What Mbti type are you drawn to?

[MetalWounds]

I was ruminating a couple days ago at work and I seemed to come to an interesting realization. I almost always seem irresitibly drawn to extroverted, feeling types. I recently met a woman through a friend, and she's on the same intellectual level as myself (which I find very rare at times), and she tests as an ENFJ. I don't know why I find almost that exact type almost irrisitable. The most sensible conclusion that I can come to reach is that her extroverted, feeling type seems to almost be the complete counter of my type, and it's almost intoxicating for me to see the world from a "feeler's" point of view. The only reasonable cause I can think of for this would be that, being INTJs we live in a soberingly realistic, pragmatic, and ultimately boring world. And seeing the world through a "feeler's eyes" is almost a refresingly...naive?...outlook, and helps me release a lot of tension that I seem to mysteriously accuire. Or perhaps I'm just crazy?

[Hdier]

Well, I'll take this letter by letter (skip to the last paragraph if you don't want to see my process of figuring this out):

E/I: I would want someone a little bit outgoing, but I would be more comfortable around a private person like myself, so I'd have to say I

N/S: I cannot stand S's for the most part, to short-sited, so N would be the second letter.

T/F: I have an image of what I want in a man, but that doesn't include T or F, as long as he isn't on one or the other extreme.

J/P: Again, this isn't very important to me. Weather he would tend to take in information or be decisive, it would not make very much difference to me.

So, I guess I'd want an INxx, without him being an extremist in any of the four letters. He would have to really love me, but I don't have very many requirements for my mate beyond that.

[PortInStorm]

I cannot resist ENTPs. I've only known two, and they're so intelligent, sharp and playful I just find myself being pulled in. Their P drives me crazy so I don't think I could ever have one as a partner, but I almost have to forcibly remove myself from the situation. Find it very hard to say no (don't make that dirty :-) as they have this incredible knack of making any of their requests seem like somthing you really wanted anyways. You just didn't know it. *Sigh*.

[Firelie]

I usually end up befriending XNFJ's whether I like it or not.

[Tsuru]

I seem to most naturally get along most easily with ENTPs, INFJs, and (surprisingly) male ISFPs

[Hdier]

Firelie, do you have any idea why you get along with XNFJ's? (and why wouldn't you want to get along with one of us? :( [add puppy dog eyes])

[Firelie]

Firelie, do you have any idea why you get along with XNFJ's? (and why wouldn't you want to get along with one of us? :( [add puppy dog eyes])

No, not really. I just noticed a trend when I asked all of my friends to take the MBTI test. I suppose I'm just used to that type of thinking (I believe my mom's an ENFX).

And it's not that I wouldn't want to get along with NFJ's, I just end up with them as friends without trying and it amuses me.

[Hypomanic]

I cannot resist ENTPs. I've only known two, and they're so intelligent, sharp and playful I just find myself being pulled in. Their P drives me crazy so I don't think I could ever have one as a partner, but I almost have to forcibly remove myself from the situation. Find it very hard to say no (don't make that dirty :-) as they have this incredible knack of making any of their requests seem like somthing you really wanted anyways. You just didn't know it. *Sigh*.

I like INTJ's, ENTJ's, INTP's , ENTP's, and ISTJ's.

For a long-term relationship, though, I'm only drawn to INTJ's and ENTJ's.
Oh and don't worry 2ndtimestudent.. healthy ENTP's have much less of the negative aspects of P. :) P also allows you to easily know a lot about other people.. to see many possibilities (the positive aspects).

[Cyrus]

Firelie: And it's not that I wouldn't want to get along with NFJ's, I just end up with them as friends without trying and it amuses me.

This has been one of those little voices in my head hey!
The close friends I have are either ENTJ, or INFJ. There's 1 ENFP.
Surprisingly, I know INTJs but we're not close. It seems we're like cats? :blank:

I would say that in general, I get along well with NTs and NFs almost naturally. There're surprisingly no S types in our circle at all.

ENFP of the opposite sex can be dangerous due to their natural understanding of social dynamics --> manipulative.

and yes, ENTP can be particularly attractive =) playful + intelligent. good f-buddy material. =P
but personally, I find INFJ to be the best long term match due to the way they are willing to accomodate and understand.

Comments please (tell me if i'm being bias!):
I find S types, especially ES types pretty annoying
They trigger this, "omg u pin head!" *melt down imminent emergency shut down* response

[Zilal]

I've met a few ENFPs that were like kryptonite to me. I've gotten to the point though where I don't feel a desperate need to claim one for life. I'd rather settle down with someone more like me.

