have been times when I've asked a girl I liked if she was interested, and been completely blindsided by a response along the lines of, "well, yeah, I mean of course, obviously I like you, I just never thought you considered me to be in your league because you shot me down like 4 times in a row".

[thod]

The problem is that INTP's live in their heads. Reality to them is the models that exist in there, the outside world is the ghost. When you speak to one it is voice coming in from that ghost world, the message is processed according to the internal model and a response given. The INTP will not notice that dust on the shelves for months, until that becomes the subject of focus, then he will see the dust only because it is the focus. When the focus changes, the dust will cease to exist.

What you have to do is get him to focus on you and be sure that he is doing that. Most of the time he will have not have a conversation with you, but with his internal model of you. Thus he will not be picking up cues to your emotional state and seem detached, he is detached.

The fact that he is showing interest in you at all is a good sign. Perhaps its not you, but I would suggest you become more touchy/feely. Nothing like someone placing a hand on your arm etc to drag the attention back into the real world away from the internal world.

[Maayan]

My INTP friend sat me down on a park bench today. "I'm still attracted to you," he sighed. "You know that scene in The Matrix Reloaded where a girl asks Neo to kiss her so that she knows what it's like to feel emotion again?'

Earlier that evening, in the middle of a conversation, he exclaimed the following: "Your fingers are so long and graceful. They say, 'I am a person who has something important to express and who holds long quills with fluffy feathers on the end.' Can you imagine if you had stubby fingers? It would be, like, 'I'm made for simple labour, like picking up this cup, lifting it, and moving it ten inches from its original position.'"

1. I didn't wind up taking him up on his offer. No lust.
2. To be fair, I've said my own share of ridiculous things on dates, e.g., "I'm having a great time and I'd love to stay, but I really should be getting home. ... I wish I could cut off your hand and take it home with me so that I can hold it while I study."

[eternaltriangle]

Taken from a fictional INTP's twitter page.

Those sound like things I would suggest. My girlfriend hates it when I do though... for instance when looking at apartments I wanted to go outside the apartment and yell so we could tell how sound-proof the walls were but she wouldn't let me.





eternaltriangle added to this post, 2 minutes and 44 seconds later...



1. I didn't wind up taking him up on his offer. No lust.
2. To be fair, I've said my own share of ridiculous things on dates, e.g., "I'm having a great time and I'd love to stay, but I really should be getting home. ... I wish I could cut off your hand and take it home with me so that I can hold it while I study."

I have given people toilet paper as a gift on a date and did some joke statistical analysis arguing that they should fall madly in love with me. I took responsibility for the decrease in the crime rate in the 90's, and economic growth.





eternaltriangle added to this post, 17 minutes and 38 seconds later...

As for my experience dating an INTP (well we had two dates, but they were long ones)...

We met online. She found me both amusing and liked something about the way in which I was an intellectual. She had this disdain for "booksmart" people, who were all just following other people's instructions. I think this was her (unusual) way of manifesting a dislike for S people. She only had respect for people who figured things out on their own, and though I am booksmart I guess I fit the bill. So anyhow after some conversation she agreed to meet me at her apartment.

Now she wasn't a very good conversationalist, actually it was a really hard conversation to have. She didn't really contribute to the conversation at first - she said that she usually has a million thoughts racing through her mind (she had ADD... and was a sociopath). I viewed this as an intellectual puzzle... how to sell myself to somebody who lives in a world of thoughts - constant racing thoughts - who is also a sociopath?

I think probably the most fruitful line of discussion involved trying to deconstruct the nature of what she found attractive (what were the underlying themes, that is). I also had to couch everything I said in subtle praise of her, or she would get angry or frantic. I think she liked my notion of love as a kind of addiction. I also wore a scarf around my head the whole time, and let her make the first move. There was a game aspect to the whole thing as well - neither of us wanted to "surrender" to the other person, although she did say "I want you inside me" at one point when we were making out. At this point I was wearing a blue dress, which was surprisingly tight on me. She was on her fourth pack of cigarettes, and some large quantity of beer (her primary source of nourishment). All the while I felt awkward about the nearby presence of her somewhat emasculated beta roommate.

Hmm... I am pretty sure that was of no help to you... For me I don't think I could tell she really liked me until the very end (when I said I didn't think it would work out), when she said she considered me a worthy adversary of sorts - high praise from a sociopath.

[pure potential]

Taken from a fictional INTP's twitter page.
lol!!

