Have you ever cried after getting a grade you didn't approve of?

[Hypomanic]

This is the only time I become irrationally emotional.

I teared up when I learned that my teacher gave me an A- versus an A in a one credit hour, mundane + easy class. This has happened to me before, as well. It's not that I look for sympathy or a grade change, it's that I get an uncontrollable urge to cry that I really wish wouldn't happen at all.

*sigh* Perfectionism can suck..

[Tsuru]

No. :o

[Fissiongrid]

I get the same thing over incompetence or illogical decisions with grades, only it turns into anger more often than not.

[TruorTupnm]

Anyways, I never cried, but I did get quite upset at my first B. I think that it was in Etiquette. :rolleyes: I went to some private school in my first few years.

[Astra]

I would definitely have done this at school (I remember having a strop at my English teacher because someone else in the class had got a higher grade than me for the same essay :blush:).

However, I'd like to think I've grown out of this kind of thing by now, being in my 30s. Can I ask how old you are?

[logan235711]

Hmm...No. But I have cried for not being able to enroll in a class that I had been looking forward to for a long time :'(

My grades never really bothered me as long as I felt I understood the material.

[Hypomanic]

I would definitely have done this at school (I remember having a strop at my English teacher because someone else in the class had got a higher grade than me for the same essay :blush:).

However, I'd like to think I've grown out of this kind of thing by now, being in my 30s. Can I ask how old you are?

I'm 18. Yeah, and I was being conservative with my first post. I cried in.. 7th grade (I think?) when my Chemistry teacher gave me an unfair grade, too (but I withheld it from her seeing anything).

[Astra]

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I still find myself getting ambushed by my feelings from time to time, but I'm much more in touch with my emotions than I was as a teenager and better at analysing my responses to events/people (i.e. working out what my response is really about and accepting that maybe I'm feeling insecure and defensive rather than just plain angry, for instance). Getting to this point did take quite a lot of work during my 20s though...

[rwyatt365]

Not ever! If anything I've been pissed because I got a grade that I felt that I didn't deserve, and I went straight to the teacher/professor to find out why I got the "unfair" grade. I can't say that I always got the grade changed, but I left the teacher with no uncertainty of how I felt ;)

[Jennywocky]

Yes... but of course I was in school (years and years ago).

I took failure like a personal repudiation and failure of myself as a worthwhile human being -- that I was a disappointment to myself and others.

I got over it eventually. My expectations were entirely too unrealistic and I was far too hard on myself.

[banzai]

Can't say that I have... the few times I've cried have [I think] simply been a mechanism to blend in when the people around me are displaying an uprising of emotion.

[einnelsate]

Yes, and then I'd plan a revenge. Nah, it only motivates me to work harder. Either that, or I'd go find out just what went wrong. Yeah.

[DeepPurple]

If I got a grade that I felt I didn't deserve, I got angry and took it up with the teacher. Most of the time I deserved whatever grade I got. I remember I got a D in gym and my parents were upset and everyone couldn't understand how I could get a low grade in gym. I figured that I would do enough work in gym to get me a C, since I was probably going to get As or Bs in all my other classes. It brought down my average a little more than I planned. The second time around I got a B.

[cielo market]

I've certainly gotten upset before, but never expressed it. I internalize the anger and use it to motivate myself to do better (because apparently my last efforts weren't enough).

[Rohsiph]

No . . . rather, it was a fairly poignant, albeit brief, pleasure--finding myself awarded an A in a class I would've never given myself more than a C in ;)

[Booko]

No, but I sure did want to punch the lights out of a couple of bosses I had who gave completely stupid evaluations based more on their emotional problems than on any actual facts.

Instead I just kept good notes and they felt the consequences later when their bad karma caught up with them.

I don't care if someone knocks me when I do something wrong or could do something better, but keep personal emotional problems out of it please.

