Another Sex Q!

[graciela224]

Uh, yeah. So asking these sorts of things over the internets is fun. :sombrero:

[Dear Abby,]

About three weeks ago I lost my virginity. I won't go into detail; it was a good experience and I definitely don't regret it. But ever since then I have had absolutely zero sex drive. In fact, sex is starting to turn me off.

Is this normal for INTJs? Am I becoming asexual or will I get over it?

[Zer0]

hmm... I don't think that has anything to do with being an INTJ or not.

The things before and after sex is as much as important as sex itself. Don't overlook that fact.

[alphawolf]

Uh, yeah. So asking these sorts of things over the internets is fun. :sombrero:

[Dear Abby,]

About three weeks ago I lost my virginity. I won't go into detail; it was a good experience and I definitely don't regret it. But ever since then I have had absolutely zero sex drive. In fact, sex is starting to turn me off.

Is this normal for INTJs? Am I becoming asexual or will I get over it?


Read about the effects of dopamine expenditure.

[Terian]

Read about the effects of dopamine expenditure.QFE

[LionsPride]

Ordinarily, if I think I'm fine, but my body is behaving differently, then there is a new emotion or a suppressed emotion behind it.

It is possible your body is expressing the feelings you aren't aware of and those feelings don't have to be the traumatic type you might be thinking about. For instance, your body might be expressing worry about pregnancy. Even though you likely used protection (which is why your mind is okay) your body is thinking about all the changes pregnancy might cause, how much closer you are to getting pregnant. I mean, when you were a virgin there was 0 chance. Now, your looking at condom breaking, condom slippage... Sometimes worries like these don't exist in my conscious state, but do get expressed. As I'm not able to recognize them as emotions, they end up being expressed by my body.

[Urania]

Uh, yeah. So asking these sorts of things over the internets is fun. :sombrero:

[Dear Abby,]

About three weeks ago I lost my virginity. I won't go into detail; it was a good experience and I definitely don't regret it. But ever since then I have had absolutely zero sex drive. In fact, sex is starting to turn me off.

Is this normal for INTJs? Am I becoming asexual or will I get over it?

You will get over it.

[graciela224]

thanks these were some good things to think about =]

[Earilmadith]

The problem with INTJs and sex is that because we are so theoretical at times, we can start to like the idea of sex more than sex itself. Your diction isn't extremely positive regarding it- it was good, not really good or great. Maybe you had higher expectations that weren't quite met?

[Dresha]

Over analyzing something can at times take away the pleasure of the experience. Try not to think of it in such of a grand scheme. That may take some of the pressure off of your mind, allowing you to enjoy yourself! Sex is fun, son.

[simoncpu]

Whoa... an INTJ that got laid! Congratulations! :p

You felt guilty because deep inside, you wanted to remain a virgin as long as possible. You weren't able to maintain this unreasonable standard and now you regret doing it. You keep telling yourself that you don't regret it, but you know that you're lying to yourself. You also know that lying to yourself is a Bad Thing(tm) that's why you're confused even more. :)

You will get over it. It was a nice experience.

EDIT: It's all about control. You were afraid of giving it up to someone, especially to a stranger. You probably wanted to give it up by perforating your hymen yourself. :)

[Soobpar]

It may be that most of your interest in sex was purely curiosity towards the whole thing, and now that you know the ins and outs of it (bad pun, sorry) you're not as interested in it as you were before.

[Terian]

It may be that most of your interest in sex was purely curiosity towards the whole thing, and now that you know the ins and outs of it (bad pun, sorry) you're not as interested in it as you were before.That sounds very NTP-ish to me.

[Nightshiver2]

It may be that most of your interest in sex was purely curiosity towards the whole thing, and now that you know the ins and outs of it (bad pun, sorry) you're not as interested in it as you were before.

+1 for that.

graciela224: You'll get over it, exact same thing happened to me, there's a general purposeful emotional pattern where once you achieve a long term goal, it takes a couple days for your emotional system to adapt and start generating bigger new goals.

[Autoptic]

+1 for that.

graciela224: You'll get over it, exact same thing happened to me, there's a general purposeful emotional pattern where once you achieve a long term goal, it takes a couple days for your emotional system to adapt and start generating bigger new goals.

My experience's not topic specific, but some of us, at least temporarily or to a certain extent if not completely, burn through most, if not all, elements in a given set, if not other related sets as well, in one shot. Reality can be quite disappointing though I wouldn't think all sex would go in one shot.

[Dresha]

and now that you know the ins and outs of it .

LMAO! I spit up my drink upon reading this.