If they actually remember your "real" name 50% of the time.
If they assign you a special number because they don't want to forget you.
If they make an appointment with you to talk and then at the appointment tell you they apologize but have something very selfish to say: they have feelings for you and are only telling you out of selfish reasons.
They look at you with a knowing look and then attempt a facial contortion: smile.

lol

INTPs are a fascinating creature and I adore their company, their brilliant minds make up for there lack of social skills and availability.

I loove Scrabble.. and Boggle! :lovestruck:

[pocohauntus]

There was a game aspect to the whole thing as well - neither of us wanted to "surrender" to the other person, although she did say "I want you inside me" at one point when we were making out. At this point I was wearing a blue dress, which was surprisingly tight on me.
Let's see, first I would like to say that from reading the rest of your post (not quoted) it sounds like you're a guy. Also, I would assume that for a girl to say "I want you inside me", she's either talking about you as a physical being, in which case you are most likely a man, or perhaps she meant she wants something more like your essence inside her, like your "soul" or mind or something. At any rate, you've sorta made it sound like indeed you are a guy and she is a girl, but then... what the fuck is the "I was wearing a blue dress" about? Are you a cross dresser, dude? Gender confused? Unable to make your story work euphemistically in a way which would enable the reader to make sense of it both as fiction and reality? What?

[eternaltriangle]

what the fuck is the "I was wearing a blue dress" about? Are you a cross dresser, dude? Gender confused? Unable to make your story work euphemistically in a way which would enable the reader to make sense of it both as fiction and reality? What?

I don't like linear or detailed storytelling (I can never remember exact details anyhow). She wanted me to wear a dress - which I was fine with doing. I don't think somebody is a cross-dresser because they wore a dress on one occasion. I didn't get a rush from it or anything, though I did feel very comfortable and breezy (I didn't wear underwear). I think it stemmed from something I said about wanting to be objectified by her. And I am pretty sure she wanted me inside her physically, but I made no efforts and gave her no clues beyond signaling my interest with my eyes. I was interested to see if she would just do it.

[Maayan]

I'm so fond of him. He's socially awkward to the point that it's pretty laughable, but at the same time, I can't help but feel endeared by his bumbling antics. I mean, you can't make some of this stuff up. For example --

He asked out his first girlfriend by accident. He attempted to ask out the girl standing beside her, who shot back, "Sorry. I've already got a boyfriend." At the very same moment, the other girl perked up and asked brightly, "Are you talking to me?" ... so he ran with it.

[Zsych]

Hmmm... a friend of mine who is INTP is very socially adept. He also has any number of women after him.

The one time that he definitely really liked a woman... he let down all of his barriers and acted all childish and overprotective. Spending time gathering information about her, and thinking about what gifts he might give her etc, that wouldn't be too obvious or expensive seeming but mean something to her...
I think it was the acting childish that brought that relationship to an end eventually.. IMO. There was also the issue that the woman was having some personal problems, and he wanted some level of attention from her as opposed to just being there to listen to her problems. She eventually decided that he was being needy. I think from his side he was being quite courteous and just trying to arrange dates and stuff so that there would be more pleasant experiences for both of them so that the relationship would continue, despite the problems she was experiencing.

[Asylum]

Scrabble... that's weird. Don't even like the game.
There was one time I really liked someone. They were really quite though, so I couldn't figure out how to approach them. I looked at them quite a bit, but that was it.
I don't really care anymore. It's too much of a hassle.
There are a lot of people who've liked me, but I didn't like them back and it was kind of annoying.

What I look for in a partner is kind of unusual. Not someone to baby sit me or give me more crap to worry about than I already have.

[curiousjane]

- shares a great Excel spreadsheet with you
- burns a mix CD full of trance/techno/rave/heavy metal music for you
- argues with you about anything and everything for the sake of spurring on even more fantastic ideas and arguments
- cuddles with you. INTPs are very cuddly.
- denies the attraction at first, but then checks you out on the sly
- acts goofier around you

(note: I'm mostly joking around ... but then again ... my roommate's an INTP, and I could see her doing any or all of the above)

[Undead Bonzi]

- shares a great Excel spreadsheet with you
- burns a mix CD full of trance/techno/rave/heavy metal music for you
- argues with you about anything and everything for the sake of spurring on even more fantastic ideas and arguments
- cuddles with you. INTPs are very cuddly.
- denies the attraction at first, but then checks you out on the sly
- acts goofier around you

(note: I'm mostly joking around ... but then again ... my roommate's an INTP, and I could see her doing any or all of the above)

You may be mostly joking, but you are also mostly correct.