[Caramel]

Yes, back in elementary school. I never got any lower than 90/100 ever, except this once. I don't know why, but I just had 65/100. Ofcourse more than half of the class had failing grade, so they were allowed to retake the exam. I got so upset and angry over that, cause I wasn't allowed to retake the exam, since my grade was passing grade. I thought it was extremely unfair and shouted something along the lines of 'Next time I have a bad day, I'll just don't fill in anything, get a zero and retake the exam on a good day!!! Its not my fault I'm not a f-word idiot like they are!!!!' and stormed out of the class. I think I felt miserable for a week :D

Today I just get angry for a while, think it over and then use the energy the anger gives me to work even harder and better. The anger just makes me more determined now.

[Hdier]

No, I haven't cried over a bad grade, weather or not I deserved it, but when I feel that I don't deserve it and the teacher won't listen to me I become very wrathful and vengeful. Which lasts about a week, at which point I tend to drop the grudge and forget about it.

[Ytterbium]

I have never liked grades so I haven't really cared about them either, certainly not cried over them.
I remember that there was a girl at school whom I was "interested" in. She cried over a grade. Not that they where bad but they were not up to her standards it seemed. I found it a bit wierd and it was a slight turn-off.

[bubbles]

No, I've never cried over grades, but I've been very upset with them. I was extremely stressed out and couldn't sleep after my last final exam a few days ago because I thought I did horrible. Then I got over it and a few days later, when I found out about my grade for that class, I was pleasantly surprised, though I didn't care much about it anymore.

[Cyrus]

I recently was expecting an A to A- for a subject. I got a freakin' C+ --> omg wtf????
Followed the textbook examples to the letter, did exactly what they said to do. *shrug*

To me I realised that college is a place chock a block full of people who desire to protect the status quo. I came to the recent realisation that 85% of the world are S types who are alot more inclined to needing an authority figure to look up to, or if they have reached a certain level of accomplishment, want to feel like the authority figure.

The abstraction tendencies of N types are often not appreciated much in many fields of academia. Tests often limit the world to A B C D or "none/all of the above".
S types on the other hand need to have a psychological anchor and thrive in an environment when they do have one --> text books

The anti-authority, desire for independence and ability to formulate theoretical constructs that are in line with the reality of the world often conflicts with academic constructs which tend to make way too simplifying assumptions.

In a nutshell, grades are unlikely to be a good reflection of anything but how well you take tests. To me doing well in school is understanding what they want, and giving it to them.

[Entropy]

Once in fifth grade, my eyes welled up a bit while my teacher was going over how poorly I was performing in my classes (due to my failure to complete assignments and participate).
Since then? Nope.

[xhaan]

Grades never bothered me, I feel they are more of an indicator of your conformity and 'performance', rather than your competence.

I used to get awful grades, mainly for not doing homework, "bad behavior", or simply not showing up for class. But I would pass tests with ease, which kind of pissed me off (as well as the students around me). In grade school I was double promoted twice, from 4th to 6th, and from 6th to 8th early (but was in 8th slightly longer than a normal grade year, because I was put there early.) In highschool I made it to Junior year without even trying, I wasn't even there half the time. Eventually they got sick of me and asked me to leave, (they didn't kick me out, they actually suggested that I drop out), so I got my silly GED, and haven't been to school since.

[BadMojo]

I've never cried because of a grade, but I've been furious. I've also been completely stunned.

I once made a large assignment that I thought was bad. It was in my opinion plagiarized. And I thought that I would receive an average grade for it. No, I got top marks for it, to my utter amazement.

Then I had another assignment (in psychology). I've really worked hard at it. Used a lot of theory and connected then to the real world. I was very proud of it and still is.
I had chosen Niklas Luhmann to work from and then connected other theories to that.
But I failed the exam because according to my teacher, Niklas Luhmann was a maniac. She neither liked nor understood "Niklas Luhmann". thus I failed.
I was furious to say the least.

[xhaan]

But I failed the exam because according to my teacher, Niklas Luhmann was a maniac. She neither liked nor understood "Niklas Luhmann". thus I failed.