[DeepPurple]

I have no idea the name of the type that I'm drawn to. I usually find myself interested in the type of people who everybody seems to get along with. The ones that you want to be rude to for being too jolly, but you just can't seem to go through with it because they seem so sincere. The people who you pretend to be annoyed by, but who secretly lifts your spirits just a little bit. The people who are not afraid to take risks and have a real thirst for life. The type of people that are so loyal and so passionate, that it's almost impossible not to be slightly moved. People that are just so vibrant and you can't help but wonder how they do it.

What type(s) does that sound like?

[qwerty]

Hmmm

Ok I'll go with everyone who's said outgoing for E/I - It's not that I don't like shy girls, it's more that I think I'd close myself off from the world more with another introvert

N vs. S - Either I'd go for an extremely iNuitive woman or someone who paid attention to the world. I guess I'm growing tired of being around weakly intuitive people who see only their world (not here people, in real life), they have to look outside the box and see the humor in the environment that I see some times (I still laugh inside my head when I see somebody make a slight stumble and pretend to cover it up).

T vs. F - This is a tricky one. Definitely I like people who can think for themselves and not just follow trends, but in saying that I guess talking about shop all the time could drive me insane so maybe a weak mixture of the two.

J vs. P - If you aren't on time then don't waste mine. That should sum it up perfectly. But then again I'm not looking for someone who is completely closed minded, open-endedness is awesome (also no spelling or grammar Nazi's) .

I have no idea the name of the type that I'm drawn to. I usually find myself interested in the type of people who everybody seems to get along with. The ones that you want to be rude to for being too jolly, but you just can't seem to go through with it because they seem so sincere. The people who you pretend to be annoyed by, but who secretly lifts your spirits just a little bit. The people who are not afraid to take risks and have a real thirst for life. The type of people that are so loyal and so passionate, that it's almost impossible not to be slightly moved. People that are just so vibrant and you can't help but wonder how they do it.

What type(s) does that sound like?

That sounds like a deeply religious person.

[pelkin000]

I'm currently in a relationship with an ENFP, and I must say that while I was initially drawn to her zest for life, her unorganized thoughts and indecisiveness as well as our general problems in communication make for a difficult long-term relationship. Just a thought...

[BlackHawk]

INFJs have some aura that draws me to them.
I do fine with any Ns.

[DeepPurple]

That sounds like a deeply religious person.

:scared:

I read a couple of descriptions on personality page and I think I'd be drawn to ESFPs, ENTPs or ENFPs.

[Mechanical Messiah]

I've liked pretty much every N that I've met.

SP's can be amusing... though the only SP's that I can respect are the exceptionally smart ones (they're rare, but they exist).

SJ's drive me nuts. I think the vast majority of them are unthinking idiots. Even highly intelligent SJ's strike me as missing something. I can get along with them alright... but it's REALLY hard to respect somebody who believes that "'cause that's the way we've always done it" is a valid reason for ANYTHING. The world is overrun with these people, though... and I've learned to adapt.

But the specific 'type' that I'm drawn to is the INFJ. I've been happily married to an INFJ (weak I, strong N, moderate F, uber-J) for 7-ish years. I didn't realize it until I'd met her, and we'd talked about it... but I've always been drawn to INFJ's. I can't give a good rational justification for it- and don't reckon I need to.

[logos]

With the exception of one gentleman ISTP and one lady ENTJ (who are a couple) all of my close personal friends test INFP. They seem to gravitate toward me.

[ShaiGar]

Both INTJs and INFJs

[PortInStorm]

"can't ...resist... the pull..." *digs heals in*:p

But seriously, Hypomanic, that's exactly what I saw in the ENTP I knew well. They would give this look that went right through you- I would have to look away so they didn't immediately read me. Just one look, and we'd share a laugh etc at something we were both thinking. And they were very positive. And a little less like an out-of-control puppy than an SP. I honestly miss all of that...

As to SJs, I married one and mine isn't controlling or pigheaded. He's great at doing all the stuff I hate- the maintenance, answering the phone, social planning, birthdays and holiday entertaining, etc. Use their strengths and lend them yours :thumbsup:

[Paul V]

ESXX people are attracted to me, but I find them simple and boring, so I avoid them like the plague. ENXX people think they're better than me, so I avoid them like the plague. ISXX people don't care about me and I don't care about them either. I'd love to meet an INXX, but I don't know any in real life (other than my grandmother, who is an INFP and the person with whom I get along the most in my life).