BTW: INTP's are more cuddly because our stuffing is 30% space age memory foam material.

[curiousjane]

You may be mostly joking, but you are also mostly correct.

BTW: INTP's are more cuddly because our stuffing is 30% space age memory foam material.
:laugh:

INTPs are some of my favorite people. I think INTP relationships, while slightly scatterbrained as a whole, are positively fun! It's like finding your camp crush who likes to help you short-sheet the counselors bed while simultaneously explaining the benefits of Egyptian cotton, and then giggles all the way to the dining hall with a wi-fi detector to find a hot spot so you can watch goofy YouTube videos after lights out, then steals a kiss on the way, when you least expect it. Positively evil, those INTPs ... and their devious plots that nobody anticipates.

Love it.

...Because it's outside the jurisdiction of the INTJ thread (or at least I'm guessing, due the the presence of Fe instead of Fi), and I have a bit of a crush on an INTP friend and I'm wondering if it's mutual.
Back to the original question, and a bit more serious, I have noticed that my INTP friend is less likely to show a crush on purpose that she likes him. I would hazard a guess that it is the same with INTP guys.

They run over scenarios in their heads like a running commentary. Things must make sense. Things must be the BEST option (of thousands). Things must not come back to bite them in the rear. They must not feel rushed. They must feel open and comfortable and relaxed ... if so, the full force of the goofy, dorky, adorable INTP side comes out and they will be devilishly fun. That's when you know you're "in".

Hope this helps.

[Jinglish]

Eek, been a while since I was here last... but thanks for the info.INTPs are some of my favorite people. I think INTP relationships, while slightly scatterbrained as a whole, are positively fun! It's like finding your camp crush who likes to help you short-sheet the counselors bed while simultaneously explaining the benefits of Egyptian cotton, and then giggles all the way to the dining hall with a wi-fi detector to find a hot spot so you can watch goofy YouTube videos after lights out, then steals a kiss on the way, when you least expect it. Positively evil, those INTPs ... and their devious plots that nobody anticipates.

Love it.Yeah, one of my other good friends is an INTP, and when we're actually talking and not lost inside our respective heads, we get along terrifically. The other INTP I know--the girl who's kind of the subject of this thread--is one of my best friends, and we also get along wonderfully.I have noticed that my INTP friend is less likely to show a crush on purpose that she likes him. I would hazard a guess that it is the same with INTP guys.I tend to do the same thing if I don't think the interest is mutual. I've consulted a couple of mutual friends; an INFJ is pretty sure she likes me, and an ENFJ is absolutely positive, so I think I'm good, but I'm completely unable to decide for myself. I occasionally notice her grinning when we talk (more than the smirk she usually seems to limit herself to), but I still haven't been able to determine anything conclusive based on her behavior. I think I'll just go for it and ask her out the next time I see her.

[neve]

The simplest way to figure out if an INTP likes you is to ask them ;) Oh and you should mention you like them first... it helps. But be prepared for a brutally honest answer!

[Zsych]

How brutal the answer is depends on social adeptness.

[Amphorian]

I swear, all the INTPs I was with wanted to cuddle. I can't cuddle for long, it bothers me. But if they're being sweet, paying attention, leaning forward and being engaging, going out of the way for you instead of just lounging in their heads yes, they're interested.

[NovemberRain]

She keeps dropping hints, here and there, EVERYWHERE.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

[Silverity]

Maybe this is an INTx thing but the INTP guy I knew kept tabs on me, silently and without me noticing.

Sometimes we'll be having a regular conversation and he'll suddenly stop, give me this penetrating look and ask...

"...Are you content right now?"
...o.o; "Yup."
"Good."
"Why?"
"I wanted to make sure we were on the same length."
"Ah. And are we?"
"Yes." and then he'll look all smug. Haha, he's adorable ._.

He's also very cuddly and will actually get mildly offended if when I'm lounging or sleeping and I turn my back to him. Of course, he didn't TELL me that for 2 years, and when it finally came out he said it as an offside comment completely tangent to our conversation. You REALLY have to pay attention to the hints they drop.

[Entbark]

An INTP that I know in real life asked me if I liked her while we were questing together in World of Warcraft.

For clarity, she asked me via the game's chat--even though I saw her multiple times a week outside of the game, she couldn't ask me in person but instead via game chat. I told her that I wasn't interested in that kind of relationship with her, but we are still good friends years later.