Programming at it's finest.
I think teachers should all have a catchphrase before starting a class:
"Welcome to the robot factory. I will be your programmer for today."

[clam]

Grades are usually insignificant. Unless a low grade will impede my chances of achieving something I want (ie self-respect, getting into college, finding a job, obtaining a certain certification), I think an A or B is all the same too me. I think most INTJs are inherently this way. The school grade is simply a stepping stone to some ulterior goal.

[BadMojo]

Programming at it's finest.
I think teachers should all have a catchphrase before starting a class:
"Welcome to the robot factory. I will be your programmer for today."
True.. so true. Just rewrite the schoolbook. Memorize it.. and hey presto! A+

Grades are usually insignificant. Unless a low grade will impede my chances of achieving something I want (ie self-respect, getting into college, finding a job, obtaining a certain certification), I think an A or B is all the same too me. I think most INTJs are inherently this way. The school grade is simply a stepping stone to some ulterior goal.
True, but I hate it when some moron can't explain why my paper is bad. The line "But he's a maniac" just doesn't cut if for me.

I did have a teacher who could do that. And if I messed up in some way and got a bad grade. No problem. but when they can't explain why.. that pisses me of.

[Maitri1970]

I've gotten very emotional over grades I haven't agreed with. If there is one area in my life that I become completely unglued when things go wrong, it's school. I'm very serious about school.

[Oica]

i did that once... in 5th grade.. wasnt the best year of my life :blank:

[Antares]

I became furious in middle school when the teacher gave me an 85 on my assignment. We were supposed to summarize the play A Midsummer Night's Dream by the acts. I labelled one act wrong and didn't print double sided (he didn't even correct anything from my summary), and guess what? 15% off. Getting an A is of absolute importance. B is just not the same. On my last report card, I had four A's and A-'s and three B's and B+'s. I blew up.

[toonia]

I've not cried over a grade specifically. The closest comparable experience was during my first year of grad school when I had a lot of stress and pressure. I had one professor who gave me a bad vibe. I had the impression that he was biased against me. I went to his office to talk to him about my grade on one of the assignments and he railed into me about how my undergraduate college had a worthless program, etc. I felt shocked and disoriented and started crying. I apologized for my reaction and left as soon as possible. My response was to a feeling of humiliation and disrespect. I still valued my experience taking the class, and enjoyed the content a great deal, but strategically left him off my committee because I didn't trust him.

[Maitri1970]

I've not cried over a grade specifically. The closest comparable experience was during my first year of grad school when I had a lot of stress and pressure. I had one professor who gave me a bad vibe. I had the impression that he was biased against me. I went to his office to talk to him about my grade on one of the assignments and he railed into me about how my undergraduate college had a worthless program, etc. I felt shocked and disoriented and started crying. I apologized for my reaction and left as soon as possible. My response was to a feeling of humiliation and disrespect. I still valued my experience taking the class, and enjoyed the content a great deal, but strategically left him off my committee because I didn't trust him.

Wow! He had the nerve to say that to you?? What a complete jerk! I would have gotten angry and probably told him off. I'm sorry that happened to you. I would have complained to administration. He had no right to say that to you.

I'm in graduate school now and I had a bumpy semester with one professor. He just had a different sense of time and urgency than I do. I think it's cultural. He's Turkish. Anyway, we got it straightened out but I'm planning to focus on higher education administration rather than workforce development and training now. I was on the fence about it but my class with him pretty much sealed it for me.

[Oica]

I've not cried over a grade specifically. The closest comparable experience was during my first year of grad school when I had a lot of stress and pressure. I had one professor who gave me a bad vibe. I had the impression that he was biased against me. I went to his office to talk to him about my grade on one of the assignments and he railed into me about how my undergraduate college had a worthless program, etc. I felt shocked and disoriented and started crying. I apologized for my reaction and left as soon as possible. My response was to a feeling of humiliation and disrespect. I still valued my experience taking the class, and enjoyed the content a great deal, but strategically left him off my committee because I didn't trust him.