I could only be romantically interested in an INXX, and within that, I'd prefer an INFJ (or an INTJ, I'm not sure. I suppose I'd get annoyed from time to time at P's open-endedness).

[luther]

I have no idea the name of the type that I'm drawn to. I usually find myself interested in the type of people who everybody seems to get along with. The ones that you want to be rude to for being too jolly, but you just can't seem to go through with it because they seem so sincere. The people who you pretend to be annoyed by, but who secretly lifts your spirits just a little bit. The people who are not afraid to take risks and have a real thirst for life. The type of people that are so loyal and so passionate, that it's almost impossible not to be slightly moved. People that are just so vibrant and you can't help but wonder how they do it.

What type(s) does that sound like?

Sounds like an ENFJ. I think the "deeply religious person" comment qwerty made is also insightful.





luther added to this post, 1 minutes and 16 seconds later...

In order of preference:

INTP, INFJ, INFP, and INTJ.

INTPs are amazing. They listen and actually understand what I'm saying. I guess that's not surprising, since I'm not strong on the feeling preference.

[Femme de Homme INTJ]

Hmmm

Ok I'll go with everyone who's said outgoing for E/I - It's not that I don't like shy girls, it's more that I think I'd close myself off from the world more with another introvert

N vs. S - Either I'd go for an extremely iNuitive woman or someone who paid attention to the world. I guess I'm growing tired of being around weakly intuitive people who see only their world (not here people, in real life), they have to look outside the box and see the humor in the environment that I see some times (I still laugh inside my head when I see somebody make a slight stumble and pretend to cover it up).

T vs. F - This is a tricky one. Definitely I like people who can think for themselves and not just follow trends, but in saying that I guess talking about shop all the time could drive me insane so maybe a weak mixture of the two.

J vs. P - If you aren't on time then don't waste mine. That should sum it up perfectly. But then again I'm not looking for someone who is completely closed minded, open-endedness is awesome (also no spelling or grammar Nazi's) .



That sounds like a deeply religious person.

I hate to correct you - oh wait, no, I actually don't mind, but It's not the "F" that makes people trendy and not think for themselves. "F" means you make decisions on how you FEEL, not by what's popular. Nor does the "T" make you especially novel in your own thoughts. xSTJ's are a classic example of people who just follow the norm. ... Not F's!!!!

[1OFMANY]

My wife is ENFP

[Blendy]

I like ENFPs, INFPs, and ENTPs best.

[Uytuun]

I think mostly NFs and NTs. I think I even prefer NFs a little...if they aren't outrageaously F.

[rocksteady]

I assume you mean for some kind of long lasting relationship, because I find myself at least mildly attracted to all types (variety is the spice of life), but don't expect anything on a long term level from any of them. i got a lot of love to give!

BUT! if i girl is trying to make me fall in love, all I need is a strong N. Everything else is negotiable.

[niffer]

INXX.

Most people are Js, so I find Ps like me more refreshing. Ultimately, both are fine.

[jjelovich]

INFP sounds the most ideal from what I know of myself and what I look for in a serious relationship.

I - Because I really appreciate people who take the time to reflect and think about who they really are. I am very very attracted to girls who know who they are. However I don't think I could handle the too shy "I" types.

N - Communication with other Ns is much easier, much more satisfying and

F - I am drawn to girls who have a strong F and I know I need one to help balance me out. Genuine tenderness, empathy and kindness are huge turn-ons, if you will, for me because it is so foreign to me. Though I am a very strong T I greatly value F people. Sometimes I wish I could watch a sad movie and be moved to actual tears, or sometimes I wish my heart would bleed for the suffering and the less fourtunite, wether they deserved it or not. I think this is one area that I really could, and would want to, learn a lot about with the help of someone very close and very important to me.

P - I think I would prefer someone who is a moderate P, somone who is flexible but who is also able to buckle down and finish what needs to be finished when it needs to be finished. I also feel like I would have a great deal to give in this area, ( as a J), I could be a sort of grounding or stay point, and I like that

[Developer]

Most of my friends are NT or NF. I do not care about E or I, but I have noticed that very strong P types start grating at my nerves when I spend very much time with them or interact on a project - I just get restless. On the other hand, I have found that a moderate P can be quite inspiring. Especially some ENTPs can be very charming and I like their different point of view on many topics.

