Which are your favorite MBTI types in romantic companions?

[rain]

I'm sure someone made this poll before, but I'm curious.

I found that as an INTJ female, I typically am attracted to 4 types-
ESTJ, ESTP, ISTJ, and ESFJ.

Has anyone else trying dating people in relation to personality type?

[Synamon]

There is a What type is your partner poll (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) but I don't think that's exactly what you are asking.

I'm married to an ESFJ and I did not chosen my partner based on MBTI type, nor would I.

[Storm]

Um. where's the poll?
Would never date someone based on their personality type - doesn't tell you enough.
To broadly generalize, I like the following types:
ENTP, ENFP, and INTJ.

[azelismia]

Um. where's the poll?
Would never date someone based on their personality type - doesn't tell you enough.
To broadly generalize, I like the following types:
ENTP, ENFP, and INTJ.


For romantic purposes I find all brands of NT suitable.

[Muse09]

INTJ/INTP....... Romance starts with the brain... These men have a knack.

[rara avis]

I suspect that, broadly speaking, NT is a good starting place for me, too.
After that, it just depends on the individual.

[rain]

For romantic purposes I find all brands of NT suitable.


NTs make great friends, but I wonder if the similarities become stifling after awhile?

I like STs because they challenge me and we don't possess the same weaknesses.

[Storm]

Not a fan of romantic relationships with STs. Too much structure. NFs and NTs for the win. (obviously, this is a broad statement, I'm sure there are attractive STs out there).

[dogwoodlover]

ENFP / ENTP.

[rain]

Not a fan of romantic relationships with STs. Too much structure. NFs and NTs for the win. (obviously, this is a broad statement, I'm sure there are attractive STs out there).


I noticed though that NT men tend to be "competitive" with me for one reason or another, so that the relationship never really achieves anything other than the superficial.

I hate to admit this, but I have a tendency to exploit NF males in relationships so that it's never truly balanced. Similarly, INTJ men tend to exploit me in a similar way so I avoid those types being that the sum of our energy equates to negative resentment and feelings.

The only men whom I feel absolutely at ease with are ST types. I think because at heart, I like the man to be in the driver's seat and navigate, whereas with other NTs, I feel like we're driving around in circles getting lost.

[azelismia]

NTs make great friends, but I wonder if the similarities become stifling after awhile?

I like STs because they challenge me and we don't possess the same weaknesses.


not all Nt's possess the same weaknesses. I think the commonality is more important than having dissimilarity. dissimilarity is every easy to find in the world but commonality is not.

If you aren't on the same page it's going to be a fight or standoff every single day on some issue or another. walking on eggshells is not my idea of an ideal relationship.


I married an XNTP. we do not have similar weaknesses. but we do possess some similar strengths. most importantly we see eye to eye on most things and are very good friends.

I do not think marriage is about using the other partner to strengthen your weaknesses anyway. it's up to YOU to do that if you so desire. If you do not desire to do that, it won't kill you. Life is short and there is no tally sheet.

it's about lifetime companionship and camaraderie.

[Storm]

The only men whom I feel absolutely at ease with are ST types. I think because at heart, I like the man to be in the driver's seat and navigate, whereas with other NTs, I feel like we're driving around in circles getting lost.

If you want someone "in the driver's seat" then, STs are perfect, especially xSTJs. Me, though. No, I want an equal relationship. Don't even try to pretend like there's a driver's seat.

[rain]

If you want someone "in the driver's seat" then, STs are perfect, especially xSTJs. Me, though. No, I want an equal relationship. Don't even try to pretend like there's a driver's seat.

Well yes, I suppose that is why XSTJs are perfect. Personally I hate driving, and would prefer if the man knows where to go and navigate. I also notice that that is my preference in working relationships as well. STs and I get a lot more done more efficiently and more quickly whereas with other NTs we end up arguing about who's right/ wrong.

[Antares]

I'm mainly into extroverts (no idea if that's normal for INTJs)

ESTP, ENTJ, ENTP, ESFJ, INTJ

[Kisai]

I enjoy dating people based on their ability to effect the world. They are more interesting to me. I've found that there are a bunch of interesting folks of all personality types.

