INTJs raised by INTJS

[Storm]

I'm fairly certain my mother is an INTJ like me and I think it made a difference in my present personality. Based on reading this forum, I seem to have less difficulty with many of the classic INTJs weaknesses than others (notice I said, less difficutly, not no difficulty).

I think this may have been a result of my mother (even though she didn't realize she was an INTJ), recognizing me having the same troubles she did as a child and, thus, able to better offer me advice.

Thoughts? Any other INTJs raised by INTJs who feel the same or different?

[Pika]

I can't be sure because he has been dead for over 30 years but I am fairly certain my father was an INTJ. I do know that he and I have many of the same personality quirks and traveled pretty much the same type of life path but toward different goals.

He was a self-made man: He went to work in the middle of the depression, right out of high school, bought a business, served in the military during WW-II and then worked his way up the corporate ladder to VP in charge of sales for a major oil company. He hated sales but was very good at it. He was introverted, quite intuitive, definitely a thinker and judgmental.

I worked a trade out of high school, served in the Army and then started university when I was nearly thirty. I completed a PhD. in quantitative ecology and then worked my way up the academic ladder to department head at a large western universitiy. I hated administration but was good at it. I am introverted, reasonably intuitive, definitely a thinker and fairly judgmental.

I don't think I would have taken the path I did without my fathers example. I suspect that he saw a lot of his younger self in me and took care to not "let the bastards grind me down". He would always go to bat for me if he thought I was right. It was only recently that I have come to realize what he did for me. I wish he was here so I could thank him.

[Zombicide]

And based on reading this forum and other sites, I've come to realize that there are stupid INTJs, so I believe that my mother may herself be an INtx. Father being perhaps xNTJ (granted I may be wrong on both counts). Familial or not, cultural / memetic influences have little if any impact on my sentiments, so no, I do not feel the same on this. The reason I lack many of the difficulties is merely because my mentality is much more profound than that of others.

[BostonIan]

My dad might have been, I'm sure about the IxxJ, and the other two might have been close either way. He was the leader of a successful bank-robbing gang, so, that's a little mastermind-ish and villain-y. He was quiet, so it's hard to read precisely, but everyone says we look and act alike.

Edit: Err, I assumed this was a simple binary yes-or-no, I don't have much of anything to contribute to the parental style issue.

[zhao jingbo]

A couple of days ago, I persuaded my father, a professor, to do the mbti test and happened to find that he is an INFJ.Being INXJ, we share many common characteristics such as being very serious and alone.But the difference is that his moods are likely to be influenced by outside, and when hearing some disasters from my own families, he would be likely to be paranoid. On the other hand, I will be able to stay as calm as possible, unless there are extreme insults or disasters comming.

I believe that he has no idea of my personality and always over-cares me. This is what I cannot bear. During my early schools and even now in the college, I was and am always an outsider to other people, sharing no common interests and no talks. I am so serious that some of them tell me that I look much old than I am.

[getonwithit]

My father is an INTJ. Very intelligent, can be manipulative, loner, never cared what people thought of him. He unorthodox approach to success worked well for him. He retired early, living the life, still mostly a loner. Oh and he definetly has the strong presence effect.

[kira]

Yes, my INTJ father tried to address my weaknesses. However it was all in vain because, as a young child, I couldn't get past the appearance of hypocrisy. He reminded me to be aware of others and hang out with my friends more, but I'd see him blithely ignore the few phone calls he received from his. He told me that I needed to express agreement with people to get along even if their views seemed inane or stupid, but I watched him turn up his nose and walk away whenever my mother's friends broached the subject of astrology. Lol. Moreover, it was difficult to see why I should do any of that when he seemed happy as he was, but then what did I know about reading other people's emotional states? What I do know though is that he was doing what he thought was best, and he likely knew that I would get more crap for being this way as a female than he has as a male.

[meistergeist]

Hmm... While neither of my parents are INTJs, I do believe the personality of your parents has much to do with the personality of yourself. Here's how I see it: either you look at your parent and go "that's what I want to be like," or you say, "that is most definitely what I want to avoid being like!". Either way, you learn from them, by doing, or not doing, what they do.