[Antares]

I/E - I like someone who has a high level of insight but is outgoing and lively also. So I think I and E are both fine.

S/N - I like N better. S is just... a bit boring for me.

T/F - T's, preferrably, but I wouldn't rule out F's.

J/P - P, I think. In my opinion, J and P are opposites and it's better when it comes to decision making. Compromise, ya know :) But I don't mind J's.

I am attracted to: INTJ, INFJ, INTP, ENTJ, ENTP, ENFP. No... I don't care much for S's. If we're compatible, I won't object but for now, I'm leaning towards NT's and NF's.

[Capt57]

My wife is ENFP

My wife is ENFP as well. The E is weak...thank Christ. I've dated quite a few strong E types who just sucked the energy right out of me...lets go dancing!!:stunned: But I still do not understand her attraction to VH1 shows and People magazine?

[mind_wander]

I/E - I like someone who has a high level of insight but is outgoing and lively also. So I think I and E are both fine.

S/N - I like N better. S is just... a bit boring for me.

T/F - T's, preferrably, but I wouldn't rule out F's.

J/P - P, I think. In my opinion, J and P are opposites and it's better when it comes to decision making. Compromise, ya know :) But I don't mind J's.

I am attracted to: INTJ, INFJ, INTP, ENTJ, ENTP, ENFP. No... I don't care much for S's. If we're compatible, I won't object but for now, I'm leaning towards NT's and NF's.

S/N - I like N better because it related too me, plus it makes alot of sense. S is just... a bit boring for me, however a rare chance one of them stands out, which does makes perfect sense.

T/F - T's, preferrably because less clashing, but I wouldn't rule out F's because they unlocked the deep emotional side that I don't like to get into.

J/P - J or P, is fine with me. In my opinion, J and P are opposites and it's better because they are great decision makers. Tons of Compromising :), but don't like high Ps because they are entering into a world, "Where I have not clue what your talking about land?"

I am attracted to: ISTJ [willing to be more opened-minded], INTJ, INFJ [Have not met in real life yet], INTP [somewhat, but very intellectual], ENTJ, ENTP, ENFP [Have not met in real life yet]. Majority wise, I don't care much for S's only compromising, willing to go to mental retreat, Zzzzzzzz. If we're compatible, then alot of mental work and tons of comparing and contrasting of who is right or wrong?, also I'm leaning towards NT's and NF's because this is something rarely get to explore; I like to joined into the conversation, too.

[Hdier]

I hate to correct you - oh wait, no, I actually don't mind, but It's not the "F" that makes people trendy and not think for themselves. "F" means you make decisions on how you FEEL, not by what's popular. Nor does the "T" make you especially novel in your own thoughts. xSTJ's are a classic example of people who just follow the norm. ... Not F's!!!!

Definitely. Just look at me: I don't like many popular video games or music. I would list more, but I mostly don't even know whats popular in most things.

[Jgib5328]

ENFJs for a woman. I just think that is the best type for a woman. They are extroverted and outgoing, deep and intuitive, their feeling makes them more charming, and their judging makes them more organized and efficient. I just think they are good compliments to the INTJ male.

For friends though, I like ENTJs, ENFPs, ENTPs, ENFJ, INTJ (although I've never met another one), and INFJs. I've never really liked S types. They are fun to hang around and do things with like playing sports, going to the movies, traveling etc but they are terrible to have deep conversations with (in my experience, may not be true for everyone). I've never really liked INTPs for some reason, they kinda annoy me. I also usually dislike introverted feeling types because they come off as too passive, but I do like the INFJ because they are closely related to us.

[Learning]

ISTP- great for confiding in
INTP- great for talking & ideas
ENTP- fun
INFJ- confidant/advisor

If there's "F", there's got to be N & J for me. "E" is cool, but has to be NT. I only know one ISTP, and I just appreciate their integrity.

[Aoiluna]

I prefer INT's but a moderate F or E could be ok. Im not exactly sure what type would suit me. J/P depends on E/I and T/F. I usually go for the guy who doesn't stand out to all the other girls. He's usually the guy in the room that keeps to himself, but is able to carry a conversation with almost everyone in the room if needed to. I like an enigmatic puzzle, but I tend to get impatient if it takes too long to form some type of relationship.

In other words, the guys I usually go for are impossible for me to obtain.