[Solaris]

I've been around the spectrum, but find that introverted thinkers are the best for me. However, I don't think it's the most important, a balanced, healthy person of any type might have just the right life experiences and interests for me.

[rain]

I've been around the spectrum, but find that introverted thinkers are the best for me. However, I don't think it's the most important, a balanced, healthy person of any type might have just the right life experiences and interests for me.

Do you prefer NTs or STs?

[Solaris]

Do you prefer NTs or STs?

My belief is that I prefer NTs, especially given the large number of them that I know. I know a couple of STJs, and I never can seem to get too much good conversation going. That's such an important thing for me in order to bond, that it prevents me from ever developing much with those types, unless we have something intensely active already in common. I'm not generalizing, just drawing from my experience. If it's any indicator, all of my best male friends have been INTJs (as I think I've stated elsewhere) -- and, yes, it was weird when I found that out one by one.

[rain]

My belief is that I prefer NTs, especially given the large number of them that I know. I know a couple of STJs, and I never can seem to get too much good conversation going. That's such an important thing for me in order to bond, that it prevents me from ever developing much with those types, unless we have something intensely active already in common. I'm not generalizing, just drawing from my experience. If it's any indicator, all of my best male friends have been INTJs (as I think I've stated elsewhere) -- and, yes, it was weird when I found that out one by one.

Did you already know their types before speaking with them?

Personally, I have the best conversations with STs- typically ESTJs/ESTPs also INTJs/ISTJs. It's only afterward, that I have them take the test and find out what their types are.

I also typically have the worst conversations with NFs, typically INFJs and ENFPs they always bring in their emotions and feelings into the conversation and for some reason that irritates me so I like them in small doses. They also seem to think everything people say to them as a slight, so I get tired of reassuring them.

[Solaris]

Did you already know their types before speaking with them?

Personally, I have the best conversations with STs- typically ESTJs/ESTPs also INTJs/ISTJs. It's only afterward, that I have them take the test and find out what their types are.

I also typically have the worst conversations with NFs, typically INFJs and ENFPs they always bring in their emotions and feelings into the conversation and for some reason that irritates me so I like them in small doses. They also seem to think everything people say to them as a slight, so I get tired of reassuring them.

I found out after I knew them. That's really what prompted me to come here, I wanted to see if I could figure out why I knew so many of such a supposedly rare type.

I like NFs. I'm generally pretty accepting of people for who they are, once I figure out what that is. I do prefer to avoid drama queens though, but we don't get along, so it's ok.

Did I say already that I especially seem to like NT men with a very developed F? Or perhaps it's that they should have been NFs and just couldn't? No, I don't think so. The ones I've really liked were NTs in function, but knew they had a good bit of F.

[CogDecree]

Ef's more emphasis on the E

[Zombicide]

I do not see a poll but hypothetically I'd think it would be someone who would also seriously score INTJ in the same way as myself. I cannot comprehend why someone would answer some of those MBTI questions differently than I would. I would think that would increase the chances of my relating to them. . .of course, in actuality it probably wouldn't. It doesn't matter, nothing matters

[Plane Stress]

This is hard for me because I don't have a lot of experience with many of these types, but I think that I would really get along with an ISTP. I also like the idea of another INTJ.

I am a little apprehensive about NP types, because most people I've been involved with have been NPs, and it always ended badly. I do like INFP/ENFPs though.

I definitely prefer introverts.

[chicagoccatt]

Does any INTJ enjoy an ISTP?

[Prunesquallor]

Does any INTJ enjoy an ISTP?

One of my best friends is one, but I have no experience with the romance. From my one friend, and the type description, I would venture to say that they can be a lot of fun.

[Deadgod]

Whoever is willing to understand and work towards it.

[Plane Stress]

I think that I would get along with them because (and realize that I have never met anyone who I knew to be an ISTP):
1. I share a desire to get something done that needs to get done or that I deem worthy of doing.
2. Sometimes I am so passive and in my head that I need a push in order to do things I am not comfortable doing. They seem to be the sort of type that would be able to talk me into such a thing.
3. I have very strong ideals/morals. I would not be happy if my partner tried to change me in this sense-and ISTPs seem just as protective about their own ideas, but more "fun".
4. I feel like they would pay attention to me if I was trying to explain something or was interested in something. In my experience INTPs are not very open to ideas if they are not presented to them in a way such that they convince themselves that its a worthwhile idea.

