being around other INTJs

[metaserve]

INTJs: How do you interact with groups of other INTJs? Did/do you have a group of friends who you would consider the same MBTI as yourself?

I find working with INTJ people to be rather efficient. Socially, we can usually strike up a meaningful conversation or two - light on the stupid stuff of course. Occasionally I come across an INTJ that is very J which can annoy me.

Since high school and on through college so far I have had a group of friends that I bet is mostly xNTJ. Not too much argument. Hilarity ensues when interacting in larger social environs. I find the way that our personality can clash with established social convention very funny to observe.

[Anreader]

I had a friend in school that tested INTJ. We were always in trouble. We talked frequently about things the teacher thought inappropriate, loudly and with vigor. We would get giddy and fake sword fight with pencils. One would tease the other. We talked about how everyone else was stupid afterschool. It was great. I miss him.

[Vagrant]

Usually other INTJ's and myself like to be mischievous. My ex (also INTJ) and I were mischievous too, although I think we found each other's bodies more fun than other people. >.>

[llBradll]

I encountered one today, actually. When I tried making conversation with him I had a more opinionated discussion, which led to him rejecting everything I said.
While I realise that opinions aren't as good conversation to us as facts, they usually open the door.
In that situation though, I just couldn't open him up. Maybe I should have given him a math puzzle to solve first so he would have been in a good enough mood to talk.

Which leads me to ask, how should you best initially interact with an INTJ to open them up?

[probity]

I have one INTJ friend. We're not very close but we get along great when we have something to talk about. Our conversations are always fun and invigorating. Otherwise we just sort of sit in silence thinking to ourselves hoping the other isn't finding the silence awkward.

[Anreader]

Which leads me to ask, how should you best initially interact with an INTJ to open them up?

Cautious. My friend came to my notice initially because I thought he was the biggest threat to me in regards to the teachers attention. So I started listening when he was talking to other people. After a while he drew me into the conversation, and before long it was just us. After all we were the smartest, and best ones. Show off how smart you are, how informed, how interested in his/ her opinions. Don't be too forceful or offended.

[Undead Bonzi]

Which leads me to ask, how should you best initially interact with an INTJ to open them up?

Usually a chainsaw or large knife will open things up pretty well with an INTJ, but the conversation has to be fast because shock sets in pretty fast.

[Outdoorwhale]

I don't get along with others like me.

I've met a few in college and didn't get along with them. Pretty much for the same reasons I don't really post in depth things. I find other INTJs(or similar personalities to my own since I really don't care about the label) very annoying.

They were either;

A) Stuck up/arrogant with constantly complaining about other people say/what they do and very opinionated about it.
B) Mouthing off in class on how stupid the prof. is and does while saying nothing on how that was so.

[Storm]

I only know one other INTJ that's not a family member. (Family member relationships have a different connection than others).

We get along fine and I enjoy talking to him. We're on the same wave length thought-process wise even when we disagree. He's a great person to work with for that reason.

But, I don't find being around other INTJs any more fulfilling than being around other types.

Although, I do like this forum over other forums because it's calmer and more rational than other forums. I'm not sure if it's because most people are INTJ or because of the forum culture (which could be due to personality).
However, the INFP forum is also just as calm and rational (although they like talking about relationships more), so maybe it's just the MBTI forums in general.

[LvHmBirth]

I have had a group of friends that I bet is mostly xNTJ. Not too much argument. Hilarity ensues when interacting in larger social environs.

Looking back, one of my favorite job assignments (about 15 years ago now) was with a group that must have been mostly xNTJ. It was a very calm group to work with, even though we were in crisis mode much of the time due to the nature of our customer; very creative problem-solvers, awesome jokes, etc. Individually some of them were a bit abrasive, but as a group, we were unstoppable, and I'm friends with some of them still.

Currently, I have friends of all MBTI types, but the ones that I turn to the most are the xNTJs. They're calm in a crisis, great to bounce ideas off of, fun to debate, open to interesting discussions, mysterious, energizing, and we seem to enjoy each other's company, even if nothing is being expressed verbally. I agree the mischief level can be quite high, too.

[Vagrant]

I think for me, the most interesting thing is that my Organic Chemistry professor is a clear INTJ -- he's got the arrogance, screwiness, unconventionality, but the skill to back it all up. When I listen to him, I just understand where's he coming from -- even when he expresses emotion, I think I'm much better at grasping what he's actually expressing.

Unfortunately, I don't know too many INTJ's in real life. The real problem is overcoming the first hurdle -- the apparent arrogance. It's a strong deterrent if I can't see the person backing it up with skill.

That said, I get along the best with intuitors of all sorts. Sensors usually have to put a lot of effort forth before I appreciate them.

[ToC]

I encountered one today, actually. When I tried making conversation with him I had a more opinionated discussion, which led to him rejecting everything I said.
While I realise that opinions aren't as good conversation to us as facts, they usually open the door.
In that situation though, I just couldn't open him up. Maybe I should have given him a math puzzle to solve first so he would have been in a good enough mood to talk.

Which leads me to ask, how should you best initially interact with an INTJ to open them up?

Write down your observations about his personality and set down the piece of paper right in front of him. wait silently as he reads it.

[amberlinen]

I might have met an INTJ in high school but he's so unstable emotionally. He cut me off just because I criticized his world view, made fun of his unrequited love, and called him a Nazi.

[Necrosis]

I have a friend who I work with. We don't work in the same building but for the same program in the company. I never realized why we had so much fun joking around and bending the rules here until I asked him to take the test one day and he too got INTJ. We usually take long lunches, don't come back, make fun of the incompetent employees. But the best part is when one of us brings up a argument and we take turns breaking it apart. No one gets mad so its all in fun.

[Anreader]

Yes I find it helpful that INTJs don't take offense at things I didn't intend to be offensive like other types sometimes do.

[mutebim]

I don't think I have met any INTJ physically.