Type Can Be A Turn-Off?

[Hypomanic]

Okay, well I was debating an acquaintance's type as possibly ENTJ due to their formality only to find out I was entirely wrong. They ended up being ESTP. How disappointing. Really turned me off.. we don't have much in common. I don't think I appear like him either, even though he's my 'mirror'. I think I appear much more ENTJ or INTJ in retrospect.

I get along really well with ISFJ's and ISTJ's, though (*healthy* females at least).

Soo... any experiences? I just felt like posting this. I'll add to it later.

NT's are so rare to find. The statistical population break down seems to be dead on.

[Wildflower]

I dated an ESTx and a ISTJ (years and years ago) and found both guys to be far too cold and practical for me. They saw everything in strict black and white terms. I don't think I would ever pick a S type for relationship. I am married to an INFJ.

I find some ISTJ and ISTP okay for friends, but in limited doses.

I find ISFP women very good for friends, especially when I need to lighten my views on life. ISFJ can be okay too but in more limited amounts.

[Meyer]

I have found type tells me very little about a person. To me it seems uses of the functions is much more fluid than type theorists would have you believe. Strengths and weakness yes, set in stone as to the ability for a function to develop, no.

[Paul V]

ESXX people are a real annoyance. Too bad they represent about 99% of the people I know. Other Is are Ss and other Ns are Es. No luck finding INXX people.

[BlackHawk]

Wait.
You're saying that you liked an acquaintance somewhat well, because you presumed he was an ENTJ. Then, when he tested as an ESTP, you discounted him because the standardized type summaries say you don't think alike?!?!?!
That doesn't make any sense. If I like someone, I'm going to be interested in learning more about them, even if they don't have a "compatible" type.
(Yes, I realize that in my hypothetical situation, it should be "him/her" throughout, but you should know what I mean . . .)

[The Many]

I have found type tells me very little about a person. To me it seems uses of the functions is much more fluid than type theorists would have you believe. Strengths and weakness yes, set in stone as to the ability for a function to develop, no.

Much agreed. In fact the "types" are really only approximate typings, for instance one could even use Ti where the statistics say they would use Te, or perhaps an someone could have their tertiary and auxiliary functions aligned in different manners than the test would suppose... the personalities are too rough to really be worth caring for.

For instance one of my best friends is an ESTP, so judging someone according to type rather than according to themselves doesn't work out in the end.

[Hypomanic]

Luckily my mom is an ENTJ and my little sister is an INTP so I was able to grow up in a NT environment. I've met 2 confirmed ENTP's. One was unhealthy. I met one INTJ, and he was unhealthy as well. I keep meeting ISTP's. They were intriguing at first, but now they kind of creep me out. I don't know why. Although SJ's fill in my weaknesses I'm much happier with similar-minded people.. but there's not many people to connect with.

I want to meet more *healthy* NT's! o__0

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Wait.
You're saying that you liked an acquaintance somewhat well, because you presumed he was an ENTJ. Then, when he tested as an ESTP, you discounted him because the standardized type summaries say you don't think alike?!?!?!
That doesn't make any sense. If I like someone, I'm going to be interested in learning more about them, even if they don't have a "compatible" type.
(Yes, I realize that in my hypothetical situation, it should be "him/her" throughout, but you should know what I mean . . .)
He was an acquaintance. I've met enough people to know that there are fundamental differences correlating to the MBTI. I'll choose to like/dislike whom I want to thanks. ;)





Hypomanic added to this post, 1 minutes and 57 seconds later...

Much agreed. In fact the "types" are really only approximate typings, for instance one could even use Ti where the statistics say they would use Te, or perhaps an someone could have their tertiary and auxiliary functions aligned in different manners than the test would suppose... the personalities are too rough to really be worth caring for.

For instance one of my best friends is an ESTP, so judging someone according to type rather than according to themselves doesn't work out in the end.

I'm not incompetent. The more I found out about him the less I liked. One, he slacks on his schoolwork. I'm a smart girl, don't worry about how I choose my friends. I have a right to be picky.

[The Many]

I'm not incompetent. The more I found out about him the less I liked. One, he slacks on his schoolwork. I'm a smart girl, don't worry about how I choose my friends. I have a right to be picky.

Be as picky as you like to, I'm not one to really complain. After all it's your life. But still judging people by personalities is often very limiting.

[Hypomanic]

You're generalizing. In some cases what you just said isn't true at all.
In some it is, if your judgement is off. I have criteria that I follow.

[Tarrick]

Be as picky as you like to, I'm not one to really complain. After all it's your life. But still judging people by personalities is often very limiting.

How would you judge them by? Looks alone? Or were you talking about temperament and not personality?

Irregardless of that, if I meet someone that has a personality I can coexist with, I don't care what their temperament is. However, their temperament often will tell me if we can function well together. It's not that I have a disdain for all xxxx or something. But I may, as an INTJ, not be able to properly establish a working relationship with generic person of said temperament.

[rocksteady]

How would you judge them by? Looks alone? Or were you talking about temperament and not personality?

Irregardless of that, if I meet someone that has a personality I can coexist with, I don't care what their temperament is. However, their temperament often will tell me if we can function well together. It's not that I have a disdain for all xxxx or something. But I may, as an INTJ, not be able to properly establish a working relationship with generic person of said temperament.

I agree with you and I find judging people based on profile to be very rewarding actually. It can be very useful in social situations or in inter-personal communications. The more you know about how a person ticks, the easier to work/interact with them. I find the types to be very useful in that regard, especially if you are trying to predict behavior.

That being said there are a number of things the profile will not tell you about a person, but what it DOES tell you is far too compelling to ignore.