I also think that I have a fairly strong S in the sense that I can apply my thinking to something practical, or to take a concept from real life and extend it and turn it upside down and go off of that vs. coming up with something new entirely and leaving the details up to somebody else.

Feel free to comment if you want-maybe I have the wrong idea entirely. I'm not that great at figuring out MBTI types.

[Sylar]

Personally I would actually classify myself as more of an Ambivert, so I'm not sure where that places me in terms of compatibility with certain types.

I will say that, knowing myself, I MUST have an N as my partner. T/F? I personally prefer T over F, since I'm not one to greet a date with an "I missed you so much" every time I see them. I could be compatible with a lower percentage Feeler though; I guess it would depend on the person.

P/J? P; unless they are frequently losing every gift I get them ;) (Ah just kidding :P).

[alphawolf]

enfp, enfj, entp, entj

Those are the ones that seem the most likely for me to be mentally attracted to. But a good person of any extroverted type will likely do.

Introverted women are not really my thing, speaking from a lot of experience.

[jp624]

I like INTJs for long-term compatibility. However, I am initially very attracted to ENTP males, but I think, as I get older, that is wearing off just because it is so difficult for me to make that work. I have dated a few but it doesn't last long. I suppose the ENTPs I've dated have also been immature, so I'm not sure I can base my opinion on anything valid. I was very overwhelmed dating them because they were always bringing around new people and wanting to go out constantly. We really did seem to understand each other in the most basic of ways though, which was frustrating.

J/P: Not sure on this one... I think Ps are fun to be around but I've always run into problems because I feel slighted if they won't commit to something I've asked them to do... sure, I'll wait around till Friday night to make sure you don't have anything better to do. That's irritating, for sure. Again, maybe an immaturity thing on the part of the Ps I've known.

[Chronos]

Not a fan of romantic relationships with STs. Too much structure. NFs and NTs for the win. (obviously, this is a broad statement, I'm sure there are attractive STs out there).

I agree. I'd even go so far as to say that I usually have a much better connection with Ns than with Ss, of all stripes. This goes both for romance and friendship.

[AliTree]

you tend to be most drawn to, in terms of romantic relations? i know i have, ha. INFP males.

[dalidaisy]

INTJ, just stating the obvious here...

[AliTree]

INTJ, just stating the obvious here...

really? personally, i don't want to date myself. i've done that once (actually, a INFtJ male. boarder-line T/F) and that was just messy.

[dalidaisy]

really? personally, i don't want to date myself. i've done that once (actually, a INFtJ male. boarder-line T/F) and that was just messy.

Well, I've found an INTJ who's quite perfect for me. He's like me in many ways, but by no means would I consider it dating myself. We just have a really deep understanding & mutual appreciation for each other that no one else has ever really had. I find it quite refreshing...

[AliTree]

Well, I've found an INTJ who's quite perfect for me. He's like me in many ways, but by no means would I consider it dating myself. We just have a really deep understanding & mutual appreciation for each other that no one else has ever really had. I find it quite refreshing...

that's cool then!

[Prunesquallor]

INTP, INFP, INTJ, ISTJ. Theoretically. These people I tend to get along with well. Well, I don't know any intjs, actually, but I like myself, so...basically, I like people who think somewhats similar to me - you spend less time on communications and more time on the fun stuff.
I dated an esfp once - it was an interesting social experiment, but I don't think he appreciated me treating out time together like a social science class, and I apparently 'intimidated' him. As amusing as it was, I don't think that dynamic comes easily...

[JustMel]

I'm drawn to more ESTJs than anything else. Weird but they either become close friends or in one case my spouse.

[rara avis]

I've acquired an INTJ to experiment on... it's pretty cool.

It's not like dating myself at all; our numbers in each of the different facets make for quite a bit of contrast.


I get along pretty well with INTP men, as a rule - but haven't ever met one with whom I had the right spark. I just tend to kind of adopt them.