Being that my father is an INTP, I've adapted many of his mannerisms. I truly believe he's the reason I'm INTx... and my mother is the reason I'm xxxJ (she's ENFJ). Their influence has undoubtedly effected which life tools I use and how aptly I use them. The end result, the INTJ personality I've come to love so much. <3

Honeslty I love my parents, but I can't help but think having an INTJ parent would be just great. They'd already have gone through all the crap I'm going through, and they know how to deal. Sweet. Any of you guys willing to give up your moms or dads like a few nights a week? ;)

[Vagrant]

Copied and pasted from another thread I posted in:

My mother's side of the family is consistently XNTX -- it practically runs in my family. My brother is ENTP, I'm INTJ, my mother is INTJ, my uncle is INTP, my grandma is ENTJ, my grandpa was INTJ... beyond that though, I have no data on my great grandparents.

It runs in my mother's side of the family. I have no logical explanation as to why though.

[MrDoom]

Copied and pasted from another thread I posted in:

My mother's side of the family is consistently XNTX -- it practically runs in my family. My brother is ENTP, I'm INTJ, my mother is INTJ, my uncle is INTP, my grandma is ENTJ, my grandpa was INTJ...

It runs in my mother's side of the family. I have no logical explanation as to why though.

A family of robots... I'm so jealous. :thinking: My family are all ESFx's and ISTx's, I'm the only xNxx.

[Scarlet Cake]

I do believe the personality of your parents has much to do with the personality of yourself.
Here's how I see it: either you look at your parent and go "that's what I want to be like,"
or you say, "that is most definitely what I want to avoid being like!".

I totally agree!
Our parents do influence who we choose to become.

This reminds me of Ned Flanders being a product of beatnik parents.
He decided he didn't want to be anything like them and so he rebelled by becoming the ultimate square.

[LionsPride]

My mother was an INTJ. I wouldn't say it helped me with strengths or weaknesses, but I did have the great privilege to grow up not feeling ashamed of my strengths like others have. That likely made me more confident in my differences. In terms of my weaknesses, I'd say it reinforced them as I did not get a good example of how things ought to be done. For instance I don't know some simple hosting customs, because being from a family of I's meant never having people over. The idea of inviting people over is foreign to me.

[Uytuun]

My dad's INTJ. I think this helped me in a lot of ways that are untracable...I never felt like a weird kid, for one, even though I was, especially for a girl - but my father was proud of me and let me read books or mumble to myself or would stand up for me against my mum. I've always identified with him more and I don't think that he really sees me as a girl. Nor a boy, just a being. Which goes for me too. He's a caring INTJ and I kind of like that. I think IJ are his strongest letters, IN are mine. I should e-mail him or something.

[Eyedears]

Both my father and his father were INTJ's, tho my father and I were talkers (not chitchatters: substance conversationalists), whereas Gramps was more taciturn (stronger "I"). Both of them were inventors and not surprisingly, utterly non-conformist (when he was 17, Gramps who had dropped out of highschool, used to amble a couple of blocks down the street to the Wright brothers' house and argue with them about aviation). I had very little contact with Gramps, bec. he lived in another state, and my father's influence wasn't really strong till I lived with him the last 3 years of highschool (altho I adored him all the years prior to that). Like your father, Uytuun, mine didn't consider me weird, which was a tremendous buttressing in the face of pretty much being the odd "man" out @ school (altho there, I did "hang" with a group of similar gals during the day). He over-emphasized academics, though (compensating for the fact that his parents "didn't give a darn about our education!"), and coerced me into a life-track that I really wasn't suited for (long story), so in that sense, his influence was negative, but it doesn't rankle me anymore; it's simply a fact about my past. Overall, his effect on me, once I went to live with him, was propitious.

[Nemesis]

My old man could be the posterboy for INTJ. I've always had the bizarre relationship with the guy. We don't speak much but we have this strange unspoken bond. Have you seen movies where the aliens kinda look at each other, nod, then go do things?... it's kind of like that.

[MaineJohn]

Wow, I really envy people who had parents that had the same MBTI, or a compatible one. My mother, God love her, is an ISTJ. My father was ISxx. Heavy on the S, those two. I'm an INTJ. How many million times did I hear them say "You're so contrary!" I still get nervous around S-types.

P.S., Meistergeist, you have the funniest avatar I've ever seen.