[Cuivienen]

This is slightly OT, but still seemed related enough to the OP topic, that I thought I`d continue this thread rather than start a new one. However, if the mods tell me it`s too OT I could open a new thread. I didn`t find an old thread covering this topic, either.

I`m currently romantically interested in a young (22, male) INTP. He has shown that he is interested in me, but I (21) have very little experience with this kind of thing. We have gotten past the communicating interest-part (been out twice casually recently, known each other through mutual friends for years. He had a crush on me some years ago, but at that point I wasn`t interested in a relationship with anyone). I know that I am prone to act too distanced and coolly in these stages, because I am usually hopelessly overthinking everything, making it ten times as complicated as it is and usually end up convincing myself that I am not attracted to the guy after all :rolleyes:.

However, I think this could be something special and don`t want to be the one to mess it up.
Could you give me some general tips as to how INTPs tend to act in the early stages of a possible relationship? How did you win your INTPs over? How direct or indirect should I be?

Thanks :)

[daydreamer]

intp's that i have known have shown interest by always being around for no particular reason.

[Silverity]

However, I think this could be something special and don`t want to be the one to mess it up.
Could you give me some general tips as to how INTPs tend to act in the early stages of a possible relationship? How did you win your INTPs over? How direct or indirect should I be?

Thanks :)

I would be direct, very direct. The aim of the game is to penetrate that fascinating mind of his that he will spend so much time in =P

From my humble experience, I called my INTP a "bunny boy" because he was so quiet. He essentially skittered around the perimeter of my existence, hovering near by as if to test the waters and then BAM, taking root at my side and being cuddly. He was pretty hesitant in conversation or flirting but once initiated he would become more animated and lose his timidness. He was really cautious at all times though until he knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that we were 'together'. It took a lot of coaxing. I don't know if that is the norm, the sort of hot and cold flashes with deer-in-the-headlights looks. Maybe I'm just scary.

How did I win him over? Hm. I'd have to ask him. I THINK it was because I was so direct, I basically said "this is me, this is what I'm like, and this is what I want to do to you. Thoughts?"

Not sure if that helps ^^; I imagine it's fairly subjective.

[Cuivienen]

Yeah, TBH the extremely cautious-thing has confused me a bit and made me doubt if maybe he wasn`t that into me after all (in a romantic way). However, a lot of his gestures towards me seem really caring and thoughtful - esp. considering how blunt and practical he usually is towards everybody else. So that is normal for INTPs then?

You say be extremely direct about my intentions - now that seems scary to me. I`ll try to do that, though, when he gets back from his vacation in a week.

Thanks for your replies :)

[Silverity]

This just in from my favourite INTP:

"If we pay attention to the point that we re-organize our schedules to see or talk to the person in question."

[micha]

They/we will try to see/talk to you often.
Also be goofy around you.
Stare at you when chatting and smirk.

about: "hot and cold flashes " that happens too. In my case it´s because i don´t want to look needy, and it´s scary not to be in control of my emotions, so when i feel that i´m getting too involved and i´m not sure if the other person feels the same way about me, i retreat for a while.

[arce]

I have a playful relationship with an INTP at work.

It's fun and all but he drives me crazy with all the over-analyzing I wind up doing.

[lincoln]

They tell you...they're honest when they want to be. You could ask...but if you want to play this game hmm
I'd say- they pay attention to you, ask you questions (even if they seem rude), but I'll tell ya.........
Dan (an INTP) had a big crush on me (I had no idea)...he'd play it so cool, I really, really didn't even know that he noticed me.
Signs
1. They give you the time of day
2. ?

[JimTaylor]

They/we will try to see/talk to you often.
Also be goofy around you.
Stare at you when chatting and smirk.

about: "hot and cold flashes " that happens too. In my case it´s because i don´t want to look needy, and it´s scary not to be in control of my emotions, so when i feel that i´m getting too involved and i´m not sure if the other person feels the same way about me, i retreat for a while.

Agreed. Most of the time I am worried that if I push too hard than the girl won't feel the same way and back away, so sometimes it feels better just not to risk it and stay back and watch. But this also leads the problem of ending up in the "friend zone" quite often, which sucks when you are generally interested in a girl but just don't know what to say or how to say it.

[Fanowene]

Something I got off of an INTPs Facebook wall (no idea who this is directed to; maybe the "who" actually is a "what"):
"some day I will find the secret to your social chemistry, and then I'll print it on a t-shirt, and it'll make you want to be with me.."