His argument makes sense. :rolleyes:

Atleast he probably didnt feel he was insulting you... he just didnt like you because the school you- ok yah, thats an insult. (I guess, not good at the insult game)

[terencec]

This is the only time I become irrationally emotional.

I teared up when I learned that my teacher gave me an A- versus an A in a one credit hour, mundane + easy class. This has happened to me before, as well. It's not that I look for sympathy or a grade change, it's that I get an uncontrollable urge to cry that I really wish wouldn't happen at all.

*sigh* Perfectionism can suck..

Close to cry, in one class at University, I got my final test back and the professor took off 15 points because he said that he did not like my methods. The steps and answer were correct but the steps could be simpler. Even though I did agree with him the steps could be simpler, I could not agree that he took off 15 points since everything were correct. I convinced that professor did not like me. He took it personal.

I am working now, the grades really don't have any impact except the first/second job.

I like your Avatar, is she a Japanese girl?

[yam]

Yes, I have... I was crying when I got bad mark for math. Considering that math is my favourite subject and a lot of my friends got the better ones, I just cried on my way home...

[Hypomanic]

I like your Avatar, is she a Japanese girl?

Heh.. it's actually Near (a male) from Death Note.

[King K]

Grades are usually insignificant. Unless a low grade will impede my chances of achieving something I want (ie self-respect, getting into college, finding a job, obtaining a certain certification), I think an A or B is all the same too me. I think most INTJs are inherently this way. The school grade is simply a stepping stone to some ulterior goal.
I gotta agree with this, grades are insignificant for me, as long as I approve the subject and learn about it it's fine for me.

[Truemusic]

I never cared about my grades enough to cry over them. I remember my sister cryed one time though over a grade in english. I remember thinking how glad I was she and I are nothing alike.=)

[Nightelf]

Never. I learn to develop intellectually and build myself, not to make the lecturers satsfied. I view the exams as the control of development, nothing more. It has not happened so far that I got an unjust grade since I am my most strict critic (and usually very-well prepared).

[Provoker]

Cyrus, right on the money!

The educational system is dominated by S types who are bent on edifying their own approach and have a vested interest in the status quo. All personal and anecdotal references are considered inferior or unworthy compared to established theorems and famous position. The system restricts the originality and ingenuity of scholars into only making parellels between thinkers or positions. I see it as very similar to case law where new cases are built on old ones. This is the way it tends to work. The University of Toronto conveyor-belt is churning out products stamped "U of T". The system is quite herd-like, and anyone who goes against the grain takes a risk. Sometimes resulting in a 90 for it's originality and genius and other times resulting in a C+ for going against conventional wisdom. There is also a strong emphasis on memorization over critical thinking. I've seen students memorize a whole passage from a textbook and raise their hand eagerly (in vain) only to recite the text out of context. This is how bad it is sometimes. These students are so bent on memorizing that they lose their heads and lack decisive judgement and critical thinking skills. They lose their own capacity to reason independently.

By this stage they are on a slippery path to insanity. The reason is this: once you begin to lose confidence in your own judgement and instead rely on a text, the bible, or whatever you become divorced from your own mind. Once you are divorced from your own mind, and your mind is no longer your friend, you are stripped bear of your defenses and the judgement required for self-preservation. By this stage, you are just a brain-washed goat with no individuality. Yet this is quite widespread in university at u-grad level. Hopefully, some of the goat-herd will be weeded out in grad school/law school to make it a more pleasurable experience.

[errrzarrr]

Not crying but feeling really confused/frustrated/wrathed with a signature at Univ. I wanted to graduate with no more delays, a really abstract complex signature, really hard to understand (Signal and Systems) and a really mother *** teacher with no idea of how pedagogy works.

[IFearAManOf1Book]

Not in recent memory... the only time I cried over a grade was when I was in elementary school, and much more grade-oriented than I am now. It wasn't even a real grade; the teacher decided to mess with my head and told me I had gotten a fifty on an important test. After I started to tear up, she realized that I didn't really get the joke.