[doublejava]

I'm married to an ESTJ also. We seem to have difficulty communicating sometimes. I'll walk away from a conversation scratching my head and wondering how two people can be in the same room, having the same conversation, and yet come up with two totally different versions of what was said. We have very similar goals in life, though, so in the end we have a pretty balanced relationship.

[une fille]

INFP males haven't worked well with me, thus far. Congratulations on finding a good one though!
INTJ's are my favorite as of now, but hey.. I'm equal opportunity ;)

[AliTree]

I'm drawn to more ESTJs than anything else. Weird but they either become close friends or in one case my spouse.

I'm married to an ESTJ also.

VERY INTERESTING! because i'm SUPER drawn to ESTJ males as friends and INFP males as romantic relations. the exact opposites....hmm..

[searcher]

INFP's are lovely, but they tend to break in various ways.
Same goes for most F's actually..
I'm not saying that they're weak, just that they don't really stand up to me and the problems I bring very well.

Now anything NT....that's a different story. Same goes for ESTJs, though they come across as control freaks at times.

[rain]

ESTJs ESTPs ISTPs ISTJs INTJs in that order

[Antares]

One? Why one? That's so restricting. I can't even put a preference on them; so in no particular order, ISTP, ESTP, INTJ, ENTJ, ENTP

[Vagrant]

I'm drawn to more ESTJs than anything else. Weird but they either become close friends or in one case my spouse.

My mother (INTJ) also married an ESTJ, my father.

[Deliberator]

I guess it's hard for me to even think about having to live with anything other than an NT for my entire existence. I just feel like the F or the S would get soooo old after awhile.

I remember in my freshman year coming across F men and finding them so fluffy; even the ones that were intellectual (NF types I'm sure) seemed like they were just using intellectualism as a game, and not altogether very well... ST men were better because they were so much more rational, but I never feel like I can really be myself around ST men... I don't know if I make them uncomfortable or they just don't know what to think of me or what, but if I act like my true self around them I generally feel like I weird them out.

So I ended up with an INTP. We have deep intellectual conversations on a wide variety of topics, we both lean libertarian, we watch animal documentaries together, we're non-religious together, we play Scrabble together, we examine theories together, we never demand emotional validation from each other, we drink straight from the milk jug, we give each other lots of personal space, we forget to shave or brush our hair before going out, we challenge each other's arguments like total assholes without taking it personally... it's pure bliss.

[Maayan]

ENTJ, INTJ & INTP.

[ElstonGunn]

I'm married to an ESFJ and I did not chosen my partner based on MBTI type, nor would I.

Whoever is willing to understand and work towards it.

I agree with the Canuck and the lifeless deity, there. Type only tells you one narrow slice of what makes a person who he or she is. I think it's narrow-minded and unfair to all people involved to make something so open-ended and indefinite mean something concrete and specific.

But if we're required to name a type, I generally like introverts, and more importantly, feelers. So mark me down for IxFxs who don't expect me to do the approaching. Ns bug me, but if they're not hung-up on the fact that they're intuitives, then I don't mind at all.

...Fortunately, that's what I've got now, so this is largely a moot point for me.

[curiousjane]

J/P: Not sure on this one... I think Ps are fun to be around but I've always run into problems because I feel slighted if they won't commit to something I've asked them to do... sure, I'll wait around till Friday night to make sure you don't have anything better to do. That's irritating, for sure. Again, maybe an immaturity thing on the part of the Ps I've known.

That's not a "P" thing. That's a "flake" thing. That's a "I'm Just Not That Into You" thing.

If somebody wants to spend time with you, they'll make room for that in their busy schedule.

I'm sure someone made this poll before, but I'm curious.

I found that as an INTJ female, I typically am attracted to 4 types-
ESTJ, ESTP, ISTJ, and ESFJ.

Has anyone else trying dating people in relation to personality type?
As an INFP female, I am almost always attracted to ENFJ, INTJ, ENTJ, ENTP, and ESTP males.

I have nothing against "S" types. I love "S" types. They encourage me to be active and practical. Almost my whole family is "S" types. But being surrounded by so many S people I longed for communication with people who understood my "N" tendencies.

What makes me happy, romantically? Well ... my guy is INTJ. And I couldn't be happier.

:love:

[boldbidder]

ESFJ - Just have to find a smart one who isn't afraid of thinking.