[overainbows]

- shares a great Excel spreadsheet with you
- burns a mix CD full of trance/techno/rave/heavy metal music for you
- argues with you about anything and everything for the sake of spurring on even more fantastic ideas and arguments
- cuddles with you. INTPs are very cuddly.
- denies the attraction at first, but then checks you out on the sly
- acts goofier around you

(note: I'm mostly joking around ... but then again ... my roommate's an INTP, and I could see her doing any or all of the above)

LOL You got it right! The only time I had a crush on someone I was just like that, except for the cuddling part because I'd NEVER be cuddly unless we were actually having something.

Sometimes I could also be very cold and sometimes even offensive to my crush. Having my emotions so out of control and clear for everyone to see it (or I thought so) sometimes would get me angry and despaired and I ended up being stupid. It got to the point of me calling her a bitch out of nothing in a social network site and she never talked to me again. I wonder why....

[notjeffgoldblum]

Females I am attracted to turn me into an ENTP when I am around them.

Either that, or a bumbling idiot douche fuck if I'm really attracted...

[lioness]

All soooo sooo true. Is it just me or do INTP's change their mind once they realize they can get what they want? :S I'm not sure but curious.

[notjeffgoldblum]

All soooo sooo true. Is it just me or do INTP's change their mind once they realize they can get what they want? :S I'm not sure but curious.

It's not just you.

[Moriarty]

intp's that i have known have shown interest by always being around for no particular reason.

;D

To the OP: I'd like to second what someone else mentioned about making time to spend with you. That's a pretty big clue.

Also, keep an eye on the type of conversations you have. Does the intp tell you jokes, try to make you laugh, display a certain charm you don't usually see out of them?

There ya go.

[overainbows]

Also, keep an eye on the type of conversations you have. Does the intp tell you jokes, try to make you laugh, display a certain charm you don't usually see out of them?

There ya go.

It's true to some extend. I usually like to make people I hang with laugh. It doesn't necessarily means I want something else. INTPs can be very spirituous with their friends. About the charm, I think goofiness is very charming. :laugh:

[lioness]

INTJs act one way, and then act another way.

Its all very confusing.

But its true about the time of day thing. If they find value in you, they will talk to you and be around.

But what value........





lioness added to this post, 8 minutes and 56 seconds later...

INTJs act one way, and then act another way.

Its all very confusing.

But its true about the time of day thing. If they find value in you, they will talk to you and be around.

But what value........

Ooops *INTP*

Mind gets focused on INTJs since this is the forum. Sorry! DID mean INTP.

[Fanowene]

Also, keep an eye on the type of conversations you have. Does the intp tell you jokes, try to make you laugh, display a certain charm you don't usually see out of them?

There ya go.
Problem: What if you haven't been paying much attention to them and suddenly you do, and then you notice that they're being goofy all the time? There's no way to know what the "usually" looks like...

[Silverity]

Problem: What if you haven't been paying much attention to them and suddenly you do, and then you notice that they're being goofy all the time? There's no way to know what the "usually" looks like...

You haven't been paying attention?! Uh oh, you probably missed 10496849385890403 dropped hints =P

Could you ask a mutual friend if the INTP is usually goofy or if this is a new development?

[Fanowene]

You haven't been paying attention?! Uh oh, you probably missed 10496849385890403 dropped hints =P
Most likely yes...

Could you ask a mutual friend if the INTP is usually goofy or if this is a new development?
Not really. And I'm also not sure if the goofiness stems merely from class dynamics. The class I'm in with him right is made up 50%+ of him and his friends (all male and some form of Ixxx), one male INTJ (ex-boyfriend of my best friend and lacks social skills in a major way), one male ExxJ (who seems to be rather quiet as of recent, ever since I told him not to contact me every day about homework and such), and me.... the only female.

I could ask my INTP housemate to keep an eye on him in a class she's in with him... Though that class has more students in it, the classroom is set up differently (every student is sitting in front of a screen) and there wouldn't be the same class dynamics... I haven't even told my housemates that I'm starting to like the INTP. I haven't told anybody other than members of the INTJf...

Edit: It actually was my INTP housemate who gave me the hint that the INTP actually is an INTP. At first I thought he was an INTJ. But then my INTP housemate said that his interactions with one of the other computer science guys are similar to the ones she has with me. (e.g. me insisting on perfecting something, her insisting that we should move an and work on something else...)

[MatthewZ]

Are you a large island in the INTP's normal sea of semi-to-complete absent mindedness?

If the answer is yes, they may just happen to like you.