[jnpl0011]

Any NF. Except ENFJ. I've learned my lesson more than once. I would consider an ENFJ, but I would be EXTREMELY careful.

But especially INFP.

[MintNut]

My ideal mate would be an ISFJ. The two most important letters for me are the I/F; I've started to realize that communication is better with an I person and that the F person would be a welcome addition to my world - they'd care about me in a way that T types don't seem able to. Unfortunately, I've always attracted ENTP/ENFP men ... they are great for a while, but the E starts to wear on my nerves. They are great at bringing out the friendly and outgoing side of my personalty, but they just don't understand my need for solitude and reflection. And, something in the letters (maybe the P?) makes them rather flaky and unreliable.

[jnpl0011]

MintNut--It depends on the person... I was once with an NF who thought I was too sensitive and overprotective. Not emotional or overly sentimental, but certainly very capable of expressing emotion and sentiment. And I'm around 75% T.

[sriv]

I just have to bring this thread back. It's a great topic ;).

ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ, ENTP, ENTJ, ISTP, ISTJ...
- in that order

I would really prefer the E to counter the I, but the tranquility that comes with two people who are I is remarkable. NF is my definite preference. I tend to live in the boring, realistic, and pragmatic world and I need an NF to pull me out of it.
A real gem would be INFJ, but they match me too much in a lot of ways.
ENTP because they are silly and playful.
ENTJ because they are aggressive and would counter my I.
ISTP because I like their extremely logical and improvising attitude.
ISTJ because I admire their hard-working attitude.

[zoophilia]

for sex or love?

sex:

introverts, sensing types (they draw you into the moment better), feeling types when i want dynamic interaction thinking types when i want to fuck, p:j::f:t

affection:

introverts (not as annoying/controlling), intuitives (easier to talk to), feelers (t types fuck themselves over in relationships all too often. this is my natural tendency as well. so if the relationship continues it is usually with a feeler.), percievers (p:j::i:e)

[volk]

With the exception of one gentleman ISTP and one lady ENTJ (who are a couple) all of my close personal friends test INFP. They seem to gravitate toward me.

Thats because they benifit from you ;)





volk added to this post, 8 minutes and 51 seconds later...

For me it would be an ENTP or ENTJ. ENFP could also make up for a good partner, but they are tricky - I don't find them very robust. I like extroverts because they provide me a bridge into the society. I think everyone is better off with some quality social contact than without.

[enfpchick]

Im attracted to INTJs....... Duh:lovestruck:

[mkay]

I prefer people who are more logical than emotional. I'm OK with emotional people who can maintain; I find the ones who go up and down to be draining.

[iuniperus]

E/I- I definitely prefer introverts, but I can put up with a weak extrovert. Strong extraverts send me screaming and running in the opposite direction.

S/N- Intuitive all the way.

T/F- it could range anywhere from low feeling to moderate thinking. If they’re too strong in feeling they tend to get clingy, too strong in thinking they become cold.

J/P- judging. My life is already unorganized, add another P to the mix then it’s utter chaos.

So it looks like INTJ and INFJ.

[mkay]

Strong extraverts send me screaming and running in the opposite direction.

That's funny. I'm a weak extrovert and I feel the same way about strong extroverts. ... My INTJ husband is the messy / disorganized one. I'm the one who has everything organized and neat. Good to find a complementary person. :)

[EsoteriEccentri]

INFP, or some other INxx type. Preferably INFP, because I feel we'd "understand" each other (as I am INFP)... though I can imagine there would be some friction points with another INFP ^^

I could probably be drawn to an S or an E, but I can't imagine that it would last long or work out.
Or am I being close minded saying that?

[mkay]

I could probably be drawn to an S or an E, but I can't imagine that it would last long or work out.
Or am I being close minded saying that?

Well, you know yourself best, so maybe there's really no way an S or an E could work out with you. Or maybe you're creating a self-fulfilling prophecy with your thinking. I don't know. I'm just saying.

The way I look at it, I wouldn't rule out anyone based on type, because people are very different even within types. My tendency is to stay open to pleasant surprises.

[SongofSeptember]

INFJs.

I: I prefer introverts, but not extreme or strong ones.

N: I'm an S that would like to be an N, so I guess I prefer intuitive.

F: I don't mind anything as long as it's not an extreme T.

J: J. I think I'm surrounded by P's in my life, and it's getting on my nerves. (I myself am wobbling in between, but I favor the J side.)